Channel: Ali Albarghouthi
Explanation of the 36th hadith in the Heart Therapy Series:
A man complained to the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam about the hardness of his heart so he said: (Wipe over the head of the orphan and feed the poor.)
Reported by Ahmad (7576) and al-Bayhaqi in Shuab al-Iman (10523) and al-Sunan al-Kubra (7094). Ibn Hajar declared it to be hasan and so did al-Albani (Sahih al-Targhib 2545).
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I'm about shahadi 36.
And if you remember the Hadees 35, right, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
to encourage us to soften our hearts and find a solution to the disease of the cluster to current color hardness of the heart, he recommended something who remembers what that thing that he recommended going to night to command zero till five. All right, so visiting the graves and remembering that three natural bright brings softness back to the heart.
So in this Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam also for the same disease, for the same illness, it's gonna recommend a different action
to x In fact, and that will show you in sha Allah the connection between the physical acts that we do in the state of our heart, and vice versa, the state of our heart and the physical acts that we do, and that they are always connected. So what you do on the outside must find a way to impact you on the inside it will always do and what you feel on the inside how you are on the inside will always find a way to be externalized on the outside. So when this heavy food is reported by a helmet, and they have the check out your own, inner Rasulullah sallallahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam to convey.
So a man complained to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about first what is
the hardness of his heart?
For Karla in Surat selia to me what I mean miskeen So, he said some A lot of you sent them to him as a response to that complaint to seeking a solution why over the head of the orphan and feed the poor. Alright, so m Sahara selia team your team is the orphan rice is head into the Hara astellia team so right over the head of the orphan, watering and Miss scheme, I so feed the poor, those who are in need.
So it's a very short Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and very direct so one of the remedies now we understand, because we talked about and we will talk about it, reading the Koran, and Vic and when we're remembering Allah subhanho wa Taala and other acts, right, but here the prophets A lot of you send them as these two interesting facts, that when you do these things, and you come close to the weak, the downtrodden, the powerless in society, Allah subhana wa tada will soften your heart. We tried to see why insha Allah.
But the interesting thing before we even go into that, that this man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and complained about something.
And that's an interesting thing, because you don't complain about something unless you recognize it.
And he recognized that there's a problem
and cared enough
to go to the Prophet salallahu audio, send them and say I have a problem.
And then he knew that he can find the solution with the profits of the lobbyists and me. So these are three things.
These are three things. And these are important three things by the way. So we don't want to gloss over them. Why are they important? Because when we said first he recognized that there was a problem.
A lot of us don't recognize when we have problems with our heart,
when I would have problem with our man with our have a problem with our telco, so we don't realize it.
And of course, why is it that we don't realize it? One of the reasons that we don't realize it is that we don't care enough to look and inspect.
Right? We don't care enough to look and inspect we brought before this panel of example. If you care enough about something in material possession that you and I have, you pay very close attention to it. And when something slightly wrong, goes with it happens to it, you'll notice and you'll try to fix it.
So we said for instance you have a new car or you bought a new tablet computer, right a new phone, when it's still you and you'll love it. You'll notice the slightest scratch bite and if someone is going to handle it, you have to ask them to be excited.
tremely careful, because this is something that is valuable, and you love it. So you'll always notice if there's something wrong with it, why is it slowing down on? Is this like a new scratch, if there's some dust or, you know, some imprint on it, you go and quickly remove that you want it to be pristine and clean and new. So you have to care about something to notice it.
So the fact is that a lot of us today, humanity, I'm talking about humanity today, and Muslims are included in that we don't really care enough about the hereafter for us to notice when something's wrong with it, you care enough about the dunya. See, you will notice immediately if your bank account, right, decreases, if the money in your bank account decreases, or your pay decreases, or something valuable that you possess, you know,
it gets scratched or dented, you'll notice immediately because that's where your heart is.
But when the heart is not concentrating on the Hara, you don't notice what's happening to you, because you're not looking there.
Right? My topo, My interest is not there. So my email decreases. It doesn't bother me as much because I'm not looking, I don't even notice it, my demand decreases. I don't notice it. I'm committing sins, I don't notice it.
But distance between me and our last panel of data is growing. I don't notice it because I'm not looking there. I'm not interested to find out anything about the hereafter. Whatever happens to it is fine. My interest is in the dunya.
So of course, first is the ability to notice, second, to care enough to seek treatment.
Sometimes you notice that you're sick, when you go to the doctor.
When typically do you go to the doctor when the seriousness of their illnesses? What series? Typically, right? Otherwise, if it's a common cold, what do you take over the counter medication and we'll think I'll be fine. If you catch yourself in a small cut, you put a bandage on it and you say I'm fine. But when the injury when the disease is serious,
and you're worried about yourself, you're worried about your health, you'll go to the doctor.
So you may notice that you're doing something wrong spiritually, Eman, wise, but you don't care enough about it. So what? I'll do it later, right.
When I'm older, I'll repent when I'm older. I'll go to the masjid. There's always time to make up for all of these things. Not now. So either I don't focus, or I. So I don't notice it or I notice it. But I don't care enough about it.
even though the follow on who said
about people who really can't find their hearts, he says Oh, look at him. Oh when it says seek your heart in three places.
