Fiqh of Marriage 4

Yasir Qadhi


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Episode Notes

Shaykh Yasir Qadhi discusses the Fiqh of marriage and numerous points come to the fore.

What should be given as Mahr? And how much Mahr should be given? What is the ruling of the Mahr when a marriage is annulled? Shaykh Yasir Qadhi elaborates explicitly and we get enlightened no end.

It is obligatory for a man to do the Walima once a marriage is done. It is also obligatory to respond to the invitation of a Walima unless there is a valid excuse.

The greatest right of a man on the woman is his right to take his wife within the regulated rulings. The greatest right of a woman on a man is to care for him in all ways possible.

What is the ruling on multiple wives? What are their rights? Listen intently.


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Bismillah Alhamdulillah

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Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah,

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Allah sharika was one of

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our topics that we start off with today is if you like the final piece of the puzzle, the puzzle merges the puzzle, but the final piece of the picture of marriage and that is the matter,

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it will call it an overdose of the doc the doc which is what the man gives to the women. Okay, now, before we start off, we have to point out that the scholars have agreed that every marriage must have a merit to it, as the marriage must have a magnitude okay. So whether the bride or the groom, they specify it or not, it is understood that isn't and it is not allowed for the groom to state that they will not be unmarried in the marriage because this is something that Allah has made obligatory in the Koran, okay, unless there's no chorus or any purpose for what are too nice to him and get him investor because

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of the fever, okay, the amendments give it freely to them, there can be no conditions laid down, there can be no harsh hardships or emotional blackmail. All of this is prohibited, the scholars have agreed that every marriage must have a nod with it. Okay, so the parties cannot agree beforehand that there is no need for this marriage. Even if the woman agrees before the marriage. No, the guide of the green has to offer them that Okay, and then we're gonna come to whether she later on says you don't have to give it that's different story, but the groom has to offer a man had a good time with a match. Okay. Now, it is similar to stay the night at the time of marriage, but it is not a

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condition that is not a record or a shot that you stated. It is similar to stated because if you stated then this will leave you with no problems if the if the groom says that I'm going to give the bride let's say $10,000 Okay, then there is no difficulty later on. If there's any dispute or disagreement, It is well known that the amount of dinner is that it is not a requirement, it is not a requirement. This is because of the fact that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam allowed women to get married without proof for this is that there is a hobby of m&m a very dense worship that she got note during the life of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and she did not specify or her husband

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did not specify a number at the time of the marriage. Okay, so they live their life and then they were married, but the husband did not specify the secret of the prophets lifetime when the husband died.

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Now she has to be given a man but no man was specified. Okay, so the Prophet we went up to the facility with them to decide the dispute between the two parties, okay, how much money should she be given? Now, the process of him did not get angry No, do you rectify or correct that you should have had a man he allowed it and he gave was a matter of women in his similar social status. Whatever a woman in a similar social status and a little background, we've had been given a credit across customer culture, the process of engagement, that amount of money, but he didn't say you should have had a man at the beginning of the match. So, this shows you that it is allowed to have a marriage

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contract where you don't visually specify the amount of demand and if this was to take place, that you have the marriage contract and there is no method specified, what does this imply what is going to be

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according to the social status and social customer of that time, in other words, that particular goal, what is your background? What is your family status, what is your lineage and what are the girls in her particular culture and custom given as if they need all of the similar characteristics or criteria that would be okay. So, we say that it is allowing them to have the marriage contract without specifying them, but is it allowed to have the match contract without them you know, whether you specify it or not there is a not understood in the match contract, okay? This is because Allah has clearly commanded so in the Quran.

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Now we'll get to the differences, if any, now this so far is pretty much agreed upon. Now we get to the differences of opinion, firstly, the minimum lot of matter and secondly, the maximum amount of money. Okay, now we're going to go into great detail. But all of the formats have different opinions about the minimum amount of

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settlements attended homezone as a previous times, but the collective opinion is that anything of value can be given as not. Minimum, anything's actually that has value to it can be valid.

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So it doesn't matter whether it's money, or jewelry, or property, anything that has material value to it. This can be enough. So even a person can give as many services physical service physical labor, for example. The woman has a garden, you can tell her as your mother is physically take care of this garden manual labor in this garden for a year or two or whatever.

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So he will specify the model. And that number doesn't have to be many. But anything that is a value and this is the correct opinion. Okay, there are a number of studies to support this other than the Muslim that the President chosen and that was it.

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He says find the number four. So he could not find anything. He said, I only have two governments. He said, Fine. Even if it's an IRA, an IRA is a ruthless object and is worthless. It's not worthless, it has a very pitiful value. Okay? A few pennies million times. But he says fine, even if it's an island rink, that the man could not even find an island rink. Okay, so the shoes you have you found an eyelid rig, which is almost worthless, not totally worthless, but almost worth is how do you found an IRA that would have been his mouth? But since he did not find that I remember in the process of him said, Did you do anything? He said, Yes. So the person said, I marry you. Right?

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Because of what you have in the Quran, I will teach you the Quran. And that will be your man. Okay, you will teach as a parent, and that will be your math center, just just as it is allowed, according to the correct opinion, to pay someone to teach you that for us. Okay, because it is a value. You can pay someone to teach you to hold on, you cannot pay someone to recite the Quran, but you can take them to teach you the rescission. Okay, so basically, as a man as a metaphor, his wife would teach her those certain suitors that he had memorized. Okay, now, is this something that has many too attached to it? No, but it is something of value, manual services. And the process itself is

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structured and commanded the man to get married because of that. So to show you that the cholesky opinion is that there is no minimum amount for the mass. There is no minimum for the mass, whatever the reappointment overhead is in cinema, Cinema D, in which

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amount was going to do a pair of shoes to the women. Okay, so the process I'm asked you, are you content and satisfied that the marriage on a pair of shoes, and she said yes, now there's a slight weakness to it, okay, but the concept is still valid, that you can give anything, you can give anything as matter that is a value. Now, this is the first

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animus or the first scenario. The second thing was calculating the maximum amount. And just according to the vast majority of the matter, there's almost as not, that is not that there is no maximum amount to the math. Okay, getting high tech,

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there is no maximum amount to the math. Okay, you can give as much as you want. And this is based on reverse, which vs is based on everyone knows, most people know how to say what is useless

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if you did one of them a compound,

