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Allowing A Past Tragedy to Impact Your Future Happiness

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Yasir Qadhi

Channel: Yasir Qadhi

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You try your best after the calamity, to regain and go back to as normal of a lifestyle as possible. You do not allow the calamity to stop you from your life itself.

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You don't dwell in the past and because of a past tragedy continuously live in misery live in pain no, you sort of forced yourself to move on and get back into the energy of life the rhythm of your schedule and this is again well demonstrated that's why our Sharia has come and said it is not allowed to mourn anybody who is dead more than three days what does it mean is not allowed to mourn more than three days so for three days

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you are allowed to let the grief take time to heal

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take a break from work just you know not really cared for yourself that much and it's just difficult to live you take cope okay Max three days if it's less than that no prom but Max three days after three days are over there surely our requires you to try your best to snap out of it not your internal grief that's not going to go away ever. But your external body has to get back with the program. Why? Because our Shediac is not a morbid Shetty and that you live in the past is the Shetty at the teaches you how to live your life in the future. You cannot allow a past tragedy to affect the entirety of the rest of your life. That's not what Allah wants. Now you could be in pain and

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suffering. Our profit system, as we know loved Khadija immensely. And her death was extremely difficult. In fact, the year she died is called the year of sorrow an entire year of sorrow. Because she died a well thought of died, the incident of life happened. And the Sahaba said we didn't see him smile for an entire year after the death of Khadija. That was pain an entire year he did not smile.

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At us if demotic tells us five years later, I never saw anybody smile more than the prophets of Allahu Allah he was sending what's happened here. And this never saw him in Makkah. And so I'm in Medina. And I see him I never saw anybody smile more than the Prophet system. This is what it means okay, the pain is there, the grief is there, but you need to move on. When we talked about the incident of the death of Jaffa, the brother or the cousin of the Prophet system, when Jaffa passed away his wife a smile is not meant to replace she married Jaffa Jaffa died, she married Rebekah aboubaker died, she married it. So she was married to three people of Jenner, one after the other

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Subhanallah and she had children from all of them, can you imagine? So there are half brothers of John's father and Ali and Abu Bakr Subhanallah all of this from from a smart material base. So I don't have a whole biography about US medical history. So a smart she was at the time a young lady Jennifer passes away, she's in her mid 20s. And she

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could not cope with his loss. And she began wheeling because she wasn't accustomed to not willing even though it was not allowed. And our profit system attempted to stop the wailing via the servants, but they did not succeed. So on the third day, the prophet system visited the house of a smile. Three days he gave her to calm down to let her grief come to terms. And then he said From now on, there shall be no wailing from my brother Jaffa. Then he called the children of Jafar. And they were neglected, completely disheveled dirty. They hadn't taken a bath, what not because for three days, they're mourning. And he called for a barber and cut their hair. And he gave them new clothes,

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and he arranged for food to be given to them. I want you to think about why he would do this when they've just become orphans.

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Give them a haircut. They've just lost a father. And he comes over with basically the equivalent of gifts. Why? Because our religion teaches us you don't dwell in the past. Whatever it is, whatever tragedy happens, you need to move on collect your wits and continue with life. You cannot live completely lost in the memories and the pain and the suffering of yesterday.

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That's not our religion.

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And in fact, it is authentically reported as well, that our mother Sophia been to create. Sophia, of course was from a Jewish tribe. She converted to Islam. She married the process and she had no Muslim family members. She had one brother, who passed away she had no family in Medina except for one brother and the process and passes away. She has her brother who visits every once in a while, then her brother dies. It was a very difficult time for her. She had no family at all. Her brother passed away. And on the third day of his passing, she told her servant to bring her a new dress and perfume she put on she's, she's a widow, the process of her story, right? So she's no longer she's

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not Yeah, there's no husband in her life. Her brothers passed away. She wore a new dress, and she put on perfume. And she said to the servant, I have no desire to dress up right now.

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But the only reason I'm doing this, the Profit System said it is not allowed to mourn somebody for more than three days. And today is the end of the third date that my brother has died. I need to move on now. She's doing this psychologically for herself. And this shows us from the zero we learn from the zero we learn that you do not allow a past tragedy to dictate your future happiness that's not Islamic

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