In the Sumerian Koran when you are listening to the Quran,
the majority six Vicar gatherings are
in solitude when you're alone.
Peter Lattimore, Watson holophane and digital twins personally, Leah and Yamanaka be called Shinola. If you don't find it in these three places, then ask Allah subhana wa Taala, to grant to a heart because you don't have a heart.
You don't have a heart. Of course, it doesn't mean the physical heart. He means that spiritual heart that is supposed to respond to these three stimuli. First of all, is the Quran. If you listen to the Quran, they say especially right, the person who's reciting the Quran has a beautiful voice. So if you're listening to the Quran, but your heart is not moving, at all, it's like a solid rock, it's not moving at all.
Or majorities should what are the bigger gatherings by the way? Who knows what a big gathering?
Like what like a place that you are in right now? Right? So it's not a place for instance, like I don't want someone to understand Vicar gatherings as gatherings where people stand and dance while making Vicar. That's not the vicar gathering because this wasn't that the term of the Prophet sallallahu sydnor my right. Nothing like that was the term of the prophets. A lot of you said him so much in this Vicar is imageless where you're sitting and reading the Koran, learning the Koran, reading the Hadith, learning the Hadith, anything Islamic that's mostly Siddiq says you don't find your heart there as well The port is closed. Right? Or the last one is solitude when you're alone.
And there are no distractions around you because some pantalon we've I think we talked about this before, as long as you're around people, your heart because you can be with them. Or what's the latest with you and with you and with you, and you tell me the latest joke and the latest news for your heart is always with them. But when everybody leaves you on your loan
If you're trying to bring your heart close to the last panel data, but it's running away from you is saying then you can't find your heart and all of these three places means that you don't have a heart. So where is your heart going, it's supposed to respond to Allah subhana wa Taala.
So this person, right, may have noticed that it's not responding or it's not responding as they want it to respond. And all of us, more or less can notice the stiffness or the hardness of our heart.
You can notice that when as ignoramus out said, I'm coming to the masjid, but I'm not feeling anything. I'm listening to the hotbar. And I'm not feeling anything.
I'm listening to the Quran, I'm not feeling anything. People give me advice, I listen to advice, or religious programming, I'm not feeling anything and like numb on the inside.
I also somehow for some people, I'm always depressed. I'm always anxious, I'm always angry. And nothing penetrates. I read the Hadees I, you know, I hear a lot from here and there, nothing is helping. So that is all an indication that the heart is suffering, right? I stopped finding meaning in life, I start finding joy in life. That's all an indication that the heart is suffering, there is disease in it, and needs to be treated. So we have to notice, right, you have to notice that something is wrong with it. As you monitor your body. As you monitor your valuables. You have to also give time to monitoring your heart. How did my heart to today? And one of the best ways to do
is just ask yourself, Am I feeling okay? On the inside? If not,
then something is wrong. Am I envious? If yes, something's wrong. If Am I jealous? If yes, something is wrong. If I if I am I upset with a large decrease? What He has sent me what he had given me what he did not give me If yes, something's wrong. These are simple questions to ask yourself at the end of the day, at the end of the week, at the end of the month, just to go back and say this is an assessment of how my heart is doing. And this is the treatment that it needs. So as you assess the panel, your body, someone who's exercising, let's say four,
wants to run a marathon, right? And you're exercising your body continuously and you monitor your progress today, I've been able to run one kilometer, two kilometers, five, five kilometers, right? And your progress Are you monitoring your body, your heart rate, your performance, right, because you want to reach an objective, the same thing. You're on this marathon to reach a lots of hands on with data the same way.
And from time to time, you have to stop and say because you are writing your heart, in a sense, right? You're using your heart to run. So you ask yourself, how is my heart doing?
And then the last thing that that man knew very well, is that after I know that there was something wrong with my heart, and I care enough to go and try to find a solution. I have to find the right doctor.
Yeah, the right doctor, right physician who's going to treat my heart and who is the best person to treat your heart.
The best person is the prophets a lot he sent him through the revelation that Allah Subhana Allah had given to him so he's the doctor.
So Allah subhana wa Taala right tells us in the Quran
that he has sent this, you know, hold on itself the message of Islam as she was known as the Lumina aneema. She fell into Limbo, meaning we reveal all of this Hold on What is she thought what is a cure? and ultimate for the believers? None of the last panel data says yeah, you announced a project called Morocco Morocco, where she felt only my fiscal year. Oh, people, indeed, from your Lord from Europe had come to you a reminder and she felt only my fiscal door and a cure to what is in the hearts to cure what is in the chest.
So when there is something wrong,
you ask yourself, How can I fix it?
How can I fix it? I'm not feeling good on the inside, what path can I take what medicine can I take in order to fix it? So humanity in general right, they have different responses to this. Some people meditate in especially those who go to gamma gravitate towards Eastern religions they meditate right? And that is popular in some circles.
They This is a form of solution. But is this a solution that has come from Allah subhanho wa Taala. Some people seek distractions. We talked about this before any form of entertainment that will make them forget about their pain and trouble and that works.
But not for long.
As long as you distract it, it will work for you. As long as it takes you away from your own problem, it will work for you. But when that is done when the effect of this thing is gone, you will come back to the same problem and to the same depression and to the same anxiety that you had. So what is the solution who is the doctor? If Allah subhana wa tada revealed this Islam as a solution to all of humanity and all about what ails them. Included in that necessarily is the heart.
