Yassir Fazaga – Gratitude – The Way To Happiness

Yassir Fazaga
AI: Summary © The importance of gratitude in Islam is discussed, including the need for gratitude in everyday life and the negative impact of not knowing the value of gratitude. Grader Sallama is a natural way of expressing gratitude, but it is difficult to understand. The concept of "Gradees," which refers to people who are less fortunate than they do, is also discussed. The use of guilt in our approach to life is discussed, including the need for parents to report mental health issues to their children and the importance of bringing up positive experiences. Grievances are not just a way to thank you, but rather a lifestyle that makes you feel blessed.
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shaytani rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim hamdulillah

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salat wa salam ala.

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l mursaleen. Shapira vivido Habib al Ameen. hamedan Salawat Rafi was Salam O Allah, Allah Allah goes on to heal

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in a kondalilla Medical monastery on istockphoto on Saturday, when I wrote the villa Michel Rodin Pacino's Melina

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de Allah.

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Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah cherry cola, one number feminine sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Morocco solo

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esta casa de de de la la halal heavy, heavy Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the name of Allah, the Compassionate, The Most Merciful. All praise is due to a lot. We bear witness that no one is one of the unfortunate but a lot. And we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is indeed his final messenger, the best of speeches The Book of Allah and the best of guidance is the guidance of Mohammed Salah Allah.

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May Allah Allah make us amongst those who listen to the best of speech, the Book of Allah and follow His commandments. And may Allah Allah make us among those who come to know the best of ways the way of Mohammed Salah love, it was seldom amongst his followers a lot. I mean, a lot of them mean a lot

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was a whole lot. No one will pull up on the return and Helen Murano in O'Connor evidencia for Allah, Allah described new alayhis salam in the Quran is that these are the offsprings with whom we carry

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on the art in the new album, Ceylon was a grateful servant of ours. direct command was given to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Belen, La Puente Mina Shakira in May but rather worship Allah, Allah alone and be amongst those who are grateful. A lot pantalla describes in the book itself as him being grateful chaperon early, a lot is all appreciative or knowing some planet mortality. And then Allah Subhana Allah describes local man introduces Lockman, to the reader of the hall and we are told that he's a wise man. What a

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man and heck, mata amisco Linda, and we have indeed endowed wisdom upon

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saying to him, important on him and his co Lila, be grateful to Allah subhana wa Tada. One day, yes, they're in school in St. Louis. And whosoever expresses gratitude, they do so only for the good of their own selves, woman Kapha in the law, that even Hamid Amaya for finding the love and even Hamid and whosoever is ungrateful, then let it be known that Allah is free of all needs, and he is Worthy of all praise. subhana wa Tada.

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Psychology tells us today brothers and sisters, that the quote,

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the shortest way to achieve happiness is to be grateful.

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Studies show that people who express gratitude, live gratitude, they're actually happier, and they are more positive. And every time you come across that word in the Quran, while the Chicago School University and whosoever is grateful, they do so for their own good. And you read this and say, How can that be for my own good or a lot? Suffolk has done me a favor. And in exchange of that favor, I say thank you. Allah said the very first person that benefited from that thank you is not the person who received it, but it was you woman in Chicago for NW school in St. Liebman fattiness.

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He must know happiness. He whosoever expresses gratitude, do so for their own good.

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And unfortunately, this seems to be a virtue that is seldom the practice or it is not necessarily a life style. It becomes things that we express every now and then. And that is not a prophetic style. These styles

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is that he's always grateful. And there are many reasons for this, we are told, number one is that we live in a culture that is really based on, there is something in you that's missing, and you need this. Either products that you need, either books that you need to read either places that you need. So we are constantly caught up in. It's not complete yet. I need one to agree. And as a result, sometimes not even knowing we create a sense of constantly complaining, just ask the person. No, we wake up in the morning, and the very first thing that we do is we just completed about like, how soon did the morning come learn? I did not sleep

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very well. My back aches. And then we complain about traffic and then we complain about customers and then we complain about how the coffee was not fresh. And then we complain about traffic on our way back and then your wife, your husband, AdSense, how was your day? Oh, don't even get me started. What happened? Oh, that's just how that is just how it is a constant list of many things to complain about. And that is not how Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would get up in the morning. And the very first thing that he would do is he would celebrate sola, sola and hamdulillah Olivia De Niro, he was

