Towards a Blissful Marriage #1

Yasir Qadhi


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The speakers discuss the importance of protecting others from the virus and the upcoming "by the way" and "by the way" series about marriage and family. They also discuss the creation of two human beings, the use of the word "by the way" in Arabic language, and the importance of finding happiness in marriage. The speakers emphasize the need for effective marriage and provide examples of positive and negative outcomes of marriage. They also discuss the importance of avoiding double-stuff marriages and the role of the Prophet sallavi Alayhi wa sallam in shaping culture and bringing peace.

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I will make special to offer them. Dr. Nabila who's one of our main doctors with their pet clinic her father passed away. And three brothers of our community brother OS of eidolons, and Yasser, their father Sajjad he has passed away. So we make dua to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to forgive those that have passed on, to bless them to make their graves vast place of Jannah to forgive their sins to exalt the ranks and to give silver to the families. We also have a special request we have in our ranks brother Morson undecide very active in the in our epic volunteers, him and his entire family are suffering from COVID So we ask Allah for a speedy and a complete recovery. On top of

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this, the Joomla Alpha schedule has been modified slightly now that the school season is in so we will be having a third hotspot especially for our teenagers and our youth who are not able to attend because they're going to be in school. So we're going to be having a third hotbar at 4:30pm. So this football is intended for the youth and in case one of you is not able to attend the earlier two so 4:30pm for this entire semester duration inshallah Tada it will be particularly for those in high school or those in college who are not able to attend the earlier two and as usual we have a strict mask policy all of you are requested to maintain your masks and make sure they're over your nose and

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your mouth for the entire duration of the hotbar JazakAllah here

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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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if I can ask all the brothers to move forward, we don't want people sitting in the back so if you have any space Inshallah, please help yourselves to the front as much as possible.

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Alhamdulillah All praise is due to Allah subhana huzzah Allah, who created everything in pairs. He is the rub of the world, and the master of all of our affairs. He demonstrated his power through the perfection of creation. And he manifested His knowledge through the reality of predestination. He created death and life as a trial for us all and to test and to separate the pious from the wicked and to select the best. So it's about Allah, the One to whom belongs all power and majesty. And may Salah 10 Salam be upon Mohammed the murky and the Hashimi as to what follows. Allah subhana wa Taala reminds us to be conscious of and when he says in the Quran Yeah, you hola Dina. I'm an otaku. Allah

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haka Ducati. Walter Mouton. illa Anta Muslim Moon dear Muslims

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have the greatest blessings and gifts that Allah subhanho wa Taala has given to all of mankind, the Muslim of them and the non Muslim of them have the greatest blessings is that a family and in sha Allah, Allah today and a series of future harvests, we will be talking about the family and the blessings of the family and how to have a blessed family in light of the Quran and the Sunnah. So today will be the first in a series of buzz about this topic. And today in sha Allah Allah in particular, we will begin with the blessings of the spouse. Now much has been spoken about when it comes to the rights of the spouse to xo Jane, but I hope inshallah Tada in this series to go beyond

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just the legal and the technical terminologies and to think of the spirit of marriage and to think about how the Quran and the Sunnah and our human experiences tell us to live a better life. And let us begin from the very beginning. Let us begin from the story of the beginning of the creation, because even in that story, there are lessons for marriage. How beautiful is it dear Muslims, that when Allah created the first human being, he didn't leave him single. When Allah created our father Adam, as soon as our father Adam was created from Adam, Our father was blessed with a spouse. And our mother Hawa was gifted to Adam, even before the two of them were told to enter Jannah even

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before Allah told Adam to enter Jannah Allah had created a spouse for Adam. Then Allah said, Yeah, Adam was gone until was ojochal Jana? Oh, Adam, you and your wife, the two of you live together in Jana. It is as if even Jana is not Jana, without your other half. The two of you together live in Jannah. And Allah subhanho wa Taala showed us in the creation story, that our spouses are from us and within us, Allah azza wa jal did not create the creation from a new Adam was created from a new Adam was created from clay Hawa could have been created from clay, how work could have been fashioned as well, but to demonstrate the fact that men and women bow buku men bow as the Quran

