Heart Therapy 37 – Laughter And The Heart
Channel: Ali Albarghouthi
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Explanation of the 37th hadith in the Heart Therapy Series:
The Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: (Who will take these statements from me to apply them or teach them to one who will apply them?) Abu Hurairah said: (I shall O Messenger of Allah.) So he took my hand and enumerated five and said: (Avoid the unlawful and you will be the best worshipper among people. Be satisfied with what Allah allotted for you and you will be the richest of people. Be kind to your neighbor and you will be a believer. Love for the people what you love for yourself and you will be a Muslim. And do not laugh too much, for indeed excessive laughter kills the heart.)
Reported by al-Tirmidhi (2305) and ibn Majah (4217). Ibn Hajar declared it to be hasan and so did al-Albani (al-Silsilah al-Sahihah 930).
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So tonight in sha Allah, this is Hadith 37 in your book in sha Allah and by the way is this since this is how the 37 we have a few headaches to finish the 40 and so, I want to take in Sharla not not in the collective public way but your ideas and suggestions about what you want us to do after inshallah so if you have ideas, specific books specific topics, it could be like a grand project or grand course that will take us a year or smaller ones. So whatever it is in Sharm El Camino through talking to me email, Facebook whatever way you can get in touch with me inshallah, just let me know inshallah so
I can think of some options insha Allah for next time I had ideas about manners in Islam. Now
inshallah, inshallah I will give you some options inshallah next time.
So, tonight, Heidi
is this exchange between the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in Abuja
where the prophets Allah sent him is going to tell us five things.
But before that he asks Abu hora Iran or asks in general in fact, in probably a group of companions, ask a question, that warrior or the one who gives the answer and to him says a lot to us and then gives this heading. So let's go through it and find out in sha Allah at the end. How does this connect to heart to our hearts and to heart purification in general?
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So here the prophets Allah He sent him he of course is asking the general audience and the companions when you hold on the holidays, getting my tool receive these statements from me for a movie when and he will apply them. I'm Anna, Marina, he will apply them. Are you only woman Yamato be him? No, he will teach them to someone who will apply them.
So who's going to take these five sentences five statements from me in order to do one of two things? Take them to apply them himself or to teach them to someone else who will apply them? For Karla Bora Bora Bora rossetto to an IRS to ally and I will do this problem a lot. This proposition this proposal of yours, I will take it I will accept it that condition that you had called God, he held my hand.
He enumerated five counted five. These are the statements.
He said that the Mahatma takuna but then he says avoid the haraam.
And you will be the best of worshipers. The best of people who worship Allah Subhan Allah than us the best Abbot. If you do this, it's definitely haram leave the hot on water ba de la casa mala hula taco Coco Nana, nurse and be happy content with what Allah subhana wa tada has allotted for you. You will be the richest of people.
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what it looks like very naked photography to me to calm and avoid excessive laughter for excessive laughter kills the heart.
So here we see that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam has five statements, of course, all of them to one degree or the other has to do with the heart. All of them because all the halaal and all the all the al Qaeda has to do with the heart, definitely. But the one that is explicit about it is the last one. So that's the last one inshallah, then we will deal with.
So, in this study, the first thing that you see from the prophet SAW a lot he was hitting them, and we pointed that before
the Prophet as a teacher.
So if you're a teacher, if you want to teach, if you have children, even adults, and we want to share knowledge with them, Listen to how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would do it, and copy him, because he is the best of teachers, copy what he's doing the methods. So how many things do we notice here that he does a lot of you are similar in methods of teaching.
can count how many? How many? Can you count?
I didn't even actually previously Think about it. I just thought like, okay, let's count as many as we can. We count one,
two, maybe we can say three, but at least two main ones. The first one is a question.
And the second one is their physical contact.
So the question, why did he say a lot? He would send them ask a question, of course, to
raise everybody's interest or to pique their interest, something is coming. So he asks a question.
But that question also is not about interest only. And the loss of Hannah Valley uses that in the Quran. was saying that your particular Madoka methodic. Right. What will make you think what our product does not explain why. So that you will think you'll wonder, you would want to know, there's anticipation, so that when you create anticipation when you ask a question.
So that's important when you're teaching anyone, but the profit solution also is doing something that is more than that. He's creating the groundwork for the acceptance of what is what follows, is not just asking a question, who's ready to receive?
And what is the condition here for reception of this now that that is going to come? You have to do one of two things. Either you are taking it to apply it or you're taking it also to teach it. So we'll talk about that. So that's the first method, asking a question laying the groundwork for what is going to come later, who's ready and who's not. The second thing is the physical contact of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is well known for holding somebody's shoulder holding somebody standing here holding holding his hand and counting five, the first one, second one, the third one, right? What does that help you? What does it help you to do?
Keep track remember, right, you won't forget, when somebody holds your hand like that, and counts these five things. More likely that you will remember it that becomes otherwise why you could just verbally you know, numerate the five but no with hand. And that also that physical contact as a teacher, of course, when appropriate, right is important.
So that's the prophets always seen him as a teacher.
