Abu Usamah At-Thahabi – The Islamic Personality – Episode 35

Abu Usamah At-Thahabi
AI: Summary © The speaker discusses various issues related to Islam, including accusations of abuse, sexual abuse, and issues with religion and political settings. They emphasize the importance of avoiding evil behavior and not wanting to deal with people who make mistakes and avoid socializing. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of warning people about certain book and issues and the use of language in media settings. They also mention a woman who is trying to marry them and is facing facing challenges.
AI: Transcript ©
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our mother Aisha Radi Allahu anha mentioned to us and important Hadith in the characteristic that the Muslim should try to be upon and be careful in this regard from both sides and from both angles, in terms of not being the person who falls into this and also in terms of being aware of the person who this hadith is speaking about.

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And this hadith was collected by Imam Bukhari and Muslim Rahmatullah he I knew him

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when maybe use of Allah when he was selling was in the house of Isha and there was a man who knocked on the door.

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And then when the guard of the door de Beauvoir, but the person who was responsible for seeing who was trying to come in to visit the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is that was one of his suddenness. He was an important personality. That meant that people can not have access to him all the time.

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If he allowed people to have access to him, 24/7, there's going to be a problem, because he has so many issues that he has to deal with. And we have to accept that, when it comes to people have knowledge when they come to visit us, and so forth and so on.

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We can't think just because the problem that you have the issue that you have is really important to you. And it is important to him as well, because I would think that the Sheikh will want what's in your best interest. But that doesn't mean that you can superimpose upon him.

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That you have to be given time, all the time.

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But what should be done is people in authority and people in positions, we should make a step, then we should seek their permission.

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Those of us who are professionals, people work in the hospital. And other than that, no one in his right mind believes fills or exists in a way in which he or he or she behaves thinking that whenever they need the doctor, that's when the doctor has to listen to them.

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Our GPS, they give us 10 minutes. And a lot of times they want you out of there before that 10 minutes. And if anyone goes beyond that 10 minutes, just asking questions on important or pertinent. You may see your GPS start to huff and puff and to become uncomfortable with what you're doing. Because he has other patients.

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The best GP The best one is the one who is going to have suburb, but even that one is going to look at the person who's doing that going beyond the 10 minutes and they're going to say what's wrong with a person who doesn't have an option or something like that? Don't they know I have 1520 30 More patients to go if I sit with him another 510 minutes, 15 minutes, that's going to knock everybody behind the schedule is gonna have a knock on effect. So I think most of us for the most part, we

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understand that then when it comes to people knowledge, no, we don't understand that. So if a person is chef comes, he finishes a salad. He wants to make his car can make the car. The reason why he can't make the car is I have a problem. It's a serious issue. So I'm going to jump on him jump in

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the Prophet sallallahu it was it was sending them from his Sooners that he had a BA Whap a person who was at the door to say who's knocking and then he would tell them let him in or don't let him in. And there's an ayat of the Quran that Allah will Tyler mentioned, and told us till the believers during that time with the Prophet sallallaahu Selim, if you're not gonna do any says go back, then go back. And don't be upset. Just go back.

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So a man came to the prophets House of Allah who it was sell him and knocked on the door. Someone said Who is it? Who are you? He went out and found out who he was. I told him hold on stay right here. Let me go seek permission. You

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He went back to the Prophet sallallaahu Selim and says so and so was at the door

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and they'd be used to love Why do you sell them said Bitsa. A hula Shira, what a terrible person that is. That guy at the door is a problem.

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And everybody who was inside of the house, everyone who heard him say that they witnessed what he said. And that person at the door is one of the most misbehaved persons he's a problem.

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So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told them go ahead and let him in. When the man came in Missoula, he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam smiled at him, and started to be cordial with him and started to be nice with him.

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A man sat and the Prophet SAW Selim entertains him. After some time he got up and he left. One of the people witnessed what happened when the Prophet was told sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that this man is at the door. What he said, and they also witnessed how the Prophet sat with the man SallAllahu sallam was Isha.

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So she did what Allah azza wa jal audit the Muslims to do.

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If you see something in the religion that you don't understand, and if you don't understand, if there's a hadith that you read over here, over there, you don't understand it. Maybe you think that the ayat is conflicting and contradicting another ayat or the hadith is contradicting another Hadith instead of becoming a disbeliever and saying, I don't believe in Al Islam, or I don't believe in the Hadith, she didn't do that. She did what Allah azza wa jal commanded, first Alou Allah vicar In

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Kuntum, Lanta Alamo. Ask those who know if you don't know.

