The Islamic Personality – Episode 28

Abu Usamah At-Thahabi

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Until what he hears that response and he takes it back to the people started. And then this destroys families, relationships, friendships, and so forth and so on. Now, that is if the person is doing that with the golden the objective to make fitna and facade problems between people. But if a person is trying to make Islam, and he's trying to bring people together, and that case is permissible to even live, he says a lot while he was selam lacell Kadabra levy useless who Balan, nice. He is not a liar, the one who tells a lie in order to make peace between people. So he goes to this person, and he says, knowing that this brother has a problem with this brother over here, he goes and says, Hey,

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listen, I was with him. And we had lunch today. And he was speaking good about you. And he was saying he was sorry for what transpired between you and him. And he wants to apologize, he sent me to apologize to you. When that person hears that, he's gonna come down and he's gonna accept his apology. He goes to that other person. Listen, that guy told me that he's sorry for what happened in the apologizes to you. And then he was allowed to lie in Ellis lamb to make Islam.

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We're on the other hand, the one who carries tails, he is carrying the tail to do what to destroy the relationship between people. It is one of the worst characteristics that a person can have. It is something that is from the major sins and Lsn. It breaks society up breaks marriages up communities up families up. It is a big problem. The person who does this has a sickness. And it's common. And there's social media area, we have social media, you can be in two separate WhatsApp groups, and one group and one group that people appear as if they like you, you'll find them in the other group talking about you, the people from the same group, the other group that you're in,

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that's how it is. So the Muslim has to avoid being a person who hears what people says. And then he carries it to the other people. And you have to remember that Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he said, Al Majid is Bill Amana and majelis bill Amana when you sit and you have sittings with people, your friends, what is said in that sitting should remain amongst the people who said it. If someone were to say something in that city and about someone else, maybe what he said was Haram. Maybe it was Heba. Maybe, while you're listening to it, you should stop him from saying it. You shouldn't take those words out and then say, you know what he said about you, in that

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meeting will lie, I'm telling you the truth. Like he said it, he said that you're this and you're this and you're that the natural response of that individual is that he's going to get angry, and then he's going to allow something to come out of his mouth. And then that person takes that back to the one who started the problem off.

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So it was a terrible issue. And it's bad for a number of reasons. He's only going to we're only going to mention three of them. Just three, and there are many. One reason is because in Ellis lamb, the Brotherhood of Ellis lamb is crucial. It's important, it shouldn't be compromised. We shouldn't be of those people understand that we should use Islam to compromise the Brotherhood of Islam by talking about people and warning about people we actually think we actually think and is heard or as horror or, as we mentioned so many times, Xena shaytaan lo Han Soo Imani. The person thinks he is actually getting close to Allah by warning against people and talking about people and it's just

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people a call is things that have not been established. If there are this Kevin is mubadala is how you don't like him. He doesn't like you. So people are talking about each other, making 10 fear tip D that fear is not permissible. So if an individual were to carry tells between people, he's compromising the Brotherhood of Al Islam, which is sacred is from the shy ear of Al Islam. That lick will make them shy. You're laughing now I'm into polka lube. And these days we don't have this issue is something we have a lot of tau and in it. So as it relates to the issue Allah has mentioned in Milan, the believers are brothers, we are brothers one to another, who in his right mind, who in his

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right mind is going to compromise his relationship with his biological brothers. His own family is going to do things

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They're going to cause them to hate each other and be enemies one to another who does that set an individual has a sickness in his head on his heart, something's wrong with them. And I'll assign the IMA Muslims brothers. So I have a religious responsibility to safeguard the Brotherhood and not to compromise it. And then being brothers, we saw with the companions of the Prophet sallallahu it was sending them around the Align him the high level and degree of brotherhood that they exemplified and they illustrate it to the people a lot described in the Quran. Muhammad Rasulullah he went levena Mara was she that one confetti? Ruhama beno Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam, and those people who are with him read the love line whom they are strong against the disbelievers and they are merciful amongst themselves. Where is the Rama? Where is the mercy? Where is the mercy? Where you will hear someone say something and then you take that to someone else and go back and forth in order to make fitness for said, Where's the Rockman that allowed to describe the believers in the Quran? Avila meaning is it an animal care feeding? The believers are those people who are gentle, merciful, easy towards the believers. And they have amazing strength my power against the non Muslims at the proper time at the proper place. So the first reason why carrion

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tells a NEMA is from the major sins is because it compromises the whole of Ellis lamb. That brotherhood that the Prophet brought some of the love while he was setting them and he put a lot of focus and emphasis upon it when he came with this Deen when he came with this dollar. Second reason is the fact that the nibio sallallahu alayhi wa sallam prohibited us from being this individual Islam and Arabic is called the vulva chain. The person who has two faces he has two faces he said something a lot while he was sending them to you doing that shutter NASA levy yet he had a be watching what he what you can.

