Ramadan 2022 – The Manners of The Believers #01 – Are Manners Inherent or Acquired

Yasir Qadhi

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My Ramaḍān series has begun alḥmadulillah!

This year, I will be doing a series entitled, “The Manners of the Believer,” and the goal will be to educate ourselves regarding the noble akhlāq that believers should embody.

In today’s introductory lecture (see link in comment below), I discuss the meaning of ‘akhlāq’, the types of manners, some blessings of perfecting manners, and then dive into the subject of whether one’s manners are inherent from birth, or acquired.

We learn that while indeed all of us are inherently born with and predisposed to certain characteristics, that is not an excuse for us to retain status quo. We are all obliged to better ourselves, and Allah in His Infinite Wisdom will reward each one according to his or her own struggles.

How does one better a mannerism that he or she might not have?

Four points:

  1. Knowledge of its blessings and reality (like Luqmān taught his son)
  2. Having a role-model to see this manner implemented (and the best role model is the Prophet SAW)
  3. Learning through one’s own trials and experience
  4. Making du’a to Allah to be blessed with good manners (as is the Sunnah).

Episode Transcript

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la hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah who are the early he was off by a woman who Allah Hammerberg our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in nama birth to Luton Mima Makati mal o'clock the only reason I have been sent by Allah is to perfect noble manners to perfect noble manners. The entire message of Islam the reason why Allah sent us a messenger is to perfect noble manners in this series in sha Allah to Allah for the next 29 days, including today, we're going to be talking about macadam one o'clock, the noble manners and what it means to be a movement and what manners are recommended and obligated by Allah azza wa jal, and by His Messenger, the term o'clock

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is the plural of hook, and hook is from the same verb as Halacha, which means to create, in fact, the term hook and hook is from the same root because Hulk is your outer body and hook is your inner characteristic. So your heart look is your outer shape and form your size your features this is Hulk and your whole look is how your soul has been created, your mannerisms and the way that you interact with others. This is the hook and our scholars have divided into three categories, our promises and came to perfect all three of them. The first is a lot between you and Allah subhana wa Tada believing in Allah Alone having your Tawakkol in him your Eman your Islamic your marhaba your has no

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vision of Allah that is category one you o'clock with Allah and this is discussed by the scholars of theology. Number two is a hanok with the rest of mankind you're o'clock with how you deal with other people being patient being just forgiving, having a clean heart and this will be the focus of our talk in these next 30 Nights inshallah Tada and number three is a laugh with yourself, laugh in your own private life as love for example, when you do something, do it well make sure you are perfect when you do it. So these are three categories of a HELOC and our topic will be focused on this second, which is a HELOC. When you deal with others of mankind and everyday in sha Allah Allah, we

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will take a particular hook a particular characteristic, the goal being by the end of this month in sha Allah Who to Allah, we will have a chart in our minds we will have a table of contents, what do I need to do to be a better Muslim in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala and realize dear Muslim, that being a Muslim is not just about rituals. It's not just about a Baghdad it is also about more amulet. In fact, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that it is likely it is very possible that a person will reach the highest levels of the one who fasts every day. And the one who prays tahajjud every night simply because of his o'clock, the o'clock will trump even sometimes your

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rituals, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the heaviest matter on the Day of Judgment in your Hessonite in your scales will be your o'clock the heaviest matter will be o'clock and our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said of the things that causes people to enter agenda the most is your personal homework, so do not trivialize having good luck. It will be the heaviest in the scales, and it will be a magnificent mechanism to enter Jannah. Now the question arises and this will be the focus of the remainder of today are o'clock in our control? Or are we born with our o'clock? Do we control our o'clock? Or is it beyond our control? Every parent here have multiple

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children knows that in fact, every child is born with certain types of o'clock, a certain child might be more patient than another another of the siblings will be quicker to be angry another will be able to bear a heavier paying load. Every child is born different and this is exactly what we learn from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once a man converted to Islam, a chieftain by the name of Allah Shechinah case and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam praised him and said oh a schedge you have

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Two manners that Allah loves. Number one, you control your anger. And number two, you think before you act, and he'll move on and that we'll talk about this in the rest of the 30 days. And Szeged asked a very intelligent question. He said, Yeah rasool Allah these two manners, did I acquire them with my own skills? Or Did Allah subhanho wa taala? cause me to already have them? Is it in my Jumilla? Is it already within me? And the Prophet system said No, Allah blessed you to have them. So Asha said Alhamdulillah, to the one who gave me two characteristics that Allah and His Messenger loves. And in the Hadith in the Muslim demand, Muhammad, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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said that in Allah to Allah Azza wa ala kakum, gamma kasama or Zakum. Allah has distributed your luck, like he has distributed your risk. Some people are born wealthy, others are born the children of of kings, others are born in socioeconomically deprived circumstances. Some people acquire wealth very easily, others acquire difficult all of this Allah has a portion. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah has assigned your o'clock like he has assigned your Azoth in the Hadith and Timothy, our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Allah created bunu, Adam, Allah Tabarka other Toba Coushatta in different levels, some of them he said, they get angry quickly, and they

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forgive quickly. Some of them get angry slowly, and they forgive slowly. Some of them get angry quickly and forgive quickly and they're forgive slowly and some other get angry slowly and forgive quickly all four combinations are mentioned. And then he said the best are those who get angry slowly and forgive quickly. So the point being Allah created created you either Tobiah Coushatta in different categories. Now, if that is the case, somebody is going to say, well, then it's not my fault. If Allah created me to be impatient, then I'm going to be impatient. If Allah created me to have a tamp temper, to get angry quickly, to be able to, you know, use my tongue in a quick manner.

