The Building Blocks
Channel: Alaa Elsayed
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Madiba, this is in Islam.
Masha Allah, what a beautiful sight.
I love Malaysia By the way, and my daughter says, I want to live here. So let me be one day. I have one word to say to the Malaysian brothers and sisters, Tara McCarthy for having this beautiful country of being these beautiful people. Well, I echo the words of my dear brother, beloved Chitty ahead by him, like I love him for the sake of Allah, what was learned from him, it's a beautiful place to be just behind and I'm honored to be part of this. First anyone shall my conference hopefully will get better from here on in
But again, before the topic, you haven't thanked a lot so you think that people really will love you? Awesome job, great venue. So the volunteers, the people that put this event together, you for coming here.
May Allah subhanaw taala bless everyone that made this event possible. And the scholars of this Malaysian beautiful people will lie, I tip my hat to them to give us an opportunity to build a bridge and to take that helping hand and extend that helping hand for us. I asked Allah subhanaw taala take it purely for a second except from us. I mean, and to make it on the right hand side, on Judgement Day, I mean, except from us and Sharla
topic is building blocks.
In order for us to understand this building block, you have to find out some kind of an engineer, architectural engineer, and you'll usually find it to be an Egyptian brother.
Most of Egyptian so far I found a mentor, where human mind is an engineer, I should have even asked
so let's go to the foundation to build this oma and to build these one brick at a time
to build this beautiful oma thinking about it like prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
prophets and messengers, this beautiful house, it was missing one brick, and I am that beautiful brick that beautified and completed the building.
So let us go to the foundation to build that beautiful building of the oma of Prophet Mohammed Salah to sell them the Seal of the Prophets and Messengers
one brick at a time one block at a time to get to the top topic in the front of all nations like shake your head Rahim does Allah Allah eloquently explained why we were the best of nations and will be inshallah, in this life in the hereafter.
With that intention, let us proceed to build one block at a time, one brick at a time and never look at the mountains. Because the mountains are made of pebbles, one pebble at a time.
The foundation of this nation and that house we're trying to build is a minimal again going back to the same methodology, and the theme of this twins of faith, knowledge and action
LML villa in lacuna, when a mobila ml venal junoon meaning,
action with no knowledge cannot be
and knowledge with no action is insane or insanity.
So, let us first talk about this knowledge, how do we acquire this knowledge in order for us to be the best of building that nation in sha Allah? foundation is a knowledge no doubt. You cannot give anything you cannot have or you do not have sufficient layer. If you don't have it, you cannot give it
I'll prove it to you.
Let us go back to Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam the best of creation our our leader our role model. How did Allah subhana wa Jalla Viola prepared him to be the best to be the leader to be the one that started 1.7 billion Muslims in the world Subhan Allah, one human being to take us to take us to the home to take us to the League of Nations to be the best in the world. How did Allah subhanaw taala to prepare him to be the best? Let us take it one step at a time using for an answer now What else?
First word in the Quran was
recite, read, acquire knowledge.
it's less than for us that we have to acquire knowledge. So May Allah subhanaw taala bless you brothers and sisters for taking that step to come here. Well luckily there are angels around
As we speak,
asking Allah subhanaw taala to forgive you.
To grant you repentance to have mercy upon you. Say I mean
first word, recite, read acquire knowledge.
Camila Illa illa karela get up at night so you pray except a little.
What does that mean? Where's the link correlation knowledge?
Second, put that knowledge to action. The scholar says fail. It's a common verb
Camila Illa Illa Kalia, where's the link? The link is very simple. walk the talk.
You cannot be a hypocrite. Don't be like the people who say do as they say don't do as they do. Later the yarlung come Allah Allah, they're not the same. Those who know and don't know. Gabor ma De La Paloma de Lune it's a grave sin in the sight of Allah.
It's an action acquires who deserves the anger of Allah, the wrath level law, the law, the anger of a law and the law alone, that you say that you not do? hypocrisy. It's among those who actually will anger allow from Hannah Montana when he had to be led some other wrath. Meola keep that away from us?
Those who actually enjoying good and don't do it and forbid evil and do it? What do you mean?
So what the * link? Put the words into action?
get up and warn people Why? You're ready. Now. you're prepared, you're equipped. You have the knowledge, you practice what you preach? You're ready you're deserving to be. So what am I talking to? I'm talking to parents? How could it be possible to make the best or the most important decision in your life? Meaning married and having children without even knowledge? How could it be possible
to be in charge of a human being
that can make it or break it for us?
building this nation one brick at a time one block at a time without even having the knowledge of the ABCs what marriage is all about? What are the rights and duties? What about my children? How do I raise them? What are the environment? What about the company? What are the possibilities what is number one on their list? We will talk about that inshallah, as you heard in full in details next weekend, the Home sweet home and Sharla with a cocoa I asked Allah subhanaw taala to make a purely for a sake and except from a solar heat is sufficient for this poor sleep of Allah, once they receive a phone call or email says that you changed my life, my family is now much better my parents
are this or my children or that my wife or my husband will lie that is sufficient for this forced leave of Allah as a reward.