The first thing that he was teaching is there is element, knowledge and action.
And we as Muslims, we understand, I think we've talked about this before we understand that what is the purpose of AI?
Ultimately, why do you learn
to use it, to apply it, to change your life with it? It's not just knowledge for the sake of knowledge, and that is it. I want to know simply because I want to know, no, this is a knowledge of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah revealed literally janessa mina buruma Tina No, so that people will be rescued from darknesses and into life. There's always movement, there's always something physical happening on the ground. It's not just let me sit and learn. That's why the prophets Allah sent me saying, I'm not just gonna give you this, who is going to take it to do something with it. I'm not just going to share this with you, who's taken it to do something with it. So there has to be our
objective, from everything that we learn. In Salatu Juma when you come, you know, to listen to the Hulk while you're listening to the
other than the obligation, right? I know sometimes, you know, your word number is coming to the zoo. Like with zombies, right come to the demo, we sit down the center and the violent very, very numb because very repetitive, right? We don't we're not waiting for anything. I'm just waiting for it to be over so I can go back and do something else. But if you approach it with, I want to learn something one thing from it, that I can take with me teach Juma experience will be different
My experience will be different. Right? Maybe I mentioned this before, in one of the AMA, he said, You know, he gives what was and also, you know, he's also a scholar. So he says, you know, he said, I was unfortunate one of those times to be stuck behind an Imam. You know, that was terrible in his football. I couldn't like take it. I like either he's repetitive or doesn't know what he's talking etc, etc. So the next time I decided that we're going to be stuck, listening to him, I decided I'm going to concentrate. And I'm going to really listen, and maybe I will get something from it. So he said, he struggled with himself. And if you know, like, if you have something, to listen to someone
else, who is not at the same level, it's very difficult.
So he said, I sat and I listened, and I listened carefully. And he says, I did benefit because he said, from that hope, I developed a series of hoppers from listening to it. Right, I was able to extend it into maybe felt that there is something missing or some nice point there is that I took that and developed a series of podcasts from it. So it all depends on your attitude. So how much are we going to get from the Quran and from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam depends on how ready we are to apply what is in them.
And that was Subhanallah, the attitude of the setup the attitude of the Sahaba, I'll share with you a couple of statements from them. So with that out of the Allahu anhu said in America at NFC, and you call me either Oh, Susanna is here.
For you call Amanda. I'm into female.
So the devil the Allahu anhu says the thing I fear the most is done in front of everybody. Meaning on the Day of Judgment. I'll be asked here a woman. This is you know his name. Hal alimta, did you know? Did you have knowledge? And you weren't ignorant? Did you know? And he says, Yes, for your car, or will be said to me? What did you do with what you know?
In front of everybody? So what is my answer? Because I cannot plead ignorance. I know.
So what was the objective? Why did I learn all of this? Why did I sit in this halaqaat? Why did I sit and listen to the hook? Why? Why did I read this book? Why did I listen to this shape and that shape? What is the purpose of all of it? So if a person approaches with the intention of I want to learn, in order to apply, Allah blesses that knowledge for him, and it stays with him? And if not, what happens to this knowledge,
goes, goes away, doesn't stay with him. First of all, the bulk of that knowledge is not there. If there is no physical application, or at least teaching that knowledge at the prophets of Allah, you said to them, and said, if there's none of that, the Baraka of that knowledge is not there. Second of all, he will forget it says a few 130 says, yet the food animal animal trainer, Java who were enough to help this is a very famous statement. He says, knowledge calls upon action, like it's calling it's named come
find a Java who if it answers in what the hell otherwise knowledge will just leave you forget about it. How did that you've heard five years ago, 10 years ago, we did not apply, you will listen to it again, it's just like as if it's new. Same thing with the hora. And same thing with any piece of information, you don't apply it, we'll forget about it. So the intention should be undertaking to apply.
And if someone does that, you will find some analog that you have. If you divide your time between a man and man, you won't have time to do other things. Because you just busy with either learning or applying what you know.
What if, for some reason I can't apply application part is missing. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam gives you an alternative.
So you either apply it or you teach it.
At least you teach it.
Why do you teach it
because someone else
someone else will apply it somebody else will listen to it, maybe I'm not the fortunate one will be able to apply it and process it and understand it and benefit from it. But someone else can and you can benefit them you can save their life with it, they can say save somebody's life with it. So this is the attitude of the Muslim, right? You learn, you apply and you teach at the application part is missing. For whatever reason. ask Allah Subhana Allah for forgiveness, but at least that teaching part shouldn't be absent. At least you convey that how do you convey that you convey that knowledge and you ask a last panel with data to improve to help you improve.
So this is what the prophet sallallahu wasallam is laying the groundwork for. Amen, amen. He's just keeping that in mind.
So he took his hand and he said Would the first thing Mahatma tackle now but then NUS
Instead avoid the Halong and you will be of the best of the worshipers. Best worshipers so if you want to ask the question how can I be a best slave of Allah subhanho the best of the slaves of Allah the best worshipper of our last panel data How can I be prophets of Allah who sent him says it doesn't matter avoid the Hara
avoid the Hara.
