Heart Therapy 10 – Hadith

Ali Albarghouthi


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Explanation of the tenth hadith in the Heart Therapy Series:
The Messenger salla Allahi alayhi wa sallam said: (Written on the child of Adam is their share of fornication, they will surely meet what is written for them. The fornication of the eyes is in looking, and the ears is in listening, and the tongue in talking, and the hands in touching, and the feet in walking. And the heart desires and wishes, and the private parts confirm this or reject it)
Reported by al-Bukhari (6612) and Muslim (2657)


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The speaker discusses the importance of having good thoughts and staying away from things that can affect one's life. They emphasize the need to control one's desire and avoid getting into trouble, and stress the importance of having good thoughts and staying away from things that can affect one's life. The segment also touches on the concept of a "bystander" who is in jail and is rushing to achieve something, and emphasizes the importance of having good thoughts and staying away from things that can affect one's life.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah in Alhamdulillah Muhammad who want to stay in who want to start a funeral when we let him in surely unforeseen our car Dr. Molina Maja de la Fernando de la la la sala de la, WA shadow Allah Allah illallah wa hula Sheree Kala wash, Mohammed Abu Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sahbihi wa sallam.

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Just a gentle reminder that for the sisters upstairs in shallow life, we can just keep quiet. Those of us who want to listen to the

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lecture Zakouma hair, listen, those who do not want to find another place where you're not disturbing those who want to benefit and those who want to learn so find another space another spot, whether you're busy with your phones or talking to someone else, please don't disturb and hinder someone's else learning.

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So today's Hadeeth insha Allah is the 10th haddie

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and in this hadith hamdulillah there will be with a lot of benefits in it. And it's talking about the desire that we have in our heart and one of the diseases of the heart that we already have spoken about but this would be in more detail spoken before about the diseases of the heart can be divided into the shoe hat and shout out if you remember and these categories are very helpful in organizing our thinking about what is wrong and why it's wrong. And if we understand that we can understand how to treat it. So only when you understand the disease really be able to understand how to treat it. So this Hadid is talking about one of those which is the Chihuahua but desires

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specifically about fornication specifically about Xena

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10 is today's 10 is headed over they will find him number eight go to Hadith number eight

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yeah because I reordered we shifted them. So today's Hadeeth is number eight in your book number 10 in our series inshallah.

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So let me read the Hadith first and then inshallah offer some explanation to what the prophets of Allah is teaching us. This is work generated in Bukhari and Muslim.

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whoa, you suck decode article for you when you get the book.

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So he said, so the louder you send them written on the child of Adam, is their share of fornication is their portion of fornication, they will surely meet what is written for them, that there is no escape from it, what is written for them, they're going to meet it. So he said, The fornication of the eyes isn't looking and the ears isn't listening, and the tongue in talking, and the hands in touching and the feet in walking, and the heart desires and wishes and the private parts confirm this or rejected.

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we already said that this is a statement from the prophets of Allah, Allah, you send them about one of the diseases of the heart and he's referenced there is clear,

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right, because he towards the end, he talks about that the heart is the thing that is going to control that stream.

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That stream of thoughts. And that stream of actions, those stream of actions and whether they reach their end dozin or not, by the heart ultimately is the one that will be in control.

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But before we get into that, let me shala briefly talk about the channels of the heart,

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which is primarily hear the eyes and the ears. Now the senses, the other senses to smell, touch, right? are also channels, right? roads that connect the outside world with the heart. But the most powerful channels are the eyes and ears hearing and seeing

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because the heart doesn't know about the outside world. How does the heart know about what's happening outside?

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It doesn't know except through the eyes and ears primarily. So there's really a very strong connection between what we see and our heart what we hear in our heart. So the heart doesn't know about the outside world except through the senses. And because they are so important, they influence the heart and the heart influence

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Since then, in return, so whatever you see the image,

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beautiful images or not, whatever you hear beautiful words are not halal or haram religious or not religious, they will impact the heart so there is a very strong connection between the two.

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And because of that connection,

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Allah Subhana Allah guides us in the Quran and instructs us on how to use our eyes and how to use our senses.

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So he says, for instance, our immune guru female akuti somehow it will be a hell of a lot home in shape one as an akuna projector big room.

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So Allah subhana wa tada says, aren't they looking and pondering the greatness of the heavens and the earth? And everything that Allah has created? And perhaps, that their destiny their end? is about to expire is they're about to reach their conclusion.