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So she had to ask the question. Yeah, it also Lola. When the man came to the door, you said what you said, you told everybody is a bad person. But then when he came in, you treated them in a very nice way as if she was asking is this not Yato sola Riba, but you said is this not Riba is as if she was saying to him sallallahu alayhi wa, and it was setting them Yato. So Allah, is this not having two faces, saying one thing with one face? And then another thing, an opposite thing with another face,

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which is a bad thing? And we took that hadith before, that the worst person with Allah azza wa jal is vulgar Chang, the one who has two faces, yet, it will actually be watching, what would it be watch a person who goes to these people, and he has one face, and he talks nice to them. And he gets their

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trust. And he is made to feel as if he's one of them. And then when he leaves them, he goes over here to another group of people, and he has another face, where he's talking bad about them. vulva chain, smile in the man's face. And then when he leaves and other people come, you talk about him.

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And many people do that.

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He's your relative. He's your friend. He's someone that you know, you talk about him. And then when he goes, you're with your wife and you kick his back in. So I she was like, you're also realizing this like that. The Prophet said to her son the law while he was selling them. Yeah, Isha. When did you know me to speak in a way that was inappropriate with people? The way that you saw me talking to him when he came in? I spoke to him in that way, because that's how I deal with people. When did you

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know me to be a person who talks to people in the way that causes a problem to become a bigger problem. And this is a really important aspect of this idea.

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That man is a bad man. So when he comes in, are so lucky, start saying to him, You did this and you did that? And why are you doing this? And what's wrong with you? Are you crazy and just go on and on, and then it's going to be a bigger problem. But he talked to him in a nice way, not because he was scared of him. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not scared of anybody except Allah. Not only that, he had the physical ability, the physical prowess, the ability physically to beat up

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He can beat everybody one on one.

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And as those companions described them that he had the strength of 40 camels, Allah, Allah who it was sent them, so rest assured, he was not scared of anyone, meaning being a free like a coward. But Salah can get up and deal with anyone who was on the face of the earth. So that wasn't something in his mind and his head, because I'm afraid of him. I'm going to

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You know, act like no.

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So we don't push evil away with evil. That's the point. Two wrongs don't make a thing Correct. He has bad behavior. He did bad things. Opening up that door and talking to him in a bad way is going to create more problems. So when did you know me? I issued to speak to people in a way that was inappropriate.

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And then he told her the reason why he did what he did. And this is the jewel and the teaching of the Hadith. He said something Allahu alayhi wa it was salam in Sharon Nazmul exhibiting Yeoman ki Amity mentor Toronto who does it the QA Shari,

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the worst person you'll know piano who had the worst station, that person will have the worst station Isha. May Allah be pleased with hot is the person who people avoid them out of fear of the evil that they bring.

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So people don't want to deal with them. They don't want to go to their walima they don't want to go to the Akiha. If the person hasn't nakiska They don't want to invite them. They don't want to live on the street with them. They don't want the person in the masjid even.

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We have some people like that. People who are evil, evil men and women always fitna always drama.

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And I'm not talking about a Masha wish or mashallah him someone who makes trouble? No, I'm talking about sharir, evil evil.

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He said, the worst person you'll know piano will be that individual who

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people avoid him, they don't want to deal with them, because of the evil the way that they are. So he was teaching her and teaching us something Allahu it was one of them. The reason why I dealt with him is I don't want the harm of this man. This is an individual who this man, this woman, this is an individual, if you tried to give them advice, if you tried to deal with them, you're going to have to deal with a bigger problem, a bigger problem. So it's better for you just to close the door, and

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don't let that person share your space. So that's what he was teaching in this hadith. And as I mentioned in the beginning of the data's, we have to learn from this Hadith from both angles. Number one, don't be that person who people avoid you because of your evil. Now that doesn't mean evil, that someone makes a mistake here or there as we all make mistakes here and there. So therefore, a person understands from this hadith, I'm going to avoid everybody because Prophet Muhammad

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saying you should avoid people because they mean evil, everybody makes mistakes, not talking about that. This idea is not encouraging anybody to be anti sociable. The believer the movement is a person who connects to people, he socializes with people. And he initiates that. And he's also the person who accepts people when they try to socialize with him, and they initiate that, but a person like this not,

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you can come to market, I don't want you to come into my house, I'll never invite you. But if you turn up after way, this situation, I may open up the door, because if I don't, he's gonna keep banging on the door.

