How to Survive

Yasmin Mogahed

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Hi, my name is Esther hafsa and I am your host today for our amazing talk you're looking forward to inshallah, over the next hour today we're going to cover how to survive dealing with the challenges and obstacles of life inshallah with our beloved guests. It's sad that Yes, me Mujahid and estado del yet Mujahid as well. Just a little bit more about our topic. Of course, this world is full of trials and tribulations and an ever changing world and Muslim is challenged and exerted in ways like never before with all the modern day challenges and daily obstacles faced how to faith and God help us to maximize our capabilities and strengths. We're going to be covering so much I can't even

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imagine how we're going to do it within the hour inshallah, but I'm super excited to have you guys starting to warm up and to trickle in and to join us please chime in into the chat where you're coming in from and take a moment especially in the last month of Ramadan to share the fare tag a friend, tag a family member inshallah, who will benefit from the talk and make sure that they're joining you in this experience, as well inshallah to Allah, especially as we are live, just that Camilla fer for those who are registered and made sure they got that notification, and they're set for that recording as well for this session. We're super excited to have you with us for today's

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talk and shall and I'm going to jump in and just a couple of minutes to introduce our beloved speakers. But I want to make sure that you guys once again are typing there in the comments and letting us know where you're coming in from and as well what time of the day is it? Is it you know, time for your support? Have you guys just had had your thoughts? Are you still in the middle of your fast? Please do engage and let us know in sha Allah I know. Some of the topics that we're covering today is you know, surviving as a Muslim in an ever changing world. You know, self esteem knowing your worth not letting perceptions of others take over your self perception, fulfilling yourself

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goals, the freedom achieved in the dunya by the help of Allah and overcoming rejecting rejection in public and personal life, the world is a temporary place Alhamdulillah this broadcast this session has been made available through the amazing work of Yasmin which I had TV in Sharla, which you'll hear a lot more about. But I'm super excited for now to jump in and introduce our lovely speakers on our panel today inshallah, and then we'll jump into their talks and their sessions and you will have time inshallah as well for questions at the end. So hold on to the questions that I'm sure you will no doubt no doubt have throughout today's session. Of course, you're very familiar but just for the

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sake of an install, I do want you guys to re familiarize yourself with who soleus mean which I had Mashallah. She has just recently launched yesterday Mujahid TV, which has her a new online TV channel she's authored two books, love and happiness and reclaim your heart which have received international acclaim. Yes, he is currently an instructor at Elmo group Institute, and elbridge Press. She's a writer for The Huffington Post and international speaker and an invited lecturer at Oxford, Harvard, Yale, Stanford and many other universities around the world. She's received her BS degree in psychology and her master's in journalism and mass communications from the University of

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Wisconsin Madison. And after completing her degree, she taught Islamic Studies and got heavily involved in community youth work. So yes, Mead is currently working on a new book, which will be released in 2021. inshallah, please make sure you're following her online for more of her writings and lectures, and it makes sure you take full advantage of the amazing library of her work that she's made available to the public through Yasmin, which I have tv.com of course, we have with her for the first time online. There's a super exciting way to have them both together, especially in these crazy times and how not to have this privilege is that Dahlia Mujahid who is the Director of

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Research at the Institute for Social Policy and understanding this, where she leads the organization's pioneering research and thought leadership programs on American Muslims, who is a former executive director for the Gallup center for Muslim studies where she led in the analysis of surveys of Muslim communities worldwide. With john L. Esposito she co authored the book who speaks for Islam. What a billion Muslims really think President brock obama appointed design which I head to the President's Advisory Council on faith based and Neighborhood Partnerships in 2009. She was invited to testify before the US Senate Committee on Foreign Relations about us engagement with

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Muslim communities. And her 2016 TED talk was named one of the top TED talks that year. She's a frequent expert, you've probably seen her around, and commentator and global media outlets and international forums, and she's also the CEO of Mujahid consulting, and handle I'm a little overwhelmed to be in such a great company at hamdulillah. But I'm excited for you guys to hear from these both amazing acclaimed speakers and to have them together as sisters as well on the platform as we kick off the topic of today's talk. Zack look out for joining us and as Sidamo Aleikum, wa rahmatullah. This is mean And besides, Dahlia does that Camilla fer for joining us today. How are

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you feeling? And how excited are you for this talk right now.

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So I'm gonna come around to labor cattle, I am feeling well and hamdulillah. It's a blessing to be already, you know, past the middle of Ramadan and an amazing blessing to be able to have my sister involved in this project. It's a project that I feel extremely passionate about and really, really invested in and it's because it's it's an opportunity that I haven't had thus far with my work to have everything

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And kind of collected in one place most, the very, very, you know, the large bulk of my work, which hasn't been available thus far online or on YouTube, we've we've put in a lot of work, I think the lockdown really gave us the opportunity, you know, to, to put everything together and allow this platform to give people access to those classes, those seminars, those tours I've been doing over the last decade that haven't otherwise been available. So I'm really excited about this, I'm really happy that my sister agreed to join on this,

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you know, this, this, this introduction to that to this platform. And it's, it's also really cool how so because what it allows is actually it allows more interaction, a lot of the times, you know, when people watch things on YouTube, you know, it's a very one way type of conversation you're taking in really amazing information. But there it's not really like you're able to interact. What's really unique about about the membership here is that there's interaction. So once a week, I do live session. So I'm taking questions I'm interacting with with the members live. So that's the other thing that I think makes it really unique, but and Hamdulillah, I'm really excited to be able to

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share this. And from that, I'm glad you mentioned that actually, I think in a kind of international world, we've been blessed with access to so much information. But when it's randomized coming from so many random channels and sources, it's hard to kind of follow a path and to follow it you know, to build and grow on the knowledge that you've been developing, and to also have support in that process, it's really important to have a community to have someone that you can go to and especially if you're seeking knowledge from a specific speaker, such as yourself, people are chasing information across the internet, trying to find your talks and your and all the previous appearances

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that you've done, I'll handle that they're now available all in one place, and they're easily accessible. And there's that support and that community, people who are like minded were joining you on that journey. So I'm super excited for the launch of guessing which I had to be I'm super excited for the fact that it's grown so much in the past couple of months I've seen Michelle all the new content that's been coming out and for the taste of it that we're gonna get today through this talk with yourself and you're still Dahlia jacmoe here once again, for those who are tuning in I know there's 1000s of you Mashallah, who signed up to be part of this experience. So welcome, welcome,

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welcome, and of course, to the to the hundreds of students who are already part of the platform and this experience on hamdulillah. So I don't want to take too much time I know we've been kind of raring to get going and we're already already 10 minutes into the hour so I want to jump right in so that you can kick us off on our topic today. For today's talk, inshallah, how to survive dealing with the challenges and the obstacles of life and then we will hear inshallah from sister Dahlia, as well before we jump into q&a. All right, Bismillah Let's kick it off. Okay, so now I'm on a comb everyone I would have been there you're going to shape on my dream. Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim.

