AbdelRahman Murphy – Heartwork – Surah Kahf #07

AbdelRahman Murphy
AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the importance of community as a place for everyone to call home and find a place where everyone can feel their faith grows. They stress the importance of being aware of one's own values and avoiding wasting one's time in arguments. The conversation shifts to the importance of trusting the court system and the need for people to trust the judge in its integrity. The speakers emphasize the importance of having a good faith towards the court system and the need for people to trust the judge.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah everybody and welcome home. For the past few years we've always started our programs with this statement and we mean it. Because community is a place that we all should call home. A place that gives us peace, a place that gives us tranquility, and a place that we know is going to be there. When Allah Spano Tala describes faith in the Quran, he mentioned stability as being a requirement for faith to grow, a slow, healthy habit will follow or half a summit, that its roots are firm, and its branches grow to the sky. If we don't have stability, if we don't have permanence, if we don't know that something is going to be there for us, then our faith won't be

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able to grow. This is why when the Prophet SAW Selim came to Medina and made the migration, the Hijra with his companions, at that moment, when they arrived at their new permanent home, he said, the beautiful phrase of Shiv Sena spread peace, why, because peace can be attained now that we have a place that we can call home. For the past five years roots has been able to be a part of so many people's lives and hamdulillah by the Grace of Allah. And we're so honored to have that be a part of our legacy. But we've been doing it in temporary spaces. We've been doing it in hotel banquet halls and measured side rooms, in people's living rooms at home. And then temporary lease spaces were when

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we were signing the lease, we knew that this was not going to be there forever, but that can change. By the favor of Allah with our foundational organization column, we've been able to find this beautiful property here in Carrollton, Texas. That will be the permanent location and facility for the roots community space, a place where everybody can feel that tranquility and have that growth of faith that Allah Tada tells us about, we need your help. To close on this property. We need you to generously donate and contribute whatever you can, adding your name to this list of people that will help build and construct a permanent home for us to build the model community following the example

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the Prophet Muhammad SAW Saddam and Medina help us make this dream a reality visit routes dfw.org/home Okay, so now I want to look at

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this label from the law office.

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Eddie, he was heavy rain so like everybody welcome home. Hope you guys are enjoying ice cream. The bow bars are elite mashallah, because I didn't get too many of those. But

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sha Allah will be able to have those on deck at sofa, inshallah. So a couple, just some housekeeping, the roof space that's under construction, the back, we're like 90% done, we just have to build up a coffee shop. That's the last piece. And we're meeting with the contractors in Sharla this week to see what the timeline is for that. But we're almost there in Sharla, we're almost there, we could actually technically start having programs there. But without the without sofa. It would just feel kind of empty. So we're going to wait until until that's done. But we're hoping you know, by next month, just a few more weeks, we should be able to get inside of there and then start

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to have our full docket of programming per usual inshallah. Okay, so we are tonight the plan is in sha Allah to finish the first passage of source of gas, which is the passage that discusses or talks about the people of the cave as how to get those people which the Sunnah itself is named after.

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And we stopped last week, at a point where Allah subhanaw taala had described in great detail, the way in which he cared for and the way in which he maintained the people of the cave. And we came upon them at the story of one day, woke up when they were going out to get some provision, some food, the importance that they put upon having, you know, pure food, healthy food, you know, Islamically appropriate food, and just kind of the idea of the principles that these young people had.

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Verse number 21, if you have your phone with you are on.com garonne.com/you can do 20 to 30, because we're going to be doing all that in sha Allah. So verse number 21, Allah subhanaw taala begins by addressing how the people of the village when they had this legend of these people, you know, for 300 years, that they had been they had run away and they had tried to preserve their faith, their their sort of, you know, grew about these individuals, that people became this legend of these guys who wanted to preserve their faith, and the respect and the admiration grew to the point where over three centuries, you know, there was that people were like telling their children they were telling

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them the story of us how we got, but nobody knew a couple things like nobody knew exactly what they work. Nobody knew where they were, nobody knew the exact location of the cave. And so when the people have the cable

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were woken up by Allah Spano Tata after their lengthy slumber the 309 years.

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This caused people to want to celebrate and to want to commemorate the miracle that they had witnessed. So Allah has promised Tada he says that this entire experience this entire moment, the reason why Allah allowed it to happen in this way, as he says in verse number 21, is how we cause them to be discovered, so that their people might know Allah subhanaw taala his promise of resurrection is true. So all of this occurred, all of these moments occurred, these young men ran away from their tyrannical society to preserve their faith, they stayed locked up in a cave for over 300 years they fell into slumber, Allah preserve them and their dog right for those years. And when

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they awoke when they were caused to wake up, they went back into the city and they engaged with some businesses to purchase some food, to take care of themselves to provide provision. And Allah subhanaw taala says that all of this, this entire experience happened. Why? So that Allah Tada could make manifest and make clear that resurrection is true. And this promise, it happens in the numerous times where Allah's promise I will demonstrate the power of what we think like life and death looks like alone will demonstrate that over and over again, so that he can illustrate to us that this idea of being brought back to life, as much as it is kind of mysterious for us. For him. It's not that

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hard. In fact, it's not hard at all. One of the examples that LaTonya brings up this phenomenon is when he says that, you know, the earth is full of greenery and lushness and fruits and trees are blooming. And then all of a sudden the weather changes, things get cold, the frost hits. I know right now we're asking a lot for frost, but the frost hits and the earth, you know, in the language that he uses, the earth dies, the earth, all of the vegetation goes away, the trees lose their leaves, everything loses its color, and the earth just kind of freezes over. And then the next year, when springtime comes around the entire process, it renews itself, and it feels like the Earth has

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come back to life. So much promise Allah He uses this example to demonstrate and say that if I can cause this to happen year by year, every single year, all of the plants that you grow all of the harvest, that you look forward to the trees that you have, they all pass away, and then I bring them back to life just a few months later. He says Then why why you think that I can't do this with you. So this example was given so that the people would come to know, in a very intimate way that this Day of Judgment, the Day of Resurrection is possible. Metal Allah Tala says that when the people disputed with each other about the case of the youth after their death, some of them propose to