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at hamdulillah Allah The ohana diadema amount and

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he would get up and the very first thing that you do is you start celebrating life all present due to Allah has given me my life back and he has permitted me to make a mention of him all praise due to Allah who has revived us after that lesser death that we call sleep he starts and that's why they say the very first five minutes of your day are going to dictate the rest of your day. You woke up thinking this is going to be such a difficult day woke up thinking that this is going to be such a hard day. Some people wake up thinking this is going to be such a beautiful day it already started well, I am back and that is how Mohammed Salah Lavalle Wasilla would do you listen to Muhammad

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam again, when he goes to bed, how does he go to bed? And how do we go to bed? The Prophet peace upon him would go to bed and then what does he say Alhamdulillah Olivia Amina, was upon our bakasana so can be Malawi Allahu Allah, all praises due to Allah, who has given us food for the day, something to drink for the day, who has given us a shelter, who has given us loved ones to care for, to care for us that is for how many are going to night with no shelter to protect them and no loved ones to look after them.

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And then a loss of one without a filter so beautifully in the Quran. What is the as the owner of buco there in Shackleton, there

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are a lot proclaims in the Quran tells his service. If you express gratitude, I will surely increase you. But what that does is such a power law, Hawaii's book, The wise book, Allah subhanho wa Taala calls it that, yes, he was unhappy in the book that is full of wisdom because it is the book of Allah subhanaw taala? The answer is, if you express gratitude, I will increase you. But it does not tell us it would increase us in what. So there are three different ways of understanding this. If you have a problem, and you become grateful for the solver, Allah will increase you so that you get another sound. And that seems to be an understanding that is not necessarily measurable every time

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and other people say it actually. If you are grateful to Allah Subhana Allah, Allah will increase you in contentment, that's a good understanding as well. And then Allahu Allah, Allah knows best. There is another understanding. It says that if you are grateful for Allah for this, Allah would increase you by giving you the ability to see more things that you can actually be grateful for. And that's the best understanding Allah knows best. But that is the best understanding. Because again, what they are saying nowadays, they're talking about people who are unhappy, or people who truly enjoy what they have. And that is why sapan law they say, gratitude is the sound that joy makes.

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Listen to this, this is beautiful. Gratitude is the sound

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that joy makes. What does that mean? If Allah has given you, then the way that we express gratitude is by enjoying who Allah subhanaw taala has given us, brother, how you doing, man? You know how tough it is out there? No, I don't. And it's not that tough. But we speak this way, thinking that, no, this is how it is. People get offended if you don't believe that that stress, everybody's talking about how stressed they are, at least think about it. Are we really? Or is it just a lack of appreciation? This is not to say that people don't have a hard time many people out there are having a hard time And may Allah Subhana Allah ease their pain.

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And that's why they say people who are grateful, are not blind to their difficulties. They're not blind to their difficulties. However, what they do is that they wish to invest their energy and time somewhere else. To prisoners, look out of the prison bars, one saw mud, the other source thoughts? It is about that choice? What is that choice that we are making. So we are taught, being grateful.

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And the more things that you are grateful for work long, even happier than

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inevitably, you become grateful you become happy. And they say that a person's level of wisdom is directly linked to what it is that they are celebrating in life. The more you celebrate in life to panela, the happier you become. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know little things. They just don't so just think that pass by Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would celebrate and he would tell us about this. They don't say in law, they don't have an Abdi is atleta Oh Sheree, Masha. Allah says Allah subhanho wa Taala is pleased with a servant of his that when they eat anything, they're grateful to Allah. When they drink anything, they're grateful to Allah. But

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why would the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say this, because sometimes we take them so much for granted that we actually forget to celebrate these things in life. And that is why again brothers and sister Allah says, what he called the incircle.

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If you express gratitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah will increase you more, not by giving you more things, because remember, the most important things in life are not things

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the most important things in life are not things but that is how we are being conditioned to frame Do you have this do you have that and many times we have them but we just really empty it seems like we are chasing something that either does not exist or we every time we delay our happens one time a boozer visits with the prophets of Allah

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and says yeah, I'll send you or messenger of Allah give me an advice. inshallah, one day we will talk about this Hadees. But in one particular part, the prophets have said Look, just this year,

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over in a man who will do what

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he said, Oh Buddha, when you can see that the gates of this life, he said, consider those who are less fortunate that you are and don't be looking for those who have more than you do. Lest you belittle how good Allah has been to you.