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salatu salam ala rasulillah while Elio sappy edge mine, a Bish roughly surgery why yesterday Omri Wanaka. Tammy lasagna, Coca Cola. So when I was thinking about what I wanted to talk about today, I decided to talk about kind of to revolve the topic around two main themes. And I was thinking about the stories that we read about in the quota and the inspiration that Allah subhanaw taala gives us in the Quran. And Allah subhanaw taala tells us that there's a very specific reason why he tells us these stories, and one of the ads when he's addressing the Prophet size. And then he says, use a bit V for that, in order for us to, to to make your heart firm, to give your heart that that that

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conviction to be able to get through the challenges of this life, because, you know, nobody was tested as much as the prophets I send them and the other prophets. And so Allah subhanaw taala tells us that one of the, the the tools that he gives us in order to be able to, to have conviction and in order to be able to, to keep our hearts firm through our challenges is in fact in the corner and these specifically these stories. So he tells us these stories for that very specific reason which he tells which he mentions in the hot end. So I want this to be an opportunity to talk about some of these themes through the stories that we are told in the end. So the two main themes that I want to

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talk about is is the theme of rejection, and the theme of false accusations. Now, the reason I want to talk about these is that this is something this is a theme that we have seen in the Quran several times with various prophets, we've seen this theme of rejection that they went through rejection by their people, and oftentimes by their own family. And I'll talk about some of these examples. These are, these are experiences that we can relate to at some level. And this gives us that that sort of that roadmap of how to navigate through these trials. So first of all, when we talk about rejection, we look at the story, for example, of Ibrahim alayhis salaam Ibrahim Ali Salaam was not only

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rejected by his people, but he was rejected by his own father. And that V they actually

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They conspire to throw him into a pit of fire. So imagine that it's not just your people but your own father. Then you look at the example of medium it has sent him. Her people were calling her all sorts of names. When they found out that she had a child, and he was rejected by them. You look at the story of new Halle SLM 950 years of rejection. And in fact, Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran, that not many people believe. So it's like you think about you know, sometimes we think that it's about quantity, right? But if you look at the amount of time that new Halle salons spent doing his Dawa, you know, if it was all about, you know, like a one to one type of ratio, or it was a

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direct relationship, we would assume, or we would expect, that the majority of the believers or that his his own math would be large, because he spent so much time doing Dawa to them. And yet Allah subhanaw taala tells us that that's not how the formula works, because in fact, 950 years and yet he had very, very few followers, and the vast majority of the people rejected no Halle Selim, when we look at the Prophet Mohammed Salah, send them and we look at the amount of rejection that he had to experience, not just from his people, but also from his own family. When we look at some of the greatest enemies of the prophets, I send them were in his family, for example, His Uncle, uncle

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john, so you see here, they knew what it felt like to be rejected, and in the most sort of, deep type of way, because it was their own blood that rejected them. And when you look at the example of the prophets, I send them when he went to LA, for example, and this was an, this was a, this was a moment in his life, that later on when he was asked, what was the hardest time in your life, you know, even beyond a failed Orbeez besides a hug, and he said, and you know, a hug was was was hard and he almost died, you know, he got injured and many of the of the of the companions injured and some some were killed. But yet he said that the most the most difficult time of his of his life was

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the time of was the time of Paul if, after he had lost Cody, Gerald Ilana and lost his uncle, what supported him every time and then he went to Paul if to try to get support, and they rejected him so much that they actually threw stones at him and until he bled, so much so that his feet were stuck to his his his shoe from from blood. So, you see that the level of rejection that that he had to encounter. And then you look at no Halle, Selim again rejected by his people saw that rejected when you look at the example of no Halle Sam, he was rejected, not just that his that his people neglected or rather rejected, but rather with nor even his own son did not believe and rejected him.

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When you look at Ruth alayhis salaam, even his own wife rejected Him and His message. So you see here used to find a senate rejected by his own brother's throat so much so that they were plotting to kill him. And then they decided instead to throw them in a well. So you look at the examples that they encountered rejection, and from sometimes from those who were closest to them. The second theme that you see a lot, when you look at the stories is the theme of accusations of false accusations of for example, we know the the the accusations that they were making against medium, it has salon, right they were when they found that she was you know, had a child and she was not married, you can

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imagine the types of names that they called her the type of accusations that they that they that they threw at her. When you look at the example of use if Allah has said and again, he was accused by the wife of the Aziz, and he was even accused at some point of of stealing later on, when his brothers said, not knowing they're speaking to him, are accusing him of theft. So again, accusations against him, and then how much he he ensured that his name was was cleared. You know, despite all these accusations in the time that had passed, when you look at the accusations that were thrown at him, it's like he said that he was called a sad head he was called the magician he was called, they

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said he was possessed. They said he was a poet. They said he was making all of this up again, false accusations sometimes by those who are closest to him. And then we know the the accusations that were thrown at at Isha rhodiola and where she was accused of being unjust. And now when you look at every single one of these stories, whether they were rejected or they had false accusations thrown at them, there is one underlying theme throughout them and that is that they were all exonerated and they were all saved by Allah subhanaw taala and that is the point that I want to inshallah leave with you is that yes, believers will go through trials, believers will get rid

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jected sometimes by those people closest to them, believers will become sometimes falsely accused by those closest to them. And yet at the end of every single one of those stories, the believers always win. And they are always saved by Allah subhanaw taala and not only are they saved, but they are exonerated by Allah subhanaw taala. So I want to just inshallah wrap up by by by giving a formula of what Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran, of what to do in these situations, what is the formula for success? What did these prophets What did they all do in order to succeed in the end through these trials of whether it was rejection or accusations or any trial, and there's basically

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four that you see again and again and again, in the Quran that I'm going to cover in sha Allah. The first one is sub, where Allah Subhana Allah tells us again and again that we need sub in order to get through these trials. You have the example of use of Jaco valet, his selam first Oberon Jimmy when he's when he finds out that you suffer today Sam is gone, and then later on, he finds out Binyamin is gone. So now two of his children, and each time he finds out he has the same response, and that's a subaltern Jimmy, beautiful patients. He had beautiful patients. And then he says, well, Allahu Allah Mustafa and Allah metallophone. That and Allah is the one I seek refuge in from what

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you claim because sometimes people are going to claim stuff people are going to attack you people are going to reject you. This is the formula for success sub sovereign jammin, and seeking refuge in Allah subhanaw taala. From what they claim will love when we stand alone will stand with Allah Persephone. So that's the first part of the formula sub and esteana in Allah subhanaw taala or seeking refuge in Allah subhanaw taala from what they claim. The second is, is the karma is the karma means to stand firm, to be steadfast. And in this agate and sort of insert hood, Allah subhanaw taala says to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam festival in Cana will