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okay, if you give one of them a treasure and bad news like a treasure chest or a huge amount of glue, if you need to get relevant, even a competitor, don't take it back from them. Okay, so the fact that Allah has has said in this ama was talking about the 90s, that even if you give a compiler, a huge amount of treasure, huge, lots of good, don't take it back from them. This shows you that there is no maximum amount also the minimum amount of anything of value, and the maximum is the maximum whatever the two parties agree upon. This is the maximum amount of math however it is strongly encouraged that the matter be a

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small amount, something that is easy for

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the women or the man excuse me, not on the not because the prophets of Salaam said in an authentic hadith and the husband said is that the best or the marriages that have the most barraca the most resting are the ones that have the least Maha Urbina. He didn't say this, he said the easiest man, he said, the easiest man, okay. And this is a very sad fact that in our times, the man has become something that is uncertain and special and Middle Eastern countries, something that is not even affordable for the average man. Okay. 50 100 150,000. This is ridiculous. And it is not to be to be frank, it is not really meant to be given to the woman, it's just a matter of showing off because

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they're not can afford this amount, especially in the Middle East. No man can afford this amount, it is just as a matter of showing up my mother was 150,000, rails, bachelor's 25 years old, who can afford this amount immediately. So it's not really meant it's just as a boosting thing. And this is without any doubt, a very evil customer, very evil creation that has started that will make them so high, because the presence of the best marriages and those that have the most better are the ones that have the least are the easiest.

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So far, so good. Now, the matter like we said, has to be given by the man to the woman.

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It has to be given by the man to the women. The women, however, has the option of refusing the man. The woman has the option of refusing dinner, it is not up to the man to face or even to try to pursue

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emotional blackmail, any type of blackmail or hardships on it. But it's the human justice really, then in this case, the knot doesn't have to give the knot if the woman does so freely. This is clearly stated in the Koran in which verses are stated. What is the verse in Arabic

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Again, who knows?

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The beginning versus with Anita What are they I can remember the Eric

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is in a coma

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aku honey and Maria timetable Ella Comanche it means that if the women they get back to you, they may have a part of it or all of it doesn't matter suppose Mr. Silva, the wife sister has

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shown him to give me 5000 Okay. The Quran says as long as the woman does, so, freely, the Quran specifically mentions freely she wants to do so, there are no hardships put upon her then it is allowed for the man to take them out back she said the woman has the right of taking refusing to accept any man or a portion of a mouse you can take that out of your mouth or half of your mouth or two thirds of your mouth or 90% whatever it is up to the woman, but with the condition that there are no hardship or pressures put on her from her garden or from the husband from any factors she has to fulfill and ensure that there is a root for her in doing so, because the person has said that

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this is the best type of marriage when it is the easiest Okay. Now, we get to the second section and that is when is the Mahajan when is the marriage we talked about the concept now when it comes to have you

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you stand up no the man and the wife Goodnight, okay. So then the guy is no valid and in place and in effect

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this the man has intercourse with her.

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The wife and the husband they die there are three scenarios. Firstly the man has had intercourse with

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the wife dies

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before the intercourse obviously after intercourse and obviously the condition has been met, or the husband dies in any of these three scenarios and the full amount of matter must be given.

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In any of these three scenarios. The free amount of matter must be given. Okay, now you might ask the woman dies, who's gonna take them out? She's dead

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inheritors. Exactly. You still give it to her and then this removes her inheritors. Okay, so in any of these two situations that Elena has said all of them, that the matter be in its full entirety due upon the women from the husband. Now the difference of opinion arises, what if he did something other than intercourse? Okay, so he was alone with her, or he kissed or class or anything more than this, and there was a be split up here. To make a long story short, as we usually do the correct opinion, insha Allah is that if the man is alone with the women, as the info has arisen opportunity for them to have intercourse, then it is irrelevant whether they had it or not, the full amount of

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math is going to be due to the woman.

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Okay, so there is the nikka has been done.

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And the man was alone with a woman

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in a place and in a certain amount of time where intercourse was possible, then you don't have to go and ask

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what occurred in that meeting, or in that private meeting, but the place is in a place where it was not possible to please their parents left them alone in the room for a few minutes, and then they came back, this would not qualify as a format

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event and there is a possibility that they could have been intimate. As long as the possibility is there that we don't have to ask, we don't have to, you know, question, we failed to satisfy you. Okay, and the full amount is not is due from the husband to the wife. So then we talked about three scenarios, the first year pretty much agreed upon. And the last one is really just for that, instead of the strongest opinion is Chaga is that whether it was acredita, as long as the husband was alone with a woman

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and it was possible for them to have intercourse, then

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the woman gets the full amount of math, okay. There are certain situations or scenarios where the woman gets nothing of the math.

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So, we talked about where the where she gets the full bar, now we get to the other extreme, where she gets nothing. And this is when

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No, this is when the marriage is unknown, because of a problem with the women. So before the house enters it, because obviously when that had been entered or anything happened after that, that she has the man okay, but the marriage contract has been done. And then the women, for example, it is discovered that, like we said we talked about last week, one of the reasons why you can another marriage is what one of the examples of a physical defect that prevents intercourse, okay, here it is discovered that a woman has this defect.

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For example, that is found out that a woman is a patient, for example, and I wish to bring him to something. So this was not known, or it was hidden at a time. Later on, it comes to light that there's a defect or a problem with the woman. It was either a physical or spiritual, basically any problem coming from the woman's side. In this case, the husband does not have to give me that even though the matchmaker has been done.

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crucifer very simple. Any announcement of the marriage due to a factor caused by the woman

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automatically makes the math

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not obligatory upon her. It goes

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Back to the husband. So we talked about when she gets to Finland, we talked about when she gets none of them. Is there a situation that is

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a person of the most interesting, when does she get a patient of the month?

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Yes, you're correct. There is a third scenario when she gets half of the month. Okay. The third scenario is once you get half of the map, okay, when does she get half What about who knows the clearest, easy

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exactly when the man versus the woman after the marriage contract, but before

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consummation before intercourse, okay. So, is there any problem that comes from the man side, okay, for any reason universes or is described as a defect, and is something that comes from the man side, it is discovered that, you know, he was recognized, for example, with intercourse, for example, is that a Muslim, then in this case, has as the man he himself divorces the wife, which is the most common scenario, that before the after retirement account, but before the calculation, he has to divorce her, so he divorces her. So if they had decided what the number was, then she would be given half the amount of the math. So, the condition in this case is what the two conditions the first

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condition is that the problem comes from demand side the dissolution of the marriage comes from demand side. And the second condition is that the amount of law was agreed upon, the amount of law was agreed upon. So the amount of law had been specified in the marriage contract, let's say $10,000 then if the non divorce the women for the intercourse have referred their intimate, then he must give her how much $5,000 Now suppose no matter was decided, in the marriage contract, where should she what should be done now?