Now why is that the case it's haram and what's the importance of leaving the hat on now a lot of us if you tell us what is a bad bite naturally right what is a betta you'll name? Salah sia by fasting charity omega hedge saying nice words and all of this and sometimes actually we are very restrictive when it comes to the definition of a betta you notice that among some of us there's like an imbalance rather than thinking that a better is sort of this comprehensive name that anything that Allah loves is under it rather than thinking that we should be selective in our a better So the example I thought of you know, some people think there is a better but kindness to their families is
not right. kindness to your neighbor is not
okay a smile is not the better so not only is a better fastball is a better because only in a better a better isn't in the masjid but outside the MR Gong torque is not a birder
the other side does the opposite
tell you like sometimes you know Your smile is a better but they don't think about their Salah
your good treatment your kindness to others is a valid they don't think about fasting or Zika they come across this and
it's really you know, a bad day is just how you treat other people. That's it. Dinner mama that's what they say right demon mama that's it. Well, how about Dean when it comes to Allah subhana wa Tada. So this is a deficient
incomplete definition of a bad and the other one also is deficient. Incomplete a bad is not only
your relationship with our last panel without it's also your relationship with humanity as well to please Allah does not happen Lockwood, a bass player while also is a data. So all of this is a better everything that is done, that Allah loves and is done for his sake is a better, right, that's the comprehensive definition of a better. So first of all, we have to liberate ourselves from our own definitions.
Our own definition, our own bias, sometimes it's a cultural definition. Sometimes you find the sooner in some areas, right, especially if it's innovated becomes more of a burden and more of an important a better than the obligation. So domestic for instance, right?
The prayer of the middle of Shabbat. You know, as as an example, you'll find that in some places the minister will be full for that saga, but not fulfill the obligation.
Okay, so this is what an imbalance understanding of the word voluntary, although it's an activated app, but even let's assume it's voluntary, becomes more important than the last panel without it had legislated and obligated.
So a burger is everything that Allah loves. But when defining a bird also we forget that leaving the harem itself is a bad
leaving the harm that Allah hates is also part of a better Why is that?
What is the motivation behind leaving what Allah hates?
pleasing Allah, so there is love of Allah. There is fear of Allah. Right. And there is hope for Jinnah and three things that will motivate you to live a better one, although you're not a believer, but I'm sorry to leave the hoorah. One for instance, although you desire it, and we're not talking about her on that you don't desire, there's no reward in it right? You know, what is it the harm that a person doesn't, I don't know, I don't kill so and so I don't even want to kill so and so that's not hard on when we're talking about it, but the hard on that you desire to do, what's the thing that stops you from doing it either loving Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, or fearing his
punishment or hoping from agenda or the combination of all the three, that itself is either that fear of Allah, that love of Allah, that hope agenda that is all a better so when you leave this hat on, that is a banner.
So anything and every time your soul calls you to do something that is wrong.
Remember that the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is saying that this obeying yourself and this obeying your the temptations of this dunya and disobeying the whispers of the chiffon and emerging victorious against all of these is a better that Allah subhana wa tada loves, and it's not the
All right. So the answer them at first solo investing and all of this but also leaving the hat on. Why is that important because when you don't define a bad as leaving the hat on, what will happen is that he will do all that what a lot obligates to the best of your ability. You'll miss some and not others, but when it comes to the heart on what happens
to do it,
because it's not any better. My bad days what my bad is just to pray, how about lying?
Okay, how about a cheating, embezzlement? That's okay. I will be fasting. But not fasting from gossip or not fasting from backbiting, not fasting. I'm looking at the heart on why because I've restricted the meaning of a betta to this and not that.
Right. So there's this statement from Oman Abdel Aziz
that resonates with whatever what what the prophet sallallahu Sallam is saying, he says, they said the pay you the money accumulator, we assume on the heart for my little Filipina Daddy, in them and without the menu added for a steady boon. Muharram infallible the delicate Hydra for Ohio, in Ohio. He says the top three the person who has taqwa is not the person who worships at night, and fast the day and then spins in between
is that's not the poor.
So what is there is positive performance of a better when it comes to sin does he avoided? No, he says that's not
in the majority, the person was turquoise, don't Buddhists the obligations and avoids the harem?
And if he does anything good after that, then it is good upon good. But what is he taking care of?
The basics? The basics, right? What is the basic, whatever Allah has obligated you do and what Allah has prohibited, us don't do. And you concentrate on that. Concentrate on that. And if you do that, you are the best people who worship Allah subhana wa Tada.
What we do sometimes is that we concentrate on what we concentrate and put our energy on the voluntary pmla, as we said, formulae and fasting. But we don't pay attention that you should leave the hat on.
So the energy is directed there. We don't pay attention that we should leave the hat on. No. That's the misdirected energy misdirected focus. You follow what I'm saying? It's a misdirected energy. I'm going to focus on the voluntary and take care of like somebody we're going to talk about the neighbor, somebody who's nice to their neighbors, nasty to his parents. Makes sense. Right? These are like misplaced priorities, what I'm going to the people that I should respect the most, and dishonouring them and to a person who is not as close to me and honoring him. That can be right. misplaced priority. So your priority and my priority should be not my own. But Alice.
