Abu Hafsa – Women Who Make the Feminists Cry

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The initial theme of the talk was to discuss Women in Islam but Abu Hafsah, rather than taking the standard approach decided to show how the Muslim Women are THE MOST empowered member of our communities – and have been for THOUSANDS of years before Women in the West had any rights/power whatsoever.

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The role of women in Islam, the importance of First of all, I'd like to see any of us actually be here without women.

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That's how crucial they are to us, as men gave birth. Yeah. Should I impose a cell phone tax for the brother?

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cell phone tax for the brothers in Sharla? That's 1010 pounds. If I hear that again,

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since you don't have it, it's free for them.

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Actually, that reminds me.

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I did that once in Australia, and my phone rang and had to actually pay my own cell phone.

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So importance of women in Islam. Now this is a topic that has been done in several different ways. Like there's one way to do it, where could stand up and tell you what the woman should do and what they shouldn't do? It could stand up and give you a bunch of rules. Should I do that? You want to hear the rules.

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These women would make the feminist cry.

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They were independent before they were told they were independent.

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their dedication, and their devotion to their Creator gave them independence. They didn't have to go and wave songs and burn garments. And you know, Oprah didn't tell them they were they were independent long before

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people could read in European country.

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I'm going to talk about a few of those. And that'd be that'd be better than telling you rules. If I just get up here and say that women should cover their heads.

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Women should cook that's a that's a

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no, that's not true. Anyway, about the cooking part.

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But I want to ask you a question because I want to see where the the non Muslims here.

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All right. Welcome, by the way. What do you think of when I mentioned Muslim woman? First thing that comes into your head? What is?

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honor, really? Okay. That's wonderful. What else?

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oppressed. Okay. We're going to talk about those things in Java.

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31, can I get a third one?

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illiterate? Wow. Okay, I got one for that.

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A lot. I got a bunch of that. Because all these women were very literate, literate, not illiterate.

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So we're gonna try our best in the next 45 minutes to battle away those stereotypes of our queens and princesses, our sisters in Islam.

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I'm going to tell you the story of an amazing woman.

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First of all,

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this woman was mentioned in the Bible, as well as the blonde.

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She is a woman who was the mother of a smile schmell

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that's Hi, john Alexa, peace be upon her.

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And she was his wife. Some other people say she was a concubine, which is not true. According to us anyway. Some say she was a mystery assumption is to say she was a servant. She was a maid at one point, but she became the wife of Abraham, Prophet Abraham.

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And he was ordered by law to take her to a place which was a desert.

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Can you imagine if your husband or your dad decides to just take you to a desert? Open the car? All right. Look.

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This is it. You're here by yourself with your son.

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The first question that had you asked her husband at the time was, is this something that allies ordered you to do? See, that's what that's should be always first. And these group of women, I like to put them in the category of putting their Creator first.

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Because if it was the husband's order, she could protest it and she could make noise. Those women were like that back in the day, and you're gonna see what Hydra actually did.

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That changed the world. It didn't just change her situation, but it changed the whole world even until now.

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Ibrahim and he said I'm Prophet Abraham said, this is an order from a lot. And he left her there with a pot of dates, and a little bit of water.

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He went on his way.

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Time goes by in the waters finishing in the dates of finishing.

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They've actually finished and it's my Ishmael, who's also another prophet of hope.

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law that we believe in, who is actually the great great grandfather? Well more than that, but so many generations back of the last and final messenger Muhammad peace be upon him and upon all the prophets that came before him

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starts to get hungry as babies tend to do, right I got three daughters.

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And I when my first daughter was born, I don't remember having a long period of sleep during the first three or four years of her life. They scream a lot. Mashallah

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smile was no different. So hajra had his mother rise to the top of a mountain.

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And this mountain became a sofa, the mountain of Safa, which is in Mecca now.

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And she doesn't see anyone so she runs back.

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She runs back to the other mountain, which is a model and she doesn't see anyone and she runs again.

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And her Can you imagine, I just want you to put yourself in that situation for a minute because the pain that she feels of her own hunger is nothing compared to the pain of her child.

