Channel: Abu Abdissalam
The Slander of Aishah Radi Allahu ‘anha… *PART 2*
An emotional heart rending story that contains some phenomenal lessons for both men and women. It exemplifies how amazing this lady was and how the Prophet SAWS, Aishah, and her parents Radi Allahu ‘anhum, were the epitome of moral character…
Sep 4, 2015
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She just found out that she's been accused of a heinous crime. She has, she already had some kind of feeling that there's something wrong, something going on.
But she doesn't come home and say you knew about
me or none of this. She immediately she takes time out to think. And more importantly, she wants to verify that information. She was the verify is what I've been told, is it correct.
So she asked,
permission to verify
My husband at this point, she simply says, will you give me permission to go to my parents house,
the harmony between husband and wife
just as for my permission, and at the same time.
At that time, I intended to be sure of the news of truth and allows messenger allowed me and I went to my parents, and
so immediately the process I sent them, to stop her from visiting her parents. So this shows a harmony between the spouses, that we should not discourage our families to visit their parents, in fact, is
to stop them completely. Without valid reason, right, as long as not permissible to, to food to do that. And at the same time, there's a hungry shut off.
Right? So there's a relationship between the spouses now, and she wanted to verify this information, and who better to verify it from her parents, because the parents want the best in her interest. And number two, they're the most truthful people.
Oh, my mother.
My mother said, Oh, my daughter, take it easy.
There is no charming lady
who has other wives as well. But then those wives find the focus
on the people really talk about that.
Now, she goes to the mother.
Now when we compare this situation, what happens today, she goes to a mother. And it's very clear, firstly, we find out that the mother already knows about this. She knows that people people are saying about the loved one. Again, the mother is not interfering with the marriage. She did not say, Oh my god, do you know your husband should be defending you was going oh bla bla, bla, none of this. How does she deal with his brothers and sisters? She relaxes and calms down the situation says Don't worry about it.
What's what brothers and sisters This is how we should behave? This is how we should behave. You know, when somebody is upset?
You know, being upset. Yeah, you know, can you believe that? They're saying this about you? And they will say no, you don't have to
calm the situation down the person is already upset. Don't cause him to die in the marriage don't cause problems in the marriage.
This is the mother in law.
And this shows her moral character, the wife of a significant
so how this GPA she simply says Don't worry, relax is one of these things.
You know you're a co wife. There are the wives of course is going to be some kind of jealousy whatever, by the way that my wife didn't say anything bad against it.
As we should see
he calls the situation down
to how does it
react he stopped using discussing language.
But she's not swearing about other people who concocted this line. None of them. What's the first thing she says? supplying a lot of freeze on love from defect.
This is the way of the believer when a car accident happens. Oh crap, you know, what's worse than that? Right? No, this is not how I was gonna behave.
But it's really happened.
I mean, if you think about this person has a car accident and uses experiences and if you're used to using foul language, especially
Moments of difficulty imagine,
imagine you're in a car accident that leads to your death. And the last words you say is an exclusive
lock protects us from this. So we should always engender in ourselves the character of using
phrases like this some common law, when things happen that might go wrong in
But she's a human being.
That I kept on leaving into the morning, my tears never stops motion, isolation, and mourning broke while still leaving.
And she shows that she's a human being. She feels pain, she feels, you know, emotional, it affects her. And you know, something brothers and sisters, this tongue can be sharper than the sword. Sometimes, a person can harm you physically, when you get over that quite quickly. But when somebody says something about your honor, it affects you right there in the heart.
You feel pain, you cry, you get upset. And this is not true. This is not true. As human beings have us created us in this way that when people speak badly about us, of course, when we go through calamities, of course, you get upset, this is part of giving you when someone passes away, it is natural to cry. But what is not permissible is to go overboard. So she spent the whole night crying, she's upset.
She felt the sadness. And she said, My tears don't stop. Nor did I sleep, it is natural to have sleepless nights. In these occasions, he's been accused of the most one of the most heinous crimes.
And so she says I'm living broke, while I was still weeping, and crying and crying and crying. Why is she crying because somebody has questioned her and accused her of this horrible song that I'll do a lot with. So this is natural,
allows messenger and cool for him
when the divine inspiration delayed some singing, in order to consult them as the idea of dosing.
So at this point, the prophets I send them is waiting for revelations to come. And revelation did not come yet. And the process of causes click his fingers and other reviews, I had no allies and Lord of the heavens and the other allies, the one who revealed his idea.