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And another idea he said dial watch chain and let the Yeti let you be watch. We're yet to be watching which he said that the worst person the worst person is the one who comes to these people and he shows one face to them. And then he leaves them and he goes to another people and he shows another face to them. He's with the Muslims. And when the with the Muslims. He's praying and Mashallah, he's using miswak and he's fast and Ramadan. And he's doing all of those things. Mashallah. But when he's with his non Muslim friends and relatives and neighbors and the people we work with, he's cursing, he's swearing, he's drinking, he's not praying. He's acting like them. He's

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even ridiculing and making fun of Islam. Voting, which has been the one who has two faces, as many examples, has many examples. When abuse of the law while he was on he was selling them. He used to warn his community about being of the people who had two faces, you have to be a man, and you have one face. Unlike the United Kingdom, hypocrite, he has two faces. It comes to the Muslim community. He's acting as if he has a Mandela.

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When he leaves the Muslim community, he wishes evil for Islam and the Muslim community. Some people came to Abdullah in Oman, may Allah be pleased with them. After the death of the Prophet sallallahu it was sending them when we started to get bad rulers ruling over the Muslims. And some of these bad rulers, they were ruling over the companions. The Companions may Allah be pleased with them did not make who ruled against them. And some of the companions who didn't give the beta to some of them and they fought against some of those bad leaders. That happened with a few of them, a minority from amongst me law be pleased with them, after they saw the evil effect of that the companions as a

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general body and they have the majority. And the people of the Sunnah said this is not the way of dealing with the ruler was a bad person. We have to give him his rights and try to change the condition of the community without fighting against the rule, because it's going to be a problem. We had some companions though, there was some issues, there were some issues where they didn't get with the program with the rule at that particular time, run the Allahu anhu. But the main hedge of the majority of the companions and what was accepted later on after them is don't fight against and don't revolt against the rule of some of the people

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came to up to live in my main lobby please over them. They said, you know, when we entered upon the Sultan, the leader, we looked at him and we say things to him that we don't really believe. And then when we leave him and we sit amongst ourselves, we start talking to each other about how we really feel about him and the situation. I'm delighted in my main lobby pleased with him. And his father said, during the time of the Prophet, some of the law while he was setting them, we used to consider that to be hypocrisy. That's the fact that you will stand in front of a person and talk as if everything is okay. And then when you leave that individual, you're talking bad behind his back,

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stabbing him behind his back, be a man and say in front of him what you believe. And this is what the prophet sallallahu Sallam when he said that the best jihad, the best jihad is for you to say the truth in the face of an oppressive ruler. Why? Why? Because if you said the truth of what you believe about him in his situation, you run the risk of being persecuted, being put to death being put in jail.

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The best you had is not the rule is somewhere, wherever he happens to be in the capital city, or wherever he's happened to be, and you're in the UK, and you're talking about third rule law. And you're in the privacy of your own home, and you're talking about the rule of law. Anybody can do that. Anybody can do that. But the best jihad, authentic hadith of jihad kennametal ha fi watch. So Carmen j in the best Jihad saying the truth in the face to the face of an oppressive ruler, so when not to live in or out of a lobby pleased with her that this was the behavior of the people he told them. This is a sign of hypocrisy, to faces, so acquainted before we go on to the third and the last

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example he shot live, why this issue is bad. Don't be of the people has two phases. don't meet with Jimena two people, there's a person, you feel a particular way about them, but you don't show them you actually have Batman believing that you and him are okay. But in reality when he when he's not around you, you're making veba about him, you're eating his flesh. There's a hadith that we have to mention before going to the third point in shout lies with jazz. And that is, the man came to the house of the prophet SAW the loved one he was sending them in, he knocked on the door. And when the people came in, say Jada, so Allah is so and so's knocking on the door, should we let him in

