Mercy And Anger Of Allah SWT
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The speakers discuss the benefits of avoiding negative emotions and mistakes in Islam, including sh matter and forgiveness. They emphasize the importance of transformation in the heart to feel bad about things and the need for people to be mindful of their actions. They also touch on the negative impact of actions and the importance of acknowledging and embracing one's behavior. The speakers emphasize the need for people to be mindful of their actions and avoid small concessions.AI Generated Transcript ©
Good morning everybody. I know you guys are muscle on college so it feels like it's like dawn right now, right? It's 1130 or like it's your son outside
but it's good to see Mashallah that you guys have been invited by Allah subhana wa tada to come and partake in his remembrance and this is something that we take from the the beliefs and the teachings of Islam is that when someone is guided to do head that makes sure thank Allah for that right because it's not on their own volition that they woke up and came and came here but Allah Spano tala inspired you, and he put that goodness in your heart to come here inshallah and benefit a little bit. And so Pinilla just before we get started, because I know that the talks today are a little bit more, you know, substantive and academic. But it's good to begin by understanding the station that
you've achieved just by simply coming here. There are many ahadeeth was talking about the virtues of people who gather in the Holocaust of remembrance of Allah that they come together and the only reason why they come is so that they can remember Allah spawn Tada, right. The first is that Allah spawn without ever he remembers you by name. That if somebody mentioned to you, like, how many of you watch the State of the Union address?
No one wants it. Okay. So no one really does. Everyone just watches the highlights. Okay. So, but how would you feel like Mashallah, if if somebody who was really, really well known, really famous, right, whether it was the president of United States or a celebrity, it's like, in the middle of their TV interview, they mentioned your name, and they gave you a shout out, they gave you some praise, right? So Mashallah Derrick Rose AlphaGo, right. After he it's a game winner. He says, I just want to give a shout out to my boy, and Murphy, right. I would save that I would memorialize that clip, I would put it on the iPad and put on repeat and mount that to my wall. Right? I would be
so happy and so proud that someone that I admire in terms of his athletic ability remembered me and that's just someone who plays basketball. Right? What about the Creator of the heavens and the earth? What about the robot? aalameen? Like what about the one who is the one that we literally turned stop our life five times a day to worship that Lord, and Allah, Allah tada is remembering you now. So Subhan Allah, we say, 100 of that for that as simply just by coming here, whether or not you take notes, whether or not you learn anything, whether or not you you know, fall asleep in the lecture, just by the virtue of you sitting in that chair alongside others remembering your name,
then the next benefit is that every moment you spend here, Your sins are being forgiven, you guys know like, when you're filling up gas, you have that dollar sign that keeps rolling, rolling, rolling, imagine like your sins are rolling the other way. So as you're sitting here, your sin meter is like dropping, dropping, dropping, dropping, and your meter your good deeds are rolling up. So literally the amount of time that you spend here inshallah remembering Allah, then you can feel very good knowing that when you leave, that I lost this many sins, right? How many hours? How many days of sins will we have accumulated by the time that we leave this world? So heinola? Right, how many
moments of sins if you add them up, they would add up to like, hours, days, weeks, and hopefully not months, we asked the law to protect us. So just by sitting here from the law, even though you guys have a lot of stuff to do. I know you may have exams coming up soon, you may have quizzes, you may just want to sleep in, right, it's a Saturday. But the end if you if you don't call the sleeping in, that's crazy. It's already 1130. But anyways, but you may just want to kind of like relax, and I understand that, right. But by doing this upon a lot, you're showing a lot, I'm sacrificing my time for you. And so your sins get forgiven. Even though it says the person who didn't intend on coming,
they came for a different reason that the person came only because their friend brought them or they came and they sat in the back. And they were just like, chillin, right. So there was a Hadees, where the one of the people was sitting in the back of the messages. And he was like laying down like relaxing. And the Prophet Muhammad SAW someone later said, even a person who does that a lot forgives all their sins, right? So the person doesn't even have to be actively I'm not encouraging you to like, close your notebooks, and like everyone goes in the back and lays down, right. But the idea is that just being in the mere atmosphere of goodness, will have an effect on you. Just like we
say being in the atmosphere of bad people will have an effect on you. And so Allah spawn tada mentions your name, your sins are being forgiven, you're acquiring good deeds. And Allah a the the, you didn't even have to come here to learn, you could have come here just for Tim Hortons doughnuts, right? Or just for coffee or just for your friends purpose. And somehow you're getting all these rewards. So we asked a lot to accept. And we asked Allah subhanaw taala to give us Buttercup in our day, and to allow us to use this day to please Him. I mean, so today, the first talk that we're doing is the first study that we're going to be doing a child law, the way that I've prepared these
sort of sessions is to do a study, right, like a sort of understanding of it from a philosophical perspective, from a theoretical perspective, the topics that we've picked, and then we're going to talk about how to attain these cases.
turistic or how to abstain from them, how to remove ourselves from them or how to become closer to them. So today's first topic is about the love and the anger of Allah subhana wa Tada. And so we're going to talk about like, or the mercy and anger I'm sorry. So we're gonna talk about what does it mean for Allah's mercy to be descending on somebody or to be impacting somebody? What does it mean for a lot of anger to be on somebody? philosophically? What does that say about that? And also, how do we attain that? Because we don't want to just study this in theory, Islam. I'm going to say this multiple times today. Islam is not an exercise in theory. It's an exercise in practice, right? How
many of you are pre med?
Oh, I was expecting all of you. Okay, so Mashallah, the tides are turning right. So pre med? Like what what comes after undergraduate school for pre med students?
med school? And then what's the last part of medical school called? rotations? rotations first and then residency, right? Your parents be so disappointed. So. Right. for teachers? What's the last two semesters for teachers? Student Teaching, Mashallah. Very good. Then you have like four other kinds of engineers, what do they try to get at the end of their degree and internship, there is value in studying things in its theoretical format. Absolutely. But until you apply it practically, in an apprenticeship type of way, then you're never going to fully understand and grasp the knowledge that you sought. So that's why at the end of your study, you did four years undergrad, you did three
years or two years of med school, and they start to slowly transition you to the apprenticeship stage, okay, now you're going to do something called rotations, where you're going to go with a doctor, and he's going to show you she's going to show you what you've been studying in theory. So we've studied Islam, either in Sunday school and full time Islamic school with our parents at the MSA. For years and years and years. Now, we have to start thinking about what it looks like in practice. And so until we make that commitment to practice, the knowledge that we're seeking, we're not going to find the true full benefit of that knowledge. So we're studying it philosophically. And
then we're going to talk about how do I get there today? Okay, so today we're talking about two things. And this is something that's actually very interesting, the anger of Allah spawn tada versus the mercy of Allah. And just to start off with a story about this, I was giving a talk in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, right. Which is this still state Wisconsin? I think it is. Okay. So I was like digging on Wisconsin, Chicagoans tend to have this like very arrogant view of the states that surround them like Indiana, Michigan, Wisconsin, or like, oh, whatever, or Chicago right? But I actually love Michigan, Michigan is where I started like, NYC was like, my, my, my home like my roots. Mashallah,
before you know, I moved away. So but Michigan Hamidullah is beautiful place. And I remember I was in Wisconsin, which is a not so beautiful place. And I was giving a talk to some youngsters. And I asked them a question that blew my mind. Right? The answer completely, like, just really destroyed a lot of my optimism, so Pinilla and it was a it was a youth pm for boys. It was like 12 to 15 or something. And there was like 300 boys there. It was, like packed. And I remember asking the question, I said, How many of us, when I say the word Allah, write the name of Allah, you think immediately of anger. And I made everyone close their eyes so that there was no like, awkward, like,
you know, silence or whatever. And almost 90% of the room, I would say raise their hand, that the default when they hear the name, Allah or Islam, they think of like, this cosmic police officer, that's just to bust them. Right? Like, whenever they do something wrong, like boom, and I proper, right, I'm sort of offering the explanation, that I think the way that we are raised as young people always being threatened with punishment, right, as opposed to being encouraged with goodness, or the ratios are really off like 7030 that that has an immediate impact on our relationship with Allah. And this is actually proven in the Quran. When Allah says love that humble McKenna or by any so he
at all. In the Quran, we learned something I want you guys to note this, okay? When Allah uses the same word, for two different things, it means that those things have a relationship. All right, you guys aren't talking about? A lot can use the same word for two different things conceptually. An example what does that mean?
When we say the robber law, we're talking about the mercy of a law, what is the name for the womb of a mother that is developing her child?
Right, so the root words share this intense meaning, right? So what do we learn from that? that nothing will be able to give mercy more than a mother terror child, right besides Allah, Allah and that's why in the Hadith literature, you find Allah will actually create analogies of His mercy with us as mothers with their children. Another example what's the word for love in Arabic?
Right all the all you single people Mashallah like her
This is another bears talk, please. All right, what's the word for seed
have that very good. So we learned that what love grows Love is not you know something that you just buy and it's there it goes in stages. And so patola in order for love to grow sometimes it has to be put into difficulty right you put it in the dirt and then you give it nutrients and then it sprouts and then if your love is mature enough, you can actually provide benefits to other people through your love shade fruit, things like that. So the Arabic language is very beautiful in this regard that Allah tada when he uses the word for two different things that you find this so in this draw that we just said about parents, but Rob Benham Houma canal biani sahira What word you hear twice?
Rob Burnham, Houma come out of biani Sahara. What word? Are you hearing? Rob? What does Rob mean?
Hmm.
