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In the handling, learn, don't wanna stay no one has to fill one out Avila Himanshu Liang fujinami Medina Maja de la Vela mobile Allah

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Allah wa shadow Allah illallah wa hula sharika wash. Mohammed Abu ora Zulu Nasha Rasul Allah and Nakata data Amana Baba la Teresa Manasa Luma waka Shiva la viga Luma

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been such as Akela Rama jazza and Avi nanometric. What also an aerosol at my back. Yeah you hola Dena mano de la Hakata Kati Morton

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to Muslim on. Yeah, you Hannah suta hora Bakula de hakomi nopsema de bajo la comida Xhosa. wahba thermen humare Jalan get the wrong one is

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what's up la la de de Luna be here

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in Allah and Allah Kumara Eva, yo, yo holla Deena moto taco la kulu Colin serie de la ku American oil here la khumba Nova calm when you play our solo

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on alima that

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allows hi now gela Viola had told us that we will be tested the fittest our abundance in the during the times of the tests and trials, as the darkens thickens as the clouds hover over you with despair as the hope of the doors that actually shut the only door that opens the door of Allah Subhana Allah Viola there is a need of a cave for you to go to and a beacon of light that will show you the way and it has to be the Quran and Sunnah. Allah subhana wa Jalla Viola says, and if mean, has given us, you truck waiuku Mandela home la afternoon. Do people think that they will be left to say I believe without the being tested? The long list of tests are there. However today we're just gonna

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concentrate on one. Indeed that is sufficient for us to know the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says gafa Bill Murray If man or yoga

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or your own another division, it is sufficient of us in the we lead astray our children, we lose them in that matter. So we'll find out that the first half the first whites of your children, believe it or not, is choosing the righteous spouse.

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Who How

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have you seen those who follow their own whims and desires to be their God? In that way? What do you follow your own whims and desires pertaining to that topic? Do you follow your own whims and desires to follow culture before religion? Do you please creation before the creator based on what you said? Yes.

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Based on what you said yes. To your spouse, how did you really raise your children? In what way do you actually live here in the Western society having the audacity to say to your children, I brought you here for a better life. And knowing very well that allows hi now john LaViolette says while fitna shed luminol cotton,

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the fitna of losing your children, meaning what you bring him to the west with having no two valuable things that I will tell you about food and jello, and not giving him the fuel and ammunition and the envelope protection in order for you to release them to the society. They did not ask you to bring him here nor that they asked you to let them go. So are you $1 sign that are you a career woman?

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We will address these issues inshallah, by the end of the hotbar. Hopefully, you'll have some guideline to read act, but the best of it is to proact and that's the reason we do this. So let's find out what allows with high Nigella viola, meaning this fitna, if you bring him here and having the fuel and the protection that isn't itself, let them go is worse than killing them. Because it Nakayama amatola la he says there are two types of fitna especially for your children,

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especially for you having to choose.

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He says Allah subhanho wa Taala produce to fit in the major ones in one ayah in Surah Toba 69

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but he gave you the answer

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So let's find out what they are and how we're doing.

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First allows them hi now gela Viola is talking about nation before and how we imitate them in every aspect like Prophet Mohammed Salah Salem that allows it, he said lamb Toki noon Misha de tocqueville again, he says that a Lana sortied the certitude that you will follow them. It says, what about the fact that on holiday?

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We're hooked on calorie hobo

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ruminations before they follow their own whims and desires, that's what we mean. Have you not seen those who follow their own whims and desires to be their gods with a small g

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because you understand as a Muslim when you see a llama, you have Allah and Al Bara in that statement, meaning the compromisable and the uncompromisable. net.

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You declare a duck Leah and Dahlia

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meaning the purification and the beautification within the segment of La ilaha illa Allah.

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Let me explain.

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When you say that, it's like a stain you have in your shirts, you cannot simply put up review on the spot and wear it, you have to wash

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you wash that stain first, then you put the perfume on.

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So when you say that, I bear witness, there is no deity period.

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So you're watching anything that belong, that you belong to anybody that used to be worshipped or was worship now or will be in the future.

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Allah is does not accept that certification. Now. You are innocent of anything that you follow your whims and desires.

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In lava lamp, Huck in lava, no deity deserving to be worshipped except Allah. So let us submit because your whims and desires will let you find out what kind of girl you're going to marry, or what kind of boy you go to. Because he brought me this ring, or he drove in with a Mercedes Benz

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or his hair flying in the air as he comes walking the white horse. We've been watching this bollywood movies for a long time we're good. We're good the Quran and Sunnah.