And that really is something important, by the way,
because it's very little from all of humanity and maybe even Chicago Law, it remains to be seen when it comes to Muslims. But of all of humanity, very little of them, go back to the last panel data to fix their hearts. They go to other humans. And they ask other humans and they take a path that is created by other humans, not the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Now the path that Allah sent to tell us, I've sent you this Shiva, I sent you this cure. Why aren't you taking it? Why don't you understand the Quran analytic treat your heart the motive, treat your diseases and cure you of your illness. That's what you need to do. So recognizing
the illness, caring enough about your soul about your destiny to go and seek a solution for it. That's what a person of Eman does. And then trusting that Allah subhana wa tada and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has the best of medicine is the basis of our EMA. Another las panatela can cure our hearts. And by the way, also something important to add to this
is that you can come closer to Allah and you can cure your heart with what Allah Subhana what Allah legislated and approves of and loves.
There is I cannot take an innovative act, even if some people call it Islam, I cannot take an innovated. Just like the one that we described people dancing and repeating the name of Allah soprano with that. I cannot take that out to say that this act will bring me closer to Allah subhanaw taala I cannot take this act to say it will purify my heart and cleanse my heart It will kill my illness. Because is this an act that Allah loves?
and if it Allah subhanho wa Taala does not love it? Then it's the sin? And if it's the sin, can it cleanse? Can it cure? Can it uplift? Will Allah bless it? No.
Even if someone afterwards says will I feel better on the inside? That's not it?
That's not the scale that we use, the scale that we use is Allah does he love it or not? Does he bless it or not? brings you closer to it or not? That satisfaction that you may get from doing something that Allah hates could be the effect of the shape one
could be the effect of the shaytaan there's something you know, reminds me of something that I've noticed.
Or the other one who said once?
You know, someone was asking I think it's a female could be a relative of his a wife or something like that. As far as I remember. She mentioned a utopia, a particular Rukia of an illness. And the other person can read write to help them with a particular illness. And he told her not to do it and not to go to so and so who reads that? Rukia because it's not Islamic?
She said, Well I find comfort.
After it is read.
He said this is the shape one
who harasses you. And when you do what pleases him, he stops so that you think that what he what you have done is beneficial and it's not it pleases the shape one.
Yeah. And he for instance, let's say an example somebody had a person
and somebody someone else, he says, Come on, I will do this too. And that to you that has let's say shake in it.
And you will feel better. A person goes they read that. And his hand feels better. Does that mean that that is a legitimate cure that he should speak later?
No. So what it knows so don't be alone who was saying that? Don't overlook the effect of the sheath on the sheetrock could be causing this pain. And when you do something that pleases the shaper, right, like the kuffar they used to do certain things to please the shape on sheets on rewards them back by doing their bidding. So you do something that pleases that she finally says, Okay, I will let up a little bit I will not harass you, I will not hurt you. So that you start trusting this thing.
So we don't experiment with medicine, right? You don't experiment with your own life, do you?
Is that somebody you meet? Yeah, is a good example. You know, you have a headache. Somebody meets you down down the stairs right at the end of your apartment and he said he
Selling medicine. He says, What's your illness? So I have a headache? He says, take these pills.
Are you sure that the work says, well, they work for me and they're not going to hurt you take it.
You're not going to gamble with your life. Right? And because when you gamble with your physical life, the worst that can happen is,
is what was the worst?
Now that's getting sick. In other words, what's worse, you die. But you lose your life, you die. So if you gamble with your life, physical life, you die. If you gamble with your spiritual life, with your life over there, what's the worst thing that could happen?
Gentlemen, so there's no comparison between the two. So we know what works and what doesn't work based on what Allah had revealed. And based on our own experiments and judgments on I favor this I like that I'm inclined towards this, my heart feels this or it's not that a las panatela did reveal. That's what he said. Me Robbie calm this morning. This reminder and this shift has come to you from Europe. So it comes to you from other people right is not very equivalent to what comes to you from Allah subhana wa.
Next, the next important point in the Hadith
is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam recommended right proximity being close to the orphan and poor.
Here are my recommended acts of kindness, right. But in order to commit these acts of kindness, you have to be close to them, right.
So that's the next point here, being close to the poor, and being close to orphans, the powerless in society, the penniless in society. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam actually was eager to be around the poor and the powerless. He said in one Hadith, of all the boss of a boon
for in the Medusa, una una bewafa equal. So he said, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam seek the week for me, for indeed, you're only provided for and granted victory because of your weak ones.
In another narration in a tournament, he says, a boy who needs a basa meaning find me among the weak, but if you're looking for me, what can you find me
among the week?
So let's look for the week you'll find me there. So this is one duration. That's the meaning look for the week. You'll find me with them.
Another duration it says, Seek the week so I can be around them. Seek the week for me, so I can be around them.
Why is the intimate Arizona welcome Sedona we do offer a community provided for risk, you're given risk and given victory because of the weak ones among you. I can another Hades instance, we do our invoice last to him, because of their sincerity and because of their due.
So the prophets of Allah, you see them here and this hadith tells us the favor of the weak in society, orphan or the orphans, the widows,
the helpless, the poor, the powerless all of these people, what is their fever? What are they doing to society?