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And her eyes are constantly on but she doesn't have anyone around her and she's going back and forth. And she doesn't know what else to do.

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Finally, after doing that seven times, she comes back and she sees by the, by the miracle of a law, we believe in miracles as Muslims. This baby has a pool of water under his feet.

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And he's kicking his feet in that water is like kicking.

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So she comes in she's trying to collect this water and it keeps on coming. keeps on coming so well of Zamzam. It's been flown there ever since.

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And actually Mohammed Salim said why my Walton was not you may Allah have mercy on the mother is male, because she tried to, like stop the water a little bit. She tried to contain it. If he didn't do that, it would have been a huge River.

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But instead it was a small, it became a well.

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So this water saved her and her son.

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There was some Arab tribes in the area.

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And they're called Durham. I don't know if anyone has heard of this type of john Durham is coming through the area where his smile and his mother are.

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And they stop there. And they asked her a question.

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And she answers them with a more, far more amazing answer.

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They asked her, they said, Can we stay here?

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They could have easily just dealt with her, isn't it? Their warrior people? They're not like, pardon me?

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Fair Lady.

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Didn't they just ask so could we settle here? Now she answered them. She said, Yes, you can. But the water belongs to us.

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She didn't go

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lol these people. Oh my god. Smiley face, right.

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She didn't she's, you can stay here. But

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as if she has like any power against them. But she's independent before she was told she was independent.

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But the water belongs to us.

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the ritual that she did, or the thing that she did, is done by millions of people every single year, in that same area.

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We do it, I've done it. I'm sure some people in here may have done it as well. I did mine in 2001 when I ran back and forth by those mountains suffering model. So what she did, as an act of desperation, if she knew how her simple act would change the modern Muslim world, the whole world, she would have strolled from a monster of a tomato smiling. She knew that

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you wouldn't have hives today. If it wasn't for her. You wouldn't have the pilgrimage if it wasn't for

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what an impact that she had on the society. And she didn't even realize it.

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Because she put her creator first, when you see the gift that he's given her in this life, everything that she did, she ran back and forth from those mountains and the wall exams and we all drink from it. It's been there ever since and still do the same well.

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So that's how you learn Of course, you know the story of Ishmael growing up there and his father came back and eventually built the Kaaba and so on and so forth. But that's her impact on society.

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So the other story

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and I'm going to tell you about the mother of a prophet,

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another mother.

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This is the mother of Moses.

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Moses, we all know Muslims, right?

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Muslims, non Muslims, everyone knows even atheists know

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I mentioned in the bible respected by the Jewish people by the Christian people, adored by the Muslims, and we say peace be upon him. After we say his name, I didn't set up

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the Pharaoh of the day, killing all the boys

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behind us slaying all the boys, the boys of the children of Israel.

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Moses mom, she got the idea from a lot that she should put her son

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in a basket to imagine

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and sending him down the

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right are the Nile River.

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What's Egypt today?

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How many of you could actually do that?

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You have a kid, put the little boy in a basket and just go okay.

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On your way down the river,

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who picks them up?

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The wife of Pharaoh.

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She doesn't know where this boy came from. And she tells her husband again, see, she was another one. She was actually the boss of Pharaoh at the time, and maybe we should adopt to me could be a joy to us.

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Could be a joy to our eyes, right? That's what that's what she said. The wife of Pharaoh and the mother of Moses, they adopt Moses and instead of Musa

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and they start to raise him now, Moosa wouldn't drink from nobody. anyone

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at all, like period, you wouldn't drink milk from any other people, any of the women of the Pharaoh's house or whatever, would not drink milk from them.

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Sister of Musa says maybe I know someone,

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again, another lady. So far, we have three amazing ladies in this story.

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mother who said the wife of Pharaoh and his sister Moses, and maybe we I know of a person who may be able to feed him.

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She brought her mom, his mom too. And of course, Masada said I'm dragged from his mother,

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unknown to the people of that household. So what happens now they offer her position in the household to be the nurse of Noosa, she gets to actually feed her son, and she gets paid for it.

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This boy eventually grows up and changes the world

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changes the world.

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Who was the first person to feed him?