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build a structure around them, their Lord knows best about them. And those who prevailed in the matter said, We will surely build a place of worship over them. So these people became, again, we know that in the city, we don't like build places of worship, over graves. But this became a commemorative act that people were inspired by the dedication, the principle and this is the lesson from that beginning part of the story, which is that if you stay true to your principles, then your mission will last even longer than your life should, like your mission will allow. We were talking about this today actually on faith intensive in the morning. It's a seminar that we're teaching the

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intensive that we're teaching this week, we're talking about how Allah subhanaw taala. He described, the Prophet SAW Selim by saying that Muhammad SAW Selim is not one of your fathers, he's not somebody that's just like one of your people, one of someone who's who's a father of one of you. And one of the Tip series that is says that if you look at the life of the prophet saw Sanlam, he passes away ISIL to salaam, but his message does not. And the fact that we're here sitting in this room, talking about the very same revelation that was sent to the Prophet SAW says, I'm trying to understand it better, so that we can become closer to Allah is proof that if you stay connected to

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your mission, your legacy lives on far beyond your years. But if a person sells themselves out, and they sell themselves short, and they have no principles, and they have no mission, and they have really no purpose in terms of what they're living for, then people will attend your funeral, they'll bury your body, and then a couple of days later, there'll be at a wedding.

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And the reality is that that's really how it works. People only remember you after you're gone, by the by the stuff that you live by, right the things that you chose to represent during your time on this earth. Those representations or work carry on your legacy. But if you didn't represent anything, if it was only self interest, pleasing myself gratifying my knifes doing what I want, right? Like not many of us are, imagine that you're only known by the pictures of food you posted on Instagram. Right? Like this person was like a food connoisseur, like, No, you want to be known by things that are much more relevant and purposeful than that hopefully right? In sha Allah. So Allah

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subhanaw taala here is giving us that lesson that these

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individuals, they out survived. They outlived you know, their life with their principal, that Allah Tada and is number 22. He gives us a very interesting scenario. How many of you have ever been in an argument before? Anyone hear an argument?

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No, anybody? No arguments. Okay, thank you. All right, how many of you the argument you were in was truly pointless? You guys been like, okay, here we go. More people raise their hand. The argument you were in was absolutely. And actually, to some degree, you got to a point where like, you couldn't even remember what you were initially arguing about. Right? The problem got so large and so intense that you couldn't even figure it out. So unless prasada here, he demonstrates for us an example of when this happens, okay. I remember 22, he said, some will say that there were three of them and their dog was the fourth, while others will say there were five and their dog was the

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sixth. And then he says rajma mill like that they are guessing blindly. The verb literally means that these people are tossing their answers out into the dark. Okay, they're just guessing blindly. It's interesting spot a lot because these details that people are arguing about the people of the cave and their dog, all they're arguing about is what are they arguing? What are they disagreeing about? The numbers, that's it, okay. Now, there will be people that will come and say like, you know, what, these numbers, these things, these details are absolutely critical. But the reality is Allah Tada himself demonstrates here by this example, that it is very possible that in life, we are

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distracted, and we are vulnerable, made prone to what arguing about things that really have no impact on the actual things that we need to do. And people get so caught up in disagreeing and trying to prove their correctness in an argument that has no impact on the eventual reason why they exist. So in this argument, Allah Allah is saying, The some people said, You know what, there were three of them and their dog was the fourth and then some people said, no, no, there were five under God was the sixth. He says they're guessing blindly. And then he says, others will say that there were seven and their dog was the eighth. The Prophet SAW Saddam was taught to respond to these

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people. And to tell them what that would rob the level be Aditi him Allah to Allah knows their number. Allah subhanaw taala knows their number, this metaphor of arguing over the number of people in the cave. I can't tell you how many times you can be sitting at a gathering like a Dalek with some uncles. And this argument if you just replace some of the variables and put them somewhere else and you change it, the exact same arguments are happening every weekend and Muslim households. Everyone has the answers to why quote unquote, the Ummah is failing. Everybody knows, right? For some people, the OMA is failing because of this, for some people's because of that. Meanwhile,

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they're discussing this over glob drama and cure. Like they're sitting and eating rice pudding, and like Matt, Luba, and they're like, this is why people are suffering. This is why Palestine will never be free, blah, blah, blah, like stuffing their face with goat.

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And it's such an interesting because one of my teachers, he gave a very good phrase for this. He said he called it slacktivism. He said, This is an activism. People think that just sitting on comfortable couches and debating is activism. Because no, this is slacktivism. He goes, you're just sitting there and you feel comfortable because you're talking about the problems in society. But the reality is, when you go to bed that night, you have not been a cause for anyone's life to change. All you did was engage in rhetoric and conversation. And this happened. Many people get upset with different aspects. The government is cutting funding to what education Okay, so why don't you go

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start an after school program? No, no, no, I just want to talk about how bad the government is. Okay, you can do that. You can sit there and post about how the Department of Education is underpaying that teachers don't get the rifle salaries and all that or, or you could raise some money and start an after school program for kids and really make a difference. The problem is the second version is way harder. It's way easier just to retweet. It's way easier just to share someone's post on Instagram, isn't it? But how much does that really accomplish? So Allah Tada here is telling us that one of the greatest tools of Shavonne is distraction with the

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convincing argument that you were actually accomplishing something virtuous by sitting there and debating if you walked up to these people debating the number of people in the dog. And so why are you talking about this stuff and a lot. We're talking about us how the death How dare you challenge this? But Allah Himself follows up this conversation by saying, Where are you arguing about the number of people in their dog? Right? He says, Say Allah knows best about their number. There are some matters in life where the best end

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Answer is what?

