Issues of Marriage #07

And before the prep for Ramadan. Okay. Maybe

like a 10 days or 14 days before

Ramadan. Usually everything in the center turns into

a Ramadan prep and then

we go into Ramadan and then we come

out on the other side.

But before that, I was talking about marriage

and I narrate maybe 6 or 7 hadith.

I'm not sure, something like that. And I

have I had, like, at least another 10

that I want to narrate. I'm gonna do

that for you and then we'll move on

to another topic. So this is just a

continuation of a topic that I already started

that I want to kind of, conclude in

terms of the hadith that I want to

narrate to you. So

tonight,

with a reasonable chain of narration by our

mother Aisha

Where he said,

That the wife of Uthman Margron, she would

take care of herself.

Means she would put perfume, she would, you

know, kind of take care of

her her appearance, things that ladies do for

her husband. And

she stopped doing that in her life.

And she entered my house one day and

I had noticed that she doesn't she's not

taking care of her appearance as she used

to.

And this is just a word that means

your husband's around or not around. Is he

traveling or is he here?

He's here but he's not really here. Like

he's here but doesn't make it.

What's wrong?

Uthman does not want dunya, he doesn't want

women either.

And then she left and the Prophet came

to my house

and I told him what she had told

me.

He heard this, he gets up, he leaves

the house.

He said, do you believe in that which

I believe in?

Then do like I do.

Do as I do. If you believe in

what I believe in, then you do as

I do. What is this? I don't want

dunya. I don't want my wife.

Where did you get that from?

I don't teach that.

I didn't teach you that. I didn't teach

you to get married

and neglect your wife. I didn't teach you

to be poor and have no wealth and

not be able to take care of yourself

and the people around you. I didn't teach

that. I taught you differently. So if you

believe in what I believe in, then you'll

do as I do.

This is advice not just for marriage. It's

advice for everything.

If you believe in what he believed in,

then you'll do as he did and you'll

go and you'll find out what how did

he do? You go learn and study. What

did he do?

Sometimes there's context that needs to be taken

in consideration when we're studying that, right? We

have to understand where and when he was

so that we can draw the parallels appropriately.

But how did he do? And then we

do like him alaihis salatu wa sallam. And

a part of it was marriage. He would

get married and he would care for his

wife. He would make her feel special and

loved, so that she would care for herself.

This is a part of how he lived

alaihis salatu wa sallam, his life. This is

not Zuhud is not here.

This is not where Zuhud is practiced. Zuhud

is practiced elsewhere. Zud is in haram. Zud

is from

extravagance, not from

the halal that Allah put there for you.

The person that has dedicated their life to

you.

And it's something worthy of thinking about because

he took it he took this seriously. He

left his house going looking for Uthman. He

didn't say I'll talk to him later. No.

He went and looked for him.

And then he used an argument that is

impossible for you not to understand. Do you

believe in what I believe in? Yes. Then

you do as I do because that's not

how I do.

This forced Uthman to revisit

how he was living altogether.

Who went to the great Sahaba.

He lost his

he lost his eye for the sake of

Allah.

This is someone who is more dedicated than

I can ever be, but he needed to

be reminded that if you want to truly

be a proper Muslim, then you have to

which I think is beautiful.

which I think is beautiful.