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His mother, who was the lady who adopted the wife of Pharaoh, who actually eventually eventually ended up following him. Eventually, she became one of the Muslims of both of those days.

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Two amazing three amazing leaders who had such an impact on this infant's life so that this infant could grow up and change everything.

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And you know the story, he's one of the highest messengers of Allah, according to the Muslim.

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Have another one.

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how could I give a lecture like this? And not mentioned? salatu salam?

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How can I do that?

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A woman who I had respect for even before I became a Muslim,

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whose mother when she was pregnant with Mary, according to sort of Emraan chapter three of the Koran, wanted to dedicate her son

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right to the worship of ally wanted to dedicate her son, she thought she was gonna have a boy. And if she did, she would, you know, make him go up in the temple and whatnot.

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A girl was given to her and a lot knew best as to what was given to her. She grew up a little bit and eventually she gave birth to miraculous men.

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He said, Jesus, peace be upon him. miraculous Matt, one of the miraculous messengers of God,

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who was born from a virgin, we believe that

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you believe that Adam had no parents.

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That Eve was created out of Adam. That us we have two parents, and Jesus was born from a from a woman that completes the cycle right there.

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We believe that

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who is Jesus without his mom?

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Without money and without Mary, who is he?

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We believe that she kept her chastity and a miracle was given to her

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because she put our Creator first.

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And another lady now this is a bit of a long story. You guys ready? This story?

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Have you slept on it? Everyone's quiet.

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Either you're ready to kill me or you've fallen asleep while you're enjoying the lecture.

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You ready? This one? Sure. Wales. I've only been here this is my first time here. Cardiff, Mashallah.

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This story has a few amazing characters in it. But there's an amazing woman that's, that's towards the end of it.

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It's about a boy, the king.

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This king wants to find a magician, actually, to replace his magician. That's old as magicians you know back in those days, magicians used to control the people right? If they had some kind of trick they would play and people would get scared them kind of media today, right the media tells you we're all Muslim sisters are all tented and staying in houses and do nothing. We have a whole room full of students here who are obviously literate and obviously making the most of their lives. But those the media back then was the magician. This kings magician is getting old. And he's time to retire as as has arrived for him. King starts looking for apprentice

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finds this boy.

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And this little boy comes out and he's the very bright, you guys would call him a genius of today.

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And she would say, comes out and he gets drafted by the king to become the apprentice of this man. magician.

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On his way to his lesson though, here's some of the followers of Jesus, you know, the before, before Christianity came into existence, they were the followers of Jesus, they were Muslims at the time, and starts hearing them and their preaching.

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goes in is captivated by them. Something about them just kind of

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interested and made them interested

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listening to one of their priests.

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And what he what he used to do is he would go to those people, and then he would go to the magician to learn. And he was always late for the magician. So the magician would beat him up.

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Yeah, do that today go to jail.

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So the magician would beat him up. And then he would go home and on his way home, he would stop and listen to these people again.

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And he'd be late for his family and his family would beat him up.

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What's that Irish? Do you think?

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It'd be up every day by somebody?

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Eventually, he asked the priest and he says, Listen, every day, someone's beat me up. I'm late for the magician. He beats me up late for my family, they beat me up. What should I do? He

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said, when you go to the magician, tell him that your family delayed you.

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And when you come back home to your family, tell them that the magician delayed

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that work pretty well and you stop getting beaten up. She wouldn't talk to me about my mom.

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We hear that story tomorrow.

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It's one

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time goes by and there's an animal in the kingdom. I'm trying to make the story short as possible. It is about the ladies and I want to keep it as a focus for them. And eventually, what ends up happening is that this nation becomes Muslim, all under this boy.

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So the king, he has a problem with that, again, I'm shortening the story. But he has a problem with that.

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And he threatens to burn them all if they don't abandon their faith.

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So he starts doing that. It's a very graphic story digs a big trench. And he's throwing people in it and his soldiers are throwing people in it. And there's this amazing woman

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comes with her child.

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And the baby as a miracle speaks from that, from that woman because she hesitates as you would, we wouldn't even have been there.