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A lot of the best in fact, pretty much every question, right? If you don't know with certainty, just say Allah Allah, I once saw the Sunday school class where some kid wrote down every exam.

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And I can't mark him wrong, right? So I just didn't see me after class, you know, you might be a way of Allah you never know, right?

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This is what Allah is teaching us. Allah is telling us, you know, you guys ever been pushed to have an opinion on something? What do you think about this? And you're, you're just like, I don't know, what you don't know. Are you against it? No, no, I don't know. Are you for it? No, I don't know. Allah is telling us that in some scenarios, not having an opinion is a okay. Not knowing what the right answer is, is just fine. There are some matters in life where the ultimate truth with a capital T like hack is with Allah alone. And we have to submit to that. If we think that we can somehow navigate all these complexities, rights, paella, all these complex issues. It's not even a

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matter of navigating. We've come to a stage in our society where people know what they think is the truth, almost immediately, with no research and no experience. People are willing to comment on like big issues, without any understanding of what the reality is even theoretical or on the ground. So this is how hola hola todos, reminding us, there will be many moments, there will be many issues, many questions were called robbing outlet will be indebted to him. Allah to Allah knows exactly their number. And then he continues one Aiyar, lemahieu Illa Kali, and not a lot of people know. He tells us that the majority of people when it comes to matters like this, they're ignorant. There's

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only a few people who know. So then he continues, he says fella to marry fee him in lamb Iran volume, do not discuss these things. When you come across a conversation and somebody tries to engage a what do you think about this? What do you think about that? Allah says further to him having to marry here means mera means to argue, do that. Don't get into a debate, don't get sucked in. This is one of Chopin's greatest tools, right? That you get sucked into a debate. And then what happens? You see a comment on someone's Instagram post, or you see a comment on Facebook, and you start opening up Google tabs. Right? And searching, searching, searching. And every time you come

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across the argument that's not your own. You're like, dang, you can't fill it out. Right? And you're really trying to win this argument. This is making no one happy. But chiffon. chiffon wants to see you waste your time. So Allah Tada here says, You're not allowed to do this. Now the question naturally comes, then the question arises, well, what happens when you do have to engage with somebody like somebody is just clearly wrong? What happens? Well, as with everything in Islam, there's a protocol. You know, Islam is so beautiful, not that it just tells us what to do. Not just tells us like what we have to do, but it also tells us how, and it gives us a methodology, it gives

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us the ability to understand the method of how to do these things. So Allah Tada here, mentions the word mean, OT, which means do that? How does a Muslim person engage in argumentation? You guys tell me, how does a Muslim person engage in debate?

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Sorry, if there's any UK, Muslims, you know,

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how does the Muslim person engage in debate in those moments where you have to you guys have any, like, ethics of debate that you engage in? If you're discussing with somebody? Let's say you're talking to somebody and you really disagree with them about something?

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Someone said, what smack that?

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Respectfully, they're the opposite. Okay, respectfully, that's good. Okay, but what does that look like?

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Sorry, a little bit louder.

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Okay, good. Yeah. Excellent. So you find some similarities. Number one, you want to build off of some common ground. This is actually from the end of of engaging in discussion with somebody, they always say that you should begin and end like give an appetizer and a dessert before you go to the main course. It's like an interesting statement that they say. So if you're debating with somebody, you should find a common ground first. Because then you're showing what

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you're demonstrating what

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that we can agree on something like we can, it's, we're not like enemies. Okay, we can agree on something. Now, what happens is the naps, the ego doesn't want to do that. The nurse wants to find, you know, you know, nothing in common with the person that you disagree with. If you look at like athletes when they play people, they say that Tim Duncan, who used to play for the Spurs was like the hardest person to play against. And you ask people who played against him why? They said, because in the beginning of the game, he would compliment you.

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So you're playing and you make a shot. He's a great shot. He's on the other team. And then like you would block him, he's a good block. And the people playing against him said it was so hard to get angry at him because

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In order for me to succeed in sports, I get angry, I don't want to like just destroy this guy. But then every time I'm in his shot, he's like, you're the best. And you're like, and then by the third quarter, he has double the amount of points you do, because he softened you up, right? So there is a strategy. So I do a lot to win, you have to go against someone idea to soften them up a little bit, if you really want to win. The problem is the ego, the nafs, doesn't want to convince the person that actually wants to stomp on that person. And so it's not about getting them to agree, it's about getting them to know that they're wrong. Okay, so let's talk a little bit, there's a scholar by the

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name, and now he's a serious scholar. And he wrote actually a commentary on how to engage in argumentation, especially in this time, in this day and age, there are so many things that you fundamentally might just disagree with somebody about that person might be in your family, your friends circle at work, okay? So it's important for Muslims to understand like, we have an ethical code of how to engage in these conversations, the first thing that we're told is that you are not allowed to engage in debate, where you are purposely trying to pick on someone in three ways. Number one, in their word choice, let's say that you're talking to somebody about something, you're

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debating something, and the person brings up and they accidentally use the wrong word. But you know that it's not what they meant. The Scholars say, Don't be the person that says, What do you mean by that? Do you know what that word means? And to pick on their incorrect usage, because what you're doing as you're building another wall, they say, Don't pick on their words, don't pick on their intention, and don't pick up the meaning of what they're trying to say. All of these are like, low blows, as they call them, they're not actually addressing the real issue. If you disagree with somebody about something, address the real issue, don't try to humiliate them. The Scholars say that

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if you use any tactic that tries to make they say, it like you, you make the person feel low and small, or you make the person feel embarrassed that you're trying to win, almost performatively just make them feel like humiliated, the scholar so you're not actually trying to bring about the truth. You're just trying to bring about your own victory. You're not actually concerned about bring about the truth. You're bringing about your own victory. You remember Shafi, the great scholar he used to say, when I stepped onto a, you know, a room and I went into a room and I was debating somebody about something I used to make a very interesting Draft. He said I would walk in I would say, Oh

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Allah, make the truth come from their tongue, not mine. He would walk into the room and he would say make the truth arrived from them not for me. Why why do you guys think you'd make that drop?