They are the substance or the reason why Allah subhana wa Taala continues to bless any given society.
From Sedona, Arizona became Allah subhanho wa Taala continues to sustain you, and be merciful with you and provide for you, because of them. This weak person could be a weak person in your family.
And you're going out and working and coming back and bringing the money and you're thinking to yourself, you know, I have a favor upon you. I'm doing you a favor, right? Because I'm going out I have I'm bringing the money. I'm doing you the favor on spending on you.
Forget this hoodie from a profits audition
from Sedona, Arizona, it is for the sake of this week, mother or father or aunt or uncle or child or relative that you're spending on the last panel that is giving you money. That's why he's giving you money.
Allah is providing for you because of this person. Right? And Allah subhanho wa Taala could be protecting you
because of this person.
So the panel law, even our entire society could be protected because of them.
You know how in sometimes societies, right? some political parties, some you know, politicians, we complain about the poor. They complain about people on welfare, they complain about them, there may be some things to complain about. But overall the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is saying that when you look at that segment of society, don't belittle and look down at them because
Because of how much they are doing for you, and you don't notice it,
they're blessing your society. Allah subhanho wa Taala could delay the destruction of a particular society because of the poor in it.
So they're bringing you all of this benefit, and it's not physical.
It's not noticeable. That's why the prophets have already said them had to mention it, is because it's in material.
But it's there. And why is that the case? Why do they bless society so much?
We do it more philosophy because of their drama and their loss.
Why do they have that?
What does poverty do to a person?
What does it
why it brings them closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala.
It pushes you, that's what a tragedy is supposed to do. It's supposed to push you towards Allah subhanho wa Taala brings you very close to him. So you're always close, you're always asking ALLAH, you're always reliant on Allah, because you know that you cannot rely on anyone else. And because you're in pain, and he's the only one who could remove it to your heart is very close to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So there's greater Islam.
And there's constant.
So it says these people bless you because of that. So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam wanted to be around these people.
Why to be around those people? One, as the brother said, You learn a lot from them.
But what By the way, what do you learn from the rich when you sit with them? And you're around them? What do you learn from them? As long as I accepted the people of stuff? Well, that's different. But it's not like the common.
Commonly they are not, on average, they are not they are exceptions. But on average, it's not the case. What do you learn what's still when you sit with people who are rich?
arrogance, right? There's a lot of arrogance, I am this and I am this and what are you.
So you have to start mimicking right competing with them. In the same language, oh, and I am this too. And I had that too. And sometimes if you have to buy you lie, right, I don't live here. Not Not here. And that's not my car, really. And those are not my kids. Why? Because you can't, you can't, they're proud of who they are. So you also are prompted to compete as they are competing. So you learn a lot of arrogance from them. And interest focus what their focus what they focus on, becomes what you focus on. If it's money, if it's the fashion, if it's a bigger house, whatever they're concentrating on, if they are your company, and your friends, we're definitely going to be thinking
the same way talking the same language, doing the same thing that they're doing.
And that brings you closer to Allah, definitely not far away from our last panel with that, and closer to the dounia. So that's what he learned from being around the rich arrogance and materialism. But being around the poor, you learned the opposite. humility,
humility, because there are typically humble.
Before they are typically they don't have a lot around them. So and they do very little. So when you're around them, you also learn to do with very little, especially when you go back. And if they have a lot less than what you have, you go back to your home and you say, Subhanallah, I thought I cannot live without this. And without this, and without that. And there are people who are living without all of this and I can to
see begin also to learn what is essential in life and what is not.
And by the way, one of the things that keeps us trapped in life in this life is thinking that everything that we have is an essential.
And we're all guilty of this, everything that we have is essential. Having a phone is a necessity, right. Having this as a necessity. Having a car is a necessity having new clothes, every season is a necessity. Having cable is a necessity a TV is and everything becomes a necessity. You go to someone who's four, and you'll notice that they're living without all of these things, and they can sometimes actually be more more content than you are.
So you know, can you say to Pamela, you know,
if that's the case that I don't need all of these things to be happy.
What I need to be happy is so little in this life. And it all comes from your relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala everything else is an external is an addition. It's good to have, but you can live without it. So they teach you that you can live without so much in this life and yet, be content and be happy and be close to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So just simply being around them is a school in itself. They teach you and they soften your heart because also when you are
round them. What happens when you around them? You feel something on the inside of the heart has still some life in it. What do you feel when you're around somebody who needs help? Typically?
What do you want to do?
Help them? Why do you want to help? So that is a good sentiment, something that a lot of power to Allah loves. And when you actually do something to help, like an act of kindness, that our last panel which Allah loves, Allah subhana wa Taala blesses you because of it. And you start to see the effects of this kindness on their faces and in their lives. And by the way, nothing takes away your pain. If you are someone who is prone to anxiety and depression and loneliness and whatever. dedicate more of your life to helping others.
Like hunt down those who need help
find them and help them
like someone brother, how are you? Do you need help? Now I find about you you need to help you, you find those who need help and start helping them because Allah will give you the greatest satisfaction possible when you help others. And it will take away your pain
will take you over your agony.