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Some people so evil, he'll go to the window and knock on the window and start lifting up the window to call you from outside from the window to say, are you in here, one of those kinds of people. So in his case, is better just go outside and meet him outside, meet him outside, get done with the situation so we can get on with his business. So we don't want to be from those people. And the other side of the hadith is saying, know how to deal with people like that. There are some people

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they are clear their intellect, it is a problem. If you try to explain to them something, they're not going to understand what you're going to say what you're trying to say. And as a result of that the problem becomes more problematic. So this hadith of the NABI SallAllahu, alayhi, WA Ana it was sending him is a Hadith that Durham is one of those famous, well known Hadith but it's a hadith that we really have to consider is a really important Hadith. So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam was not

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being the one who was to faced it, because he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam doesn't say one thing and then do the opposite. He never did that. He said what he meant, and he meant what he said at all times. And he definitely wasn't making Viva riba as he mentioned, hadith is Salah when he was setting him said the crew can be Morocco, mentioning your brother in his absence with that thing that he doesn't like. Now I want to ask you brothers today.

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It's Friday now, this Thursday, they just passed who didn't meet Viva today.

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Heba Tabak bite Pete

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Pull from the major sins in this religion, to mention something about your brother that if he were to hear you saying that he wouldn't have liked it, he doesn't like what you're saying.

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So the man said, God, also Allah was Riba. He said Riba is when you talk about your brother in his absence, and you say something he doesn't like you saying, uh, per se, but what if what I'm saying is true is really true about him. He has bad breath. He's stingy. It's really true that my brother is lazy is true. What if it's true, he said, if it's true what you're saying, then you may give up him. And if it's not true, then you have made Bhutan. Bhutan again.

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You have slandered him, which is even worse. You made a lie. You said something that's not even true. So who today didn't mention something about someone in his absence, that had he heard you said that thing he wouldn't have liked it. So Gibbons from the major sins, and the Israa will Mirage the Prophet sallallahu was sent him was taken from Mecca, to bake the luctus he prayed with all of the prophets and the messengers Salawat to Allah He was sent out Sallam a winding edge remain in beta

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luctus. And then he was taken up to the seven heavens, on the way up and on the way back down. He saw a lot of things, a lot of things. He saw a group of people with long fingernails made out of copper. They were scratching their faces and taking the meat and the skin off and scratching their chests taking the meat and the skin off. Rasulullah was frightened and he said, Yeah, Jabril who are those people? He told him something Allahu alayhi wa sallam, how Lavina can woo Ja Rule if he robbed

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the nice.

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Those people you see being punished like that. They're the people who in the dunya they used to talk about people and fall in the people's honor. They used to say he's a thief. He's this. This lady is a prostitute. She's a whore used to talk like that.

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This woman did that when this woman did that. And they made viva.

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And the honor of the Muslim is sacred. Just like this month is Muharram sacred month. Allahu Taala mentioned in the Quran about the secret months minha arbeiten her own than it could Dino pay him fella tadley movie hyndland fossa calm. Those are the four months this is the religion that Allah made the correct way. So don't oppress yourselves in a sacred month. This month. Last month, full hegemony people made hij. These days haram all of these days, the Muslims Anna is sacred. Sacred,

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like ginger sacred. You shouldn't treat this month as a normal normal month, the sins in this month or worst in the sense outside of these four sacred months. So the nibio sallallahu alayhi wa, it was setting them informed us from that hadith, that the reward are the people who talk about the honor of the people the honor easily on the tongue of the Muslim, he's this he's that he's an innovator. He's a cathair this one over here is the prostitue someone gets mad at someone who say you are a

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Jew, is how we are. We use those back curse words in EFA things like that. Can't talk to Muslims like that. Can't do that. So major crime in this religion.

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The Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam also brought that Quran Yeah, you live in Amman. Ah, tiny boo cathedra minivan when I had to just Cecil when I asked a bag, Baba, are you Hibou coming up could really make the character more, or you believe, Oh, you who believe? Do not or avoid all speculation. Avoid speculation. You don't have a clear proof, then don't try to speculate and assume stay away from that. You don't know what happened. You don't know. Where's the deal? You don't know

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who really did it? You don't know. So you may think well, he was the last one that came out of the room. But as long as you didn't see him, You're speculating until you see the CCTV until the person admits it until witnesses come and they prove that he's guilty. Even if you think he did it. You think he meant it? Speculation is to think someone does something you don't have the clear proof. Maybe he did it.

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But just like the mafia code, the hypocrites. The hypocrite has covered inside disbelief, but he's professing Islam on his tongue.

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Allah didn't send anybody here to open up his chest and look at his heart to see Is He truly a believer or not? We just have to say and take what he's saying.

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Face value a Muslim you think he or she did it, but you didn't you don't have any clear proof.