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Would you do that? If you're discussing something with somebody What do you want them to win before the debate has even started? Why do you think he would say this?

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Check his ego. Check to check his ego right? When you make that drop, oh Allah let them say the truth. What are you showing?

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You just want the truth. You're not in it for yourself. It is the ultimate test of sincerity. It's not about whether or not you did it sincerely is very difficult because it removes you from the equation. There's that famous chef shot always story where he said that there was a person what time cook dinner for his friends. Everyone walked in, said man, your wife was a great cook. He's like I cooked it. Next guy walked in man, your wife is an excellent cook. I cooked it. Three, four guys walked in all complimented his wife's cooking. He said I cooked it I cooked it. And then finally the fifth guy walked in and said who cooked this? He was it doesn't matter what Chico did, right? He got

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upset. And chefs are all using the story to show that what if you're a truly good host, you actually don't care who gets a compliment. Doesn't matter if you cook they cook they hook you caterer who doesn't. All that matters is that your guests are having a nice time and they're enjoying their meal. Right? So true sincerity. It removes me from the equation like I'm out of this. I don't care if I'm right or you're right I just want the correct thing whatever it is to be present. Okay, that's number one.

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The Prophet SAW Selim even said that in most scenarios, giving up an argument is the best case scenario the Hadith the Prophet SAW said whoever gives up arguing they're wrong. Okay, you're wrong and you give up which means what most people when they're wrong, they don't give up they keep going. He said that they will get a house built for them on the

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on the outskirts of gender like the Denton agenda. Okay.

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You will get a house built for you on the outskirts

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on the outskirts agenda. He says that if you and then the next level if you give up debating and you're right you know you're right. Then you will get a house built for you in the middle like in the center of Jana. In the in the middle part, okay. And then the third part of the Hadith says and if you have good character when you give it up that argument and you will get a parent house built in the highest part of Jenna the

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Interesting part of the Hadees is the last part because why you can give up a debate and still make the person feel like a loser? What can you say? Oh, you know, I'm not going to talk about this, you clearly don't know anything. Right? And then you walk away. You're like middle agenda, your outcome? No, that's not how you can open debate, even if you know you're right. Right, giving up a debate, even if you know, your right is allowing them in they call this I hate using this words that make me look like a nerd. But the interlocutor right? The person that's engaging with you, it gives that person a sense of what like, I'm not. We're not enemies. So you give up even if that person is not

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right. So how to love sometimes man, and I have two young kids, if you guys haven't known, there's one person who doesn't like my son, but most of you, Matt, and I'm joking. There's a guy who complained that I told him the story about my kids, but it is what it is. Okay, so Musa Eman, five and three, I promise you when I talked to them, I just see a spiritual mirror for us. Like Musa his biggest challenge in life right now is he has to correct him and when she's wrong, he has to. So we're, you know, it's 110 degrees. They want to go outside. So you guys, it's too hot. Musa says man, I like when it's cold better. Because I can go outside. I can play Eman says What?

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What did she say? No, she didn't say me too. She goes, No, how does better?

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Musa looks like you're crazy. And she's like, I know, like her eyes say I know. She's trying to step up to and that's it. So I'm trying to teach Musa Musa. You know, she's just bothering you. She literally doesn't care. It can be anything. You can say red, she would say green. You can say blue. She would say yellow like whatever. And he doesn't get it. Because it No Baba, she's wrong. And when he acts like that, I get so frustrated. But in reality, how many of us are like the same way? We're just children, like the new foods inside of us are just childish. We don't want to give up. Why? Because I have to make sure that I'm right. This is a five year old child behavior. This is not a

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behavior of an adult. So the Prophet SAW sent him says that it's best for us just to give it up now, the amount and know he gives a couple of conditions. He says What if you hear something that is wrong? He actually says that for most cases, if you hear something, and it's true, he says just leave it like it is that he says if you hear something that's wrong, but it has nothing to do with your religion. Like it's not like a faith based thing. Just somebody saying something like, oh, like New York pizza is better than Chicago pizza, objectively false, okay, like, not true at all, or like the Cowboys are gonna make the playoffs objectively false. Okay. You know that this is not true,

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right? He's even when no, we says if it has nothing to your religion, like, just let it just let it be. Don't engage. Okay, then he says that if it does have something to do with your religion, what do you guys think? What does he say?

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If they say something wrong about your religion, like about your deen, what do you think you might know? He advises? Punches, note what? Pray for them. A little bit different. Maybe?

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What do you think he says? Mama? No. He says what?

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It's okay, if you're on door, but

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ask for the source. Interesting. Okay, that can be part of it. Okay, what do you think he says?

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You know what he says? He goes, you're allowed to converse with them to try to correct them. But he says, if you think that they will accept it. If you think this person won't accept it, and they're not interested in conversation, he said, Just leave it. So you have to gauge the situation. If you're talking to somebody and they say something wrong, and you're like, that's not right. But you look at them. And they don't seem like they want to really talk about it. They're kind of set. Minimum and no, he says the better situation is you just leave it. Just let it be. Right. Subhanallah this is so important. You know how many problems in life we have would be solved if we

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embraced silence. In certain scenarios. How many statements had been uttered that had hurt people? Because we just made the wrong decision. In that moment. We shouldn't have said anything. Whether it was talking back to parents, whether it was saying something critical about somebody arguing saying they'll get trying to get the last word. All of these are nothing but like Neff sickle, flareups. Just look the next one like symptoms of a sick heart. We asked us to help us. Okay, so remember, no, we also says that it is incumbent upon a devoted Muslim to interpret the statement of their brother or sister with the best possible interpretation.

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You know how hard that is? I think we do the opposite. We hear something and we're like, What a horrible person, but they could have meant something different, right?

