Ask Shaykh YQ – Episode 02 – When is Backbiting Allowed

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Episode Notes

Shaykh Yasir Qadhi delves into the technicalities of permissibility of backbiting.

Imam An Nawawi mentions some exceptions when backbiting is allowed:

  • When somebody has done Zulm on you.
  • When we need to warn the community against a general Maslaha.
  • If somebody comes to you for a personal advice for a greater good.

 

Episode Transcript

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What constitutes backbiting and when is backbiting allowed? On?

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no fee him.

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So backbiting has been defined by the Sunnah of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the crooked a haka, Bhima, Cora, to mention something about your brother behind his back, obviously, that he does not like to be mentioned. So this is a factual thing, what you have said is factual. You mentioned an awkward and embarrassing issue. You mentioned something that will bring shame to that person and he doesn't want it to be known. And you mentioned it in front of other people. This is backbiting you should not do that. As for lying. This is even worse as our Prophet system said, and this is slander. Now, when is backbiting allowed? Mm hmm. No, we mentioned six positions. Mr.

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McCarney wrote a treatise refer Riba female Jews who are usually the labor, that raising the doubt about what is and isn't allowed of labor. All of these treaties and tracks are really not comprehensive. They're simply trying to give you examples and illustrations, when can you do labor? And I'll give you these some of these examples and exceptions. But realize these are exceptions. The rule is you never do labor. That is the rule. Do not think that every second thing you say will be an exception. Exceptions remain exceptions. What are the exceptions? Number one, all of the fuqaha mentioned the number one exception law, you have bill law whose job is to even have only in volume,

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one volume has been done to you. When somebody has taken your house, when somebody has lied, cheated, stole your money, when somebody double crossed you, you have the right to get your health back, you go to the people of authority, you go to the judge, you go to so and so. And you say what do I do, this person did this, I need help. So you're allowed to mention the faults of a person when your help has been taken. Number two, some of our scholars mentioned that when you're warning against a generic public evil, so this is a person who his presence is evil that he is bringing he might be for example, selling drugs, for example, to the children, whatever you get my point, this

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is a person who has no sanctity, you need to warn the community. This is a bad person. We don't want him coming to our community because of this. So a general Muslim, that you want to protect the community, not a private sin, a person's private sins remain between him and Allah azza wa jal, even if you see somebody drinking, it's none of your business to go and tell other people but now suppose he's selling drugs to other people, he's selling drugs to the teenagers and kids. Now this is something else and you need to help prevent that even if it means mentioning what he is doing in public. Another thing as well is that if somebody comes to you for a personal advice about a person

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that he wants to do business with, or he's interested in a marriage prospect or any reason where it is a greater good that you mentioned, it is mentioned that Fatima been defaced elitism Bahati. She came to the Prophet system and said O Messenger of Allah. Wa we have proposed for me and abou Jehan proposed for me What should I do? The Profit System in public wowza was not there Abuja home was not there. The Profit System said as for more are we up? He has no money you will not be successful marrying him and asked for Abuja him he beats his wife he will not be happy go and marry so and so. So he mentioned false about the other people and they were not sitting there what gives the right

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dimension false now she's coming for is called St Shara is the genre specific advice I want to know a business partnership you know phoolan Zaid amor I went to enter a business partnership and I know you had a business partnership you will say oh, I have to tell you you know I found him to be somebody who double crossed me multiple times beware, this is not labor, you are now is the shower You're giving me advice to protect me. So this is something that is also allowed inshallah Tada. Now the gray area, and I'll just mention it, the gray area that our scholars have differed over in this regard, is that it is very common. And again, not to be too generic or sexist, but this is a little

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bit more common in our sisters and brothers. We have our faults, and sometimes sisters have certain things as well. That's more prone to them. The issue of talking about what happened to you with another person so so and so did something to me, you're hurt. You want to tell somebody else what so and so did you see the point here right? So something happened to you? It's something dealing with you. We're not talking about brother x and brother y doing something now you mentioning that's 100% of Eva. How about your brother or sister x hurt sister why your sister why

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Now you want to go and tell your husband you want to go and tell other people, right? Is this Riba or not and this is, unfortunately, the common conversation that takes place in many households and many gatherings of men and women as well. And this is where Allah knows best I would say, we need to look very, very carefully. What is the NEA behind mentioning this awkward conversation behind mentioning what happened if the NEA is to name and shame if the NEA is to humiliate than it is.

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But if the NEA is to get advice, what should I do? It's very common, for example, that assist you might say, Oh, my husband did this and this, he said this and this and she'll tell her best friend, she'll call up say, No, my husband came home. He was in a bad mood. He did this and this, and she's basically expressing a frustration. Okay, now is this Ziva? When the sister mentions what her husband did, that's awkward. That's embarrassing. This is a very gray area. And Allah knows best what I will say is she needs to and a brother can do the same as well. We need to look very carefully. What is the Nia if the Nia is to bring about Salah to bring about reconciliation. So the

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reason why the sister is telling her best friend, she wants to hear an opinion she wants to hear what should I do? Was I in the right? Was he in the right? If I'm in the right, what can I do to get the situation back? If I'm in the wrong should I apologize? So if renea is to bring Scylla then in sha Allah, if she goes to a trustworthy source, it is not LIBOR. But if the Nia is name and shame, if the Nia is humiliate, then this would constitute LIBOR because what's the purpose of telling the faults of another person even if that has happened to you and Allah subhana wa tada knows best.

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