The master right. But actually not just the master. Rob means the one who is in charge, but part of that responsibility is that that one is going to take care of you. Right? So it's not like a very cold authoritarian Master, but it's like a caring nurturing loving master. Like me with my cat Sherlock right? So like no one doubts that I'm the master and he's the cat Okay, although I'm almost positive. Do you guys have cats? I don't have a cat. Cats think that you're their slave? like cats are like yeah, go and you kind of are actually like, my food clean my poop. Right? I threw up on the carpet cleaned it up like all these like random things to follow. We're like, anyways, so May Allah
allow us to get genda to our pets. Right? So to me, this is true we have had about this. So the word raw means master. But here, the first one is referring to Allah. Not the second one. A bit humble man. Oh, Allah. Oh, my God. Have mercy on those two who we talking about? In this draw? Our parents grew up at 100 Houma. kemah, just like Rob Bay, and he, they were mastering nourishing of me. So he at all when I was young, because when you're a baby, I was just at my friend's house here in Michigan. And he has two children, Mashallah. And Mike, one of them's three. And one of them's, I think, one and a half. And so quite a lot. I'm just looking at the mom and the dad, and I'm looking
at how they're like feeding the kid and the kid is like, you know, doesn't want to eat, and they're trying to put the kid to bed and the kids don't want to sleep. And I'm like, dude, 18 years from now, all you're gonna want to do is eat and sleep. So please, for our sake, take advantage of it. Right. And like, so how long this morning for breakfast, like she was feeding him yogurt. And it looked like he had like this epic battle with yogurt on his face. He's like her, right? He's got all his yogurt, and subpanel. I thought to myself, This kid is never going to remember this. May be the three year old might. But the one year old for sure. He's not going to remember, right, the
cognitive milestone, he hasn't hit it yet, where his memories are going to start solidifying. But parents are still merciful to their kids, even though one day later, they won't be able to say, I did this for you. But now we have iPhones. So we might just record everything. I'm gonna do that with my kids. So I'm gonna record proof of why you have to love me, right? And it's just gonna be like their first five years of their life. That's it. But the point is, we make this drive to love, but the word rub is used twice. So how can we use the word rub for Allah and the word rub for our parents? Right? It's kind of an interesting juxtaposition. Like, what does that mean? Some scholars
have said some kind of law and I want you guys to self reflect. How do you feel? Do you feel like this is true for you? Some scholars have said when they made Tafseer this verse, that the love that we have for Allah is nurtured and grown and fashioned by our parents and their upbringing of us. That the way that we view Allah is the primary responsibility of how our parents raised us that if our parents raised us with this authoritarian punishment, and punishments always looming over your head, you know, you have to watch out behind you for the broom or the slipper, the jumbo, the description, right, then you're gonna see a lot in that way. But if you see your parents as being
loving, caring, just in disciplining when needed, but still fair, then you're gonna see a lot that way. Right? And so there's two things that we learned from this number one is that you guys and girls, although you may or may not be married at this point, you have to start beginning to think about how you interact with people and what kind of parent you're going to be if you're going to be a parent child law. You have to think about this amount. Michelle, for one time, a person came to him and said he meant I had a son last week. I need some advice. He said last week, he said, Yeah, goes You're way too late. I can't give you advice on how to raise a son now.
That stuff happens before you can have a kid. So you guys and girls are in the stage right now where you're supposed to think like what kind of person am I going to be? What kind of spouse Am I going to be? What kind of parent Am I going to be? And your parents Mashallah. And my parents, they did their best, but we have to learn from certain maybe obstacles or mistakes that they may have made. May Allah reward them. We have to learn from those and make sure that we try to do our best inshallah. So we learned
From this Mandala that our view of a lot is shaped by a lot of our experiences, okay? And this is the number one thing that I find when someone comes to me and says, I don't know if I believe in Allah. The first question I asked them is, how's your relationship with your dad? And they're always like, he's so strict. I hate it. He's this. He's that and I'm like, right? So I find the correlation. But if we want to look at the anger of Allah, we have to admit, number one, it exists. Because some people are like, No, it doesn't. You know, God doesn't have any anger. God is loving. God has anger, right? But the anger has function. Write that down. Allah has anger. But his anger
has a function. And his anger, Lisa Kaminsky he shaved last month, it says there is nothing like him. So when we think of a lot of anger, don't think of your anger. Our anger is like I can't wait to that person. Can't wait till I see them. I'm going to spill coffee on their white shirt. I'm going to do this right? I'm not going to give them briyani at the fundraising dinner, there's gonna be a lot of like, go keep going right? Move on to the salad, right? So you know, we have this very, like vengeful anger, like we want to get back at people. That's not how Allah subhanaw taala functions. Because remember, the default principle we have to remember is that Allah is different
than us. He gives us descriptions of himself within our context, so that we can understand a portion of it. But we have to submit and humbly admit that our intellect, it pales in comparison to Allah knowledge. So Allah says, For example, He has a hand, right? He says he has a face, and Allah and Allah knows best what he means by that. But he's using these phrases to show us because we're limited in our language. Think about this. Can you guys think of anything without using words to think about it?
Or language to think about it?
It's nearly impossible, if possible at all. So it was using these things to teach us. Yeah, Allah has anger, but it's not like your anger. Right? I was not going to skip you in the brownie line. Okay. And you see this a lot with people. Have you guys ever had the feeling that Allah was upset with you? Because something didn't go right? How many of you had that before? That maybe something went wrong in your life and you're like, Allah must be so angry with me right now. That's not how Allah anger functions. That's how our anger functions. That if we're angry with someone, we'll make sure that they feel it will punish them will withdraw something from them. Allah anger is solely
used for two purposes.
Number one, to redirect someone's behavior back to his love.
I want to use an example where like a young child, have you guys ever been to like the Grand Canyon or any place that was really high up and dangerous? So I live in Knoxville, we have the Smoky Mountains, okay. So like, there are some places in the Smoky Mountains where there's fences and stuff. And there's some where there just are no fences. And so you could I mean, it's actually kind of scary, like you could fall and tumble to your Smoky Mountain death, right? So if I saw a child if I had my kid, or my nephew or my sibling, and they didn't understand that this is a steep drop off, and they started running towards it, right? In that moment, I will grab their arm very harshly. And
I will bring them towards me. And I will yell at them and say, What are you thinking? Right? Can that be described as anger? Can you say I was angry at them? So I yelled at them about why are you running towards the edge of that cliff? You could? But where is the anger coming from?
It's coming from a place of what place of love a place of concern, a place of rectification. I'm trying to teach that young person, that young child that you can't run off of a cliff. Okay, this isn't a video game, right? This isn't Halo, there's no response, you're not going to come back to life. Okay, so that anger is the closest analogy I can think of of a loss anger that is not vengeful and functional for luck and somehow satiate his Ah, I burned them right. The other thing that we learned some hot a lot is that if you've ever felt that Allah is testing you, and that he's angry with you, that this is actually an erroneous assumption, because a lot test those whom he loves, and
the most tested people were who
the profits. So if we're going to make the logical conclusion that tests equals allows displeasure and anger, then we would have to save them by studying the Sierra that Allah was most angry at the profit zone, which makes no sense, right? Absolutely no sense that they were tested over and over and over again. How many of you can share a test that you've been through? We thought Allah was angry with you. Keep it safe for this room and travel and want to share a test they've been through, or a difficulty or some point where they're like, man, I love for sure is upset with me.
That's a friend Subhanallah Can you share a bit more on that or is it
also panela?
So patola what was what was the name?
May Allah give him Jenna, Allah, that's that's very powerful thanks for sharing. drownings is one of the things we learned quite a lot where the person gets Shahada in sha Allah that Allah subhanaw taala forgive their sins, right? And that can be very difficult, right? And it could actually, with the death of a friend or a family member, that's actually when I see my, when I'm counseling somebody, I find that that can oftentimes lead to the most
potent response of like, his got angry with me, because he's taken away loved ones, right. But if you look at the problem homosassa he was born when his father had already passed away. His mother passed away when he was six, right, his grandfather passed away that he was very close with his uncle passed away that he was extremely close with his wife and passed away. Later, he had children who passed away, his friends passed, his death was something that the province some experienced on a very intimate level. And he never once took that as a sign that Allah was displeased with him. Right? It was rather it was just testing tribulation, and some scholars comments on why that
happened. But the point of the matter is, you can now relate to the Prophet Muhammad SAW Salah, and I know that that's a very, very thin silver lining, right, and the death of a family member and a friend, for someone to say, oh, now you can feel how the Prophet felt that's an extremely silver lining. And I wouldn't even say that within the first few months. Right? That would be very careful, because somebody's going through a huge emotional trauma. But at the same time, there is some silver lining to this in the sense that the problem is so subtle and went like this. So you can experience that as well. Right? So a lot of anger is functional, right? But now we're going to talk about a
certain part of his anger, which is shown to us in the Quran. And the reason why it's warned against, right, it's kind of like a parent saying, If you do this, I'm going to be upset with you. Right? If you do this, I'm gonna be upset with you. That's the shape behavior. So Allah does the same thing. He gives us examples of people, previous people in the past, and he gives us examples of the mistakes that they made, so that he can show us and shape our behavior that you should not do these things. And the biggest case study of this is the case study of shaitan. I love the story of shaitan. And all sounds weird, right? I loved I thought, No, I was Billa. He's an enemy. But I love
the story, which I thought, because why he has an amazing case study of what not to do. And Islam offers us so many examples of negatives, so that we can find the positives and positives so that we can identify the negatives. And this is sometimes how you identify a disease of the heart is you look at the opposite of it. And you can say if I'm not feeling these things, and I might have it. So shaitan was somebody who his name beforehand was a police. Okay, that was his address, which by the way, belleza yaizu means to lose hope, to despair, so panola and that's actually a police's main tool to get people to leave a loss to make them despair in the mercy of Allah, which is the next
part. So it blease was one of the best worshipers of Allah. Okay, he was a jinn he was not an angel. There's this there's this narrative in Judeo Christian theology that he was a fallen angel. No, we believe that he was a jinn okay? But he was in the ranks of the angels. So he fell from that rank of angels while not being an angel, okay? So it please, Allah, Allah, Allah, He created who
Adam is, and then he gave a bleep what command or he gave the angels this entire command to do such All right, and it pleases amongst them. So he's also being commanded he abstains from doing so. Okay, so the first way that a person earns the anger of Allah spawn, tada is to envy, jealousy. And we learn the Hadith that envy is a sin that will destroy your good deeds, like fire destroys, would you guys ever been in a bonfire before? or burn something? Right? Yeah, you have your favorite thing of bonfires on Shabbat? It's great. You guys should have bonfires when it's not like eight degrees outside. Okay, so. But you know, if you've ever seen something burn in for a little more dramatic
effect, if you've ever seen like a house burned down, like on the news, they'll show like, in the middle of the middle of the fires of Panama, you're like, wow, that was that was like a crazy big house. How did it fall down like that. Or if you see after the fact there was a friend that had an elementary school, his house caught on fire. And we had like a vigil for him afterwards. And I remember standing in front of his house and there was just house one, house three, and house two is missing. Fire just completely ate it up. So we're learning the hudy that envy does that to your good deeds, may Allah protect us. So shaytaan scholars actually comment and say that his initial sin was
not arrogance. Rather, it was envy that he envied Adam alayhis salaam, that he's thinking to himself because think about at this point, she thought was worshipping for like, how many years we don't even know. Right? How much longer how much longer was she found worshipping Allah and Allah creates Adam and says all of you about to him, he doesn't tell this to my that it gets about a shakedown or at least ever. So this envy sort of sprouts up in his in his heart, and he abstains and then a Las Palmas tada he questions this is why didn't you bow? Why didn't you do it? No. He said, Why didn't you do as I've commanded, thus removing the value even from the system
Allah doesn't care about the session unnecessarily. He says, Why didn't you do what I've commanded you to do?