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It's not my fault, we say, it is true that Allah subhanho wa Taala has given a section of your o'clock at birth, it is in our spiritual DNA, no question about it. However, this does not mean that we then remain in status quo No, because every single hook has a part or a portion that is within our own control as well. Every single hook we also can affect it. So we come with our DNA in that DNA is a level of a hillock and then in our lives, we can change a little bit of that as well. And we can change with the help and will of Allah subhana wa Tada, how can we change our o'clock? How can we better our o'clock, four things, memorize them? Number one, we begin with everything, always

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with knowledge, we begin with him, you have to learn what are the o'clock? What are the categories of UCLA? What are the blessings of this particular UCLA? What are the dangers of not having it? What does the Quran and Sunnah say about it? So number one, we begin with knowledge. And for example, in the Quran, Lokman teaches his son Allah. Yes, his son was born with his own DNA doesn't mean you don't learn doesn't mean there's nothing you can change. Lockman teaches his son o'clock and that's the purpose of the seminars in sha Allah, we're going to be teaching each other O'clock Number one is in number two is you need to have a role model who swap you need to see that o'clock in your

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life. And we begin with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam were in Kerala hooking him your Nokia rasool Allah or the highest of all, Allah azza wa jal says Lakota, Canada, Confucius Sudler he swore to an Asana, you have the perfect role model in the Prophet sallallahu ala he was seldom so number two, how do we better our Aleph we see the UCLA being implemented in the Sierra in the lives of the righteous in our own lives, we see those that are better than us and how they have perfected their UCLA. So living examples and examples in the Sierra category number two, so in and then actual seeing it in in the sc we call it an arabic number three, how do we improve our O'clock Number three

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is our own personal experiences. So there's theory and there's practice, we go to university, we study theory, we get to the job, we do the practice, we do the practicals every one of us has to monitor in our lives, how we can apply those o'clock we learned from our mistakes. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Hadith isn't to me the inevitable move into alum We're in hell move it to help them that knowledge is gained by seeking it acquiring it. Knowledge is not gained by osmosis. You don't go to sleep with a book of chemistry. You wake up knowing the knowledge No, you have to gain it you have to study it and him and he'll means to conquer your anger him

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is going to be acquired bit to Hallam which means bit by bit you experience anger and you conquer it. You have to be in the experience as well. You have to actually live a life where you have to face anger and then you conquer anger. So number three is your own lives your experience. Once you know the theory, once you've seen it done by the experts by the prophets of Allah, why don't you send them now you need to apply it in your own life. That is point number three, and you might mistake make a few mistakes. You learn from trial and error. And then number four, beginning and all of it you make dua to Allah subhana wa Taala you make dua to Allah of the Duels of the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as reported in the Muslim, the Prophet says and will make dua to Allah, Allah Who Maggini the asanas o'clock de la DD Asendia in the end was really funny. Say yeah, now you're sorry for me say, Allah, guide me to the best of all allow, for none can guide other than you notice, the prophet system is making dua to Allah. Yes, every one of us has a spiritual DNA of o'clock doesn't mean we cannot change it doesn't mean we cannot affect it. Once we have what Allah has blessed us with, and we don't have what Allah has chosen, we don't have doesn't mean we accept it. Rather we strive to achieve it we learn we see the role models we practice in our lives, we make

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dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala and that is the goal brothers and sisters. And final point here. And that is, if Allah azza wa jal has given somebody a certain hook, and not given that hooked up to somebody else. This means when the second person masters it, when the second person is able to acquire it, that person will get the higher reward. For example, if Allah created somebody to be very patient, not get angry hastily, then he doesn't get angry, good for him, he gets the reward, Allah created another person and by nature, he gets angry very quickly, but through knowledge, and through seeing the role model and through experience and by making lots of dua, he conquers his

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anger. Even if person A and person B are doing outwardly the same, person B has put in much more effort to get to that level. And so Allah will reward Person B much more than he will reward Person A so when you don't have a particular characteristic or iron, you all have weaknesses, we know our weaknesses. When we strive to perfect those weaknesses and conquer those weaknesses. The rewards will be proportional to the efforts that we put in and that's the goal of all of this series. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all the best of all the cloud and make us the best role models following the Prophet sallallahu it was send them was akmola here

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