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stand firm as you have been commanded. So this is one of those recipes for in order to get success after these trials is you have to stand firm as you have been commanded. The third is stuck, that Allah subhanaw taala consistently says that we must have Taqwa we must have God consciousness, we must fear Allah subhanaw taala in the way we respond, that sometimes when we are wronged, it can become, you know, it can be sort of like a human weakness to try to transgress in order to get revenge. And so here Allah subhanaw taala again and again is reminding us Do not transgress and have Taqwa even when you are wronged, and even in the way that you respond. So if you look at this and

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sort of food, it's a 112. At the end of the A Allah subhanaw. taala says, Well output while at the pole, while at home, do not transgress. And then inaho b Matta, meluna belcea, that indeed, he sees everything you do. So keeping in mind that mindfulness of Allah subhanaw taala, even when you've been wronged, not to transgress. And then finally, number four is telecon. So the fourth ingredient for success when you are being tried in this way, is to work good. You'll notice that for example, with Merriam nslm. When she was going through this trial, we're now she was going to have to face the people with a child and she wasn't married. Right? So you can imagine at this time, what people

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were going to say, I mean, what would people say even now in our communities, but let alone back then. And so when she's put in that, in that really difficult situation, Allah subhanaw taala tells her something specific, he says, Do not speak, he tells her do not speak. And and and one of the things we learned from this is that she is instead of trying to defend herself through her own words, she's putting her entire reliance on Allah subhanaw taala and she's not speaking and Allah does something so much better than she could have ever done with her own words and with her own means, right? She could have tried anything to argue and speak it would have, it would have never

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come close to making her child speak on her behalf which is what Allah subhanaw taala did is he made a silent Salam speak and defend his mom and say that he is actually a prophet that the slave of Allah Subhana Allah. So this is what happens when you put your trust in Allah subhanaw taala. So those are the four ingredients that we need in order to be successful. And then finally, Allah subhana wa tada says that the end result is always with the Woodstock in, in sort of hood a 49 Oh,

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Allah subhanaw taala says, For better in Laffy butta Lil macduffie forceware again have sub again repeating this, this necessary ingredient to be able to get through these trials but Allah subhanaw taala then promises something after that sub in Li aqui battalion pain, that indeed, the end result is always with the ones who have Taqwa. The end result will always be with the ones who fear Allah subhanho data, who are conscious of Allah subhanaw taala and mindful of Allah subhanaw taala. So in other words, the believers always win. The believers always win. This sounds like a cliche, but it's a fact. It's actually a divine fact. And and you see it throughout the stories if you study all of

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these stories, that Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran, you submit be for add that in order to to keep our hearts firm, in order to give us that that conviction that we need to get through our own trials. Allah gives us these stories. And in every single one of those stories, the believers always win and this is why Allah subhanaw taala says, Well, I thought he knew well it has an intimate Alona include quantum what meaning that that do not become weakened or despair, you will always have the upper hand if you are truly believers, does that come a low height on with Santa Monica Rahmatullahi wa bereket. So hon Allah is that Kamala Harris sada I don't want to go on and on

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but it's like I'm having like a deja vu moment. Right now in the sense that it's fun. A lot of your talks, they remind me of this is that they make me fall in love with the test of the journey of the healing. And, you know, like, it's the final that's the hardest thing is when you're being tested when you're in it in a moment of trial, to enjoy that process of coming back to Allah and the sweetness of it and feeling like the panel this is actually something that's a blessing in disguise. So May Allah reward you immensely. I'm sure that a lot of those that I was actually just going through some of the topics that's on that are on yesterday Medina tv.com and I realized that even

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the topic of this talk is that you don't shy away from the difficult situations from the pain that people experience and that's why I'm sure there's 1000s of you guys who have been you know, registering for this hundreds of you tuning in right now. hundreds more watching the recording inshallah is that you know, life is difficult, you need that guidance, you need that systematic approach and you need that community support around you to navigate it. It's been a tough year for a lot of us have hunt a lot and a lot of these things are our common obstacles and struggles some of the topics we're covering today and then the things that are covered in far more depth into the

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courses on that website inshallah. So what I encourage you guys to kind of check out inshallah and actually see some of the courses and topics that are covered as well but I don't want to take too much time because I know we have another exciting talk coming up inshallah with a standard Dahlia Mujahid and actually funny times funny story instead of Dahlia is actually how I found you so yesterday I actually am a political science student I used to follow her for years Mashallah I think it was probably Twitter when I had twitter facebook all the the long posts all the the craziness at that time on hamdulillah the Miller word you it was that a Dahlia for all the work that you do I

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know and the representation that you give to us as Muslims on global stage, Masha Allah, but now I'm excited to hear your stake and your your role that you've had Mashallah. And I saw that yes, means amazing adventure through the library. That is yes, which I hit tv.com and jump into your talk a cinematic and what are you doing today? Why do you consider 500 and they're doing well.

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here Alright, I'm not I don't want to steal any more minutes because I'm sure we're having 1000s of questions coming in at the very end. So I'm going to pass the mic to you inshallah. And we will catch you in just a few minutes. But before I do really quickly, I want you guys to quickly check out as well some of the links that that are going to be available in the in the comments and you see at the top of your video and on the screen right now for why mtv.com there's a lot of monthly classes and I hear that Sarah Dahlia has some bonus sessions along with a lot of other guest speakers that we have on the platform inshallah. So head over to why MTV you saw yesterday Mujahid

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tv.com and sha Allah, every month, there's fresh content, I just peeked in a couple of months ago. And I feel like it's grown by 234 times and hamdulillah. since I last checked out there have been live sessions weekly with the soleus mean with her students on that platform. And there's been discussions, there's been guest teachers coming on a lot of bonus content that's been happening and the topics that are being covered are insane. Just to give you a little bit of a peek. Before we jump into dahlias talk, some of the topics are reminiscent of some of the books and talks that ESPN has covered in the past but in so much more depth, love and marriage, Reclaim Your heart about the

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worship of a lot domestic violence and abuse, spirituality divorce and separation mental health and so much more. inshallah, that you'll navigate through and that you'll be blessed with inshallah, through that experience, I want to pass it off to Sally and she will tell you a little bit more about that in just a few minutes. But Bismillah let's jump into our second talk for it today. I'm going to pass over the mic inshallah. Tada.