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Here, Allah subhanho wa Taala, in a sense is telling you, you have these eyes. So what are you using these eyes for having to ponder? Haven't you looked at the heavens, the skies? This earth? Haven't you contemplated everything living that is around you and from that did used and concluded that there is a creator who is powerful and merciful and kind and all knowing

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and from there also concluded and pondered your own limited time on this earth and that there is a day of judgment and that you will be questioned and what have you. So this is an important way for us to use our eyes, meaning you look at the universe around you. That is said, because of such connection, Allah subhanaw taala is talking about it. You want to understand who Allah is use your eyes, use your ears, understand the universe around you see in it, manifest signs of Allah has power, and you will, your email will increase. This is one way of using our eyes that Allah subhanaw taala talks about in the Quran. And another one, zero will not be fine bouquet can Atiba to Latina

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men, cuddly him, didn't they travel on this earth and find out the consequence of the actions of those who were before them those who disobeyed the law and rebelled against it.

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That is you can physically actually move

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and travel and see people who had existed before civilizations that have existed before and had parachutes stopped to exist because they disobeyed a lot. And when you look at it, you will see this is what happens. Right? This is really what happens here is evidence in front of me. I can see through my eyes, here's evidence in front of me that those people perished, and a lot punish them, or wish that they would cease to exist.

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And even if you don't travel right by foot, you can travel by ear, you can listen to these stories from people have seen that you can see pictures of that and all of this will confirm in your heart, that there is such a consequence that there is repercussion, to the disobedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala and repercussions and consequences to the obedience of Allah. Another third way that you can use your eye in the die and sort of

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get that you know, what's the next second alladhina yet Oh, not the one before that he will actually you redo our job.

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So this is all about the eyes of Hanalei. And he says, you know, be patient, and sit with those who remember Allah subhanho wa Taala in the morning, and in the evening, seeking his face, and whatnot, your eyes past them, and look beyond them to read the zenith and higher dunya you're seeking the glamour and the splendor of this life.

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So this is also another way. And you can see here a hint to what Allah subhana wa tada is saying, do this, but don't do that. And your eyes can do two things. Here are the pious, those who are close to Allah, those who desire His pleasure. He says, sit with them, confine yourself to their company, don't go beyond them. Because if you go beyond them, your eyes will start wandering and what will you see the glamour of this slide. He says, That's not what he was supposed to do. But look at them look at the pious because you will learn from them from their example, from their behavior from their manners, from how they repent. They will learn from everything that they're doing.

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But it's not. If you're distracted by something else, it will be the splendor, the glamour, the glitter of this life, you will look at it you will forget about the pious, those who are close to Allah subhana wa Tada. And so your heart will start changing.

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Right? Your heart will start changing. So that what you look at what you listen to affects your heart.

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I hope that that is clear what you choose to look at. What do you choose to listen to? has an influence on your heart? Right? And in another ayah Allah subhanho wa Taala says, What at some would deny in a Qaeda modality as well as a min Hamza hotel hierarchy dounia enough to whom he was corrupt because

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he said subhana wa Taala. Do not extend your eyes towards what we have made some of them enjoy.

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He's speaking to Mohammed Sall, Allahu Allah, he was sitting them and those who follow him sallallahu wasallam also should adhere to this. It says, Don't look to what we had made them enjoy of the splendor of this life

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because it's a test for them.

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So don't extend your life or your eye your sight over there, don't look there.

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Because this is their test.

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It may appear attractive and it is attractive to some sort, but it is a test so don't look there. look somewhere else. read the Quran and look there, look at the dunya so that you can learn from it What brings you closer to Allah don't look at the dunya so that it will distract you from Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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So it's very special, this eyesight that we have, and its connection to what we feel.

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In a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam

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he said, both footed by Al Bukhari and Muslim he says either another aha to come in to be Ronnie Hillman he will help for the Jamboree, the man who saw me

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as Follow me. It says when one of you looks at someone who is superior to him in wealth, or in beauty,

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let him look at someone who is inferior.

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That is whether this look is intentional or sometimes it's not intentional. You just notice that so and so has more.

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has more money than you

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more cars. bigger house.

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Bigger family. Right? They seem happy and you hate them because they seem happy because you don't think that they're happy you're happy. Say you know damn prayer so happy okay, right. So they look happy. They look healthy.

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Or beautiful. Right? So someone is has more beauty.

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Especially right today. Especially today with the fitness is very big. They show you every single the most beautiful people around the world right are in front of you just press you know turn the internet on.

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Open your browser Most Beautiful People are right there. I've been telling you how much they have. And you know by comparison how little you have and how great their life is. And then by comparison how miserable Your life is. You go on Facebook, you go on Instagram, everybody's happy everybody has everything you say supply life. This is this is depressing, ultimately depressing. Right? And so this happens then every day and even before it was the case that you can stay home and not see all of this you can go to your neighborhood you live in a humble Place your neighborhood is very humble. You're fine with this. Now we can't escape it you go to the grocery store on the magazine all of

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them like you so you're gonna stumble and bump into someone because all the magazines are showing you all the beauty the richest people the most most expensive houses in this model this superstar this so you're always seeing that

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and when this happens you begin to resent everything in your life. Hate it and hate your lot in life It will Allah had given you that is not enough. hate your family your children hate your car have everything that you have. You go visit someone for instance and they're doing better than you they come you come back home whether it's your wife or you to your wife and you say what what kind of living is this what what kind of living we don't have enough I that's the reaction that we have. So all of that is because of a gaze because Have a look and what it brought back inside.

