Channel: Abu Abdissalam
The Slander of Aishah Radi Allahu ‘anha… *PART 1*
An emotional heart rending story that contains some phenomenal lessons for both men and women. It exemplifies how amazing this lady was and how the Prophet SAWS, Aishah, and her parents Radi Allahu ‘anhum, were the epitome of moral character…
Sep 4, 2015
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Well suddenly, suddenly more.
So the topic of this seminar is the slander of Ayesha.
The Prophet slicin, he was asked nursey Elaine, who is the most beloved person,
and the processor replied.
So in this story, we shall learn some very important lessons. In fact, this story is a very hot rendering story. And I'll just warn you in advance that normally when I give this lecture, it takes about three hours. So I now have one hour, 45 minutes or so. So we're gonna try and
try and condense it as much as possible, but it is a very long duration.
And as such, the way we're going to do it, is
whether someone will read from the Hadith.
And this Hadees is a collection of honey put together.
And so rather than will recite, we'll read from this study, and then at each point, we'll stop and explain certain benefits that we can get from this portion that is just read out in Sharma. So without further ado, I chose
whenever I was
intended to go in, and Jenny used to draw a lot in his mind, and we'll take with him the one on
one CT books when he wants to carry out the muslin, and the Lord came upon me.
So here in this section, I showed the love I explained that whenever the prophets I send them would go on a journey,
he would draw dots. Now normally the situation is
number of wives
when you have more than one wife, you have to be just just be equal. And as such, they would draw lots when it came to journals. Now, on a normal occasion, when you look when he was in Medina, he would give every wise equal time, one day, one day here one day, and so on and so forth. But when you're on a journey, some journeys might be a week long, some journeys might be a month long. And imagine if a journey is a month long,
then you can't take one for the one month, then come back and spend another month with this wife and then another month with that wife, it would be very, very difficult. So the way the professor Isilon used to handle this situation he would draw knots. So when it came to normal situation in Medina, each wife would get equal time when it came to going on a journey. He would draw a lot on this particular journey,
the prophets I send them when they drew the knots, it came time.
To go on this journey with the prophets I said that what is important is to show the justice of the Prophet slicer and how he was very careful to be just
with his wife
continued. So I proceeded with messenger
after householder leaving the women
and I was carrying in my home
and dismounted wellston still in it, we carried on our journey, and when he had finished his first one, and returned, and we approached Alas, messenger ordered to stay the night, when the army was ordered to resume the homeland journey. I got up and walked on till I left the army camp behind.
So I showed the loved one who says that they went on this journey this journey was battle was on it and on the way back.
When they coming back, the prophet sly seldom
the prophets myself, what he would do is he would
He would remain outside of Medina for a night. And he would send some people forward to go and basically inform the residents of Medina that the army is coming home. This was actually a
sign he went to inform the people of Medina and said somebody would go forward and inform the people that the army is coming home. What is the benefit from this wider the process and and do this?
Actually, absolutely. He didn't want to have telephones, in those times, or WhatsApp and whatever else. So when the army, which is predominantly men, when they would come home, they didn't want to just, you know, the men come home after a long journey. So maybe they want to prepare themselves, they want to prepare food that whatever they want to do. So they need to know in advance, if you just kind of go straight there, they might get upset, and what have you. So the process I sent him, he was very clear to give them a bit of time, so he wouldn't that only have one I just outside of Medina, ready for
some people for to let them know this, we understand that it is similar not to surprise our families. When we come home as a general rule, as general there might be exceptions. But as a general rule, when you go in and turn the clock, you should inform your families just before you come in now. She said the group of
she says that.
Now she used to sit in a room.
What is a home? A home is like content, like structure is a tent, like structure content, I think it would be important on a camel.
And the ladies would be carried into this content. And what would happen, she says I was having in my home go to another candle. And despite it was still in it. So the way it would work is the holders would be on the floor on the ground. She would go into the bench. Some men would pick up this whole bench and then put it on the camera. And likewise when she when when they were dismounting it, they would she would remain in the home but the men would take it off the candle, put it down on the floor and then she would come up, right? This is the way they would come in the ladies and gentlemen. And this is a like a tent like structure. Right? So you can't see what's in
it, of course. So she says that I was carried on when I was finished. This means like
and returned. And we approached me that I sort of wanted to stay the night when the army was ordered to resume the homeward journey. I got up I walked on tonight left the army cap behind, I should explain why. And on the next slide.
