Channel: Abu Usamah At-Thahabi
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first topic that we're going to deal with, in the three sessions that we're going to put forward in Charlotte General
has been entitled, The basic fifth of marriage,
the basic fifth of marriage, it implies that we're only going to touch the surface, we're not going to deal, dig or deal deeply into the issue because there's a lot to cover when a person wants to get the book of how to get marriage and what marriage is all about
in terms of the importance of marriage in the denormalized region, and that becomes quite apparent and clear and the fact that the nibi use a law while he was setting them has explained to us in a number of authentic hadith like his statement and to zoologia
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Anyone who has actually gotten married, he has completed half of his or her religion. So let them feel as we gel in the other half.
So we understand from that Hadeeth one of the many aspects that indicate and show the importance of marriage in that you will not complete human being until you find your partner or you met your mate, as allies created everything. in pairs. Everything has been created in pairs. So the individual goes through life and he's not married he didn't find his mate, then in the scope of the deen is not necessarily a complete human being.
Abdullah, even at Baskin Robbins, Allah and Houma. He asked one of the students who came to him Did you get married yet? The man said no. He said Hurry up and get married because the best of this oma sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was the one who got married, and he got married a number of times salallahu alayhi wa sallam. His Sunnah, is to get married, and he freed themselves from the individual who intentionally tries not to get married in an attempt to get closer to Ally's agenda. He says a lot. What do you say to them and Reba and suniti felice, I mean, anyone who abandons and avoids getting married, in an attempt to try to get close to a lot. They need is not from me, is not
There are some major scholars in this religion, some major heavyweights, some high power scholars in the past, who didn't get married. Like Shepard slam, it blew Tamia.
Like an Imam, a co op, like a man, and no one we and scholars who even bigger than them, books have been written about those scholars who didn't get married. But if you were to look at the detailed biography and the lives of those scholars, you will find that they were not just ordinary people, they used to spend large amounts of time in prison, large amounts of time in jihad, Fie, sebelah, and so forth, so on.
For one reason or another, they've been married. Our example is the nibio, sallallahu alayhi wa, it was setting them who encouraged the people to get married. And he told us that when he said Little medium comes back, so the lots of light he was sent me while he, he himself is also going to get married, because he didn't marry while he was here. So all of that chosen indicates in terms of the fifth of marriage, that it is extremely important. And it is crucial that the Muslim stands as a religious responsibility to look at this issue in that type of way. You're not a complete individual until you are an individual as completed half of your deen by getting married.
In addition to that, which shows the importance of the issue is the fact that when we talk about the basic fifth, and understanding that we tried to acquire, how to get married, and things like that, what was said and revealed about marriage in the Quran and the Sunnah, what happened in the marriages of the previous prophets and messengers, that people in the Quran, who were married, and so forth and so on, will find that all of the books of all of them without any exception, those books have fit that specific particular method. And every single book or film, there is a chapter of and Mika, and Fiq is getting comprehension, getting comprehension about how to get married, whether
you're getting a fifth book, that's any particular method, that chapter is going to be there. And whether the fifth book that you're dealing with is comprehensive physical, what they call fuckin makara, where they don't they're not too concerned with what the men have been saying, but they just want to show what the strongest opinion is. That's called comparative fifth. In all of those books, there is the issue of getting married. So if it was a waste of time, if it wasn't important, the scholars of Islam, they wouldn't have kind of nice the issue.
Not only the books of Philip, indicate that, but all of the books of Hadith, all of them, all of them. They have the chapter of getting married those books of the sunon the Sahaba, Emmanuel Bukhari and Muslim Abu Doubleday, telemedia and disabled imagine all of those books, the Mahabharata and Mr. Malik the Messiah need, although they don't come, although they don't come in the fifth approach, nonetheless, all of those books, they're going to have in them the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. about the issue of marriage again, what does it show for the person who has bossier off of the person who was using his mind? It goes to show to the student of knowledge to serious Muslim,
that the issue of marriage in getting fit and comprehension in this chapter in this bad, it is serious, it's important in the deen of Allah. So we all understand that comprehend, books are fifth, we're going to talk about it books of Hadith. Also the books of Rp.