And shaitan said and hide on me. I'm better than him. Hot up funnyman nod will collect the human clean. You made me from fire. You made him from clay. And that's where arrogance comes in. Next, a las Posadas. Anger descends on arrogant people like crazy, you find that the previous nations of the past who were arrogant, who would walk on the earth, you know, with with hubris, with pride, right with unbridled pride, and they would build these homes, and they would make claims of how to lock the people out in the mood, they would make claims that nothing can destroy us. We're so wealthy, we're so big, we're so powerful, nothing can destroy us and I lost power Tada. He then released a
punishment on them for their rejection of Allah, their rejection of their profits. And those people became examples for us in that way. And so a lot of anger starts with people who are envious, like shaitan arrogance like shaitan rejection of Allah, and not just rejection in general.
Not just rejection in general, what's the difference between someone who is a disbeliever and a non believer?
And actually in in Arabic texts, like we find sometimes like, oh, a Muslim and caffeine. What's the difference? Yeah.
Yeah, actually cut out caffeine and Arabic. What does it also mean?
What is it What's a caffeine in Arabic?
A farmer, right? Imagine like all the farmers who fought right, like, like all of you could follow now. They're all qualified in the sense that Why? Because what does the farmer do? He or she takes a seed, puts it in the ground and covers it up. So the verb cutout on Arabic actually means to cover something. So a disbeliever. One who actively disbelieves not someone who happens to not have belief, two different things, is somebody who knows the truth and rejects it. They know it and they say, I don't care.
Not for me, right? I do what I want YOLO. Okay, whereas a non believer is somebody who maybe perhaps hasn't come to an understanding yet. And there's differences for each person. The disbeliever is one who is like, that's the one that Allah says, For them, they've earned their punishment because they know and they reject, by the way, who's in most danger of becoming a disbeliever?
Who? supine Allah. So when I love Warren's about the kuffaar, and the characteristics of the kuffaar, and the caffeine, it's not for us to be like, Oh my god, I'm so safe. Thank God, right? It's for us to be like Subhan Allah right now I had this conviction, but what kind of habits behaviors addictions company can I have, that might push me against this? That might in fact, push me to disbelieve in Allah. There are people that I've met who were studying Islam academically, studying Islam to become scholars, and now they're not Muslim.
Right? This is why we ask Allah to protect our human. This is why we asked law we say yeah, we'll call liberal collusive. It's called de allergenic or LA, alternative the hearts keep my heart firm on your deen because you don't control it. Right? You try your best, but at the end of the day, it's and I love hands. And so the anger of Allah descends on somebody who rejects and shaitan does anyone believe in a lot like shaitan? Does the shutdown believe in Allah?
Yes or no?
Say Say it out loud. shaitan believes in Allah.
How weird does that sound?
Like, you would think for a moment like okay, this guy is like, the one who rejected a lot directly. This is the one who's trying to take down all the Muslim mean, actually, all humanity, right? He caused such trouble for so many profits. And you know, he did all these things. And he believes in Allah. He has knowledge of Allah's existence. He's had conversations with a lot. If you had conversations with Allah, would you ever doubt his existence?
Of course you wouldn't. So knowledge, actually, cognitive knowledge of Allah is not all that matters. It's actually the knowledge of the heart, to understand and be cognizant of a law in your soul, in your heart and your spirit. So we asked last Valentine's give us that. So he rejected a last moment. And then the next was what? Because sins are natural, right? The prophet SAW sent him said that every son and daughter of Adam will make mistakes. But what is abnormal committing sins is normal. But being abnormal is to live in that sin and not ask for forgiveness. Right? The normal response of a person when they make a mistake is to say what would our parents teach us? Say sorry,
and when a kid bumped into me at a grocery store, and they don't say, Sorry, I give him the biggest mean, stank. I'm like,
and I look at their parents. I'm like,
how dare you? Write gets bills signed the light of my shoes. All right. I'm just like, what if someone if a parent doesn't teach their kid to say sorry, right. Have you guys ever been
It was house parties, the doubts and azama were like, there's that kid that like breaks things. And the parents like, oh, boys will be boys. And you're like, oh, fiscally fit, right? Like, he was like, wanna like knock the kid out? But I think, not at my house. I don't care if she's done. You're right. That's right. But I've been at people's houses where like, I'm ashamed on behalf of them. Like, you know how when you walked in the office and Michael Scott barriss you even though you're just like, watching it, like, Ah, it made me cringe. It's so awkward right now. But when you're like, when you're at someone's house, and a kid is just going buck wild, like just doesn't
understand like, no shoes on the white carpet, stop spilling your grape juice everywhere, like eat on the E on the blanket, don't eat on the couch, like all these like very basic rules. That's fine, because they're kids. They are designed by a lot, we make mistakes. That's why they don't have a sad until puberty. That's why they don't are not accountable. Allah has designed children to learn and make mistakes and learn from those mistakes. But he's not designed parents to watch and let them make mistakes. So that same feeling you have and I have when we see that one parent who's just like, Oh, it's okay. Right? Oh, boys, oh, kids are so funny. And they're like destroying everything.
That's the same feeling of annoyance we should have when we don't make Toba for our mistakes. Because the parent correcting the kid is like our soul correcting our neffs. The neffs makes the mistake, fine, we make a mistake fine. Right away, our soul, our heart, the pure heart inshallah to jump in and say, dude, ask for forgiveness. Like, you don't want to carry this in your record. someone gets a speeding ticket, the first thing they're thinking about is how can I get this off my record, so my insurance isn't affected. I don't want to go paying for paying this to paying this. And they go to the judge. And they're like, what can I do and the judge is like, you have to take
driving school to nine hours, you have to sit in front of a computer, whatever the person is, like Samantha was talking about, they make up decaf in their office, right? And they fulfill the driving school just so they don't have one point or two points or whatever is on the record. But how many points of mistakes have we accumulated on our left shoulder in that book? And we haven't thought for a moment, I have to get rid of it immediately. And the good news is that he tells us that the angel on our left shoulder who's writing those deeds waits for how long?
Six hours, Allah commanded that Angel hold the pen don't right. So the angels are sitting there like this, right? He's got like, all these things in his queue, or, you know, in the angels queue of the mistakes. And he says Allah, the Hadees tells us that if the person makes repentance, don't even write it down. It never happened. Imagine showing up to the courthouse after getting a ticket and you say, I'm sorry, and the judge said, Don't even worry about it. I've already taken care of it. It's as if it never happened. The feeling of relief that you would have, right the feeling of calmness of tranquility. That's how we should that's what Toba should give us. So it pleases fourth
fatal sin. The first was envy. The second was arrogance. The third was rejection. The fourth fatal senate beliefs was what
lack of Toba?
That arrogance led to him saying, I don't need to say sorry.
And don't let it bleach trick you. You know even I'll call him Cipolla. He has a beautiful statement he says it no claim is a baller scholar of our tradition. He said shaitan tricks the believer twice when they make a mistake.
The first is before the mistake that when the person is about to engage in that mistake shaitan makes Allah's mercy so vast, so the person's like, you know, like this morning I was so tired yesterday I woke up at 330 in the morning, because I had to catch a flight from Tampa to come to my beloved Michiganders, um, the law. I got there and I wanted to take a nap but it was Juma and even though I'm traveling I feel really grimy. But I'm pyjama so I went for Juma. And then after that I went to the Auto Show and all these things and I was just like so tired, right? So I go to bed at like 1230 and I basically almost was up for 24 hours. And this morning waking up for Federer was
like waking up for Federer was like untangling like your headphones. You're not difficult that is like, I was like, Oh my god, I'm so tired. hamdulillah federa Here ends at like eight or like 754 or something. So I was like I heard my alarm at 720. And I was like, I just want to sleep right? That's how difficult it is right? But Toba should not be that difficult. And shaitan when I was feeling that way shaitan was saying prefetcher yesterday.
You traveling a lot understands, you know, go ahead, just sleep. Right? That was shaitan whispering that. So if your client says that when you're about to commit a sin when you're thinking about it when you're in that negotiation stage, he makes a lot of mercy so big, so attractive, and Allah Mercy is like that. But he like over.
He like he, he he totally plays down the value of the sin and plays
The value of allows mercy, then once you've crossed that threshold, once we've crossed that threshold, and we've committed the sin, then immediately shaitan flips, like Harvey Dent, right? He just goes boom and he goes, Oh, Allah will never forgive you.