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says, to demonstrate that the man is from the woman and the woman is from the man. Because if Allah had wanted to, he could have fashion Hawa, like he fashioned Adam, but no to demonstrate that the two of them are from and to each other. Allah created Hawa from Adam, which either mean has Ojha, and from him, he created the spouse, and ALLAH SubhanA wa Tala mentions in the Quran as well, that how WA and Adam lived in Jannah, for a period of time, then what happened happened, and the two of them came down to this earth together, put in that bill to Omaha, Jimmy, the both of you come down together. So Subhanallah brothers and sisters, think about this story, which is the first marriage

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and all of the creation, because it is the marriage of our mother and our father, Adam and Hawa, think about their lives, we do not have stories of their time on Earth. But I want you after the hood was over when you're alone by yourself, I want you to imagine and visualize two human beings with no companionship other themselves, without knowing any aspect of technology, not having even the knowledge of how to light a fire, not having knowledge of how to harvest seeds and plants. Think of those two human beings once upon a time they were in Jannah, eating and drinking and enjoying Jannah then instantaneously they are on this earth struggling and toiling. They don't even know how

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to build a shelter. They don't even have anything other than the clothes Allah azza wa jal sent them down upon. But you see, Allah knew that the two of them would be on Earth. So it is as if ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala prepared for the difficult times ahead, that the two of them had each other. They had no other human being. They had no knowledge of how to live on this earth. They were the first human beings but ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada created them for each other. Can you imagine the difficult times they would have lived in? Can you imagine every single day in our struggling where to eat how to survive after having been in Jannah? But Allah azza wa jal wanted to show mercy to our father

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Adam, he didn't leave him alone. And that story of the very first marriage it is as if it is a microcosm of all marriages. It is as if Allah subhanho wa Taala is showing us divine wisdom. They were created together. They worshipped Allah in gender together, they brought down on earth together, they repented together

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They lived the most beautiful days together and they lived the most difficult days together. It is as if Allah is saying through the thick and through the thin through the through the difficulty through the easy through the ups and through the downs. It is the spouses that comfort one another. This is the wisdom This is the goal of why Allah subhanho wa Taala created us in pairs. We all understand that if Allah had one to two, we wouldn't be in these pairs we all understand that this is of the divine gifts that the Quran explicitly mentions multiple times. The Quran asks us to think about the fact that you created us in male and female halacha XO Jane is dakara will unfair. He

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created you in tuzo. Jane in two pairs, the male and the female this is of the Ayat of Allah of the miracles of Allah in Surah Tarun the verse that is recited in every single marriage whatever every time somebody gets married the hottie recite this verse because it is related to marriage, but it is a verse that allows us to think and to reflect women aiya tea and Hanukkah comb men and fusi come as larger, and of the signs of Allah of the miracles of Allah. Allah calls marriage of his miracles. Think about that. Do you know what an IRA is? Allah calls the Quran and if Allah calls the camel that was sent to the people of Saudi and if this is a miracle, when you look at it, you are

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astounded at the magnificence of Allah that's an ayah. To look at an ayah is astonishing. an ayah demonstrates the power of Allah, the Mercy of Allah, the Qudra of Allah, that's what an IRA is. And Allah says, and of His ayat is the miracle of marriage. Think about that. Think about that. We take it for granted because obviously, we all are in a world of marriages, we're born from a marriage, we are married. This is how we live, but Allah is saying just like the sun, just like the moon don't take for granted. These are Hyatts. So to marriage is an iron woman IRT he and Hunter kala comb Minh and fusi. Come as Roger of his miraculous signs is that he created for you. Allah doesn't benefit if

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we're in two genders or one doesn't matter to Allah. But Allah wanted to benefit us. Allah wanted to make things easy for us. Holla kala Quran, it is a gift to you. This is for us that Allah created us in male and female Allah created us husbands and wives Hunter color calm, it's a gift to you to make things easy for you color color calm men and fusi come from you. And we spoke about this before from you. We are not alien species. Hawaii was not created separate. No created for you from you. created for you from you. Holika lagoon Minh and fusi come and of course the reality here is to demonstrate as the Quran says BOW and BOW the both of you are from the both of you. Men are from men and women

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and women are from men and women. We are not alien species. We are the same and yet we are complementary, Haleakala comin and physical as larger the term Zoji by the way, it literally means pair in the Arabic language, the term xojo It means pair, it is as if the two are meant to be together. You talk about a pair of shoes, you're talking about a pair of something, literally, it's as if the husband and wife were intended to be together. That's what Zoji means. So Allah says, Hello coder comm men and fusi calm as watch and then he tells us why. What is the Wisdom, liter school new la ha, the word second. In the Arabic language, primarily the first thing that comes to