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Rasulullah sallallahu. It was sending them what a evil man he is. This man is an evil person. We know him for spreading evil and mischief and fitna, and in Medina, he's a bad person. And then in my house, he says, a bad person. They said, should we let him in? He said, Let him in. When the man came in

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the Navy Salalah while he was sending him started speaking good to him. Are you been? How's your family? How's your health and so forth and so on, and treating them nice. And then the man life? When the companions saw that, especially our mother, our Isha, they were students, may Allah be pleased with them. They didn't let things happen, go past them, and they just will be quiet about it. She said, yeah. Also, Lola, when the man knocked on the door, you said what you said. And then when we allow two men, you treated them in a different way. He gave her the reason for that. He says Allah Allahu wa he was sending them rarely the worst people, those people who, the community, the

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individuals, they are afraid of them and the evil that they may cause them. So there may be an individual there may be an individual who you have to say some things in his face because if you don't say things in his face, that you really don't believe he's going to do harm to you. He's going to do harm to you he's going to harm you. And no shape form of fashion was the Prophet sallallahu it was sending them scanner that man and no shape form of fashion was the Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a person who had two faces Hi, Shayla, no way in the world, no way in the world. So never read that Hadith. And thing is this a case of vulva chain Kela will lie. That's a case of the

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Prophet teaching people that there are people that you may come in contact with. You may not like them, they're from your relatives. So you have to go to the dentist. So you have to go to the minima. You have to go the to the nigga, you have to accept them when they come to your house, because not to go or not to accept them is going to create a bigger problem. So for the young brothers, we want to make mention of this because sometimes we approach things like is black and white and there's no gray area. So he says

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I have to deal with everybody the way I feel with them in the face or I'm not going no, yeah, it's not like that. That's your uncle.

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That's your mother's brother, your father's brother. That's someone who has some position that would dictate and necessitate your presence is there. So by going there and not being a hypocrite by being sociable and taking it easy, the third reason that whiny why this issue is a really serious issue is because of what the nibi mentioned about things like this. He said something a lot while he was on it was selam Allah of bureau can be of the Mandara jet as cm wa Salatu was sadhaka carlu Bella jasola. Sharon, I tell you people, what is more better of this more superior and virtuous? We just praise a lot of money that's virtuous. We're going to praise it out in Asia inshallah virtuous.

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We're going to fast some people with fasting today on Thursday fasting. He said, Do you want to know what is more virtuous than praying, fasting and given sadaqa? fee? Sabina? They say yes, we would like to know. He said, it's law that will Bane, that you make peace between people.

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That you make it your business, that if you're in a position to make peace between two people who are being upset, you should go ahead and make that happen. It's from the best buy that in LS land. And I think we all know, people who have problems with other people. So if you're in a position where you could be the key that opens up the door of good, then that's what you do. He went on to mention and this is the point for inner if sad that that and Bain Hale hollyford. To now call her later to let him know

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when i can and Hanukkah allottee tied to Dean. He said if you want to know is better than Salah song and sadaqa it is for you to make peace between people.

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He said because breaking up relationships between people. It is the razor. He said I don't say it's the razor that cuts your hair, shave your hair off. It is the razor that will shave your dean and cut your dean mean in your DS that you perform will be rendered null and void and you will destroy them. So if sad that could have been what facade that has been destroying people's relationship is a serious issue. And authentic ID if you mentioned sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in this regard. Lisa men not men hubub Emre Atlanta, Georgia. He is not from us, the man who spoils his wife as it relates to her husband, meaning the wife has a friend. The wife has a sadita, a sister, her

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biological sister, her father, her mother, the wife has someone and they're advising her. And they're saying to her, you shouldn't listen to him. You shouldn't be obedient, you should listen, you should leave the house. there instead of telling her Fiala that man is your door to gender. We don't allow him to oppress you, but you have to do the right thing. So the person is advising her with the heart.

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hold back your anger, be patient, go for arbitration. That's the advice you should give her. But there are those people who say to the wife when their issues, the wife comes and start talking about a husband, for example. She's complaining, my husband did this. He did that he doesn't do this. He doesn't do that. That's what I have to deal with him. There's that. There's that sister when she hears that she says, Oh, he's no good.