So Alice priorities, leave the hat on. Not do whatever these voluntary non voluntary acts could help you leave the hat on, but your focus is on the hat on, leave it. And when you leave the hat on, and you do the obligations, you're ready for what comes after. What's the problem? I'm gonna ask you, what's the problem if I'm doing these voluntary nice acts, but I'm also sitting at the same time. What's the problem with that?
Definitely, you're destroying what you're building a burning house, and then I'm wasting the hustler. I'm earning 10 good deeds and then 10 bad deeds just cancel what I've just done. And at this, the second thing that they do is that they corrupt the heart.
So the heart has these two forces in it right, the forces of Hillel and the forces of heart and the forces of Allah's obedience, and the forces of Allah disobedience, so the heart is not clear and pure yet, because the Heron has also a place in it. So Allah subhanho wa Taala wants you to cleanse the heart, avoid all sin and then build on top of that the voluntary.
Now maybe we can do everything.
But if it's one or the other, focus on leaving the hat on first, and give it more attention than voluntary acts. Right? That's where the attention comes. Whatever Allah subhanho wa Taala emphasizes is the thing that we emphasize. And so I think he said he said, in that sort of any other magical robot movie he went through Kuhlman, he on the phone, he says, most of the children of Adam will do some of what is obligated on them somewhat Allah commanded most of the children or Adam will do it. But the people who will leave what is forbidden or the subject,
what is this? The highest level, to leave truly what Allah has forbidden. That's the person of what
otherwise obeying Allah supplied
With data you will find the most of the most of Muslims. The vanilla, most of Muslims will pray, pray, but only fair play evenly free, but they will pray somewhat. They'll give some bazooka, they will fast, they will do some stuff but leaving the hat on. That is the pious person, even if their event is not as good as the better brothers. They don't create it. You know, at night all the time, they don't fast often, even if they're a better is not as good as others. But if they leave the hat on, they better worshippers of our last parameter.
So that's the first thing that of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is teaching.
The second thing was Gabi Maka samalla, who will
be happy with what Allah subhana wa Taala has given you, you will be the richest of people.
Just be happy with what a Lost Planet Allah has given you. And Subhanallah it's interesting, because if you ask if you ask us, like part, at least part of us, do you want to be the richest of people?
Yeah, right. Yes, I want to be the richest of people, I want to be very rich. So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Here is actually this is like if you saw, right, he's like summarizing this whole thing for you. You don't have to take first x text, the second, third, fourth, fifth, until this to discover at the end of your life or the profits of all these enemies telling you now, right? So the Prophet is teaching you what a rich person would have to spend their entire life to learn.
Listen to teaching you to right now. Because a rich person would think that their happiness is in
wealth and money. So they will go and earn.
And is it enough about this isn't enough? No, it's not enough. So we'll go and earn more and then he will compete with other people. And he will try to destroy them and they will try to destroy him. So he'll never really happy or has a peace of mind. And he will keep earning and earning and earning, losing, being happy, being unhappy, sad, angry, frustrated, till he comes to the end of his life. And at the end of his life, he'll look back at everything that he has done. And he will ask himself Why did I do all of this?
Like actually, why did I do all of this? Why did I collect all of this? For what if I'm going to die?
And he'll feel that he has wasted his life? Because he has collected what he cannot keep with it.
So did he achieve happiness?
That's why we want to be happy most of the time. When you think about it. Why is it that you want to be happy? Do you ask yourself why is it that you want to be happy? I'm sorry, why is it that you want to be rich?
Just to be happy? I think this is going to buy me happiness. I can buy whatever I want I can travel wherever I want right I can do whatever I want that's happiness. So if I if the panel if somebody tells you condition is gonna you're gonna receive these millions of dollars but coming with them a guarantee that you'll be miserable Lee take it.
Who wants it? I only want money to be happy. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is telling you it's not they're
running after it like that. It's not going to bring you happiness okay prophet of Allah sallallahu sallam, what is the thing that is going to bring me happiness? Then I ran after this live and it's not working, I saw others run after it. And it's not working. What is it the thing that will bring me happiness is who has them alone, be happy, contented with what Allah has given him, you will be the richest of people and if you're the richest of people, you are the happiest of people.
So why is it that when you are contented with what Allah has given you, you'll be the richest of people
rich you know being rich or being affluent or being poor have to do with need
So the poor person is the person who is in need
and the rich person who typically is the person who does not need anything because everything that they need the habits with them right so they don't need other people.
So the prophets of Allah Islam is saying that if you are happy with what Allah has given you
you have eliminated what need eliminated meat
so it's for the rich person no matter how millions or billions he may or she may have if they still need are they rich? No.
