The Pitfalls Of Social Media

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Zahir Mahmood

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Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim

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al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala l mursaleen bolano Muhammad, while he was Herbie he woman Serbia Han bear son Illa Yama Dino about their respective brothers.

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eldest sister salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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Mashallah eat Alhamdulillah in water to everybody, Mashallah Ramadan has finished.

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As you can tell by the numbers for the beginning of Juma

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ah.

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Today I want to speak about something which is very, very important.

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And that is the impact of social media on our homes.

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So,

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you will see that all around us our homes are full with gadgets like these, like laptops, and others.

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And a large portion of the day in the home is spent on these gadgets even at work in other places as well.

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Now, to start off,

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Islam

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has no issue with progression, advancement, actually, Islam encourages it. So you see in the time of the Prophet salallahu, alayhi wasallam, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would often

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draw something on the ground, to explain to the Sahaba of the law, something so they could picture it.

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We have the message of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, he was speaking to the Sahaba of the Allah and home about things like creating a catapult, which they used to use in the war, and then sending some Sahaba Ravana like my old all the way to Syria,

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to learn to make the most advanced catapult that you could.

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We have with the Battle of the trenches.

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The Messenger of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah has commanded the Sahaba of the Delano to dig the trench.

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Look, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam,

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as far as I know,

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had never seen the ship

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or never at least sat on a ship.

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But the problem is a little while he was alone was in the house of Omaha Rama de la.

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And the message of allowance to sleep. And after a while, he wakes up and he's smiling. So only her mom says the misery will love me my mother, my father will be sacrificed for you what is making you smile?

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said I saw a group of my companions going in jihad, they were sitting on these ships, large ships, like kings sitting on their thrones.

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So she made a dua, she said, O Messenger of Allah make dua that Allah makes me amongst this group, unless you have a loss that you will be from this group, you went to sleep again. So exactly the same dream woke up, she asked him exactly the same thing. He responded in the same manner. And she said, O Messenger of Allah make dua, I'm amongst the Muslims, and you will be from the first one. Now, so Islam has no issue with progression, advancement technology.

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But just because something is new,

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and progressive, doesn't mean that and also there's benefits in it

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doesn't mean that it has to be adopted by the believers. Now here, there's no way I'm saying that you shouldn't use technology. You shouldn't use internet, you shouldn't use social media, but reminisce

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when Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about gambling, and he speaks about alcohol. Allah says there is benefit in them.

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There is benefit in them. But then he says, His home is mahoma Akbar meanness gamma

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is mahama borromini Emma, but the problem is Allah says why what's the what's the benefit in gambling? When you get rich? overnight, you get rich.

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What's the benefit in alcohol? Well, you might be you know, down sorrow. You drink alcohol. And you know, you might forget all your worries. So there's benefits in it. And this is why when people bring an argument and they bring an argument as though

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is absolute this, this this, this this benefit in it

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but the Quran turns out when Allah says that there's benefit in it, he says, but the sin of death is greater than the benefit.

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So there is benefit in it but the sin is greater than the benefit

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seemingly for many people in all honesty social media would also fall in the same category not saying is haram but in for individuals, depending what they're using it for, it would fall in the same category.

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So now look, now imagine homes

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you don't have people you know sitting with each other, contacted each other talking to each other anymore.

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Everybody's the daughters of sage, the other daughters the other room, the son is downstairs, the other sons in the other room, you know, the mothers in one room, the fathers in one room? No longer do people communicate.

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So Pamela, they call these things what they call a mass communication. Sources of mass communication tools of mass communication. Yeah, you communicate with all the world. But you lose touch with those that you're meant to communicate with.

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Your Do you remember the old days maybe optimum? Does the remember the old days? And assedly? surely remember.

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You had the phones. You had to turn around like this. And many of them had locks on them. Yes, how sparingly they were used. First you have to go you go like this, your fingers start hurting, you've had to rip exam three times.

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And when a phone call would come from your brother in another city or from another country, you'd get so excited. It brought people together.

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Today, you have mass communication, but you have zero communication or very little communication with the people that you're meant to have communication.