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You should steal his money, you should hide the money. You should do this, you should do that you shouldn't obey Him. So the Prophet said someone loved what he was sending them. Anyone who makes the abeba and he destroys a woman and the relationship between her and her husband. They're not from us enough from the people of Al Islam. Not that they're kuffaar not that they're kuffaar is a hadith I've been worried for exaggeration has shown that it is a serious issue. Why? Because Islam came to put things together and not to break things apart like these relationships. So the issue of a NEMA carry Intel's those are just three of the many reasons why is one of the worse one of the worst

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characteristics. And one of the major cuts that

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he made just a little while he was at home total janetta contact. That's the same Muslim. Another narration law your total johnetta Ma'am, the person who

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Karis tails will not go into general. Some of the scholars said won't go into gentleman's why they won't go into gender right away.

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Or it can mean the one who believes carrion tells his halali makes it stand lol of it. point is it goes to show us a major sin. When Allah Muhammad Bukhari brought the narration, the one who makes the Mima when I go into Jana, he made the Bab now Amina is from the major sense is from the Akbar Al Qaeda air from the biggest of the major senses from the worst characteristics and quite a few people have it. Quite a few people have taken people's column that you hear and sharing it with the people who they said that column about it. Terrible characteristic. The Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was walking with his companions in a graveyard. And he looked at two graves and he said to the

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people some of the law while he was setting them in high veiny lay you at the band will argue at the band fee Kabir. These two occupants of this grave they are being punished and then not being punished for something that people think is big. People think it's small, but it's big.

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He said I'm gonna have as for the first one kind of like a stutter men and bold. The first one did not clean themselves from urine, a Chroma Kamala.

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When he used to go to the toilet, he would go to the toilet standing up. So when the urine hits, the urinal is splashing all over the place. It splashes into the water and the water comes on his clothes, it hits the urinal, and it comes on his clothes, he misses and hits the floor and gets on his clothes.

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So when he takes his clothes off, and he puts his clothes in the basket with the dirty clothes, he has urine.

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How can you make a lot with ninjetta? How, how.

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So for our youngsters, claiming this is from the dean got to take care of your hygiene, you have to keep your room clean, you have to take care of just exemplifying that high level of where lsmw said about Nevada, especially with women, even more so with women.

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So that's the first one. He used to not pay attention to clean themselves. You have to make a stink job. You cannot go into the toilet and your university and your high school and your primary school or wherever you go to school. And you just get on the toilet and go to the toilet like non Muslims, you can't do that.

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You have to be careful how you sit. And if you stand how you stand, you have to take precautions and you have to use water and make a stingy, stingy. If you don't have water then you do a stigma with the tissue The important thing, don't just go to the toilet and put your clothes on and that's it. He's being punished. And then the second one and the second one is the point. He says I love what he was saying them and no one can am she being a nice dinner Mima. As for the second one, he used to walk between the people and exists with the people and used to carry tells he used to make the Mima so this goes to show that it is a major sin. It is a major, major major sin

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the third Hadeeth and there are a number of them. He asked a question someone loved while he was selling them a lot of Barrow comm b e r e comm Shanna tell you who's the best from amongst you. They say yes, they are also labella who he said A levena is a row vokera law. Those people from amongst you who when people see them, they remember Allah.

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They remember law because of the guy. The lady appears to be righteous. They're soft, spoken, well behaved, very respectful and respectable. They had that, hey, I have a person who's religious, they looked at that way. Allah knows the best as to the people's reality never get tricked and fooled by people. But when we see people and they behave a certain way they have what is known as a subject, the way they come out and the way they appear the way they deal with people.

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So if you see them, they share. You think that this chef, he has tequila and he has water and you think what you see in public is the same picture that he has in private.