Really, if you think about it even logically right that's why they say that the rich person will live like a poor person not in not in lifestyle, but in the heart will live like a poor person because they always will feel that they don't have enough I don't have enough which is exactly what a professional fee I don't have enough. What if tomorrow I don't have enough What if I lose my money or I even have millions? What if I lose money? What if I put in next thing I work somebody outbid me
Somebody outsmarts me and he takes everything or I'm not as rich as so on the inside this person is poor.
And if he is four, is he happy?
Absolutely not. That's why money doesn't buy happiness, because this person is always in need.
So the profit alone isn't me saying what I feel that need on the inside. And though you may not have a lot, you will live as if you are the richest person. Because you will look at this person, and they'll be walking.
They won't be looking left and right, we'll look at this beautiful car, this big house. Look at that nice suit nice back. Well, they look.
I don't know, we'll couillard right, we look okay, look at this one, beautiful this and that. But this person who's happy with what Allah has given you does not look anymore.
And in fact, restrains his eyes so that they don't look. Why. Because he's just happy with what Allah has given him. And he will fear or she will fear that if I keep looking everywhere, I will look down at what Allah has given me.
Is that right? Always that's causing the comparison between what I'm wearing and what they are wearing. My big house in their mind, their big house in my small house, their nice car and my napkin, so nice car. So it always holds this comparison. So he's not looking, he's not interested. He's happy with our law has. So he's walking on this earth, not with arrogance, but with dignity. Somebody comes and tells him, here's money, so I don't need it. I'm not running after somebody tells him here's the dounia. But with how long he says keep it, I don't need it. The way that he acts, the way that she talks is like they own this entire world. And they may not have a lot, but they own
their entire world in their bank account.
And this is because they are happy with what Allah subhana wa tada had given them.
Why should they be happy with what Allah has given them?
Now, I mean, Bill's email, but what do we know about Allah subhanho wa Taala. That makes us happy with what Allah has given us.
So it's a test.
to test everything that Allah gives to you, is a test to stay Who among you is thankful and who's not who's one who is patient and it was not. So it's not first an indication of Allah's love or hatred that Allah gave you or did not give you.
Second of all, the way that we're the thing that will make you happy with what Allah has given you,
is to know that this is a gift from the most twice at hacking.
And hacking gives in appropriate proportion to the one who needs it in the way that he needs it and the time that he needs it in the place that he needs it. Not more than knotless this is what Hakeem does. So when you think about it, you will say to yourself, Allah has given me at this moment in life. Right? What I need Exactly.
more of it would be good.
No, less of it would be good to know exactly what Allah subhanaw taala had given me. That is the best thing this is like medicine, like go into a doctor and he's saying, you know, take two pills. It doesn't make to take three or four or five can kill you. It doesn't mean take one or half a pill won't help you. It means take exactly to that is if you trust doctors with you shouldn't always trust doctors. But anyway, sorry if you're a doctor. But right, I'm saying is whatever law whatever Allah subhana wa Taala prescribes is what has given to you in your life. That's what makes you comfortable with what Allah subhana wa tada had given knowing that if he were to oppose Allah as
well and actually seek or desire let's say desire something that last panatela did not get to be desiring what is harmful and what is not going to work for you. It simply does not work is going to destroy you.
So this is what will bring happiness over the last panel Donna has allotted for us and of course also thinking about the fact that you may lose it. The fact that okay, what if I don't have this right now will make you recognize how important it is. What if I don't have my health? What if I don't have my children? What if I don't have this thing I'm complaining about is not in my life? Well, I miss it. And if you think yes, I will miss it though. I'm complaining about it, but I will miss it. If I completely didn't have it in my life. Then you will thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for it. So Pamela, you are dealing with that Hakeem COVID the old knowing the old wives who gives you
for a reason. So Pamela
now we'll take the next two together less than either
jerrica como Mina, betina symmetric a Boolean of secret Muslim. So be kind to your neighbor and you will be a believer and look for others what you love for yourself and you will be a Muslim.
So you will note, in this hadith and in other headings from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam that the Prophet makes one of the main features of Islam is that you love
right is that you love for people what you love for yourself.
Which is the power law amazing when you think about it, because it's not only this headache, it's an other Hadeeth as well. And if Allah subhanho wa Taala, you know, gives the time and you know, sustains and supports inshallah, there was this is one topic I want to talk about in some detail, but later veillonella which is about loving Islam.
People think there is no love in Islam.
Like Islam is the opposite of love, or love or Islam is just is devoid an absence of any type of love. Here the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is saying Islam This is the way you defining it is that you learn
by even if we stop and we say Islam is love would be right. Islam is to learn for people what you love for yourself.
This is how a person becomes a Muslim, continues their Islam expresses their Islam now,
and to him very nasty love two people, or four people. So spend time online and commentary in the Hadith he says this could refer to believers, or non believers as well. And he
could be a woman who can he loves for other Muslims. Only nothing Africa, he loves for all people, Muslims or non Muslims or he loves for himself. He says that he loves that everybody would be Muslim, and everybody would be guided and every sinful person would repent and become obedient to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And that every person would go to Jenna and that every person would be placed there, right? Is there something to stop us from this? No. Yeah, you desire the best for everybody. And they are Muslims to be that they be closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala they are not Muslim, that they be guided to Islam. See, you love for them what you love for yourself. And that is
the mark of the Muslim. So the mark of the Muslim is not a person who is waiting
for the worst to happen to someone else.