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And indeed, that's where we are.

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So we pay the price, it is sufficient for us would like to have grown men and women crying into our offices for over 20 years of counseling, same record, same thing, we followed our own whims and desires with staying away from quietness and we pay the price our children pay the price, the progeny actually becomes a plea against us, not for us, even though allows have an agenda that says we're caught the Boolean false ego, proceed for myself, even though the hurry which means your children that he says if the human being is unnatural inside, if you died, three things are actually cut off except of three. If you listen to them carefully, you'll find it to be a children. How do

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you have a home sweet home not knowing all the aspects of it.

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So that Sara kajaria, beneficial knowledge righteous child, I will make a draft for you is all embodied in that context of your home. Because he says the best money is spent is for your family. That's your sadaqa jariya

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best money is spent for your family

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knowledge which he cheats you teach your children are you ongoing? Every time you teach him something or your family, they will do it they will get it till progeny till Judgment Day. And the righteous doubt How will the child know even those Hadees exists if they don't teach him?

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So when we think about it, you'll find out that the two fitness are in the plan as whatever. They follow their own whims and desires fed back to hell AFRICOM and then you follow your own whims and desires? You know the word Alaskan Arabic means Allah is Metatron did the Sharia mfu them with dunya is like very short.

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pleasure in the dunya let's go Hello.

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So Allah subhanaw taala told us that they will follow their heart up they will follow those lenses but we live here in Canada now. I'm Canadian man I imitate.

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I follow when prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says lacuna hadoken Emma. Do not be a follower.

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He said but what he knew and full circle be steadfast, hold on.

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So he says we're hooked on kelebihan unhealthful buttons, you followed falsehood.

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So he says, I'll holla displeasure is called a shadow at your whims and desires your pleasure of life. It says well hold, you know following falsehood, he says, As shubo hat, which means your doubts and desires the Double D.

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So if you follow your own whims and desires, you falling into the trap of what you desire. That's the first shuba first destined trial. And if you follow an ambiguity, meaning you don't even know your own religion,

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you have no answers for them, you're easy prey, you're on their turf, you don't even know the ABCs of Islam, because we as parents are too busy. With what with $1 sign, that's your Illa

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Illa. So we call that $1 sign that, I don't know you, my son, I don't know you, my daughter. My job is to bring the food on the table, roof over the head and clothes on your back. I don't know your favorite color. I don't know what your aspirations are. I don't know who you want to get married to. I don't know your favorite sports. I have no idea about you. But your name is so and so. Your number 123 your ABC.

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So your children see you as $1 sign.

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They need you as long as you do what you do.

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But when they grow up, you're not there for them when you're young. They're not going to be for you. They're when you're old. So when they make their own money, that dollar sign is gone. You don't need you anymore. So you're gone that thank you so much for nothing.

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A career Mom, I've seen this with my own eyes will lie.

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Daughter cries when her mother's coming to pick her up from the daycare provider. You know why? Because she thinks that that daycare provider is her real mother. Because the mother wakes up in the morning drops her off. She spends the whole day with a daycare provider. She comes after a career. She comes in to pick up the data, the data cries you take me away from my real mom.

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We're not saying don't work on it. We're not saying it's hard. It's hard and as long as it pertains to Sharia, that's all it is not our topic. We're not going to get into it. But I'm sure you understand what I'm saying.

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Now, how do you make your decision at the end of it?

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Let us go through quickly inshallah. But before that there will be a second half. Let me give you the answer for the Jews.

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In the Korean Rahmatullah is a Shahada which is your whims and desires because you follow them you What do you want for a girl 3624 36 sold?

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I'm down. I'm talking the youth language because I'm trying to save the ones that are not there yet.

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We're not seeing the ones who are married are doomed allow Allah Hey, we have a game plan for you do, but it takes two days to explain.

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But being proactive is the best approach.

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So let's find out. So he says the Shahada whims and desires are contained with the other two let's find out what the other two is. Allah subhana wa Jalla. Viola gave you the answer for the two ensuited

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where it says what jalna mean whom a mateja Do not be a marina, Lana suburu Waka nuvia Tina up noon.

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Since we made them to be leaders to invite others in our path in our way when they watch the first condition llama Subaru when they were patients. So he says that is the cure for the first one which is shallotte meaning your whims and desires. This one is the holep sobre patience is the cure for the HELOC which is your whims and desires. He says what can you be it now you can own and they had certainty they had knowledge about if more gives up knowledge of the deen. He says that is the cure for number two is that for the hook them meaning followed falsehood.

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So he said, the patience or the cure for the Shahada whims and desires. That's the first view for the first.