When I answered the call of nature, I went to lunch. And behold, a necklace of mine made just
one what's broken, and I look for it. And I search for entertainment, the group of people that are used to carrying things cane and carrying onto the back of my camera.
Considering that I was living at the time, at that time, women are lighter in weight, and we're not fishing for they're used to getting food. So those people do not feel the 101 reason. And I'm instilling me. So in these in this
paragraph, we're gonna see something really amazing, right? And this is why we need scholars to explain to us headings, because when you look at this at first sight, it doesn't seem to give us much information. But when you analyze this paragraph, for me, it is one of the signs of it.
moral character of high moral character. So she starts off by saying that she went on to the call of nature. How do you do that? You're in a desert, as an army, lots of people, they're not cubicles or anything like that. You have to walk a very, very long distance, distance until people can't see you. So she goes off. She walks this long distance she goes in order to answer the call of nature. Then she comes back. When she comes back towards my hotel, she says I'm about to go towards my hotel. Then I realized that a a necklace that I had, has disappeared. I've lost it but I don't know where it is.
So what did she say? She says, I look for it. And my search to take me. Here we can see that this necklace is not made out of gold and silver, or diamonds or rubies or anything like that.
This necklace is made out of a black bead. Right a black bead, it wasn't something that was really expensive. It was quite, you know, it was quite, let's say economical. But yeah, and this, this is the wife of the proof size alum, who is the leader of a lot of the Arabian Peninsula. At this time, she was only 15 years old at this time, three years before the processor passed away. So she doesn't think to herself, I was learning something cheap. Let me let me just leave it, she actually goes out way to go look for this necklace. So she calls on her, she goes back follows her tracks back to where she answered the call of nature as she looking for this necklace. And this didn't change the
search the table. She continues, she says.
And this is really, really important. This next part is absolutely amazing. She says the group of people who used to carry me came and carried my whole bags onto the back of my calendar on which I was riding, considering I was in them. At that time, we were like wait a little fleshy, but they used to eat a little food. So those people did not feel the lightness of the holidays by raising them when I was a young lady. Sounds like a regular paragraph just narrating what she's what happened. What happens is she goes off these people who are in charge of carrying her luggage, they pick up the whole dish and put it on the candle. And off goes the army without
Oh, he goes on she comes back she realized. However though, she's narrating this off the woods generating the story of the loved one.
Because of this incident,
she goes through such a terrible title for a period of a month. She goes through probably apart from the
probably the worst thing that's ever happened to her. She goes through because of this because of what because these men, they picked up the whole judge put it back on the boat and went off. And they left her behind.
And then because of this she is now later on, she's accused of a crime, the crime of adultery. However, while she's narrating this, look at the words that she uses. Look at the words that she uses. And I really want us to all learn from this. The first thing she says is the group of people who used to carry
she did not mention names. I showed her law 1210 hundreds, in fact more at least that much.
Names and this person did this and so on and so forth. But when it comes to protecting another Muslims honor, like here,
people it would be it would be like if this happened to us, how would we behave? We're in the middle of a desert, somebody's gonna
say something like these stupid idiots. They they know they went off without me and all of this stuff. They've you mentioned them by name. I showed love on her doesn't say the first benefit. She doesn't mention the name, the group of people. Right, then she doesn't stop there. Because the question that comes into your mind is how on earth? Did they go off without my wife? The Messenger of a lost by senator. I mean, I just it's not obviously the same thing. But just imagine the Prime Minister, the President, his wife
being left behind in the desert on the journey. Just imagine the courage going off. Without I mean, it is unthinkable, right? Something that is unthinkable. But hey, you're the wife of the rest of us Iceland.
explained mission is the group of people. The first thing that comes into your mind is how is this possible? before you can even ask the question, she says what she says
considering the other was in them, she immediately makes the first excuse for them.