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So here the prophets of the law he was sending me says the remedy to this among other remedies but he says the remedy for this says when this happens to you look at someone who doesn't have as much as you

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because that fixes it immediately. Dating in

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email is also required but it fixes it Why? Because it was the first look you notice what they have but you don't with a second look you will notice what you have but they don't because they are inferior to you they don't have as much money they don't have as much help they don't have as much beauty. So then you realize that so pantalon handed in the Allah had given me so much rather than complain and be resentful of me thank Allah soprano with Allah for what I have, because I could be like those who are

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inferior to me.

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So this is the strong connection between the heart and the eyes of the heart, or the eyes and the senses and the ears can capture things that can spoil our heart.

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And it's also the same thing if the heart is spoiled, the senses will also be spoiled, the eyes will be spoiled than the ears will be spoiled like if a person has if we go back to the Hadith.

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Since if the heart is sick with that disease of Xena, meaning that it desires, it loves Xena.

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It will send the eyes and it will send the ears to capture anything related to it and bring it back to the heart. Like for instance, if you're hungry, right, you will be looking for food. That's what the heart does. The eyes do. They respond to your internal need, you're hungry, you're looking for food. That's the only thing that you can see, you're thirsty, you're looking for water. That's the only thing that you see. If the heart desires Zina, then they will, the heart will send the eyes go and seek this dinner, or whatever is gonna inflame my desire, go and seek it and bring it back to me today is go and seek it and bring it back to me. So the senses are spoiled because of the heart and

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the heart can be spoiled because the senses.

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And because Xena doesn't happen immediately,

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but it progresses, it has steps to it. The profits of the low audio system, he said that in the Hadith, he's calling these acts that preceded Xena as well.

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So the AI when it looks at the harem, he called it Xena. And that's the design of the ice.

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So the high becomes guilty of Xena. When the A listens to the words right in decent words.

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A person may not have you know Subhanallah that sin in his heart at that moment, or on in his mind. But he listens to something. And when you listen to something, it reminds you of it. Oh, okay.

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That thing.

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And you start thinking about it.

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So the act of listening to it. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam is calling it also Zener. So this is enough for the eye, there's a zener for the ear. This is for the hand, which is the illicit heart on touch. That's also its portion of Xena.

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And there's a zener for the foot walking to these places. That's also its portion of Xena.

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And because

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these things of how to live this tribe, the desire for these things are entrenched or deep into our hearts.

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And these these first

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steps that we talked about the illicit Look, the illicit

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word, the illicit touch, all of these are minors since but because it's so deep or so strong in a person's heart. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said what that this is written on the child of Adam, that it's as if it is inevitable now that we are compelled by written doesn't mean you're compelled to do it. No. But it because it's so prevalent, and seldom really do people actually avoid them.

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Looking at the heart, I'm listening to the heart on touching the alarm. Sometimes he sets a lot a sentiment as if it's written on everybody and seldom do people actually free themselves from it. So these are the minor sins.

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the heart will talk probably about this before we said that the hearts of panela is always moving.

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always moving is always thinking is always processing it does not stop. If you remember we talked about

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how the simple hammer and the hammer right is an appropriate name for a human being because you're always thinking and intending. You're always moving in one direction or the other. So hammam here means that there's a process right? There's a process there's movement and the heart is always moving and sound in a wise are some of the other might have said that the heart is like a Miller. Right? It's something that grinds always moving. It's always moving. Right? Right. I don't know if you're familiar with some Mills or especially the old ones, right? We put grains in them and you move them and then they grind

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grains right and whatever you put there so that the heart is always moving. So what it produces depends on what you put inside.

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If you collect wholesome grains and you put it inside and you grind them, you will get what grains are the

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And that you can use that you can cook with. And that will be nutritious. But if on the other hand, you put something unusable, right harmful energy, put rocks, it will grind rocks, if you put glass, it will grind grass. That's what it produced for you.

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So the heart is always moving like that mirror, like an engine, what it's going to produce based, it will be what you bring to it

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through your eyes, and my eyes, what you bring to it with your ears and your senses. So if we dump garbage into it, it'll produce garbage.

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If we dump poison into it, l produce poison.

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And, though it is based that statement that based on a weak Hadith, it's authentic. Nonetheless, the animal said, you know that the look, it's like a poisoned arrow from the shade funnel, look at what is illicit what is haram. It's like a poisoned arrow from the Shavasana. When it gets into your heart, it poisons your heart. And it's been, it's hard for you to extract that poison.