So if he had nothing in this land,
before you drive a car, what do you have to do?
You get a little booklet that you have to study, learn the rules and regulations, the advocates, what are the sign mean?
In order for you to get to the road test.
And then once you get into the road test, somebody will actually feel your passion you're ready to go, they will give you a little piece of paper says that this person is now equipped and prepared to drive or be behind the wheel for this vehicle. So you take a course to learn French you take a course to learn whatever you take a course to do anything else, but you do not want to take a course in order for you to be a responsible human being for a family that you will be led by you imagine level law Hey, I will come meet the local McDonald's out on Judgement Day. I've done my homework on love. I want to build this nation one block at a time but with knowledge and action I have to
acquire it in order for me to give it
a plea for you not against you. Put you to lock Allah Alec
was a little bigger for spirit
and be patient unto the Lord. Because difficulties will come no doubt in this path. You will have difficulties There is no doubt my brothers and sisters, but once you have that solid foundation of knowledge and you put it into action, and you lead by example you walk the talk you're ready you're equipped difficulties will be easy.
Who can tell me what's number one on the list of the rights of your children? I don't have candy with me. I usually carry candy just in case you answer a question. I'll give you something. But in this case due to budget cuts were poor but proud people.
We don't have candy for you, but I'll give you an extra large Thank you or just like a locator. Hopefully that will work. And by the way, I'd like to see more brothers on this marriage thing, man I'm gonna be out number Dude, I need some help. I just got a really well like, Come on man.
And I get the brothers all the time. I want to get married. Okay.
What am I holding you back?
What do you mean? Like you need my permission? Please, go ahead, get married. You are now ready to get what what are you talking about? As a matter of fact, actually another city another country we had we had a course this course that we're teaching and shall on the weekend Home sweet home as the criterias in order for you to get married,
get together with them, and says you know what, we have too many too many problems. So we're doing what we're like putting the fire out. So let's be proactive, not reactive. Let's start teaching people how to become the best. So nobody among the machines will get anybody a Licensed Marriage License unless they actually know that you've been through this thing and haven't done
so foundation bricks. Number one writes for your children before they're even born. Can somebody help me out? What is that at the end of the
Allahu Akbar you've been reading very good me doing homework Michelle. laughing so you married sisters we got a good guy right here. He's ready. Mashallah. Not sure. 100% halal meat hamdulillah
Good for you, man.
Number one on the list. According to scholars in order for you to actually give the rights of your children before they're born is what choosing the right spouse, meaning brothers and sisters for the brother to choose the righteous wife and for the sister to choose to use that to choose the righteous husband job number one.
Let's go through that quickly inshallah we're building. So we need to get that
blueprint out. We need to get this infrastructure off on the found sound location foundation. Absolutely.
We'll go through the criteria as quickly inshallah we'll talk about in details in that marriage corner and also now and of course inshallah
I'll talk to you first.
No, ladies first I'll take that back sisters.
So what are you looking for?
You're looking for this handsome guy with hair that you know flies in the air. Right? And the packs are moving slow motion as he comes to you on a white horse
with a six pack Masha, Allah the guys where's the beach?
and of course he comes with a flower in his teeth and a pack of chocolate.
Flowers and poetry on the other side.
Of course Mashallah. So if you're waiting for these guys to you've been waiting for waiting for a long time. He's not around. You can see him in some kind of either dreams or fictional movies are this Harlequin guy called Fabio I believe
on the cover letter.
How about this? Let's go to the point and sooner. I'll give you the foreign for again we'll talk about the details inshallah later on. For for your T and for who you brother. I learned from him adding it to the plan during the Sanofi
Musa alayhis salam
when he met the daughters of stripe, and you did the right thing he dealt like him was a man, a righteous man. So she went back to her father Yaqoob and a Salam.
And shrine, I take you back to Dr. Ali Salam.
She went to him. He says yeah, buddy sturgeon in the Hydra minister George alto de el Amin. Two criterias first two criteria is for you to look for a husband
strong and trustworthy police. I mean, doesn't mean that he benches 300 like you know, he's got one brother on the side. One brother on the other side is Is anybody can block the guy. I'm not that guy. I don't mean that.