So the professor said it was being tested, as well. And the Sahaba were being tested, and we learn from these lessons. If revelation came straight away, then we will not know how to behave in such a situation. So he's waiting for at the same time.
There's a principle of innocent till proven guilty while also he's the Messenger of Allah. He has to keep his reputation clean 100% because he's carrying the message of Islam, he's carrying the message of a large.
So he goes to take advice from his trip to trusty companions
that have suddenly been saved.
So he asked, What do you think I should do in this situation? Should I divorce her? Not that she's guilty? But should I divorce her? What do you think?
of anything bad happening? What do you think I should do?
of what can you do about the innocence of his wife and his affection? He kept on? He said, Our last messenger sees your wife, and we do not know anything about except good. Look at this brothers and sisters, once again, this is the epitome of moral character.
He says Some even say
he said the first thing he said he's, he says
he told the process, what he knew about the innocence of his wife. How does he know she?
How did she know that she's innocent?
there's no proof.
A person is 100% innocent until proven guilty. So what does he say? He says
that he talks about the innocence of his wife.
Citizen. And then he goes further he reminds the process of his affection that he kept for he also was you
Your wife and we do not know anything about her except good.
And he went through the process similar to what you love,
you have a special place in your heart for her. This shows us how we must behave when two people fall out, or there's some kind of event that may happen between them.
This goes between two spouses, between two brothers, two sisters, siblings, parents, children, and sexual friends, even
when two people thought we should do everything in our power to bring them back together for the sake of Allah.
the believers, so reconcile between them. In fact, one of the worst crimes in Islam is to lie is impermissible is unlawful to mine. However, the prophets lie, Selim told us that even this crime, which is normally a crime, lying becomes permissible in order to bring Muslims back together.
So two Sims are having an argument of fighting one another, or hating one another, it becomes permissible in such a situation as the
US or allow us to do you
know what he really likes you? He said some really good things about
his swearing at him and everything. No, you don't mention that.
You simply say,
I know you're upset with him. He really loves you. He was talking about all the good times that you guys have. And he was saying that you're so generous in your kindness is thinking like any.
But he's, you know, he says, You're really generous, you're distraught. Then he goes to the other person says, you know why he says this about you? He has a special place for you. And he's really upset about this filter, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then, as humans, we like this, and it brings people together, but how do we behave? You know, what? Do you know what you said about you?
That's how we
what we know. Right? proklima This is how we behave. This is how we behave. But Islam teaches us no bring these people together. Even lying is permissible, if it means to bring people together. In fact, lying is permissible on certain occasions. Another such occasion is lying to your spouse's. As an example, the wife spends three hours making your favorite dish.
Right, you come home when she spent the whole day making this food. And you look, you take one look at it looks like
I'd rather caught up to the takeaway.
Tell your wife and sister
what you're supposed to say much. This is the best thing
I've ever had.
Brother, once he's actually a chef, I won't mention his name. You will know when we were written. We were in a particular location of trying to tell the story without giving away who it is.
And we went to visit his Auntie, right his auntie.
And at that occasion,
so we went there, me and him and our wives. So our wives obviously went into the sisters section. It was just me and the brother. We were waiting for them to come. So we were in the in the men's section is just us too. So the Auntie comes into the room with this kind of desert thing.
Right? I don't know how to describe it.
But anyway, she comes from this desert. Right? And actually, I want to say
and my question is,
who was with me?
Anyway, he goes, he goes to me, don't worry, I'll go brilliant.
Right? So you take
the bowl of the
custom, it looks like
some kind of texture or color of custom right? So he takes a little bit one spoon and he puts it in his bowl. He starts spreading it around the place it looks like he's eaten.
And so I followed suit. I did the same thing. That was a brilliant I was looking for trees
but they seem to give
I did. So I took a spoon as well I put it in, then I spread it around. And, you know, I had a one one mill teaspoon.
Anyway, so the county comes back after about 510 minutes. He said, You don't give me anything. Right? And she said, You know what to do, which is even funnier, right? And
I'll say so much funny.
He says, Navy on the bottom.
He said, No, no, it was really delicious.
Looks like a monkey. So she grabbed this.
We should have seen his face.
He should have seen his faces. I sat down I just
I didn't like open to anybody. He was like, yeah.
We had a really, really good laugh. Anyway. So bringing people together and if you know is
your spouse's even in these types of situation. He shows how Islam is pragmatic. It's practical religion,
of crime, like a major sin, you know,
and he's not harming the situation to bring people together when he was asked to share.