The books of arcada, shown the importance of marriage. Many of those books have it that the scholars wrote in the past.
They deal with issues of theology, what the Muslim should believe, about the ciroc Yokoyama about the me zaniolo piano, about the profits, how old are his fountains of a lighting setting them about his intercession, loving the companions, all of those issues. Many of those scholars used to also include in those books of arcada, some fifth issues, issues like believing in stoning issues like what is the ruling of the one who abandoned the salaat issues like wiping over the hoofs, when you make will do wiping over your hopes your socks, leather or other than that, why did why did they put those issues those massage in, in fact, here in the book of al Qaeda, because some groups who when a
strain groups have deviation, they rejected some of these issues. So it shows the importance of getting married. And the DNA of allies or gel, as far as knowledge is concerned, is that the rules are the same. They put in the books of fit, issues concerning marriage, being different from being different.
From the people that Shay your, for an example, who see the permissibility today have moved on marriage. So the scholars will put that issue in those books of Arpita. To say that people of the Sunnah, they don't do Mota marriage. And the reason for that is that it has been established clearly, in the keytab has been established clearly in the suit of the NIMBYs on the light of the center. One of the reasons why I'm mentioning this one is because I was a bit disturbed, taken aback a little bit by some of the comments that I heard from some of the members of our community, Buffalo, local Nana went home, some of the brothers who are saying, why would they name the
conference about love and getting married, there's so many other important issues. Now, there are other important issues. But this issue of marriage is an appropriate issue. And it's an important issue. If you want to prove that you are a person of the sun, and as soon as the title of the conference does not have to be the importance of to hate the UI and Ruby and smell c fat and that's the proof of indication you want and as soon as an animal had its way,
it's not an indication in and of itself. Matter of fact, again, those books that the scholars used to write about the rip them the main hatches, so hey,
they used to put from the descriptions of the people of the Sunnah.
The people of the Sunnah is that they pay attention to getting knowledge, learning knowledge, getting knowledge, knowledge of the Quran, knowledge of reading the Quran and the tipsy of the Quran. And they get knowledge of the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam in getting 15 comprehension about his pseudonym, what he did. So if someone wanted to give a conference like this, and he was about the Miss whack, the person of the Sydney is not going to come and say, Well, what is that about that Miss whack? Why would those marvelous lamb when they talked about a taharah? Why would they put the issue of the Miss whack, and all of the benefits that come as a result of the
Miss whack is that the most important topic under the sun, and top of the earth level, it is not the most important topic, but the Muslim should never have that type of thing in his heart, like the people of innovation, when something of the sun that comes to him big or small, he says Allah Ross will bring it is from animal stuff up Salalah what he was selling them, then I'm down with the program, from the characteristics of the people, the Sunnah, is learning the Dean of Eliza Joe from A to Z, I didn t get started off with the smallest things and gradually going up and up, and so forth and so on. Another thing is in this message right now, whining, there's not a single
individual, except the issue of marriage is important to him. So this is from the Philippines.
This is from the knowledge that people need to know need to understand, not a single person out there, except that marriage is an important and integral part of his or her existence. His mother and his father is married, he wants to get married, she's struggling with the issue of her marriage, and so forth and so on. So let us not be those people who beat the drum very loud, and they use the bullhorn and the microphone, to rely on slogans. To prove that we on the sonet, we have to name the conference. And we have to title it something that proves what a everything from Al Islam, we have to enter into this religion wholeheartedly. So those are many of the issues that show and indicate
the importance or the Amir, and Mika and the Dean of allies region. So when we're talking about the basic fifth of marriage, you should know, there's too much information out there. And as the Navy mentioned, some of the law when he was setting them manually, the law will be hierarchical Diem, if Allah wants good for an individual, He will teach him and give him comprehension of the religion. So now we come to the issue of when we talk about the fifth of marriage, we have to talk about what is marriage, as those scholars put in the books, and myka? What is it? What is the silver and the home of America, with the Muslims and in Islam?