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mind of our our brothers is a house. Second is a house. And Allah uses the term here for marriage. Because your marriage is your house, your marriage is your house. If you build your marriage, you have built your house. And if you have destroyed your marriage, you have destroyed your house. The term second literally means the house that you live in. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Lita, schooner, la ha, the same route from building a house is used for a marriage because this is the essence of marriage far more important than your physical second, far more important than the building and the mortar and the bricks of your house is the love inside the house. You can have a

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house built on marriage of love even if you don't have a physical house. Adam and Hawa did not have a house for Allah knows how long they didn't even know how to build a house. them and how Why did not have a house but they had a second of marriage. Yet there are those who have magnificent palaces, but they do not have second inside they do not have households built upon love and upon marriage. Lita, schooner, la hub, also one of the meanings of second as well and sukoon As we're all aware of is Sakina tranquility one of the meanings of second is peace. Lita, schooner, la ha So ponder over this point to your brothers and sisters. We are being told it is as if the world is a

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very difficult place. It is as if the world is full of problems.

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stress, grief, anxiety, and then we have a spouse and in that spouse we will find comfort, we will find peace we will find tranquility Lita school la ha, the world gives you a lot of problems. But when you have a loving spouse, when you have a spouse that cares about you and you care about him or her when your marriage is solid, then inshallah to Allah, the problems of this world are manageable, but when your second is being destroyed, when your marriage is crumbling, when you don't have happiness inside the house, then as we all know, all of the happiness outside the house will not make you happy. That's what Allah is saying. Lita, schooner, la ha your real Sakina will be found in

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your spouse. The real happiness is the happiness of marriage and family. If you have a blessed family, a blessed marriage, then inshallah finances everything else, they come and go, but you will live a good life. But if you have all the money in the world, but your marriage is crumbling, your children are not happy with you. Well then of what uses all of that. This is what Allah is saying, of the wisdoms of marriage of the wisdoms of having a spouse, Lita school la ha to find comfort to find happiness to find peace and tranquility within your spouse and this is something you need to find you need to put in the effort it doesn't it's not already there. You have to work on your

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marriages and inshallah in the future, because we'll be talking a little bit about how to work on those marriages later school ha ha. And then Allah azza wa jal says something amazing. We've heard this verse all the time, brothers and sisters, but look at this knocked out look at this interesting point here, what you're either vain or come my word that and what Rama and he has placed between you love and tenderness. Notice here, Allah ascribes love to himself. And Allah says He is the one that has blessed you to have that love. Literally Allah takes ownership of the love of the marriage. And Allah says, I am the one that has made that love and your hearts. Notice this is the shut off. This

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is the dignity that Allah gives you that love this is not to love to be embarrassed about this is not to love to hide. This love is a divine gift from Allah. This love is a divine blessing that Allah puts in the Quran, what your Anabaena coma what that and what Allah has placed love between you and Allah has placed tenderness, mawa and Rama mawatha is a love that is overpowering, and Rama as we know is tenderness and mercy. The both are in the spouse, the both are in the good spouse, the righteous spouse, and that blessing is ascribed to Allah subhanho wa taala. You know this emotion of love Wallah he the world knows this emotion of love, of what, of what what is the goal of poetry,

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except love? What is the goal of all of these movies except this love? What is the goal of all of these romance novels except love, that feeling of love is something that all of us cherish all of us, we understand it and Allah says, when it occurs within a marriage, it is my gift to you, it is my gift unto you what your other beings come my word that and what our brothers and sisters a gift that is from Allah, should we not cherish it? Should we not protect it? Should we not work to sustain it? Allah is saying this is my gift to you. What that what does that mean to us? It means we need to thank Allah for it. We need to cherish and make sure that that gift is not taken away what

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you're either vain or come my word that and Warhammer Subhanallah we are all see this reality. As I said, it's a human reality. That's why the poets write their poetry and script writers wrote to write their movies we all know this reality, that powerful feeling of love. Two strangers come together, they have not been raised together. They are not biologically related. And yet their love is the most powerful love the most tender love. It is that love that is the love that everybody knows and cherishes. And Allah says, you know that miracle, I gave it unto you only when it occurs within a marriage the way that it should, it is a gift from Allah is existing outside, it is not