Allah will never forgive you. And all the things you heard about Allah's mercy, he used it in the beginning, all the things you've heard about, as punishment, he uses it afterwards.
And that's not what you're supposed to do, right? That's not at all what you're supposed to do. SubhanAllah so even though I am said, Don't fall victim to shutdowns trap, where he gets you in the beginning and gets you in the end. Always remember that Toba is your first available option. Whenever you make a mistake with somebody and this shows you how Allah is so different than human beings. Because whenever you make a mistake with somebody, what do you do with that person for the next like three weeks? Huh? What do you say?
You know, I think you got it.
apart. Oh, that's actually like a really good friend. That Mashallah, right. What do you do first? avoid them. Right? You might even unfollow them on Twitter. Right? If you do find them on Facebook. That's a serious statement. Right? The person's like when I used to be able to see their
ad friendly, right? Like a huge emotional like gash like in their self esteem. But our natural response as human beings that will make a mistake, we try to run away from that person, we're avoidant. Think of your parents, right? Think of when you do something wrong. Like do you go up to your parents? You're like, what's up? Right, that awkward right after they've done they've just got done yelling at you. You're like, so what are we doing tonight? Right? Now you go to your room and you sit there and awkward silence for like eight hours straight. You just sit. You're just like, like, You're like a monk meditating. You're just like, oh, God can't move if they hear a creek and
the wood board they're gonna help just kill me.
That's our natural human response. Allah says go against that. He says with me. Run come to me immediately. Don't wait. Right. So shaitan is lack of Toba was his fourth fatal sin his fourth fatal flaw? Then the other thing? The fifth one. And this is how he earned a lot of anger. This is how he became trapped on the regime. That cursed one okay. The fifth one was he wanted to take down people with him.
Formula at the end the home he says I will come to them from their left from their right from their back from their front. What did you do? Federal Home sheki he's challenging alumna so Allah has told him, You are cursed. You're gonna live in Hellfire you are this. And then so Pinilla shaitan had the audacity. He had the hubris
at that point, you know, so how long think about this pause at that point, actually, when you're receiving a punishment, when you're receiving, you know, a sentence from a parent or from whatever.
You're in that moment. If your mouth isn't doing it, at least your heart is yearning for forgiveness.
Some people just say it as they're receiving their punishment. No. Oh, please, please. I swear I'm on duty. And please, please, please, I'm sorry, right? Somebody's telling you. I'm not going to do this for you. You're not going to have this Give me your this. Give me your that. I'm grounding you. In the middle of that the one who's being affected is like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Let's talk about let's talk about right. Listen, honey, listen, Linda. Honey, listen, right. You guys have a video? That kids getting punished. Like Listen, listen, honey, listen, honey, Linda. And he's like three years old. Okay. That's how the soul is the heart is like supposed to be yearning for
forgiveness, like No, no. Look at shaitan Dude, look at look at his arrogance, that when Allah gives him this punishment, okay, when Allah gives him this punishment, instead of being like, No, no, no, no, no, no, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. He says, Okay. Like, you know, the person will always have to have the last word.
Always. And he's like, Alright, if that's how it's going to be. I'm going to try to bring down your people with me. I'm going to try to make sure that no one is grateful to you, Allah. And that way through there in gratitude, they will not even believe in you. Because nothing shows disbelief like in gratitude. disbelief cannot be grown in a in a fertile soil of gratitude. If someone is a grateful person, they will have to have belief in Allah, because they'll have to think of themselves Where did all this blessing come from? It came from somewhere. Right? So the five fatal flaws of shaitan that earned his that earned a lot of anger on him. Envy, arrogance, rejection, lack of Toba
and affecting others wanting to bring everyone down. And we have Subhanallah a narration it's from the assault Juliet's. So for those of you who don't know, there's like different scriptures that Muslims have. And essentially the way that we grade scriptures is like authenticity. Because the core of this Deen is to preserving authenticity. Right? That's one thing that other religions are criticized about is that they may lack authenticity, right, which is a serious thing. One of my professors in college he's a logic professor. So Paul, I don't even know why he uses example.
He was explaining authenticity and like logical reasoning and for some reason, he came to the quote, and he said something that was beautiful. He said,
he goes in all of my study of religion. He goes, the one text that I found to be the most sound is the Quran, and he wasn't talking about logically, he was saying in transmission, he said, there's no doubt that what Mohamed Salah had is what we have, he goes, the question that people have is whether or not it's truly from God. And he was atheist.
So he said, the one that goes, the only doubt is not that the Prophet had it. And now we have it. He said, No, the only doubt is what whether it was from God. So the authenticity of a text is very serious. So we have put on we have some no right and different Hadees there's different gradings of strength. And then we have the Israel EDF, which is basically texts from previous religions and faith traditions that certain scholars use, they won't establish like a serious thing with it, they won't like establish a ruling with it, they won't usually even establish like a theological point with it. But it's just to add something to show us like how previous nations were. So there's an SI
EDS, there's a narration from a previous that teaches us about shaitana arrogance to an even higher level, where actually Prophet musasa was told shaitan you can you can repent to Allah, like you can repent.
And shaitan said, How?
take this with a grain of salt again, because it's really hot, right? But he said, Go to the grave of Adam, and do this such that that you never did. Now he's not saying worship. He's saying this is a sense of what of respect. He's not saying says of worship, okay, because obviously worshiping Adam would be shared. So he told them, he said, Go shaitan said, I can't do that.
Right. So that lack of Toba even extended to their that even though there was an a way out after years and years, they might perfect musos time from Adam, like 1000s of years, right? Even that he still couldn't ask for Toba and this is how he earned the angular lost power. Tada. I wanted to give you an analogy before we talk about how to avoid the anger of Allah or other things that we do that might add to that, that anger that we can avoid inshallah, I wanted to give you an analogy of the anger of a Las Palmas tada and then we're gonna go to the mercy the anger of a Las Palmas. Tada is like hitting empty in your gas tank. Has anyone ever run out of gas before while driving?
Yeah, what's that feeling? Like? It's like the worst right? Can you explain the last like 30 seconds of you driving? What happened? Yeah.
Sometimes it looks butter out. And sometimes like you're hitting the pedal, but it just you just see the odometer right? Or whatever going down or like the speedometer going down, right? Or the tachometer, whatever it's called. So some meter. So the way that I thought about this this morning, as I was like, reflecting on this was that the anger of a lot is when you hit a certain milestone. It's not that Allah will be angry with you, and then he'll hit you with anger. It's that if you go to a certain point, and you neglect to a certain point, like what do you say about somebody? No offense to you, you guys who raise your hands. What do you say about somebody who didn't fill up
they're not watching out for their gas tank? That they're like being negligent, right? Like when you're driving, and you being negligent of that I was just driving back to you know, the brothers Mashallah came and some of the sisters too came to Ohio State. You know what happened that night member had to drive back to Lexington. I didn't fill up gas, I don't know why. And I and my, my light was already on when your light turns on, you can get about 30 miles, right. So I was okay, what I'll do is I'll get a head start. And then I'll stop somewhere and I'll fill up Do I stopped at the scariest freaking gas station? I've ever been to my life? It's one of them. Okay, let me explain
first, and I'll tell you the story. So I'm driving, and my car has that range thing will tell you how many miles are estimated left. And I turn on my car and I call Jacob the Nasr, my teacher and we're just talking. He's like how the taco house day, how was graders what you get. And so we started talking and just kind of catching up. And lo and behold, I'm driving. And it's like pitch black outside those Ohio highways. And I see zero miles on the range. That's negligence. When someone neglects their relationship with Allah to that degree to where they only wake up when they're in the danger zone. That's when they're in the danger of Allah's anger being with them.
Right? That's when they're in that danger. power loss. I stopped at this gas station. Okay, let me tell you this. So I saw the gas station, and there's just this random black van sitting across the street.
Stop, stop that right. And I'm just joking and the headlights were on.
And I couldn't the windows were tinted.
And there's literally nothing around there's like a gas station and there's like an abandoned Carnival with like these old abandoned clowns there.
And I'm like, I'm going to get murdered. Absolutely. Like, there's no question level of commercial law. I'm dying today, right. And as I pull into the gas pump, I will lie to you like, I ran out, put it in rent, buy my car, lock the door, I was like, the van starts moving.
And this is where I support gun laws at that point, right. So I'm like, support it right. Everyone said, we got the van starts moving, drive slowly, like past me. I couldn't see inside because the windows are tinted. And then just floors and goes away.
is probably some 16 year old kid just waiting to scare somebody. Right? But you I was so scared. I only filled up half a tank. And I was like, I can't even wait for the extra three minutes. I just have to dip. So how do I got back on I like Florida out of there and like left. So but when someone neglects their relationship with a law, it will hit the point. Right? As you feel yourself getting more distant, distant, distant, neglecting, actually even abusing that relationship. Because what do we call somebody who takes takes takes takes and never gives back to that other person their counterpart, we would tell that person you're being abused, right? You keep giving, giving, giving,
giving, and that your counterpart never returns the favor and never returns the appreciation never returns the gratitude. If you had a friend who was in a relationship like that with somebody that they were married to, you would say, look, this is abuse. This is emotional abuse, you keep giving, giving, giving, you don't get any recipe you don't get any reciprocation not.
So how many of us do that with a lot that we take, take take take take and we never give anything back. Not that a lot needs it. But it's a sign of gratitude, you know, and not that your spouse needs it, your spouse doesn't need money gifts us that that's just a symbol of your gratitude, to token of your appreciation, right? So when we abused that relationship with a lot to that point where we take take, take take, and then we hit he then we make we don't guarantee a punishment, but we make ourselves vulnerable to that punishment, open to that punishment. So a smart person makes sure that they never have to stop at a creepy gas station, right? a smart person makes sure that
they never let the relationship with Allah hit he. That's a very wise person, right? So what are some ways just quickly because we don't have a lot of time. Number one, calling someone by bad nicknames. These are sins that can invoke the anger of a lost out on a person. Think about that, by the way, like you guys were all expecting me to say like killing somebody committing ship. Allah says making fun of people can invoke his anger.
