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Within the series of contemporary issues that I began at the beginning of this summer.

Today, I'm going to talk about the issue of

hypersexual exposure

or sexual overexposure that we are suffering from. This is an issue that is relatively new, meaning that if you have a grandfather in his 70s, or 80s, and you ask him how he grew up, and what he was exposed to in his teens and 20s, it is very different than what you're exposed to today. The difference is overwhelming. It's extremely alarming. You have the ability to be exposed to more spec, sexual promiscuity and obscenity within the palm of your hand over the course of 40 minutes than your grandfather had within the course of his lifetime. And there is no way to say it is it is extremely naive and ignorant to think that that does not have an effect on the human psyche. To act

like that is not going to have a significant

factor on the way we understand ourselves, the way we understand our own sexuality and how we understand what it means to be in a relationship, to imagine that that that doesn't have an effect. It's just very simplistic and naive.

The literature is quite clear on a number of issues.

If you go to the American Society of psychology,

or just basic medical journals, you'll find that they're pretty clear on that, on the statistics on the basics, that hypersexual exposure is an issue and then has effect on girls in terms of the anxiety of of their appearances, depression, low self esteem, eating disorders, and has an effect on boys aggressiveness when it comes to sexuality development of fetishes that never existed before a decrease of satisfaction within their relationships and the list goes on and on and on.

Statistically 90% of human beings on the planet consume pornography 90%, you understand what that number is? We have nothing that is remotely close to that 90% of human beings consume it. The median age of when you start consuming it, is 11 is 11 years old, 80% of them actually start consuming it at home

50% 56% of divorces, when you add one of the one of

one of the divorce sees at least one of them talks about a problem with hypersexual exposure during their marriages. And this is just gonna get worse and worse and worse. And I'm only scratching the surface and letting you know the tip of the iceberg. And I don't need to tell you this statistics, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

You know, for sure, clearly when I talk about, and Allah subhanaw taala never told us never commanded us in the Quran and the Sunnah, to do something or not to do something except based on the fact that it was beneficial for us, or harmful. Allah doesn't tell you this is haram just for the fun of it. Hey, you like it is haram, let's see what you'd know, is haram, because it's going to ruin you. It will ruin you on an individual level, it will ruin your society. And if you don't see that, it's just a matter of time, sometimes the effect of our mistakes is not tasted during our lifetime. Sometimes you make mistakes, and it doesn't get to the point where it's bad until a few

generations later when we're at a point of no return. Here's the problem. Some mistakes on problems. Once you reach a certain point, you can't come back from them anymore. Societies specifically have that phenomenon. Where if you ruin the mentality of a community, within a space with any specific domain, you ruin it. Bad enough for long enough at some point, you can't bring them back anymore. You can't fix it anymore. It's too late. There's nothing to do. And for sure what I'm talking about today is one of those issues for sure.

beyond a shadow of a doubt, so when you tell them a subpoena, what's out Tada, this is how to fire a shot is something to stay away from what I thought I was Xena in the hookah fisherton was a subito recent stay as far away as you can from everything that will lead you to Zina. Because indeed in a day for Aisha, and it's a horrible way to live, you know that Allah subhanaw taala is teaching us something important. And when we decided no, no, we're good. We have this under control. We don't we don't. So when he tells us to Pinewood How do you have to take seriously that's why we're talking about this just as a disclaimer at the being of the scope but because you may hear some words that

you're not too happy with. But we're talking about it because Allah subhanaw taala taught us and we didn't learn

and now we're close to a point where we may not be able to fix this anymore. I want to share with you versus and sort of cloud off just to understand

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Instead of mean you don't want to be in your skin anymore. You're being covered but you don't want it you want to go on to take it off and sell a home and you got rid of it. He covered He clothed us upon which I was that which will benefit us but we didn't want it and we followed the shaytaan follow this along and we went in deviation but kinda middle Halloween and hide

Allah subhanaw taala Grant had we accepted his teachings he would have elevated our status with it. But no, we decided to go into the earth.

Holding the mall, malls, they go underground, he decided not to go on Earth's surface they decide to go underground and follow their whims and desires and their example is the example of a dog if you burden it, it pants if you unburden it, it pants

it will continue to pant whether its burden or unburdened. He unburdened us Subhana wa Tada, he unburdened us, he said, Don't do this. This is a burden upon you. This is a disease. You stay away from this filth because it will ruin your life. So we unburdened us but we said no, we want to be burdened.