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The second D your doubts, he says you have to have knowledge, acquire knowledge in order for you to be able to protect yourself. He says the second one is worse. Because he says the first one you can repent, you get older, you get married, you get over that. You don't do barhopping anymore.

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You don't paint the town reds. You don't have to follow your whims and desires. After a while you will subside. But the second one he said what he says my Allah

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Have

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your doubts about your own Dean, the end of that or the result or the consequences of this illness? He says you will either be a hypocrite or a disbeliever I don't have enough time to go into the fitness itself.

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He says that's worse.

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So we have the two keywords and we don't have enough time. On second part we'll talk to you about how to be proactive. May Allah Subhana Allah protect us from the fitten mavala button and make our home home sweet home and protect our children. Meanwhile, our handler blumen a comatose amount of stuff roll up is the flu firehose and Mr. Fairey

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Alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salam O Allah Milena via the AMA that

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my dear brothers and sisters in Islam,

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the topic is how to make your home home sweet home. So we say being proactive is the best of all.

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Let us find out now about the four by four quickly.

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Since we know the scholars tell you the first half first right for your children is to choose your righteous spouse.

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But usually when I asked the brother Effie, why did you say yes, this girl, my mom told me that I married this girl you're out of the inheritance. Otherwise we'll kick you out of the house. We were lucky we get this. You think I'm joking. So Pamela, I know you're laughing. But that's the fact my brother.

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Our tradition is too strong. It's against our religion. And I'll tell you the reason why I said that. Don't raise your hand. Don't even think about it. But the fact is, some of us pay dowry To whom? supposed to be a Steena daraja sister, according Aquinas, there are no differences among the scholars. But do we still get the diary from the sister to the brother? Well, I heard one brother tell me I can't afford to marry my daughter off as Excuse me, what do you say? I can't afford to marry my daughter says What do you mean? So I don't have money? I go,

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you're Muslim? And he

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says, Have you not heard what the Quran isn't to say that the money is supposed to be come from the man. Why are

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you supposed to this? And then Allah Subhana Allah Allah, Allah says, Allah He You are a rank above them. Why Bhima and Falco, you're supposed to spend

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and I still get the complaints about the sisters. My husband is asking me and forced me to work so I can spend you didn't give me enough money for the dowry. I said la woof ronak

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so we go against the Quran and Sunnah and we expect their homes to be home sweet home. How?

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So let us go back to who we are. Is that too much to ask?

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Are you going to stand in front of Allah Subhana Allah says I'm from Egypt. I'm from Pakistan. I'm from India and Burma, Lebanon. Are you going to say I'm a Muslim? Prove it submit Did you know I didn't submit your law?

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I did not submit your William Allah. I can get I caved in. Because the pressure of people what do we always say? What will people say? What will people think?

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Have we thought about what Allah Subhana Allah will say?

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What we will do when we meet Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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will he tell us Almighty Almighty my own man my own ma? Or will he say so? cancer can lemon back dalawa Yarrow Get away from me for sake I know you're not you're not from my alma lemon bed della those who change exchanged

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just one out in a few minutes that we have before you come to our offices and cry.

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Let's talk the sisters first. There are two things that allow somehow now gela Viola mentioned in the Quran and there are two things that allowed the Prophet Mohammed Salah Salem international and the Rhine by the way they make it easy for you. So Allah Subhana Allah Allah told you of the

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Yeah, but it's the agenda in the Hydra minister jokes alquila mean?

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Oh, my father hire him alluding to musala is

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the best of those who you hire is

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kawi strong. According to Atari Rahmatullah Lee strong Eman. According to leader scholars, this is Colleen everything meaning the aspect of intellect, the dean religion, background and finance, strength of academic strength of physical and every aspect of his personality is strong in every aspect. And I mean, I don't mean to look for a brother cold. I mean, a near good. I mean of the I mean, you trusting him with your life. You know what that's supposed to mean? That he is

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You play hooky before you meet your your future. father in law are you I mean, oh baby I love you so much we know what you're talking about. I my intention is clear Honey, I want to marry you. But first I gotta do blah blah blah.

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Is he I mean of the one law he's not I mean

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we don't have this Rapunzel throw down your hair theory. No. You go through the door. You don't go around. So if a play ever brother wants to play hooky with you if he tries mouth right away because he falls off the condition he's not I mean is not trustworthy. What is your trustworthy? What are you supposed to do? Believe it or not, it starts with the sooner how you start your life. You pray to record.