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He said they are the best ones from amongst you. And also the meaning of that is when you see them, they remind you of Allah meaning that giving you down with Allah they

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Give you down Don't do this don't do that. Hey, why don't you do that? Hey Don't get angry. Hey have several they reminding you of Allah, they have the best ones. The one when he gives the hook by you see him when you see him, he's giving you down with Allah. They're the best ones and then he mentioned some of the love while he was Salah. Shannon I tell you, who are the worst ones from amongst you that people say yes, you're also law who are the voice ones from amongst us. He says something a lot while he was telling them and Masha una una Mima, that people who exists and they carry tells amongst the people they go back and forth carry Intel's signing indication is 20 that a

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NEMA is serious and then the man the one who does not mean it is the know man. Yo mukaiyama Allah won't look at the man. Allah won't speak to the man and Elijah JAL won't purified the know man. So there is a book by an Imam and the hubby Rahmatullahi tala Allah He is called Kitab al Qaeda in he brought a number of Ayat of the Quran, a number of a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa it was sending them telling us about the issue of an amoeba and how it is a big sin you go back, you check that out, oh, inshallah I want to share with you some of the ayat of the Quran that speak about an enema

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that some of the men when they gave the Tafseer of the Quran they said this is talking about in the minima had the scholar not mentioned that if you and I just read the Quran and this is and ours on our own, you won't get this is talking about NEMA. The Arab who sit in the audience if he reads that if he won't get that that's talking about that meme and then the man but just to share with you like the statement of Allahu taala and sort of attack creme de la who method and Linda Dina kifaru m Ratan ombre Toluca, qanat. Tata at danamon de batinah Sally hain for HANA tahu ma for Lem yoke Nia and Huma, she

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may Allah Allah has given an example a similar tool, the similar tool for the disbelievers. Allah has given them an issue to look at and to consider the wife of no and the wife of law.

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Nor is a messenger load is a messenger from the best of the people during their time. They are the best of the people. Both of them were married to two irreligious women. And they were under these two righteous slaves, but they may Fianna they were treacherous towards their husbands. And the fact that they were married to these two men, it didn't benefit them at all. A lot of said, yo pm is going to be said to them, enter into the Hellfire with the people who are the dakini go to the hellfire. Some of the Islam said this is talking about a NEMA. Because because they are women. They weren't going to their people telling them. This is a situation with no. This is a situation with

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lot.

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He has guests, he's going to do this. He said this, he said that. He's pondering over this and pondering over that. So the wife will come to the husband with one face, go to the community with another with another face. So that's Mima. And it's from the worst type of mimimi as well. Then the minima where the person is doing that to the meat, we should have the back of our wives, wives are not perfect. And we as men, we're not perfect as well. And many times you'll find that the fitting in the drama of the man is more than the fitting in the drama of the woman. Although sometimes the film the drama of the woman is more like in the case of this is to prophets Salawat de la he was

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sent amlani Hema that women are giving them drama. So what's the piano? Some people say piano, which means to be treacherous. It can mean also a woman who steps out on her husband, and she has relationships with other men. That's piano like the sign of the Mona fit is three. Is that to Mina Connor. If you leave him with a trust, he'll betray that trust you'll betray you. So one of the meanings of piano is a woman steps out on her husband with another man. That's piano. This is something that is Mr. Hale can happen with the prophets and the messengers. It's now possible

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because

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A lot protects them divinely from such an issue. So that's not the meaning of the ayah the meaning of the iron is they may know Mima they will go to their husbands enemies and inform them of the secrets of the husband when he was pondering what he was about to do, what he was saying what he was thinking, and then come back to him as if everything was okay. So that's one of the eyes of NEMA. Another is his statement of a level Tyler way moonlit Cooley whom as a to know Meza, the scholar said that this word is meaning NEMA, this is Whoa, and to every wretched person who is doing NEMA Wade nicolini, whom is a new Mazda that is talking about NEMA. The second is the third is another

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one of the smallest surahs of the Quran surah

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about Abu lahab that he mentioned subhana wa tada one rato homiletical hottub, the wife of Abu lahab his wife will carry the fuel of the Hellfire, the hottap

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the scholar said, this is a keen idea that the meaning here is she's carrying the hottap the fuel which is the wood, but the word here is talking about the Mima. She used to carry the Mima in the society in Mecca, go to this one and say a they said this about chill go back over there and said they said that about you and that was one of the fitness that she was well known for. And as a result of that she was mentioned in this port on in this I have the Quran being described as the one who was carrying the Mima. She's carrying tails and why is it called hardtop? Why is the NEMA called hottap because it's going to be the thing that's going to burn her up. So Allah gave it that name

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subhanahu wa taala. Another is in sort of Tulum, Allahu taala mentioned that to Terry, coda laffin, maheen, hamazon, Masha, Bella Nene and do not listen to and do not pay attention to the person who is always swear and will lie, he will lie, he will lie he but he is moving, is ignoble is a person who is very lowly. He's a person, you know, he's not practicing. He's an evil person, but he's always swearing. Don't listen to him, don't obey him. Don't pay attention to him. He is a person who allies are described as

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Musha Binyamin. He is a person who's walking around carrying tales between people go into and going fro make a fitna and making facade and can call him a whiny concerning this issue that we don't want to be upon this lesson. Listen.