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Salam Alaikum It's so nice to be with you today and hamdulillah Ramadan Kareem, we are here on the 17th day of Ramadan depending on where you are in the world, I am in the East Coast of the United States, and we are in the seventh day still have Ramadan. And it is such a special day because today was the Battle of bed. Today was the Battle of bedridden. So I want to talk a little bit about that. But before I do, I just want to say that Ramadan is a time of openings, brothers and sisters. So those of you tuning in today, the topic

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suggests that a lot of us who are who are here today having this discussion together, are going through something are facing a trial are facing a struggle. We're not here because everything's perfect. And I want to first start by by giving you this Bushra, this, this good news that we are in some the most sacred moments of the year. And this has always been of time of openings, the profit ideas soft was Sam's first Ramadan, the very first Ramadan, that they that he was commanded to fast the way we fast today was the first year after his yoga. And that first Ramadan was when they fought the battle of bed of miraculous Battle of great openings. And then the final Ramadan before the

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Prophet it salatu salam went back to his Lord was the opening of Mecca. So you have these two bookends of victories of victories for the believers. In one case, they were vastly outnumbered. Right three to one, and they had the angels fighting alongside them. And they were victorious. And the final one, there was no there was no battle Basically, there was no fighting, because they had such overwhelming numbers, that and the Prophet is still to some made sure of that. So that it would be a bloodless opening, he brought together 10th out a bit an army of 10,000 men an army that at the time, you know, for Arabia had never been seen before, of allies from so many tribes, including non

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Muslims, by the way that were engaged in the opening of Mecca. And they came in and they surrounded Mecca, and there was basically a complete surrender. And then the Mexicans thought there would be a massacre, because here were people that were driven out that were persecuted that were fought. And now they had the upper hand, right, they they were expecting a massacre and what they got was enormous mercy. So count on this count on the mercy of this beautiful month Ramadan, Kareem. This this month is noble and it is generous. I want to talk to you a little bit about a couple of themes, you know, building on what you mean, said my sister who I actually call sooner, so it's weird

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calling various mean, but I'll do it just so no one is confused or who I'm talking about.

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The theme of having the best opinion of Allah and understanding why we have struggles to begin with what what is the point of the struggle, Allah is certainly all powerful and has the power and the ability to absolve us to give us complete comfort. And in fact, the story of bed that is one example where we learn that lesson of why why the harder path, you know, if you study the Sierra, what you learn is that the companions were not going out on an expedition looking for a fight. They were not planning on fighting, they were going out to raid a caravan to take back property that had been stolen from them. And then it was revealed to the prophet Isaiah his salt was sent him that the

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Meccans had heard about this and that they were assembling an army of more than 1000 men and they were up against the situation where they had to fight. And so the Prophet itis helped to set him gave them the choice he said the the the bay you gave to me and this is specifically to the ansara the the the treaty, or the promise you made to me is that you would defend the inside Medina it didn't actually include here in bed which was outside the city. And so we gave them the choice. Will you fight today or or don't you or you know, are you going to go back and they all agree to fight so they all chose the more difficult path and the poor and when when recounting the story.

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He says that in your hearts, you may have wanted the more comfortable path. But this was what was chosen for them. And what did they get in return? when we when we have to have the harder path, we can look back on situations where, you know, there may have been an easier path that could have come to be, you know, it may, it didn't have to be so hard. I didn't have to get this outcome in such a hard way. And what did they get, though? What did they get because a harder path was chosen for them, they got to be the elite among the elite among the elite, they got to be the people of bed, the special group among the special group of being the Sahaba. And they were promised to be forgiven

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for their past sins and their future sins that people have bedded. And that is what they got for enduring that hardship. And I want to tell you one story that is often you know, not really recounted when we talk about bed. And that is the story of of madness, and who did not join the profit out audience helps them on this expedition. And yet he was still considered among the people of bet. And so what why not? Why didn't he go out with a profit it assaulted him, even though such an important expedition? The reason he didn't is because his wife was ill, his wife was sick. And the Prophet either his salt was said, I'm told him home, I lay her home on a stand for her serve her

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take care of her be the man in her life. And this same language of every Janu Apollo moon on the set is the same language the Prophet it was said i'm used the same word with the same root komaneka stand for her, stay back and take care of your wife, instead of going out with the Prophet for the expedition, that would be bad sapan a law. And so when anyone is, is making claims about the status of women in this faith, keep this one little example in mind. Brothers and sisters, and i and i recount the story. Because so often

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embedded in our hardship are our gens that are just waiting to be discovered. They are already there, you know, as I think yes, mean that has said so many times in tomato cereal straw does not simply mean after hardship, there is ease, but rather even within hardship, there is ease and there is Tafseer that goes both ways that it's both after and within.

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It also includes within that embedded in these hardships are these gems are these moments of closest to Allah are these lessons that you can take with you for the rest of your life. So be on the lookout for these moments and have this hope in Allah have this good opinion of Allah. And I'll and I'll really I'll round this out with the same kind of idea of a formula. And you know, I love the four points that you see and mentioned and actually have four sections as well, four points.

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The formula of suited at Doha abohar, is like the four parts, you know, 444 part formula of what to do, to get out of a rut. And I want to mention one thing, since I haven't already none of the none of the advice you're getting today, or none of the sort of reflections that you're getting today is a substitute for professional mental health support. So that there are two different things right you if you need to see a professional mental health, you know, practitioner, this is not a substitute, of course for that.

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But these four parts, these four steps within sort of Doha is what first the Prophet is South Sudan was feeling restricted in his heart was feeling worried was feeling like he wasn't sure what what it meant that there was no revelation for several months. Some people say up to six months. And so the first thing and sort of to Doha is Allah reassures him that it is not a sign of his anger or of his

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relieving him of his abandonment. And so that's the first thing to keep in mind is if you're going through a difficult time, don't assign a meaning to it. That makes it even worse on yourself where you start to think that it is Allah abandoning you or x or or or a sign of his punishment. Here is the key is, is a hardship a punishment or a purification? The answer is it depends on your response to it. If you respond was sobor and taqwa then it is good for you. And we are told that in the Quran over and over that don't don't assume this is bad for you. In fact, it is good for you. In fact, this was even said about the incident of the the the slander against I Isha Roger law, and I don't

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think it's bad for you, it's actually good for you, and it's talking to the entire community. So don't assume that this is a punishment or a sign of Allah's wrath.

