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Mother vs. Wife in a Man’s Life – #40 For Her

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Abdul Wahab Saleem

Channel: Abdul Wahab Saleem

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When I shall be allowed to ask the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, au nasci our Maha canal Marathi Yasuda Allah, who happens to be the greatest person in terms of the right? That he has or she has upon a woman, a prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So the prophets of Salaam said, Your husband xojo or her husband, right?

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So then I, he continued, and she asked, she said, Who is the most greatest of people in terms of right upon the man, oh, Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So the prophet SAW Selim replied, and he said his mother, okay?

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This is a very important Hadith. Why? Because in our times, the practice happens to be the exact opposite of this, where the husbands they are pretty much owned by their wives. Right. And

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the wives, they,

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they are owned by their mothers. Okay. So they take the, this is the hierarchy, they end up taking the instructions from the mothers, and then they implement them onto the, the husband's Misaki and SubhanAllah.

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So, but the prophet SAW Selim had a different hierarchy that he had made, he said that in terms of the, in terms of the man, he shouldn't be more beautiful to his mother, okay. Whereas in terms of the woman, she should be more dutiful to the husband as well. Now, sometimes when we say, Oh, the woman has to be dutiful to the husband, oh, I'm really that negligible, or I'm not that important that I have to do this. Now. The feminist movements, you know, what they're doing to our woman's have had a lot. But they don't understand that there's actually a system here. It's not that every man every woman is subjected to a man, because every man is also subjected to a woman as well.

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Okay, so this man to whom you have to report and to whom you have to ensure he's pleased, he asked to also ensure another woman is pleased with with him, and that is his mother. So this is just the way a large profits SLM made the system, this doesn't mean the woman is less worthy, or less capable, or so on and so forth, the way they end up painting these pictures, it just means this is how Allah is Prophet says ylim had made the system so there is someone that the man has to report back to, and he has to ensure she's pleased with him in every moment in his life. Imagine this in every way. The prophets of Allah made this man who is a child subjected to the mother, right? Why

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doesn't the men complain? So why am I subjected to women?

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It's just natural. She's your mom. The Prophet is seldom said olmak. In terms of the sadaqa, the prophet is seldom said

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that the mother when it came to the personal Sahaba, the good companionship, so naturally, he said, over here, the man, he has to ensure that the rights of the woman, the mother, are fulfilled, and the woman has to ensure that the rights of the husband are fulfilled, and if everybody does their job in this ecosystem, that the profits are seldom laid out, then we will have ideal family relations, okay. But if we end up changing these things around where the mother in law is poking her head into the relationships, right.

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And the, and the wife is, for example, subjecting the man right. And she's deciding what he should be doing or how he should be doing what will have problems. This is actually one of the signs of the Day of Judgment, by the way.

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How so there is a hadith in Timothy, in which the prophets as Elin mentioned a number of signs, although this hadith has some weakness in it, but some scholars, they strengthened it to some capacity. It said that one of the signs of the Day of Judgment is that the husband will end up following the wife obeying the wife, and

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disobeying the mother.

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Okay, and we see this happening today as well, where many men they end up because of their love is because of their love for their wives or because they're afraid they're going to lose their wives, etc. They end up obeying their wives, even in situations where they know that their mothers will be displeased with them. Okay? This is not permissible. Why? Because the hierarchy that the prophet SAW Selim had said, and by the way, a righteous woman would always ensure that her husband is being dutiful to the mother. Why? Because she knows that that's the way he can get gender.

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As for a woman who doesn't want Jenna for her husband, then yes, she's going to subtract the husband and she knows the way to do that as well. Okay. So she knows the way to do that. And then naturally, you're going to lose the opportunity of meeting your spouse in general. Why

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Because if a woman were to do this, then she is basically getting the husband not to fulfill the rights that are due upon him and hence he will be paying for them in Hellfire, especially when it comes to the rights of the mother of all of all people.

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So what do we learn from this hadith we learn the fact that we have to prioritize. Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had a specific family system that he had laid down there. Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran, also spoke about some angles of this family system. All right, so every person within the system has to be playing his part in the ecosystem for everything to work. If one person is not playing his part, then someone else will have to fill in and then everything will start to break apart.