Yeah, and he filled with hatred. And somebody did something that to me, somebody insulted me, somebody took something that belongs to me.
The best feeling to have is not to be trapped by my anger,
and desire for revenge and say, I want to wait for a time where I will see that Allah will destroy him. And you keep waiting for it. And you waiting for it and waiting for it.
Are you happy?
Yeah. You're not happy? You've been punished? Because of that feeling. I mean, no one else is punishing you except yourself. You're punishing yourself because of it. You know, I've heard some people right and you know, the we go through this the same thing. I say so and so had been so bad for me. And I've been waiting for a lot to do something terrible to them. I've been used. What's happening? Why hasn't it happened? Are you waiting?
Why are you tormenting yourself that you want Allah subhanaw taala to punish them in this way. And that way, they may have forgotten about this and you're the one who is suffering, forget about it. Forget about it, forgive,
forgive, because when you forgive, you're able to transcend that pain, transcend that anger, and you will live a peaceful life. I don't want to see him die I don't want to see and punish. I don't want to see him tormented What good is that gonna bring to me? But let me say that he ALLAH forgive them.
Forgive them and make whatever I went through right purification and elevation for me. And give me patience and wisdom to be able to respond like that the next day and move on.
Does it harm you doesn't harm me If Allah subhanaw taala guides this person guides this person right? And he repents from that thing that he has done to you. And Allah accepts his repentance. It takes you both to gender, does it harm you in any way?
So it's better to think this way, rather than think I'm just waiting for something bad to happen to him and when will this bad thing happened to see in the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam it says the attack Allahu Allah subhana wa Taala smiles at two men, right? One of them is a believer one way or the other one is a non believer. So they were fighting in a battle the non believer kills the believer so the believer goes to where? Jenna then the non believer the Kappa
Later accepts Islam and he fights in a battle gets killed and he goes to Jenna so Allah subhanaw taala smiles the dead Why does he smile that because he's happy with it. He's happy with it happy with the fact that this person right he lost his life for the sake of Allah subhana wa tada but the other person also didn't go to Jana. So there's always a way and what is worse than killing a Muslim?
Right so the person who has done whatever has done to you, there's always a way for them to go back to Allah subhana wa Tada. So there is no need for you to have all of this anger and animosity and hatred, right. And fire burning inside. That is a thing that brings disease to your life into your heart By the way, but rather, nobody sleeps better as it Tamia Annie Rahim Allah said, you will not sleep better than if you forgive,
not seek or await revenge, but you forgive completely because he said you'll sleep sound asleep and you will love it will be so comfortable. Whereas the person who is waiting for revenge will never be at peace will never be at peace. So this is from the wisdom of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam look for yours for people what you love for yourself and part of the thing that you would love for people as you would love it for yourself that if I make a mistake, that I want people to forgive me or Wish me the worst.
Forgive you do I want people to make against me or for me,
for me to do the same thing. As much as you pass those pins possible, do the same thing when it happens with others and you will find that you will live better inshallah.
So wishing for them the best.
Now the next step after wishing the best is being kind, Watson either god catacomb Amina. So here the woman is not only satisfied with the best of wishes, he has, or she has these best of wishes to everybody around them. But now he translate these wishes into action as an energetic, ethical momina Be kind to your neighbor, and you would have demonstrated your email and your Islam in action.
Because it takes effort to be kind especially kind all the time to overcome your anxiety to overcome the whispers of the shavon to overcome your hesitation to overcome you know that harassment of others and to be kind especially to those who are closest to you. Who may let's let's be honest me and know your time. Right? Why is it easier to be nicer to Brother so and so and sister so and so in the message rather than your spouse or your children at home? Or your parents? Why is it?
Yeah, I know you. They could be annoying at times, right? They say some stuff that hurt you. Right? They're always there. Right? This person I don't have to see him all the time. Somali Kamali comes on five minutes, I can tolerate five minutes, but they're always there.
And sometimes they're nice. And other times they're nicer. And my neighbor is the same way. Right? Why is it difficult to be nicer to your neighbor versus a stranger because a stranger, I see him on occasion and that is it. No much interaction. He doesn't put pressure on me. Not to be nice.
So I don't have anything between me and him. But my nearest neighbor may put pressure on me not to be nice. He's loud. Right? I agree. I have to go and yell at him right? To keep whatever is down. Sometimes you know throws things in my yard whatever right? So annoying. So to be nice to them requires a man patience and a man and doing this for a loss of Hannah with the other. being nice to your parents, even though they might I know you at times. Yes, fine. They may annoy you But still, that's no excuse for you not to be nice and kind to them. Because they're doing it for a loss of power dial and the same thing for everybody around you. So when you're kind of demonstrated your
and here, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam is giving you what signs for Islam and science for you, man you want to know, are you a good Muslim? That's the same. Are you wishing the best for people who are around you or not? Do you want to know if you have a sign that you are a good Mormon or not? This is a sign Are you kind to people who are around you or not because this kindness comes from the man that is on site inside? This kindness comes from the a man in a loss of power to Allah and the worship of Allah Subhana Allah that's where this kindness comes from. Not talking about other types of kindness where you are kind because they're kind talking about the kindness that is generated
from him and so when you do it, that's a sign that you are kind.