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Nobody says when you hear something, give it the best possible interpretation, even that you make up as he said, 70 excuses for them. And he said that this actually is not very difficult to make up excuses for somebody who's very easy, except the person with low ima. He was the one who struggles to give excuses to people. It's a sign that their faith is weak. We asked what's hard to make our face wrong? Okay.

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Then he concludes this section by quoting a beautiful Hadith of the prophets also, it's very scary. The prophets also upset that know people that have been guided to Islam

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have gone astray from their belief, except that they became constant, argumentative people. That's the reason why they left. He said no people that weren't guided to Islam, left the straight path, except that they embraced arguing as a as a good personality trait. It was part of their life. So the prophets also was warning us he's saying if you argue, if you debate, if you fight with people, and you think that this is something noble, it's, it's best that you take a step back and reassess and reevaluate, because you might very well be carving your own exit from the very identity of your faith that you think that you belong to. Okay, basketball to protect us.

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Okay, so, in the end of this verse, Allah Strama Tada says, that only a few people know the matter. So do not argue except with sheer knowledge, nor consult any of those who debate about them. So do not try to become social or engage in discussion with those people who also engage in debate. The next verse is Allah subhanaw taala addressing some of the very initial conversation we have a sort of gap Do you guys remember why the Sunnah was?

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let's talk about local domain.

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Okay, the Prophet SAW.

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For the profits, we'll send them because this obligation was not sent down until this. So Allah sends down this verse now, after waiting for 14 days, one day goes by two days go by three days four or five, six, all the way into 14. I want you to imagine these people come back to his door and they're like any answer yet. And by the end of it, they're just straight mocking him. You have no idea what you're talking about this and this and the Prophet SAW Selim is feeling the pressure, because he's the one who told them I'll tell you tomorrow. So they come up to him and they're mocking him. Finally Allah sends this revelation of sort of gaffe and when he sends his revelation

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the 23rd is as what what as a culinary shakin in the fairy, daddy for other Illa your shower, which is the next verse, he says Do not say about anything that you will do it tomorrow in your shower, except that you include in that statement. If Allah wills it westco Rebecca Edina seat work with ASA a de Roby, the afro women Hatha Yoga that he says, and if you forget Allah remember him when you forget him. If you forget, remember, to mention a lot when you forget. Because maybe and say I trust my Lord, God will guide me to what is more right than this. How many of us have like a deathly fear of not saying in sha Allah, we want something

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You guys go, you guys have experienced some anxiety. If you say something you really want and someone doesn't say Inshallah, you're like saying Sharla say it now. Okay. This verse actually is a huge paradigm shift. So Paula, this verse is addressing, the Prophet saw some of them, teaching us something very critical. Because Allah subhanaw taala doesn't say to say in sha Allah with the big things, he doesn't say, don't talk about something that you really want, except that you say in sha Allah, what does he say?

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Don't say anything that you plan to do? Except that you include in that statement, that if Allah wills it, why you tell me? Why is it so critical? If I told you, hey, I'm gonna go walk over there and get a plate?

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Right? And then I don't say Inshallah, that's not listening to the verse. It sounds almost kind of like, too much. Like men. I tell you, I'm gonna go walk over and get my shoes. Should I say in sha Allah for that to this verse is saying, Yeah, everything that you do, if you proclaim that you have an intention to do something, you should say in sha Allah, why do you think that is?

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To remember ALLAH, okay, but why, like, what does it do to that moment? Yes.

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Okay, good. Cuz you're recognizing that there is no strength and no power except by Allah. Okay. What else?

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Okay, yeah, absolutely. To remind yourself remember that Hola, todos, Lord. Yes. Most Powerful. Okay. And he's got that he got the power to allow you to do things. What else? Anyone else?

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To make it a habit? Yeah, very good. That's no, we'll talk about that to make it a habit. Yes. It comes to take care and increase. Okay, it becomes a means of increasing your top how?

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You're constantly remembering Allah and thinking about it that where do you sit constantly? That's the key.

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Are we in constant existence of the blessing of Allah?

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Yeah, we are constantly, you know, did you guys just breathe right now? Did you just blink? Can you go fold your eyes open and not blink?

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Can you not breathe? How long would you last? Don't try it, please, we don't have any

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parent paramedics. These ideas are laughable to us. Because we know that there are certain behaviors that we have to subconsciously, we have to allow them to occur, otherwise, we can't function. Breathing, your heart is beating and you don't have control over it. You can't even stop your heart beating no matter what Love movie tells you. You cannot write the broken heart stuff, it doesn't actually break your heart, right? You can't stop functioning certain parts of your body. Allah has guaranteed and has given you this privilege, this massive privilege without us being even asking for it. Right? So how Allah has given us so many elements that he we don't even we can't even count all

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of them. And so when a person fails to say in sha Allah, they are making they're proclaiming their aspiration to do something without remembering who's going to even let it happen in the first place. Right? And that's why we remember with the really big things, right? So if somebody says like, Oh, I'm going on vacation, in sha Allah, because they really want it to happen. And for that moment, they remember that if Allah doesn't let me If Allah doesn't give me like health, or something happens to my flight or whatever, my reservation, it's not happening. So you admit, and you submit to the fact that Allah Spano Tata is the one who is in control. So the prophets also them here is

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doing something good. He's trying to convince these quality people, that his message is, in fact, the truth. He's not doing anything bad. It's not even for him. But Allah is telling him, Don't think for a moment that even you're delivering of the message to these people, is somehow only because of you. Whenever you intend on doing anything, the first step before you do something, is trying to think about how has Allah given me the ability to do this. That's why before we eat, we say Bismillah. Because if I, if somehow I can't lift this fork to my mouth, my body decides it doesn't want to digest this food. It can be sitting right in front of me and I can't, I can't eat it. Right?