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If there is someone that you don't like,

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and you don't like them,

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then don't smile on his face. And don't scan and grin in his face as if everything is cold between you and him. And then when you leave his audience and you leave him, you talk about him, you stab him in his back and you eat his flesh. That's a sign that you are a coward.

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You're a chump, you're a coward.

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Avoid the person all together if you can do that. And if you have to mix with them, if you have to mix with them, then just don't say what is not in your heart. And when you leave his presence, don't talk about

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the great scholar of Al Islam al Imam Al ghazali. an Imam Al ghazali, has a book called Luma Dean. And the amendment was that he was a person of the soul Wolf, no doubt about it. He was a person who had an nakida that was not the arcade of the self of this oma, Robbie allow him to lie to him. But nonetheless, he's a great scholar. And now Islam from the shatter he meant that he had a lot of knowledge in a solo film. And the book that he wrote, he had a Luma Dean overall is a good book. It has some really good buckles in it some really good subjects that he dealt with, and it's a beneficial book. But there are other books that the Muslim will use the student of knowledge before

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he used that book.

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Nonetheless, one of the main beneficial things that he said in the book is when he talked about the Mima he gave some advice in his own mind, he said, if someone comes to you like this

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spreading tales to you about what someone else said about you, your brother in law, your co worker, your ex wife, people in the masjid your mutual friends.

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He or she comes to you, and starts to carry tells about what those people said to you now when that person comes to you, and they're saying, Listen, let me tell you what someone's soul has said about you. And I'm telling the truth, what llahi.

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And remember, Rosati said, six things you should do.

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First of all, you should prohibit the person and give him advice, and make the best of what he's doing a, it's not acceptable for you to do this. You're a student of knowledge, and you're doing that. This is what the facade do the evil people do that. Don't Don't come tell me what these people said about me. There's no religious reason and benefit for you to say that, don't do that. So you should stop them. Hey, don't do that. Don't tell me what they said about me. giving them advice, those ideas and those ahaadeeth. No, load their women. Allah mentioned about them.

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His wife, Allah mentioned about that. The man won't go into the agenda. The man is in the Hellfire being punished the worst of our own mother, people who make facade between the people who gave them that dow that naseeha. Second of all, don't believe what they say.

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Don't believe it. It may be true. But don't believe it. Don't believe it. By believing it. You open up the door for fitna drama, you make him successful in what he was trying to do, and what she was trying to do. And that is destroy the relationship between you and that people. Listen. Some people as we told you, I believe last week, about a sure that

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greed made the people of the pass, shed each other's blood. I made a state of the Muharram.

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So the one who is stingy, but he'll he's stingy. He doesn't want to get from his own money. He doesn't want to give. But the Shaheed he wants your money, he wants his money, and he wants your money as well. He doesn't like that you have money. He wants all of what Allah gave you, in your house, your car, everything.

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The man is like that as well. The man, the man, he doesn't like someone he doesn't like them, he doesn't want you to like them as well, it's not enough that he doesn't like them, just leave it you don't like a mess between you and your Lord. That's not enough for him, he has to go the extra step, she has to do more efforts, wants to make sure that you don't like that individual as well. So when that person comes to you, and they start to say that, don't believe them, don't believe them. Number three, don't go looking for and researching and trying to get to the bottom of it. If you can avoid that, don't do it. If it's something that can be avoided, something that is touching, Your Honor,

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something then you allow to do that in a confession from the neighbor. And for the baby know, if someone who's evil comes to you with some news, then ascertain as to its validity, so that you don't unknowingly harm someone else, you know, harm them. So if you have to, then no problem, you want to get to the bottom of it to sort something out. People are saying things about your honor, and it can hurt you in this way. That way, then you can get to the bottom of it. But if you can afford it, just let it go. Next thing that he mentioned Rahmatullahi tada la he is that you should have a good opinion about the one who they're mentioning that to you.