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When it went to Wales, right when she left, we wouldn't even have been in a place like that. We claim our refugee status and just take a walk somewhere. They couldn't do that to this lady. She came up and she was hesitating.

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And the baby spoke to her and he said us video.

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Be patient Oh my mom because you are on the truth and you're practicing the truth. And she was patient and she was actually martyred. Now, you would think that gruesome story to happen to somebody.

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All these people died. That's not a very nice story is it?

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But this lady, eventually the coroner was revealed. And her story was in that block, the people, those people who were burned to death, their story was in the blood. And that's how we're able to tell it today. Because this strong, amazing woman put her creator first.

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Behind that punishment, as it looked like was paradise for them. Now, no one's asking you to do that. Obviously, we're not killing anyone. Right? Despite what BBC says, or anyone else, we're not killing anybody. We're not asking you to burn at all. So don't worry about that. But that's a story of a woman who was faced with a tremendous trial. And she was able to overcome that trial with a patient.

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what do you guys know about Ayesha?

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Who was

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Anyone know this is interactive you know you don't have to just like sit there Don't raise your hands either because I can't see

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was it just shout it out whales

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you know the orientalist have an issue with

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your profit married a nine year old girl. Yeah.

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I was in Ireland it would be your profits marriage nine year old verified it like

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I was in India would be your profit.

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That's an interesting story. And I actually love it when people ask about that because a lot of people, they don't like to see people abused. And that's fabulous. I don't like to see that either.

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But where did that story come from?

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Does anyone know where that story came from?

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came from the girl

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wasn't written by anybody else. The story of ashes marriage to Muhammad peace be upon them

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came from her.

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So should we accept her as being truthful or not?

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We should right? entirely run entirely, entirely. Well, she also said until the day she died, that he's the Messenger of Allah.

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If we're gonna believe her, and we have to believe everything she said Otherwise, how do you know how old she was when she got married?

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So let's talk about this. Marriage, marriage. Marriage marriage doesn't marriage marriage? I didn't say concubine.

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I didn't say that. I said wife.

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She was what?

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How old are you?

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Let's talk by a minute. Just be honest. She was nine. It says let's go with that. Since we're taking her as being truthful. Let's talk about that for a second. This is a question I love to get.

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She was what approached,

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approached, forced, not kidnapped, not grabbed in the middle of the night, choked out, brought to attend and said here husband you go.

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She was what? approached by

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her father. Her dad came and said that the Messenger of Allah wants to

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be married, married to you.

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And she agreed at that age. Now I say you have to know something about Ayesha. First of all, I actually was a scholar of genealogy. She was a scholar of the Arabic language. She was a poet. She taught men into her 70s when she died, she was a scholar of her time and she was a very quick study. You would not know about the issue of cleanliness in Islam if it wasn't for her.

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So she wasn't your little, you know, iPod playing chewing gum cake. Because when you picture someone you picture like little ponytails and you know, Dora the Explorer and stuff.

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And I mean, you should nowadays I fully I don't agree with that. That happens in a lot of countries and it's terrible that child brides are for us to horrible. We're not talking about that. We're talking about Ayesha, let's keep it very simple. Because this story wouldn't have met wouldn't even have happened if it wasn't for Asia. So Asia agrees to marry marry

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prophet agrees to imagine agreed not forced a kidnap my choked out by taking the middle of the night. Brian, you know the story. I say it again.

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Time goes by and

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she describes her marriage

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to this, this man.

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How he used to

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let her drink from the from a cup.

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And he would find the place where her mouth was and he would drink from that place.

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you don't do that.

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But as I know, you got cooties or something.

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You know, you're all nice during the time before marriage. You don't want to drink from her now, right?

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He used to drink from her class and he used to find the place where her teeth had been into the food and he would bite them.

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He would run races with her.

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One time he'd been hurt. One time she you know, she'd be him.

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She describes her marriage to him she describes when he used to put her head and his head in her lap and read the blog.

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You don't do that now your brothers

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All right, you ready to watch the World Cup though?

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It describes this, she describes this marriage, that when he died, you wanted to die with her. You wanted to have to want it to be in her arms when he died. So

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this is the Messenger of Allah, and his, one of his very best friends.