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So this is said avoid all speculation and assumptions and do not backbite one another. Would any of you like to eat the dead flesh of his brother, the ISA know you find that something that is disliked and a pouring a chromic Malaysia it is something that is disliked and something that is a pourraient don't do it. So the ayat is a clear indication and the clear delille along with the Hadith, like backbiting Aquarius, a major sin. And I would like to encourage you guys as well as myself and

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remind myself to remind you guys, we are moved to say he Lord multicar say Lord, we are a group of people were easy when it comes to back bite and amongst ourselves. I'm going to be the first one to say I'm from the people. I'm with the Cassie lon and we have to get serious about this issue about Ilieva because we found that the mother this man passed and there are no motherless lamb that we know now. They used to tell people don't sit in our assembly backbiting people talking about people

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don't see here. That's what you want to do. This is the assembly of knowledge. And when we come together, we should come together to give knowledge and to receive knowledge and to benefit each other. It's not acceptable for students of knowledge, people giving Dawa, to be easy with this issue. People fall into it. People fall into it. And I want to take this opportunity to mention again, the incident of Abu Bakr and Umar radi, Allah and Huma

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when they traveled with the NABI SallAllahu, alayhi wa and it was setting them and they overslept. Because the man who was supposed to wake them up, they had them overslept.

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When they woke him up, they say you you sleep a lot. They were saying to each other, this man he sleeps he slept is over sleeps, he sleeps a lot. That's all they said. They didn't say and call the man a bad word, the N word. They didn't say anything about that, you know, a racial slur. They didn't say anything. They didn't make any lies and slander. They said, man, this man sleeps a lot he over sleeps he's on a heavy sleep he sleeps too much.

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When the man finally got up, they say go tell or so we give them Salam Can you send them some food? The man went yarrells Allah somebody come up back home and they said somebody can you send them some food? The Nabi said widecombe said, I'm on all of you. You go back, you toggle back into my that they already ate. I will bug him. I didn't know what are you talking about? They went to the Prophet. What do you mean God also Allah We already ate. He said, You know what you said about that

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man that he sleeps a lot.

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That was Heba. I can see the meat of his flesh between your teeth. They say right away, making Toba? Yeah, Rasul Allah ask Allah to forgive us. We made a mistake from the ollie Avila. We made Reba we made a mistake. Ask Allah and you're the see the Benny Adam and your Dwyers Mr. Jia, ask Allah to forgive us. He say No, you go back and you acts that man. So if I will Buchan Allah can make Viva Robbie, Allah and Houma than anybody can make Reba but they may Tober immediately after that, and

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you don't find that happening with them. Again, no examples where they did that again. And before anybody comes and says, I will Sam was saying I will book no more they will people may leave every day. I want to make it clear for these people who fall into people's IRA because they playing with the religion.

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Bucket and Irma are the best of this ummah.

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And we don't follow them in that thing that we they that we just mentioned, as Allah mentioned in the Quran about following the Companions when levena Tuber rowhome Ba San and Radi Allahu Allah number one, and the people follow the companions in San and what is correct, Allah will be pleased with all of them, but we don't follow the Companions when one of them made a mistake here one of them made a mistake there. It's not a deal. If the Quran and the Sunnah goes against what the

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companion is saying. We take the Quran and the Sunnah, but we say that the Quran the companion is in which dead inshallah history war, even those companions who did things like making call Rouge against the leader of that time, Rod, the Allah and whom, if they made Horos some of them came to that we say they will wish to he do, they will much that he done and we don't take that as a delille. So some people want to come and say we follow the Companions Mukalla and everything just

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like that. No, we follow the companions in the heart. When an individual from them 123 They're on the hop, and when all of them agreed to something we follow them in that no doubt about that. So as it relates to this issue of

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of riba whiny Sharla let's make a bigger jihad of not mentioning our brothers and our sisters, especially our family members with that which is not acceptable, but there's something want to mention there is a riba that is permissible. And this is the Riba that the Prophet did. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a chef, NASA Dean ll bang. He brought a hadith and I'm going to share with you when he said what the Prophet said Salallahu Salam was riba it was Riba. But instead he but that's

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not considered to be Riba.

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I will cut the whole ACBSP but 10 fee sittin when you talk bad about someone in their absence, it's not Heba in six situations, six situations, it's not considered to be Riba. It's like the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He said, He's not lying. It is not considered to be lying laser. Kevin is not lying. If a person says something that's not true to one brother, who's having a fight with another brother. And he says something that's not true. Hey, that brother, I was with him today. And he told me he's really sorry for what happened. And he said, it's his fault. He wants to apologize to you. But he feels that if you apologize, you're going to be upset. He never told me that. Never said that. But I'm

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making a slide. He said, That's not lying. I'm saying what didn't happen, but it's not considered to be lying.

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And it's also not lying. When a man says to his wife, something that's not true, to make her feel good about herself, or what she says to him, to make him feel good about himself. It's not lying. So these issues, they're considered to be Riba, but it's not getting the rule and then the sin of riba because there's a religious reason to do it. Six issues. And this incident of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam falls in three.