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Assume the best about a lot and respond with sub and that is how it becomes something good for you. So that's the first thing is is for swords to hide reminds him of this. The second part of sort of Doha is that a lot tells the Prophet I sold to them reminds him of all of the times he was there for him in the past, how many you know, I found you, you were

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you were, I'm sorry, the second part is actually to to give him bushrod of a better future. Right, that the future the acida is going to be better than the current reality. And then we'll fast city and have said that this also means he was giving him Bushra have a better future generally, even in the dunya. So have this to fair all in Allah have this optimism that the future will be better than the past because the court and promises that the third part is Allah give us some of the proof. How many times if I had your back in the past, you know, how many times have I have I been there for you, I found you, you you were you didn't know and i guided you, you were poor and I gave you I gave

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you blessings. And so the fourth part then comes in and this is so key. He instructs the Prophet is little to Sam after these three points, to then serve others who are in need, who are in fact perhaps in the same hardship that he used to be in and was saved from. So when you are in this rut, when you are in this situation of hardship, after remembering these three points, look for another human being that you are in a position to help and then help them and I promise you there is nothing more powerful, nothing more powerful, even according to modern psychology, then to serve and to help someone else make an impact in someone else's life. When things are difficult for you. Well, holy,

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holy hell that was suffering. A lot of you are like, Oh,

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geez, that Camilla Harris said that we got for that beautiful talk. I love that that action items of Han Allah, I hope that you guys all take that to heart and Shall I make sure that you take the opportunity, especially during this lesson month, and this is why I'm glad that we're mentioning. Yes, Medina, tv.com, as well during this month is that this is the time where people make their resolutions. This is the time when people make positive change in their lives in the lives of others. So make sure that you as you're navigating your pain or your healing as you're going through the obstacles that you're experiencing in your life as well to make sure that you also take others

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along with you. You share, share the hair, gift it to others as well. inshallah, as part of the experience. And of course, you know, support others who are struggling. actually funny enough. You mentioned in them, I'll use you. Okay, okay, Mila in them, I'll use raw.

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But it's a theme that you have mentioned. That is yes, mean has covered a lot. And I recall that's also mentioned in reclaim your heart, one of your two amazing books that are out right now. And I realized today, that's one of three inshallah that are cut that's coming up in 2021. That was obvious to me. Can you touch a little bit on that? And how you address it in your book as well in reclaiming your heart? Sure, yeah. And it just like Dahlia was saying, so one of the things I think we sometimes have this idea, this, this, this false notion that in our lives, there's going to be good times, right? And where everything is supposed to be good. And then there's going to be bad

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times where everything is bad. So it's almost like we think about life with in this sort of dichotomy of like, black and white, right, all good or all bad. And I think, even for myself, and this is what I write about in my books is that I was a very all or none type of person myself that you can attest to that.

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And then the fact that just, I kind of was like, Okay, if something's going wrong, everything is bad, you know, and, and every and when things are good, that needs to all be good. And and as I think I started to understand that the nature of dunya is not all good, it's not all perfect, but it's also not all bad either. It's not all negative either. So, in fact, when Allah subhanaw taala says, In the mallows, to use RA, he's telling us that with the one hardship there is this general ease, and they do come at the same time, besides coming, you know, after as well, but they come at the same time. So I think that sort of the epiphany that I have, that I'm writing about in the book

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is that, that within every hardship that we go through, we should be looking for the ease as well, because it's always there. It Allah never ever gives us only difficulty, because then that would be hellfire. That's not actually the nature of dunya. Dunya is, is a is a salad. You know, when I was explaining it to my kids, when they were little is I've just explained to them like it's a salad, you know, there's some for example, there were, you know, one of them didn't like bananas, one of them loved bananas, or like strawberries. So it's like, in a fruit salad, there's going to be some things that you don't like, you know, some fruit that you don't like, but then there's going to be

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fruit that you love. But but that's the way life is it's a mix. And so the idea is not to, to focus not to just focus on what's going wrong, but to be able to see the blessings within those difficulties. I think it completely changes the way you look at life, but also changes the way that you respond to challenges.

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Actually, I don't I hope you guys don't mind me getting a little personal. But this is very convenient to have, you know, Michelle, your sister as well on and it says a dolly, I know, you know that, you know guessing which I TV is basically like have se means full like life's work. Basically. I know there's been a lot of big talks and sessions and big, you know, stadiums back when we were allowed to do that. And it was legal, and safe to do series and lectures and one offs. But this is basically an accumulation of stuff that a lot of students have you ever seen. A couple people may have seen on site that has never been available privately online, or exclusively online at all. And

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I'm sure you kind of got to see the behind the scenes of Osada used to mean kind of growing through this process and developing into the person that she is, can you share a little bit about that behind the scenes process of all these, you know, beautiful topics and all this, I'm sure there was struggle, and I'm sure there was reward, and there was helping others through helping herself as well? Can you share a little bit of what that journey was like and watching it from the back end?

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Sure, um, you know, I think something that's really makes us mean unique, and in the world

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of speakers, and there are so many amazing speakers. But yes, man really combines life experience her actual lived life experience with knowledge, and then melts that together to touch people's hearts and to really reach people because it's not theoretical, you know, she doesn't. It's the things she talks about aren't things she's sort of just like read in a book and is, you know, repeating, she's, she's talking about how she navigates her own life and how she advises other people to and it's, it's a lived knowledge, it's a it's an experiential knowledge that she is sharing. And so she's really taken her audience through that journey from from when, you know, she

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became more well known until now, and, and that evolution is, is a real thing. It's not, you know, you're not getting some

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curated, image managed, fake thing. This is this is the real deal. And that's, I think, what makes her information and her teachings, so impactful on people.

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And I'm glad that you mentioned that as well as that, that live knowledge in that and learning from her directly. Because one of the things that's super unique about the poll of the platform of using the jiotv is the fact that you actually get access to this data and actually directly get to kind of have that private one on not one on one, but group private small group interaction, where you can ask questions where you can get that helical style consistency. You know, sometimes it's nice to watch a talk here and there and to get that rush of motivation, and then to kind of be searching for that desperately next time you need it. But I'm hoping that Atlanta you have something consistent to

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look forward to that's live that's actually with a group of people. And if you have a busy schedule, that's okay. And humble, everything's recorded, and it's available to you automatically as well once you've registered, but it's nice to have that access. You know, it's hard sometimes to get access to your speakers and to learn from their lived experiences on a daily or weekly basis. And to actually have that, you know, the experience that your own journey while they're experiencing there, it's I think that's when we get

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Just like military studies at Dahlia for being a little vulnerable, that's when we learned from vulnerability. And a lot of times we put our speakers on a pedestal and we just see them what they are in their public eye, but to have private access and to actually learn from them and get to ask your deeper questions in a format that's more controlled. And that's, you know, with a community that's on the same journey as you that's such a beautiful experience I've handled a lot. Before we jump into, you know, q&a, I know we're gonna have a bit of an open back and forth. I'm really looking forward to that. But I'm sure a lot of you have questions and I know that the chat on

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Facebook is quite buzzing. So I do want to quickly share a little bit of my screen and show you guys what you can look forward to, when you check out this amazing platform in sha Allah. So we'll get right back to you in sha Allah is that a Dahlia and another Yes, me. But I want to quickly hopefully navigate how to share screen on this lovely platform, and hamdulillah and show you guys a little sneak peek of what you can expect inshallah, as well. And I'm actually kind of midway through, I'm watching something as well, I think I'm gonna just exit out of that inshallah, so that you don't see what I'm watching. But this is the actual platform when you register for a membership inshallah, not