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Nice gets to know. In this case, Allah says no Koran that they should be given a gift according to his needs. Okay. According to him, if he's rich, he should give a good gift, if he's not that rich, whatever you can afford to give as a gift. Okay, so if my money was decided upon beforehand, then obviously there is no half of that amount because it doesn't exist. So he gives her a gift. So we talked about now 300, right. When she gets the full amount when she gets none of it, not when she gets half the amount, where there are three scenarios and that when she gets the full amount is less when she can pull them out

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when she dies or he buys or they have consumer demand, okay, once you get none of the amount when not.

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When is the problem coming from her side? Okay, for example, it was discovered that she is a Muslim or discovered that she was a slave with any problem coming from her side. Okay, the third, the third scenario is when she gets half of the mat and when is that?

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When he is the one that dissolves the night when there's a problem on his side.

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Before that is obviously after intercourse, that automatically goes to the first scenario. Okay.

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So now I finished my first simple chapter. And now we move on to the Redeemer.

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The chapter concerning the believer. Now the vast majority of the AMA has stated that volume is

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a strongly encouraged sinner. But it seems to be the correct opinion or the stronger opinion that the will EMA is an obligatory act, that it is an obligation for the man to have a redeemer for his wife.

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And this is because the prophets have a lot to sell him when he met Abdullah now

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he saw that he had become married, then he commanded him agent performer reliever. Well be sure even if it's one small group, that time if you're having a big party, one group, isn't it's not it's not a big amount, it's a small amount. Okay. So he said he would prefer one unit, even if it's with one goat. So, he commanded him to perform the walima. So, it seems that the correct opinion or the strongest opinion is that it is obligatory to do a Rhema if the man can afford to do so, as long as the man can afford to have a redeemer then it is obligatory for him to have the William likewise and this is now quality, the majority is obligatory to spam the to the relevant invitation. So, once a

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person has invited you to his volume, then it becomes mandatory to respond and you are sinful if you do not respond unless you have an excuse. Unless you have a valid excuse. For example, you are sick, okay or he is too far when you cannot afford the journey there. Okay, well, more commonly our times, there is something haram going on at the wedding feast, okay, it is not allowed to attend a wedding where there is music, you know, you know, blaring in the speakers of microphones or there isn't, you know, exorbitant amounts of intermixing or hijab is not the type of benefits it is not allowed for us to go through. Okay. Well, for example, the man be a person of innovation, a great piece of

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Okay, is it most likely all of this issue where you have a valid excuse for not attending, then you should not attend. Otherwise it becomes obligatory for you to attend the wedding feast.

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Most marriages

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in this country does is the fact you know, that's why we rarely go to marriages. It's very difficult to find a marriage You can go to, but it is definitely not alone especially when for example wine is being served and music is being put in this original content image piece and there was this type of karate he was going, he stood up and he laughed and he said the process and do not commanded to attend this type of match. Whether or not going on in this boys club is not allowed for you to attend. This match martial law tells you when when the man has his earnings from heroin, for example, he has all of his earnings from the liquor shop, okay? And he is inviting you to a feast

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all the lessons in his in his house or the hotel, it doesn't matter if most of his earnings are from Harlem, then you should not go and attend because you are eating from that album and you're steadily approving of that funnel. So unless you have a salary excuse or reason for not attending the marriage ceremony, you should attend and the person said even if you didn't attend, even if a person has the fact that he should go and attend and then pray for the person asked for him to be blessed in his marriage. Okay. Funny thing the humble is in the scope of this particularly they said

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put this in your brains very, very important point they said the need for attending should not be because it was

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specifically mentioned this, the need for attendance should not be because of the food to eat and the good food, it should be to follow the center the purpose of the Law Center and to pray for the bride and groom. Okay, unfortunately at all times, we all have that kind of resistors Okay, so we should collect earlier doesn't mean that we shouldn't go for the freedom is our primary intention should be to follow the sin of Apostasy and to pray for the bride and groom. And we know that it is similar to pray for them. When is the drop of the that we make for the bride and groom. barakallahu dakka dakka dakka Nabina Kumar, Kumasi Hi, that you know May Allah shower his blessings upon you to

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summarize it briefly. Okay.

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The question arises when in the William it performed now there have been a number of different opinions.

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There have been a number of different mlmrc at the time of nikka mlmrc, the first night after the cast some animosity after the consummation whenever that occurs on the last day, the second or third night.

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But it seems as if the correct opinion is all of the above, because of the status of Redeemer has not been specified in this area when it should occur. It is open

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the processing and did not stick with us example. He came to the process and after he had been married as to the consummation and maybe after a few days after his marriage he came the Falcons and did not recommend him we should have had with him before he said December William. So the correct opinion is that the winner can be performed at any time. At the marriage ceremony This is allowed after the marriage ceremony This is allowed. After the first urbanised This is allowed after the consummation anytime This is allowed, okay, even if it's a if the person had a valid excuse originally because it should be performed early. But if the person for example could not afford a

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redeemer, then the winner is delayed until he can afford it. Okay, let's keep those questions at the end because we should want to finish up inshallah we started a bit late, because in the end because of you

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blame both parties. But

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the correct opinion is that it can be performed at any time.

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Now move on to a chapter that will briefly zoom over and that is the relationship between the men and the women, how it should be performed. And

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the treatment between the spouses, and most of us already know this in great detail. So we don't have to go into great detail now. But as everyone knows, it is obligatory upon the men to treat their wives nicely in the literature for women to treat their husbands nicely. Allah says nikolova should

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treat them with kindness with equity. Likewise, the law says

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that the women have rights similar to those that are against them. In other words, the treatment is virtuous, there is mutual support and mutual love and tenderness and mutual affection that the spouses must show to each other. But Elena has specified certain things that are obligatory for the woman in more than others and likewise for the man asked to leave and then obviously the greatest obligation that the man has upon her is what the right is intercourse, okay. So the sports, the major rights that the man has upon his wife is the right to have intercourse at any time of the day or night, as long as she is not menstruating or performing a watch of acts such as the prayer or the

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the wajib fasting. Otherwise, anytime the novice dive into course that it is the right of the minute to offer herself to him. Like the process of that even if she is on a saddle and

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this means that if she's riding on a camel, okay, then it is a great hardship to come down as everyone who's written the camel but it is a bit harsh in Britain with the pesticides even if you're only Campbell then do that Hydra didn't stop the camel come down if you went through it to respond to your husband or or the buses also issues at this stage.