She immediately says before you can even ask, she says they thought I was in there. They thought I was the next question that comes into life. How long
can they think but she did that.
Before you can even ask the question. She then says at that time, women were lighter in weight, and they were not fleshy or they used to eat food. So these people they did not feel the lightness of the voltage while raising it up.
Excuse number two,
we were late. We weren't we didn't use the eat much in those days. In fact, some of the ration, say recently a few morsels of food per day, not a few meals a day, a few morsels of food per day.
And she said, She's so she's kind of already she's making an excuse. This is why they didn't. This is why they thought I was in there. I was like, she doesn't stop. Then she goes off further, she says, and I was still a young lady.
So they thought I was in there. Women were very light. In those days, we didn't even use to eat eat much. And I was a young lady. I didn't weigh much. Excuse, the excuse of the excuse? What is so massive lesson for us to learn from this? What is? The key lesson is that when we are harmed by other people, when we go through trials and tribulation, how do we behave? Do we send them immediately? Or do we make excuse the excuse of the excuse, the way
she's telling the story, and we shall see how it affected and affected her. Even from a physical perspective and an emotional psychological perspective.
They drove away the candle that proceeded then I found my necklace after the army had gone, I came to the camp but found the earring. So I went to the place where I used to stay thinking that they would miss me and come back myself.
While I was sitting at my place, I felt sleepy and slim.
So the armies imagined this huge boost in the discipline. This young girl of 15 years of age, has come back to see that young is gone. But she's in the middle of a desert, that you know, they just come back from a potential battle. Right? They just come back.
And mommy could be behind them.
All sorts of things could be going on in your head. There's scorpions, snakes, all sorts of creatures in the desert.
What does she do this 15 year old girl.
She says, I found my necklace often gone, I came back to the counter and found globally that so went to the place where I used to stay thinking that they would miss me and come back. She's an intelligent girl.
She doesn't get emotional. How could they leave me or she doesn't stop crying, none of that. She just simply goes back to the place where she was staying. And she sat down, she laid down. And she realized she knew that once they miss me, they'll come back. It's not the end of the world. She goes further and she says while I'm sitting at my place, I bought sleeping fantasy, some
brothers and sisters. Even in this sentence, it tells you how cool it is.
How many of us when we're going through a difficulty can fall asleep.
away. This Wilkins with this thinks that this that none of this was young, 15 year old girl. Rather, she has full trust in Allah, Allah Allah He simply lies that she fails for sleeping, he goes to sleep. This is amazing.
So far in advance, as soon
as that while he was behind the army, he had started in the last part of the night and reached my stationing place in the morning. And so the figure of a sleeping person, he came to me and recognized me on seeing before he used to see me before when
I got up because of his saying in
which he uttered upon recognizing me.
I come in my face with my government and by law, he did not say to me a single word except in 1991. In 1982. He made his she can kneel down whereupon he chose on his four legs that are mounted on it. Then some points about leading the sheikh and that was carrying me till we met the army while there was still while you were resting during the day.
She falls asleep and this companion called someone even so funny, but as soon as he won, he was behind the audio. He was coming on his camera. He got delayed for whatever reason, and he was coming behind me now this companion was
as Michelle Slater, and he started in the last part of the night, when which my station is based in the morning where I was sleeping, and he saw the finger on a sleeping person. So you can imagine you're in the middle of a desert. You can see everything around you. He's coming in what is heaven? He says, The misleading person take off there to find out who is this what what's happening? Who could this possibly be? He gets there.
And he recognizes me. She says, How can you recognize me? Why did I
even say that he recognized me. If you think about the whys of the message of a loss Isilon everybody should recognize them. Right? Everyone knows, for example, that the wife of the Prime Minister, everyone would recognize how, however, I showed the loved one who says he recognized me why, for he used to see me before veiling the reason he said this because there's something strange, it's not expected that anyone should recognize them. That's the reason she's saying it. Why? Because she used to wear a niqab a face value. Now, we know the difference of opinion among people on whether the niqab is obligatory or not of the country. Right, and I'm not going to go into that.