Okay, and the last one, when I took care of the hurricane Agatha it to me, it says and Do not
laugh too much because excessive loss
After too much laughter kills the heart
right? So of course first of all i mean this doesn't mean that we should shun smiling any everybody from now on never smile. Stop don't smile. In fact if I tell you don't smile all over the world smile, right? Yeah see I'm telling you so if I tell you don't smile all of us are smile. So it doesn't mean don't smile.
Because the prophet SAW a lot he was sent him with smile and smile a lot. In fact, he wouldn't laugh. There's a difference between laughter and smile. I mean, he would, they would maybe just recorded a couple of times, or maybe one time where the prophet SAW to sit on lap laughing is not when you open your mouth, right? You open your mouth, but rather the smile is a smile without opening your mouth. Anyone when they want to say that the profits always in him was happy with something.
It's a smile until we could see his tea.
That's most of the time. But when you're slightly when it's his really happy smile, seeing the teeth otherwise, just a smile.
But the problem is always in the mood smile often.
Often, Jerry rob the law, or the low on the prophet SAW Listen to me. He says what are any leftover some he says whenever he saw me, he'd smile.
From the time he accepted Islam, he said, whatever the prophets always sent him would see me he would smile.
So it's my all the time.
And where does this come from? Right? Because sometimes, you know, you think to yourself,
to have a man is to be serious all the time and angry all the time. That's not the case.
There is a reason why some people have faith, right? They may be not as happy to talk about it right? But the prophets always tell them had the greatest of emotion. And the greatest of emotion connects you with Allah subhana wa Tada. So when you are connected with Allah, your heart is at peace,
and is happy with what you have.
And it's not suffering. And even though you may be worried about the Hereafter, and you're worried about death, and all of this has has its place, but at the same time, you recognize that you need to be kind to other people. And you will just have this good nature that Allah subhanaw taala will give to you. Right? Just know, hello.
And this person will want to please everybody that is around and bring a smile to their face, and recognize that it is a good deed. The prophets will allow you send them right despite that he had the greatest of a man the same time, right? And you know, with all of those responsibilities that come with him being a prophet of Allah and the leader of this ummah, at the same time, a smile would never leave his face sort of audience.
Now, some of us right when we practice Islam, right, that may put pressure on us. There's whispers from the shavon, right? There's pressure from people around us. There's a lot of pressure. And because of that, you may feel that or we may encounter a person who is trying to be close to Allah subhanaw taala but grumpy,
grumpy, right, sad.
And that is in fact something that needs to be overcome, not surrendered to but overcome.
says no, this is not what Allah subhanho wa Taala wants from you. And this is not what His Prophet sallallahu wasallam wants from you. And there's a hadith but it is weak. When if you read a hadith that says that the prophets always send them was sad for long times. This is a weak Hadith kind of a weaver, or that Him and His prophets Allah Islam was not like that. Right? So to be close to Allah subhanho wa Taala is to be happy with Allah subhanho wa Taala
to have a smile on your face, especially when you meet others but there's a difference between that and excessive laughter. gets a little decadent say Don't laugh. The Sahaba from time to time they would laugh. But what is he warning against? Here in this heady?
excessive too much of it?
Why is excessive laughter is such a problem. You think about it? What type of heart laughs all the time.
Empty one. jokes, right? You're just interested in joke. It's an empty heart.
It's not a heart that has read the Koran. Or ha is thinking about the hereafter. Of course you don't have to be like thinking about the hereafter. 24 seven. I don't mean that. But excessive laughter. Excessive like, like where does it come from from a heart that is empty, and a heart that is attracted to the dunya and is in the middle of the dunya and is only interested in the dunya that's where excessive laughter comes from.
And that excessive laughter kills the heart because the more that you laugh, the more that you brought closer to the dunya and further away from Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala.
And if the heart is dead, can it hear anything?
Can it see anything
cannot respond to the truth. So the province always hit them is saying that to be so happy, excessively, to be happy. But this excessive laughter comes only from pondering and contemplating and wishing for the dunya and forgetting about the hereafter.
Because if you think about the Hereafter, in fact, if you just sit and read the Koran,
and you can compare the two, a person who's into jokes and you know, funny, whatever, right all the time, how is he as a person, when he talks when he sits in his conversations, versus a person or the same person after they read the Koran, and they maintain reading of the heart on how do they change?
What is reading the Koran gift to dignity, stability, focus, he be serious, pleasant to be around. By the way, you can also make some jokes, no problem with that. But at the same time, that's not all of your life.
