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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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Now, the question time is one of the times which I don't really I don't really find very pleasant to be honest with you.

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Because some of the questions require some

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review.

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I need to look them up. Even great scholars, when they're asked questions, they have to go back home and they give the answer a few days later or something. So excuse me if I don't answer your question. Or if you see me putting papers aside, because I am going to be asked by our last panel data about my answers I give you. So please don't burden me and show them.

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The questioner says

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somebody recommendation was to law?

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Well, it's a very broad question, how do we know if Islam is the right religion? It's probably wrong asking this but I just want to know

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we believe it's the right religion because it says in the Quran,

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but

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it also says in the Bible,

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they know what that means. Can you please answer this question?

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Well, just in brief, sister or brother,

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you said that it says it in the Bible. And you said that it says in the Quran.

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That's good.

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And that means you need to know and understand how the Quran

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is the right word of Allah subhana wa dot.

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You see, when you say that something comes from a source,

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then you need to see if that source is credible.

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You need to put that source to a test.

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You know, Albert Einstein, those of you have heard of him, Albert Einstein,

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when he said, he was actually the first one who said that the sky is expanding

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until they stole that idea off him. And what he did was he posed the challenge.

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He posed the challenge to

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whoever the scientists were then.

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And he said, if you think here is my proof, and here's my evidence, and if you think that it's wrong,

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then prove my evidence is wrong.

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prove my calculations wrong, prove my proof wrong. But they couldn't they just passed by it and they stole it instead.

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So just because it says it in the Quran, or just because it says in the Bible, yes, as a Muslim, it's enough as a proof for us. But for a non Muslim, it's not enough. Because then the first thing they're going to ask you, how do I know the Quran is the correct way.

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And here comes the challenge.

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If you can produce a book like the core and

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produce a book like the core, and if you think that this is not the word of Allah,

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then Allah subhanaw taala says, to be surah, the mystery in Surah Al Baqarah, then bring a sorta chapter like it, if you think it is not from Allah, the shorter surah in the Quran is about a sentence and a half. for 1400 years for that 427 years, nobody has been able to bring a sentence and a half,

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like the court and what I mean by like, the Quran is as original as the Quran, not to get a few words and jumble them and say this is like the Quran, get an original book that no one can produce one like it, just like the Quran came. No one had a book like the Quran before.

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And no one can ever bring one like that after. That's one proof. So you need to actually analyze to the non Muslim.

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the authenticity of the source that you're getting it from.

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Why is it that hundreds of 1000s of Muslims have memorized this book, page to page front to back in seven different dialects, and they don't change?

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We pose the question. Why hasn't anybody memorize the Bible? page to page not even the Pope has memorized the Bible? by heart. Nobody has memorized the Bible by heart for the simple reason, which is probably should be the only reason for someone who really is following the truth because they don't know which is the most authentic version.

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There are many versions don't know which one and so the Bible today is like an interpretation of what people who came after Jesus a Saudis sent him said

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it's not the direct words of Allah subhana wa tada as it was sent down on to a Saudis sent him

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Any priest, even the pope can acknowledge that

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for these, so basically look back at the source the Quran. And Ray, you can explain to the non Muslim as I give him some examples, that the source that we are getting it from is quite unique and authentic. And the challenge is, if you don't believe Islam is the right way, then prove that the source where it came from is wrong by producing another book like it by producing a sentence and a half like it. And I'm sure definitely that they will not be able to do so Allah says in the Quran

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hola Vegeta Martin is originally to be Miss nihan por la tune as Miss Lee.

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Allah says say if all the gyms and all of the human beings were together together to try and bring a book like this Quran, they will not be able to bring one Miss Li, like even similar to it.

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Similar to it,

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even if we even if they brought all their helpers and everybody.

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So these are what you should concentrate on. inshallah.

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Another question, what am I as a Muslim supposed to do, when I am in a situation where harm is prevented, and the people fellow Muslims take the harm as a small matter, and we have no way of leaving the place? What if we had no intention to do bad and didn't know there was going to be bad?

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Right?

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If you can't get out of the place where Haram is prevalent, you really can't.

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Then Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran, later you can live Allahu nipson illa Messiah.

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Allah does not oblige any person to do something which they are unable to do, except what is within its capacity wasaga. So whatever you are able to do in avoiding that environment, even if it means sitting in the same room in a corner, and you're unable to get out of that room, then do that in the corner. If it means you can put headphones on your ear do so if you can read a book or turn your attention away you can do so it's just an example which I gave. But basically, the rule is that verse in the Quran in surah baqarah in the last page of sort of Bukhara about two verses before the end, because some people were asking, Can you give us the sources where you're getting them from. So

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now you're getting us custom now to sort of try and pinpoint where they're from.

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If you are unable to do some do whatever is in within your human capacity, and a last minute dialogue will not send you for whatever you are unable to do.