And you will feel so good on the inside when you see that you've been able to change your life and they were smiling after the being sad and grim. last panel data will give you a lot of happiness and gratitude and satisfaction as a result.
So in order to be able to remedy our hearts
we don't only wish for better hearts, we have to do something about it.
And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam here recommended in this hadith two apps.
One related to the orphan and the other related to feeding the hungry and the poor. When it comes to the orphan, there's another Hadith similar to this one.
Where the prophets a little louder you send them says to him, nearly enough to cover
your family at mom's house. There was a woman bionic yen in Costa Rica.
So he said sallallahu wasallam. Do you love that your heart would be soft, and that you'd accomplish your goal? Whatever you set out to accomplish, you'd be able to accomplish your goal. Have any a team be merciful to the origin. Once the harasser was over his head, what I mean Tomic and feed it or feed him from your own food, yelling, calbuco attack, your heart will be soft, and you'll be able to reach your goal.
So two things, if you're trying to the orphans, Allah Subhana, Allah will grant you, one of them is that you'll be able to reach your goal. So suppose for instance, that you have an objective that you want to reach whatever that is,
the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is saying, Do you want to be able to reach that objective? He gives you? A way? What is this way? Be kind to the orphan.
Why? What's the connection between the two?
What happens when you are kind to others and you help others what is the last panel data to to
help? He helps you.
So you want help from Allah subhana wa Tada. That's why I said that. If you're actually
feeling bad on the inside, miserable, anxious, depressed, whatever it is, and you want Allah's Help Help others because Allah will help you. So the prophets, a lot of these enemies, saying that you want to reach your objective, whatever that objective is, help others and allow will be or eight and helper so that you'll be able to reach your objective. So remember that, right? Remember that when someone brother's telling you donate and give money for the poor for the needy, or we don't even need somebody to remind you, you want to accomplish something, there's a big exam coming. You want to pass this test, you want this job, whatever it is, one way to accomplish what you need to
accomplish is help others financially that's a possibility or physically. Whatever way you it's possible for you but help others that are lost, no data will help you. And Allah will soften your heart.
Because when you're next to this person,
and you see their suffering, what does that remind you of?
When you see someone suffering,
it reminds you
ah, you may suffer like he does. This is life.
This is exactly what going to the grave does by the way. It reminds you of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the fragility of this life. You go to this person, right? And you find them suffering and you see the panela this thing could happen.
And if it happened to them, it could happen to me. I'm not immune.
happened to me. And this is what being human means that I could suffer like this, that I could lose these things that are the gear can gain this suffering. So it shares the illusion that is this life that we're going to be living forever and gaining forever and rich forever and healthy forever, etc, etc, the lies and the deception of
It exposes all of this. And it shows you that you need a loss of hands on with that. So when you're next to a an orphan, and you see this suffering, it reminds you of what this life is all about. And the finality of this life, because an orphan lost his or her parents. And this could happen to my children as well.
So, when you look at that, panela, you cannot but be sympathetic, and merciful towards this orphan, you cannot be that and if not, again, something wrong with the heart, the heart is dead or close to it.
So when you are close to someone who is suffering, you will remember your own suffering. You remember the reality of this life and remember the reality of the hereafter. They completely remind you all of this. So he's saying so Hollywood cinema, do this to the orphan. And by the way, it's not just any type of
kindness of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is talking about here for you to be able to achieve this heavily a team into the house to help a woman bionic wipe over his head net, as you're very close to the orphan
is not far away, right? It's not so far away. How are you doing? Fine, good. See you. It's not that you sitting very close, you're asking him, how are you doing? What can I do to help you wipe over his head to compensate for that panel lock for that kindness that he had lost or she had lost,
you bring a smile to their face. And when you feed them, after a moment panic,
you give them a food that is of your own food. As expensive, as delicious, as your own food is, because he's one of you. I this is how much you care for him. And when you care that much. And when you're so close, and when you do so much Allah subhana wa tada will soften your heart. So you need to be close. Right? So some panela we're gonna mention some alternatives. But sometimes it's not so easy to be around orphans.
Right, you can donate money. But this doesn't do exactly the same thing, you need that physical proximity. Because when you donate money, you write a check and you give it, you mail it, you don't know what happened to it, you didn't see the effect. So, in order to get the softness of the heart, you need to be close very close and to see that effect and to feel that thing and to physically do something that helps the other person. So the more physically involved you are, the better that effect will be.
So, a person who has this heart heart, that stiff heart has it because of sin and attachment to this dunya and there is sin and attention to this dunya because they are far away from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So when you feed the poor,
and you are so close to them, and when you are kind to the orphan and you're so close to them, that all brings you back to Allah
This is what is supposed to do bring you back to Allah subhana wa Tada.
Now, as of as of alternatives,
I shall dwell on how once I was asked my the workers, what do you what is the thing that treats the stiffness of the heart, this customer, right of the heart
model to be a additive model, what is the author of operating mode, so she advised him to visit the sick and follow funeral processions, and to anticipate death.
And if you think about it, this does about the same thing or exactly the same thing that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam has recommended. So if there is no one around you that is poor and you can feed, no orphans that you can find.
Everyone can do this. Right. Everyone can do this as well. Moreover, the sheer agenda is sort of awkward moment.
If you feel sometimes that I'm not feeling anything, and I'm still involved in this life, and I cannot feel and sense the Koran take a trip to the hospital.