Very rarely in the Quran does Allah subhanaw taala use examples where he he says humans are similar to animals doesn't happen a lot. So to Juma

material Hema Yamuna was Farah mathematical only a few times. And usually the topic is extremely, extremely serious and very, very scary. As the topic today is, I'm going to talk about it through sharing with you five points. Five Points and shall we won't take too long. I'll share five points. Point number one.

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lowering your gaze is a skill set. It's an act of worship. And it's a habit. Godbold buzzer needs to be taught within our households. Just like you teach Salah and CRM and not to lie and to listen to your parents and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Just like you teach those things you much teach this as well, that shinewing shying away with your gifts lowering your gaze for men and women for boys and girls. Little mini Yahoo minable. Sorry, him. Raja hum, tell them to lower their gaze. And if they are believers, this is what the verse means. And if they are believers, then they will do it. The idea is not saying tell the believers to lower their gaze. That's not what it's saying. A little

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The way they are, the linguistic complex of this verse is saying, Tell the believers and if you tell them the truth of the of the reality that they live, if you told them the will of their Lord, then they will lower their gaze. And if they're not believers, and they won't be meaner to Saudi hidden, no, you're following up or Jehovah until the end of these verses.

You can't teach called the apostle if you don't role model it. Yeah, I know, I'm sorry. You have to role model it. You actually have to practice it yourself. As a father, as a mother, you have to practice it yourself. If you don't practice it, neither will your children. If you don't practice it, neither will your children. Is that clear. They will not practice that which you preach to them and don't practice yourself. You want them to have some degree of it. You want to keep them a little bit away from this problem. Start by teaching them that shot lowering your gaze or shying away with your gaze from haram from fascia is an act of worship is a skill set. You learn to do it at the

beginning. You don't want to do it your career, you're curious, you want to see that curiosity kills you want to see something you learn and this is how it's not for you to look at. There's a lot of things in this world we shouldn't be looking at all of our autonomous cleaning we shouldn't look like and our is not just physical. Maybe there's something inside their home. They don't want us to see maybe they're in a situation where they're very self conscious. It's a social, they're in a sort of public gathering and something's happening. They don't want you to be seeing what's happening because they're yelling at their child or someone's having a hissy fit. Look away. Don't stare, no

shade Dustin aura. If you were in their position, you wouldn't want people staring at you either. Learning to do that muscle is a skill set. You have to develop it over time it has to become a habit. It's an it's a way it's a part of our booty of Allah subhanho wa Taala he commanded us so we say the love Baker Europe sent me I know I thought I know Europe we will we will lower our gaze

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The second point

the consumption of pornography today

is something that statistically is extremely alarming.

And very scary. I am in no way or fashion an expert on this topic. So I don't, if you have an issue, I can't help you with it. But I can point out to you the numbers.

When they talk about 85% of boys between 16 and 17 consume it on a regular basis, when they talk about the fact that a third of consumers of this fat actually are actually women.

This is very serious, and it's very concerning.

And we have to understand, I'm not going to use certain words today on the memo, that the self stimulation and you know what I mean by that I'm not there are kids here, I'm not gonna use certain words, that self stimulation that's affiliated with the consumption of this hypersexual content that exists online, has a real world effects on the ability for people to understand and respect the opposite gender, to see them in the light that Allah Subhanallah created them within, to get married on time and to enjoy their marriage. You see, if someone is consuming this for a very long time, then their brain has been conditioned to see that as pleasure. So when they marry a human being a

flawed normal, regular human being, the brain ask the question, what is this? This is not what I'm used to seeing, because you've been looking at artificially enhanced

milk that is aimed to overstimulate parts of your brain. And misrepresent what reality is. So the young man has to work for years upon years to find the proper

boughs, and they have to put their wealth, and they have to compromise and they have to accept them to work and to stay away from haram for so long. And then they get married, and they're not satisfied within their relationship. And they come to this as now I don't enjoy any of it. What do I do? Well, yeah, sorry about that. Sorry that we decided to ignore that you were consuming something for 25 years, and no one talked about it, I'm sorry. Maybe we should have brought that up. Maybe we should have said that what you're doing is not healthy at all. It's not healthy. And your well being is, is riding on this, your well being is riding on it. It ruins your ability to to understand what

realism is. You don't know what you're actually dealing with. It takes you're overstimulated all the time. So it's hard to stimulate you now. It's hard to get you in a position where you can enjoy your spouse. It's a problem. This is a this is a problem. This industry is filthy, this industry is evil. This industry exploits people's weaknesses and exploits people who are who are poor people who have mental illnesses, people who have nowhere else to go. Imagine, imagine Zina being documented and shared with people.