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You know why you pray to record when you're alone with your wife, the first thing you do is because of that you establish the word Allahu Akbar. You understand? The sister will not follow you unless you say Allahu Akbar. She won't go on Roku unless you say Allahu Akbar. She won't start the prayer unless you say Allahu Akbar. What does algemene Allah is greater than what everything and that's what I mean by the obedience to Him his obedience of Allah and His Messenger in every aspect of Allahu Akbar. God is greater. That's what I meant by creator comes before creation.

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Religion comes before tradition.

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So you're a man that you're supposed to take your wife away from the Hellfire and into Jana. But are you among the brothers is to shorten your dress a little bit? tighten them more Shula? This is not yesterday, it's an option.

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So the understand of the there's a lot more but karoui as I mentioned, I mean it's supposed to be

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now the other one the two and the sooner is hailakandi so it's Ryan's I mean Hello candy just in case you want to memorize them. holacracy nara moral conduct You know why? Because the bottom line of your rabada

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is you do your homework you'll find out that Allah Subhana Allah do a couple very bad luck. If you look into the Quran, you will see that

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you will see the fruit of their event that you act of worship as your flock. Your moral conduct your behavior. That's why he told you that the best of you men who did he mentioned one ibadah I will challenge anyone to give me that Hadees as a matter of fact, he says the best of you man, the best his wife, you would expect you would expect to say the best of you man. That's a woman kawamata Tina Fey the one that prays during that night and fast unity gives his money away and all of that not one single event that was mentioned. He simply said the best of you man the best his wife. Why? Because she knows you she knows your true colors. She shares the good the bad and ugly.

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She shares this often the tears the laughter the sorrows, she sees your morning noon or night she knows your secrets, your intimate secrets. No one knows you more than your wife. So he says the best of you man the best his wife because you come to this nice Did you act like alibaug but at home you act like a Buddha

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who knows your true colors your wife? So if you want to know who you are, listen to the pseudo la sala select the best of you men the best is wife. So it says the laugh is that that the bad?

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The Aflac is the fruit of the bad so he mentioned that in that case. So this is holyoake normal conduct and the dean the possessor of religion if he hasn't that means it according to one method you cannot even marry anyone that doesn't have the dean

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for you my brother

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Why did you marry the sister?

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My heart is aching my knees are shaking. She doesn't eat bacon is true. I am thinking and that's when I go to university to talk to the youth. I'm telling you man are you are you talking language to see what is the jibberish English? I have no idea. She's like, you need to just give a 9.5 How can I say no to that man? I see your face in the cereal.

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I'm so much in love. My heart is aching do I can feel Sue Sue sister Sue Sue sister, Sue Sue, Sue paronella. So let me give you the four. I'm talking to the youth language. Now. With all due respect to the elder. We're over that now. I'm talking to the ones that I haven't been there yet. Don't be fooled. I'm going to give you a visual so you'll understand what I mean. When prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says to Mr. Ali Akbar, there are four criterias the man or woman should be married for and the brothers memorize the one thing about the Hadees when I asked him, What do you remember about the family? Of course, her beauty. Anything else? You remember? I remember the

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jamiyah. Did I mention that? Yeah. You mentioned that the hair beauty. Okay, that I mentioned. Yes. Yes. That's the only thing you remember.

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But have you heard about the other three?

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About her wealth or beauty? Islam as a practical religion? Yes, we accept.

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And he says your family. And now Dean says fast forward without a dean terabyte jack. The true winning and success is the possessor of religion. Let me give you a visual because the time is up. So you won't forget it. Ever.

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And you won't come back crying

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because you're supposed to be protecting yourself and your lineage. So here's your visual and we'll finish with that in Sharla.

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So when Prophet Mohammed Salim says the true winning and the success with the beauty or the man, or the religion, or the lineage and he says that the dean professor of

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religion

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she doesn't have a religious background at the 30 but your dad meaning your hand will just dust that means you will lose everything. That's what this means. And the positive side that means is prosperity if she does have it.

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Number one is according to Prophet Mohammed Salim is the dean so we'll put that in as number one. She's beautiful. Add another zero. Okay, that's good. She's attend.

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Now she's also rich. That's 100% man. She comes from a good family. She's batting 1000 take away the dean, what do you got? You got three zeros. Enjoy.

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So you understand now that you have to do your homework in order for you to save yourself and save your lineage. May Allah Subhana Allah, Allah make us among those who listen to the speech and follow the rest of it and make your homes a home sweet home. I'll ask Allah Subhana Allah Viola to protect us all from the bitten mother Herman hobbiton. Meanwhile, hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Yamanaka

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de welcome Sala.