Right and if it's possible, you know, and you need long term treatment, volunteer, if there's an opening, take a trip to the hospital and see the sick people in the hospital. Those who are so panela could be terminally ill and they are just waiting to die and see the suffering that is there.
Those people who are suffering from things you know panela in their in their legs in their eyes.
In their heads, in their chest, everyone there has a complaint, go and sit in the waiting room and look around and explore everything that is there. And you will see the reality of this life.
Because sooner or later
you will be what?
Like those people, sooner or later. Right? As long as you're young and Hamdulillah, and you go to the doctor, right? And the doctor comes and says, You're fine, have the like, clean bill of health, Mr. So and So immune system and so goodbye.
Yeah, it's nice to hear that. But there has to come a day when you go to the doctor, and he comes back and you say, Well, I'm sorry to say that we found this thing.
It has to happen. Right. And he for those who are living in well to do countries, other people who don't have access to doctors, they don't know this, nobody comes in tells them that. But as long as you have access to a physician, and you can go to them, and they can diagnose and tell you the result of that diagnosis, always, they're always going to be that time for every single human being that rule says, There is this thing, and we can't do anything about it, we'll try but
that's the reality of this life.
So when you go and visit the sick, in addition, Subhanallah to all the reward that Allah Subhana Allah gives when you do that, because of the effect that has on them, because of what you get to them when you visit them. They help you to
by uncovering What are you living in a dream, you're living in a fantasy, this is not going to last wake up.
And if you wake up, your life will be different.
That's why she's saying whether or not if you anticipate death, your life will be very different. Your tomorrow will be very different. If you anticipate the
talk before about me, having extended hope. I'm going to live to not I'm planning till next year and five years from now and 10 years from now, because I have a belief I will live till 10 years from now and 20 and that tells Pamela forever. New anticipating death negates all of this plan, whatever you want to plan for this worldly life, but at the same time, anticipate death so that you can work for your
total amount mentally, emotionally, I am ready, I'm getting ready for it. I'm expecting it could happen at any time.
So visiting the sick and also tissue or Jenna is following the jenessa until it is buried. So from the time and they bring a lot of genetic judaizers here from the time that they bring the janazah and you pray for the deceased. And they take it and you go.
Right. And again, in addition to all the rules that Allah subhana wa tada will give for that righteous act. You're getting something back from it, right? getting something back from it, because you see loss. And you see tears and you see Subhanallah people who are struggling to deal with this loss and you say to yourself, sooner or later it is either me or someone in my family reacting to my death.
And again, it brings the reality of this life clearly to you. And it tells you don't be deceived by the shape one right.
Rahim Allah was asked another what will be
the Buddha? He says what is the medicine of the heart? So he said, Rahim Allah What did you say? Not meeting people often or not gathering with people? Right and spending too much time with them? Too little monaca
Why is that the case?
So he says matter Well, what treats my heart he says not to be around people all the time.
Why is that the case?
keep you busy right? What are they keeping busy from?
A bad from you they care from Allah subhana wa Tada. So because most of the time a llama Rahim Allah except for some few most of the time when you're around people, what are you talking about
dunia most of the time. That's what people are interested in to talk about the dunya and gauging the denier. Right? So that's fine up to Allah. Because you can really isolate yourself from everybody around you. You also sometimes need to talk, right? We need to discuss these issues. There's nothing wrong with it. But he says not at the moment. He didn't say boycott everybody around you. Okay and go to the top of a mountain and live there. He didn't say that. But he says hey, let's decrease it. So that you will have greater time that you can be with Allah subhana wa Tada. So if all of your time is with people, you don't have time with alone with a law.
If all of your time is with people, you will only you'll only be happy if you're around people.
You can never be alone.
And a believer believing men and believing woman must be comfortable with being alone.
Yeah, they agree. They have to be comfortable with being alone. Because when they are alone, they can be with Allah subhana wa Tada. So they have to be comfortable. If you're totally uncomfortable with it, it means that you have not learned to be with a last panel with Elliot.
Right? Like, if I'm not talking to this person or to that person, I have to be on my phone doing something all the time. And if somebody takes my phone for the word away from me, and no one is around me, I get very anxious, it means that I have not learned to be alone. And I have not learned to be alone, especially with a loss of Pamela Dodd.
And if you've noticed that from yourself, then that is also a sign
that your heart has not been disciplined and it's not happy to be connected with a loss of data. So you need to start distancing yourself a little bit by little bit, not not complete boycott, but little bit by little bit from the company of people. Because the only thing that we will talk about is dunia.
Okay, where's the
if you are with people, there's another thing and Charlotte will come shortly that tells you sit with people who are righteous if you find them sit with them. But if all I have are people who are talking about the dunya I have to limit that
if all my news feed everything I'm reading online is about the journey I have to limit that and take some time off to remember the last panel with that. If not, they'll continuously block my way to Allah.
Right. So there's no time for the Quran. There is no time for thicker there is no time for the salah and even when I've tried to dedicate any time for them, I'm thinking about what they said to me what so and so said to me what so and so the latest thing he shared with me that does not work Piglet to Maha. And Ibrahim cos Rahim Allah.