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Whatever you are unable to do, if you can't change it. Then from saw Selim says whoever sees of you a monk or a bad thing, and evil thing, and this is an example of it, they let them try and change it with their hand in a proper way, if they're unable to change it with their hand properly.

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With the correct principles, they let them change it with their tongue by advising if they can't change it with their tongue in a proper way, then at least hate it with your heart. Hate it with your heart. And that's the last resort that you can go towards.

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What if we had no intention to do bad and didn't know this? There was going to be bad? Yes. If you had no intention to do bad, then when the bad is in front of you, you leave it

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you leave it so you're not doing the bad someone else is doing the bad. You didn't have the intention? hamdulillah but when the bad happens simple, you just leave that environment you leave that bad.

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You didn't know there was going to be about a Lost Planet. Allah does not hold you accountable for that which you do not know Allah. Allah says in the Quran. Well, leadin edessa lusatia 1001 mo fusa Hamza Corolla, the Corolla manifesto for who need to know.

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llama, lm, UC Rhode Island, Omnia, and mo and those who do indecent acts, or they express themselves in any way deliberately.

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Then they remember Allah subhanho wa Taala. And they realize that only Allah forgives the sins. So they ask a lot of forgiveness and who is there but Allah that can forgive the sins so he forgives them, so long as they do not insist on continuing their bad act. While they know. That's the key point while they know. So a person is forgiven. If they did not know that what they're about to do is bad. But once you know, you must leave. Once you know you must leave.

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I'm a bit afraid of that last question. I hope that nobody is trying to

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Were from the hope no one had an argument with someone and trying to sort of

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you know use me in sort of getting your way or something. So inshallah the intentions are good.

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Now is it later to the quarter on the 15th of chabanne How can use

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How can you say it is in Ramadan? Please explain how come all others wrong

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confused me bad that this question

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the little cutter is not in shabang shabang is the month before Ramadan

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so 15th of chavan is not even Ramadan yet

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how can you say it is in Ramadan?

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That's the question. Well because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam He is the one who told us this you will find this hadith in Sahih Bukhari

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and Sahih Muslim. You will also find it in Sudan Abu Dawood and Sahib No matter if you know these books of Hadith. The prophet SAW Selim, where he was

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where these companions would say, the narrator's would say, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. When the last 10 nights of Ramadan used to arrive, he used to tighten his belt and wake up his family to pray in the night and he used to await for Laila to cuddle and he used to say from saw Selim used to say that a cowboy hat, philosophy, our acid

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come a call with Ron Danny, I'm just summarizing the Hadith await for later to Qatar in the last 10 nights of Ramadan being in odd numbers being an odd numbers also had its reforms I sent him saying a wait for it in the 20 25th to 27th the 29th as many other candidates about about the size of laser cutter all talking about Ramadan, my dear brother or sister.

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And please explain how come all others are wrong.

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I don't understand that. So inshallah I hope I helped you.

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If now

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the calendars. Did you ask the question? We don't know then? We don't know. Have you been mean sorry.

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I don't mean to put you on the spot. I just if it's about the calendar, to publish your question about the calendar. Why the wrong dinner? All wrong, brother. I don't know how they're wrong. I still don't understand.

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No.

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It's right. When Mirage in shotgun Well, that's a different story. Okay, little quarter is a different thing. If some if someone back bites in front of us while we are fasting, then what do we do? It's very simple, my dear brothers and sisters.

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You simply advise them and you tell them in a proper manner that what they are doing is haraam, and that the promise of a law to sell him said

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he said tell them was prophesied sell them said at that Runa Malema? Do you know what LIBOR is? And they said, What is LIBOR? rasulillah. And he said for a person to mention something in about their brother or sister in their absence when they don't like it to mention it. They said you're a solo or if it's true, he said if it's true, that's a lever. If it's not true, then that's back then that's slandering. So try and advise them if they don't stop, then you must get up and leave that gathering. Or try and change the topic in the best way that you can.

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Otherwise listening to Heba you will fall into the same home

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is sleeping during the day in Ramadan, good or bad. What about out of Ramadan between us and a mother? Please explain. Brother I will. Hamza explained this yesterday, talking about the this you know how it's not recommended to sleep throughout the whole day in Ramadan, and then sort of wake up in the whole night just trying to sort of newly not reaping the benefits of fasting at all. So it's not really recommended to sleep throughout the day of fasting. But the process Selim always is a sauna that he used to do is to always regardless, Ramadan, outside of Ramadan, used to have something called a chi Lula. Chi Lula is a short sleep between somewhere between little and also as

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for between us and a Muslim. I don't know that I've heard of some Hadith about this. I don't know the authenticity if it's true or not. But I have read for many scholars past in prison when they are talking about sleeping between us in a multiverse being not recommended as being not recommended and a reference to a hadith which I don't know its authenticity saying, whoever sleeps with an arsenal Muslim and wakes up and you know, his mentally disturbed then only blame himself but I don't know the authenticity of this, however, we do hear it from scholars. Nevertheless, the prophet SAW Selim did not usually sleep between us and a Muslim he used to sleep between Lord and hustle. So let us

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take what the prophet SAW Selim did.