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With the oven, okay, even though she should, you know, turn off the thermometer and respond to her husband. This is the greatest rice that the man has upon the woman. And this is the greatest cause of another marriage if the woman does not respond or listen to the man, as we know that the practice of him said that any woman that does not respond to her husband and her husband is angry with her, but what happens? The angels Crusher, the angels cursor, okay. So, this is the greatest right that the man has upon the women. Likewise, he has the right that she does not leave the house except with His permission, okay, the woman is not allowed to leave the house unless it is absolutely essential,

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for example, a matter of life and death, for example, you know, she has to go out for dinner. You know, like, in the old days, the restroom was outside the house, okay, these type of factors, as well as it is not allowed to.

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It is not allowed for the woman to leave the house of her husband, except with His permission. These are the two main vices are the most specified that the woman or the man has upon the woman, the two main obligations that the man has upon the woman that she is always open and ready to have intercourse with him, and that she does not leave the house except with His permission. Now the vice versa, the rights that the woman has upon the net, the greatest rights that the woman has upon the man is the right to take care of her financially, okay, to provide for her clothing, for her food, for her bedding, and for her house and property. Okay, so the man is obligated by the Sharia to

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provide these factors to his wife. If he does not do so, then he is sinful. He must provide the necessities of life to his wife, and he cannot force his wife to give business entities. Okay, he is not allowed to force his wife to get these necessities whether he is obligated to provide these necessities to his wife.

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Apart from that the scholars also mentioned that he should be how do you translate jealous is not really a good word. But

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he has he should have this sense of pride and jealousy and protectiveness and honor for her. Okay, because this is also part of being a man that he should have the sense of of protectiveness for her that.

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that is not a proper word to use in this context. It is not just doesn't jive.

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He must he must have this sense of protectiveness. So example. You know, if he sees a reasonable man, what is that thing that's going to happen to him? Okay. That type of protectiveness that he has, okay, for example, he's not going to allow her to leave her house without wearing the proper procedure. Okay. And this is unfortunately most men of all times are not who they couldn't they in the disgusting thing is unfortunate people go to the opposite extreme, where they actually vote in the fact that other men find their wives beautiful. And this is so disgusting, like the performance of executives, because when you compliment the left, they take it as a personal compliment. Okay,

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instead of zero.

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You know, there's the proper attitude that a Muslim should have, you know, having this sense of protectiveness, and security, that new manager is going to, you know, similar. It's not just, it's not just in terms of men and women relationships, in terms of everything that a man is the woman took care of his wife is the feeling that is in his heart that he was responsible for his wife, okay, so he's going to protect you and care for her and be jealous about you. All of this is common,

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because he's a scholar said that this is also the rights that women has upon demand that the man should be like this. And this is why the prosecutor says that the US will never enter agenda, and the US is another doesn't have this view that the US is gonna have this sense that he allows them to comment upon his wife and look at her and he doesn't care. You know, he doesn't like different cards that they use. So this is another process that we will never antigen. So this is how important it is to have this type of feeling.

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Okay, these are the primary rights that the men and the women have upon each other. And like we said, everything apart from this is strongly enclosure committed for the man to treat his wife nicely and vice versa. Now the question that arises vs productive as we get close to the women to cook and care for her husband,

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is it obligatory for the women to cook and care for her husband? kaminey not emotionally good, but I mean, take care of his daily needs, okay, I own the clothes washed, you know, wash the clothes, wash the dishes, all of that type of stuff and cook for him confirm there is a big difference about this issue. And I think she eternia has the best response and if any of this goes back to the question and culture of the woman or first status, okay, because we know for a fact that the prophets wives would,

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you know, treat or care for the positive even though he being the man that he was also the perfect man that will take care of himself. So that was over the incidence of Fatima and it Okay, we're talking about with you

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Grind the dirt or grind the wheat barley so much so that her chest would be marked with the the grinding instruments. Okay, so they went to the Pacific to ask for a servant to help them a slave to help them in their daily affairs with the process and did not give her service. So he didn't object to the fact that his daughter, his daughter was thrilling husband to such an extent that there was physically she was getting physical bruises because of that work. Likewise,

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my sister is your sister Esma as Minister of religion has been saved with SMS has been a Zubaydah, one who she would serve her so much that she would serve him so much that she would, you know, take the girl and walk to get the water and the wheat and the flour. And she would also take care of the horse and everything while he will be taken care of getting the money, but the physical labor, she will be doing it, okay. And the processor saw her in this state. And he offered her a ride on his horse that she refused, because she thought that was a bit of an odd one would get jealous and angry. So when he when he as she was carrying a big basket of flour on her head. So when she turns

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around, he says early, the fact that the process of him saw you in this state is more hurtful to me than the fact that you would have written on his horse, I wouldn't. I mean, obviously, our mind when the process if the Profit System was the one who was taking his wife, you know, to her home and hunting his wife off. But the fact is that he saw her in the state and he didn't object. Okay, so it seems as if the correct opinion is that it is obligatory for the wife to serve her husband, to the extent that I've even heard of her culture do. Okay, so she's a multi millionaire family, she's an extremely rich family, then we say that if she is used to service over life, then we say that it is

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the husband's duty to provide it also with the service, you have just turned the lights off? or what have you done, you've turned the lights off. And

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you can turn that back on. Thank you. Okay.