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It's not about abuse, it's not about some

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distorted relationship. This is from the girl herself, who lived long after he died, she could have left

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could have ran away. She could have just said no.

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Even long after he passed away, she taught people and she taught men

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about cleanliness and about the Arabic language and about genealogies and about all these different things that she had learned over the years.

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I she was an amazing woman. So was this a marriage of abuse? Absolutely not.

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There are many that are going on today. And we should not be naive enough to say they don't exist, because they do. And it's disgusting. But this was not one of them.

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I wish it wasn't a amazing genius of our time.

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And this is her story. And if we want to take that story, we should take it all.

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People may not agree with it, and that's fine. But this is the story. Don't be fooled by the orientalist that just gives you this very basic. They don't even tell you where they've gotten that story from. Most of them that I've asked don't even know where they go. My preacher told me that.

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That's what they say, Oh, my teach my biology teacher told me that.

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My dad told me Someone told me that they don't even read it by themselves. You want to point fingers at the most amazing man that ever lived and one of the most amazing women that ever lived?

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Our mother Ayesha

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will talk about a lady named Amen.

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Anyone who's

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the mother of Iman Do you know? Anyone brother laughs In fact,

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you're too busy tweeting.

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Oh, my man was a lady who

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adopted mehsana when he was a baby, his mom passed away. And my mom was the one who adopted him.

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She watched that young boy grow up into a man into one of the most revered men of the Arabs even before he received profit. At the age of 14, she watched the message of mssm grow. She watched his difficulty. She watched his triumphs. She followed him eventually. And when he died, she was crying.

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Now the companions that came to me said Why are you crying? You know it's waiting for him.

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She said I'm not crying because of the loss of my son. Now many guys are just start like wailing and some women wail when people die. You don't even know them us. Well, my cousin did that when my grandfather passing Wales. I didn't even know she could scream that loud.

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This lady was crying not because of the loss of her son. But because revelation had stopped.

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That was it cut off. This is the last and final message.

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And that was the end of it when he passed away.

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I have another lady

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why no personal.

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met her a few years ago. And I was in Africa. I was in Kenya.

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She would come to my house she worked not far from where I lived at the time she'd come to me and I'll be dressed up like this right.

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This is an act of worship, but this is a fashion statement. So

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I would walk through Africa like this I would look because there was some wisdom behind that because if I walked through in like European clothes, that people would charge me more for things.

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I dress like an Arab man I got things for cheap.

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That's terrible. That's terrible.

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So when

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you're an adult, so they would say I would say no, not really but they wouldn't believe me because what white guy dresses like I

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must be Irish in fact.

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So I met this lady. She asked me about Islam.

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Well, hearing there come to my house. Who does the Muslims pray to? I would tell her. We pray to one creator who is unique in his oneness, has no partners and is incomparable to his creation, meaning there's nothing like him.

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She seemed to like that she came back and she asked about the profits and told her about the profits that they were sent here to teach us how to behave towards each other and how to worship our Creator. She came back she asked me about our Prophet Mohammed the last and final messenger Salaam told her a little bit about him and she accepted Islam

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okay Muslim

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family doesn't like that very much is Africa it's not the UK you know UK you can go and you can get like on the dole and stuff No worries. Canada to your family keeps you out. You get a Government House. No problem. You have a nice house and Navy.

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Tia brother, this is Africa.

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family says to her

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either you leave this Islam of yours leave the house.

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She left the house

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in Africa

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no net.

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This is a modern woman. This is not like someone who lives you know, 1500 years ago this is a modern woman

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who knew she was independent before she was told that

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she finds a little place to stay and I'm still in contact with her because she has no one else. So I call it check for her Kenyan Mashallah sisters really struggling?

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Eventually actually married this sister.

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You know why?

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Because you fell in love.

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With I

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guess you spell in law? No, not really. I mean, eventually. Yeah, that was the case. But I wanted to be like her.

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I want it to be like that. I wanted to have that patience. And I wanted to have that

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surety that yaqeen is in Arabic the certainty because you have to have certainty to do stuff like that.