What is it? If you were to ask someone you're about to get married? You say to the brother, what is your understanding of marriage, say to the sister, what is your understanding of marriage? Some people's understanding of marriage is thrown off is warped. And as a result of that the approach to it can be a problem. Many scholars have given definitions for marriage. I don't want to use the comprehensive definition that was given by a chef. I'm a dependency mean, Rahim Allahu taala. And he's one of our contemporary scholars that died a few years ago, who dealt with the issue of Nick on the fifth of may
Many of his books and many of his lessons and many of his advices that he gave to the Ummah, the definition that he gave consists of three components. He mentioned right Mr. Lovell tala scan Allahu taala few jannetty he and once he he said that marriage in Islam is a mutual contract that is conducted between a man and a woman. He didn't say a man and a man. And he didn't say a woman in a moment.
It is a mutual contract again, again, someone wants to get married. What is your understanding of marriage? He says My mind is standing is the man and the man may say, hey, standing is outside of our Deen
that's outside of our Deen and honey, these basic simple, easy to understand points in definition. They help us to be in a position where when crazy people pop up and people are saying weird things is easy for the Muslim not to become Mutasa.
Mutasa is when something happens, you start shaking, you don't know what to do, because you hear things that are weird. You don't give them the time of the day. So he said, Rahim, Allahu Tada, the marriage in Ellis land. It is the mutual mutual agreement. And the contract between a man and a woman, the goal and the object, the objective of which is for each of them to enjoy the other. Number three, and also with the intention of creating between themselves a pious family and a sound society. That's a comprehensive, tidy, fun definition of a nigga.
Again, to repeat, and to reiterate, what is marriage in Islam was the concept of marriage in our Deen, what is it? Because some of the Western countries in America they have something that's called the common law wife, the common law husband may not be married. But if one of the two people die, the other one can inherit from because they live together enough years to constitute where that person can inherit. And our Dean, marriage is the neutral contract agreement between a man and a woman. The goal, and the objective for both of them is that they would enjoy each other. And number three, that they would try to create a pious family and a sound society.
All three of those components, a lot can be said about all three of those components. Marriage is a contract. And love the title commanded throughout the Koran. Yeah, you will live in an awful bill report, take care of all of your contracts, all of them. contract between you and your workplace contract between you and the country you live in contract between you and the non Muslim. And the contract between the man and the woman. That is the most serious contract. In terms of Benny Adam. Property mentioned Salalah, what he was sending them in a shed the shuttle on a common toufool Bihar Mustang to be her alpha Rouge, the most significant and the most important contracts that you have
to live up to and you have to take care of are the contracts that allow the private parts to become halaal. The contracts of marriage. So if the man agrees before the marriage, I'm not going to get married to another woman, while I'm married to you, he has to live up to that. If the man agrees, I will not force you to live with my parents, he has to live up to that. If a man agrees, I will not take you to another city other than the city of your mother and your father. He has to live up to that to the best of his ability, when they make those conditions and one of the two partners put on the paper between themselves these contracts or these agreements, these conditions. It is the most
important conditions and contracts that an individual has to live up to.
And they enjoy one another for the pleasure for the pleasure the man he is getting pleasure from the lady and vice versa. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam mentioned authentic hadith Habiba min dunya come who would be by la armindo Jaco and Nisa what beep what jewelry to sala touro to me.
He said, what has been made pleasing to Me What I enjoy from your dunya you people go overboard in the dunya what I enjoy from your dunya is I enjoy the women and I enjoy nice smelling perfumes meaning when he's married to Lola while he was selling them. He enjoys the pleasure that's derived from a good wife. That's the meaning of the Heidi sallallahu alayhi wa
Send them. So it goes to show that there is some pleasure that is derived from the marriage. Elijah Jen mentioned in the Quran and he created the people on the fitrah zucchini for Boucher, Hawaii Mina Nisa Benim.
May dutiful to the NASS may beautiful to men is the love and the desire for women and children. So it is an issue where the man is going to enjoy the lady the lady is going to join the man. One of his companions His name is Jasmine Abdullah he Robbie Allah I know his father died. His father is the only human being than a larger devil spoke to without any hijab. Every other human being alive. So Joe spoke to that individual from behind a hijab. Except jab at him Abdullah's father.