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Okay, anyway, so it is obligatory for

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the wife to serve her husband to the extent that other women of her culture and customs do So this seems to be the strongest opinion, because of the fact that

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the woman has a perfect time to do that, and the process and allow this to be done without saying anything like that. But also, this goes back to the fact that women should treat their husbands kindly. And now his married life will be extremely difficult if the husband, you know, comes home after returning to work and he has to cook and everyone is just sitting there. This is, is almost inconceivable that the marriage is going to continue this fashion. Is there from an average family. Okay, if you're from a rich family, and the husband can afford service and the wife is used to this, then it becomes electric. But anyways, no, this seems to be the correct opinion. And that's

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Scholars have also discussed

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what do you call it? If you need more than one wife? How do you treat all of them equally, because that doesn't really exist anymore. In general, we can just gloss over it, that she has to treat his wives equally and time and money, but not in love and intercourse, okay, he has to treat all of his wives equally in time and money. So if you spend $100 on a gift for one of them, you have to spend out of over the other one. Okay? backwards in time, if you spend two nights with one of them, you have to spend two nights with the other three nights with one parents with the other, but not in love or in intercourse. These are two things that he doesn't have to be equal love. Obviously, this

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is a human emotion, he cannot physically control. Okay, likewise have intercourse, he doesn't have to be equal to them. But the scholars do say that the woman has the right to have intercourse occasionally. And they differ about the timing. But the question is that it goes back to her because just like it is the right of the man to have intercourse with his wife, vice versa. The unit also has an obligation that once in a certain period where they have different over what this period is, this goes back to the women, okay, what is the minimum amount that is needed for her so that she does not seek extramarital relationships, okay? Because just like the wife protects the husband from

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Xena, by services, the husband should also protect his wife from dinner. Okay. So if, for example, the husband does not have a request for his wife for a long time. And this college has different levels of Adventure Time, the woman has the right to go to a judge and another match.

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The judge can first and not to have intercourse with his wife. Okay. But if the rights are not being met, either way, more women can go to the to the judge and another marriage.

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As for the etiquettes of actual intercourse, and we don't have to go into great detail but as everyone knows, it is how I'm getting menstruation and during

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childbirth meeting. At all other times it is allowed.

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And as long as there's no foreign minister from house to house, unless you approach your child as and when you will. So all forms of or all

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forms of intercourse are allowed except for intercourse because the process of them said that Allah is not embarrassed of telling the truth, rarely unless curses upon the man who approaches his wife from her anus. Okay, and this is a hadith reported by 10 or 20 different chains and it is without any doubt authentic.

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It is without any

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authentically the process instead allas Chris is on demand who has no intercourse with his wife likewise he also Chris the man who has intercourse with his wife while she is in her restoration and describes the the different person and to have intercourse with Redbull while she's administration than he should give charity, either one or the other will have either rendered him or half a didn't disclose that he had intercourse at the beginning, then he should give one didn't and if he had to at the end of her cycle, then she get half of that, does anyone know why?

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What is the reason behind that?

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exactly easy for him to control at the beginning. So excuse me, yeah, it's easier for me to call the controller as the beginning. So, therefore, the penalty is more severe whereas at the end, it is a bit more difficult for him. So the penalty is less severe okay, but if he does have intercourse with her while she is menstruating, then he must repent to Allah. Likewise, if your answer was you must repent to Allah and if and if if he had it for the ministration or was taking place and he was also giving charity either one day or half a day, depending on when this occurred.

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Apart from that, most of the scholars say that it is not allowed to look at the private parts of the 2000s where we stated before that this is not an authentic This is not authentic, it is allowed for the spouses to look at their private parts of each other.

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Now, we went to the last session last section of nigga and that is

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in treatment on issues in treatment on issues in Arabic from either the wife or from the husband

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treatment from the husband

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towards his wife

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comprises of not giving her rights to her

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or being physically abusive or harsh with her overly physically abusive or harsh with her and if it is of the first category that he is not giving her her rights then the women will allow us to take from his money secretly. So if the husband is not giving her enough money to provide for her clothes or her property or her children's clothes or property or medical expenses, it is generally acceptable Okay, he is not providing the bare minimum then the wife is allowed to take from the husband's money and this this authentic Heidi's that Sahaja came to the processor and said that

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my husband is not giving me enough money that I can take care of myself is allowed for me to take his money then he said yes you are as long as you do so with my roof in other words you don't become overly greedy you take what you need to take nothing more than that okay, it is a second category that is physically abusive or something you know something that she cannot deal with him then she must go to a judge you must go to

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a court of law and get it fixed either the husband forces demand to treat her properly they can no longer match the wife's machines to the husband primarily is when she did not fulfill her like to him which is what we just said

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primarily intercourse okay. This court is also state and this is very important by the way especially for the sisters that this is also a part of your shoes is that they will have intercourse that

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in a very if you like ill tempered manner is that they're not going to do so freely yet it is the right of the husband that they have intercourse freely Now when I say that the woman has to necessarily be happy or rigid because we know that women are different from men okay many times they are not always quote unquote in the mood but she should not display an attitude against it okay. So the scholar if she does so, so even if she has intercourse but she has an attitude of she has a very you know angry temperament she doesn't have to necessarily go and enjoy the the very you know cooperative, but she is uncooperative okay she is very you know in an either mood or something this

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is also a part of misuse because it is the rights of the husband that they will freely give herself freely meaning without any attitude, okay. So, if the wife displays this type of attitude, this is also called as the shoes in this case the husband has right firstly there are three steps firstly visit he do he advises her, okay, he tells her that what she is doing is wrong. And that if you continue to do that, he will get more harsh with her. Okay, so we talked to her I will dribble Okay, if this test fails, this this test continues to perform issues and issues like we said as a mini test, but these are the two primary one. If she continues to perform issues, then she moves to step

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two and that is that she lives in her bet that he does not sleep with you anymore. Okay, he does not sleep with her he needs her alone in the bed.

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Okay, so this is the second step. And then if she still refuses, if she stayed with space matures, then in this case and only after the first two actions have been have been met, he is allowed to physically

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hit her. Okay, because the Quran clearly says that there is women whose new shoes you feel arrival when once you reveal nothing about a reputable one, that gives them advice. And then these are in the bed and then hit them. Okay, but the process will clarify this, that this type of hitting is not the one that isn't on the face, nor does it break a bone or leave a bruise is heavy, nor does it take a break or leave a bruise. Okay. So it means that the type of healing is not in physical abuse that is done

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Good times, but it is a type of gentle heating that does not allow for information. So it is hard to hit any person unless in real life, it is hard to hit any person on the face. Or to the extent that you are damaging him by leaving a bruise or breaking a bone unless he's attacked you or something, for example, your child, you're allowed to discipline him islamically, right. But that discipline should not be on the face of it is haram to slap slapping his head on, because you're not allowed to hit on the face. Likewise, if you do need your child for valid reason, or your wife, you're not allowed to hit so hard that you leave a mark, you leave a bruise or you break a bone. This is how

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long the type of healing is meant to basically wake you up. And you don't mean it is not meant to cause a physical harm permanent harm.