The issue that is similar to murder, we are taking it packaging it and then sharing it with people that say take a look. It's not enough that you perform fashion No, we're going to turn it into some form of entertainment, which it is not.

There's an industry that takes the amount of money in it is alarming. If you understood how much of the internet is actually just that and how much money is made. And the people who have stocks within this industry, you'll understand why the scientific community doesn't really talk about it too much. Where the scientific community actually does not look into this too often leaves it aside. Some studies are out there saying oh, it's healthy. It's not. It's not healthy. And it's not helpful. And it's not normal, and it needs to stop and it's evil and we have to be the people who reclaim the narrative. We have to that's my third point. We need to reclaim the narrative on this. As Muslims we

have to be the ones who say this is not acceptable. And this is haram and it has to be removed and it cannot be made accessible as easy as it is now to anyone who's carrying a phone or anyone who has access to the internet. That cannot be the case.

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If someone wanted to consume something like that, you'd have to get into a car and drive somewhere to someone's house who would maybe humiliate you before they gave you a magazine of some sorts. It was hard to consume this. So you had to really be someone who

now know, know by accident. Now you're walking down the streets, everything is still sold through sex. Everything is sold through some hypersexual representation of the human body, some objectification of of who we are as people.

And that can't be normal. And that can't be normalized. We have to reclaim the narrative on this issue, we have to point out what is unacceptable, what needs to be dealt with, to protect not only ourselves and our marriages and our institutions, but also our children who are growing up at a time where they are being fed something that they're not remotely ready to deal with.

Brothers and sisters sexuality is an extremely important aspect of the human experience, nothing trumps it aside from food and drink, the only other instinct that you have that is stronger than it is food and drink. And sometimes this is stronger than food and drink.

And you can do whatever you want to be able to just don't starve them. Because once once you start them then things go into havoc. But this issue is no less dangerous. And when we decide they're going to take something so delicate, so specific, so precious, where Allah subhanaw taala built a system for it, and we're just going to do whatever we want. And we're going to just open all closed doors and allow people to consume something that they don't even understand what it's going to do to them. Then we're all at danger of the consequences of cola COLA that was toasted hola howdy, welcome. First of all, we are very Laconia. 1000 mustafina stock federal law.

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the fourth point

Allah subhanaw taala gave us an alternative and give us a solution. It's a way of life is a system unfortunately, we can't perform is we can't take we can't cherry pick from Islam. You can say I like this piece. You keep that one. And that one's nice too. But the rest of it if I took me No, no, the about Leakey, Toby duck food wouldn't be bad. It's not you can't cherry pick here.

Allah subhanaw taala made a number of things haram, a number of things mandatory a number of things MOBA and he made a system for us to live within that system. We are as a community, so a certain degree protected and immune from this filth. But because we have not practiced this appropriately, and because we have kind of ignored things. We are now in a position where it's gonna be hard to salvage certain, certain aspects.

But with his schema, and hijab and HIA. And if we can still fix this is the hijab, the concept of it is that I will dress in a way

where I will only provoke integrity and respect when you look at me, and the sisters will do the same. And that way we can have appropriate professional, respectful relationships. If you ever think about the phrase that they use to describe someone who looks good. I'm not going to use the word on the member because I feel it's a little bit heavy. I'm, I'm I don't think it's appropriate. But you know what I'm talking about? Oh, you look, right. There's a certain term. If I'm listening to this, if I'm dressing respectfully, then the reason I do that is because I want you to respect me. Right? If I'm dressing to look, what do I want? When you look at me? What am I hoping for that you will