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It's much easier to prevent entry, than to try to extract that arugula, like if it's just gonna hit your body, and piercing easier actually to wear armor and protect yourself from the error rather than have it pierced your body, still your blood and then try to extract the error from it. So to avert your gaze, and look otherwise look elsewhere.

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and prevent yourself from the bottom is easier than to allow a beautiful image, the image of a man or image of a female or image of a male, whatever this image is, that is how long but you create a new lust after it's easy right to prevent it entering the heart rather than you say, let it enter first. And let me treat it

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sought to extract after.

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Sometimes it prints so hard on the heart, it's hard to remove it.

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And there had been stories and stories of people right who had they may be pious before but because they allowed their eyes to wander and look at this harm and that harm. They suffered a fitna

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in their hearts and a sickness in their religion.

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So we have to guard our senses and guard our ears and guards, everything shallow that lead to our hearts. And even I want to say here, even if there's something that is permissible sometimes, and I'm trying to try and Charlotte to be sensitive about even if it's something that is permissible, that is if we look at something that is permissible, otherwise, that is permissible for everybody else. But if we look at it, and we have such a desire for it, right, then that thing also becomes how long for us, and then we should try to avoid looking at it, or being alone with it. Right? Because that can happen. I don't know if I'm being too Mysterious, mysterious. Okay, so the talk,

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for instance, in the books, right, that your attraction Sometimes, though, you usually are attracted, you know, a male, usually attracted to females, a female usually attracted to females, but somehow panela this is an attraction to a beautiful image of beauty, and the beauty of the face of Sora. So it's possible for a male to be attracted to the image of another male.

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Without assuming, you know, a homosexual identity is just that they're very attracted to another male image, or for female, that also can happens between female

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they can be attracted to the image of a beautiful image of another female.

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So they talk about the fact that if this happens, and it can happen, because Subhanallah sometimes I hesitate, should I talk about this, or should I not talk about this, but if it's something that is actually happening, the person who's suffering from that doesn't understand how to treat it. So better to talk about it rather than just you know, to be too sharp. So, if this happens, that it's important for that person to keep their distance like you keep your distance if you're male, from other female, or if you're female from another male. If this this attraction between you that you have towards another individual, specific individual, be cautious, because if you don't, it can

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escalate and it can develop into something that is hard.

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Right? And the way that you do that is as I said, First its distance. Another thing is to pray to Allah subhanho wa Taala to take this attraction away. Engage in dhikr of Allah engage on the last panel tada and fill your heart with a man and with enough distance, this thing will go away, inshallah.

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Now, the thickness of the opposite sex. Let's go back to this the fitna that we have with women or women have to wear with men is one of the strongest desires that we can have.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala when he says in Saudi Arabia and Ron Xueyan any nurse, you have Boucher, Shahada, or desires have been made beautiful to human beings. He starts with women

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Xueyan and inasa kobushi hawaiki, Mina Nisa,

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that this would have would have been beautiful of this role is had been made attractive

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from among and when we start the panel without listing the things that have been been been made attractive, the first one, he talks about Islam.

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So we understand here that the traction is intense, is strong, and is influential. The one of the greatest fitna that men have is women. And later in Charlotte, we'll talk more about that. But one of the greatest sickness that men have whether they realize it or not, this woman

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and woman also can be greatly tempted by men.

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So because of the attraction of this fitness, you have to watch out for it.

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And you have to be careful about it.

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And not allow it and especially the practice of Haram in it, not allow it to overtake your heart and corrupted.

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Now, from the Hadith,

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we will inshallah learn two important things, how sin progresses,

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you can glean it, you can sort of get it from the body, then when the Shay fun comes to you, comes to any human being. He doesn't come and say commit that grievous sin that you can

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go and kill someone.

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Go commit Zina right now.

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The shaitaan knows better than this knows that you will not listen to him, if there is great distance between you and that sin.

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So he wants to work to bridge that distance

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to bring you closer, so that our final act is easy and not so difficult.

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So what he will do is that he will bring you and me one step closer, he will see what is the

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the closest thing that I can command him to do, whispered to him that he should do it, and he would do it and would bring him closer to that sin. So maybe it's just a glance. And that's the only thing that I want from him right now. Just look at that in that seat.

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So if he manages to bring me a new one step closer to that sin, and we agree and we allow, and it continues, now he can bring us one even step closer to it by commanding us to do the next thing in line.

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So now you just looked. Now try to listen.

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Now you looked in Listen, now try to talk.

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Now we looked taught you listen, now you try to touch. So 1234 whatever he can bring you closer and closer, closer to the sin that before you know it.

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You find yourself committing that major sin that previously you would have thought impossible, I would do something like this. Impossible, you would do something like this.

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And so one of one of the example is that one of the people who

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stole and was about to be punished for stealing or rather even something greater than that. And he was told, you know, how did you reach that level of criminality?

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He said it started with stealing an egg.