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If this tip is not wisdom, you have the right obviously to go to a judge or a divorce or whatever. But the point is that this is from either quality issues can come from the wife and it can also come from the husband issues comes from the husband, then if it's physical, then the wife has to take care of it without doing anything. But if there's more than that, then she must go to the court of law and the judge will have to see into their case and decide the heat between the finishers his friend's wife, then the husband has two or three steps that he goes to firstly advises her then he leaves her bed, and it still is not effective. So this must be at least a few days of taking the

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bare minimum because the advisor Okay, so let's call it easy to start talking with her part of the budget is to stop talking with her. Stop talking with her. If she still refuses you leave the bed. Okay, and if she still refuses, then and only then you're allowed to hit her. Occasionally what happens is many hundreds of they jump to step three without firstly doing step one or two. And this is not allowed. You must go in this order.

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David is now eight o'clock if you want to reconstruct the type of product if you want, you can open the floor for questions tomorrow. Because this is really the end of

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the Dominica

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questions. Okay. There's an article punishable as a stockbroker today. I do apologize a bit for my tiredness. But I just came back from a trip from Washington called Austin and I'm still a bit tired from that.

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You have suppose

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suppose Ibrahim, his daughter is three years old is my infant is five years old. Ibrahim says it's nice that I gave my daughter to her son and marriage is nice as Yes, the witnesses were present with the marriage take place. But if they were all joking around?

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Because we covered all of this? Yes, it does take place.

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Doesn't have to be most specified? No. Okay. So yes, the marriage has taken place. The marriage has taken place.

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What was the next question? What if there is a physical defect and he cannot have intercourse with her? We know he doesn't have to give her mind. But what if he still wants to keep her in marriage, she still gets denied or has no right to it.

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Remember the physical defect in him? Okay, if it's in him, and she does not want to remain married to him, then then he must give her the format. Okay, but if she agreed to him, if she agrees to manage this type of physical defect,

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we said the way the reason that I mentioned before is that when they have been alone together, so if he's married, if she's married him, obviously they're alone together. Together. So she deserves the film now. Okay, so she gets the film, right, anyway. Okay. If you have more than one wife, why can't catch you spend more time with one of them if you ever gives up for days? Very good question. Because of the fact that I don't know when he was sitting in this matter to us. We didn't go into great detail. And likewise, most of the people or the western socially or not, I have an incidence. Okay.

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Then we didn't go to great detail. But yes, it is allied with the condition that the woman gives up right. But the scholars have given a number of preconditions Firstly, that the woman does so freely the man does not force her to do it. Okay, so tonight is nice with a woman, he is pressuring the older woman, either mentally or physically or psychological. It doesn't matter that she gives that that her date to the younger one. This is not about she must do so freely. of her free will. Okay, and this is what so that is so that was one of the ways of the process and one of the members of the believers, she was a very old one and in her we under the age of think, no, we do not. Do you think

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it was the late 50s, early 60s. Okay, so she was an old woman. So she was scared that the process of divorce would because of her age. So and the person didn't obviously course or anything, but as her own free will. She said you can have. She said I only want to meet your wife I don't need with younger women need. I just want to meet your wife. So you can have my day and you can give it to Ayesha. So the process that was said today

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Without OSHA, and when they put all of his otherwise except sued, because she had given her a freebie to Arusha. So the condition for this is that the women just so freely, it is her option to do not the right of the husband, it is her option to do. So is that good is the option of mandatory but Likewise, if you really want to

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get specific, the man cannot have intercourse with his wife, except on the day that it is.

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Okay, if a man has two wives, and he has arranged a window with the first one, the second day was the second one, then when is the first day and he's supposed to be the first wife, he's allowed to visit shortly The second way? Because the processor would visit all of his wives every single day. And he was allowed to hug her and kiss her, but he is not allowed to be intimate or have intercourse with her. Okay, so what if you did that? What is the penalty? Just as a?

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What is the penalty?

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Haven't progressed with the one who's right, it was. Okay. So if you hadn't proposed with the first wife and it wasn't her turn, then he may have got to have intercourse with the second one. Okay.

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So the question is this issue versus the bonus?

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Very good question about the announcing of the marriage. The clip also discussed this, we glossed over it, the prophet commanded that the marriage center be announced,

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announced the marriage ceremony. And this is why it is allowed for the death to be played in the marriage ceremony. Otherwise, musical instruments as we know are not allowed in general, but during the marriage ceremony, when it is the death, okay, which is like a drum which doesn't have the other side to it. Okay, it's like a ring, a brass ring that has leather or something attached on one side, and no jingles. This is what the death is. So the process of alive the death during the marriage ceremony, in fact, encourage it. And he also allowed the women to sing

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poetry that doesn't have any rudeness or without any musical instruments. Okay, so all this is encouraging the most and we definitely, but he's not mandatory is not logic. So we didn't discuss it, but it is strongly encouraged that this type of event takes place that the best is used or some type of great ceremony that everyone knows that the marriage has taken place. This is because we want to remove any doubt that might exist in the minds of people suppose with the amount of elements together, if

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somebody hadn't taken place, they might think that they shouldn't be together. But if the

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marriage also Okay, so it is strongly strongly strongly encouraged that the nursery be proclaimed in this fashion. Okay. Yes.

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Exactly. Most of the elements say this is a horse for the process of Eliza. This is special only for him. Okay, most of the elements of this special only for him. As for a physical belief in the Quran and Sunnah. I haven't found one, even though I do look up the stuff that I have encountered. But most of the reason I say that this is the whole point of sharing Knights is like the whole point of sharing Nice's what I mean, if you had all day long, you had intercourse with the first half and then as a second wife, it's as if you're going against the first rest, right? Okay. And they also interpret that hubbies as being special for the prophets of Allah has given cause for him. There's

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like a majority of them I say the vast majority of the animosity, no,

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that is not example of beating the pockets of have never ever beat any of his wife's never. In fact, he said that those those amongst you who beat their wives, they are not the best of us. The process of never beat any of his wife as for the incident that you are referring that you will you do not call this beating, he just pushed her on the chest. Okay. And this was because Ayesha, and this divider, as you remember, this is one of the evidences they use also, but it is a weak evidence. Okay. That's very jealous that the trust is messed up at night. Okay. What did she think? She thought that she was going to another white house. Okay, so she secretly put on her coat and

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followed her allergen. Okay. But the process of Where did he go? Instead, he went to

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get out of pocket to pray for the people that were there. He said, God commanded me. When he came back. He felt I should hunting. So he figured out that he asked the figure that I saw reading in front of me, because she was really inventive. Okay. So she said, Yes. So the person who became you know, angry, because, because he knew why it was falling, because she did. She didn't trust him. And this is a

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very evil thing, because how can you not trust the Prophet of Allah that He would do this? So they say this is an implicit belief. They say that the very fact that the person that angry that this was against her trust, okay, so she trusted him, or she didn't trust him that he wouldn't go to any of his other ones. So she should, he shouldn't have gone to any of his work. And so to explain that one is having occurred in the olden days, and this was isolated. I don't know this is a good point, actually.