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only do you get access to a massive library of work on the topics that I was mentioning here, love and marriage, through some of the books, the work on the books, reclaim your heart and love and marriage, love and happiness that was sad that has come up with over the years, but this series of topics and then scrolling and scrolling and so much different layers of access to these talks, I wish I could just open and show you some but inshallah you'll have plenty of time to binge watch inshallah, as I did when I jumped into the platform as well. And not only do you get access to everything here, but inshallah every single month there's more content that's being added. So you

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have those live weekly q&a is where you get to as you're navigating through the portal, as you're navigating through these tough topics and you have questions, you're able to then actually, you know, ask questions to this other as she's coming on live with you, but you also get access to new content on a monthly basis so that you're not just stagnating, you're constantly growing in the process inshallah. Actually, I heard there's a new course or series being launched just this very Sunday in sha Allah and so there's 15 or so videos I think to expect inshallah, on how to cope and heal believers responds to hardship, the Wakil and reliance on God the day to day struggle

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Subhanallah so there's so much more content that's being consistently launched for you guys. So I'm looking forward to benefiting from this content inshallah as you register as you navigate through the portal and all the new stuff that will continue on with the journey as you're experiencing it as well. So insha Allah I'm going to stop sharing so that you guys can inshallah benefit from it as you're going through the process yourselves and let's jump into part number three for I've lost track as we actually have our both of our panelists inshallah interacting with one another and navigating through our topic today. The obstacles and how to survive and dealing with the challenges

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and obstacles of life inshallah Allah I'm so sorry. Yes mean I'm going to pick on you first. So we've had this other Dalia have her beautiful talk just now inshallah. So I'm gonna pass over the mic to you this and that, and then we'll catch you in a second.

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All right, does that go Okay, so should we, um, I don't know if you want to jump right into that. I know there's a lot of questions if you want to jump in. But But yeah, let's do that. And then we can open it up in Charlotte to discussion in Austria, hundreds of questions. I'm going to just take a few of the amazing ones that I see the top of my head inshallah and you guys can keep take that moment inshallah to drop some questions into the chat right now. So the first question that I see right here is how do we achieve solver it's so difficult, especially when we know the stories of the prophets because they had it all figured out. Please tell me how to practice silver and I will pick

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on you said I used to mean shall it to go ahead and then we'll pick our thoughts as I tell you. So So when when I hear that question, it just brings to mind the a and sort of the national where Allah subhanaw taala is telling us to have sub or addressing the prophesized sentiment and all of us and he says when Massa buka in Nebula so so he he's commanding solder but then he he immediately after that he says and your server will not be accepted by Allah so this is another mistake that we make is that we think that like you know it's all on me this this this this myth of I got this you know what I mean? Like like because I'm so I'm so I'm so tough I'm I'm spiritually tougher I'm so you

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know, I'm religiously tougher I'm so close to Allah that I got this you know what I mean? Like, like like give me all you got I got this that's the most foolish type of attitude one can have. Because if you really look at these prophets, all of them they had the exact opposite reaction, the exact opposite response and that is that like take for example the daughter of the Prophet Mohammed sigh send them well let's kill Neil NFC for for time, he'd say do not leave me to myself, for the blink of an eye. He's not thinking I got this, you know, I'm, I've got my my sub or muscles. You know, so I don't I can do this. You know, he's

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actually asking God do not leave me to myself for the blink of an eye. And if there's anyone who would have been able to got this, it would have been the Prophet Mohammed Salim. But he recognizes he knew that he couldn't do it without Allah. And that's why he says do not leave me to myself for the blink of an eye. And so when Allah is saying have sub, he says why ma sub ruca illa Billah that your sub is not accept by Allah. So when we're trying to be patient, or we're trying to get through a struggle, the biggest mistake we can make is to rely on ourselves is to rely on our own strength to rely on our own sub or even because we have to recognize that sobra only comes from Allah

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subhanaw taala so my advice to you is stop relying on yourself. Stop thinking that the sub is gonna come from inside of you because it doesn't have Sabra only comes from Allah as a gift. So ask Allah That's it. That's it asked a lot. And one thing I just wanted, like a caveat here, but no, be careful about making do us specifically for sub. No, this sounds strange.

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This sounds like Wait, what this like opposite of everything. You're saying? No, it's a very subtle, but important point one time, the prophets I send them one of the companions was asking for sub. And he actually told him don't ask for sub. Because when you ask just for sub in and of itself, like you say everyday, okay, I'm asking for sub master sub, you're essentially asking for hardships. And the reason for that. I know, Facebook.

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The reason for that is this. Imagine that you go to a personal trainer and you say, I want to be strong.

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I want to be strong. Okay, that's great. You want to be strong, but what have you also asked for, you've asked for that trainer to put a lot of weight on you, because that's what makes you strong. So So as a as a footnote, we don't ask Allah Subhana Allah give me sobre just as a thing, although we want somebody in times of hardship, so what's the answer? Well, one thing my teacher taught, taught me is ask Allah Subhana Allah Well, obviously, first and foremost, let me just go back to the Hadith, the prophets, I send them advise that man rather than asking for somebody, he advised him to ask for apphia

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I see it is a comprehensive, like umbrella term that includes safety, well being ease all of these things. So we should always ask for afia Now where does sobra come in sobre is something we should ask Allah subhanaw taala make it easy for me to have sub make it easy. So and I want to emphasize the word ease here, because we can we should be asking for ease we should not be asking for hardships and we should not even just simply be asking for sober because along with that comes a lot of hardships. So essentially it's it's not about asking for for hardships or even for suffering but asking for ease within our difficulties and giving us a sub with ease. Alright, so I know that's

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like a subtle point, but it's very important. And and just recognizing that sobra does not come from us. It's a gift from Allah subhanaw taala so asking Allah to make it easy for us and ask us panatela to make subber easy for us.

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I take back all of the eyes I made just asking Allah for supper I get to read

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your face, your face said it all You were like,

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weekly q&a is just so that I catch myself on these things. And I bet you, we have that as part of guessing which ITV. The next question that I'm going to pick on instead of Dahlia for is what are examples of transcription transgressions that we are not supposed to do when facing trials?

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Well, there are a number of things that we should not be doing with these things. vowels. First of all, there are spiritual transgressions, ones that just have to do with

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our opinion of a law of anger toward a law of disbelief. Some people are driven to disbelief because they're, they're angry or they they've gone through a difficult moment. So those are, you know, clear transgressions, we should not commit on the spiritual level.