look at me and want to have? That's what we're doing? Oh, that will let me shoot on him. Oh, Jim, you're walking down the streets Thruxton away, where you want people to look at you in think he or she are watching that's what you want to have you walking looking at you wanting to have relate. I wasn't gonna but that's what's normal now. Yeah. You want to look? No, you don't know you don't? Why would you? You want everyone to see you and to hope to know, you want people to look at you and see respectful. Someone who has integrity, someone who has self self esteem, someone who represents themselves as you don't want to walk down the street being, but that's what we've normalized. That's

what we've normalized and people are anxious about it. And men think they have to look a certain way. And women which is even more worth they had they think they have to look a certain way and dress a certain way in order for them to be accepted socially when it's not true. This is just the effect of a hyper sexualized community that doesn't know the difference between haram and Khaled anymore. It doesn't know what is pure and what is filthy anymore. It doesn't. We cannot play into that hand. We cannot as Muslims, we can't play into that hand when Allah subhanaw taala gave us an alternative gave us a system that is so beautiful, that is so pure, that is so elevated or else

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Isn't sorted out often we say no, no, we don't.

It's very, very dangerous. And the final piece that I'll share with you today, today's hope and forgive me, this is probably the most difficult topic to address on a member. It's very hard to talk about it. But I know each and every person sitting here knows exactly what I'm trying to say. And knows that this is a problem. And the reason that I'm talking about it is just for you to say, okay, it was talked about on a number, she had gotten a member, and he talked about the issue. I don't claim to know how to fix this, but at least we're pointing it out that it's an issue, or what are you? Or do you want to continue to believe that people achieve sexual maturity at the age of 15, and

somehow, just don't run into this for 20 years. That's what you want to believe? Sure, go ahead. Go ahead, enjoy, enjoy your butterfly world up there in the clouds.

The last point that I have to offer you is seek help. If you have an addiction of some sort. If you're struggling with this issue, and it's weighing on, you seek help, there's a lot of resources that exist in the world today, not, I don't know of Islamic ones. But we don't necessarily need to be in an Islamic way, we just need a resource that will help you rid yourself of a habit that you don't want to have in your life, a habit that's going to harm you, mark my words, this habit harms, I see it all the time. I am not an expert in marriage problems. And I can't fix this problem. But this comes to me whether I like it or not. And I have to at least address it. And it comes to me

more often than I want than I would like to admit that it does.

So if you have a struggle, whether you are not married yet or are married, then my advice to you is to seek help and get rid of it. And make sure that you help your children not fall into this problem. If they have devices available all the time with no supervision, and with no cybersecurity and with no firewalls that at least keep them then this is just a matter of time. It's a matter of time, because it's not just

those who are trying to promote filth that are out there. No, even if you try to watch any form any form of media entertainment, there's always aspects of filth that are being inserted into it.

And anyone who watched it knows what I'm talking about. They insert filth everywhere, it's there because it sells. That's why because it sells because they are they are speaking to the human the basic instincts of the human experience. They're trying, and they know that it works. And they know that it makes money. And as Muslims, we have to be smarter than that. And we have to be and we have to be aware of it, we have to acknowledge it. And we have to take steps to to protect our youth and protect ourselves from this problem. These are the five points I want to share with you.

In no form or manner is this going to fix or solve this problem.

But I want to put it out there as a beginning for people to start talking about this issue. And searching for solutions. There are specialists within our community and outside who know how to deal with these problems, and know how to offer you advice in terms what to do to help your children we have to take more time and talk to them. Our children have to be educated on issues of sexual existence by us, by us not by some other person, would they have to hear from us first, we have to talk to them about these things ourselves. Which means as a parent, you have to be well educated on the topic. You can't just use the terminology or the understanding that your father or your mother

had, which dates back to the 1930s where 100 years ago, it was very different. Very, very different.

Well, I just in the last 15 years, 20 years, things have changed dramatically. Like 2003 It wasn't like this Wallahi it was not. Today things are very different. Which means the burden on you to educate yourself to learn about this to know what to say and how to talk about how to address it and how to help your children through it is there and our massages need to do more about this as well. And that's what I wanted to share with you today. I hope that was a benefit. While I'm on the law. How am I gonna be a millionaire I'll even call in hola hola Mila you gotta who use Aluna Alan B. Yeah, you heard Adina Manuel Salalah he was telling me moved to sliema Allahumma Salli ala Muhammad

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