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You can't just do that. So you know, just be patient hide. She didn't do that. I mean, like, that's not for everyone. You know, some people have everyone has different circumstances. But I was so envious. I wanted to be just like hers. I Well, I should just marry her then inshallah.

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I could be like her. And I learned patience from her. And this job requires a lot of patience a lot.

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She's my backbone.

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And don't get upset that the backbone is behind you. You couldn't walk without your backbone. Behind doesn't necessarily mean bad.

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is another stereotype. They keep the women behind them. Your backbone is behind you too. And I'd like to see you walk without it.

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Behind doesn't mean that that's that's a ridiculous statement.

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It's silly. In fact, you know, the when you when you have a boat? Where's the motor?

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And you guys have tough luck. You guys are used to the speaker that gets up and just talks to you for an hour. You don't even have to do

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you want to when I say salaam aleikum again, you're gone.

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I don't work that way. In case you haven't noticed already.

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Just because someone is behind doesn't necessarily mean it's bad.

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This is my backbone.

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The women that I mentioned to you were the backbones of their society. hygiene was the backbone of this my eye she was one of the backbones of mohammedanism. Right. Maria was the backbone of Jesus.

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And we don't believe that he was disrespectful to his mother. There's a verse in the Bible that says a woman we don't believe that, oh, we'd never addressed her like that.

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idea was another one. She was a businesswoman. She was also the first wife of mssm. She was his backbone. Actually, he worked for her.

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These are women that lived in the seventh century with the exception of my wife

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younger than me, in fact,

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but that's the thing like this is the hafsa was another lady. You know the Quran when it was put into a book form. The only one in the world.

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It wasn't given to the president or the king, or the halifa was given to one of the daughters. Her Her name was Hassan.

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She was given it as a trustworthy there was another lady whose name was have seven city and I don't know if you know what Mohammed contadina is. He was a scholar. But hafsa was one of the woman who would go to when he didn't know something.

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These are amazing people. And we actually even the men neglect to learn about

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them. They built mosques and they traveled to different countries in their own businesses and they fought in the battles. Oh, yes. Who knows about nusseibeh biscup

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Raise your hand.

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You realize you raise your hand someone that can't see right? You say there was a woman from Medina

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which is the city of our Prophet.

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And she was bringing water to one of the battles that he was fighting against people were attacking them and he was fighting against them was the Battle of the heart. Right? Very famous of one of the battles of his of his life. So she was bringing water to the companions.

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And they were

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getting beaten up actually. At the time, so many of them were running away. They were leaving. So she started fighting with her hands, like beating the men

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can imagine

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you know, probably better than that. That was a horrible uppercut, but she she was fighting the men. Sisters

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ttfn TTY Oh,

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you would tweet the battle. Oh, they're really getting beaten. Oh, sad face. Colon left parenthesis, right. They're really getting beaten, not hurt. You save them. Say saber started to fight.

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So the Prophet ordered

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one of the soldiers to give him the saber his sword and shield. And she fought.

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She actually fought in the army.

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When was this?

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Just last year 1400 years ago.

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14 centuries ago, there was a woman soldier who fought and her son fought and her son had gotten hurt in a battle he had his leg kind of chopped like his leg. So she passed up her son What did she do?

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Is she go betta

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total betta don't fight. Don't fight any more beta. She said that cook him Lulu.

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What did she say? Go back, man. You all right. Go back and fight. She actually caught the man that hurt her son and she chopped his leg. And he fell and she held the sword to his throat and Mama told told her to leave him alone.

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said you vented yourself like that.

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She fought in many battles. She was what a woman. Sister. She's one of you.

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He said about her.

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Wherever I looked. I saw her fighting wherever I looked. She was protecting me.

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So warrior.

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She was a warrior before warriors were cool. She's a warrior.

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All right.

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That's that that's nusseibeh. intercap another amazing woman.

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Incredible. There's another woman that I met. Don't worry, I only got one.

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There was a woman that I met

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in Toronto, Canada

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came to that place to work. I met this Sister, I was amazed actually. Because

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of how articulate she was how she used to.

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You know, some people demand respect. You know that.