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that type of gift. This is the gift between husband and wife which either been my word that and what Rama in the FIE radical. Tin, Allah begins, that of his many miracles is the miracle of marriage. Then Allah says in this are many, if not just one, in the miracle of marriage are many miracles. Allah azza wa jal makes marriage not just one in a few Vatika Iots. In this are many signs, The Omen Yetter for Quran, to those who think to those who ponder, the more you think about the miracle of husband and wife, the more you think about the miracle of family, the more you will appreciate the blessings that ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala has given unto us now of course brothers and sisters, with

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this blessing comes responsibility. And this is where insha Allah Allah, I'll be giving future hookbaits about this reality of responsibility, but today I wanted to just open up the topic to mention this beautiful

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institution known as marriage, and to underscore that it is a divine gift that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tala has given us. Now, as I said, brothers and sisters, many husbands and gurus, they concentrate on the technical and the legal aspects of the rights of the husband and the rights of the wife. And that has a role. It has a place, we must be educated about the OIC of this, OCE and the xojo and inshallah to Allah, there's plenty online to tell you about the legal and film issues. But I want to mention one point, dear brothers and sisters, especially dear husbands, no marriage is going to flourish. If you're interested in the bare minimum legal rights that is due to the other. No

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marriage is going to flourish. If you're looking at the technical definitions of the law, a marriage is based upon sacrifice and love, and not based upon the minimalistic expectations, the books of Fick are not what you turn to, to how to have a happier marriage. That is when there's difficulties, what is the technical issues? Yes, that's legal stuff, it should be done. But to have a happy marriage, you need to move beyond the minimal requirements, you need to move beyond the OIC and to ask yourselves, what can I do to make this marriage flourish. And as I said, In sha Allah, Allah will be talking about this in our future hot button topics. But I wanted to just mention one point

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before we move on in future hood was one point, and that is your brothers and sisters. And now I'm addressing those of you that have been married for 510 15 2050 years. I'm addressing those of you that have been married for a number of years. And you understand that marriage has its ups and downs, you understand that marriage does have its sweet points. But yes, it also has its negatives as well, I speak to you, especially those of you that are struggling, those of you that might not be in the types of marriages, you think were what you imagine when you were young and single. I'm speaking to all of you and I say every single marriage every single marriage insha Allah hooter

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Allah. If the two parties are sincere, it can be salvaged and saved. This is of the biggest blessings that Allah has promised us in the Quran. Our scholars mentioned, the most optimistic verse when it comes to marriage in the Quran, is the verse in Surah Al Baqarah. When Allah says in Judea is law when you are filthy Allah Who by in the Houma Surah, Nisa, and you read that is law when you are filthy Allah Who by you know Huma, if the two of them want to make peace, husband and wife, if the two of them want to make things work, Allah will bring about reconciliation between them. This is not just cheap slogans or with a biller. This is a divine promise, dear husband and dear wife. It

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is a divine promise to all of you. Allah has made a hard and fast rule and when Allah makes a rule, there are no exceptions. Allah azza wa jal has said in UD DA is la han, if the husband and wife want to make things work, you are filthy Allah who by now Houma, Allah will bring about tofield between them. All that is required is sincerity. That's it. That's it, you come to the table with a sincere heart, I want to make our marriage work. But there has to be one other condition. The other side also has to come with that condition. If the both of you have that condition, if the both of you come and you say you know what, we're having problems. We all couples have problems, but I want to

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make this marriage work and the other spouse says the same thing. Then good news Glad Tidings Bashara, Allah has guaranteed that your marriage is going to flourish. And subhanAllah there's other optimistic verses about marriage as well. Brothers and sisters, we must have a positive attitude. Let me give you one other optimistic verse that will Allah had this verses really very profound, very mind boggling. If you think about it, it's a technical topic and I have to introduce it a little bit. Allah azza wa jal talks about the laws of divorce maybe when we'll talk about the laws of divorce. And Allah mentions one of the rules of divorce that after you give Talaq you say the

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divorce when reconciliation fails when the marriage process you think is over, you give the Tala Allah makes a hard and fast rule. That rule is the husband and wife must live together in the same house for the period of their ADA for three months. Husband and wife are going to live under the same roof. This is after the husband says divorce. This is after the first and second potluck for three months. Allah says in the Quran la 200 Johan number you member you to hin wala Hello Jana. Do not expel them from their houses, neither should they leave by the way footnote here. Notice, Allah says to the men do not expel your wife from her house law to rejuvenate me booty in. Allah calls the