When his father died, he got married. We had 10 sisters. He married a lady who had been married already. She wasn't a virgin girl. The Prophet says so the lady was sending them Why didn't you marry a virgin girl so that you can play with her and she can play with you? It shows a sense of that point of what the Shaykh was talking about. Rahim Allahu roboticle with Diana diner
and many other things can be mentioned but we have to move on and we have to understand that point in light of the Quran and the Sunnah not in light of the idea of those people who tried to distort and they tried to throw dirt on the person of an Mustafa sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he setting the goal and the objective is so that the two of them can have a family children, they can procreate, and also so that they can build sound societies. Inside of Bukhari brought the hadith of Sunni man Salawat to life. Salam awani. Sulaiman said and Laila so too for me at the nisswa koloa editor in hoonah. Tech TV fantasy Jackie to feasibility law, he said tonight Sulaiman, I am going to have
relationships with 100 women tonight, each and every one of those women. She's going to get pregnant and bring forth a Mujahid who's going to fight feasibility light. And the man Bukhari he made this chapter, this chapter, the chapter what the one who gets married with the intention of spreading the dean.
His goal is desire, and this is a cylinder that's lost his own desires. I want to have children who want to defend their religion and even if I have daughters, and they may not be able to go and defend the religion in that way, they'll be married to men who do that and so forth and so on. So proof is indication. When they be told this community told us a little off what he was send them to So would you and would do that will lewd for me McAfee when Beekman Oman Yama, Yama. He said get married you people were not married, say getting married. People have this woman getting married to the women who are will do
women who are loving, affectionate, and women who are will lewd, they are prolific and having babies. He said For verily I want to be the the Prophet that has the majority of the followers yomo piano so that Hadees clearly shows and vindicates and illustrates one of the reasons he chose to get married is to get married to the loving lady, someone who can have Sakina with as Allah mentioned in the Quran, women iottie and product acumen and physique woman's wotja the test schooner la ha, what jalapeno Come on what data
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from is is is that he created for you women from your own selves. They like you. He didn't create you to marry the jinn. He didn't create you to marry monkeys and increase you to marry melodica He created you to marry women will from your nature. You compliment them and they compliment you so that you can test cuando la ha so that you can have Sakina you have Sakina we'll come to that in sha Allah azza wa jal and he made between you love and mercy. So he advised the men get married to the woman who is loving, and why did he mention loving before prolific and will and will do the involute he mentioned the loving lady because if the lady is loving towards her husband and his love between
them existing, she'll be more than happy to have a child for him. If there's no love, the last thing she wants to do is to have a child.
So that shows and indicates again clearly, what is marriage in Ellis fifth of marriage. It is a contract between the man and the woman with a golden objective of him enjoying that lady and that lady as well enjoying her husband. And number three, with the golden objective of bringing children. Which children though is the question not any child. Children who
mudrooms you know, criminals not like that children who are forming to antisocial behavior. Children who are doing everything that a lot doesn't want to be done in the earth. No pious children. That's why the Hadees said in a mad to Adam and cut the honorable 11 fella, if the son of Adam dies, anyone dies, all of his D cease to exist, they stop, except one of three things. And one of them that he mentioned what it saw, yet the ruler who a righteous son, that makes to offer him, the righteous son. So the marriage golden, the objective is to make righteous people, righteous children. And those righteous children in Sharla, collectively are going to make a strong and righteous society.