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She's not gonna tell you go rob a bank. You don't even know how to rob a bank

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is not going to tell you you know, go and kill someone. He says I will faint. Before I be able to faint when I see blood. How would I be able to kill someone? He doesn't want to tell you that they sell you steal an egg. What's an egg?

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Steal $1 What's $1.

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But after he convinces you that you can do the dollar and you can do the egg, then the 10 is easier a little bit. When you can steal a chicken,

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then a goat then a camel, then the big stuff. So this is how we start. But progression

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customizing you to the idea that you can do this and that this is fine. Then you can do the next thing and this is fine. And again panela you before you know it, you'll be doing that thing that you thought you'd never do. And you say How did I reach here? How did I reach here? And you can trace it back to the first time that you said yes to this thing.

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So externally, this is how we proceed from the small to the big.

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And of course, it's easier to stop when

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when it's very small.

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That's why you have to be very careful and vigilant and keep your eyes open. Oh, it's it's hard on this thing is hard on though it may seem small, this thing is held on and I'm afraid that if I allow it, it will grow into something very big and I won't be able to stop it.

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But also internally,

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the committing of H each sin any individuals and also progresses, and it doesn't happen immediately or all of a sudden

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it also goes through stages and some of the other men also talk about that.

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They say first

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and you can think about how these ideas come into our minds. First there is the

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passing thought.

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And by the way, some of the you know, US may use different

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titles for these stages or say oh, this is synonymous with that, but the general idea is the same. It starts as a passing thought

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then was was a recurring thought,

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comes more than one time,

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then how do

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you start talking to yourself about it?

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Then ham

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and the ham you look favorably at this thing? But yeah, it should be done. And the last one is as

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as is when you intend to do it.

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So for instance, for example, it doesn't have to be you know, something, how long actually any thought that comes our mind comes like that. So you say to yourself, for instance, I want to buy something new, I want to buy a new shirt, surpassing thought just like a passing thought and you should buy a new hat.

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And now, you know, as a passing thought you can either say yes, or no, I want to buy a new shirt. No, I have a lot done and forget about it. It's not going to come for a while.

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Or I want to buy a shirt.

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Yeah, maybe. Right. So that's just passing time.

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But this passing thought is like a bird flying on top. Right? It either it'll continue flying or will land. So if you let it land it will land.

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So you say Oh, fine. Okay, yeah, maybe I'll need a shirt and then you forget about it. But then comes again now because you allowed it in? will come again. How about that shirt?

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And then again, how about that shirt? Right?

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So this this is the West USA well, recurring thought, you know, it's not like the shape bond necessarily is like, unless the shirt is hot. Um, I don't know. But it's not the shape is telling you go and buy a shirt necessarily see yourself also. So just a recurring thought. Then you grab that idea and you start what to talk to yourself about it. Should I buy it? How much would it cost? Do I have space for it? Do I need it to like, Will it fit our wardrobe or not?

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I just bought something recently. Yes. No. Yes. No. That's handy to know. Yes. No. Yes. No. Yes. No. When you say yes.

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Right, not yet have decided that 100% you're gonna buy but when you say yes. That's

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Oh, yes. That's a good idea.

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So you have

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then when you decide, okay, today, I'm going to leave the house. I'm going to buy that shirt. That's your asthma.

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This is it. Right? Or you find it on sale? And you say Okay, that's it, you grab it. That's as an Okay, done done. I'm taking it.

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So any idea that comes into our head must pass through this progression along who's best?

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And then what is the source of the

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what is the source of that? passing? Thought? It could be something external. Somebody talks to you about something you see something? Or could be something that comes from us. We imagined something we sit you know how you sit sometimes and you think about all sorts of strange and non so strange stuff. You know, sometimes? Oh, am I an alien? No, I'm not an alien. Okay, that's fine. Am I can I go travel? No, I cannot travel is the things that you think about. And some of these things are desires that you have, right desires that you have, especially when you know, you're well fed. You know, and you know, you're so full and when when that happens, your desire is very strong. So you

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begin to think about what else do I want.

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I want a woman and it's good to have this and it's good to have that. So that's

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so it can come in from your own personal needs or your imagination or something that you saw it this

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Here's how it progresses, hop right into our southern howdy through knifes, then him. And then as

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now they say that when it reaches the level of ASME, it's very difficult to stop it.

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Right? When you thought about it and decided it has value decided that you want to do it. And now we've reached a level or even tended, and there's our resolve to do it, it's hard to stop it at that stage.

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And it's easiest to stop when it is at the level of Hopalong. Just a passing thought that's the easiest, or maybe was suicide when it's still recovering or still or even had eaten, that's when you're still talking to yourself about it.

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Those are the easiest times when you can push away that sin that evil.

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Because it has not taken root, strong roots into your heart, the heart has not favored it has not liked it is not inclined to a tee is still processing the idea.