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But then oversleeping Ramadan, you need to weep

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The fruit of that. So that with the sosele, so the whipsaw, and now they say

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they have the brother or the egg was sent in, you said that Allah Spano Dada didn't ask Muslims too fast when they were in Medina, because I lost my dad, I did not want to torture them, or cause hardship to them and so on, does it mean doesn't mean that the poor people at this time don't have to don't have a compulsory to fast? This is a good question. So last time that I didn't come commanded to do it, because they were already in the lowest in the hardship that needed to be there, were already fasting, you see, they were already fasting. This does not mean that the poor people don't have to fast they still have to fast. But you see, the promise that I mean, if a poor person

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is so poor, that it doesn't have any food to eat, then he's automatically fasting nothing.

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In I don't know what the difference is between you not eating and a poor person not eating.

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poor person doesn't have food can afford the food in the day, well, then I lost pantalla providing food in the night. And you'll only have to eat once in a day, or in support, or probably eat a little bit insulin a little bit afterwards, not eating three meals anymore. So fasting is actually good for the poor for us, and he's still patient.

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You see,

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catch the drift?

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As for a person who's very ill and sick, or a person who's on a journey and travel or prison is unable to fast is a fork of meta now and they don't have to fast and make it up another day. So insha Allah it's solved in sha Allah

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babes and am I even sat down Do you mind to clarify authenticity? So here of Quranic verses and Hadith you use in the lecture? Also, could you please make them publicly available? inshallah we will try our best to make them publicly available. Please consult Islam insha Allah. As for the verses of the Quran, we don't usually say this I hate or die. That only applies to Hadith, right? words of the prophets I send them because the Quran is always sorry no matter what.

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But we'll inshallah display it. I'm not going to go through them all now and show

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Salam Alaikum alaikum Salam Can I pray with shop

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with shoplifted clothes? And you just want to make people laugh now?

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Can I pray with shoplifted clothes?

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The answer is No my dear brother or sister whether you pray or don't pray shouldn't be wearing them shouldn't be wearing them if they are stolen. So it is haram to accept any anything from anyone who you know it is stolen. And it's haram to steal otherwise you are assisting you are assisting theft.

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Is it true that I cannot fast the days from now till Ramadan

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you can fast them

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you can fast them but there is an A we say no prophet SAW Selim did not recommend people to fast in the last towards the last days before Ramadan towards the last days before Ramadan. You can look this up in a book called

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I looked at one more gem

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for a nucleon Santa had to shave an image of Zia he's got all the hobbies taken from Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim or you can look up at the other side of hand if you like it has something in it. You can also look at look up many books of insha Allah for your evidence for that it's not recommended to fast about halfway of Shabbat until the day of Ramadan Oh to delay it. So that you can prepare yourself in sha Allah for Ramadan unless you are used to fasting Mondays and Thursdays one day on one day off, right then you can continue doing that inshallah.

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I am breastfeeding and as a revert to Islam I have never fasted before. Am I able to fast as much as I can? Ie if my milk is drying out? Can I stop for a day then continue again? Well, sister, this is something which I can't really answer. Because it's something which you know yourself all I can say too is the common rule is that if you're fasting will lead you know, you know that it is going to lead you to harm or your baby to harm then you can break that fast and fast and other day but we're not talking about harm that is like you say to yourself looking at if I stopped you I mean there is milk and there's everything but you think to yourself, if I stopped there's a potential that

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there'll be harmed. You can't rely on on a on a hypothesis such as that. So it's only when you reach the point where you it's apparent to you that really it is drying then yes you may break your fast and fast another day Islam and fasting is very easy inshallah. so damn are they gonna come sit down?

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I was wondering Can someone make up for Miss prayers they've missed?

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There's a lot of Hadith that say you must and some say you

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Can't, can you please help me out?

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The scholars deferred,

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the scholars deferred.

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Actually, first of all, I don't know if you're talking about the prayers when you were not praying deliberately, or the prayers that you actually forgot to pray or you slip past them. If they are the prayers, which, from before you deliberately didn't pray them, like for 10 years or 15 years before, then there are two opinions to that. But the majority of the scholars and the correct opinion, which the majority of the scholar who say scholars, yani, we're talking about the early scholars who have already dealt with this issue for us, and explained it to us, the scholars have added some knowledge now the scholars of Hadith, they talked about and already explained to us, the majority of them that

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the prayers that have passed you, when you deliberately lift them, then the Toba the repentance itself, will cover up for all what you have done, so long as you start doing your prayers on time and you start doing the good deeds and you really repent to Allah subhanho wa Taala how the scholars they said you should actually make them up. But for 10 years or 15 years making up your prayer is not something which the scholars unanimously agreed upon. But if you forgot to pray or you slip past your prayer, yes, you must make up your prayer when you remember or when you wake up

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even if it's the next day, even if it's a week later.