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He said this he said that about you have an oven about the one who was your brother Nell Islam, have a good opinion and don't allow someone to come and change your opinion. I mean, he is that.

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I mean, he is that.

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I mean, number five, when he mentioned that you should hate that individual, if you persist upon what he's doing. Because it's something that Allah hates to have bought for that individual. You tell them don't do that. It's not a nice thing. If he persists, he comes to you goes back to them comes to you, then this is something that will guarantee or warrant a person hating him. Fifth or number six, the last one, he said, don't you go after you heard that from him? Don't you go and say, you know what someone so said about me? Do you know what someone's so told me that so and so said about me Don't do that? Because if you do that now you'll be making the Mima. So he came to you and

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he said, Hey, they said about you as this and this and that.

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Leaving don't go and say hey, you know what someone's so sad about

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Me, I was so and so what those people told him about now you're making the Mima you're making the Mima so just leave the issue altogether and conclude him honey the issue of a Nima Kabir a minute cabana, here, it is a whole loop, a type of characteristic

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that is rejected in Islam in strong terms. Let us not be from amongst those people in any shape form of fashion and allies Rahman McFerrin Mashallah, and his awful is MK Luba, if you brothers have any questions shot like put your question forward for the big smile.

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So the brothers asking if

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dealing with the issue of an A Mima is Nima specially for is it only for something that said in private between one or two people, a few people? So a few people are discussing something 234 people and then one of them, two of them, maybe three of them, they take that tail and carry it to the one who was said about one person or two people or three people? Is it a small number?

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That doesn't have to be a small number doesn't necessarily have to be a small number. If someone mentioned something in public, in a public assembly, where everybody is listening to that issue, and he mentioned something about someone who was not there, he wasn't there. And the person was there and he heard it. Or he didn't have to be there. He heard it. From a recording he read it. He takes that information to the person who was said about with the goal and the objective of making fitna that's his knee and he knows he didn't hear it. We had this with people listen.

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People will say something about what transpired.

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And you say something for an example about the shape of our share about something. A person will take that column to a shake and say someone so said this about you. He misconstrue what was said he'll lie. He'll add he'll subtract. He won't give the context. When the chef hears what was said. The chef may speak out against that individual is something that people do and have been doing.

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calling it the religion and column the Sunnah. So we saw that a lot. And that's why the scholars said that the Mufti the Mufti is the seer of the must fit. The Mufti is the captive of the one who's asking the question, because the Mufti is going to answer based upon what the question is. So if someone comes and say, and share, so and so said that you're ignorant.

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Someone so said that you don't know what you're talking about. The chef responds and says, Who is he and he says something like that.

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So an amoeba is not just to 134 or five people, that Mima is taking the column of someone or some people and taking that canal to someone who didn't hear about him, it's about them. And the goal and the objective is to spread mischief, to spread drama. But if someone heard some canal about someone, and they were not there, and he wanted to take that column to them to tell them, hey, listen, you need to sort this thing out, because this is what's being said, and I'm coming and let you know, just to sort it out.

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This is Nana Mima because he doesn't want drama. He doesn't want fitna and Amina is the one who relays and carries the tale with the need of making fitna and like that example that I gave you is a common example among some of our brothers of Allah Hello. Not only those brothers, but people when you want to get your own you want to get your enemy down. So when you have a problem with all you do is you take that cut out, you give it to someone, you don't give the context you don't give what was really say you add on you subtract, and then the person who hears that. You get a response out of him. That's NEMA. Someone else put their hand up for

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the brothers asking about backbiting. If you speak about someone

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and you don't know

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you're talking about someone in the gathering you

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Don't mention his name is that considered to be backbiting?

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People don't know who you're talking about.

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If the people don't know who you're talking about, it's not backbiting. The people don't know who you're talking about. It's not backbiting. It's not backbiting. But to that individual, he may know that you're talking about him, and in his heart that could be considered to be backbiting because the Prophet said backbiting was sallallahu it was sending them Vic ruka democra mentioning something about your brother that he dislikes. he dislikes. The Prophet sallallahu it was setting them mentioned something about people but it wasn't that they disliked it. The three men who made mistakes and the nebby got in front of the people and said, What do you think about this situation

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of a person who did this, and another one did that. And another one did that he didn't mention some secret that they did was bad. To make them dislike what he was mentioning, build out when said he's gonna pray all day that was said, He's gonna fast all the time that was said, he's not gonna get married to women. They're trying to be religious.