You know, making fun of somebody is such a serious thing that I don't think a lot of us really appreciate. Right? And it's fine, but I don't think a lot of us until we reflect on it. how damaging it is how damaging your words can be in my words can be for people, even if we think it's okay. And there's so many stories I could tell you. But think for a moment about like when people commit such horrific and atrocious acts as like shooting up a school and killing children, right killing students in a space that's supposed to be safe. May Allah protect us and protect all educational institutions, and really protect people. Honestly, these are scary, scary times. When someone does
that. Think about how to think about how powerful it is that that person still has the sympathy of the public, when they say that this person was bullied when the shooter was bullied, you can still be upset, like why would you shoot? Why would you kill people? But you have to admit on a public scale, there's still a bit of sympathy for that person, right? Like, oh, they were so bullied. That's why they did it. Well, why did they get bullied? Why didn't someone reach out and help? We don't ask that questions about like, we don't ask those questions about like other people commit crimes, if we don't know if they're bullied or not, but when someone's bullied, so think about how
damaging bullying and insulting and calling names can be. If it's enough to give like a basically a mass murderer the benefit of the doubt then it must be very destructive. Even more the Prophet was made fun of him so much
that his constellation was a law when you get made fun of you go to somebody that you love right when you get made fun of like when you were a kid when I was a kid they used to call me for some reason these two kids used to call me biscuit head and I love biscuits that's kind of weird, right? He's make fun of me right? It's interesting and we should never by the way ever, ever, ever ever make just about someone's creation the way they are the way they look. We should never ever do that because that's Allah's wisdom and law was designed so you should call me that right and I was a little kid so I go home like mom and call me biscuit head right so I go to my mom who I love and
trust and what did she tell me happy you're not biscuit head How do you know right there biscuit head right. So she like started defending me with her love or whatever she's like there to biscuit. I will either this is in gravy, everything right? And I feel good. Oh my God, my mom loves me. Right? So No One No One, make reference to this on Twitter, please. So
think about the beauty of the relationship of the Prophet with Allah, that when he's being called these names by the court Ah, it's not his friends. It's not his wife. It's not his family. He goes to its Allah who tells him Matt and Toby Dr. Mattila because you mentioned they're calling him insane, mentally ill crazy. Allah says no, no, it's by them. It's by
The blessing of Allah I swear you're not crazy.
Like that's the love that Allah had for the prophet SAW someone that he was the one who said, No Habibi, you're not crazy, right? Like my mother did that for me. Allah did that for the Prophet Allah Akbar.
What was it? What's better Allah yaku be patient with what they say. supanova So when people insult the Prophet Sal Sutherland, the Quranic response is what was the Alana yaku, angelholm, Hydra and jameelah be patient with what they say and make hedgehog literally wet jawed home, make hedra from that migrate from those people very far, very long distance heads around jemena a beautiful migration. So if someone says to you, oh, your religion says that at the end solve the problem. You kill them. You're like, actually, when the Prophet was insulted, God told him to be patient and to just leave them beautifully.
treated, right? That's what you tell them right? So number one, calling someone bad nicknames. Number two, and number three, backbiting, doubt, suspect. suspicion. Number three is swearing and cursing. And the reason why I put these two together is because Maulana Ashraf Ali autonomy him a whole lot of very famous scholar, he said that
out there he quotes a narration that says that a law becomes protective over his servant like a lion over a lioness over her cubs. And when someone insults, mocs, curses, or starts a rumor or suspicion about somebody or one of the less servants, then he becomes angry like a lioness does when her cubs are harassed. So this is like the anger of luck and come upon somebody who does this. Right. So it's very scary. So backbiting, somebody doubting, suspecting. And there are many ahadeeth that talk about these number four, those who eat hot ROM right? Those who eat hot on and those who consume hot off meaning like, they steal, they use. They they without any use or federal use interest. So I'm
not talking about like, if you have student loans or etc, or like you've gone to a scholar and explained your situation, or there's a ruling out there, that's fine. But someone who just engages in interest. You know, I don't know what this is, like, someone who recklessly engages in interest is like someone in credit card debt $25,000 because they need every Apple product ever released. And there are people out there like that, you know, the average credit card debt of a college graduate.
You know, when they graduate, the credit card debt not student loan. Something like $38,000 right. Because Zingerman's is good dude. Right? Like, you just need Zingerman's every day three times a day right no you don't credit card debt is like the the shuffle ads of like money like I don't need it. I just want it so that's engaging and rebut
recklessly and we know that Heidi's have the rejected dot there's a person who is like the puppet says undescribed he says that they're like dusty, their clothes are dusty. They look like they've been traveling their faces dusty, they're hungry. The hair is unkempt. Basically like when you see someone like that you feel so empathetic and sympathetic to giving them something because you know they need help, right? And he says that they make durata Allah lover leave my situation. And Allah says no, because what they ate hot on they just and how long they consumed how long. So this is how a lot of anger can be upon somebody number four, number five, I'm sorry, those who befriend bad
people. Right? And in caught on write down chapter 58 verse number 14, for that verse, chapter 58, verse number 14, we don't have time to reference it, but just reference that inshallah. Number six, seeing something evil, and not doing something about it. And when I say doing, I don't mean necessarily fixing. But I mean doing because your heart feeling is an active form. It's an active state, it's not just passive. So your heart has to transform itself to feel bad about that thing. When you see something, you don't feel comfortable with it. You see alcohol, you don't feel comfortable being near that. You see people doing hot on actions. You don't judge them but you don't
feel comfortable being in that vicinity. Right? You see certain things you don't feel comfortable. There was a very weird statement that someone made I forgot who had I want to say anyways, where the whole prophetic cartoons these things came out. And they were asked on the on the new station, so you're not bothered by that person? No, I don't care. I was like, come on, like Joe. We don't have to go and kill people. Of course that's completely Islamic. But it's also on Islamic to say I don't care. It should bother you a little bit that somebody feels the need to make fun of the Prophet seals on them. Now, what that motivates you to do should also be prophetic, but it's also you should
feel a little bit concerned like someone makes fun of your, your mom or your dad or your friends. Like you're gonna be like, stop that. I don't like that. Right? So let's not make fun of the Prophet you should be like, I don't like that. Okay? It doesn't mean that you do something, you know, crazy, but it just means that you least feel that way. Right? Allah subhanaw taala says, Can who lay it out yet? No, hold on and mongkut on noncoding Allah says that they don't they've never forbade any evil. And then he talks about those people who were they are in the anger of Allah.
Number seven is any sort of arrogance, but particularly arrogance due to status, so wealth, fame, things like that.
There's two things I want to talk about with this inshallah. And then we'll switch over real quick wealth that leads to status. And the reason why mercy, by the way is a lot easier to talk about and I don't use as much time is because that's the default of existence. Right? Allah says, My Mercy outweighs my wrath. So I don't need a lot of time to talk about mercy, because it's already known on the right to talk about all his anger, I actually had to do like hours of research. You know, how much research I had to do for LS anger? Probably three, four hours, you know, how much research I had to do for his mercy? 40 minutes? What does that tell you about the content, it's so easy to find
the laws, mercy, it's very tough to find a time where he's showing us that this is an anger that we might be susceptible to. Okay. So the seventh point, though, to quickly finish wealth that leads to happiness or status. So number one, you the easy one, the easy one to monitor, you don't become arrogant, due to your wealth or status. And this is why sadaqa and zecca are so important. Number one, it's because obviously, it's an injunction in our religion. But number two is because when you give something away, you're telling yourself, I don't care about you. When I'm giving you something, Here, take this, I don't really, I don't need it, right. It's not the most important thing to me.
But we live in a society where people base their self image off of the labels on the clothes that they wear off of the brand on the car, they drive off of the price sticker of the house that they live in, right? The income on their w two, literally people's self worth is established by these things. So much so okay, I was at the auto show last night. I to be honest with you, I had fun, whatever, like looking at cars, but to be real with you. And this isn't a sign of my piety. It's just a sign of like my just complete lack of care. I don't really care about that stuff.
Maybe because I grew up driving a 98 Corolla in Chicago, and I'm just like, boom, boom, baby. Like, you know, I can barely fitness it's like a roller skate, but I love it. Her name was Aziza my car, right? This was Isa Mashallah. So, I but I didn't really care. But people spawn a lot, like looking at cars is fine. And I like seeing like the electric cars to see what kind of, you know, cool innovation COVID out there doing Mashallah. And see, like, you know, how they're like making things better. Like, I like seeing that. That's cool. But there are people literally like, taking picture of every car First of all, as though it's not already on the internet. And number two, like this car
is worth $500,000. Like, they're taking a picture that's like, to me, so how to I just got back from Amara, I saw, I saw people taking pictures of the Kaaba of the mesh and never we and then I come back and I see people like, oh, gee, class, oh, this, I'm just like, what are you doing? You know, and I'm sorry if anyone did that here. I apologize, right. I'm not trying to call you out. But it was almost like To me it was like this sort of like weird worship ritual, where they're like, quick, take a picture of this one. And there was one girl she was getting pictures taken in front of every car, she would literally walk up to the one hand on the waist, one hand on the hood, smile.
Literally, she had her her male counterpart. It could have been like her brother boyfriend, who knows, taking pictures in front of every car. I don't know. Maybe she's applying for a job trying to like, you know, be one of those people who explained about the cars or whatever, I don't know. But the point is like that sort of say that Okay, here's a good word. Don't let the dunya satiate you.
Don't let wealth satiate your desires. Make your hunger satiated by your relationship with Allah and your relationship with the prophet and good character and good companionship. Make those things the things that your heart really wants.