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The first time when it's permissible for someone to say something negative about someone that they may not like, in their absence is when someone has been oppressed. There's villain, someone took his land back in Pakistan, so he has to go to the judge and tell the judge, my brother stole the land. My brother misappropriated the inheritance. My sister did this, my sister did that. Someone was oppressed. He punched me. He stole this, he put this thing on me.

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That person who you're telling, the judge did that to you? He may not like what you're saying. And he can't come and say, Hey, you mentioned that in my absence, that's Riba. How else are you going to get your heart back? How are you going to get your heart? Allah will tell I mentioned in the Quran law you have biller who Adjara be soo Emanuel Cole, Alam and volum. Allah doesn't like Allah doesn't love a God doesn't like for people to broadcast things that were done with their tongues. Allah

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doesn't like that you broadcast the evil, bad deeds. Allah doesn't like for you to talk about those except the one who was oppressed. The one who was oppressed, he has the hack.

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He has as the hack. One of the wives of the companions. Her husband was not dealing with her in the correct way This happened in law. He said you liked my mother's back to me. That's not a divorce. You like the back of my mother. So I'm not going to be married to my mother. I'm not going to be married to someone who's like my mother, but I'm not divorcing you. I'm just going to leave you my mother's back.

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Allah revealed that I read the Quran surah three mu J Dilla.

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Cut semi Allah will call the lady to Jad DeLuca. Fees OG how with tequila Allah, Allah, here's the complaint of the lady who came to you about what her husband did.

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And Allah hears your speech with her yam handmade and Allah hears and sees everything. So the lady photo press, so she went to the judge. So Lola what he was telling them to let him know, this man did this, this man did that. And we all have the right to do that. The wife can come to the masjid and say, hey, my husband, he did this he did that the man comes, I want to divorce. My wife did this, whatever the case is. So if someone has been oppressed.

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The second issue when he that is permissible, is when you have to inform someone what is called a tidy if you have to let people know about someone and the reality like the Prophet did here, Salah who it was and what if it was the responsibility of the one who knew salAllahu alayhi salam, the reality of that man to let other people know so that the people can be on guard and they can be aware

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so that man, he fell into that, hey, listen, people. This is a bad name right here. And I'm not talking about bad. He made a mistake you make a mistake with not that this man is bad comes to your house, you're going to kitchen to get something he's going to steal from your house.

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If he says then we go to a toilet if he's upstairs, he's going to make mischief in your house he's going to do so those kinds of people.

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So if you have to let people know about someone another example of that

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is most of us are known by our names. You ask someone aid that Abu sama come to the class and you might want to know about some we talking about Greenlee mission on Thursday night.

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But if you're in a society or in a community or masjid, where there are multiple Abu Samaras, how do they know which Abu Sam you're talking about for example, so the person says Muhammad Aslam or Yeah, did you see Muhammad today? We have that Muhammad that Muhammad that Muhammad that Muhammad that one that we don't know which Muhammad you're talking about? And he says Muhammad? Allah, which the Muhammad that limps

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the one who is limping, or the one who has a lazy eye, or the one who has a big nose and you said that Mohammed with the big nose, Mohammed with the Kali follower air because he does mmF? So as he is look like cauliflower? You don't mean to put him down?

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Now, if someone heard that cauliflower is

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he may look like that. Well, he thinks that's not nice. Well, that's not what I meant. I meant the hammer that everybody knows he looks like that. So if a person does that, it's no problem. The prophetic companions on the left who set it up, and one of his hands, he had a growth coming out, it looked like the other hand, two hands and one, they used to call him the Nabhi called him Salah and said, I'm voli again. So I pray so not to learn also not to ask him instead of praying for rock guy

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he prayed to and then he said, Sit on my lake, come Salam Alikum this man came and say God Rasulullah you have shortened the prayers have this shit. Prayers became short. And my mom said no, I did not complete it for he said no, you may tau Prophet Muhammad said to the people, some lady was telling him about the law. I know him is what literally a Dane saying true. They say yes. You pray to. So they got up and pray. That man's name wasn't Gloria Dane. The one with two hands. That's not

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his name. That's his nickname.

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Now someone has something like that. Something going out of his hand. And you said Gulia Dane, and everybody understood what you're but you're not trying to make a ton of awesome time. This is not considered to be diva. All right. So number one,

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oppression, the one who's or press can raise the alarm. Number two, if you're trying to get people to know something that they need to know you have a religious reason to tell people. This guy right here. This guy right here. It's a problem.

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Number three, number three. And this hadith today falls into number three is when you have to make a tie here and you have to warn people of something somebody, don't go to that mechanic. Don't go to that mechanic because he's a kid that is a Tusa an alligator. He is going to take your money, he steals everybody's money. He's a liar. Don't go to that chippy. Don't go to that guy over there. The carpenter the electrician don't go to him.