So the problem is when we send him his warning about an extreme, and so there are things that killed the heart. And one of the seems the most innocent ones is excessive laughter.
And that is one of the problems that we have today. Excessive laughter.
Because if before the term of the prophet SAW a lot he was sending them, right. This could be an issue. Now, you can turn to programs you can turn to channel that all of what they're doing is what? Trying to make you laugh. That's it. comedy, right? comedy all the time. You can sit for hours and watch comedy and be laughing and laughing and laughing and laughing. Right? The prophets always cinema says if this is your habit, it will have an effect on your heart.
Because think about it a person, right? Who is used to comedy,
can he sit in halaqa?
Unless it's comedy,
unless there's a lot of jokes in it. And that's why a lot, you will see that Islamic education also shifts towards comedy.
Why? Because these young people are not going to sit and listen to me unless I you know, I'm funny as the thing that they are listening to.
So the news today, right? Think about the news.
less people go to actual serious news channels to listen to the news. And they'd like to would like to get their news from funny people.
And fake news, they call it right. But from funny people who will make fun of it, because they can only digest it this way.
So of course, right? If the only the only thing that you're doing is making fun of everything, right? You like dead?
Can you teach the Quran while being funny all the time? What How was that dead, anything serious in this life, right? He cannot just the comedy cannot be the medium of transmitting this knowledge all the time, you can be funny, here and there. But it cannot be your main focus. So if that's the only thing they're used to, you sacrifice, you dilute the information and sacrifice depth in it. So the person who's used to it can only receive it in that form, whether it's news, or even Islamic education.
And forget about sitting for an entire hour or 45 minutes or half an hour, you know, trying to listen to someone speak about something serious because no, I've been you I've used to what my attention span is that joke
a minute. Right? You get to finish it in one minute. And once that's done, tell me another joke, or physical comedy, whatever it is, right? But something that will always keep grabbing my attention. If it's not them without listening to you. I'll do something else. So you see that the heart that is like that is alive or dead,
as close to being dead, that being alive. And one listen to the foreign one listen to the student of the Prophet system doesn't have the patient to sit and process any of this. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he says, Wait a minute, I'm not telling you not to laugh. I'm not forbidding laughing. Excessive, right? frequently doing this and making this your focus on their best pastime. And by the way,
a person who jokes all the time
is likely or not likely to commit head on when he jokes
Because you can't be honest all the time. Sometimes you lie
and to order it, you know in order also to make others laugh.
You have to mock ridicule, lie or exaggerate. Right. So you make in front of other people.
So, and plus, today's comedy, especially today's comedy, right and it will
We get worse and worse and worse. Today's comedy. what passes for funny today is what? The extremely vulgar, not just the slightly vulgar, extremely vulgar and the more vulgar you are, the funnier you are, and the more money that you'll make.
My right Am I lying to you? is really, that's really the case. By the top comedians are the most vulgar of comedians. And so if you want to be funny, you're gonna just have a lot of data. That's why he wants to know a once upon a time when I saw an Islamic stand up comedy, that was really ridiculous for me. Why? Because this is we do it to subpanel we're copying others. Why is it not proper to have an Islamic stand up comedian?
How can you have an Islamic stand up comedian, What is he trying to do? Make you law and law and law and law? What sort of dichotomy to
excessive laughter kills the heart? What are you doing? Don't you know that the prophets always sent him said this? Once in a while while he was sitting in a gathering and you were being funny him to dinner, there is nothing wrong with it. But to make that your profession
to make that your intent? That's very different.
So as a panel or whatever we want to take into the Muslim community, whatever we want to do, you have first to see is Allah subhana wa Taala happy with it is a prophet sallallahu Sallam happy with that? Is this something that they will prove up or not? And if not, it doesn't matter who's doing it on the other side, right? What matters is that he plays a loss of Hamilton and his profits.
So sin in general kills the heart. Right? *can General who's about anything that displays the last panel delicates the heart, and among them, is excessive laughter. And that is the panel like a golden advice from the prophets a lot. He was in it, because if he didn't tell us, we wouldn't know. And because he told us, we were able to be critics of today's culture and to tell them what works and what doesn't work and why it doesn't work.
So ask Allah subhana wa tada and to teach us our religion and to help us as the prophets of Allah, Hollywood cinema, etc, to learn and to apply what we learn, or at least to learn and to teach what we learn in the law. So I just want to see if there have any questions
before inshallah we conclude.
So can a lot of they say why are repeated bugs VC Why?
Okay, so he had heard that thing, the source.
They give examples, right. So that was the CBC.
Okay, insha Allah. So he said that, I mean, that we mentioned on the news that some of the people are many people, the people who their profession is to make people laugh, end up committing suicide. And, you know, Subhanallah it's not surprising. I mean, a lot of them are, you know, addicts to this and addicts do that and they have miserable life's miserable life. So, comedy is not a reflection of their own happiness, right? It's just a profession, some job that they're doing. So something to think about that the person who you may be listening to, and was making you laugh is, in fact, you know, could be an agony while he's doing what he's doing right now. So Pamela, that's the paradox,
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