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I want to marry but my parents are not allowing me to do it

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please tell me what I can do Can I go against their will

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was Abu Hamza

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talk to Abu Hamza

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is something which concerns you yourself so maybe talk one on one inshallah we can't really answer in public in general like that's just general question I don't know. Very sensitive question. Please don't burden me brothers sisters, you know, I don't want parents next day calling me up and starting lasting. It depends. Is it hard on for your wife to give you

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Oh my god, how could you ask this question?

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Where's the brothers who gave me the questions

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you didn't look at them I know they're just

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get rid of me in the face now that the prophet SAW Selim said don't read in your brother in the face that make him embarrassed.

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Can you answer that Abraham's.

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Bye bye. Last point on it says the only whatever the in general whatever the Sharia Islam, the Sharia is has been quiet about whatever the Sharia has been quiet about and he didn't really say you can do it or not, then it means that it's more about it's allowed. Right? But

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really the question or you know yourself what you asked. I really don't know the proper quit the proper answer to that when you show a loss. Seek some advice from a more knowledgeable person. But be careful how you ask them the question.

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I'm in love with

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Oh my god.

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Oh, man, we Alright, I'll just leave these questions aside and show life only you knew. What do you think about

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all right.

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What Well, look, I mean, what do you think this is? Or a question? What do you think about parents asking top dollars for their daughters in marriage like the man this is not about the money. You know, the mother.

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Hands up those who? Who knows what the matter is?

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Okay, Michelle,

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I can't see whoever doesn't know what the matter is. Good. Okay. Well, the matter. The dairy, which is given to the woman as a gift, which is my daughter has commanded in Islam.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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the best of the women are the ones whose request for the most is the least what does that mean? It means the least doesn't mean that the one who asked for $1 or a cent

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compared to the rest of her peers in society.

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She should not ask or her guardian or a father whoever a guardian is when he should not ask

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for an extravagant amount of mohair for their daughter to be paid, you're not selling her.

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And it is something which is very highly disliked in Islam to seek high murders. In in some cultures, they asked for $100,000 or $150,000

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You know, and what they think is that you're, you're trying to they're trying to sort of guard their daughter from being divorced.

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That's pathetic. Because if you're trying to guard your daughter from being divorced, the matters to be paid to whether or not he divorces her, generally, and secondly, you know that he will never pay that. So that husband

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will start making your head her life until she asks to be divorced. Were in that case, she's not entitled to them that. And we've seen this happen so many times in our society.

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And what the men do is some men they get so aggravated from that, that they make their wives work, work really hard in the shop and at home. And they kind of like one at one and make them suffer for it.

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There's so much benefit from what the prophet SAW Selim advises. So she should take what her peers take. And if she asked for a little bit less, that's fine. But not too much less. A common matter today, really, I mean, in here, I mean to in this locality.

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When we wrote the man, we did the marriage marriages, when I've done marriages for people, the advice we give them is somewhere between, you know, 10,000 15,000 $20,000, if they want to give it in money, and this is hers to keep, he has no right to it. Some people want to give a little bit more out of your generosity, that's fine. But 100 $150,000 is ridiculous, you're not doing good for your daughter, well, law laws in place, brother, can you explain who is

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permissible to fast and who is not, for example, can a paralyzed person fast, while we explained it, however, is ill or sick to a point where they are unable to fulfill their normal day to day duties, unable to walk and talk and, and do their duties, and will cause them to be ill or sick or faint, or vomit, things like that makes you you know, Ill then you're allowed to break your fast. I mean, when you're on a travel, there's hardship and travel, hardship and suffer.

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So you're allowed to break your fast then a paralyzed person? Well, if that paralyzed person is unable to fast, then they don't have to fast at all. If that paralyzed person is unable to fast ever, then they don't have to fast and they should pay for everyday which they broke their fast

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amount to feed one poor person

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to go through who can fast and who can't fast we need a little while to explain that I think our Hamza also spoke about this yesterday, please refer to the lecture.

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Or you can go to books of flicker focus sooner, for example, look at the other side of him if you like books, books or flip I like it to read about fasting. It's all there. You know?

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Why is it haram?

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Most things for girls, but not for guys, for example, covering up and not being allowed to do certain things.

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Out of give me more energy, I need more energy to answer these questions.

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No, no sister in Islam, or brother, it is not there are more things that are wrong for the women than there are for the men. That's wrong.

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Right? If you really look at the things that are halal and haram in Islam, you will find that we're actually equal in the things that are haram for us and haram for you. For example, it's haram for a for a man not to go to the Friday prayer, the Juma prayer, but for you, it's not

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another example,

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it's hard on for the men have to use this example. I won't change that example.

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Okay, the term for a man to really shave his beard, right? But for the woman, if she has some hair, she's allowed to take them off. Right, so

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there are many other things it's, it's hard on for a men to have in a time of wedding.

