Hadith #7 Companionship and Influence, Choosing Friends with Purpose

Abdullah Oduro


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On the authority of a Buho radar Allahu Anhu he said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Roger Allah Allah Dini holiday he fell Young who had to come May you Holland that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the man follows his friends religion or his close friends religion, so, each one should be careful and look to who they take as friends. So the first thing is a Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said a Raju and another Hadith

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and Merola Dena Kalia Allah Didi Holly. So the first thing is the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentions Khaleel and hollyland. Arabic

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means close confidant close friend, not just someone that's an acquaintance, not someone that you're getting to know someone that you've known for a while someone that you have a close connection to, like if something goes wrong, this is the one you're going to call you feel in a certain way. That's the one you're going to call it there's problems, you're going to express it to them, you want to vent is going to be them. People when they see that person, they think of you because y'all are so close, everyone knows. And Holly, even when you look at it linguistically, comes from like when we talk about vinegar, it's have to wear different elements in different particles mixed with one

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another, to the degree that stay so long and affirmance Ibrahim alayhi salam was called Heidi Allah, Allah, he was a friend, close friend of Allah subhana wa taala, which is an expression to show that Abraham and as Adam was close to Allah, with his worship, with his heart, with his actions with this a bad deal with his struggle that brought him closer to Allah, which is another interesting subject in regards to how we become

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So the first type shows the Khalil is at the highest level. So each one of you are you a highly of someone, and who is your Helene, because sometimes you may be someone's Khalil. And they're not your Hollier. And this happens a lot of times with us as young men, and grown men as well. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is mentioning something very important that whatever your HollyWell is, upon know that you will be affected by it that you are upon what he's upon. Because when you think about it, initially, you'll have the same interests. So that interest is what ultimately brings any type of people together right now you're listening to me, because there is an Islamic interest of

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you trying to understand what it means to be a man Islamically. So that interest is that what brought you together with your friend, you need to stop and think what do me and my close close my main man 100 grand right? What do we have in common that brings us together? What is that common denominator that we share? That we are so passionate about? That makes us close? Is it our personality? Is it our race? Is it our tribe? Is it our parents? Is it a sport? Is it an academic endeavor? Is it something a certain magazine we like a certain video game we like? What is it that brings us together and make no mistake? There's going to be something whatever brought you all

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together, it's what you all both are passionate about. That is one strong element of what made your close friends dare even say best friends.

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The second point is important to understand that we're social creatures. So when we talked about the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam being that he said Kula mode and EULA do Allah federal Oh Mameluke Illa EULA darlin fitrah. When the Prophet SAW Selim said that there is no

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any element or any person or object that is born, human being that is born, except that they are born on the natural inclination, the fitrah, which means that which is naturally ingrained in the human being, but for a while, who you holy Danny, oh, you know, Cydonia Maji Sandy, or his two parents make him a Jew, Christian, or imagine his or Astron were fire worshiper. This is important in regards to nature, that you're born on the fifth throne, but your social environment, what is around you, consistently, will have an effect on you. And subhanAllah, even when we look at it from the weather, you know, the weather, when you're around the sun, your skin is going to darken. Some

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people may get a certain level of skin cancer, you're going to be so used to it. When you're on the cold, it's different. So the environment even there's even a study called epigenetics, that the environment has a plays a role on your genetics, your genes SubhanAllah. So this shows the importance of the social environment that you're around. So the habits that your close friend may have. If you are not an objection to them, then you may gain and take on those habits as well. Whether it's smoking cigarettes, whether it's staying away from cigarettes, drugs, for girls, a misogynist way of thinking about girls, a nihilism thinking that life doesn't have any meaning.

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In atheism, if you're around that friend that has had a bad experience, young man, parents got a divorce. He hates his father. Mother doesn't understand him goes on to drugs. You're coming from a family. So we have a mother and father, but they're still, you know, you see them argue every now and then. And your friend starts to get involved in smoking weed. So you start to smoke weed with him. It's going to it's a downhill spiral from there slippery slope, unless one of y'all stands up to one of to your friend, or vice versa. And they say, bro, this isn't right, man. You know, we know what this is going to lead us. Let's handle our problems a different way. You know, we're men, we're

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trying to be men, honest, upright men to have children? Would you want your son doing it? Would you want your daughter doing that? Right? One is going to affect the other. And guess what?

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When you all start to disagree on certain concepts and guidelines of life, you'll slowly split apart.

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And there's nothing wrong with that. It's important to have standards do not be a yes man, your friend, which leads to the third point

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who is the leader, because a lot of times when you have a hottie and one is leading the other. Now it may be he may lead you in one particular aspect of life and you may lead him in another. So for instance, you may be the one that reminds him to pray all the time. And he's the one that's reminding you to go out and get a job or two ways and finding a job and ways of of staying fit. He's really good at fitness and nutrition. And you're always reminding him to read the Quran. He's reading the Quran, you're getting fit. This is something that is commendable, because both of these are helping you be a better man. And that's why this hadith is so important. What are the elements

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of your friend, the characteristics of your friend that assists you and being a man's man, a master man rooted in the deen? Because sometimes you'll meet someone, you know, I had a friend Subhanallah he was involved in martial arts. But when it came to religion, he was atheists he had a lot to say about atheism, the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, we had a commonality in martial arts. But when it came to the deen, no commonality, guess what? I had a choice to make? Did I want to hang around him for five days a week and train? Or did I want to go my separate way? I decided to go my separate ways. And I let him know the reasons why. You know, and that's important. Your allele is

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founded in what

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their friendship is founded in what what is the basis of that friendship to which if it wasn't there, if it's not there, it could compromise the integrity of the friendship and a man is indifferent. We're going to talk about that. He is indifferent. The only person that he relies on and ultimately wants to please the only thing that he wants to rely on in please is Allah subhanho wa Taala everything else is subservient to that even your friends. So may Allah subhana wa Tada make us of those that choose righteous friends, right friends, those that want to do the right things, because determining what is right and wrong is not ultimately up to you or me or to your friend.

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It's up to Allah subhana wa Tada. So may Allah Subhana Allah make us of those that choose the the good close friends for that which benefits us in this life as men and in the next life inshallah. So I was able to catch