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word the house, the wife's house, even though technically, generally speaking, who owns the house in most societies and cultures who paid for the house and most societies and cultures? I'm not talking about dual income, but I'm not generally speaking in most of human history who purchased the house with their money. It was the husband correct Yet Allah says

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do not expel the wife from her house law to create you Hoonah member you take in it is as if Allah is saying house isn't just money house isn't just legal ownership, you built a life together that is her house as well don't destroy it so easily. Allah ascribes the house to her, even though ownership is his to indicate that there is something beyond the technicalities, the point being, Allah says, do not expel them from their houses, neither should they leave. Then notice this verse, By the way, when is this verse applicable at the very end of the end, when the marriage has one final thread then is going to snap and the marriage is over? Literally one thread left for luck has been given

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three months are there then what does Allah say? Listen to this brothers and sisters and memorize this verse, lottery law, Allah Allah, you're ready to buy the ticket umbra. Subhan, Allah Subhana Allah, Allah says, How do you know Lanta de How do you know? Perhaps Allah azza wa jal will bring about a new affair between the two of them a new manner that will bring them together la tierra de De La La Ilaha. You had to buy in the Hama umbra. Perhaps Allah might bring the two of them back together again, at the very end of the marriage, and Allah says Don't give up hope. Do not give up hope you do not know Perhaps Allah will bring them back together again. If this is a verse that is

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applicable when the Tanakh has been given and the three month ADA is in place, and the wife is about to leave. And Allah says how do you know Do you know the future? Can you control the hearts of men and women? Do you know animals? If you do not know that Allah Allah Perhaps Allah will bring about a new reconciliation between them? If this is the optimism at the very end of the marriage, then do your brother and sister inshallah your marriage is not that bad inshallah your marriage is not at that stage. If we're supposed to be optimistic at that stage, then how about when marriages have their ups and downs, arguments and love? This is the reality of marriage when that is the case. Then

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we approach with a positive attitude, we think the best thoughts and we put our trust in Allah Subhana Allah to Allah and Inshallah, as I said, in the future, we'll be giving more specific mechanisms and advice about how we can preserve and protect our marriages. May Allah subhana wa Tada bless me and you within through the Quran, and may make us of those who is versus they understand and applies halal and haram throughout our lifespan. Ask Allah's forgiveness he was will ask him for his liver, food and ramen.

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Alhamdulillah All praise is due to Allah, the One and the unique he attends that we worship, and it is His blessings that we seek. He is the Lord of the oppressed, and he answers the call of the week. Dear Muslims, the reality of marriage is that every single marriage has its ups and its downs. It's good and it's bad. It's arguments and it's peace. It's love and yes, even it's hate. This is the reality of marriage. And if Allah azza wa jal had wanted to create a marriage that has no negativity, no fighting, no anger, no bickering, he would have done so in the marriage of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and our mother Khadija and her mother Aisha, he would have done

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that. But we learned from the serum, we learn from the books of Hadith. Frankly, we learn from the Quran, what is Surah Abu Surah Tala go read it. We learned from the Quran, that even our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and our mothers, there was some back and forth. Now I want to ask you why, why, if Allah had wanted to, he could have made our Prophet sallallahu either sent his marriage foolproof watertight, not to single argument not to single issue. Of course he could have. But then if he did, so, where would be the role model? How could we relate? How can we learn anything? If our profit system became an angel, if our profit system and our mothers became angelic? Where is the

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role model for us? So Allah azza wa jal demonstrated that even the best marriage, even the most perfect marriage, you're gonna have some big rings and that's normal, nothing wrong with it, nothing wrong, it is human nature, and many are the episodes of the syrup that demonstrate this, but to give you one simple example, which also has an element of humor to it, that inshallah we can all benefit from it is reported in the Muslim Imam Muhammad, it is reported in the Muslim that once in the early days of Medina, so this is when the Prophet says him and Aisha were you know, newlyweds, right. So relatively early in this era. Abu Bakr came to visit his daughter, Isha. And as he was standing

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outside the door, he heard issues voice, little the Allahu anha, raising high and rebuking the prophets of Allah center for something getting angry.