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Because his man got problem. And this man that was his issue. He wanted the people Muay Thai there sallallahu alayhi wa, it was selling them. And again at 20 This happened with the Nabhi of Islam and a number of issues but the one Hadith that will give you about this is the hadith of to me macdaddy may Allah be pleased with him. He said that the Prophet says Allah love what he was selling them, the religion is giving good advice, no see her the religion is given, you know, see her religion is

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given to see her. They say given a see how to give an advice to hope. He said to Allah and his book, it is messenger and the leader of the Muslims and the general folk of the Muslims. Let's see how to Allah be insincere to Allah. So what No, see how it means here. Be sincere and don't make shift and don't do things and you do those things. And you are doing it for Allah and other people or you're doing it for other people. Let's see how to the book of Allah, the Quran, learn how to read it.

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That's what it means. Take it and judge it, let it judge your affairs. Follow it. Try to memorize as much as you can respect it, all of that. Let's see her being sincere. Let's see how to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam it means being sincere to him and it also means giving

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Name advice, as the Companions used to give him good advice from his wives from those who are younger, from those who are older than him sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to take advice from people. And Allah will try to describe him and his companions in the Quran will amerihome Shura bein on

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between the companions and the prophets of Allah while he was setting them Ravi Allah and whom they used to do consultation Assura were shy were whom Phil amor. For in Assam, photowalk. Allah, Allah, Allah acts your companions, if you don't know if you want to extend the opinions,

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and given the see how to the leaders of the Muslims, given us see how to deliver the Muslims is making dua for them, that Allah rectifies the affairs, making dua for them from the member in the class in yourselves, you, you, you, you you

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making dua for the leaders of Pakistan, for the leaders of the Muslim countries where we come from

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not making call Rouge against them, when they are Muslims, and the salah has been established. And if they are non Muslims, we don't make dua for them. And we don't make horloge against them, if we don't have the ability to do that. But how many of us practice that particular way of the Senath. Sincerity to the Imam to the leader, you advise them, and you advise them in private. And you also have sincerity to them.

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And also being sincere to the regular Muslims. So being sincere to the regular Muslims. If something we know is in the community about something that's going on, we're going to tell the people tell each other, don't go to him. Don't go to that one. Don't do it. You want him? That guy is an innovator. Don't bring them to the mosque. Don't be one of the people just talk like that. But trying to do it the right way. You know, just sitting down. And we're just talking about these

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things over dinner and over tea and No, no, no, no, no.

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Be proactive. And get inside of a situation where you can advise people you should not bring this person to this mosque, you shouldn't do it. There's a person that innovated you shouldn't listen to this one.

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There is a

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clip going around of an Afro Caribbean guy who speaks in Speaker's Corner. And he's talking about transaction transvestites, and things like that. And when he says makes all the sense in the world, if you listen to it, and you knew nothing about this guy, you will say Wow, the hackers with him. When I first heard it, the Hawk is with him. But then I found in Speaker's Corner, I found out in Speaker's Corner, this guy talked very vile against Islam, the Muslims, Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu

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wasallam. So I'm not going to send that thing around. And I'm going to tell people don't send that around. Because you make her wage, you pedal this guy's down, people listen to that. That's like dessert for them. But then they'll turn to other stuff

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they can possibly turn to other stuff. And I'm talking about even Muslims, because there are some Muslims who go overboard with people because of their color. Asian people do it. Black people do it. Our people do it. African people do it. We have i Serbia, because he's Afro Caribbean. I'm Afro centric.

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I'm fiercely proud to be who I am and where I come from. But I am not going to call for all my brother. And I'm gonna go to call every Afro Afro black person by means my brother, no, we're not going to do that. But some people don't have the balance. So the point here is one,

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given the see her to the community is warning the community about situations and whether we're talking here, warn them about this book. You have to warn them about that book. Yeah, but the chef was a great chef and a less than Al Eman Mohiuddin Razali Abu Hamad Al Azhar it was from the earlier marvelous that

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no one Mr. Vallisneria. But some of his books, some of his positions, you have to be careful. So you tell people don't read that book. Don't read that book. Why? Because in the book, there's some dessert, but also in that book, there's some problems. That's just an example of one. number four and number four, it's permissible to talk about someone in his absence when he's not there. If it is an individual who

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he's doing Fisk in public. He's a well known criminal, a well known criminal here in Birmingham, and island rock and

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that place over there.

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In Aston, I don't know anybody and ask them this this place by the bridge.

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Sparkbrook in Sparkhill.