However, what I would like to say that some people they claim it's a cultural thing, the niqab very clearly the one
is wearing, and there's literary schools and durations that explain this. But notice the whiteness of reality as well would wear the niqab. And the scholars they differ on the obligation of the niqab is obligatory, obligatory, and I don't want to go into which is the correct opinion or any of that. But I just want you to understand how the scholars differ, and why they differ on this issue. This is one of the proofs that
obliges us. And they say that, I sort of, remember this is towards the end is about three years before the death of the Prophet.
So in this verse, he says, He recognized me. And in some generations, it says, because he saw me before the vs. Code Review.
Now, the most of the job took about drawing a club over the head, over the chest, basically, on the head over the chest. Now, some scholars they say, that excludes the face. And some scholars say that includes the face the ayat of the Quran. They don't exclude anything, or explicitly include anything. So the scholars they talk about, so one of the things, what are the proofs that those foreigners who applies them? They say they look at this, and they say, isn't
that the reason someone recognized me is because he had saw me in some directions, before the persons have a job.
In other words, not seen me before, but
he would not have been able to recognize me, why? Because her understanding based on this
is what is that the verses
are not referring to the head, they were referring to the face. Is that clear? Because the women used to cover the head anyway, in those times, right? Even the non Muslim women, they would cover
other scholars, David Klein, and they said, Actually, there are a number of narrations where certain women did not cover their faces,
either explicitly or implicitly.
The first group of scholars they responded to that. And they said, Well, of course, this variables would be because there was a period of Islam where the face covering was obligatory, just like there are certain situations where
you find that the Sahaba and they were drinking alcohol. That doesn't mean alcohol is allowed. But that was before the verses of wine were revealed. Is that clear?
and so on and so forth. As I said, I don't want to go into
that, I just want to show you how this rule is pick out one sentence, and they can extrapolate various juristic rulings from that. So one of the points here is I got an exclusive
he came to me recognize me or see me, for he has seen me before veiling or before the verses of rechab were revealed, as is mentioned in generations now.
She says I got up because of his saying she's sleeping. Remember?
She heard him say in the war in Iraq, we answered upon recognizing and think about it. This shows also that when a Muslim, he sees something, you know, that is difficult for you and something strange something, yes.
You know, oh my god and all of this. Immediately, he says
to him, we return.
And then she says, I immediately covered my face my garment. And here's another proof that those scholars, they say, Look, she covered her face, there's no need to cover her face. It was It was lovely. But This to me is not construe cloth because she could have done it because it's supposed to happen. Right, but in the previous slide, that seems to have some weight. Anyway, I covered my face with my Garmin, and one minute, he did not say to me a single word, except
you can see at the time of the prophets, I seldom they did not, you know, go into too much informal chanting.
Right. They didn't do that.
It wasn't no informal kind of speech. It was formal. It was limited to formalities. And he just said
there's no need to ask her what happened. It's very obvious what's happened. It's very obvious that you're gonna whatever reason i don't know i don't need to get into these informalities so what does he do? He made he can will kneel down whereupon he took on his four legs. And
so she got from the camera.
She knew she didn't he didn't say
please by the camera.
She just go on to the camera
to the formalities.
And then software set out leaving the Chico that was currently to be met the only one the restrooms are in the hot midday so they'll go right back to the gym. And in the daytime,
hot midday they stopped in order to rest once more. So here, you find that she's on the camel, she being led by someone on the
bench to catch up to come to the army circle.
Then, whoever was meant for destruction, finance function, and leader of the if statement was obeyed in saloon. So whoever was meant for destruction
they fell into destruction. What does this What does she mean by this? She means that when the army saw her on a candle, and in front of his
rod, the man is walking with this camel. Then people started speaking. And the one who concocted This statement is forged statement. This evil cylinder was up the line no Weber's.
He was a he was the chief of the hypocrites
of Medina. In fact, he's also wanted to execute them for assassinate
refused, he said no. But the point is
that I had revealed to the officers that he is the chief of the hypocrites.
On this occasion, he makes up a cylinder about
Unfortunately, this law this law is credible. To the extent that even some Sahaba good companions, even when fell into
even they fell into this slander, spreading slander.
They didn't know this line.
But think about how we behave when we hear rumors. When we hear people being accused of certain things. In Islam, there is a very clear principle, which is called innocent until
proven, proven guilty. But how do we behave?
