Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage #07

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And before the prep for Ramadan. Okay. Maybe

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like a 10 days or 14 days before

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Ramadan. Usually everything in the center turns into

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a Ramadan prep and then

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we go into Ramadan and then we come

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out on the other side.

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But before that, I was talking about marriage

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and I narrate maybe 6 or 7 hadith.

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I'm not sure, something like that. And I

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have I had, like, at least another 10

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that I want to narrate. I'm gonna do

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that for you and then we'll move on

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to another topic. So this is just a

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continuation of a topic that I already started

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that I want to kind of, conclude in

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terms of the hadith that I want to

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narrate to you. So

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tonight,

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with a reasonable chain of narration by our

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mother Aisha

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Where he said,

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That the wife of Uthman Margron, she would

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take care of herself.

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Means she would put perfume, she would, you

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know, kind of take care of

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her her appearance, things that ladies do for

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her husband. And

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she stopped doing that in her life.

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And she entered my house one day and

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I had noticed that she doesn't she's not

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taking care of her appearance as she used

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to.

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And this is just a word that means

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your husband's around or not around. Is he

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traveling or is he here?

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He's here but he's not really here. Like

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he's here but doesn't make it.

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What's wrong?

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Uthman does not want dunya, he doesn't want

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women either.

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And then she left and the Prophet came

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to my house

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and I told him what she had told

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me.

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He heard this, he gets up, he leaves

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the house.

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He said, do you believe in that which

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I believe in?

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Then do like I do.

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Do as I do. If you believe in

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what I believe in, then you do as

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I do. What is this? I don't want

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dunya. I don't want my wife.

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Where did you get that from?

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I don't teach that.

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I didn't teach you that. I didn't teach

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you to get married

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and neglect your wife. I didn't teach you

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to be poor and have no wealth and

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not be able to take care of yourself

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and the people around you. I didn't teach

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that. I taught you differently. So if you

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believe in what I believe in, then you'll

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do as I do.

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This is advice not just for marriage. It's

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advice for everything.

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If you believe in what he believed in,

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then you'll do as he did and you'll

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go and you'll find out what how did

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he do? You go learn and study. What

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did he do?

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Sometimes there's context that needs to be taken

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in consideration when we're studying that, right? We

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have to understand where and when he was

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so that we can draw the parallels appropriately.

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But how did he do? And then we

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do like him alaihis salatu wa sallam. And

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a part of it was marriage. He would

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get married and he would care for his

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wife. He would make her feel special and

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loved, so that she would care for herself.

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This is a part of how he lived

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alaihis salatu wa sallam, his life. This is

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not Zuhud is not here.

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This is not where Zuhud is practiced. Zuhud

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is practiced elsewhere. Zud is in haram. Zud

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is from

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extravagance, not from

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the halal that Allah put there for you.

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The person that has dedicated their life to

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you.

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And it's something worthy of thinking about because

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he took it he took this seriously. He

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left his house going looking for Uthman. He

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didn't say I'll talk to him later. No.

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He went and looked for him.

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And then he used an argument that is

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impossible for you not to understand. Do you

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believe in what I believe in? Yes. Then

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you do as I do because that's not

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how I do.

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This forced Uthman to revisit

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how he was living altogether.

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Who went to the great Sahaba.

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He lost his

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he lost his eye for the sake of

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Allah.

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This is someone who is more dedicated than

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I can ever be, but he needed to

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be reminded that if you want to truly

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be a proper Muslim, then you have to

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live as he lives sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

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which I think is beautiful.