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You know, you know, hitting on a Duff and singing. I mean, well, it's not it's not really recommended acts for the men to do that. But it's a highly recommended act for the women to do that. To do an artist you know, walima for like an artist and a party for the woman to do that.

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There are many things that we can mention that are hard on for the men and not haram for the woman. And then is it's compulsory upon demand, for example to go to

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uni if they are called to to.

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compulsory for the man to be the leader of the house and provide the family with their sustenance and to work to provide the family and his wife for sustenance and food and, and clothing and shelter but it's not compulsory for the woman to do that.

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So they're like we grow a beard, you wear your hijab Where's you know, where's the more haram I don't understand. Plus, the Haram which Allah spent Allah makes is actually good for us.

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only good for us. Well law allowed him Allah Subhana Allah says If only you knew, If only you knew.

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So there aren't more haram for the women more than the men. It seems like that maybe because of the society we live in.

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And they've caused you to think that women are deprived

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Law laws and they are not.

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In fact, it's more I The way I see it is that the men have to do more effort towards the family and towards their wife than the wife has to towards her husband really, for those who really practice Islam properly.

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But when fasting and doing will do, can you wipe over your mouth? Yes, you can, you can even put water in your mouth, but not gargle it.

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Right and not gargle the separate a little bit of water in your mouth and just spit it out, that's fine. In shell and to wipe your mouth, you can also do that, according to the proper opinion, guarding the mouth and the nose is assume that you will do.

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So now I didn't want to come sit down Do I pray before for tour or do I break my foot or then pray.

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And breaking your heart doesn't mean eating a whole meal. By the way. breaking your start is basically just swallowing something of nutrition like a gulp of water, for example, half of a date, or a date that's breaking your your fast.

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So you should actually it's recommended for you to break your fast with anything. The best way to break is fast with fresh dates. If not, then with dry dates, if there's no dry dates, then with water, so you can break your fast in that way. And then he used to go and pray the mothership. And then

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you can go back and finish off your meal. What a meal we eat today. So panelo it like you know, five, six different meals followed by desserts and everything can do all that but don't fill yourself up too much. It's not recommended. Especially when I heard this in Sydney made me laugh, especially lots of us live and these people love Elgin tune in the chicken and garlic I don't like a person in and they go up there and start burping in the blinds and it can't even stand it. So panela It's ridiculous. And I can't stand in Tara we have for long should see them. It's like we have never seen food before, from Salah Salem said feel a third of your stomach really in fasting. So one none

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of another way of controlling yourself. If you can reach that and feel any third of your stomach after you fasted? Well, you're going to accomplish so much benefit for yourself as a person. Later on, you'll find not only your diet is better, not only will you find yourself losing weight, but also you're healthy. Because you see coming from a scientific point of view.

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If you feel really if you feel more than what your body actually needs in your stomach, it'll only be converted to fat and livers stored in the liver if you don't use it stored as fat in your skin between. So these lipids and these fats which are stored in your skin, you know they're fat and they're not good for you high cholesterol, blah blah blah all that stuff. So if you need more than what your body needs and the prompts are sent and gave us the evaluation of that and the measure a third and leave a third for water and leave a third to breathe for crying out loud. So especially for the Imam praying and Tara we donate too much so you can breathe inshallah

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you should see the people complaining behind us when we're praying and today

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you took too long, how much five verses of the Quran we read, while the five verses short verses took too long.

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I don't know if you think some people know that. This is an Arabic joke right? And this is a man who used to pray and sometimes used to read about 10 versus B type behind people who are very impatient to fill their stomachs are really mad and they can't stand longing for it. So they started complaining a shift you read too long too long. So the chef started reading three verses yeah shares the reading too long so he started reading one verse. It comes up and he says one verse insalata document those of you know the Quran said more than half

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and he went to the court

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now with him my tan is in plural while it's in jewel dermatan one man comes up and says your [???] What didn't you say would hammer just one one would have 10 by 10 and would hammer

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but

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we've got to not fill our stomachs up too much.

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Brother, which is more important is Ramadan in Ramadan, reading coriano praying. Which one does the soul need more the needs of both men? When you pray you read Quran. Yeah.

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But your compulsory prayers. The five daily prayers are more important than reading Quran because reading Quran is voluntary. But you don't leave the Quran at all. There's a hadith from Salah send them and I've looked at up to this I hear from so I send them said

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whoever

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recites 10

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of the Quran in the day that's outside of the prayer 10 out of the Quran in the day, let me know what feeling you will not be written on in that day as being one of those who have neglected or Lost Planet Allah. And if you read 100 verses in the day, then you will be written for that day as being one of the kindly tune and he the ones who are specially close to Allah Spano died anything less than 10 what are you going to be written as lafay one who is neglectful of Allah Subhanallah Dada especially the how these books are silent. Do not make

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Your houses deserted. Don't make your houses great graveyards recycled and in them and there are many Heidi's about resigning How can you go through and Madonna recycled an owl CRAN is the medicine for the heart that's why we decided in prayer Allah called animals especially me personally I love listening to the slow read citation you know what we call the sweet, likable boss of style? No there's others because it gets me to reflect and think about that especially when he repeats the verse makes me really sink it in me personally you know, you might have a different taste so it's nice to listen to the Quran let it really enter your heart and sinking slowly

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the court will clear your heart from all envy from all hatred from subpanel Lena and I recommend more could end in the sheets in any time the only paper I've got three days to make up and if I can't make it before this Ramadan Can I leave them and make them after Ramadan what is the ruling on this

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if I can't make it before this Ramadan

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well again there's only two opinions about that

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some said that you must fast your makeup your fasting before the next Ramadan.