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I can have this water but if my body's not taking it, I'm gonna drink this stuff, and it's gonna go right through me. I can't benefit from this hydration. My body is dependent on so many things that I can't control, that I have to recognize that I need a law in order for any of this to happen. So we say in sha Allah as Muslims, we say in sha Allah as frequently as possible because it is a reminder, it is a reminder but then right after that, in the verse, Allah Allah says, worthful Rebecca the dynasty

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Remember God when you forget? So what does this mean? Allah is telling us what but you are going to what you are going to forget. It's natural, it's human right? So what is your job? When you forget?

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To make mention of Allah subhanaw taala? The Scholars say two things. Number one is that when you forget Allah, you should make mention of it by saying this stuff but a lot you should ask Allah for forgiveness for that temporary lapse. And you should also if you forget to say in sha Allah as soon as you remember, then you say in sha Allah to make up for the forgetfulness. Right now how can a person start to do this? Now there was actually a very famous Hadith from the rain, where a man came to the prophets wholesaler. And he said, you have a school of law. I want you guys to raise your hand if this sounds like fake, he says, yeah, no school Allah, this Islam that you brought this

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Cherie, I was praying and fasting is too much. I can't do it. Like everything's too much. I can't fast Mondays and Thursdays, I can't pray like wizard and I can't do I'm barely hanging on by a thread. So you know what he says to the prophets also, then, I want you guys to imagine living in an era with the prophets also them how much you would respect him? How much you would never ask for these kinds of questions. And then a Bedouin comes along from Denton, right. And they come to the province.

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And they say, you have a school law. I can't do all this stuff. The Companions are like.

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So he says to the Prophet sauce on them, give me something that I can do regularly. Listen, ready? He says, Make it short, please.

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Could you imagine? Could you imagine being on a bucket and listening to some guy to walk up to the Prophet Solomon and say, so Allah, give me something I can do easily. And I don't have a lot of time.

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The Prophet saw some laughs. He smiles. And he tells him one one thing.

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And I know that we all laugh, but in reality, many of us maybe are feeling this or have felt this or will feel this. There's just too much to do.

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I want to get close to Allah, but there's not like, the list is too hot. Is there one thing that I can do that will just give me that consistent proximity to Allah that I need?

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The Prophet SAW, Selim said, do not let your tongue ever become dry from the thicket of Allah.

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Don't let your tongue ever become dry. Every moment that you remember, remember ALLAH,

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whatever you see,

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this is why some people, they have this regiment every day, on the hour, every hour, they'll make some s chi. They'll sense a lot from the Prophets all sudden. This is why when people wake up, they do something good, or they're playing at their house because they know that they can't have the capacity to do all the other good deeds. A person can't read a just a day. They can't print them every night. They can't give half their wealth and stuff like some people just can't do this. Right? Means, you know, like everyone struggles. The Prophet SAW Selim recognized the difficulty for us and he said, the one thing you can do that will save you from deficiency elsewhere. Never let your

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tongue become dry from the remembrance of Allah. This is why when the Prophet SAW said I'm here as being told by Allah Webco Rebecca UNSC aniseed. Always remember Allah when you forget, you know what's interesting, Muslims are not held to account for things that we forget. The hadith says that what? That the pen has been lifted from the person who is sleeping, and the person who loses their sense their their faculty, and the one who forgets that's why when you're fasting and you drink water, what happens?

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You're still basking Well, that's if you forgot a trick question. You're fasting you drink water. You're in big trouble. I know. I know you're good. No, if you're fasting you drink water and you forget for some reason. You're just like, oh man, middle of robot doesn't feel like an easy drinker. Oh, you actually the Prophet SAW sent him sent complete your fast. Don't break your fast because you forgot. The pen is lifted upon people that forget if a person completely lost track of time and forgot about salah and they saw that they already prayed it. Right. Then what happens as soon as they remember they didn't pray, go pray you didn't miss it. Allah will count it as if you made it.

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Forgetfulness is something that Allah Tala has forgiven from his mercy. But he says when you remember that you forgot with Cordova can you then a seat? When you remember that you've been forgetful, you have to bring yourself back onto the straight path. You can't live in the land of forgetfulness. This is a big challenge, because you get comfortable forgetting. All right. Oh, I missed that prayer. I'll link to the next one. Right. Oh, I did that. Let me maybe I did. Maybe I did. Right people take advantage of the forgetfulness thing. You have to redirect yourself back onto the straight path as soon as you remember. Why? Because the

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Prophet saw someone was told to say that this is the way in which you can guarantee that Allah Tada will bring you back to what is the better decision? What is the better moment? You know what's interesting Subhan Allah, we talked about this before, but there's one element I want to add here when the Prophet SAW sent and forgot to say in sha Allah, it was a teachable moment. Okay, Allah Tada sent down this verse to teach him to do what, say in sha Allah, say in sha Allah. And that's the lesson here. But what's interesting is that when we look at what happened as a result of this, we said a couple of things. Number one is that and prove that the Prophet SAW son was not a false

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prophet, because a false prophet would have been what

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just made up stuff, a false prophet would have just made something up. If a false prophet said, I'll have an answer tomorrow, and tomorrow came, they would just make something up because they don't want to lose their reputation. But the prophets also didn't do that. He waited and waited and waited because he knows that this religion is not from his mind, he's not coming up with things on his own. So number one is that even though he was in a point of difficulty, it actually established truth. It gave him a established truth, his reputation stayed there. The next thing is that did the Prophet SAW sudden have miracles of His Prophet? Do you guys know of any what happened during his prophet?

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Did they prove that he was a messenger to these people?

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name so yeah, a miracle.

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Something that there was a there was a part of his he had a mark on his back that was part of a prophecy Very good. What else? What are the miracles happened? You guys hear stories about miracles? Go back to Sunday school.