But the difference between wanting onion rings and a salad. The dunya is like eating onion rings. Man, are they good? All right, are those biscuits from Red Lobster, which I'm sure they put drugs in. Right? Cuz you like I'm only gonna have one eight later. You're like, okay, only one more, right? But you want your heart to want pure nourishment. Like Allah is profit your family, good friends, good experiences, went to Disney World with some friends. And he said that his son who's like three, he's like, my son was in love with everything. Oh my god. When the parade came, he saw Cinderella he saw Snow White. He saw Ella from Frozen. He saw all these people and he was blown
away. Right? And I was like, What is your son doing? You take him to the mountains with waterfalls. He's like he falls asleep.
I'm not trying to make like a spiritual judgment on anybody but like, how are we tired of waterfalls but in love with frozen?
Rice? panela It's crazy, right? Do you wanna make a snowman, okay, or build a snowman or whatever. So number one is don't catch yourself doing that. Number two, is don't secretly admire and worship people who have it.
How on earth do the Kardashians exist?
We are the generation that made them famous.
And they only exist because of their looks and their money. And we are giving them more money, which then turns into more surgery and more looks. So we're like, we're like propagating this horrible cycle somehow. We are the generation that made Paris Hilton famous for being nothing more than the daughter of somebody with money.
We shouldn't don't give your admiration to people who just have things. Give your admiration to people who did things and do things right. You listen, your energy and effort and emotion and love is super valuable. marketing companies spend millions of dollars studying what you like, so that they can market to you. And those those emotions will then turn into dollars. Don't be cheap with your emotions. Realize that people will pay a lot of money just to find out what you want. Don't be cheap with what you ask for and what you get. reach high ask for Allah ask for a lot to put love of Allah on your heart level the Prophet says when your heart Love of scholars love of good people love
your friends, people who encourage you to do good things people will come with you to STP, right? Don't use that time supporting these crazy Housewives of Atlanta. Basketball Wives of Sacramento I don't even know these shows dude. Right Honey Boo Boo.
Other her she got canceled in at 11 00. Right?
Don't do that right and realize that so Pamela I had a conversation with one of my girls, my youth group I said, Do you realize like she was like the Kardashians are so stupid. And I was like, okay, she was I watched the show like every day but it's so stupid. And I was like you realize something right? She goes what I said you realize by you watching you're basically encouraging the TV channel to to keep playing their material, because they see that you're tuning in. She's like, Oh, she's so it's kind of like I'm voting for them. I said Yeah, exactly. What you spend your time doing is basically you investing in voting for something. Right? So don't be haughty with wealth and also
don't appreciate people who are Hollywood their wealth, the music, we listen to the movies we watch, etc. Okay, quickly through inshallah, can you guys be 15 1015 more minutes just for the mercy of Allah? Charla no you can. Surely you can write sha Allah
so Allah tada says, it's beautiful and the ayah he says, And Allah has shut the the iPhone he says, know that Allah His punishment is severe. When the law or food Rahim. He says that but Verily, Allah subhanaw taala is the Most Merciful. Notice how he finishes with mercy. Right? He finishes knees telling you that regardless, whatever you've learned, we just learned about all the anger and punishment for you know, potentially, but allows most merciful. He says
he's our that he will see will be he meant a shot. Ooh, what Matthew was the article the shape. He says that my my punishment whenever it touches whomever I will, meaning that whoever I lost, Matata has willed to receive that anger, punishment, they will touch them. And he says, we'll see we'll be he that it will, it will touch them. Like when I touch somebody, or when I like affect somebody or touch them. It's a very, like, short moment of contact right? from touching this bottle. If you look at the amount of surface area that I'm touching on this bottle, it's not very much okay, that word is being used specifically. Then he says what Matthew was the article, the shade, but my mercy
encompasses everything. So which one's more mercy or punishment? mercy much more, because punishment is like a tangential intersection, like, Oh, I bumped into it with punishment. But once the article the shape means that my mercy engulfs encompasses every single thing. There's a couple ideas that are very important when we talk about a lot more thoughts, mercy. First of all, when you introduce yourself to somebody, what do you tell them? If you've ever flown on a plane with that person who just started talking to you?
At 330? In the morning?
or five? That was me yesterday? What do you what do you say to them? Like, they'll ask you like, Hey, what do you do? And you tell them? What if I asked you, Hey, what do you do? Like, what's your story? You're your student in Michigan. Okay, so you would tell the person what you probably most identify with at that time, or the thing you're most proud of? Right? Or the thing that you find to be the most indicative of who you are. And so people, for example, when you ask them, like, what are you do this, by the way, go and ask people this question, What are you? And their response usually is the thing that they most admire or respect or love about themselves? Or it could be the thing
that they you know, want to change most about themselves, right? If they're like cynical, so if I'm like, What are you so am I say I'm Muslim? That might be their identifying factor, right? What are you they say? I'm Lebanese? What are you? I'm Egyptian. What are you? I'm this I'm Pakistani. I'm Indian. I'm African American. I'm this right. People might identify by their ethnicity. What are you? Oh, I'm, you know, I'm a student here. I'm a med student. Right. A lot of medical students or our med student, right. sees white coat. Yeah, no big deal, right?
Don't touch it please. All right.
So people will answer that question with what they identify with. When Allah introduces himself. He says what Bismillah the first verse by majority in it by majority of scholars. The first version of Quran is what the best meta which is Miss Milla which is literally Allah saying, My name is Allah, In the name of Allah he's telling you his name, then what two adjectives what two characteristics as he described himself with
man and Joakim. To understand this, understand what these words mean? Man means the one that is merciful to everything, whether or not they have actually earned recognize or appreciate that mercy. Allah's mercy is like sun on a sunny day. The only way you can avoid it is by purposely walking into the shade or rain on during a storm. The only way you can avoid it is by putting up an umbrella
that is touching everybody whether or not that person recognizes it, whether or not that person earned it. Right, we walk around, we didn't earn the sun. We might be driving like a GMC Denali, or a Cadillac Escalade, which is like hurting our environment, but we're still benefiting from the sun. Allah's mercy is like that a person who didn't prefetcher still get the Lord's mercy a person who doesn't even you know, gives a cat or fast Ramadan, still they get all those mercy. A person who doesn't even believe in Allah or his mercy, Allah still merciful to them. So patola that's a rough man, that no one can escape his mercy. It touches you at every point. The next one out Rahim means
that his height of mercy no one can exceed that. That the amount right so one is on the x axis and one is on the y axis. When you say something is infinite on the x and y, what are you saying that it covers everything, right? Because there's something infinite on the x axis you have to say, Okay, well, what parameters is it functioning within, but if I say look, it covers both axes, or axes, or whatever that word is English major fail. When it covers both of those, you say spatola. Nothing is greater than that Merci.
And we have a hadith where we learn how Allah again, he uses things that we are used to like numbers and concepts. Allah says that or the Hadith says that Allah subhanaw taala, he has 100 parts of mercy. So think 100 parts meaning even though those Mercy is unlimited, meaning 100%
he said, he gave one part of that mercy on Earth, for all of creation to have towards others. So think of the Most Merciful relationships that you will ever see whether it's in your own life, or whether it's in like, the narrative of life or whatever, a mother with her child, a father with his child, they an animal with their offspring, you know, people serving the world, all these things that people do that are merciful to kids, you know, I watched a video one time where there was like two kids, and they were doing a psychological study about sharing and like all this stuff, and they were two years old, and they gave them each a plate that was covered. And they both lifted the
covers, and one kid had a sandwich, the other kid did it.
And they looked at each other. And the kid with the sandwich tore his in half and gave it to the girl. All right, that was me out of in like Bismillah, I'm sorry. But they were sharing all that mercy, think of the Most Merciful components of this existence. And that's only one part of Allah's mercy. The Hadees continues and says, Allah saved his other 99 for the Day of Judgment, it's upon Allah
subhanaw taala the Day of Judgment, Allah, you know, we learn about the development, we learn about how scary it is, and it is how serious it is. And it is, but how often do we hear and talk about the day of judgment that Allah is saving 99 times all the mercy that exists on this earth at all time for infinity, he's saving that mercy for us in the day of judgment upon Allah. Right. Allah's mercy is incredibly, incredibly vast. Then one time the companions were sitting, and the they were sitting, talking, and there was a woman who lost her child, right? So she was frantically searching for her child. You guys ever seen a mom searching in like a JC Penney for their kid? It's crazy,
right? They go and they like pick up the phone, they page and they're like, Where's this kid and the mom is crying. It's a very serious moment. So when the mom finds their child, right, my mom when she used to find me, I used to get a little smack, right? Where'd you go forever? I missed the sale. Thanks a lot, right? I'm just kidding. Mom didn't care. She's taught me everything. But this mom, she embraced her child. She hugged her child and she was crying. And the companions all saw this happen like in front of their eyes and the problem and so sometimes so Pinilla, he said, Do you think that this mother would ever take this child and throw this child into a fire? And the
companions are like No, of course not. Like, that response is so loving, there's no way the mother would ever think of that, let alone any parent. And Allah and the Prophet Muhammad SAW Some said, Allah is more merciful to his servant than this mother is to her child.
But do you think Allah wants to throw someone in the fire?
I think the biggest one of the biggest injustices that has been committed against a lot is that people portray him to be a vengeful
God that he wants to do these things that he can't wait to punish people. That's not a lot all dude.
Think about it like when you make a mistake, we all make mistakes. does Allah just like remove your ability to breathe?
Does he instantly give you some sort of disease?
You know, does he just like come down on you with a hammer? Allah doesn't want to why would he tell the angel to hold his pen for six hours? And not write the mistake? Right? But but like we said, Sometimes there has to be function to punishment, but a lot of never, ever wants to engage. It's never his first response, nor his second nor his third. It goes way down the line.
Then Allah sends the poem highness also known as a mercy and this is crazy. Well now sadaqa Illa.
What's the verse? Ramadan? Is that a verb or a noun?
In Arabic?
It's a noun. What do we know about nouns in the Arabic language?
timeless and universal so like anywhere, anytime? What do we know about verbs?
locked in time, past or present, future right? And you can limit who they're touching by you know, the conjugation.