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Less you belittle how good Allah has been to you and Allah been good to us. Allah has been good to us. But unfortunately, the part here is that we are so busy thinking about what we do not have that we forget to celebrate what we actually have

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hour. Tommy is in the car circumambulating the cabin he is going around, and he is this veteran begging a love MC and one of the strangest place of love with Alameda along with apollyon O Allah, I want to be amongst the minorities all I want to be amongst the few. And nobody's listening to this and it just does not make sense. What in the world are you talking about? So he grabbed the better one and he said Why?

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I've been trying to understand what it is that you say and I just don't get it. When you were in the minority that you're talking about what you that you want to be amongst them. And then he says,

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Have you not recited, read the book of Allah, for in Allah how your own.

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Allah says in his book on only a few of my servants are truly grateful to Allah Subhana Prasad, I want to be grateful to Allah subhanaw taala brothers, please insha Allah to squeeze in as much as we can, so that our bodies don't have to be out in the, in the sun, until if you need to walk, please just walk forward as much as you can.

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So here the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, selling a Buddha said our Buddha, enjoy what you already have. Because every time we don't, somehow a lot, what usually ends up happening is we don't bring in right, appreciate how good life has been to us. And that is why again, you know, how long we know the truth. And as Muslims, we celebrate the truth that comes to us in the book of Allah subhanaw taala. Or sometimes the truth comes in human experience, or we did this study and that study, and we concluded one, two, or three, and you looked at that, and you say, 100 love, even human experience is now telling us what the Quran has already told us. We appreciate these studies. And we appreciate

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our book of Allah subhanaw taala even more at this point, warmer English For

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whosoever is grateful, they do so for their own good, how is it our own world science against telling us, the more grateful you are, the happier you become? Not because you are blind, simply because you have taken the time to celebrate these things in life that others take for granted. I was having the blues, because I had no shoes. I walked down the street, I met a man with no feet.

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Now, how big is it of a deal that you have no shoes. And at that point, you realize, you know what, I shouldn't be having the blues because I have no shoes. Because I just met a person who's got no sleep. Now I know how rich I am something that I was blinded about, until I saw those around me who are less fortunate. No brothers and sisters, as to put things in perspective. And this is by no means a way of guilting people into being appreciated. That's a terrible. That's a horrific way of learning virtuous guilt. And please don't be offended. But those of us who come from Eastern cultures, Eastern cultures are guilt motivating cultures. Don't be offended. But that's just

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reality. The reality of our sociology is that we are guilt, motivating and guilt motivated cultures, you need the right to or you want to do the right thing out of guilt, not necessarily out of love. So even when we speak of virtues, when we want to pass on virtues to others, we speak using guilt. Your son comes and asks for whatever it is or your daughters they go and they ask for this and that and you say no. And then you look at the manager, you know, kids in Africa don't even have to be

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yourself and really look at you and say, someone. Now you want me to become resentful towards kids in Africa whom I have never met. But you are telling me that I cannot have this? Or why don't you eat this, you know that the kids in Africa have nothing to say, I really don't like it. What you're trying to teach is gratitude. But now we are using a form of guilt to do them. say, Well, that sounds a little bit contradictory because you just told us that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, consider this war less fortunate than you ought to now you say, Yes, we as a parenting style. Guilt is not a good style.

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You don't want our kids to be motivated by guilt, especially when we are feeling virtuous. We want them to be motivated by this is what needs to be done. This is the right thing motivated by by luck. But the point again, comes into this idea of wisdom, the Way to Happiness, the shortest way to happiness, as we are told by the origin studies based on human experience, the shortest way is to express gratitude. Remember, gratitude is not just say Alhamdulillah that is just one very basic level of gratitude. But as they say, great.

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attitude is an attitude.

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Gratitude is an attitude. It's a lifestyle you truly feel blessed to have I'll never forget this. One day I am walking by and I see this elderly African American woman, and I'm just being polite, saying, ma'am, how are you doing today? And she looked at me, she said, I'm feeling blessed. But she said, it was so much passion. I was envious. Well, lucky, I was envious. The woman really melted, she felt them. And the way that she expressed it, those around her, they look at that one, too. I don't know whether he's blessed or not much, he was even so unbelievably blessed.