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is strong mirage. Very good. Can you visit it the Holy Land, Jerusalem, Allah Tada. Free from his oppressors. He visited he led the prayer there visited through the heavens went visited the highest point went beyond where anyone else could go spoke to Allah in a way that benefits him, came back down on one night. And when he came back down, all of these punishing elders were like laughing at him. But then they were like, Okay, if you really went there, why don't you describe OXA to us, describe to us the Met the the masjid, the sacred messenger,

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medical officer. And you know what happened to that moment? The Prophet saw some describes, he said, When they came to me, they challenged me by saying, okay, tell us what it looks like. And he said, right, then in that moment, an angel came. And an angel basically held up an image, a live feed, back then they wouldn't have understood what I was talking about. Now you get it? For k, right? live feed of what was happening at UCLA at that moment, with every single detail shown to the Prophet SAW Selim. So as the people are standing in front of him, and there are we've been there tells what it looks like. The prophets are some start describing it has this many doors, this many windows, the

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Eastern window has this mark on it. This door has this crack, and he gives them all the details. And they're sweating bullets. Because they're like, there's no way we saw this guy go to bed last night. And we saw it this morning. There's no way he made it there and back, but he's describing an upset to a tee. Why? Because Allah sent down an angel to show him again, for k live feed. This is what it looks like. This is a miracle what else happened? And you Americans remember?

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Slit the moon? Right? Very good. If this was a miracle to demonstrate the profit of Yes.

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When the Quran Yes, it was a literary miracle. Okay, what else? Angel?

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Okay, when he was a child and Angel physically cleaned his heart, it's actually happened two times as well. Any miracles after when he became a prophet? You guys remember? The moon split? Yes.

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Yes, as the prophets I was on was on a journey and expedition. And he visited and he saw a woman. And the woman said that this this, this animal that we have, has no milk. And the prophets also said, Let me handle this. And he said to his hands, and he began to milk the animal and this animal is old, old animal, there's no reason to produce milk. And he said, Let me handle this, right and he started milking the animal and he told everybody from his expedition to drink, and then he drank last. Okay, another miracle the Prophet SAW sudden was that there was a little bit of food, he had to feed his little army, he covered the plate, he said, enter into the tent, you know, two by two,

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three by three, like very small groups, eat from here and then leave and keep it moving. And I'm going to be spooning from the plate. They'll keep it covered. Okay, and he felt an entire army like this, even though there was a very it was a very small dish. All these miracles happened. Okay. But you know, it's interesting. None of them were happening when he needed or when he thought he needed it. When the police came and challenged him, he's waiting for 14 days. What do you think he's asking?

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We're all like, give me a miracle. Like, give me something these people are doubting my very existence. Like all the miracles that happen, guys there are Hadith narrations that say that there were 1000s of miracles that occurred. All these things. People would hear the trees in the rock see Sonata him, they'd be walking us around while he was still alive, it was the exact number one.

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All this is happening. But during that time, when he thought he needed it most there was nothing.

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But then right after he showed his patience, right after he displayed his commitment, the miracles came like waves, whatever he needed started happening. This is another example of what if you stay the course, when times are difficult, Allah will be with you.

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When you need him, you have to demonstrate that commitment. The Prophet SAW said I'm staid. And after that, I say at the end rugby club women have that maybe Allah will guide me to that which is truly guided succession, And subhanAllah patissier mentions, look at all the proofs of his prophethood that happened after that moment. Every single thing started with the revelation of this sorta as it came. Okay. The other thing that happens at the scholars mentioned, and we'll finish with this in sha Allah

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is the scholars mentioned that one thing that's a gift for every Muslim. Do you guys ever see like a news report that just validates something that you believed in as a Muslim for your life? You guys use a recent one about Bill Gates, his foundation, their discovery of alcohol? You guys see that? Oh, look it up. Bill Gates is Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation, just discovered that something like I forgot, they set an age on the study. But we know that they'll fix that later. They said that there is, quote, zero benefit, and only harm in ingesting any alcohol for people under the age of 48, or something I agree with the age was zero. And the world is losing its mind. Because remember,

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up until like recently, for 20 years, New York Times was like yeah, red wine is not bad. And you got like people drinking LeBron James is like, it's pretty good for your heart and all this kind of stuff. Everyone's like, yeah, now this like, objective study is saying no, actually, it only causes harm to your existence. Meanwhile, every Muslim in the world is like Subhan Allah,

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You know what I mean? You know, that it's like, looks at us. And we're just like, right?

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Allah and this idea is telling us that, that that Russia that wish that you're experiencing, when the world catches up to what you've already known, because you've been following revelation, that feeling of Took you long enough, right? It's a gift from Allah, that He has given you guidance that other people are just now 1400 years later starting to realize, right? So when I saw that article, I literally laughed. Because I remember as a kid growing up when I was in college, when I was in high school, I remember there was an article that said that in small amounts of alcohol is very good for your body. And I remember some kids in the MSA being like how do we deal with this how to La

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Alright, let's get a whole series on it and I'm like, man, just relax. It's fine like it was a study studies can be manipulated, right statistics listen that it is what it is. And then I sit and then look at this information coming out now. So how, why and again, if a new study comes out tomorrow, or at the Anheuser Busch foundation comes out of this study says alcohol is great, you know, as it was alcohol company, by the way, there was a lot funnier than that was received. Okay, so they said, you know, they say it's fine, it's great. The reality is that it doesn't matter what they say because we know that we know the reality we it's been revealed to us by Allah, okay. But that

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feeling of congruence between what Allah has already told you and what you realize or come to know as your own life experience or come to know knowledge is a gift from Allah subhanaw taala. And this is what Allah Tala tells us in the Quran, okay. And then Allah Tala continues and he says, Well, let me through fiquei for himself as a chin. See, Nina was Dadoo

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that then they stayed Allah Allah gives us the answer. How many years did they say he said they stayed 300 years and adding to that nine 300 years and adding to that nine what does that mean?

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Here's what that means. Was 300 adding nine

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what is it?

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A lot of math majors here was 300 adding nine so it's 309 But you know what's crazy? You guys ready? You guys ready for this? Put on your floaties because it's gonna get deep.

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What calendar does the Muslim community follow?

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Lunar Calendar, how many days?