We'll all find what I just mentioned to you with honey and the books of fit. So that the one who was embarking upon marriage, the one who is married, he has to remind themselves, this is the goal, and this is the objective. So if this is the case, then let us deal with the issue and let us deal with each other in a different way. Because the reasons why we're arguing in the way that we're existing, me and my wife, you and your wife, the husbands and the wives of our community, is an indication we may not be understanding. Now we have to come through and come to the point of those individuals whining that we can and cannot marry. But even before that, what is the rule of getting married? I
mean, we mentioned here today that it was in the history of Al Islam, that some of those great scholars didn't get married. And as I mentioned their name, their names have been gathered up big people, big people. We want to make it clear once again, that our example is Rasulullah. He's on the law, what do we send them ultimately, look at canon law. confero Sunni law he owes what to Hassan. You have in him a perfect example. We follow him unconditionally we OBEY Him unconditionally sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and getting married was from his Sunnah. And the book that he brought the book that he brought, told the Muslims to say like in sort of telephoto tan levena Kowloon
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coral to iron, which kena enamel, that's a duel of the believer, Oh our Lord, given to us, bless me with bless us with wives and children, who will be the colors of our eyes in the dunya before the Hereafter, but also including the hereafter. That's the religion he brought subtle it was sent him. So what is the ruling of getting married in Islam? There's a lot of it's the last between the scholars Some say that it's magic. Some people say other than that, and everyone has this
seems like the best position to say is generally speaking, getting married is something that is highly recommended. As most as the hub, it may be wired up on an individual because of his or her situation, it may become legit. It may be if the person has the money, and they have the means and they have the ability, then there's something that is highly recommended. He has the mental capacity, he has the disposition, then it is something that is highly recommended. So the argument of is it legit, is it this is it that although it is knowledge based, it's not an issue that we're going to introduce here because of the time that it's going to take and there are other issues I
think that should be introduced to the minds of the audience. So something that is highly recommended. Not only is it highly recommended almost the hub but but the issue of marriage is more important than the into the majority of the scholars who said you know, the bad that the extra a bad of salons Academy hydrogen around the extra one, the photo lab the bad that the extra stuff that you do. They say Getting married is more important than that. virtuous than that. But to say that it's wise if I never brought the person. There's some detail for that, from the Quran, the Sunnah, but we'll stick with that easy positioning shot along the middle cause that it is highly recommended and
it's natural. So everybody should be in individuales feeling that way. One day, I'm going to get married right now I'm thinking about getting married and growing and developing ourselves and our children and those who are around us with that goal and desire. So who can we get married to?
The general rule in Islam is you can marry whoever you want to marry. You can do whatever you want to do, outside of the EBI, that the worship in Islam. You can do whatever you want to do drink, what you want to drink, wear, what you want to wear whatever color you can do whatever you want to do. That's the general rule the general rule until some public
comes to say, don't do this. And don't do that. Don't drink this. Don't drink that. Don't eat this and don't eat that. Don't sit like that and don't sit like this. As you people are sitting in the audience, this religion taught us how to sit in how not to say. Generally speaking, you can sit out you want to sit and sit reclining on your right arm, your left arm could sit like that. But there's a Sydney said, Don't sit like those people will live angry with. And that's a particular sitting point is in the dunya. Do whatever you want to do until there's a text that says don't do it. So from those people we can't marry when we talk about the fifth of marriage, and this is important is
that a man cannot marry his father's wife. His father could have been with some woman and he married that woman who was not his mother can marry that lady. People in j Leah, for an example may come into a slump. Maybe his father happened to be with a lady that he didn't marry and then they slam you can't look at that lady you can consider that lady and a lot revealed this on the arrows because this is something they will do. That man wouldn't marry his mother he wouldn't marry his mother. But if his father was married to a lady he would marry that lady and his father maybe in life or you may be dead they used to do that in Jackie via a library will be I will not tell you who my bad Oh, come
in and Nisa in the map itself. And no kind of Fantasia Tim Upton sebelah don't marry those women who your father's married before. That was a bad thing that they used to do. Don't do that. Once that I came down made it wrong. That's an ayat of the Quran. And then allies or gentlemen chin, a number of people, and this is the fifth of the issue. Fifth is comprehension. I want to get married, okay. There are some people you can't marry no matter what. Because they were mentioned in the Quran. Harvey Mudd Alaykum Omaha Tacoma, Banat Tacoma, Tacoma ematic Omaha latoken webinar to webinar to