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Right? But the easiest is at the level of tequila. And that's why they say you have to watch for your heart, for your thoughts. And whatever comes into it. And if you remember, one of the first Heidi that we talked about, and that the heart is being is very tumultuous, and fluctuate very rapidly. It does that because of all the heart, the thoughts that come into it

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10s, hundreds of thought passed through the heart and the mind, this and this and this and that and that in that.

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So you have to like a guard, right, you're guarding a fortress, and you're receiving all the arrows from the enemies and all these attempts to have penetration from the enemy. And you have to stop all of them. Because once you allow the enemy through the gates, it wreaks havoc inside, that's the sheath on trying to get in, follow me. There, the shaytan is trying to come in and he will throw all of these ideas into your head. And you have to stop the shutdown and stop yourself and say, No, this is wrong, this is wrong, this is wrong, this is wrong.

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Now these passing thoughts will take hold when the heart is empty.

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When the heart is empty, it has nothing to do.

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Like for instance, you have a lot of free time. And you don't know what to do with your free time and a lot of free time is dangerous.

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With no intention, no plan behind it a lot of free just just sitting like this. And you just allow your mind to drift. And the chevron can see this that there is no direction to your heart and to your mind. So he will put something in it. And sometimes because you're bored, and I'm bored,

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we have nothing better to do.

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Or sometimes also To be honest, you're frustrated with your life.

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You know you want something exciting. That's where fantasy comes in. You want something exciting life is you know completely dull.

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Gray. So you want something exciting. So you just allow your mind to wander.

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And to fantasize about a and fantasize about B and to fantasize about c and this and this and this. And some of it is neutral and some of it is really harmful.

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So this is an example of a person that allows all these passing thoughts to take hold into his heart and to ruin it.

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And they will

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also it happens because there's a lack of a man to heart.

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See if the heart

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healthy and alive. It will not have desire for Xena in it

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and the evidence is as follows the Prophet when Allah subhanho wa Taala says yeah, and he said and maybe the student hadn't been any say it's okay to run the code

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can be modeled in hold'em alpha. He said, speaking to the rise of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and this instruction is for them to them for them and all the women of the hematologic center. It says oh wives of the Prophet you're not like it when you are pious do not like anyone else your reward and your station is not like the rest of the woman of this oma you're above all of them if you have the power and they do so he says fella Bonneville Power do not speak softly

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okay. Fatima, Allah difficulty Murat because when that happens, the one who has disease in his heart will be tempted by it will call nikodem Alpha speak honorably.

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Speak honorably. So he subhana wa tada is instructing them he says don't speak softly. Why? Because you may encounter someone who has disease in his heart. So according to the tafsir he says that disease is love for Xena

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So that heart is ready.

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is ready.

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So when they speak just softly, he will take that as What? Oh, there is evidence that they like me.

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Right? That they're attracted to me and immediately what he will reciprocate by being also attracted to them and possibly pursuing them.

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Any woman this is happening is going to happen with any woman right? So the heart that desires dinner, Xena will have that reaction. You understand this by implication from this is the heart that does not have that disease will not be tempted by that right.

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So the heart opponents Saleem, it's sound, it's healthy, it's alive with a man, when he hears that soft speech was soft speech could be very innocent. By the way, just as this is the way that some women will talk. Without intention, you know, of shorting someone or you know, trying to attract them. This is how some of them talk, especially when they when you encounter non Muslim woman, this is just how they talk. So the person who doesn't have that disease is not going to be tempted by that speech on top of speech, as hard as strong as the man is strong, is repulsed by the idea of Xena.

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It doesn't mean that he has stopped being human being that he doesn't have desire for the opposite sex. No, but the idea of Xena committing haram and growing Allah subhanho wa Taala sunning himself with that filthiness filth.

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He doesn't think he doesn't imagine that he can do that. So whatever soft speech you may hear does not affect him. And he will reject it, and security and Allah subhanho wa Taala and protect himself from it, even if it's intentional, soft speech,

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but the other person will be attracted to it.

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And that tells you about the reaction of the strong heart and the weak heart. Remember the example that we gave before that if your heart is healthy,

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or your body actually if your body is healthy, you know whether you drink cold water or not, whether you go outside wearing a coat or not right, it's not going to affect you much. You're healthy. But if you're sick, if the water is slightly cold, it makes you sicker. If that weather, you know temperature drops a little bit, makes you sicker. Why start very small variations will affect your health, because you're not healthy. Same thing with the heart when it's diseased. The slight insinuation, the smallest insinuation that Oh there is this may be possibility of Xena

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allows the person temps the person and tracks the person to it.

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So what we want to have

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is a heart that is free from the desire of Zina

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to know that it is something that Allah subhanho wa Taala hates, and that leads to no good.

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Now there is a path for the Hillel that is a more satisfying alternative.

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And we want that to be the thing that stops us from going to Xena fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala love of Allah soprano with the island.