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But then there are the way we treat other people. The Prophet is Walter senem, is instructed many times in the poor end to be just even with his enemies, to be just even when he is wronged to be just even with with people who are, are attacking him. So transgressions against people who are wronging us are still transgressions, we have to be just an honest even with those who are wronging us because our how we treat people

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Based on our values, not their values. So for example, the idea that someone for example is,

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is

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slandering you doesn't mean you slander them, you you have every right to defend yourself and, and declare the truth. But it doesn't mean that you then go lie about them. So we can feel very justified to you know, get back at someone we're angry at by any means necessary including lies, including slander, but that is not justified and that is something that we have to be very, very clear about in our minds because the Quran is very clear, it says do not allow the hatred of a people now that could mean their hatred for you, or your hatred for them, cause you to commit injustice because Allah knows us and knows that when we are hateful or when we feel that we are

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being hated on we we can rationalize in our mind, I think and come in and say, they deserve it. You should act on you know, you can transgress against them. That's how dehumanization happens. That's in fact how genocides happen is we justify transgressions, because we demonize another group as bad as they are it does not mean we have the we can never transgress our own values no matter what anyone does.

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I can look around I love you bringing in your experience on the world stage. That's definitely so so so relevant Subhanallah I have so many questions and I know we're running out of time if you guys don't mind, it will take a couple of extra minutes inshallah just so that we can honor a few more questions coming into the chat if that's okay with you. So the idea is that you see, inshallah okay awesomesauce so we'll try our best to try and pick as many as we can. These are not the best special there's so many that you guys have submitted Miller would you immensely for taking such great participation in the experience. The next question that I see that I'm going to pick on you for so

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yes, me this actually reminds me of one of the last of already it's moving so fast. It's reminds me of one of your books actually love and happiness. Someone was talking about their struggles during the month of Ramadan and I've lost their questions upon Allah. Yes, someone is saying it's so difficult when one is alone in this world it really appreciate this talk another Ramadan totally alone. And I really appreciate this community, what would you suggest? Or what would you say to people who are experiencing the month or maybe who have experienced many Ramadan's alone, who've maybe been navigating this journey of life, very isolated from either the community or from other

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people as well? What would be your advice, inshallah, from some of the lessons that we've had from love and happiness?

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So, so Pamela, when when you talk about, like loneliness, and these periods of time where you're alone, I just, it reminds me of many, many of the stories that were told in the Quran. And if you look at these stories, you'll find that there's an underlying theme. That's, that's sort of throughout all the stories, and that is that they all had periods of time, where they were alone, they had, they all had periods of time, of loneliness. And that really teaches me and I think it's a reminder to everyone, that these are some of the phases of life, but they are temporary. And I think that that, you know, the fact that everything in this life is temporary is is both a cause of, of

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sadness, but also a cause of joy. Because although, you know, when I when we say nothing in this life lasts, right, it's it's it's a reality of dunya. But it is both comforting and saddening at the same time. Because it's it's saddening, when you have good things, and they don't last forever, right. But at the same time, it's also comforting because when things are hard, when you are lonely, when you are alone, when you're going through difficulty when you're in pain, that also doesn't last. And it is by it's like one of the it's one of the it's one of the sunon of Allah subhanaw taala of this in this dunya is that nothing less not pain, not not loneliness. And so when you're

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going through that experience, I think, number one, is rec is really holding, holding tight to that concept that this is just temporary and this is just a phase in my journey. And that's and that's a fact. And and the other thing to look at is that the the the most beloved to Allah subhanaw taala, the most beloved people to Allah also went through times of loneliness. And they also went through times of, of feeling isolated, and when you look at medium it has to them you know, I think that in sort of medium when it talks about her her pain, not just her physical pain when she was in labor, but her her psychological and emotional pain. She was in so much pain, that she said, Oh that I had

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died before this and was forgotten. I mean, we don't always talk about the pain that that

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That the profits and those nearest to Allah went through she was the most, you know, she was the best woman, you know, ever, ever, you know, created by Allah subhanaw taala she was she was, she was one of the four perfect women as the prophets, I send them and explain. And yet she went through such isolation and such pain when she was there giving birth, she was alone. And she knew what her people were going to do when they saw her with a child, you know, and, and the pain that she went through alone. And the and the emotional pain that she went through in that moment, so much that she was she was saying, Yeah, late and he meant to come, we'll come to Napoleon men say yeah, like, it's

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a very, very strong statement that I wish that I had, I had, I had died before this, and I was forgotten. So so so we should never like, think that like, you know, I don't know that being religious means that your your life's just gonna be Zen. And it's just going to be like, you know, you're always going to be floating on clouds and hovering, and everything's going to be really, really, like, you're always going to be like, serene, because it's not the case. You know, and, and, and, and the people who are closest to us, that have went through periods of pain and went through periods of isolation went through periods of loneliness, and they went through periods of sadness,

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when you look at jacobellis, where, where we know that he had so much grief when he lost his his son use if I sent him, and that we know that he he lost his vision from from his grief from his crying. And he says, He says NEMA. ESCO, Bessie was the Allah that I complain about my suffering and sadness to God. So So yeah, they went through difficulties, they went through pain, but I want to just kind of end with this because this was something that struck me really, really hard. This Ramadan, specifically when I was reading the Quran, and that was how much Allah subhanaw taala talked about healing the hearts of the believers. I was shocked that how much there was a discussion about that,

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because I think that we think that, you know, if you're religious, then you're never going to like, feel bad stuff in your heart, you know, but yet, Allah subhanaw taala specifically says, for example, that the people of genda, he will remove the little from their hearts, like a limb is like, it's like, it's like, it's like this, it's like anger. It's, it's, it's, it's something that's not positive, it's the pain that we sometimes hold in our hearts because of being wronged. Right, and unless panatela specifically mentions that that thing that that's part of being in dunya, called Lin, it will be removed when azana it's almost like actually be ripped out of the hearts of the

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believers. And then in other places, Allah talks about healing the hearts of the believers, that after because this life is hard, you know, and your heart goes through a lot. But but just recognizing I just think that it's like it's very healing that Allah subhanaw taala acknowledges these trials, these psychological and emotional trials that we do go through and that believers go through. And that one of the the rewards of genda is that that's washed out of the heart that's removed from the heart, and the heart doesn't have that that remnants of the pain from this life.

