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Zahir Mahmood

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Bismillah R Rahman

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buka, Allah

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Kereama Lord has decreed that he worship nuns save him, and that you show kindness to parents, if one of them or both of them attain to old age with the say not fine unto them, nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word

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and lower onto them the wing of submission through mercy and say, My Lord, have mercy on them both, as they did care for me when I was little.

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salat wa salam, ala rasulillah. While he was having

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a hottie, just yesterday, I received a phone call from my brother. So he called me and I was having a chat with him yesterday

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about how his mother had just passed away.

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And his mother had suffered septic shock basically in kidney infection that infection became systemic in the body and then she went to the ICU and had to chat with ICU doctors about whether we can pull the plug or not. And so panelists so very, very distressing thing for our son to have to discuss and then by Allah's mercy, Allah to console away rather than us having to make a decision that we would regret.

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I remember had to throw solace SLM in

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in front of Al Bukhari Rahim Allah Yeah. mazing Howdy. It's a heavy theater, Arthur Actually, it's a narration authentic narration from even a bus that a man came to have in a bus and said, You have in a bus?

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I killed somebody. So can I repent to Allah is any repentance for me?

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So even a bus obviously, that I kill somebody mistake, you know, by mistake and there is no repentance for me. So the man said, You know, I, I didn't intend it I I want to repent to Allah azza wa jal, so even a bus for a little while. And then he looked at the guy look at the person and said, also and so have you got Have you got a mother? The man said, No, you're the boss. I don't.

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I don't have a mother.

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So even the best look down the ground and said, play it. Okay, alcohol, repent to Allah. Make us that far, and pay the blood money and malice panda forgive you.

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So at that point, one of the students or even a bass stood up after the man had left and said, even Amma rasulillah salam, O the son of the uncle of Rasulullah, Salah, why did you ask whether this man had a mother or not? And at that point, even at best said, I do not know of any deed that is more pleasing to Allah than being good to the mother.

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Yeah.

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And so the scholars mentioned in the explanation of this, in other words, they said that here, even a bass was suggesting to us goodness to the mother as a means to overcome the sin of killing someone.

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And ladies and gentlemen, as you know, in Islam,

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the obedience of the mother supersedes that of the Father precedes that of the Father in Islam.

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As the Prophet Allah says, and says to this man, as reported by Bukhari Muslim when he came to Him, who should be my best companion, yellow Salalah, my best friend, my closest companion, and then the Prophet says,

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Your mother, who's next your father, who's next your father, and then the Prophet says your father. You know what this kid did? He wrote a letter to his mom.

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Mom

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I clean my room today. $10

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I took the garbage out $5

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I shoveled the snow $15

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I did the dishes $20

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I cleaned my room, so much so and then at the end, total total, whatever the total was, the mother took the same piece of paper, flipped to the side. And then she wrote

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I carried you in my womb for nine months.

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Bearing all the pain,

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free of charge.

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When I gave birth to you,

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I felt so much pain,

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terrible pain.

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I was screaming, giving birth to you,

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free of charge.

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When you were a baby,

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used to feed you first before feeding anybody else even before feeding myself.

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free of charge.

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Used to get sick

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or used to nurse you. Stay the whole night with you cry before Allah making for Allah to give you Shiva,

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free of charge.

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And the da Vinci says total love

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your mother,

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mother.

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And we know how important it is to worship Allah azza wa jal or not as Sasha you know and also the loss of head on with Allah. But he Allah azzawajal mentions

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the importance of obedience to parents, the importance of parents in Islam, after what Allah subhanaw taala speaks about the importance of worshiping Him. waka buka Allah tabuteau illa Yahuwah bin Valentina Sana, they are loaded all day not to worship no one by him and to be dutiful towards your parents and to be kind to your parents. In another verse, Allah subhanho wa Taala says wobbu, la Walla

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Walla Walla, Dania Santa and worship Allah alone and do not wait and do not worship anyone else with him and be kind to your parents. So again, Ally's origin,

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speaks about the importance of worshiping Him and only him subhanho wa Taala. And not that assertion, you know, and also the law is our job. And then he mentions to be con to the parents, to be dutiful to the parents, to be respectful to the parents, to be obedient to the parents. And another first, a third verse, Allah Subhana, WA tada he says,