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They don't have to get up and yell and scream and shout in order for you to respect them. They just demand respect by their behavior by their demeanor. She was like that.

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This is one of the first actually yeah, it was the first Muslim man that I ever met in my life.

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And that was the lady who eventually helped me enter Islam.

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I entered Islam through a system.

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I'm very proud of that as well.

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I've been surrounded by Muslim sisters in my house. I married a sister. My ex wife is a Muslim sister. I got three daughters, the one who took my Shahada as a sister, I've been surrounded by women since I entered Islam

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inshallah in a good way.

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So their impact has had a huge effect on my life. And it has had a huge effect on the lives of the of the people that came before during that

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Guess what?

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I don't like to guess

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10 minutes. All right, unless, of course you guys want to go for longer.

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Yeah, I only got about 10 minutes left.

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We can do the questions and answers after that. But these are some amazing people now want to ask you guys a question after hearing that.

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And this is for the non Muslims, Muslims, you guys can answer if they're quiet inshallah. Now what is your perception of the Muslim woman?

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After hearing about these people in brief,

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what is it now?

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sisters, what's your opinion of them now?

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It's probably your opinion anyway. But what was it? What is it? What would you say about them now? Did I beat those stereotypes

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of curtain women who just live behind these face masks and don't talk to anybody and, you know, take abuse from everyone. I mean, there are women like that, and I'm not making light of it. This is because some of the Muslims have no idea. The gift that they've been given once they've been given a wife, they have no idea.

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But that has nothing to do with our faith. This is so far away from our faith. That it's unbelievable.

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Because we are ordered to be kind to our women, our wives and our daughters. mssm said I'm the best. you the best of you are the ones who are good to their families, their wife used to put food into his wife's mouth. By his hand, he imagined

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this is a leader

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takes food like that and puts it in his wife's mouth.

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You do that now. Brothers laugh at you.

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Some men do not realize the gift that they've been given. That's why they're bad to their wives

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who know absolutely nothing about the status of women in Islam and know nothing about their amazing role model sisters that came before.

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I didn't come up here to talk to you about hijab. You already hear that all the time. All it says

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you have to cover your head

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completely. You hear that all the time? I don't want to tell you that again.

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Do you need to hear that again?

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I want to give you some shining examples of femininity.

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You say but there isn't a feminist on earth that could match her. I'm sorry, not one but 10

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you say bye is amazing.

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Someone outside doesn't like to talk

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I don't care.

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who's who's more narrow minded The one who doesn't listen or the ones who actually listens. Right? If there's issues we can take care of the issues inshallah later in a peaceful way in the peaceful.

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No one shall be jailed.

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But these women were amazing.

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At Egypt business woman at businesses before you know what they used to argue,

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in like the late 18th century

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used to argue if women had souls or not.

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Does a woman have?

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series? And if she does, is it the soul of a person or the soul of an animal?

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That was a legit argument back in the day back a little more than 100 years ago.

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While women were fighting wars and teaching men,

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other women were subjugated. Why is it when you see a habit on a nun? And I like the nuns Personally, I think they're fabulous.

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Why do you think devoted?

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When you see a Muslim with the hijab, why do you think oppressed

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and again, there are women who are oppressed and this is a cultural oppression. There's no honor and killing innocent people.

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There's no such thing as honor killing in Islam, they may have it in certain countries, unfortunately. And we hope that it stops one day, and as long as I'm alive, I'm gonna do my best to make sure that it stops inshallah.

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We don't have that in our faith.

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This issue of women being tented behind face masks is not from our faith.

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They were proactive women who built mosques. Can you imagine

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they actually built mosques and funded mosque to be built. They own businesses. They taught men

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So what is the status of women in Islam? They have a priceless status.

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They're priceless.

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Their brains are much more important than their beauty. They decorate the outsides of their head and they decorate the inside of it as well.

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Because they're knowledgeable. Our mothers, they are our daughters. They are our sisters. They are

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our life. We love them and respect them and we should be honoring them and if not,

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you should be brothers already do something about that. That's my time. He's talking about

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stuff for a while looking family. Come on.