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Somehow Allah Subhan Allah, I'm like specialists. I noticed that actually, the timeliness is really kind of area as well. Just this Sunday, inshallah I know why MTP is going to be launching the seeking solace series inshallah. So like, I think 1516 videos completely navigating a lot of those tough topics, especially those who are feeling the pain of loneliness, or I know there's questions about loss or hurt, or especially navigating that during a month where you're supposed to feel that connection to God, you need to invest in that healing as well before you can get to where you need to be. And that they go hand in hand in the process. And I think that's what's lovely. I see the

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topics that that kind of the way that they they balance, there's love and marriage, and then there's divorce, and then there's, you know, you know, gaining a man and then there's, there's such a balance of topics because you need to take care of both ends. You can't just invest in one or the other part of yourself. There's domestic domestic violence, and then there's spirituality subpanel, that's available through the experience. We'll take one more question. And shall I'm going to pose that to you who said that Dahlia, and this one's a great one as well. This is the person's asking, how does one find out it sincerely love a lot. It's easy to be grateful for all the blessings and to

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fear him. But how do you sincerely love something that you cannot understand? What are your thoughts on this value? Well, you should try to understand him or at least get to know him better. The way you cannot love someone you don't know you can't love something you don't know. And Allah teaches us about himself through his speech through the Quran, and through his 99 names. So his 99 attributes studying those is one of the ways that you can level law. I mean, there are amazing podcasts just dedicated to the 99 years old law and I

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recommend those highly, because they will teach you about the manifestations of a law in your everyday life that you may have never thought about. You know al Karim Al Rahim and Haman, the the, the one who is caring for you, the one who is gifting you, the one who is loving you, all of these things, you when you start to see you actually will start you know when you learn about the nine nine Names of Allah, you will start to see how your your life and the events of your life and your experiences are Allah revealing Himself to you that this is when he was showing me the side of him that is allocating. Now I understand. This is when he was showing me the side of him that is more

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efficient, the one who will delay things. And this is what he showed me the sight of him when he was giving me a gift and what happened, and so forth. And when you tune yourself into that you will see a lot in your in everything and you will not be able to keep yourself from falling in love with Allah and I'm serious. This is really how it is. So get to know Allah through his 99 names. And through the reflection of his speech in the Quran.

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I was so dumbfounded i didn't i forgot how to find the unmute button. Allah just come along here for that, especially during the month of Ramadan when we're trying to find that reconnection and that somehow that just reminded me on some of the best the eyes, that I've ever been able to make an end if this is a month of connection to Allah and you can't find that connection, if you don't start search for it for it and you don't seek the knowledge of Allah subhanaw you're making the odd your entire life to this being and you don't know him that's so difficult to have that you can if you don't have if you haven't invested in that journey, and it's nice, it's lovely, especially if you've

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been going through difficulty and sometimes that taints your connection, and that sometimes harms your relationship with Allah, it's beautiful to invest in that healing and to take care of, of your relationship or so. You know, you know how so Dahlia was saying something that that reminded me of this and you as well, is that actually sometimes the reason why Allah subhanaw taala puts us in difficult situations is so that we can get closer to him. And that's actually a something that's repeated again and again in the Quran. When Allah subhanaw taala talks about trials and tribulations. He says again, Laila Homura, Jeroen in one area in order for them to come back to us,

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I let him your turn around in order for them to humble themselves. And so Allah says the uma, high Salah levy and Emma know that Allah purifies the believers. So all of these reasons, all of them are actually, they all boil down to one thing, and that is your relationship with God. And so Allah gives us trials, for the very reason of, of strengthening our relationship with God coming back to God purifying ourselves and relying on God, because that's the thing. You know, when you have like a child, and they're totally helpless, they might not realize that they're helpless, you know, when toddlers are just like, they'll just run away, right? They won't really realize that they're there

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indeed, of the parent, what until they're scared, until until something scares them until there's thunder, or there's a loud sound, or there's a stranger, or any kind of thing that they understand as danger, then what do they do? They'll run right back to the mom or to the dad. And so that's just human nature, that's fitrah that the human being is like that child where we run away from God, when we feel like we're we don't need him, right? When we feel like, oh, we're safe. And we're self reliant. You know, these kids who are like, they could be, you know, two years old, but they think that they're self reliant, you know what I mean? They just live on their own. But the reality is,

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that's an illusion. And they don't recognize that illusion until they feel unsafe until they feel danger until they feel a weight, that's a stranger, all of a sudden, once the stranger shows up, they run back to the parent, once there's something that scares them. So that's how we are as human beings is that the it's the thing that shakes us, that pushes us back to Allah subhanaw taala. Or at least that's the design. And that's what Allah subhanaw taala wants. So so using our difficulties to get back to Allah subhanaw taala that means we got the point of the entire point, the entire objective of the difficulty. And finally, I would just say, like Dahlia was saying about knowing

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Allah, but also speaking to Allah that how important do i is in building that relationship? Because, you know, the question was like, how do I, how do I love learn to love Allah when I don't see him? Well, the question is, do you know him like that? He said, But second Do you talk to him is is there a conversation that you have with him? throughout? Imagine that you've been talking to Allah, your entire life, you know, like 4050 6070

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Yours Are you not going to feel close connection to someone you've been talking to that, that there's no one else in your life that you're going to really talk to that that long and for that many years. So yes, you will build but it but it has to be a consistent two way, two way relationship, right? You You read about who Allah is, but you also talk to him a lot into a lot and calling out to him on a lot, it's a lifelong journey you have dipped my points on how not this is a point where you've been guided to have access to knowledge to be spoiled and hamdulillah with all that we have out there. But it's important to focus yourself in that journey as you get closer to

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him and as you navigate your own struggles, in your own experiences, inshallah, and that's why it's so awesome to have a resource that's focused that gives you the best parts of both both sides of the coin at home that you're gonna flip and you gotta win both and hamdulillah in the sense that you get to take care of yourself and through that process you get to grow closer and closer to Allah and benefit yourself in the beam that hadn't been enough for that. Does that come off? Here it was that a Dahlia and others for gifting us your time and gifting us this talk. I think this is a moment of realization for a lot of us Mashallah into the hundreds of you who've been staying consistent and

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attending with us if you want to continue this journey inshallah join us on the other side sign up for it yes media Jaya tv.com and shall join hundreds of other students who've been benefiting from the student portal who've been interacting with one with each other on a weekly basis and who've been getting treats every single month with all the lovely new content and actually this is perfect timing because Ramadan is with us so a handle you get the extra edge of investing yourself investing in knowledge and this will inshallah I think there's a yearly membership as well that will carry you from this Ramadan inshallah to the next one. So you don't have to have any pause whenever you need

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that that support that community whenever you need that lift in your Ian and your spirits and Fela seek out the benefit of the resource of yes and protecting you come does that come over to both of you who saw this mean for creating this and for making it available to the community and so Dahlia for being of course for support system and doing all the other work that you do on hamdulillah for the community on the world stage a lot except from you both bless you and protect you I mean, I mean for the rest of this Ramadan for the rest of your lifetime in Europe, it's been amazing hosting for you all apologies for going a little bit past but I'm sure nobody minded that and humbled Allah,

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those of you who are watching with us and insha Allah we will catch you soon on the other side with all the amazing content that we have available for you and so inshallah I think we'll end it off here. Does that smell up everyone? Ramadan Mubarak to those of you who are joining us for the first time here and inshallah we'll catch you over the rest of the next couple of weeks in sha Allah inside the portal. Take care everyone I sit down well alikum warahmatu Allahi wa bedika y equals salla Allahu wa barakato

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