But in reality, how do we behave?
There's no smoke without fire. This is how we speak. Yes.
We have a roommate.
And we say there's no smoke without fire.
But Islam teaches us
that somebody is innocent 100% innocent until proven, not beyond reasonable doubt
beyond any damage is a clear process to the next phase
They lifted no punishment, the punishments are lifted, if there's a doubt,
but in western law, what do we have?
beyond reasonable doubt? So they can be some reasonable doubt. Sorry, yeah, it can be
unreasonable doubt. Right. It's got to be beyond reasonable doubt.
How, however, these punishments cannot be met without if there's any doubt
he concocted this lie about audition. And he was gonna say, Yes, true. On this scene, you know, I saw I saw,
I saw her on the camera lens.
They were alone in the desert, and all of these things.
And people start spreading rumors. And this is a grave crimes
arrived at Medina
while the people were spreading false statements of the people,
and I was not aware of anything.
But what arouse my dad when I was sick, was that I was no longer receiving from Allah's Messenger, the same kindness as I used to receive
a lot of messages
would enter on me and say, a greeting and add, how is this lady and then the part
that arouse my suspicion, but I was aware of the propagation keyboard is not recovered from my MRI, I went out.
So here, she says, After this, we arrived in Medina, and I became ill for one month, I
know, she has no clue about what is being said about him. And this is this is standard. When it comes to rumors, this is always the case. Often the last person to find out about the rumor is the person who is the subject of that rumor in the first place. People start talking, and it spread so quickly, you can spread a rumor and everyone was held on to it anyone else. But I've heard this. And then that person will say to the next 10 people don't tell anyone else. But I heard this, and it spreads like a forest fire.
So she, I don't know anything, I was healed. But something happened, something strange happened. I didn't know what it was, and couldn't explain it. But
while I was sick, I was not receiving from Allah, I still have the same kindness, as I used to receive whatever call me felt sick. So normally, when the prophets I send them so that one of his wives fail, he would really go out and I was ready to kind of, you know, look after her and display some kind of kindness.
On this occasion, there's two things. The first thing is is clever. alum knows about this by showing
his full statement.
But number two, the prophesize system does not tell if he does not approach him. He does not ask her at this moment in time, because he knows that his wife is sick. This is not the right time to deal with this issue. Now brothers, especially to think about this, even sisters, think about this if your spouse
was accused of such a heinous crime,
the seed of doubt is often planted. Yes. You think you know you might even have an
interest, but this is a seed.
And when you start hearing of such things, you immediately blow up an error. You go deal with the problem What happened? Who did this? What happened? You know, you want to deal with the situation immediately.
But when it comes to the profit and loss, he shows the world character. He does not deal with this situation while I show the long line of a sick. He waits until she gets better however, he's a human being.
He of course feel something in his heart.
Of course, this you know, it's like my wife's honor.
And he does not know the name. He doesn't know the other scene.
And he's waiting for divine revelation. He's waiting by
Inspiration and inspiration do not come. It also shows the process of
And one of the wisdoms of this is that we know how to behave if something happened in our situation in our time.
Because here's the best example. So a lot.
So, because he's a human being, because he's, he has emotions, he has meanings in hardship in the same way. He tried his best to be normal. However, there's something there.
I show up a lot, and then recognize this, you didn't know why you should recognize this. This is the human side on the profit side. So processor would end up on me say everything and say, How is she? How is this lady? Meaning because she says she is obviously going to ask the people around them. How is she doing? Okay. But he didn't, she didn't feel that, you know, the same high
level of kindness that she normally felt.
I went out
The place to be used to relieve ourselves and us not to go along for this purpose, except from lunchtime. And that was before we had trees close to our houses. So she goes out to relieve herself one night with
with the with a woman called Ole Miss is actually her Auntie
or miss path she goes. So they used to go remembers the desert. But they didn't have laboratories in their homes. So they again, they used to go out quite far when I see the water displacement monastic leave themselves to come back, and then we'll go with summer. Right? And so she went home
to this place called Manassas.