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at something, he heard his daughter's voice in a loud manner argumentative, speaking against something we don't know the details we don't need to know. But you know, happens between husband and wife. He knocked on the door and the process and allowed him in. And after saying salaam he immediately rushed to his daughter Aisha this his daughter. And he says, Yeah, I've been to middleman. Oh, daughter of own middleman. How dare you raise your voice against the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. By the way. When the father is angry, he calls the children, the mothers children.

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And when the mother is angry, he calls the children, the Father's children. The mighty beta here.

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A worker says you have been to own middleman, or daughter of own middleman and Aisha has been Debbie Booker. But now he's not happy at Ayesha. So he says this is from your mother. This is not from my side. So he says oh, Binta on middleman. How dare you raise your voice against the voice of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Subhanallah We as husbands? Do you not think if the process and wanted to he could have silenced? Do you not think if Allah had one to do we would have revealed to the wives of the process and do not raise your voices. But that would be unreal. It would be unrealistic. It would be ungentlemanly. Our Prophet system is sitting quiet. And Isha is getting

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irritated for a natural reason. It's human nature, nothing wrong with it. She's asking or whatever it might be. We don't know the details. But Abu Bakar as a man cannot bear to see anybody raise his voice against the voice of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, what is allowed for the women folk. It is not allowed for the men for no men who would dare raise their voices. But this is our mother. This is the wife of the Prophet Celeste. And she is saying what she is saying. And so in his anger, Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Allah, he kind of lost his temper, and it is as if perhaps he raised his hand maybe to you know, discipline. And again, in that culture, the father would discipline the daughter

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and the husband whether this is the way it was, so he raised his hand SubhanAllah. We learn in the Hadith, as soon as he raised his hand, the prophets have stood up and came between Abubaker and Aisha Subhanallah you're not going to hit my wife Subhan Allah, He came between Abu Bakar and I should have the Allahu Allah to protect Aisha right after Aisha was rebuking him. Think about the sin. Now, the hand is raised the process was there, what's going to happen? Obviously, oh, because hand goes down. He feels embarrassed. He excuses himself and he walks away to calm down. And the prophecies have now turns to Isha. And notice here, he's breaking the ice. He's now diffusing the

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tension. After all of this anger that has happened, he is diffusing the tension. This is the clap of the process. And he says, Don't you see how I defended you against that man? Don't you see how I defended you against that man, meaning after all that you've done, I'm still going to defend you. And they began talking back and forth until ovoca sadiya, calm down, he came back again. He knocked on the door he entered in and the two of them were laughing and smiling to the heck they were laughing and smiling back to normal. And then he says apologizing, yeah, rasool Allah rasool Allah, allow me to enter into your times of peace, as I entered in doing your times of war together Subhan

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Allah, allow me to now participate during your times of peace feasts and Nicoma as I participated, when the two of you are battling one another, so our Prophet system smiled and said, yes, indeed, we'll let you come in yesterday, we'll let you come in. This was his excuse and apology. My point being your brothers and sisters in these anecdotes in these incidents, this is what the humanity of our professors enemies. This is where we learn role models. Yes, every once in a while a husband or wife might get irritated might raise their voice, it is the reality of being human. But the goal is not that you have a marriage in which there's no fighting, no raising of the voice, no anger. No,

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that's impossible. The goal is that that is the exception. And the rule is that they're laughing together, the rulers that are protecting one another as our Prophet sallallahu Ali, who was selling them did and that is insha Allah to Allah the goal that all of us can strive for, it is inshallah something we'll be talking about in the future hood business. Well, dear Muslims the norm, and the goal is that your marriage brings more Sakina and more Rama and yes, there's gonna be some tension, there's gonna be some downs. It is what it is. Our Prophet system had an entire month where he slept in the masjid. We know this because of marital tensions, that is the reality of life. But in all of

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his years of marriage, that only happened once only happened once. So yes, sometimes the situation becomes tough, but the goal, the goal is that the positives far outweigh the negatives. And the goal is that the love and the mercy is what it should be. And we ask ALLAH SubhanA which Allah to make all of our marriages like this Allama in Edina aminu. Hola. Hola. Hola. Yomi them been in la oferta wala Hammond Illa for Raja wala Dana Illa call data while marulan Illustra feta whether I see Ron Illa yourself to Allah ma fille

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