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what about even accumulated the haltom What about ibaka latifi her jewelry company Sadek. melotti, the hulten behind venom tokunbo the hell to be enough Elijah aleikum. Wa holla urbanite. ECAM live in a slobby C'mon Tajima. beyma team Illa maka Salah, Allah mentioned in this iron, haram for you to marry, you cannot marry your mother. You can't marry your sister. You can marry your daughter. You can marry your paternal Auntie or your maternal Auntie, your father, sisters or your mother's sister, those five people were mentioned. You cannot marry your niece from your brother's side, your niece from your sister side forever. Those people forever You can think about them. You can marry
the lady, the lady that the mother the lady who gave you milk you sucked from her. You drink her milk. It used to be if you drink from her 10 times and you let it go by yourself. She became your mother. And then it was reduced to five. The baby latched on you drink five different drinks at five different times. And he let it go by himself. That lady becomes his mother. And you can't marry her daughters. Once you marry once you drink from her. Her daughters become your sisters. And the Prophet said in an authentic hadith sell a lot when you sell them. Your mineral da my eureka moment in
the milk that a woman makes the relationships haraam just like the blood relationships. So if there is a lady that someone drinks from her mother, you can't marry her daughters. You can't marry her sisters or your Auntie's. Everyone who's connected to that lady is going to be connected to you in the way that the lineage connects you to that meeting. The I went on to mention about the people you cannot marry. You can't marry the mothers of your wives. Once you sit down and you agree to marry your wife You agreed to marry and you get married you write the contract. From that point on her mother is haram for you Haram. Whether you have relationships with her not her mother is haram for
you. Nor can you marry your stepdaughters your wife has a daughter, you can't marry her daughter. If you can't submit it with the mother, the ISS. But if you didn't consummate with the mother, you didn't and you got out of the marriage was a divorce. She died, you never consummated and the door is there and that situation presented itself. You can marry her. But obviously to do something like that. You have to think 1000 times. You have to think about so many ramifications. This issue
By yourself is a lot of fit that needs to be understood. But the I made it clear, you can't marry the daughter of your wife, your stepdaughter, if you can't see me, even even consummated, then you can marry her daughter. And you can't marry the wives of your sons, your sons who are from your loins, once your son marries a lady, you can't ever marry that lady, because he was the ex wife of your son. And also the isn. And this is very important in the quantium. This is because it shows an issue of our P that and that is the ayah said, You can't marry your wife, you can't marry your wife and her sister at the same time, your wife and your sister, her sister at that same time, if you
marry your wife and something happens, and then you marry her sister, this is something that Muslims do because the sister
of the wife are going to take care of the children. It's a common practice with the Arabs is a practice that people have in the Muslim world and African Other than that, so those are some of the people who can't be married.
And another if Eliza didn't mention from those people can't be married, he said to Barack with either one person or 2 million Nisa in America, a man Oh, come kita, Bologna, la calm. And you cannot marry a woman who was already married, a woman who was already married. So from the people you can't marry, or some people, you can't marry them because of a situation. But if that situation changes, then you can marry them. But as long as that situation is there, you can get married. But it's not something that's permanent. For an example. A man is married to a woman, he divorced her three times. He can't marry her until she gets married. Again, it's fiction that
if a man if a man divorced his wife, the lady is in her ad period. She's an idiot. You can't marry him to that it is done. A lady is available to get married. But she's not a Jew. She's not a Christian. She's not a Muslim. She's a CFO, a Hindu, she's agnostic, she's an atheist. You can't marry her until she becomes a Muslim until she becomes a Jew until she becomes a Christian. So there are a number of women in this situation. There is something in Islam called Le and that's when the man comes in. He says, with no witnesses. My wife committed Zina, she committed adultery. And then he curses will lie he she did it will lie, he will lie, he will lie. And then the fifth time say me
the curse of a lobby upon me if I'm lying. And then she comes and say you're lying, you're lying will lie. You're lying four times, and then go lobby upon me telling the truth. If that happened between the man and the woman, he can't marry that lady again, ever tell us. But if he comes in, he says, I was lying. When I choose to I was lying, I made that mistake, then he's allowed to marry her. But he's going to be whipped because he bought full force witness. And there are other people. But the point is, this group of people wanting this group of people, you can't marry them because of some condition. If that condition changes, then you can marry and there are many people like that.