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We have Muslims who sell drugs, they are the drug dealers, whatever the drug happens to be. They are well known for this in the city of Birmingham, every city has it. So I don't want the police come into me and say you send in a class, you know, so I never said I know the person I'm talking about. It's just in our community. People sell drugs, and they are well known to be the criminals. It's permissible to say to your kid, I don't want you hanging out with him. Your nephew and those people

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hang out with your kids and your nephews and so I don't want you hanging out with him. I don't want you going to his house. Why? Because he's a criminal. You're saying that in his absence, is that Heba? No one that's not Heba because he's making open fist. He's making open fist. The Prophet says Salah what he was telling him that Allah say call mighty Mirtha l Mujahideen, all of my ummah will be forgiven, except those who broadcast they say out also Allah. Prophet Muhammad said, all of my

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OMA will be forgiven, except those who broadcast their sins. They say Yato so Allah will the ones who broadcast he said, the ones who make mistakes, they do sense and Allah covered it up, but then they come and tell people what they're doing. So these people are loud and proud about what they're doing, what they were, what they drive, how they are.

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So if a person is an open center like that, as they said, that he but to learn faster, that's not an authentic hadith. And it's not necessarily true. There is no Heba for the first step who was doing open sins and doing madness doing madness. The next and last two is the one who gives the fatwa someone is coming for an Islamic ruling. He wants to get in with Slavic ruling. There was a lady from the Companions Her name was Hynde, the daughter of earthbath May Allah be pleased with her. She

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was married to one of the great companions Abu Soufiane rob the Allahu Anhu.

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She came and say God Rasul Allah, your companionable Soufiane doesn't give me enough sadaqa enough, never enough money for me and my kid. He's not giving me enough money.

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He's giving me the bare minimum and that's not even enough.

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The hadith said that she said, he is Shaheed

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Really, really, really close *. MiSeq he holds back. Can I take from his money without his knowledge? What will be enough for me and my child? She needs a rule in the footwork. Is that permissible? Yeah, Rasul Allah. When he's asleep, when he's not there, he left money here and there. Can I take from his money? Is it Hala? Was that stealing? Is that oppression? Can I do that? The Prophet of Rama SallAllahu it will send them said to that lady, hold the magic fake.

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Take what is enough for you and your child Bill my roof and only take what is my roof? What is reasonable? What is necessary.

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So the man from amongst us, he may not be giving his wife the money that she needs every week, or every month. He's not getting tight *. This hadith allows that lady, if she sees 10 pounds here, 20 pounds there that she knows that he doesn't remember that in his clothes was this money and that money. She can take that money as long as she knows. It's not going to make a bigger fitna. It's not going to make a big enough. Can she go she can go into his stuff and take it as long as she

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knows it's not going to be a bigger fitna. If it's going to be a bigger fitna, Mike is going to divorce her. It's going to be a bigger fitna. He's going to chastise her. It's going to be a bigger fitna, it's going to destroy the marriage and the family that he's there. He doesn't play that. Not only is he tight *, that dude is rough,

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rough and cleaner. And if you come in and they say but what about the hadith of Ben Terrazza? He said the Hadith Are you are you in doing?

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So if she knows that she has to have some FIP about the issue, she has to have some FIP so when she asked the Prophet for this fatwa, she had to mention about the man sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told

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the lady came.

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Fatima, Ben to pace. Ya rasool Allah

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Ah, yeah rasool Allah, I need to know something

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to have your companions, they want to marry me.

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Abu Jahan wants to marry me. And while we are the son of Abu Sofia, the son of Abu Sufian wants to marry me, both of these two men. And neither one of them knows neither one of them knows that the other one wants to marry. Because if you know that, a man has gone to ask for a lady's hand in marriage, you can't get involved, as the Prophet said some lady was sending. The Muslim is a brother of another Muslim. He doesn't disbelieve them. He doesn't hand them over to his enemy. He doesn't

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short change them and chick Cheatham and Chip him when he's doing business with him. And he doesn't try to marry a woman that he's trying to marry. If he doesn't know about it. That's a different story. In this case, neither one of them know. So that lady came out also love both of them want to marry me. I need your advice. I need your advice. Should I marry them? He said as for him while we are who was the son of Abu Sufian the one who didn't give to the lady, hand been taught by May Allah

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be pleased with him. His son while we

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used to be living in the masjid Rasul Allah said as for more Alia, he's sai Luke, la Mandela, who is poor. He doesn't have any money. He's living in the masjid. He can't take care of you. He's a good, strong person, a good Muslim, but he doesn't have money. He's not gonna be able to take care of you. And that's where this other man I will judge him. This man. He doesn't take his stick. He stays cast his staff off of his shoulder his Eisah law yadda yadda yadda. I saw one article, he doesn't take

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his thing off of his shoulder. What do you think that means? He doesn't take his staff that he walks with his cane. He doesn't take the stick that he walks with. He doesn't take it off of his shoulders. What do you think that means?

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He's ready to hit his wife.