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A G

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you know, they came to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once a day said to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. They said O Messenger of Allah.

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O Messenger of Allah, we eat but we don't get satiated.

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We eat but we don't get full. We don't get satiated. The purpose of Allah Allah was Solomon said to them, let Allah come after raccoon.

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Maybe you eat in separate places and you don't eat as a family you don't eat together.

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They said yes, O Messenger of Allah. Allah Allah Allah wa sallam said to me, Oh Allah for amico eat together.

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Take the name of Allah. Allah will put Baraka in your food, La ilaha illAllah. This was regarding food. Today, dinnertime, nobody's there at dinner time.

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And if they happen to be there at dinner time, they're on their phones or they're on the gadgets and the message of Allah. Allah Allah wa salam is telling the Sahaba of the Ummah at home, you know, maybe you don't get satiated. And the reason you don't get satiated, is what

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because you don't eat together.

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And see the nature of social media is that you believe that you are doing the greatest service to the entire ummah. Therefore you have to be on your phone, you have to be on your laptop, but your children, your wife, your parents, your siblings, you got no time for them.

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You're not doing a service. You've done you're deluded mind you may be doing a service, your service life priorities here, a loss a coup and illegal Nara, save yourself and your families first from the fire.

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That's where your priorities lie. And it doesn't mean that you can't use social media. It doesn't mean that you can't help the Ummah but don't delude yourself that if you have got no contact with your children in your wife, and then you're doing something for the oma also Pamela,

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because this is exactly you are you see the benefit, but the thing is greater than the best benefit.

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And the people

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who need to take the lead on this issue

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is the parents.

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You need to show your children how to use social media.

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So when your children speak you your children say Oh, Dad, can I go to the park? And you're on the phone? Yeah, well, you won't go park for

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Just want to go play football.

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Who are you going with? Okay with Ellie.

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You haven't looked at your child once once you're speaking to him.

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You are you're facing your phone and your laptop

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and then tomorrow when your children do exactly the same thing to you, you say you're rude

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Look at me when I speak at you taught your children this

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child comes home from school mom's on mom's cooking something and she's got Mashallah she's got the phone in a job that Salaam Alaikum Aleikum ami

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Can you see what I'm speaking to? I'm speaking to somebody else.

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What's your priorities?

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Where's your priorities?

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Okay, the Messenger of Allah, you busy. You got a text message to send you really believe you're really busy on a phone call that you don't really need to speak to somebody but you really busy. the mercy of Allah was the best of listeners. And he was really busy. He was telling me he was a mercy for the world's imagine the Sahaba say when we would shake his hands, the Messenger of Allah would not release our hands until we would pull it back. La ilaha illAllah

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that when we were speak to him,

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it would have said okay, I'm busy, the boys or masala would not just look at us, he would turn his entire body towards us. Body language.

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Body, that's how he would speak to us.

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And to the degree that every Sahabi says when we were in the company of the Messenger of Allah, we felt that we were the closest to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Every Sahabi says we felt the closest to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The author of the Alon once asked him if

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he saw the affection and mercy of Allah was giving him and he said, O Messenger of Allah, tell me one thing. Am I better than Abu Bakar?

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Because the mo is Allah, some showed him so much love, that he actually thought that, you know, he was the closest man to the mercy of Allah. the mercy of Allah said, No.

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He said, am I better than Omar?

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And the Messenger of Allah said, No.

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He said, am I better than the Messenger of Allah said, No, he said, I regretted asking the mercy of Allah, Allah, Allah who was alone

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this question,

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but it was the love that the Messenger of Allah showed me. He showed me so much affection so much love that I felt that I was the closest person to the message of Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah Islam will lie.

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You know, when you're busy, you know sometimes I'm getting ready for the Juma kotova preparing my Jew Mahatma, you know, my office is right there. And somebody just decides to walk in Islamic Russia and I'm preparing my Juma foot, my knees, Mashallah sits there. And I'm thinking to myself, yeah.

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And often I'm too polite to say to them, you know, I'm preparing my Jiu mahatva you know, martial law at your own convenience when you were coming to the machine. You decided to pop into my office.