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multilotto Mahatma marabu Kamala Kamala Chico,

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Allah Allah, Allah. Allah says, Come and let me mention to you what your log had forbidden. What your Lord had forbidden upon you, is not to worship anyone besides Allah subhanho wa Taala and to be dutiful to the parents, Allah subhanho wa Taala has mentioned, had mentioned in many verses the importance of worshiping Him alone, and we know that the greatest, the greatest sin of all is to associate someone with Allah. And he Allah mentions not as such as someone with him, and then mentioned the importance of parents and being dutiful to the parents, being kind to the parents, being obedient to the parents.

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In return, how important it is to obey your parents, to be kind to your parents, to be dutiful, to your prayers, to be respectful to your parents to obey them, to listen to them, to care about them to be there for them, disobeying them, not caring about them, not looking after them is one of the major major sins. It's an offset by the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says that the one who disobeys his parents are actually dying. Someone who disobeys his parents, someone who is disrespectful to his parents would not enter the paradise would not enter the paradise.

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The problem is Salatu wassalam did not mention that other important issues that we see in Islam the way he mentioned that about someone disobeying his parents, or her parents and someone disrespecting them. Someone who disrespects their parents, someone who disobeys their parents would not enter the paradise. Surprise as much as you want to pray, and fast as much as you want to fast and pay donations as much as you want to pay donations. You will not enter the paradise if you disrespect your parents. You're not experienced the paradise if you do not take care of your parents. So your parents, your parents, your parents, your parents are so important, that are so important to you

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though your wife to enter the paradise die away to save yourself from the hell fire

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So sometimes we don't really think about how heavy this issue is or being good to parents we sometimes you know really belittle it we think it's like okay it's a good day all right it's easy to do phone call to a mom and make her happy but you know we're complacent with that even a small five to five ringgit gift to our parents with the band's make them happy so sweetly bought on the way our calendar you know this we could on CD you know something very simple sometimes make our parents happy but we don't bother doing it because I think you know what, it's a small deed We glorify other things that are we you know we prepare for it make sure we're going there. And ombre we're going to

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Makkah Medina former our had you know, we really prepare very hard before being good to parents. We don't realize how grave and how amazingly important and heavy the good deed is of being good to parents, Allah. Allah subhanho wa Taala he says waka Dora buka Allah tabuteau illa iya

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Santa Luanda in Dhaka Kibera huduma Oklahoma Fela taco lahoma have a wallet on her Houma. wakulla, Houma, Colin Karima and your Lord had all died not to worship no one but him and to be respectful to them to your parents, if one of them if one of them or two of them referring to the parents, if one of your parents, or two of them reached on old age, yes, when someone reaches an old age, when your father or your mother reaches an old age that needs to be taken care of the way you take care of a baby. So in other words, they're just a bigger baby, a bigger baby to be looked after, in a form of looking after a baby cleaning the baby feeding the baby being always around the baby. This is it

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when your parents got old, they need the same care and attention if not more. So Allah azza wa jal says if one of them, or two of them reached out age,

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and are with you look after them. look after them. Take care of them. What are

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often and then you ever say of an utter a word that will make them upset after a word that will show disrespect to them after a word that will make them feel bad after a word that will make them feel sad, after a word though displeased them from you? Vallarta Coloma off of is a word I word that shows being upset or what you know. And this is the common word that we always use towards our parents when our mother or father calls us the cause. Just we reply, wah, wah. In other words, why are you calling me for you are bothering me? How many times do we do that? How many times when your mother and your father call you? They call you for the summer for something simple and easy for

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something normal. And you reply is one in a manner that What are you calling me for? Leave me alone, is that how you speak to your parents? Well, Allah tells you enough to even say

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that they even utter a word that will show them that you're upset or upset them with it. If your mother or your father call them, you should obey them. You should leave everything that you have. You should leave the business they are working, you should leave the computer that you're on, you should leave the training they are in, you should leave the socializing environment that you're in and listen to your parents, your mother your father lay awake to the earth is alive zona tells you that David,

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your parents should have been untouched and harmed in any way or form. This is what the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam and he said that three people alone would not look at them in the hereafter would not even speak to them. And one of them is someone who used to disrespect his parents. You know he after law with Maven Look at you. And speak to you just straight to the Hellfire is that the path he wants to take? Is that the path that you want to follow to be from amongst those who alone would not even look at? Well, a lot of xojo would not even speak to you straight into the whole firewall as a biller. Then from amongst us, those who disrespect their

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parents. Do whatever you want to do.