If you think this probably before,
housing possible, like if you keep
the food's really good, the food's really good. You're always gonna get bad food.
is a veteran chair.
He says to me,
he says, No, no, what you do is you say it's really lovely, but it would be even more tasty if you put a more solid
Anyway, the point being is how Allah allows life in such situations. So how does she deal with it? Right? How does this situation sound like? He reminds him
of the good characteristics.
Innocence about nothing but good. And she's beloved to you. She's your wife, you love her. Now, then the most asks.
Allah does not impose restrictions on you. And there are plenty of women other than our last mistake, though, she will tell you the truth. So I showed you, the seven girls slayed Goku, but she actually fried Medina as well.
So burrito raw, right, I don't even have to call him he says he gives the other option. There is the option. I'll have plenty of restrictions on you can get mine. Nice.
But it would be better if you go to ask her slave, a slave. Why? Because when he was going to be with her all the time, or she's going to be regularly, you know, like a companion of the loved one. So you can see how
gives the other option? Yeah, there is an option. However God knows that.
That same girl if she seen any signs, verify the information is how Allah subhanaw taala commanded us.
So molars messengers,
called for burrito and said, Oh, did you ever see anything around you suspicion?
By Allah who has sent you with the truth? I have never seen anything regarding Russia, which I would blame him for. Except, so I certainly love it.
receive anything that could arouse any suspicion. Have you seen anything bad about it? shall they love it?
Somebody, she takes an oath, she said, along with the truth. So now she's taking it over. She has to stay 100% truth, the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. So she said I have nothing I've seen nothing that I can blame her for.
But the problem is she's not taking enough. She feels she has seen something that she blames her. There is something that she is, you know she upset with is one of the alarm on her phone, in the sense that she's seen something in Ayesha that she does blame her for and now because you've taken an oath to tell the whole truth. So she says
I've never seen anything regarding Russia, which I would blame
For except that she's a little dangerous sometimes leaves and leaves and go with the family and unprotected. So the girls coming into
this is the maximum she has.
You know, when she
she needs to go outside,
she leaves outside of the domestic, the Boston domestic.
Right they come in, they start eating this dog. But again, this shows how much they this habit they put towards the idea of lying, or the opposite, not telling the full truth. You know, they found it absolutely imperative that even in details as to telephone truth, because she's taken an oath and the words that she used is, you know, who sent you the truth?
I did not. I cannot blame her for anything for now, she said that she has to say, Well, actually, in the back of my mind there is.
I bet it's true. All right. Again, it shows the importance of truth. But we see here again, she never she hasn't seen a single thing that shows anything bad about it.
So last messages,
and address the people can ask for somebody who take the venue.
And the last
one on the puppet said, are Muslims, who will help me against a man who is a Muslim in my family
said good about my family. And people have blamed a man on nothing except good. And he never used to visit my family except
again, no. Have revelation come Yes or no? yet? Yes or no? No, it hasn't come. The police iclm has not been given revelation. However, he's defending the honor to people, not just his wife and their loved ones. But also he's defending the author of the person who's been accused
of committing a crime with his old wife, or their loved one.
Look at the high standards of morality of the prophets.
Right? Today, we know that a seed of doubt is dead.
That's why you went to
Kosovo A long time ago. Right? We know the seeds of doubt that revelation hasn't come. However, despite that, there is a principle which is innocence until proven guilty. I don't mind showing this information alive showing us how we should behave because it is revelation came. And then the prophets I send them
differently the owner of those two people,
then we would have said
But the process I'm getting from the pulpit and defends the honor of his wife. And
despite the fact that revelation was not common, based on words, based on the principle that somebody is innocent until proven guilty, without any doubt, any doubt, you put aside that doubt you have any doubt
until it is beyond any reasonable doubt, beyond any doubt.
So he is about to execute this person called soft.
like nobody wants to know cuz he's the one who concocted the line. Right. So he asked the Sahaba is about to actually execute based on the principle of all
innocent till proven guilty. And in those days, this is what and also he was
a frequent as well
up and said,
I will review on him, if he be from this tribe or money house, then I will chop his head and if he be from our brethren, and then you give us your order, and we will mate on that side.
And he was a chief.
And before this incident, he had been a pious man and he was excited by silverstripe.
You shall not kill him and you will never be able to kill them on that will say ignore the customer decide that
you are alive by allowing eternal we will surely kill him. You are a hypocrite defending them.