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And then another way of expressing gratitude, like we've said, is drawing man, if Allah has given you in the law you have bought, and you're

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truly Allah Subhana Allah wants to see the consequence of his blessings upon His servants. Why not smile? Why not be good? Why not enjoy. So you know, the evil if I tell people this, then you know, everything goes bad. So it's just best to tell people that things are not going well for you. business going on, you know, just trying to keep my head above water after your entire body is above water. While

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you're only traveling with your pet B, things are good for you. Why not say hello has been good to meet?

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You know, I can you imagine when we meet that, how are you doing? And all we have to talk about is how good allows me to

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do this. And a lot of times Allison woman in Chicago

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school years, and whomsoever is grateful, they do so for their own good. May Allah Subhana. Allah make us among those who are grateful.

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wa Salatu was salam, ala rasulillah, Mustafa,

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Muhammad Mohammed's a long while ago, such as a grateful man, and he would appreciate throughout his day, the prophets, Allah is constantly engaged in this notion of Alhamdulillah. And remember, it's not just about water that we other, it is a lifestyle that we live. It's an attitude by which we carry ourselves throughout the day. And the Native American teachings. They say that when you wake up in the morning, they require members of the tribe to do two things, they would tell one another, to stick the tip of your finger together to your thumb, for at least 10 seconds and rub them against one another. And then they require the very first thing that they do is they have to mention every

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single day, can blessing stuff a feeling.

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Wake up in the morning, say 10 blessings that you're feeling. Once a woman mother taught a very beautiful lesson. She said my kids would come into Cloud when I picked them up from school. And immediately they stopped complaining. She said I did not want my kids to go clean. So I told them, you can complain, but I have one condition. Before you complain. You have to tell me about the five best things that happen to you at school, and then you can complain. So then eventually hurt it's time to take in taking mental notes during the day. And because they needed to report to their mother at the end of the day. So they started so Pamela, they thought that the important things that

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they would have never report before but now they're seeing this as things to be grateful for. So what happened today at school, I asked whether for the eraser and she gave it to me.

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He would never he gets celebrating this as something good. But see what happens is that now you create an attitude and that is celebrating these things in life. All these little things simple things are less than the more you celebrate of them. I'll give you the ability to start even celebrating football things. As the more you do this, the happier you feel. Even though Subhanallah you may really have little things, few things but you feel so unbelievably rich, because the richness in the heart.

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Please do not understand this as

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A way of us making simple of problems that people have. Because some of our brothers and sisters have been one long they have big problems. Imagine that your loved ones are not feeling well.

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They're not feeling well, they're sick members have outlived their speed recovery or

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maybe your own marriage is not going well. Maybe you're struggling with your teenage boy, your teenage daughter, maybe you have your own health issues. By no means gratitude does not mean that we are blind, or that we're pretending not to see our problems. That is not going to be that's just that's silly. What we are saying is the attitude is the law, that I know my time and my energy is going to be spent on the fact that Allah Subhana Allah has been good to me. And yes, these things come in live, but I will not lose sight of the fact that Allah Subhana Allah has given you and that's why in the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam thoughtless and

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was soon to be an optimist. They say this is not they say this Mohammed's Allah Allah wa sallam said optimism is the best of care.

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I think you said and pessimism is the voice of care.

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And then he's all alone. While he was in love, we thought about him.

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said the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was an optimist. In all of this case, again mentalist amongst those who are great. And if we have any amongst us, our loved ones, they are promised May Allah Subhana Allah take care of them. just reminding you of two events that we have, as you know that tomorrow is our Carnival, please do join us bring your family so that we can truly together as a community celebrate that they operate together and I believe we start at 11 o'clock in Charlotte. So inshallah also on the 27th we're starting a new class here at domestic Islam and psychology, when we would be discussing the standard approach to psychology and inshallah it will be an interesting

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class, it will be on Thursdays after the Russia prayers. Also inshallah, please see that you can join us on this, if any of our loved ones or unhatched males can Allah bring them back data analysis, accept all the teacher of alchemy, and those of us who are not able to make it this year, may Allah invite us to results next year, along with Apple in the

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