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Worship Allah the way you want to worship Him. Pray as much as you want to pray to Allah, fast as much as you want to fast Allah. Then as much as you want to die for Allah, sacrifice whatever you want to sacrifice for Allah. You're not gonna see the pleasure of Allah, Allah through your parents. Do whatever you want to do. Think as much as religious you might think you are. You're at the end of the day have no value in the sight of Allah, Allah through your respective purse. I remember our chef,

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Rashida Haley, Allah, one of the main students of Shake Shack at avid Allah and so he was

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A great teacher for me Mashallah. He taught me so many things other than just knowledge. I learned manners from him and many things, the good manners from him, Mashallah. And the chef. I remember when his father passed away.

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His father had a long battle with cancer and he passed away.

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When he passed away,

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the sheriff you know, cried and he called me on the phone. And he said, I read, intimacy, recovery, and duration, from the Israeli Earth, but authenticated by berberine and deceit and it's the seed that a man used to be good to his parents.

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And whilst he was good to his parents, Allah was good to him as well because he was good to his parents. And then when his parents passed away, Allah sent an angel down to him. And the angel told him also and so Allah was being good to you because of your goodness to your parents. Now that your parents have passed away, seek another means of being good and coming closer to Allah. When your mother when your father call you, you should run to them and say I'm here under your command. I'm here under your orders, whatever you want mother whatever you want father if I can do it, I'll do it. You are my mother You are my father Bharata Paloma often Wollaton her mama damn shy them any any

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displeasure. Then show them any upsetness Dasha them any form that will make them displaced from you. What hola hola hola Karima and say to them generous words. say to them nice words. Watford lahoma Jana De Lima Lima wakulla. Burnham, Houma, Kamara biani, Samira lawai wings, lower your prior to your parents, your mother and your father, as much as you lower yourself to them. As much as you humble yourself to them, as much as you lower your pride to them, that the end of the day, you are either some or your mother and your father. Sometimes the shy person comes to us, and shaitan whispers in our ears, and says don't lower yourself to your mother, then lower yourself to your

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father, but have this pride towards your mother have this pride towards your father having pride over her over your mother, the woman that carried you and looked after you and cleaned you and fed you having pride over the one that was working during the day and not spending on you. Having pride over whom your father, your mother? Doesn't make sense that someone has pride over their parents having pride However, what what are you trying to prove? What are you trying to prove that you are better than them? Let you be the most richest, and let you be the most wealthiest and let you be the strongest. At the end of the day. You would not enter the paradise and literally the pleasure.

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Let you be the strongest and the most wealthiest and the most influential. You would never ever please Allah if you don't please your parents. lay up whoever you are, at the end of the day that are your mother and your father. respect them. Never disrespect them. Walk with lahoma Jana has

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lower your wings to your parents. So yes, when he when we actually have our parents we have the strongest way, or one of the strongest way to seek forgiveness one law we have one of the strongest way to make Allah happy. We have one of the strongest way to earn our job nawala It is so easy what we have our parents, when they pass away, it gets difficult. What good deed can we actually do that can remove a massive sin that we did? What good deed because that's what you're meant to do after you do a bad deed you followed up with a good deed. So what good D Can you do that? Can you can follow up? I mean the guy had killed somebody. Imagine that. So what good deed can you do? That can

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overcome a massive sin that you've done? Well, like if you miss out on the chance of being good to your parents whilst you still have them with you.

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That's a big loss. It's a massive loss. So don't do that. Ever since I learned that lesson myself. I made up my mind that I'm going to make my parents one of my most stable ways to make you happy. So every day I give them a phone call. That's all on my parents need just a phone call. They don't want money from me. They don't want food from me. They don't even want me to look after them as yet. Have the llama father still strong?