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But if you came out and he mentioned something to people, and there's a person in the audience, and he knows for sure that he's talking about them, it could be may not necessarily be backbiting but you have to look at all the details, you have to look at all of the details. But if the people don't know who you're referring to have no idea. And you didn't want fitna from that then this is the way you can teach people to warn people about things that are going on and allies Ireland, Ireland, you brothers have any more questions for the

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we'll answer that later on shala.

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Between us, between us

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now

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the brothers asking about what are some of the books that can take the place of a Luma Dean that Emanuel rosani wrote and some of what lm amritsari put in that book, Rama to lay is not acceptable things that are not consistent with

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the truth. And there are as I mentioned, books that are Ola are better preferable than that one, like we all go solid him serves the same purpose.

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And it's a better book because is a book of AI at an ahaadeeth and some of the explanations of that. So we are the Salahuddin also, the book by the student of absolute Tamia.

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Tamia had a student by the name of ebenen muffler. He has a book called adab, a sherea sherea, the advocates of the sharee Avella slab seminar tool here, Luma. Dean, very similar to it. So a person gets that book, and it's more than enough where he wouldn't necessarily have to use it. Yeah, aluminum Dean. But that's not to say, as I mentioned earlier, that there's no good in that book. If you wanted to read about the physics of the Brotherhood of LS lab, then the book of Le mameluke has, it is one of the best books for that issue. It's one of the best books to give you an understanding of what is the whole of LS Lan, the R can of the Brotherhood of LS Lan, the shadow of the

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Brotherhood of LS Lan, and all of those other issues that he mentioned in that book Rahmatullahi, ie, any more questions and finding any more questions?

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Is it permissible to tell someone that someone else is saying things about them just to warn them?

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This is permissible. This is permissible. The less you say the better it is if you have a good relationship with that brother or that person you say Listen, I'm telling you. You need to be careful about this situation. If your goal in the objective is not to make fitna you remember that? But don't be of the people have heard or again people fool themselves. The person say I'm not wanting to make fitna no you want to make fitna that's why you saying it. But if you have sincerity and you

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You heard something that was incorrect. And you want to warn a person of that thing that this person is saying. And that's permissible as a matter of fact, that's their hock. But maybe what you want to do first is warn the person who said that to you. Hey, don't say that. Why you saying that? Maybe you and him need to talk. And then you won't have to say that to even open up the door. So first, you should try to talk to them individually. Are you saying that felizes agenda. So we know that the companions of the Prophet sallallahu, it was send them when they were traveling. And the monastic cone, who they thought were Muslims, they thought these were their brothers in Islam. They said,

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that Prophet was way up there. So a lot of what he was sending these people said,

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We have never seen a group of people who eat more than Muhammad and his companions. And we have never seen a group of people who talk more in line more than Mohammed in his companions. And we have never seen a group of people who when it's time to meet the enemy to fight, they are so afraid and scared. And they have no courage. One of the companions was there and he heard them say that. He said, Hey, you people are

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saying something like that? He addressed it to them. You people are hypocrites. Talking about the nebby like that sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what's wrong with you? He said, We're lucky. I'm going to go tell the Prophet. He wasn't going to tell the properties that make fitness sad. He was going to tell them to be sold a lot. He was selling them about the presence of the troublemakers in our ranks. These people never came right here.

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So he went to tell

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and then when those people saw what happened, they went and they say, yeah, we were just joking. We were just messing around. We were just, you know, trying to pass the time. We will then believe that you know, just passing the time. He asked him the question of law he were it was also a concern to study on the

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body manickam lateral

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cut. Body mannequin, do you people joke around with a law is iron is messenger. don't offer any excuses disbelievers. So the point here they heard what happened and they went and they told them but they wasn't doing that in order to make fitna they were doing that to warn to warn A is a danger. And a lot of those bets we're gonna stop here in Charlotte make preparation for sanathana Asia in the event of so often he was on the law who was selling robotic I don't know, Bina Well, I know it he was hobby of mine was Salama.