Soulmates & Best Friends – Short Reminder

Zoheeb Iqbal


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AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the importance of being a couple, not being separated, and being the best of friends. They stress the need to be in the clear with each other and not share anything. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of having zero barriers in relationships and not living in formality.
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Salam Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakato How does one become passionate in their marriage? The simple response. And a very short response that I have to that is when a couple get married, regardless of being loved marriage and arranged marriage, and especially targeting the range manager, because they don't really know each other beforehand, that love manager not have some level of understanding. But regardless of whether, regardless of what your love manager, you know, arranged marriage, you should become a couple have a strong bond, you should become the best of friends, you should rely on each other. Don't look at each other as formality. Don't look at each

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other as responsibility, look at each other with care and love. Just as you will look at your own family members. When you look at your mother, you do not think responsibility, you think the more I do, the more reward I will get. When you look at your father, like when the daughters look at the father, they think the more I look after my father, the more reward I will get. The wife should look at her husband, the more I serve, and the more reward I will get and the husband should look at his wife, the more I make her happy, the more happy Allah will become with me to such an extent that ALLAH SubhanA wa Allah says, when a wife and a husband smile at each other, the third being smiling

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at them as Allah Subhana Allah, look at the connection that Allah subhanaw taala is built amongst them to, it's absolutely amazing. So if the couples were to really put aside everything, and become the best of friends first, don't share, share everything with each other, do not make it such that the girls that the women have a habit of discussing certain things with the husband and certain private things with their friends. And the men discuss all the private things with the friends but they don't tell the wives do not have such friends, you become those best friends, you become the ones that everything and privates discussed everything and open as discussed. Do you know why?

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Because your bond is so strong, no one will be able to break it. The problem that we fall into is that we don't speak to each other, but we speak to everybody else. We speak to our parents, we speak to our siblings, we speak to our cousins, we speak to our friends. But when it comes to speaking to one another,

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you know where to tie it. Or there's nothing to speak about. So one should always be in the clear with his wife and husband. If you end the clear with each other, and you're the best offense do this, do the silliest things with each other. Don't live in a relationship of formality, Hey, go and go and go to the carnival and go on a roller coaster and make the stupidest faces that you can but break every single barrier that you can think of between each other, there should be zero barriers in between a husband and wife. And the only thing that should remain in between them as other meaning respect for one another. But when you take away respect as like two children just playing

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all the time, you're not beautiful sight that as seen. I was in Turkey, I was traveling from Istanbul to, to Bursa. And in between comes a bridge of many very big but it's not the bridge that takes you to Asia side. It's another massive bridge that comes and there's a service station there. And in the service station. They had this you know, usually you have things that you can take pictures next it was like it was just the love heart that said Istanbul on it. Right? So the love heart, you could actually sit and say, and what actually seen this must my kids wanted to go there. You don't see it because it was massive, right? This is old couple this guy held his wife's hand.

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And he got around to this love heart so you could take a picture of her. So rather than taking a picture of her, he saw she was sitting there posing a very old couple, right? So she was pausing, but he's taking selfies with me and laughing is wave that she's pausing. And scanning was a bit of a 70 something right? And I'm in stitches like Subhanallah look at that they like best buddies man, like they like on another level. So the motive that every single couple should have in their life is become best friends with each other and have 0% barriers 0% barriers, behind closed doors and in the open 0% barriers. One thing that should be taken into consideration as other must be so free with

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each other that you know, I'll be honest with you like even now, I would like me my son's right what we do is like you know how to not push my wife and start running around the house and my kids are running with me Mama is gonna catch you Mama's gonna catch you in and I do the same that she does. So you need to have that type of like the whole kids join and so there's a bunch of kids in the house. There's a bunch of kids do not have I'm the man

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I'm the woman and this is it you can you live in a life of formality you're never gonna get anywhere. May Allah subhanaw taala give us understanding and give us relationships that where we are living in a complete fun, you could say fun, exciting manner. And just remember our conclude on this. The Prophet salallahu Alaihe was Sallam

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he was with whom has Aisha Radi Allahu Allah. And what did they do? They had a race, who one has the Aisha? Right. So as they should, like, a one, a one a one a one? And how old was a prophet? He was? He was a he was old at the time. But

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who is the process? And we'll just talk about he is he more respectable man to ever walk in the face of this earth, no one will ever be respected as he was, and no one will ever, ever have the status that he had. He's racing and why racing with his wife in public. And not only that, after so many years, the process and remember that he had a race with his wife, so he goes to his wife, you want to have that race again.

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And she was here, this time you better look at that, that showed you that the level of 0% barriers within the within the relationship. May Allah subhanaw taala granted such relationships like Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam had with his wife does that common law hate salam Wa alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh Hey,