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But other scholars said no you can make it any time. However it is recommended to make them up earlier and before the next Ramadan.

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Personally I've rested on the opinion that you can fast and at any time based on that as well I lost my dial it says that I mean I am an author, makeup you're fasting on any other days. And he didn't confine it to the time before next Ramadan. So until I see a deal or evidence Other than that, inshallah we'll go by that. If anyone has that they can shout it out. There's nothing wrong with

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another question.

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My sister in law is about seven months pregnant my brother tell my brother tell her not too fast this Ramadan is disallowed. My brother tell told her not too fast this Ramadan disallowed.

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Look with pregnancy, you don't just break your fast just because you're pregnant. Right? The common rule is, if you find yourself really leading to harming yourself or the baby by fasting, then you can break it. seek advice from your doctor, for example, the doctor will tell you well, you know, if you do it, then it's going to happen. But we're not talking about potential problems, anybody can reach those potential problems. I can potentially tomorrow if I fast I can potentially get sick, but I don't know that.

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So when I when you actually reach that stage, really the critical time of pregnancy is within the first three months. That's the critical stage. Right doctors will tell you that after that is there's no real harm in fasting. And even if you do fast your babies can still take from other. And there's there's also nutrients that are stored in other places of your body, I'm not going to go into detail about that they can also take nutrients from there.

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But if you find that your baby really is going to be harmed, and a doctor really advises you and you are in a critical stage, yes. But in seventh months, then you know yourself really if you get sick from it and you start vomiting a lot and stuff like that, then you can break it and Shall I make up another time but just wait to see if it's going to harm you or not only you get to the stage where you really get advice that no good, your blood pressure's down or it's up or whatever, diabetes, all of that. So try and sort of seek advice from the doctor if someone doesn't improve after Ramadan, but they did fast and struggled in Ramadan

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for Allah because fasting is for Allah

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when they get rewarded for their fasting, if not, how is this

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pipe

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a person should improve after Ramadan as we said.

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And if you struggled in Ramadan to attain this, and you did it the right way, my brother or sister, I guarantee you you will improve.

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There's no doubt about that. You will improve if you do if you think about the benefits we mentioned today, and you recite the Quran and you are around the pious people and you make your salad in the masjid or if you are a sister you know you're around pious women. And you you switch on switch off that television once and for all. And you start making God asking Allah to forgive you repenting.

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doing good deeds such as charity, the prophets Allah Selim, they said he used to be the most generous and when Ramadan can use even more generous in his charity Manasa melamine sadhaka there is no wealth that diminishes from South Africa and you visit sick people you follow agenda as if you're a brother if you're a man, if you're a woman you visit somebody to pay and condolences for the loss you smile in your sister's face or your brother's face and not vice versa. You know brothers and sisters Don't get the wrong idea.

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Smiling out of politeness okay, but just be careful Yani. So

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I don't know how this person will not improve. I don't know how possible

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but if you tried you

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And do you have some other problem

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and the aligners if you got rewarded or not, but to ask that question, is that not fair? My dear brother or sister so Pamela

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Is there anyone more fairer than the last panel Who died?

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In fact, the law is not only fair, is anyone more generous than the last one? I don't know what he said. I've never said this yesterday. How all the doors of heaven are open in the month of Ramadan, all the doors of Hellfire are closed in Ramadan and Ramadan, this, the devils are restricted and they're, it's hard for them to travel through your blood, your deed your normal date is multiplied by 70 and 700. And Ramadan, all your days any good date that you do multiplied by much more than the normal days. The prophet SAW Selim and he said that it is the month of forgiveness that's why he said I mean whoever comes into Ramadan and goes out of Ramadan still hasn't been forgiven meaning

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what were they doing? What were they wasting their time in? What are they wasting their time in?

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If I lost my dad when he said when he said this

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My servants fasting for me

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is only familiar I'm going to reward it in a special way no angel is going to look at it nobody only me I'm going to ruin a special awaits mine. Last month I really acknowledges that he says yeah, the whole time he was shut off oh my god, he leaves his favorite drink for me. I lost my entire life is so generous in the month of Ramadan. I don't know how a person will not be rewarded. If you do all those deeds, then inshallah you will be on the right path in sha Allah Tada. If not then seek other good deeds after Ramadan inshallah you have to continue my dear brother or sister have to continue you know some people when Ramadan comes is what they do maybe will fit into this scenario

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a day or two or probably even the week before Ramadan. They go outside

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you know they do all the hard on things that they can get their hands on.