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The one that you've read that I wouldn't say as was getting wrong, it's just that she just hit her in the chest.

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Baba needs to hit the crunchiness as you hit them, they wouldn't headquarters know that the ribbon thing but the level of the beating should be should be such that there are no bruises or scars or marks or no burn is broken. Okay.

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The general

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the general rule is that

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the beating of the wife is not a normal characteristic amongst men. This is the general rule. This is because of the fact that Ayesha Curry said the process of never had any women in his life. Okay, there's the general equivalent specifically for every single couples this will be the case because sometimes the man will want something good for his wife but the wife is refusing Okay, so in this case it is it is not unusual for him to hit her if he has done it the proper with everything in general the general rule is that it is not normal that the man has his wife. Okay, so what you're referring to is also clear but the general rule is that it is not enable catchers to control the

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demands of life and this is why the fastest have never been any of his wives. Even though for example, the incident occurred where they demanded so much money or they demanded that he never beat any of his wife. Okay.

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You tell me I have no idea. You tell me I don't think differently right now.

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I don't recall this as a hobby for the purposes of his thing as a student. I don't recall the process and also the beating

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like we said when it is used and if it is used

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it can be a physical beating, which is a physical pain. That is the whole point. Okay, it is allowed I'm not saying it's encouraged or as

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the Quran clearly says this and the actions of the finance officer I'm sure and this is what the people have said that they have made it we're not saying it's enclosure is good, but it is a lot. Okay. Also the point is after think if it's just a symbolic gesture, why would it go so far? Why would it be effective after after you've, you know, given her advice and stop sleeping with her stop talking with her? Okay, now symbologist to the stickiness walk and temper it's not gonna really affect anything

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I can use it was

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okay, so then don't lose that's what that's what's clear is that don't bruise okay. No button. I mean, not every hit bit abuse. Not every distro bruise. So any hidden deliverable just go back to some of the questions that Sisters now

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can't win an equal woman as a witness. We talked about this when we talked about witnesses, what do we say?

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In business transaction yet in marriage? No. in marriage, you need two male witnesses without any doubt.

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I will sure this question will be asked today

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about a special certain type of sex which everyone knows what I'm talking about. So, I'm not going to mention it.

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This this phenomenon has not been discussed in the books that I have come across, because the simple fact that this is something that we have taken from the non Muslims, okay, this type of act is not discussed in the books of second gen, because this type of custom did not exist, this was taken from the non Muslims. However, I have heard that some of the AMA and I have not asked any I don't know that

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I have heard that some of them have allowed it because of the fact that everything is allowed, but we have to think of one factor and that is that we said the truth no fluid is what

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will be there in the six classes it measures the precision of food is measured, okay, is it lawfully allowed to intake and adjust the least we can say about it is that it is mukou that it is disliked okay. So because of this fact not because of the act itself, not because of the act itself, okay? Because in reality, they do have a strong point that everything is out everything as long as you know, intellectual voice in the head is avoided, but because of this fact, then the route that we can say about this is that it is not encouraged to do okay, because you are willfully in taking the adjuster into your body. Okay, but to say that is how long was a bit extreme, and I need to see

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proof for that and have it. Some of you have said it is how long there isn't a split up and they have used a verse in the Quran. But I think that it is a weak evidence It is okay. Yes.

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Yes, that's the rest of us. That's the verse that prohibited

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that prohibit that type of intercourse to use that verse. But that seems like a very weak evidence to me. Okay, for reasons that we don't have to get it. Yes.

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Yes, if you if you go to a Wm and you see that the Wm is being conducted according to an Islamic ticket, then you should leave. You should not listen if there's music blaring or if there's now the point is this was a question he was asking to set up for this to to rent levels you go to in these type of things.

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There's nothing in our times you will 99.99999% of the time, okay? You will not find perfect segregation, the way that it should be where there is a barrier. The women are one side, the men on Panetta and there is no intermixing whatsoever. Okay, most of the time you find that the woman on one side of the hall and then or the other side of the hall, okay.

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now that you ask that, how can I know?

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Okay, the question was that if you go to a marriage ceremony, and you find that the rellena is being conducted according to an Islamic practices, for example, there's intermingling or there's music blaring, or there's wire being said, what should you do? Then? I said this the infamous, who did you stand up and you leave? Then practically speaking to what level? Are you going to take? For example, if the women on one side of the hall and the men on the other side, okay, there is no politician, but there is a separation? Okay. Are you going to attend this or not?

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What is what do you say? Would?

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Depends on the food?

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After because

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there's no purchases? Also, it depends on the dress of the woman, okay. But I mean, Realistically speaking, 90% of the job and especially for getting the 10% is what happens when they leave it in the wedding. Okay, then how to get a good just a flat and it goes to interfere with

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the more you avoid the better.

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But it is very difficult. And in many times No, I personally attend weddings where there is separation but not segregation. Okay.

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The fact that you don't want evil doesn't justify the other evil. Okay? They said there's a physical defect, what if the husband finds out the women was not a virgin is the content valid, unless, you know, if the woman was married on the basis that she is a virgin, and the husband discovers that she was not a vision, you have the right to know the marriage contract and notice melody. So the matter goes back to him and invent a product that is not assessed. It is not a code annotated amendment, okay. Because this was a part of the condition that was understood. This is considered a major defect that if the woman was considered to be a virgin, this was the way that he was told, okay, it

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was understood because our culture is documented because understood you didn't grow and as in it was in the American countries is not the case. Okay, so in other countries, it's understood that she's a virgin and it comes to life that she is not then the husband has to lead to another marriage contract. And to obtain all of them, I heard back from her and the marriage is null and void. Okay.

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Now, that is a very good point, practical point, that many of the brothers think that

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the only thing that removes the hymen is intercourse, and it's not correct. It is possible that a cell or a natural problem or heaviness robot can also remove diamonds. So just because I'm in Israel doesn't mean she's not a virgin. If she says she is a virgin, and there is no proof to the contrary. Okay, even though I'm in a group broken, then she has taken out her face value. When we say when it is known, or when it comes to life that she It is clear that she's not a virgin. Okay, in this case, a good question. Can the husband suppose? When is the husband supposed to give the wife and with the active version of the marriage? Can the wife tell her husband that she doesn't want them with the

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doctor to relieve him from his oath in the marriage contract? I didn't mention with a cousin with acid Why didn't I mention it?