He says, when he was asked about the medicine of the heart, he mentioned five things. The world becomes a to a sheer terror to Quran. Allah Allah. Allah Allah in the Sahara.
It says, five things are the medicine of the heart.
There are two Kalani with a double reading the Quran with understanding with contemplation, karate, karate, with the double wahala botany and having an empty stomach.
Wakayama, daily night prayer.
What about rural in the Sahara, making late at night?
mahmudullah Susana hain having the company of the righteous. He says these five things are the medicine of the heart. And if you think about it,
he Rahim Allah here is asking you to acquire things and to empty your life or your heart of some other things, remove something and add something instead. So what he's asking you to remove are basically two things. One is too much food and the company of the unrighteous.
So he says that there is bad company, don't keep them, don't sit next to them, don't listen to them, you want the righteous
and also Halla albasini having an empty stomach. Right? Why is that the case?
Why having an empty stomach?
Exactly. When you're full, you're lazy,
or you're not in the mood to listen, to stand up and pray, right to read the Quran, all you want to do is what just sit and relax and possibly even sleep. That's what you want to do. So when you eat a lot, you're less inclined to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the more you eat, the less likely you are to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala in addition also to all the fact that you become dependent on food.
So dependent on food, you won't be happy unless you eat a lot. You won't be happy unless you eat very delicious and very nice food otherwise the day is ruined. Or the day is bad. I'm having a bad day because I didn't eat well. Whereas if you accustom yourself habituate yourself to whatever is there I'm going to eat so my heart is not dependent on food. And sometimes you eat good food and sometimes you eat whatever is there. So your heart is not dependent on it and you are able to move whenever you want to worship Allah subhanaw taala so Allah Allah botany
and so you know, early Muslims were telling you to diet not too much you don't have to really go to severe diet but they're telling you diet and he was not diet necessarily look better diet so that you be closer to a loss of Hannah without don't eat so much so that you can come closer to Allah Subhana Allah God so the first first thing you
reading Quran with understanding of contemplation.
As Allah subhanho wa Taala said it is Shiva, it is a cure. So why is it that when I'm reading the Quran, I'm not finding that it's curing my heart?
Why is that the case?
There's not a double,
either I don't understand, or I don't spend enough time with each other. To get the heck out from it, the wisdom from it, there is no to the book. So the person who is reading on the board is not interested in finishing the pages as fast as he can. There's not the book.
I read the Quran, which means that I'll move away from this. When I understood as much as I can understand from it, when I've learned the lesson that is in it.
You don't need to write a research paper on it. No, but it's just okay. I was saying this. What is the lesson in this ayah? What is it teaching me and then you move on to the next one. So maybe in half an hour, you finish one page, maybe you'll finish half a page, maybe you'll be what? stuck in or contemplating a one or two is only for entire half an hour. Just thinking about everything that Allah subhana wa tada is teaching you there. So Palazzo Kalani with a double means that it's a consistent reading of the Quran. But I'm there for the lessons I'm there for the benefit. I'm there for the medicine.
I'm there for the medicine. I'm not there for the end of the day, I'm not there for how much did you finish of the Quran today? Or did Were you able to finish the Quran? This hotma in these many weeks? I'm not there for that for that book. I want the lessons from the Quran. I want the medicine from the heart. I want to understand what Allah is telling me in this ayah What does he want from me in this ayah so that's the first thing color or botany we talked about family
and a lot to it. Hi,
beseeching Allah subhana wa Taala really fervently asking Allah at the time of
the beautiful thing about tm lane. And this do that part last part of the night is that it is the quietest time of the day.
the quietest time of the day is that time, right? no distractions everybody's asleep.
And because because it is so quiet. A lot of time subhanho wa Taala had made it the most opportune time the best of time for you to understand the Quran. And to hear what our last panel Adela wants from you, and for your heart to be closest to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Because as we said, the distraction is minimal.
You won't be able to get as close to Allah Subhana Allah during Salah as when it happens during a pm windy. So you say I'm suffering, my heart is not responding, etc, etc. One of the things that you can do is this family, you're alone, no one is around you stand up and pray
as long as you want it to be as the last panel of data and listen to what Allah subhana wa Taala is telling you. And when you're in this conversation with Allah, listening to what he is saying, but also responding with your data. And when you're thicker,
your heart starts moving.
And you will feel so panela the effect of the
last part of the night more than you feel it in any other time.
So again, if if religiously, if spiritually, your heart is not responding, don't give up on it. There is a remedy. But the remedy is not just sitting there and complaining about it or sitting there and wishing that somehow I'm going to have a clean heart somehow wishing for it doesn't make it so
you don't become physically fit by just wishing it by.
No, right. You don't just lose weight, it would be wonderful. If you can just lose weight by thinking I want to lose five pounds today you lose five pounds, that would be wonderful. Right? If I can just put on the clothes of an athlete and sit and I will just lose weight because I just look like an athlete. That'd be wonderful. But Allah subhanaw taala did not make it. So you have to actually exercise. So you cannot just simply wear the costume of a believing man or a believing woman
and not actually walk the path of believing men and believing woman.
You cannot just wish someday somehow or I have a clean heart while you're fat. You're not walking the path of righteousness and the path that cleanses the heart. So when you do this last panel with Allah will start showing you consequences and rewards for the steps that you have taken. So when you say yes, my heart is not doing well for that. I'm going to start my solar at night. I'm going to start praying to Allah subhana wa dallimore especially that he softens my heart.
