Abu Bakr Zoud – How to deal with parents_family that don’t accept my new Islamic lifestyle

Abu Bakr Zoud
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The speaker discusses the importance of being smart and wise in building family relationships. They stress the need for conservative and logical manners, as well as the need to be mindful of one's behavior. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of changing one's manners, including clapping, fasting, and being mindful of one's behavior.
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Whatever in the case where and we have this a lot, our youth would say, unfortunately my parents did not accept that I made it over. And I begin to pray at the masjid and hamdulillah now I have a bead, this is this is a problem as well. This is a problem. They go back and they say Alhamdulillah they go to their parents and they say Finally, I found the righteous man and and Majid Allahu Akbar, my mother, you should have seen this person we read together and he fasts, these any praise the knights and, and they are expecting from your mama to clap for you. Instead, she says it's a masiva. This is a disaster. Or you go back home and you say I heard a lesson today, Allahu Akbar. Allah was a

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killer. What do you expect from your parents that says some parents would be annoyed by this? isn't how, as a young youth, trying to establish his team correctly in the home? How do you behave with your parents, when they are unaccepting of this kind of attitude and behavior? You need to understand my brothers in Islam, that you're supposed to be smart. Number one, be smart.

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Don't tell them about these things, that I went to the machine. And I heard this and I heard that and I made friends with it. But don't say this stuff. They don't want to hear it. Don't say it. Be smart and wise. Number two, don't be confronting. Can you walk into the house, my sister you need to

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enter my Dad, you're supposed to stop shaving your beard. When my mother wants this kind of closing.

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Don't be like that. That's unacceptable. Don't accept that. Of course your parents are going to rebel against you. Be smart, be wise. And the first thing you change of yourself in the house is your manners. That's the first thing you're supposed to change. You come back to the home

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and you clean the clothes, do something extraordinary you've never done before. Because people generally love good manners from anyone. Whether it was from a gaffer, whether it was from someone else, generally people have good manners. Imagine it came from you as a child. You go on date to your parents, and you say father, today I want to call my Auntie's and my uncles from overseas, you'd love to be left alone.

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Watch this deem that you follow. Wherever you hang out. With these things that you've learned from. It'll give a good impression. And realize and understand that perhaps you are the one who has established the dean in his life. And perhaps you're the only member in the family that's a such, remember that you're the shining beam in the house, you're going to be the source of guidance to everyone misguided in the family. And just like a shining bulb is very sensitive. Be very careful. A light bulb just with a flick, it'll crack. Don't break yourself. Be that shining source of light, change your manners first, do things that you've never done in the house, clean your clothes, shine

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your parents shoes, pay the bills, do something change your character. As a result, you're accepted. And then your change is accepted. When the recent Allahu alayhi wa sallam he said is the team you stuck on become very famous, powerful, authentic, it's the chemo universe change. You bring the goodness upon yourself. You stuck on become people around you change people around you adopt the good character and the obedience of Allah subhanho wa Taala if you were to do it first

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