So the two tribes are the house of hazards quite excited until they were on the point of fighting with each other ones.
I suppose some of our findings are standing with the public.
So here now the processor is defending the honor of these two people. And he's basically said, we're going to, you know, who's gonna help me against this plan? I live in a way that's so sad.
is from the tribe of
Medina before the Policy Center, there were three main groups of people. There were the hosts, and there was a husband and these two are both Arabs, but two different tribes. And then there were the Jews, which were obviously not from the Arabs. Oh, and the first Raj, right, these two tribes were always fighting one another. And the Jews, they were sometimes I will also sometimes side with cousin Ranch, they had the balance of power freedom. Right. So the Olson the husband's, they were always fighting one another until the prophesizing. came and united them upon Islam.
No, Saturday, and Sunday, but we love it when he got up. And he said,
I will relieve you of him. If he beats from a house. That's his own tribe. If this person who has no remember the process in general mentioned the name of our local women's room, it is mentioned on the pulpit. But everyone knows who he is.
Everyone knows who he is. And also Sam knows from his. And
he's not from Oh, she's from what? From her husband, she's from the undertrial. So so he tries to handle this in a sensitive way. He says, he's from my tribe, I will personally deal with him, I will personally deal with him. But if he's from our brothers, he didn't say that tribe. He didn't say the other tribe. If he's from our brothers, I'll break through
that then you give us your Odin, and we will have a
drive, I'll deal with it straight away. Because he's my tribe. And I'll be protected. No other tribal fight my tribe basically is, however, he paid for my brothers, and he called them brothers, their customers. I don't know if you want me to do it, cuz that could cause a war between the tribes. Right? on that side, he was the chief of the village. So you know, the other tribe. He's from the tribe.
He gets up just
because of, and notice how I showed up again,
differently. She says
he was just incited by his voice drive.
Right? He's gone. And he's basically says,
he basically says, you won't kill him. Right? You won't have anything to do.
Bear in mind, this is the owner, okay, someone, they won't just let anyone come and deal with some of their own trial. This is pre Islamic. Okay, this is pre Islamic Arab culture. Right? So this came in, but I sort of love it. Even though this man is defending a hypocrite, and he's also happy. How does she relay this information to her? She simply says, Oh, you know, I really
don't think he was bad. I don't think he was evil. He didn't do it because of that.
Again, it shows the high character of I still beloved villa.
So as you won't be able to kill him on that.
You're a liar.
You will surely kill him, defending the hypocrites. So now this commotion between these two tribes also considered that Arsalan is standing on the main board on the pulpit.
So the problem is I set up
a lot of messages from continued claiming them until they became silent. He became
so the person instead of now he can he realized that this is gonna cause a bigger fitna. So let me not these two tribes. They have a history of war. Right there is a very recent in the last few years that they've come together based on Islam. So there is that, you know, we don't want to stoke those flames of prejudice and tribalism again and causing civil war in Medina.
So he quieten down, relax, don't worry
Whether anything, just leave it kind of thing. Okay, now
on that day I kept on making so much that neither did my tears stop no cry sleep. in the morning. My parents were with me when I had
a day without sneaking, incessant tears to my neighbor because
while I was sleeping alongside, a woman came and asked permission to see me. I admitted that she said, and
I showed the loved one goes back to what happened while
on the pulpit.
And now you go back to the other scene, you know what's happening to her.
She's still crying. She's still upset a few days. Right? She's been crying for two nights in a day without sleeping. Remember, she found out?
Yeah, which went out to relieve herself. Then when she found out that whole night she's been crying, then the whole day's been crying. Then the whole night again, she'd been crying. On the day, she's been crying with incessant tears, which hasn't slept, till they thought my liver would burst with weeping.
They just thought, Oh, you know, you need to stop crying.
While they were with me, and I was weeping and uninstalling.
And we don't know who this is. She just comes in, and she earns herself a massive reward, massive reward and we don't even know her name. But she comes in, and she asked permission to see me. She says, I wish that she sat down and started weeping with me a lot. This is a system of right when your brother feels pain when your sister feels pain.
If the least you can do is go
empathize with the other person, she goes in, and she simply stops crying with eyes of your loved one, and shares this burden. And also, this shows how much they love one another, for our sake, that the pain of one person is my pain. And this is how we should make the magic of the car in the lessons that we hear in this story in our day to day lives. Just imagine how different the world would be today.