I'm gonna start as the editor of this chapter tonight suggests, I want to find those who need help and I'm going to help them.
So I want to last the panel Adana to soften my heart, there is not one path, there's so many of them.
See how generous our last panel that is gives you so many ways to soften your heart.
So take as many of them as possible and never say, I'm done with my heart. This is who I am. Right? That that's not the case. You can always remedy that. So the project insha, Allah for this week is to do exactly as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has said, you have to try it, you have to try it, right. And if you're not able to find an orphan or a person, you know, who's poor enough that you would give them food, and help them that way, then without a shadow, the Allahu anhu said, visiting the sick, or following that funeral procession, this or that.
And try it, really try it, you know, find the time during this week, just find a time for you to go and be as close as you can to a person who's suffering and see how that changes you. And if it's possible for you, whether you're young, and you're old, or you're old. If that is something that is attractive, it appeals to you, if it's possible for you to volunteer,
and be around people who are suffering and so that you can remove that suffering,
then do it
within the masjid right within the Muslim community or beyond the Muslim community, as long as it's within Islamic guidelines, as long as it's within what Allah subhana wa, tada, loves. And you're not doing for that sake, something that last panatela hates. And by the way, something that, you know, I wanted to mention connected to this
is that, especially in the west to find some Muslims like volunteering, you know, soup kitchens, and something like that. And the purpose there is saying,
I want people to see how beautiful Islam is, right? How beautiful and generous Muslims are. So I want them to see this.
And though this, you know, could be Subhanallah a good objective, right? But you're still, and this is, you know, my own conclusion. And also, if I'm wrong, I'm wrong. But you're still doing it so that another person notices you. And the problem is that if they don't notice you, you don't know if you're gonna continue or not.
And if I'm doing this so that non Muslims will notice me and be inspired by it and change their perspective about Islam. What if they don't change their perspective? After they see me? What are they still condemn me? After the you know, I'm Muslims, I'm doing all of this, right? What is a better objective is to do it to please Allah subhanho wa Taala, then if they want to change after they see me, they will change, but not going to stop it. They don't appreciate me. I'm not doing that to be accepted.
I'm not doing it to be accepted. I'm doing it to be accepted by Allah Subhana, WA, tada, I want his acceptance, I want him to be pleased, then if they are pleased, and they accept me, and they appreciate Islam as a consequence, then it hamdulillah This is wonderful. And this is a form of data. But if not, and they harass me, and they still think the worst of Islam, I'm not gonna stop helping others. Because this is a bad for me.
Not public relations, by the it's not a public relations done, it's a better for me, that I'm doing this to help myself,
to help my heart to be close to our last panel data and to help those people. So when you do this, that a bet is meaningful, and it will continue to be more lasting, rather than letting me do it to be noticed and to be accepted. So I've always thought when I heard these things, that you really haven't captured what you should be doing this a better for and whose sake should be for Allah subhana wa tada and for his sake first, and then whatever comes later comes later and if it doesn't, no problem if it doesn't.
So this is inshallah all I have for explaining this Hadeeth.
Any questions from
Yes, I can repeat the last five. So
the last five, and this is what Abraham will cost so he's one of the setup. So he says, the world kind of becomes a two I share the medicine of the heart or five things. So the first reading the Koran with the book with contemplation.
The second thing is Hello old botany having an empty stomach.
And this is by the way is not hunger is not telling you to be hungry.
Any hunger a jewel is not recommended or praised in Islam.
He's not telling you not to eat too much, right? So he's not recommending hunger. So reading Quran with contemplation, that's one having an empty stomach. To me, lady. night prayer is the third one.
The last part of the night.
And the last one we just had to solve again, keeping the company of the righteous.
You got them all? Yeah.
Why over the head of the orphan being it's a gesture, right? So you sit close to him and you like over the head, right? And you follow that up with what normally comes? How are you doing? Do you need anything on there if you need it, and bring a smile to his face, fulfill his need, make him feel that there is somebody else who cares about him and compensate some of the love that he has lost. So this is why he says you're so close. It's not just I wrote a check and send it to an orphan, you're so close, that you are emotionally linked to this person, and you are emotionally changing their life. Right? So in addition to the financial support, emotionally, also, you're
changing this person's life and you're taking care of them. And that's what an orphan does, they need both of these things. Financially, they are need, and emotionally they are in need, and you're able to satisfy them as much as you can on both of these levels.
It's it's come for definitely, it's come from right and it's proximity, right? Any there's Henan and this
the joy that you're gonna bring to him when he feels Yeah, somebody loves me? Yeah.
As as close as you can, as close as you can come to it. So there's greater reward than that.
Definitely, definitely, if if the orphan lives far away, and part of your family and you know them and you connect to them, you know, over the phone, or you know, Skype or whatever I did it. So Panama. This is what you can do. Allah subhana wa Tada, Woody according to your intention, and you're not the limit of the topo that you can perform this is as far as I could do with it. And definitely, as long as it's bringing that joy to them, right, and they feel that there's somebody there who cares about me, then you've done something meaningful
to you. Is there anything else
they deserve in life, panicking while behind the cashier that one day they stuck