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And now we're going to Juma Hooda to prepare otherwise it's going to be a 25 minute half an hour waffle.

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I'm giving you my own scenario.

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Look at the mercy of Allah how busy he was.

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Look how busy the message of Allah was. He was telling me

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but he gave people time. You and I because of the Baraka of this can't even give our own children time.

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We can't give our children time.

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The bottle is Allah La La was selling once again regime related by a booth out in the sun. He had this rig so you got this rig. And he was anyways this rig and all day this ring kind of really impressive Orissa La Silla, so he's with the Sahaba but he keeps looking as rig

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at the end of the day, the verb is Allah Salaam says Sugarland he has an income, you know, this rig. It's preoccupied me from yourself. He takes it off and he throws it away.

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said this ring has preoccupied me from speaking to you, from engaging with you. So the word is Allah takes the ring and he flows it away.

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So Pamela,

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now, brothers, we need to really, you know, especially those millennials who have grown up with mobile phones in your hands,

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it is to really assess how you deal with this.

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Your wife sitting next to you.

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And you're talking to Anna, in Australia

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or Fatima in India, why you were sitting right next to you? And you are you don't have that much shame that you're speaking to some other here. Mahalo.

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What do you want to speak your wife when you're speaking to her for 15 years? yar. She'll be boring. Now. Fatima in India is more interesting. Anna in Austria is more interesting.

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You know what?

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those priorities we meant to have our priorities, we've lost our priorities. The bar is a law solo eyeshadow. The law says, however, the message of law speak to the US, says, me and the Messenger of Allah would go for long, long walks, long walks, and the Messenger of Allah will speak to us, between us, and Maghreb, Esther and Muslim, this was the most busiest man on the face of this earth.

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Between Esther and Margaret, he would visit all his wife's,

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how, you know, you got the wife in one room, you got the husband in one room, and was who they speak into you were speaking to people in Australia, you're speaking to people, you know, people who have no bearing on your life. And those people who have a bearing of your life, you have no time for them.

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will lie let me say, You speak to me, and you don't speak to your wife because of this. Haram.

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You speak to somebody else, who do you don't need to speak to, but you don't speak to your parents because Haram.

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You speak to somebody in Australia, on Facebook, on Instagram, or you just want to make your profile and all the time you're looking at the new thing, because you want to be a vlogger or blogger, you know, you want to be the next sensation on Instagram, and you want no time for your children, your sibling, your your mother's your father's harem.

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Because that's where your priority is.

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That's where your priority is. And you know, there was a time

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where you know, your children listen to this. And it's very, very important. Because we don't really understand the impact of these things until it actually plagues us or plague somebody that we know very closely. You know, there was a time your son would come to your daughter would come to you said Dad, I want to go out you said okay, where are you going? I'm going to uncle's house, I'm going to this house, you know

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what time you got to be back when we back at this time. Today, they're sitting in their bedroom.

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And they're actually in Australia.

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They sitting in your home, while it's mum and dad are downstairs, and they be glued by some predator.

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And we don't know, we know nothing about it until it's too late. And this is a 13 year old, a 14 year old

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who's to degree very innocent, and you are some predator on the other side that he or he is speaking to somebody you know, in Australia, or somewhere else in the world. And they come down and you and I think oh my child, I just come from the security of the home of our home from the bedroom.

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Little did we know what was actually happening upstairs.

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And these are real scenarios.

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These are real scenarios. And we only realize when it actually comes and haunts us.

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We realize that that person that they were speaking to was actually a pedophile who is pretending to be a 14 year old who lived you know who who is pretending to be from Australia but they live down the street. And it happens all the time.

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So before the duty was kids gone to the park the kids back home now is 24 724 seven. You know my wife was saying to me the other day one of the mclubbe kids. It was his birthday

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seven year old child, seven year old child.

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So, it was my birthday. My parents bought me a phone, seven year old child phone.

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Why don't you give a seven year old child phone? I tell you the only people who would give the seven year old child, a phone of people who don't want to take the responsibility of parenthood.

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Euphorbia off

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I've been to homes one law he asked me to home soon as the kid gets ready, give him the phone.