That state allows us to
reach in and sat down. He had never sat with me since the day what was said who said he had stayed a month without receiving any divine inspiration concerning my case.
So the purpose I send them comes in who she with now. She's a woman and she's with her parents. Okay. And she's sitting down.
sorry, woman seems to be there.
And the professor sealant comes in now, the prophesized.
What's he done? He's check. He's taken advice from his two brothers. And saying, brother or someone will say, his brother, his trusted people, pious people, he goes to about to verify.
But despite absolutely no evidence, she's innocent till proven guilty.
He gets up on the pulpit, and he defends her
And then he's willing to, you know, almost
he's willing to execute and punish that person conducting the life regulation has not yet come based on the principle of innocence to proven guilty.
Then, as he then he comes in, he finally addresses I showed the loved one isn't sat with her for a whole month about this case. So you find that he comes and he comes into the room and discusses something, this thing with Ayesha
and he doesn't do it publicly. He doesn't only in the presence of those people who are close to her, including her own parents.
allows us to do some
research after him sat down said they're often audition. I have been informed such and such a thing about you. And if you are innocent, allow will reveal you innocence. And if you have committed a sin and as a last giveness
Repeat to him, for when a slave confessing his sin and then repent to Allah. Allah accepts his repentance.
his wife has been accused of adultery, some a lot while he was in love. And look at the way he addresses how
he calmly sits down and
And then he's,
even though in public, he's defending her honor, because she is innocent till proven guilty. He addresses with these words that should be carved in our minds. Look at these brothers. When we read this, imagine if your spouse
was accused of such a crime, how would you behave?
The Postal Service has not had any revelation yet. He says, Oh, I have been informed such and such a thing about you imagine how difficult it would have been to utter these words.
As a human being he felt compassion and mercy. But he was a human being he felt those emotions that my own wife has been accused of this horrible crime.
So how does he deal with it when he addresses this wife of his
most beloved wife?
Imagine how much pain
isn't the first option. This is the default before they join us. Now I'm talking to one to one. I don't know that I don't know the unseen but I'm giving you hope that if you're innocent, and only a lot of you, and so far, only you three know the innocence.
What really happened? That's between you and Obama. I'm not here to judge you. But what I'm telling you is that if you are innocent of marble revealed your innocence
is a possibility.
possibilities that I showed me unfolded into a sim. So the interest is that possibility, even though
publicly is about punish the person who has you know, slogans, hug without any evidence was accused of any evidence, but in private, between me and you and only your parents
right? In between us on giving you advice.
I repent to him
and then repent,
This is the highest level of moral character, exemplary behavior, brothers and sisters.
spouses in this way.
The first thing you say why did you get left behind? Why don't you get away from the army? Why did you keep on why did you come to this man alone? Why Why am I doing we will naturally release our anger in this way.
Don't you know that has been because of this domino
effect. And this is what people are saying about my wife. None of these Protestant sisters none of this
none of this
into a sin then know that Allah forgives, seek forgiveness from Allah
sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And he accepts that there is a physical possibility that she is so
she's one of the best people it is a possibility that she may have fallen into a sin and that's between and I'm more concerned about her about her relationship with a loss kind of went to either
one brothers and sisters is the highest level of moral character.
This puts things into perspective
when we look our spouse
So our friends or our siblings or children or our parents, how do we deal with them when they commit sins? How do we deal with them? How do we deal with them in this way? Oh, my brother, oh, my sister is
Sin, then repent to Allah because otherwise.
I mean, for me, this is
how the book deals with this situation is just unimaginable
reveals in the process.
Allah says, In the
character, this is our lesson,
when allows messages are allowed and finished in speech, my tears system, so that I no longer felt even and drop them.
Then I said to my father replying to messages on my behalf as to what he has said, he said, You know what, I do not know what to say to all those messages
that I sent to my mother replying to all those messages.
She said, I'm not know what to say. I'm
still young girl as I was, though I had original knowledge. And I said, Why, Mama, I know that you have heard this story. So much so that it has been planted into your mind, and you have believed it.
So now, if I tell you that I'm innocent, and Allah knows that I'm innocent, you will not believe me. And if I confess something
is coming in Believe me. Why am I cannot find Have you an example except that Joseph Spanish. So for me, patience is most fitting against that richness. And it is a lot of unknowns. How can we say, then I turned away I made my bed. And at that time, I knew I was innocent, and that alone would reveal my innocence.