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A year is the lunar calendar? Short compared to the solar calendar? I think we weren't gonna

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11 ish, right depending on like the so

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Subhan Allah Allah on he said this verse is including the solar and the lunar calendar, because he says they stayed in the cave 300 Solar years. But if you're counting by lunar, you add nine

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because every 100 years is three more years in the lunar calendar. So Allah Tada here is giving both accountabilities because why after the Kitab, used to use the solar calendar, but the Muslim is used the lunar calendar. So he said, based on their storage number, these people come back to the Prophet saw somebody said, how many years were they there? So instead of giving them one answer, he says, oh, according to you all, 300. But according to us, 309 Next,

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boom, roasted Right? Like the confidence. Allah didn't even just give him one answer. It's a multiple choice test, he gave them both answers. Why? Because if you stick to the revelation, you're going to have not just one step, but two steps ahead of everything that comes your way. Okay.

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We'll go ahead and wrap up here in sha Allah for this week, and then we'll finish the we'll start the next pass is next week. So we asked the last parents to give us the wisdom of the stories of death, as well, let's call it to give us the principle of these young men that stayed in this cave to protect their faith, we asked the most power to Allah, to give us the wisdom of holding our tongue. In moments that we want to engage in debate and discussion, we asked Allah Allah to allow us to be people that do not destroy others with our words, but we hold our words back. And we only engage in speech when our speech is more beautiful than remaining silent capitalists, allow us to be

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like the prophets also live in every way, and that he protect our face and give us the feelings of guidance that we need. As we journey along the path of life. I mean, you're I mean, does anyone have any questions before we wrap up and trauma a few minutes before? Melbourne comes in? Yeah. You mentioned stuff that we're not allowed to pick on when arguing. When was the word usage that there was attention? Yeah, so three, so word choice, if somebody uses certain words, it's a sign of failure of character for to pick on somebody's word choice, okay?

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To pick out the meaning of what they're saying, like if you if they have an alternative way of expressing it a different meaning, you know what they're saying, but they're, they're using different words to express that meaning. And then the last is their intention. Don't question the attention of the person that you're engaging with. Right? Because then again, you're just avoiding every one of those you're just avoiding the.

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Yeah, so the Hadith. Here, I'll give you the, the Arabic so the heavy starts by saying Mentos McGee and mudra well, who malted pretty interesting. The promises that whoever abandons disputing, and you're wrong and they're wrong. This is so funny to me because it's just like

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they are ordered to he says Bonilla obey 10 fee fee or agenda that they will be given a house on the outskirts of gender identity number one, Metallica, Hua Hua, Mo headcorn. And they abandoned it, but they are correct. One year that will feed was the hope that they will be given a house in the middle woman has center full of a Whoo, Bonilla, that goofy hat that whoever profess their character along the way. Like when they give it up, they don't rub it in somebody's face. Then Allah Tala will give them a house in the highest portion of Paris. Yeah. But have you been eroded by you know, totally.

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Okay. Anyone else? Anything? Any questions at all?

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Yeah, so the data has to be good when you're ending a conversation or argument. So is that does that include your inner feelings like so outwardly, you have to be nice, but inside you have to also, like also liked what you're doing that or be okay with that you even though you want to argue for instance?

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Okay, so the question is, like, as you're ending it, does your inner also have to be in a good place? Or can you be like upset and fuming but just like, be really good at hiding it? It's a really good question.

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Ideally, the person would be, you would, you would actually be able to let go, ideally, okay, and you wouldn't, you know, wouldn't bother you. But realistically, as a human being, you might have some things that bother you. And so it's very difficult for a person just to simply let go. The reality is that as you spend more time working on it and becoming convinced of the virtue of not arguing, you will probably hold on to things less. So as you convince yourself because the thing is, the inner starts to become like the outer sorry, the opposite. The inner starts

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Some match what you should feel when you become convinced that it's actually right.

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we force ourselves to pray when we tell ourselves that I have to pray. But I'm internally motivated to pray when I believe that I actually benefit from prayer. And it's actually the thing that I should do. So if I keep telling myself, you know what, just let the person win, just ignore, just ignore. Yeah, there will be a dissonance between what you feel and what you are displaying, you're going to be displaying complete, you know, benevolence, a problem inside, you're just on fire. But then when you start to realize, you know, what, the less that I engage in this conversation and debate, like, the less I'm destroying my character, the less I am making myself vulnerable to anger

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and hesed, and all these horrible things, your inner will actually inclined towards that more quickly. And you'll actually just power it starts happening, you'll just stop caring about engaging in these debates with people, you know, someone want to talk to you and start talking, you're like, I really doesn't, you know, whatever you whatever you prefer, whatever you like, you know, I don't have to win every argument. So it does take time. But we ask Allah Allah to give us a easy path there. Yeah. And it happens, especially polity.

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22. Yeah. So it happens as you get older as well, to be quite honest with you. Right? They won't agree with me. And when you're older, you just stopped caring. You're older, you're like, I don't really care. It's 110. There's one thing now, you know, like,

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people that this is the thing, man, when I was your age, people asking like, what do you think? And I would have like a thesis thing on everything. What do you think about this? And I'm like, let me tell you, thank you for asking. I will just go on and on. Right? There's videos of me when I was younger, I might burn it down, get rid of everything. Right now people would What do you think? I don't think? I don't like I really don't. And again, not because I don't think that people should have opinions on it. But number one, I'm not prepared to have an opinion on it. And number two, there are people much more intelligent, much more qualified, much more trained, and much more

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eloquent than myself, who can give you a variety of opinions on things. So my biggest regret being 34 Now, or my 20s is not not keeping silent.

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I wish I stayed quiet more. Just just flat like there's no, there's no like long explanation. I just wish I was more quiet. Right? I looked at my friends who were quiet around me and I secretly want to be left the ability to hold their tongue the ability not to say everything because I knew that they had less regrets than me. I knew it. You know? So we asked what time to give us.

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Better late than never.

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All right, in the spirit of that and it'd be quiet. Alright, so

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