A man strong What? strong faith, belief. And of course, some other scholar says clean everything strong and everything, meaning financial, physical, mental, and so on. Not mental. I mean, the guy's intellectual.
Because if you marry a mentor, it's bad news.
I mean, I mean, this is trustworthy. Does he want to take you with him to generosity or is he leading you back away from gender
mean, you're in a manner you trust now? Your father give your hand and marriage to him passing on with one handshake to the other says now it's a transfer of what? You are now in charge. I mean,
The singer, Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, while elbaite a lot harder to marry
What did he say? injera? komentar Donna de novo vanco
if a person comes to ask for your daughter's hand in marriage that has two criterias What is it? Swiss bank account private jet
No, you're right.
It was what? religious background to
moral conduct again, I don't have enough time to go into details only a 14 minutes left with you.
We'll talk about the details on Sharla later
but it wasn't anything else. So Pamela amazing.
So once you have that, okay.
My brother from another mother.
When you look for a sister from another mister
What are you looking for man? I get this whole time my man want to get married
marry good single bad. Me went to eat food. Good luck. aloka
maka maka something I'm sorry. I'm gonna have to punch up on my my family.
So okay, what do you want man?
Oh, I want her to be tall white and beautiful. Blue Eyes blonde hair green forehead pink. Pinky red. Not Not what what do you want 136 46 I want this to be I want everything. I want to be this I want it to be that
in the long list right? long list of things. And he says well let me find this woman will do what?
We will make her Amina momineen Lee Toma Mashallah.
In other words he got
he looks like this.
You want everything so panela
Let's go to Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Cartier is again,
what did you say? Don't get hung up on the four criteria to look for in a woman in order for you to read
jamiyah beauty nobody will take that away from you. Again, we won't go into details
here or wealth. Very good Masha Allah May Allah bless you for that.
It helps Khadija rajala Anna one of our mottos may help Prophet Mohammed Salah no have no problems.
lineage environment that she's in how she was raised up beautiful. So good thing, solid foundation again. And then
remember the dean
because Prophet Mohammed loves it was 130. But God forbid as a dean,
the true success and winning with the owner of religion, background or religion, otherwise your hand will touch dust, or
terracotta that meaning and humility. different durations meaning in the positive and negative teddy bear attack. If you get that one in a positive way and religious backgrounds, I mean, you will prosper. If he doesn't have the background, he will lose everything the religious background, that's what it means.
Of course, there's much more to share.
You got the foundations and hamdulillah. Let's build up.
How do you raise these children that he and of course, get a 46 large screen, watch these videos, you babysit them with? Whatever, Honey, let's go now ditch the kids and go let's have some private time together. Yeah, we'll talk about the myopically. We will talk about how the split your time how to look after every aspect in your life later and trauma, but at this point, actually building this nation. Can I ask you one question? rhetorical question that is but at least be honest with yourself.
will you child or even yourself leave behind?
What reputation do your kids have or even yourself?
What will you be known for after you pass on?
a righteous person raised righteous children
or the other way around?
How do you raise them? What did he hear? What did he see?
How they talk, how they walk, how they eat what they did rest like who
To the imitate. What did the hum I actually see that as a measuring stick and I'll tell you why. Because what you hear subconsciously is storing information for three to four days by the way.
So you hear something
hallelujah snap is halala
drumbeat fine. But whatever you hear all this music all these songs and I killed your mother, I read your sister bah bah, bah, boom.
The guy's funky going over
So your child now walks around the house humming something I want you to hear what is harming or what is harming. If you hear humming
and the hat is on the side and the pink in the bling hanging down and everything is wrong. You get something wrong with light and if your child is humming, the opposite a movie
is said hamdulillah Allah de Minamata masala had praises due to Allah Subhana Allah Viola that but his blessings the righteous either established or accomplished. So listen to what your child hums Be careful who they have a friends or Aviv renew written them off doesn't matter. You know what? I put in Islamic schools? I do this part time thing, or put them in this environment? I've done a lot more than that. A lot more than that? How do you talk to them as he is in a positive way or a negative way? Are you building a nation builder? And they should maker or a nation breaker?
Have you given them the tools to be independent, as the independent or dependent without you or their sink? Or they're going to be the leader that they are lead by OSHA by example. They're well equipped, it doesn't matter what environment they're in, they will excel because they're independent, you've given them the tools already to be number one on the list no matter what they do.
How do you talk to them? You're a loser. I wish I never had you.
I wish you were more like this person, or that person. So Panama.
Imagine my brothers and sisters, the words that hurt is much more than the physical beating will lie, you can actually get I'm not asking you to do that. I'm just asking you to do something to be careful what you say to your children, because you are a super person in front of them. You are like Superman.