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No, I'm not gonna say there's no such thing but it is not necessary okay. This custom that that has been you know, is common, it is not any problem that the husband gives something of the marriage contract of the marriage beforehand and sinful nature on the beginning person is called at the end the person is called with the asset

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then in this case, the misapplication is used in everyday life demand goods whenever one of the two dies or you know anytime both

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demand the same documents that you have in the document asset is not mandatory it goes back to your country because if you want to do so, if you want to do so, then you

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then you can do so. So when asked Can I can I tell my husband not to do them with after Of course, just like you can tell him you don't have any bad luck because you can forgive him the darker portion of the map, but it is not necessarily recommended noise in this case, it's neutral. Okay, just neutral. If you want to have a this is very common. You're going to give

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a portion of the night and then give the rest later on. That's fine. That's fine. It's not anything against it or third enclosure to discourage it just goes back to you. You want to give it a miss Thomas and Tom is fine. Okay. from your paycheck into that a little bit every month. Okay. If you're

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curious, your mortgage

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Which is the case in many Middle Eastern countries that allow you to live in an apartment. It's all up to the husband and the wife. Okay? Let me ask you this thing is very common. And I'm not going to order one unfortunately sometimes questions are not given to me in order it is very common in some customs where they have Mandy if women are alone or separated from men as a reference, whatever by singing and dancing, yes, it is for men but I would avoid the Hindu names and the Hindu practices, okay, that take place here. But if the sisters the girls want to get together when one of their friends is getting married, and they're alone segregated from the men and they want to sing and

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dance and you know as long as it's halal, yes, no problem whatsoever, I don't see any problem in this whatsoever and in fact, it might be encouraged but to have these Hindu and pagan rituals and customs This is where I would draw the line and say this is not allowed, okay.

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Man has to provide to the wife shelter, food and bedding etc what is the minimum if she is used to bed etc does he have to provide her with this are really strong us do? No, it goes back to the cultural status of the husband and the wife both of them okay. So, the wife if she is married to a family, okay, then she must take this into account, obviously, because as they cannot provide a more than he can, what he can possibly afford. So it goes back to the financial status of the husband, where he can provide and what is expected for him to provide. So you think this is your financial situation backwards into account and you judge accordingly? Okay, which is why we said that in in

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the marriage, you should take into account the financial backer of the person because there's a multimillionaire now he's a person who's living off of you know, foodstuffs or something, it's not going to be very good for the marriage in general. So, you should is a lot of things to take into account financial situation, okay. So, reading aloud she said Can she have a soulmate or not? If that is his financial ability and that is what she is used to then yes, that is what is the literary point, but if he is worse than that, and it is expected for a person earning let's say $30,000 to provide a bed then yes, he must provide a back whatever is the bare minimum of his social level and

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status, it is a part of the wisdom of the Sharia law has not specified this because we can now base it on our culture and customs wherever it is culturally suitable for that person to do is inherited from the wife's breasts.

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Where did we say about what do we say about

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what did he say about

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foster mother when is when is it considered foster mother?

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Before two years, let's hope the husband is

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And in that case, it is allowed Yes. Okay.

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Can you please explain explain your proof

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I have read this in the books have

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you ever noticed how long he was doing his proof? Because in general, okay is the neurologists

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is the mechanism

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of craziness, okay. So, is there is the husband visiting from the foster center of the wife when he does this? No, because it's After three years of age.

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So, what is your proof? What is your proof that it is haram

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this type of intercourse I was asked about is also not natural, this varies from culture and customs. Many of the practices are done in a sexual nature.

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Any other person that prohibits it has to bring his book without any doubt, he has to bring his essence of truth okay.

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We will cover this in the beginning but he has to be below two years of age. Can you please explain your proof for saying that it is not allowed to go to or to eat from someone whose major income is held on because upon asking a student of knowledge, I was turned to the progress of these to accept gifts and food from using Christians and most of them use to deal with.

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The proof was this is that

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they have implicit proofs. They say that, for example, Allah says that, in the law for human life, the person said that was pure he only accepts what is pure, also the man, the Hadith of the man who ate from impure, it is okay, that his job was not answered in the process of instead, how can God be answered when? Hmm, how long it took his clothes, and he drank from heroin. How is this possible? The answer to this is the very fact that you see the person's house and you know, for a fact that his income is heroin, and you're eating from the income is as if you're eating from heroin, but the scholars say this is the humble position, that it depends on the amount of money that is apprehended

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many, many stories, and many and one of those was alcohol. Okay, so the majority of his money is heroin. So therefore, the prohibition is not that great. Whereas if income is from heroin sources, then they say that the religion becomes more and more so the mayor has many coats on heroin, the more on the becomes, but it is not obligatory for you to ask what a source of income is. If you happen to know that's a different story, but you don't have to go to Muslim

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source of income. What did you do

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Get your money this is not proper. This is not proper for person to do you have to address

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Yeah, so he doesn't have to ask like I said here, but if he knows for a fact that his money is from Harlem then how do you go about finding if your future spouse is a virgin or not? Is there a lot for you to ask him or her Also, do you have to tell the truth if you're not a virgin because of the fact that you may make repentance and you want to conceal your false

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the marriage contract one of the important factors to take into account is virginity. Therefore, like we said, if it is discovered that the woman was not a virgin, then the man has the right to say he must do it, but the man has the right to an organized contract. Therefore, it is obligatory upon the women to inform the man and vice versa if they are not virgins. Okay. It is obligatory upon the sponsor to inform them of any type of diseases that they have they're going to be affected any type of this acid out of metal with this question, okay. Because someone asked me this about you know, these renewals of using this type of stuff, it is obligatory logic upon base classes to inform the

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future spouses of these types of diseases and also of this rigidity, because when you know, when you stretch into a region, then you have every right to choose a version and vice versa. Okay, but it is expected that If so, you have a right to ask By the way, in our times, especially you have a lot to ask that this you have any disease or this you have any you know, as your servers you have the right to ask, okay, this type of stuff.

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This is, I mean physical defects in her. He can't have intercourse with her due to her problems, but he still keeps you as a wife. She can demand her mad or not. A lot of us she can't because they have been in 100 together they have been

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Okay, last question quickly.

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We talked about this before.