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I hit people. Because the other Hadid said who was the robin when he said he will hit his wife.

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And that's why the Prophet addressed this issue with the Companions, rather the alignment when he heard the men were hitting their wives. He said the one who hits his wife, he's not the best of you. And I'm the best of you to my wives, and I don't hit my wives, because that was something that was in this society. And he came and he, he got a grip on that thing. He eradicated that thing. But it was part of the practice of the Arabs who Jamelia they would deal with their wives. Prophet Muhammad

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came and taught them Pharaoh, come hire me or leave when only the best of us the best of you to your families, and I'm the best one to my family, and then hit them sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So that man Prophet told them about this, and that is evil. Sahiba something that is something being mentioned the absence that they don't like, but it is that he will that's permissible. So the Prophet told them salah they sent him I told the lady

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don't marry this one don't marry that one, marry, who Salman bin Hussein, and he introduced a third candidate, because none of them knew about each other. This one I didn't know about that one, that one and all that, and neither one of them knew about salmon. But Jose, as long as no one knows that you're trying to get the hang of the same woman that is permissible. Last situation. What if Allah is when people go to someone or group of people in an attempt to try to stop evil?

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Try to stop evil.

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Right next door right here. They're going to bring a snooker club, that little building right next to green lane next to the car park over here. It's an accounting plate, someone wants to put a snooker club there. And that's Nuka club, it's going to sell camera shut off. And that's new club is going to attract the worst of the people of small Heath. And the one who came up with the idea of the snooker club is one of our Muslim brothers. So we say here in tomorrow's cookbook, the Joomla

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Hey, there is a snooker club that's going to be started here tomorrow. And I need your help that we're going to start this thing from going forward. And then it comes out who's the proprietor and who's the guy who's doing it. He doesn't like that. He doesn't want people to know, he's the one. It doesn't want his name to be mentioned, when you come to say to people come and help me to deal with this.

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And whatever the moon cut is, there's a brother who's married to a sister, and he's beaten her up. He's violent. He's extremely violent with her. And she's my sister. She's my niece. She's my neighbor. I need you, you, you, you and you to come with me. We got to talk to this brother, because he has a real serious temper. And if he gets, you know, upset, he gets

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subset, all five of us, we're going to deal with him.

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We're all five of us are going to deal with him.

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So he doesn't like the fact that his wife told us he doesn't like the fact that we know about it. But we're trying to make the xalatan monka. So as it relates to this hadith when he this hadith of the newbies cell number one is straight from the Hadith Number one,

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don't want to be like that man who the Prophet described SallAllahu and he will send them number two, beware of people who are like that, if you know people like that, and maybe you can think and it will register in your mind, the worst behaved person that I deal with, and I know and so on, so on, so on. So I really have a hadith here that's telling me there's a way to deal with him, tried to avoid him to the best of my ability because Prophet said, the worst people are those people who

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people avoid them out of fear of the evil.

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I'm gonna deal with him in a managed environment. The other thing that we want to take from today's doubles is leaving FIBA leaving riba unless it has a religious, religious, or religious

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support to it. And this is from the tricks of a shaytaan that he will make people think that he but that you're doing is religious. Now that river that many of us do has nothing to do with the religion. We don't want to be of those people who the shaytaan trick

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Dean by those scholars said, they said that was scholars have we had today is that this is not this is not a joke with ideal. This is Riba and the guise of Jehovah ideal. All right, if any of you guys have any questions, you could ask your questions, but we're only going to do for two minutes. I gotta get out of here to take the train Shala I gotta get out of here to take the train. Highlander come shape further. Yeah. Why you sent away over here today?

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say it again.

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If you mentioned something good behind someone's back.

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You mentioned something good and something bad. There's a religious reason to mention something good. And to mention something bad about someone. There's nothing wrong with that if there's a religious reason, for an example, an individual.

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He wants to do that snooker club, and we have to go and step to him and deal with it. And we say about him here, man. He's doing this snooker club but mashallah, he's praying in the masjid every day. So let's deal with him in a nice way. We don't want to run them away from the Masjid. So there's nothing wrong if there's a religious reason to mention it. And nothing wrong with that. Any more questions? One any more questions? For the

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does it apply to non Muslims? No, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he gave the definition of riba Good question. He said he was mentioning something about your brother in his absence. Something that he doesn't like the non Muslims not our brother in law my Munna what to the believers are brothers one to another, but the Muslim is not the one who just walks around wholesale he's talking bad about now Muslims that's not from good o'clock as Allah mentioned in the Quran for

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kulula NASCI Kira colonists Krsna say to the people, Muslims and non Muslims say good to him. Say good to him.

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Any more questions and 20 Okay, have a what's Allah who was selling them robotic? I don't know beginner. What

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