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No, no, no, no response. Given the iPad, give him the phone. Give him the mobile device. Give him the laptop. You're the parent. you're meant to keep the children preoccupied.

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Why do you take the easy route?

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The barossa masala is a cool new camera.

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Cool, no camera work could look at each one of you is a shepherd. And each one of you will be asked regarding their flock.

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You want to give you a few using you're doing a china amazing favor. You know, people like Steve Jobs and others, they wouldn't give their children till they were 16

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these people read these things. But they understood the impact me and you. You work nine to five, you know you don't even have that much money. And you think you're doing your child a favor, oh, Dad can have a phone.

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You gotta wipe his backside and you've handed him a phone.

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So he can be entertained, so you don't have to entertain the child. And when a child gets physical withdrawal symptoms when you take it off him, oh, he has mood swings. You think you know what's wrong with my child.

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So brothers and sisters, this

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let's be parents.

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Let's be husbands. Let's be wife's.

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These things are not important. Well, like

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the people that we speak to in with these things are not important.

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Important are those people when you enter your home?

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They are the important people in your life. They are the people that Allah will ask you on the day of judgement about what you are speaking to your cousin, Ali for four or five hours, three, four hours every single day.

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Every single day, you are on Facebook. Let me give you some statistics on Facebook. Somebody ma they didn't they didn't mention the country. By reading this ma research. They did

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it over an Arab country. So out of the people that he or she interviewed 90% had Facebook. Okay, out of that 90% 30% spent more than three. So 90% 30% spent more than three hours a day on Facebook. So out of the 30% of the whole 90% this 30% she asked them

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what do you use your Facebook for? Yes, sir. It's a Muslim country where Arab predominant Muslim country.

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So 32% said to contact family

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relations. And remember every single one of them that that he or she contacted if I remember it was a sheet. Every single one of them were married. Every one of them was married. So 30% 30% spent more than three hours on Facebook a day.

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28% said that they caught up with the news using this social media etc. Facebook

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22% said leisure just you know surf etc. or Facebook or just either chit chat 18% said that there was to contact their friends 32% said married Muslim country was to create illicit relationships with others males and females. haram relationships 32% of those in a Muslim country, Arab Muslim country.

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These are not children. These are grown up married individuals.

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You hand your six year old child a phone, a nine year old child a phone and you never ever bothered to monitor it.

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it

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and then it comes home and this is reality. It comes home to haunt us. And then we think what happened there.

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And therefore your responsibility doesn't go as your possibility increases the day you give your child and you should never be giving your child really listen. I mean, I'm not here to patronize you.

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before they go to secondary school, there should no no way you should be giving your child and even a secondary school, I only believe this mount opinion, I only believe it should be for you know, for their own safety.

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for their own safety, they have to go and come from, you know, from school, etc. But to hand your child a phone, and then his hat or phone, and then never check never know what's going on.

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Because you know why I tell you why many of us in this scenario, because we do exactly the same thing. When we go home.

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We got our phone, we've got our phones in our hand, we have our laptops, or iPads. We're not spending any time with the family.

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And then we say, you know what, there's no communication. You know, I feel that my I feel when I die, my children will put sorry, when I get old, my children will put me in old age old people. So why would you expect you never created a bond? You took the easy route. easy route, give the child a mobile phone, buy him a pair of night chain is, you know, buy my Nintendo, my environment, Xbox, buy all the luxuries, but never, ever take the responsibility on as being a parent. Never take the responsibility of going out with your child during holiday with your child. Ah, that's too burdensome.

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And then you think you're a good parent mean you think we're good parents? Probably we need to reassess. We need to reassess. You know him I'm sure he said many, many years ago many years ago he's a famous poet from Egypt. Is that in the Yeti who will lead ether Allah? Allah

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is that the team is not the one that his parents are dead. Is it in the team who led

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the team is the one whose mother has forsaken her duty to her child. You know why? cuz she's got this stuck in her hijab all day long. Or a bird must rule or the father is too busy. Father's too busy. Mothers forsaken her duty to her child. And this is a great parent. This is a great period that the parents actually are this has a greater impact on your chart than the parents actually do my last panel but give us the ability to understand our responsibility to our children.