Allah uses a noun to describe the Prophet Muhammad SAW Selim. He says, You are mercy, you are timeless mercy, that no matter what time people will look at your narrative, your example at your lifestyle, and they will find mercy in it. No matter where they are. They will look at you they will find mercy in it. Well, Moussa Naka, Illa, Ramadan, if Allah describes them using a verb, then we would have said, okay, the prophet was only merciful for this time. So what does this mean for you and I, no matter what you're going through in your life, the prophet example has mercy for you. It will teach you how to solve that problem.
The Prophet Muhammad SAW said in a hadith that no one will enter genda by their deeds alone, rather, they will enter by the mercy of Allah, the companion said, even you, you had us a little law. He said, yes, even me. Then he continued the Hadith. And he said, don't wish for death.
don't wish for that. Because if you're if your life includes goodness, you can continue doing goodness. And if your life includes evil, you can stop and repent. Look at the overwhelming optimism of the Prophet homosassa Allah overwhelming, never wished for death. He said, because if you're doing good, good if you're doing bad, stop and do good. He didn't say if you're doing that, then you're dead. Right? He said, stop and do good. So Pinilla.
How do we earn the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala. Number one, is by fulfilling our obligations, Allah subhanaw taala gave us very few obligations, and he said that you can never draw closer to me than by fulfilling what I've asked of you.
Right? It's kind of like, I love brownies. Okay.
You guys like brownies? I like brownies. We all like brownies. This is a brownie support group. You've tricked me right? So this is an intervention you are having too many brownies. No. So I like brownies. Okay, if I do you a favor, and you want to thank me, and you bake me? You know, like a coconut cake. I would appreciate that. But it's not what I wanted. I wanted
Ronnie's very good, a lot smile was all that when he does these things for us. Countless things all the time every day. He asks for what would occur without rocking bow with those who bow pray. So we can say Oh Allah, I'm going to thank you by vacuuming my mom's living room. Right? I'm going to thank you by giving my friend a ride to work. Those are good things. Are they bad? No. But Allah says those are good, but I want something else. I want you to pray. I want you to fast I want you to give us a cat. And then you can after you do the obligation so after you make me brownies, I'll take coconut cake, right?
But first I want what I want. Allah Spano Tata, he gives us and he says I only have small requests after that do as many extraordinary as you want. That's the next is doing no effort doing their advocate right making draw to Allah always make dua to Allah don't only make draw when you think it's important always make draw. If you're about to go to lunch, make dua Allah put butter on this lunch. Give us a good deal. Give us this give us that yesterday. Okay, my iPhone screen cracked. It was a crazy story. I was petting a cat in Tampa, and my friends, cats, and anyone have cats? Does your cat do this thing where like you're petting the cat and it's purring, and then all of a sudden
it just like looks at you and bite your hand. Like gets really playful real quick. And you're like what, like talking about mixed signals, right? So like, I was petting the cat. And I'm like, man,
I was petting the cat. And the cat was like, and then it just looked at me with my hand and that was the head of my phone was in. So I dropped my phone like this. Hi, I actually don't want to do it cuz it might crack again. But like I dropped it. It's just done here. Right? Okay, so it cracked right there. Okay. And I used to work at the Apple Store. So I know that like a crack on the screen basically means you're going to pay something out of pocket, because there's no what they'll do is they'll look at it and if it looks like
He was your fault, you basically have to pay for it. If there's like a big chance that it might have not been your fault, even if you tell them, it's my fault, then you have to pay then you they might let you not pay for it right? The warranty might cover it, if there's a chance it wasn't your fault. So I walk into the store and I have that warranty where it's like, you know, 99 bucks, whatever. So I walk in, and I'm like, Hey, you know, I cracked my phone screen. I have Apple care. Plus, I used to work here. I know how that I know how the deal goes, can I just swap my phone out? Right? And I'm with my friend earphone. And he goes, Yeah, sure, sure. He goes, let me go and get you an
appointment. So as he gave me an appointment, earphone goes men make draw, like make draw that this because there was a long line. So I raised my hand said, oh, let make this easy. That's all I said, Oh, Allah make this easy. Literally five words. Okay. And so patola the guy comes into my phone, and he's looking at it for a long time. I'm like, What are you looking at, bro? Like, this is not it's an iPhone six plus, yes, it came out. Right? You work here. So he's like, he's like staring at it. And I'm like, what's going on? Because we're in a rush. And he goes, ha, there's no point of impact. So what do you mean he goes, I don't see any dent at the beginning or the end of the crack or
anywhere. He's like, you shouldn't have to pay for this. And he's like, you know what, you're not gonna pay for it. And he gets me in brand new screen for 130% of
the screen is gonna explode my face right now. Right? I'm Egyptian we have another problem so
so I'm just kidding. But the point is, I quickly made it out like at the Apple store of all places which is like the anti Mecca right like the mecca for dunya and I literally just said oh let me because easy and somehow the guy like he he didn't have to do that I actually told him no, no, I dropped it. I actually said I dropped it because I didn't want to like be accountable for possibly lying or misleading him I said no, I dropped it like this high he goes no no if there's no point of impact you shouldn't have to pay for that he was you dropped in there was a dense then yeah, because there's nothing the phone should not be cracking if you drop a couple inches so the point right so
there are lots of Masada gates saved me that money right? Less than the story is make do offer everything
takes a couple seconds or a lot make this easy. Oh Allah. Make this meal good. Oh, a lot. Do that. Just ask a lot, right? Drag should be like a constant conversation. Shouldn't be formal where you're like, Okay, I have to wear this clothes like this before. Do this turn off the lights? Probably 30%
Please, Xbox One. Oh, marriage. Oh, good. Grades make up for everything. Dude, me draw for those things. Executive a lot. The easiest way to make a law is in the morning. There's certain NASCAR in the night there's one of the best way is to do as car with your normal actions before you eat. You say
after you're done you say hamdulillah you can say Alinea. Domino's cannot listen to how beautiful their eyes by the way and hamdulillah and levy thomna was sakana withdrawn none of them will see me oh well it like thank Allah Oh praise Viola that the one who fed us give us drink and made us Muslims like what are the three things one of these things is not like the other right like to give us food drink me but it shows you that a person should never lose sight of the blessing of their a nun. Even amongst food and drink because food and drink Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Once you have food and drink you get comfortable, right? Your Hierarchy of Needs starts going up and so
you can quickly forget who fed and who gave you drank? drank Wow, I just turned to a rapper who gave you drink. And so that's why the end of the day is with Jada not even muslimeen so Pinilla make as Gar with your normal actions when you put on your clothes in the morning. Bismillah right. hamdulillah all of you for this close. When you sneeze hamdulillah from Allah Yeah, dicamillo a sabbatical as you make a mistake a stock for a lot. That's the best way to make liquid because it's all day. Right? Whatever you're doing. Okay. The next is Quran. How many of you have a relationship with the Quran that you wish was a little bit better? I'll admit it.
I wish my relationship was better. Right? The best way to have a good relationship with the Quran. As the hubby says, When we'll have our input consistent, even if it's a little bit what do I mean by that? Read five minutes a day
and ponder upon what you're reading. Okay, read five minutes after a while go 10 minutes shallow you'll find you're one of those people who you're reading for 30 minutes of court on a day you know you read the you meet those people like the badass daddies. Mashallah like the old like our older generation, they sit around for like hours. I asked once my wife's grandmother I said, How did you start reading Koran so much? Because Michelle, she was gone for like hours a day. She said I started with five minutes a day and she's the one who gave me that plan. So just keep going a little bit a little bit as well. So if you want to have a better relation to the Koran just read five minutes a
day, not too long, not too long at all. The fourth way of earning all those mercy and there's many more but this is the last for the session because I've already gone way over is having good company and motto other men had a lot of added initially sorry that the person is on the religion of their friend, the dean, not just religion, but the lifestyle
Right. And so your lifestyle will be dictated by your environment, your atmosphere. Don't ever sell yourself short. Don't ever sell yourself short. We ask Allah subhanaw taala to grant us His mercy. ask Allah subhanaw taala to make us people who never earn his anger, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to allow us to be those he loves and to love Him and to love his profit and to love the things that he loves me as an herbalist, I mean, sorry for going so long over time, I apologize inshallah. The next session won't be so long inshallah. And then, you know, we'll have a break to Charles Hadassah. So panicle often will be the one la isla and Mr. Frederick wanted to be like,
the break time.
Embrace your
minutes, few minutes for questions.
Good question. So how do you been referenced to the holding of the pen for six hours? So we learned that this the right this lesson, the small sins
that your general so far covers them? Right? So, you know, small sins could be like things like accidentally looking at someone badly or saying something badly to somebody on accident or anything that's like a small sin. That's not intentional. The big sins, we learn the code that you have to actually specify what you're making. Safar for. Now, if you fear that you may have made a big sin in the past, and you're not sure if you can remember exactly what it was, then you asked a lot. Well, I'll just forgive my Larson my big sins, right. But we learned that things like you know, Giamatti Juma, we learned, for example, that from Friday to Friday, those who pray Gemma, they all their sins
are forgiven between the Fridays that forgive the small sins, because they are like serious sins that you have to like, specifically ask for forgiveness for, right. It's just like, in life, when you make a mistake that's a little more serious, you might have to kind of like upgrade your apology a little bit. So instead of just saying sorry, to somebody, sometimes you have to write a letter, instead of writing a letter, sometimes you have to actually buy them a gift to replace something like, if you break someone's car window, it's not just enough to say, Sorry, you know, you have to like file insurance claim and all that kind of stuff. But if you accidentally are, you know, putting
your cup of coffee on someone's car, as you're loading your car at the grocery store, and they walk up, then you have Oh, sorry, sorry about that, right. And they're not going to be like, no, write a letter, please about your coffee cup in my car, there's like a ring stain on the front. So it's the same with a lot like the the small sins, easily to forgive inshallah, and that's the, we know when that when you commit one of those, and you can tell the angels holding you to say so for the law. But if you made a big sin, the six hour rule still applies. But you said a lot, please forgive me for that. Maybe pray to an apple, maybe get some soda, just kind of add some sweetness to it right?
kind of drop some incentive in trouble.