In order for you to understand this, you are the world to them as they see you as your child. You see this big, big great guy or big woman?
I mean that with all due respect. I mean, they get heart size.
You have to be politically correct here. Very simple words here.
So what did he do? They say it must be true. I'm a loser.
Because who you think who you are, who you're told who you are.
So what do your kids hear from you, dad? Or mom? You're their hero. So their hero saying you're a loser. I wish I never had you. You're this you're stupid. you're you're you're negative negative things in here. They listen, they act like it. Why? Because they heard it from you so many times it must be true.
Or is it you know, you're bright enough to do this? I can count on you on that? Do you delegate responsibilities to your children? Do you give them the responsibility? Do you give them the tools and I'll give you the example in Sharla.
Have you not heard of the elephant theory.
The elephant when they're young, they're still young, it's not as strong. They put an iron cast on their leg and the put it firmly in the ground, no matter how much they try, they will not be able to move around, and they can't get out of it.
So when the elephant tries over and over and over again, you know, it's it's in vain.
It's hopeless. So they give up and then try again, ever. That's it. So when they grew up, they're big and strong. They put that gas on their leg, they don't move, they already know, subconsciously they have a mental block that they will not be able to beat this thing. So they give up they submit they give up? Is that what you want your child to be?
walk next to the wall. Don't say you're not allowed to speak unless they give you this you have no opinion here.
You're only a child that
you bring him up, put him down.
You give him the tool you give him that hope you give him that title.
Make sure that you give him that and given that hope and give the tools in support.
Be a part of the solution for the problem. You probably
don't give up on it now. You gotta be there with you every step of the way.
But you think about that
you get the reverse
I want to raise him up to be
a true fighter. carriage strong, strong man.
compelled to what we have now.
Your son holds a knife
and a fork on the ship given this plastic thing tying tying the fine cannons of course the three no no let me come with you do something quite but put him on a leash
How are you gonna do that? No, you make him sure that he takes care of his delegated responsibilities individually? Yes independent. So what did he do grow up to be as a matter of fact he was known to actually penetrate the army the whole army on his own he trained his horse to have his four legs open wide his head would be there he would actually hang on to him upside down grab onto his belly penetrate that's his son by the way Abdullah
but you'll know how much pain
his father had two swords he would fight with both penetrate the army line Go to the back and come back again yeah Allah subhanho the Rio Bhagwan but this is the lineage one from another pass it on. These are the traits so what are you known for?
And that's how they were raised on so many other stories.
So remember at the end of the before you say something your child
you can't help don't hurt
you need to raise a nation builder a nation maker not a nation breaker.
How was it raised when I talk to a sister
when they come and complain about the
child they're losing my child
My son is going there My daughter is going there as an okie How were they raised?
So you why
because Prophet Mohammed Salah Salaam taught us that
Moodle Allah, Allah to command your children to pray at seven discipline at 10
When is the pin actually writing the actions and deeds seven or 10 know when you reach the age of puberty or 15 depending on other Hadeeth
but he's trying to teach you to be gradual.
gradual your children
to teach them early becomes the norm
the friends they have
the company they have what kind of company do they have? They're the ones that actually come and remind you let's go to pray. Or let's go to massage it is good the halaqa let's come to the conference let's go to the course or the ones that take you where let's go to bars man is to some bar hopping check out the beads and all that stuff which one so Pamela RG
and of course, I will finish off with the three criterias because only have just under two minutes left. Three criterias for a friend that you should look for for your child.
Because Prophet Mohammed Salah Sallam said, Mr.
Mahajan, you are in the way of your comrade so be careful who you have as a friend. You have no choice of your family.
But you certainly have a choice of who your friends are. Tell me who you are. Tell me who your friends are. I'll tell you who you are simply for the fact that psychologists will tell you when you say to someone I like you that means I am like you
three criterias Don't forget them.
First thing either I tell
you, if you see them, they remind you of a law. You have a great athlete. You see whether he says
great athletes number one number two delicado law Hello guys
the way they live their whole life they don't just have a lifestyle they have a life according appointments in everything they do the way they talk the dress the hold the shoes of the left the older client with the right and so on.
Number three is that
ago when they speak to you You're mad increases your belief increases. They remind you about what this life means. What What do you after means what heaven hell, mercy
Punishment so on It reminds you of the hereafter as if you live in it. These are the few criterias Don't ever forget it. I'm finishing off with one line I started with earlier. Remember who you are.
You are true Muslim, you are a building, Nara destroyer. So you are going to be inshallah learning how to raise this nation back up again. To be a nation maker, not a nation breaker. Welcome hamdulillah alameen wa Salatu was
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.