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Right that we know people used to go into nightclubs and and places where are haram and they go into all the Haram they meet up with the girl for the last time they probably have a last chit chat you know chitchat with their girlfriend before the month of Ramadan comes because then I have to tell them you know look you know I'm a Muslim I don't do these things you know ramadan

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ramadan but it is killing himself amazing. Only Ramadan Allah is there after Ramadan is Allah is not there for me. So pan Allah Allah is not there for me it's only in Ramadan where I realized so you're a Muslim and you Ramadan really you're not really like this not really a proper Muslim anyway and then after Ramadan finishes the first day after an aid especially that even double of what they did before Ramadan because you say before they thought that sounds I deserve to God and do this haram because in Ramallah I'm gonna be doing a lot of good data Allah is gonna forgive me so we'll just do it. And I was gonna forgive it anyway. And then after Ramadan, and I've done so many good deeds and

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whatever. I deserve to you know, do the, you know, I've earned I've earned my head on for the day. You know, and even if I get some haraam Oh, I've had millions of them forgiven already so one tiny one will get me into hellfire. Why not? We'll do it.

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Yeah, Allah your life only Chapin Allah. One sin can make you into hellfire. And all your deeds could be washed away for last month Allah wills but only if you never compromise your Islam, my brothers and sisters. You know who does that there are people who have a problem with the man in their heart. So when they pray they have a problem in the man when they're fasting, they have a problem with them. And when they read the Quran, they have a problem with the image. When they're living day to day life. They're having a problem with the man when they die, they die with a problem with their image. How are you going to enter Paradise that way?

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I am a Muslim, who has missed a few years of making up fasts due to menstruation. I have 30 plus days to make up and find this very overwhelming and don't know if I can do it. As I find fasting I struggle. What can I do? Do I still have to make up these days? I don't know if you mean you fast you find fasting a struggle because of your problem.

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Right? I presume this is a problem maybe. But you have to understand that the men's menstruation for a woman technically lasts you know, up to seven days maximum. If you are still menstruating after that right then this is not menses This is just normal blood normal bodily blood you should fast you should pray if this happens to you. We're not going to go into detail about that. But if you have these 30 days fast then my dear sister whenever you find yourself able to do so and as quick as possible some sisters what they do is to make it easy on themselves. They choose the days whether whether the day is shorter right and that's okay that's fine inshallah that's fine. You're not

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cheating or anything like that. Fast the days that are shorter with a Muslim is about 530 but yet off the I can't say any concession for you. Once you are clean you must foster there is there a date upon you. They are a debt upon you. You are doing for Allah Spano, tala, I can't find any concession for you at all. If it's overwhelming fast them so that will no longer be overwhelming for you.

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You have to start somewhere you have to start the first hurdle. It's not easy after a long time to get back to the studies and the books right? But after a few weeks, a few months in shallow you start getting back into it and coming from a student dummy. You know, you stay away for a few months come back to studies You're back. They're similar. You leave weights for a while.

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Right for the men who know it, you leave weights for a while you've diminished come back to what you have to struggle again, you have to start with the cardiac exercises, lightweight and all that stuff. And then finally you get the hang of it. Life is like that. And you will not get better at things until you really commit First of all, I'm sure that we really want something even if it's hard we're gonna do it no matter what happens right so if you really love our last panel with Tyler fast because you love him fast because you love him fast because you want the last one to be pleased with you.

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Brother Are you allowed to kiss your wife on the mouth on in Ramadan?

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Well, if you're married and you yes your wife in Ramadan well this is a this is a hard question for me. So Panama because an old man came and asked the messenger saw Selim Can I do that he allowed him a young man came was as M said no, but this was like personally to them.

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If you know yourself that it is not really hard on generally, but if you know yourself, this is gonna lead to other things, then you should not you should not do that. And nevertheless, in any case, every Muslim should be avoiding these acts and coming close to these acts in Ramadan, because of their potential of what it can lead to. right because the potential of what it could lead to so you should not approach these things in sha Allah and practice what are in Ramadan and avoid the allowed things that could possibly lead you to Haram. Brother, we're talking to a girl on the phone break your fast.

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Technically, it doesn't break your fast. Well, you have to make up that day. No, but you know what happens?