Yeah.
Good.
So judging when I say judging, I mean judging their heart. Right. So we can never judge someone's heart. We don't know what's in there in the heart. We don't know what they're feeling or thinking in their in their soul. But we can definitely make decisions based on someone's actions. Absolutely. But when I say judgment, what I mean is that Allah is the only one who has the right to assign to them a place in the accurate based on those actions. So we cannot say this person's actions are this. So they're definitely going to hellfire. That's absolutely outside of our scope. But we can say, I may not want to be close to these people, because they engage in this kind of behavior. But
at the same time, their end result or their relationship with Allah, that's between them and olanipekun. Me and them, we cannot basically we can only do like the first level of analysis, we cannot then extend that analysis to their Africa or to their entire character content. Right. Make sense? So it's not judgment. Right judgment, like when you say that the judge has come to a judgment, there's been a judgment or like a ruling has been filed by the judge. What you're saying is like you're giving the final say, what I'm what I'm saying with regards to good companionship is you're just doing a very surface level analysis of people that have certain characteristics or
behaviors that you do or don't want to be around.
Cool. Okay, john, good question. Yeah. So
marks on
session, you mentioned something in regard to joins.
Yeah. And so
I can actually read your answer.
professionalism,
that it has to stick that allows us to identify
Yeah, so how do you forbid, good? Or how do you? How do you enjoin good and forbid evil? Right? This is a huge thing. And I think that when you look at the seat of the problem is so subtle, and there's no better way to answer it then by looking at his pseudo, okay, essentially, in a short answer, those that he knew and was close to, he would approach them in ways that he knew would be most would have the highest like rating of efficacy with them. So for example, he would tell somebody through a joke, something that they should face, because maybe that person wouldn't take it bluntly, right? He would tell somebody else very bluntly, you have to fix this, because maybe that person doesn't get
hints, okay. But the key common denominator is that he already had a pre existing relationship with the people that he was trying to correct. Those people that were not that close to the Prophet promises of them, you find that they would commit mistakes in front of him and he would remain silent.
Which means that what like for example, the story of Mali, somebody you know, that famous story?
No, no, even Buddha is different story. But that's also an interesting story talk about how he corrected that person. Right? So he didn't know that Bedouin right? If it was all about Who did that? different different response, right? If Walmart just got up with either that, you know, of course, like you would never do such a thing, but if one of the companions the the the senior Sahaba sahaabah. Did that different response was meant to veteran there's no anybody just walks in your Knights in the masjid, and all sudden, like, everyone's like, what do you imagine today? Someone just like did that? Just like got up and went like urinated in the corner? Like, what would the man
do? What would the board do? Probably nothing. Okay. All right. So just on how the blackboards are good people, Mashallah. We just have this sort of like weird, stereotypical sports, but they're good people. They serve? Why are you laughing? I'm being serious. They're good, right? point is that he didn't know him very well. He was a Bedouin. So what does he do? He goes up to him. First, he tells the companions, you clean it up, okay? He doesn't even tell the young guy to clean it up. And then he says, as they're cleaning up, he tells him this is a place of worship. We don't do this here. Another companion. He just converted to Islam. And he learned the response to sneeze being your
chemical law. Okay. So they're in the middle of officer prayer. And everyone's praying and someone sneezes, and he says, Your chemical law like out loud.
And the Guardian, say the most radical. So he goes, yarmulke law again.
And then the companions kind of like looked over at him while they're praying. And he said, Yeah, Harvard Law, man. And then he actually said, like, Mayor of mother's lose. You mean? Like, you guys are like, what's wrong with you? So they started like slapping their hands telling him like, be quiet, be quiet. After the Prophet says I'm finished praying. They all basically turned and looked at this point at this hobby.
It was him. All right, the pauses on smiled and said, Thank you for your enthusiasm, but we don't talk in prayer. So look at how he corrected him, right? He didn't like, you know, say, like, come here, come talk to me, or do this or redo your Salah. Like, he didn't say that? Right. He approached them based on his relationship with them. So the first question we have to ask ourselves when we're trying to advise people or advise somebody, what's my relationship with that person? Is it somebody that I'm really close with that I can just go and be like, Hey, I think you need to work on this, or is it somebody that I maybe just met or don't even know some people they give advice before they say
something to somebody? This happened to me Actually, right. One time, there was a there was a brother in our in our machine, I saw this actually. And he had like his pants, like below his ankles or something. Somewhat stealthy ruling, and a person came to him. And the brother goes somewhere they come and the guy goes, your pants are below your ankles like that.
And I was like, that's out of order. Okay, that's like putting like the bun after the burger. Right? So I was like, you just did that wrong. Like, you totally sound like them. How are you? Like, how are things? You're new here? I haven't seen you Okay, get to know you. My rule of thumb is like, I never try to advise somebody within the first one or two times I've met them ever. Yeah, you gotta wait, man, you got to wait it out. And oftentimes, I don't even advise people, I just let them I just try to model what I would like to advise them with.
So I just, you know, the eyes teach us what the words sometimes cannot. So like, even what I say to them, sometimes okay, but when they see me doing it a different way, then Subhanallah they might I'll give you an example, with the whole pants about the ankles thing, which by the way, I don't even think it's a serious ruling. Or I think it's serious, but I don't think it's like Yani.
Before I pray, imagine what people would do. If I was leading the prayer, and I rolled my pants up.
They would be like, Oh, do we have to do that? And I thought, yeah, you know, I'm comfortable. I think we should do this. And they would do it, right? Like, hey, look at my pants. But the point is that instead of telling everybody, you have to do this, you have to do this, you have to do this. It's very important to model things for people. Right? And if we're not modeling it for them first, then we can't go and talk to them about it. Right? So present a model for all of us and know yourself, and then people inshallah will naturally be inclined.
It makes sense. Okay. And there's also obviously, if you have somebody that it's like a really destructive behavior, like let's say like, it's like something really poisonous, like drug or alcohol or something, then you can be a little bit more straightforward. But general rule of thumb is always encompass it with love, mercy, compassion. So maybe by that person dinner, and as you're eating dinner, you're like, I really care for you. And I'm really concerned about I noticed that you're involved in this habit. And like, I just don't want you to get hurt, you know, and that person will have nothing, but like, they'll feel nothing but that compassion. But the difference is,
and I know, we've all seen this before, people will come out with like, the finger gun, right? You, you, you, you it's like it doesn't help. Right. So the Prophet says, I'm taught us how to do this really well, many, many stories. Shall we talk? Probably more. But yeah.
Yeah. Like,
I used to use that.
So the idea is, there are some things that Alice Pousada does, like Ziad that if like, we cannot assign and understand and process that you understand I'm saying we cannot, because that's a lot of action. So it's kind of like saying, like, How do I know when I was doing this for me or, or when he's doing this, you know, for someone else, or when he's testing me, or that's all his wisdom and our wisdom is so limited, it's difficult to like process how that happens. There's also some people who will receive all of their head in this life, right? So one of the things like people say is like, oh, if someone doesn't believe a lot gives them award in this life for the good that they've
done. So possibly someone who denies a law, if they are very charitable, then you might find that they will see a lot of blessings in this life, like more money, more comfort, more opulence, etc. But we don't know if that's a lot increasing them in their system so that they can partake in something else. Or if it's just a law giving them a reward in this life. Basically, it's very dangerous to try to think on behalf of Allah spawn Tada. And we don't we never ever have a surefire understanding of that. Like, why is a lot doing this the way he's doing? Like speaking on behalf of a lot. That's why you see in Quran commentaries were fascinating. They never say this is exactly
what it means unless they have a text pneus that is saying, This is what it means from the Prophet. So some himself, or people like the love of mustard, who were like, what are the lawn, who is very, very high, and I was put on, so they'll never ever Mufasa Dean who talks about like interpretate interpretations later will never be very, very, like this is exactly what it means. Why? Because you can't speak or think on behalf of a law. You know, that makes sense. So when it comes to like distinguishing between somebody who's being given something to increase more, and somebody who's been just given something in general, the only way we can make an assessment for ourselves, not for
others, remember, because we don't know what's in their heart, etc, is we judge by our pattern of behavior.
So if our pattern of behavior is good, and a luck is continuously rewarding, that are giving us more than we can, inshallah take glad tidings and knowing that we are pleasing Allah spawn Tada. But if somebody, their pattern of behavior goes contradictory to the son of the Prophet Muhammad wa sallam, and they still receive more than they have to ask themselves in a moment of reality, and sincerity, is Allah testing me or giving me my rewards here or pushing me away? Some of the most pious scholars upon Allah, they would receive, like a sum of money, or some gift or something, and they would start to cry. And they would ask Why are you crying in the spirit, the scholar would say, and I'm not
saying that everyone has to follow this, but understand what they're saying. He said, I don't want to receive my reward. Now. I'm worried that Allah is taking my reward from genda and giving it to me now. I'm worried about that this caller would say, right, so it shows you like they were concerned about that. So how do we know for ourselves? We look at our pattern of behavior. What's my recent history? Right? Did I pray this morning? Have I been praying in the masjid more frequently? Have I been reading more Koran and we look at our trend but if we're trending downwards in our spirituality and our relationship with a lot our man and we still see that life is still giving us humbler good
theological grinders good things in life then we have to be concerned about if this is a test for us make sense? Okay, now last but not accept inshallah. Yeah.
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Remember, was a little hammer holla. He said that that there's three kinds of draw. There's one that the heart The there's one that's the weakest that the tongue says it but the heart doesn't feel it. That's the weakest. He says it's still yummy, dry, but it's not like the strongest. Then he says the next strong which is good is that the tongue isn't saying it but the heart is yearning for it.
He said the best though the most strong is when both are aligned that the tongue is saying it and the hearts yearning for it as well. So the answer is, you don't have to say it out loud, but it's the most strong drive to say it out loud. Make sense?