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All they want is just for me to be in touch with them. When's the last time you called your parents When's the last time you know you what a gift to them. When's the last time you made them happy enough the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when the companion came and asked him or messenger of Allah, or messenger of Allah Who should I pleased? Most

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Who shall I please must you say God's mother, the pelvis under her feet? The guide to your mother the paradise under her feet? What does that mean? If your mother steps on you, that's only that's only a promotion for you to enter the paradise. And you could be one of those that Allah azza wa jal had written your way and your path to the paradise through the pleasure of your parents. Walk with lahoma Jenna Halima Rama, Rama Kamara, biani, Sameera as I Oh, my Lord, have mercy on them. Now I had mercy on me when I was young.

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I had mercy on me when I was young. And then when you grow up, and you become a man, a bit of hair on your chest, and a bit of money in your wallet, and a bit of a muscles, a bit of muscles in your shoulder and your arms, you look down at your mother. And if she comes, and she calls you, when you're around your friend, you scream and say, well, you call me embarrassing me. Leave me alone. And when she asked you to carry a bag of time,

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when she asked you to do a little job for home, I'm too busy. Did you forget did your mother say that to you when you were hungry?

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Did your mother say that to you when you're thirsty? Did your mother say that to you and you're crying. And now you grew up and he became a man. You neglect your mother you look down ahead don't even care about the animal. And you follow the one that spends work so hard under the sun and work so hard during the day and night to bring that money so you could close the and feed you. When your father asked you for the smallest thing I'm too busy, too busy. For your friends. Too busy for her for TV, fi movie, too busy for football. Too busy making money? Is that why your father said when you were young? Is that what your father did to you and he's to take it to school and come back and

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pick you up from school I look after Is that how it is now?

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After that many years of striving and sacrificing is that the return and the payback to your parents. We remember one thing, the prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, amongst the punishments that Allah azza wa jal will hurry the his punishment upon His servants in this dunya is the punishment of disciplining your parents.

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When you disobey your parents in this world, Allah who punishing the Hereafter, but before that he after Allah will publish in this world

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before the he after Allah subhanho wa Taala will punish you in this world. So the way you treated your parents Allah xojo make your children tree

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and the way you looked at your parents and lo Sanjay son to look Danny

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Sallam said,

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very inara de la Tierra del holiday was sakata la vista hotel holiday, had his authentic What did he say? Verily, Allah subhanho wa Taala gets happy when your parents are happy, and our luggage angry when your parents are angry. As simple as that and have either a solo solo, as a hobby was passing away in the offices and said, Sarah say Allah, Allah Allah. He couldn't say La la la la. Why not? Because his mom was angry with him.

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Mom was angry with him. It was authentically reported that the profitsystem was very afraid at that point he went, he said the Sahaba look out this Halloween everywhere looking out. And they found the parent, the mom of this particular Sahabi and she was angry was she angry? The only fact is that that man needs to prefer his wife over his mom. That's it. That's all it was. And that was enough for her to get an MRI. And there's enough a lot to get angry at him.

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So please don't make your parents angry. You cannot add to them. The way you treat others allama tree and a lot of xojo bring someone the way you treat others allow someone to treat you the same. Come out to Dina to them the way you treat others. Allah who send someone to treat you the same. The way you treat your prince, Allah Subhana Allah will send you a son and daughter treat you that way. And that's when you start remembering the suffering that your mother and your father used to suffer from you. From your attitude, from your language, from your reaction from your behavior, Allah who sent someone the same. Remember, it's Allah subhanho wa Taala the dealing with a lot zoa JAL Allah

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subhanho wa Taala is the one Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one the retailer for your parents. Allah as origin is the one that will pay back for your parents. I love them. I know Todd is the one that will punish you over your disrespect to your parents. If you want the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala a last pleasure is connected to your mother and your father's pledges. Respect your parents and don't you ever disrespect them? Many of our young youth

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elevated I know when I got a jihad. Well, you first you had this with your parents.

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If you're not fit to respect your parents, I guarantee

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You're not fit to be a major hit.