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And they but there is a difference between the person who leaves Xena for the sake of Allah and the person who leaves Xena because the opportunity has not presented itself and there's a difference between the two.

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Right? So there are some people who leave Zina, right, do not commit Zina, why they want it.

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But they're afraid to fully have a right to be shamed in public. They're afraid of disgrace What if I do it, then people find out and No, I won't do it. There are consequences and hamdulillah there are consequences, please, it stops this person from doing it. But no, it's because of the consequences. Or my my family finds out if my wife found out what's going to happen, right? Or the person simply is naive doesn't know which is good, but doesn't know what to go for. It doesn't know what to do is just

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So he doesn't pursue it though the desire is there. But if it were to be the case that this opportunity presents itself to him or to her, they'll take advantage of it.

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If there is no repercussion, no consequences that can happen

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so having this desire for dinner is dangerous because maybe the person has it once said, but hasn't committed that so far not because he doesn't like it.

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Ah as Allah subhanaw taala says the Allah Maha

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Cristo do he knows when your eyes you know wandering.

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You know, when you're just looking at when you're only looking at someone when nobody else is looking yellow hyena Dalai Lama took this to heart is he is hiding that is. If I'm able to do it with this person. I'll do it.

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If I'm able to do it, I'll do it. It's just I can so many obstacles. But the hardest thing if I can do it, I'll do it.

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So I, the prophets, a lot of you send them says, Daddy,

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what can I do?

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The difference between the two, hallelujah Holloway,

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the heart desires and wishes.

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The heart, yeah.

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Right, he has this desire for something that is possible and close by

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with them. And now, he has this issue of something that is not so readily available, not possible, very distant, but still wishes for it.

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So wishing for something could be wishing for something that is right around you available.

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Or someone that is very distant, impossible, you'll never meet that. You'll never meet them.

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Like, as they say, they're not even in your league. They're richer and famous. And that's, that's the danger of you know, having, you know, a shadow of a soil, you know, being attracted to these beautiful, beautiful images. That's maybe a topic for a different day. But the heart can be so attracted these beautiful images that it says this thing with their heart, if I can get that person,

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I'll do it. Although they never meet them. It's not possible. But the heart says this. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he says the heart can have this or that for people who are around or people that you will never meet.

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But it's the same thing. It's still the desire is there.

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And there, you will understand the great sacrifice and the great trial of use of Valley center.

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They're, somehow you begin to appreciate, oh, I understand what Allah subhanho wa Taala told us about that story.

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Because you have here, just imagine with you, we have here, a young man, not an old man, you have a young man who was a slave to some of the people own him. Right, they control him, they can do whatever they want to him in a strange land.

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And he's in the house of this rich Aziz and his wife.

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So she's beautiful, she's rich, she has power. And the opportunity comes to him, he doesn't seek it.

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It comes right to him.

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And he will have all of these perks that he complies,

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they will be happy to be happy with him. If you think about money, if you think about facility to be, you know, commander of this and that power, all of that will be his and on top of that punishment if you don't do it.

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Yeah. Punishment, if you don't do it, going to jail if you don't do it.

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So this is not just like the thickness that we may encounter. This is a fitting on top of fitting on top of fitness. And he lost his family and there's no one around him that he can him can complain to, you know, and seek his support, no one to help him. And he's alone, absolutely alone, and to be in jail. And these are not the nice jails that we have today. Even though you have to think of the tools that they had in the past. They throw you there on you forgotten, like a dungeon or something like that, if you like historical stories and whatever, right? You don't have like three meals a day and a lot. I mean, but

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it's a trial. It's a fiction. And yet he said, as a Habu in a I'm in my own and he he says jail is more beloved to me than what they are asking me to do. This is a young man who is saying this.

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He has that desire, he's a human being he has that desire for other females, but not if it angers angers Allah subhana wa Taala this he says, I'll sacrifice my freedom I'll sacrifice my youth I will sacrifice whatever not make Allah subhana wa tada angry. That's the difference between a person

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fears Allah subhana wa tada loves Allah subhanho wa Taala and had cleansed his heart versus a person who has not

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and just hides this desire inside and it's there and it's sitting there. And in flames that desire with what he sees in flames that desire because, see, the more that you see these things, the sicker you become, the more diseased Your heart will be. The more that you listen to these things, the more diseased Your heart will be. The more that you indulgent fantasies and I know that a lot of us actually might be victims of those fantasies. You sit and you start thinking about I can do this with this person this with that person. And before you know it, it takes you to something that is how long that's also another form of disease. And the way to stop it or to control it is that if you

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find that a when you are you are alone. You are

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weekend in front of those fantasies, then don't be alone.

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Because the Satan is closest to you and what neural right there with me so far right that she thought is closest to you when you're alone if you find yourself that if you spend too much time at home too much time alone and you start thinking about these things, then you know that one of the medicine that is going to treat you is not to be alone.