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haraam that's done in Ramadan, the accumulation of haram and Ramadan, diminishes and breaks away the reward that you're meant to earn in Ramadan. So these are the types of people who the prophet SAW Selim said,

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there could be people who are fasting and receive nothing from their fasting except what

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hunger and thirst and there could be people who are praying in the nights, received nothing but sleepless nights, they're the people who show off their prayer. So that's what doing haram and Ramadan does to you. it diminishes your reward. Because reward comes with benefits. You are not only diminishing your reward you also diminishing your benefit. What's the benefit in that so Pamela, there's no benefit whatsoever. And and hamdulillah I see many brothers and sisters, when Ramadan comes, they abstained from these things, they probably would have boyfriends and girlfriends before we ask Allah to forgive them, and to help them stop these things. But when Ramadan comes they

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abstained from with the intention that they're only going to stay away from just because of Ramadan. But and hamdulillah they actually become better people in Ramadan, and they fast the proper way. repopulate like they do the good days. They try to bits to abstain from the bad things like really concentrating on him. And after Ramadan, hamdulillah. They have no more girlfriends, no more boyfriends, they have none of these acts anymore. Now it's very easy for them to stop it and left few months down the track. They're married in halat. So this is a good thing and hamdulillah

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How much time do we have the

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five minutes good for you? I know that we as individuals should start fast too. And do it with the majority of Muslims for unity sake. Now what do we do if our mosque where I would go to pray today we decides to do it on a day different to the day of the majority of the Muslims of Melbourne?

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Well, yeah, okay, Kareem, my dear brother or sister, you may find some other

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people saying different things about this. This is the most controversial question. So panel.

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However,

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unity is the most important thing.

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Citing the prison is also very important. But I'm going to answer the question. Right, hypothetically speaking, that nobody cited the present.

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There's no mention of it here in this question.

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Then you fast with the majority of the Muslims. Why I say this, here's my dilemma. Insha Allah,

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that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he spoke about fasting Ramadan waiting for it and breaking it. He said, obviously citing the prison.

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The reason he said citing the prison because the present is something which they used to always follow. Everybody followed the prison to count their days and months. So with something shared by everybody, and it was hard to miss it was the closest thing to unity. In other words, today we go by calendars.

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Another Hadith the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he said, is a home Malaika if it's cloudy, and you can't see the present, then don't trust that data on or don't break it. Wait till the next day. Again, even if the Christian was there, and you found out the next day the Christian was there don't go around saying I knew I was right. The Christian was there we should have pastoral done that no, no

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Again, seeking so that the Muslims will not dis unite again calling to unity. And there is also another Hadith from saw Selim saying some will come

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along I forgot the Hadith. Can anybody remind me those of you who know us? Yeah, and if in English, basically, your fast is the fast of your people and your breaking of it is the breaking of your people?

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Can anybody remind me

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that my little Yachty not deciding it.

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The only meaning of the Hadith is that people should fast according to the passing of their people and break it according to the breaking of the people. That's when there's no sighting. That's all of that, again, calling to the unity of the Muslims so fast with the majority.

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inshallah

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I work with a disabled men.

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He walks around naked.

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And I see him.

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So is it wrong for me to take care of him? Or should I quit this job?

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I presume that this is a sister asking the question. Yeah.

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It could be a brother even because both of us are hard on it's hard on for us to look at the private parts of a male.

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And this is your husband. Okay. In this case, my dear sister, if it's a sister, I would advise you to leave this job and probably work with disabled women instead, if you can. Otherwise, if you can find another job,

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that will save you from that it will be better or try to abstain from dealing with that particular patient, let a man deal with him, then that's fine. Only because this job if you leave it, there is someone else to fill it. It's only in the case where it's a necessity where there is no one else to fill it and you're the only one. In that case, you're allowed to do it. Or if you look after, let's say some women or men they look up to the Father or you know, or the the father or the uncle or someone who no one else is can can look up and they are disabled and mentally mentally ill, for example, there's no other mental look after him, then this is a necessity. Yes, you are allowed to

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look after that person. But don't concentrate on looking at the harem places. So you try to avoid it to the best of your ways. Last question insha Allah our time is up.

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Are you allowed to drink saliva in Ramadan? The age is 11 years old 11 year old boy asked this question, which is a good question on the campus to live in a cup and drink? No, you can't do that.

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It's very harmful to you.

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But if humans swallow your own saliva, you can swallow urine saliva. There's nothing wrong with that.

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As for the mucus that comes out of your nose and your head,

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which you all have an inside of your esophagus and inside of your trachea and your lungs, it's all over your body. Right? It's not just it's not impure.

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If that reaches your throat then you should spit it out not swallow it. Like you don't sound like if you have a flu and it reaches your throat you know some people their mucus does reach their throat I know you don't own up to it but it does happen to you I know

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some people swallow it so in Ramadan you should try to spit it out if you accidentally swallowed it that's fine.

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And if you forgot that's fine and if you don't know that's fine.

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My I conclude by saying God it'll love will be como nuestro Allah Yuri doobie como las. Well, it took a bit on Long Island, como la la comida shouko. Allah wants As for you, he does not want hardship.

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He wants you to glorify His name in your celebration at the end of it.

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And so that you may be grateful and thankful to Allah. I thank you for listening. Her the WA sallallahu wasallam either have you been a Muhammad Ali or Sophia Jemaine? Well hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa salam aleikum wa