How are you going to come to know about it? By learning the religion. So those people were mentioned in the Quran that I gave you that everybody mentioned in the Quran. But there's one woman who wasn't mentioned in the Quran. And if it wasn't for the sundown, we wouldn't know about this woman. So for the people who say we don't need the Sunnah, if a person says that he believes that he runs the risk of going outside of Islam. Allah he saw a lot what he said and he mentioned inauthentic de la yajima, Raja Bane and Ratan rahmati ha, a quality. If a man gets married to a woman, he shouldn't be married to her. And her maternal aunt, or her paternal aunt at the same time, which goes to show
what the wisdom of Islam, they're going to be some problems with. plural marriage is going to be jealousies with plural marriage, it's going to happen. So you can't break the ties of relationship between the blood can do that. So Sam didn't allow a man to marry his wife and his sister at the same time to marry his wife and her Auntie at the same time, so that there's no drama and no static between them. That Hadid comes to us inauthentic narration, if it wasn't for the student, that we wouldn't know that it would be permissible for you to marry your wife and our Auntie at the same time. But we say again, we take the Quran and the Sunnah, both of them are together.
We find out honey, when we talk about the fact of getting married, one of the most important aspects and the chapters of getting married is to know not only who you can marry and who you can't marry, but from the people who you can marry. What are the descriptions that the man should be looking for? What are the descriptions that the lady should be looking for? I think that was alluded to yesterday and I'm sure that it was spoken about earlier today and is going to be spoken about throughout these next two days being an alien
As he says some of it was tell him the woman is married for four things she's married because of her money because of her beauty because of her lineage and because of again, married the one with the dean and you'll be successful. He told us that in that authentic hadith, Salah loving was sending them if someone comes to you, someone comes to you as the when someone comes to you he wants to marry your daughter wants to marry you, Willie or your sister, someone you're responsible for. Then if you're pleased with their luck, and they deem they marry them, if you don't do it, there's going to be fitna in the earth and facade. All of those ideas indicated may show, you want to look for a
person who has some bean, and they have some compatibility, what they call it cat fat. And that's why I say yes, then I'll continue to say inshallah, for the young brothers who come from communities where the mother and the father are very strict on their ethnic background, they ethnicity, they come from a country, their family's from the north.
And they want you to marry someone from your tribe, from the north, someone from your tribe in the south, someone who comes from your village, someone who's a relative of yours. If you can do that, you should try to do it. If you can do it doesn't mean that it's haram to go outside. Doesn't mean that all at all. But that issue of compatibility and age and all of that. I will bucket came to the NetBeans de la Selim, he wanted to marry Fatima The Prophet said, No, I'm not kidding. He wanted to marry Fatima. He said no, he married to a lead. He said Abu Bakar Emma, you too Odin. She's young. That compatibility you to 3040 years old. And in her she's young. But it's permissible to do that.
Mr. DLR, I know doing this khilafah when he was before he married the daughter of an even Abby thought. And he I mean he is he said I didn't want to get married, I had no need to get married or medicine, I No need to get married. The reason why I wanted to marry her is that I heard the prophecy I did some of it was send them that all relationships or relationships will be cut off, you'll know kiama there'd be no benefit, except the relationships that come from me. So I wanted to be more connected to the maybe marry someone close to him like his granddaughter.
And he was much older than the girl. And that's the point. So we have to look for that individual who has the religion and we have the clop she doesn't have to be happy love the Koran. She doesn't have to be a woman who in terms of religious she's she's the most religious in the world. But it's something you can work with. And religion in the cloud, especially religion, it doesn't mean
that the guy with a thought and he has a beard as a mystic in his pocket. And it doesn't mean as well when you're looking for a wife, that she's a lady that just has a bad one. I saw my own eyes. And I'm not judging anyone on the public transportation. But it was packed out and it was hot. And some Jamaican lady older lady was given a Muslim sister with Jill Bob and his job and he comes from some canal. And that's just the gateway back to that lady because what that Jamaican lady said was out of order, the way she was talking and what she said, and that's just the You heard her voice. I thought it was a bit inappropriate. But I'm not in her shoes. What the lady said to her was nasty.
That lady, that other girl defended herself. Do you want your wife to be like that? I'm not here to judge her. I'm making a point. jilbab likea speaking Arabic that's not enough.