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Deal with family. This yourself with pious friends, good friends, good activities, plan your day, plan your week, plan your month

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don't live don't live in aimless existence, this is what I want to do. And this and this and this

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have good thoughts you know, these depressing thoughts are these whatever thoughts that come into our minds they come because we're not in control, someone else is in control, no, take control of your thoughts of your mind of your heart. And if your life plan something, let me do something for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala find it because the more that you busy yourself and your time with something useful, the less time that you will have for these types of fantasies, right? These haakaa that keep attacking your mind one after the other one after the other and they develop into one sin after the other one sin after the other

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that's how the heart gets cleansed. increasing our imminent loss of handle data and staying away from these that influences

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unless I want to conclude here with a saying from a provider of no Al

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Rahim Allah

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which is always a nice thing just to conclude with he says to lead to Jenna Nabina was the thing. What should he do on top if and motive?

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Wave rahima Omar Mohammed in LA him so that was

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why you Shah was interested in

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why you can even battle Silla, why you buried him corrupt the whole thing.

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He says, You want heaven with the profits and the subtitle.

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This is what you're seeking. This is what you desire.

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What would you do on a different note if you want to stand on the day of judgment in the motive with new Hani Brahim and Mohammed Ali was Salatu was Salam is these are people that you want to be around.

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Right? With the prophets of Allah. With these people. They say bye bye. What action? What did you do?

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The Isha was interrupted, what shallower desire? Did you leave for Allah? zodion?

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Are you Caribbean backto Villa? What near one did you distance yourself from for the sake of Allah? And what distant one did you bring closer to you for the sake of Allah?

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So he's saying here of him, Allah, you know, the emphasis that I want to put, you know, highlight here is, you shall what interact? says what is their desire that you love for the sake of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah meaning that station, that position, that company is not just going to be handed to you.

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Just because you know, you want it, all of us want it. All of us want it.

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You know, you're not, you're not going to be fit in this life just because you want to be fit.

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That'll be easy, you're not going to be thin, that you have to be thin. But I'm just saying that this is something that somebody aspires to, you're not just gonna be thin just because you wish. This life doesn't work like this, right?

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You're not gonna be just smart just because you're born smart. You have to work on that. And he's saying, Rahim, Allah says, You're not going to attain that in the hereafter and he's 100 to 100%. Right? You're not going to get that lofty position to be standing next to the prophets without something that you have done. So tell me, what is it that you have done to deserve that? So what is the shower that you heard right? shower that you had in your heart burning in your heart and you left it for Allah? Zoda? Which one? Or is it drier than whatever you want? You did?

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Now you can always ask for Allah for forgiveness. What is it that whatever I want, I do whatever I want, I do he didn't leave a shower for Allah azza wa jal, then how, by what? Then he says, Why you Caribbean back to feasability law, which near person, something that is close to you, you put a distance between you and it for Allah azza wa jal, this could be a person or a thing or a place that is harmful, and you realize their harm and you distance yourself from them. Why for Allah zildjian and what distant thing or person you brought closer to you for Allah zildjian by accident, they were distant, but by intention, you brought them closer to you because of Allah xojo In other words, what

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is it that you've sacrificed for Allah is evident and then when you see that you've sacrificed something for his sake,

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Then you can aspire and hope that our last panel data will put you with them but wishing without any demonstration, and any proof. What is the merchandise of the lazy, who want to say I want to be rich, but they sit in their home,

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I am going to trade and I'm going to earn 1000s and millions of dollars and days pass and they do none of that. So these are just wishes the wishes of the lazy.

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And this agenda is not a merchandise for the lazy, right? It's very expensive as the profits of a law audience in themselves. And in Seattle, La Jolla, the merchandise of a loss of panel data is expensive. The merchandise of Allah is general. So if it is something expensive after pay, and you have to pay for it, and one of the things that we want to emphasize today is that leaving your shower leaving your desire, even though it's very attractive, but if you know that Allah subhanho wa Taala hates it, leaving it for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala and knowing with no doubt in your heart and in my heart that there is satisfaction in the HANA. There is satisfaction in Allah, we

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just need to seek it and the problem is that we don't seek it and the shaitaan beautifies Haram in our eyes. So inshallah later in another Hadith inshallah, we will continue talking about this type of shower and how to satisfy our need and the relationship that this has to our heart. But remember Baraka lo fi calm that as I said, there is this disease in the heart and that disease is the disease of the shower. And as long as we are living, we have to try to cleanse our hearts from it so that we will have this sound comfortable, serene and peaceful heart.

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I think inshallah we'll stop here give you time to prepare yourself for Asia. There are any questions between now and Asia inshallah I'm here so I can answer them, but otherwise just a mohila for listening and attending. So panic along where we have the cachito Allah Allah Hi, Rocco.