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If you're not fit to be dutiful towards your parents, then I guarantee you will not be accepted but a lot of Zoda to be amongst those who fight please take

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the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned that made it so clearly it berries of the parents is more beloved to Allah azza wa jal than the Jihad free sebelah than 14 in the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala have either a solar system states that Allah subhanho wa Taala will not look at three people on the day of judgment that is authentic and Buhari. One of them is that they use the one who is jealous over his women. The second is one who a man who dresses like a woman a woman who behaves the command or dresses like a man. Right? And number three is actually the the one who disobeys his parents. Yeah. And in one authentic hadith A man came to the prophet of Islam from

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Yemen and said Yara Sorel, I've come to join battle with you said, How have you left your parents? So he said, I left them crying. So he told them go back and make them laugh, just like you made them cry. Even a battle. Jihad was not more stronger than the right of the parent on you. I asked my chef, a chef, I've got three brothers. I've got two brothers. So I don't think I'm required. And you have dilemma two brothers required. So my chef reminded me saying, What if you are the use of your father?

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What if you're like Yusuf was to yaku it didn't matter that he had 11 other children doesn't matter. You have other brothers and sisters. You are the one. You need to look after your parents. You need to be good to them. It doesn't matter that there are other brothers and sisters. Yeah, it's your responsibility to look after them and be kind and merciful to them.

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Because it didn't matter that you had other brothers when you were young. They looked after you just like as if you were the only child. So if that is the case, you look after your parents just like do you like just like you are the only support that you that they have? And he says sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Allah is Allah wasallam he says, riddle, me little holiday in

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the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala is from the pleasure of the parents was

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dying, and the displeasure of Allah the anger of our lives origin is from the displeasure and the anger of parents. He got annoyed, not worrying that your mother is not pleased from you. Your father is not pleased from you. Because that Mother You got to sleep. Knowing that your mother and your father are not pleased from you, then go to sleep knowing that a lot of soldier is not pleased from you.

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And that day is done the problem lies our dough, knowing that your mother and your father are not pleased from you, then you know he'll be standing with you'll be standing with those who Allah is not pleased from your mother, your father, respect them and obey them.

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One of the things that the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam had mentioned that if you want Allah subhanho wa Taala to increase in your provision, if you want Allah subhanaw taala to increase from your sustenance or is one of those forms and ways for Allah to increase your list is your play is your obedience to parents. So if you see sometimes that life is difficult, and you're financially not fit, and for some reason or another, your finances are not going the best way. Then maybe there's one thing you need to look at, look at your parents, are they happy from you or not? Are they pleased from you or not? Because one of the forms of Allah opening the list is provisions

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of sustenance, the servant is through the pleasure of your parents. At the time of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, one of the companions was was on his deathbed. And while he was dying, and it was through going through the agony of death, the companions were reminding him to say the Shahada, and he was struggling to say the Shahada, and they turned to him say, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Muhammad Rasul Allah. And this man is struggling to say the Shahada said I went to the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And I mentioned to him about this man, he's struggling to say the Shahada, and he's a believer. So the prophet SAW Selim said, is his mother alive? So that to me is so the profile a salatu salam went to the mother, and he asked her, Are you pleased from him? So she said, No, I'm not pleased from you. So the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked her, be pleased from him. So she said, I am not pleased from him. So the Prophet alayhi salatu wa sallam said, then if that's the case, get the timber and get the wood a little spin him and let him die that way. So straightaway, that emotional mother, there was probably some anger from his son said, No, no, no, no, no messenger

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of Allah. I am pleased from him. The moment she said I'm pleased from him. The pleasure of Allah came down on dismiss the man and his llama. And this man said, a shadow Allah, Allah illallah wa

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To

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the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He said from amongst the rights upon us, the rights in this dunya to have full rights over us. They have rights. They have full rights over us. And when they grow, they still have rights over us. They have financial rights over

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there have more rights over their ethical rights over us. They have all rights, and when they die, the prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam said, amongst their rights upon us to make up for them, constantly make that for your parents.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala make us with those who are good to parents, who are unless favor and mercy by being good to them. And Allah subhanaw taala make our children make our children merciful to us just like our parents are merciful to us. So communicate slavery.