And this happened about so similar to the habit of the old harrows in the desert. So in the comments concerning the evacuation of towers, we considered it troublesome and harmful to take refugees in the houses. So I went out with a start, I was the daughter of a bureau event.
And her mother was daughter suffered. And that was the font of the book was Cindy. And her son was this lovely.
So she goes out with her Auntie,
When we had finished our own this time came back.
I came back towards my house, or miss stumbled over the road. Whereupon she said, Let this stuff be ruined. I said to them,
I said to her, what would you have said, Do you abuse a man who has taken part in the battle with them?
supanova again, this woman has grown up and she's actually gone. This girl has grown up in the in the house of death of a loved one.
a lady from Paradise and a man from Paradise.
And then she goes and she's cultivated in the house of
the best creations.
And you see this throughout the story, how she displays the bits of your moral character.
How Auntie there's not any old person, this is her auntie. She trips over her room. She says like this
is Auntie son.
Now, this is a figurative statement. The Arabs when they would say you know when when something would happen, like, you know that if they tripped on something like this, they would say statements like this, but usually it would be for the enemy. Right? It would be for the enemy. But on this occasion, she curses her own son.
But the literal meaning is not always supposed to be supposed to be right. But it's like to kind of almost
you know, she doesn't have you with us on a great clip. So she says
how does it show their love and how to deal with this?
This is your auntie. She doesn't say always like GG. Let me just leave her saying what she said no, she's concerned about a lot. And she's concerned about her cousins if it was going on.
Because she's just packed with him. So what does she say? She says what are bad words you have said she immediately enjoys the good and the evil
No matter who the person is, she immediately
tolerate this backbiting, even though you're my auntie, what's a bad word you have said. And then not only that she's not a bad thing. She goes to defend the honor of this person who's been bad with him. And she makes, she mentioned something good about him. A lot of work, but he
When somebody is mentioned in other presidents in a bad way, we should stop the person from backbiting. But not only that, we should continue to mention the good things about that person to try and negate what's just been said.
What does she say? She says, Do you abuse A man was taking part in the Battle of
Subhanallah brothers and sisters thinking about this? She doesn't.
She does not, you know, hesitate to forbid that he will. Because it's rbg. Know, she immediately rushes to defend the honor of our fellow brothers and sisters, this shows that
we should never buy bitcoin. It is such a grave thing once.
Once I showed him or herself, she said about, I think it was Sophia with the love. I have another co wife.
She's human, she made a mistake. She She said it is enough for you to know about some issues like this. And she indicated that she showed.
And because of this, the prophesies stopped and said what you have said, You've said such a great word, that if you could be mixed with the waters of the seas, the waters,
it would watch, it would contaminate it.
It's huge in the size of a bomb. So when we think that we have been held back by so we are about to abide by, let us think about these. This is the character that as a Muslim should display. So these are views a man who has taken part in the Battle of better.
She said, Oh, you didn't you hear what he said? I said, What did he say? She told me the statement of the people have to get the photos taken, which he which
she told me the statement of the people of Africa. She she's a first person is one month into her illness. The processor did not deal with this situation. He he you know because she was ill.
So she finds out through her article
on this Miss is obviously she she the reason she comes was because Mr. He did not come caught the light, you make it up. But he sprinted that night. And this also shows that
right? It shows that her own son has done something wrong. She don't want to put it away that she don't get accepted just because it's her son. And this is part of being a Muslim also, that we have complete justice, even if it's to our enemies, we should show justice to them. And even if something close someone close to us have done something wrong, we must show justice.
And so she's not gonna accept this just because it's her son. So she criticizes that. And she tells it actually should have told it because this thing.
But this added to her ailment. Naturally, it shows again, just because she's the wife of the process seven emotions, it doesn't mean that she doesn't have feelings. So she got even she got even more sick.
Because of what she has heard about this statement and think about it brothers and sisters. Think about if you've been accused of this heinous crime of adultery.
Think about how you're gonna feel. Imagine a visual
of 15 years old. She was he was 15 years old.
So imagine this brothers and sisters.
So she got obviously upset.
And then she goes home.
When I return her, allows messenger came to me and after greeting, he said, How is this painting? I said, Will you allow me to go to my parents