The man said to Mr. de Lyon who Yeah, amuro meaning put that man over there, put that man, let them be inside of your cabinet. Make them someone who's responsible in your government, or minister. Do you know the man? He said, I know him. Allah, He I know him. He said, Did you travel with the man? He said, No. Did you do business with the man? He said, No. Did you eat with the man? He said, No. Did you sleep with the man? He said no. He said you don't. You don't know that man. You saw that man going up and down to the budget, make a record. That's all you saw. But as soon as you borrow money to him even giving you your money back, then you're going to come to know the individual. So the
point is, and trying to find out the reality of people take your time as questions. Look at the individual have someone who's on the scene who's going to do his job, which brings me to the last point of today's session. And a lot of other things can be talked about the fact of getting married. We want to end with this issue.
In the marriage of honey, the actual ceremony, the fifth of the real marriage in Islam has to have five things in it. If these five things are not there, then that marriage is null and void, that marriage is compromised.
Especially living here.
Find things first of all at the top of the list. In order for the intimacy in marriage, there has to be a wedding. No girl who has a Muslim father, uncles, older brothers, brothers who are old enough, no Muslim girl born and raised in this land. She has a father
Who's on this scene is on the set? No Muslim girl should try to get married without her father without her wedding. If she does that, she makes piano, she make a big sin. Even if she knows her father is one of those people. Hey, we're from the north. And those people from the south. Hey, we're black and white are beautiful and they're not black. I'm not gonna let you do it. Even if a father's like Dennis, she knows he's going to give her a hard time. She has to make an attempt to go through her father.
When they be mentioned, some of it was send them lanica elaborate while he? There is no Nika steps. You gotta have a wedding. He say you my au mom Ratan Nikki had a lady evening. What do you have for nikka? Barton? And you mentioned the three times Amy woman who got married without her father's permission, how will he then her marriage, his birth him? He said that tune kimbra tune in Brotton, no woman should marry off another woman, your mother can't marry you off your auntie can't marry you off has to be a man from your family, your father, your uncle, your grandfather, all the people who are respectable from your relatives.
If you run off, and you elope, and you get married at the register, you run off and you go to City Hall, that marriage is a problem doesn't count.
The next to the next to is that you need two witnesses, two main witnesses from the Muslims, two witnesses from the Muslim need to witnesses. not one but two, two men, if you don't have two men who take four women, if you have one man and two women, and that's okay. But you need at least two witnesses for that Mika. So that's three. Number four, you have to give the dowry. And we're going to deal with this dowry inshallah and our upcoming session, because the importance of the DAO and what goes wrong with the DAO is learning to the women in our community as a result of the culture, you have to give the girl a dowry. And there's a lot of fifth about the dowry, a lot of fit
concerning the dowry.
Number five, and the last condition is you have to have them wafak you have to have the consent of the girl in our community, with the Asian community and I'm not against the Asian community. But this practice is prevalent in the Asian community in this country. If I don't know the family that people said, I want you to marry, conduct the ceremony. If I know that beam's daughter is getting married, the deme sister's getting married, I'll conduct the meet guy because I know this guy has a level of enlightenment and being where he's not going to force them to get married. I know that. But if there's a group of people who I don't know, I don't know them. I always insist. gotta hear from
the girl with my own ears. And she's okay with this. Because she shouldn't be forced and she comes She shouldn't be compelled. As we mentioned yesterday, the only reason why I mentioned yesterday that there was some scholars who said the girl can be compelled is because of the Amana elmia. I mean, there is a religious responsibility to let you know, that idea is out there. Some of the scholars took that position. Some of them said that, I didn't tell you that because I believe in that why even think that should be practiced in this day and time in this country. I don't think that forcing your daughter to get married is against the law right now in this country forcing them
and plus those scholars who took that position, although they had their positions in the approves the other scholars who said no those positions and those proofs are weak. I only mentioned it I only mention it because of the Amana elmia bus factor. That's it, but it shouldn't be done. It shouldn't be done. So those five issues have to be present. So if you are attempting to get married, in the middle of about to get married, you're about to get married, one of those five things are gone. Absent, then you have to step back pump your brakes and not approach the issue at all except that people involved inside of the loop who know what they are doing. So concerning the basic fit of
marriage, there are a lot of issues that can be and need to be discussed. We only had 4550 minutes today shala it's your job your responsibility in Sharla to go back and try to gather up as much information as possible concerning that a pull up Cody how that was stuck for the line we will not come unless Allah tala etouffee It was said that