Channel: Yasir Qadhi
Series: Yasir Qadhi - 10 Deeds to Jannah
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said I want to cover how to loiter cattle hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah while he was a llama bird. So in our yesterday's lesson, we talked about good manners and I said that of the most important deeds that we can do because again, the whole series is about various ways to get to Jen and various things we should be doing other the most important, good deeds that we can do. And of the most important manifestations of good manners is to have good manners with one's owns parents right now, I know that we have heard the topic of parents over and over again, and especially when it comes to teenagers, whenever you bring up this topic, they roll their eyes, oh my god, not again,
as a panelist, that is the reality that one day these teenagers will also have their own teenagers. And when they give them lectures, their own teenagers will roll their eyes back at them. But that is the circle of life that we all
go through. But still Allah tells us in the Koran to remind one another and to benefit from these reminders. And there are so many verses of the Quran and so many a hadith about the blessings of being good to one's parents. And of course, one of the incidents that is narrated is very powerful. Really, it's more it moves me all the time. It is a statement Have you been in the room or the last one that
was doing pull off around the cab, and a bin Omar he This is after the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and he saw a man in the Hajj pilgrimage, carrying an old lady on his back. And when the man saw a gentleman and he recognized him because the people were asking him questions, he rushed up to me said that, oh, no more. This lady is my mother. And she wanted to come for hedge. And I didn't have the money to hire or to get a camel. So I carried her on my back. And we are now doing hedge. Have I given the heck of my mother back to her? So can you imagine this is a man who is doing Hajj for his mother by literally carrying the elderly lady on the back. And
wherever he came from, we don't know. And he's now performing hajj. And even Omar said, No, you haven't given her how kaback and not even a fraction of it. So the man was shocked. He said how, like how what I did so much. And he almost gave a very, very, very powerful response that he said that the difference is that what your mother did for you, she did out of love, wanting your life and wanting to see you flourish and grow. And what you are doing in return, you are doing it as a burden as a debt, you're basically repaying it back and you are waiting for her to pass on and die. There's a big difference between the two. Right? You might have done a lot nobody's denying that. But if it
were pointed out the psychological frame of mind, which is so true, Subhanallah that you know, the the the the parents love for the child is a very different love than the child's love for the parent and especially when the nurturing and the caring has to take place. It's a very different type of philosophy. This is how we are when our child is sick, we will rush to the doctor with genuine love and concern. And when it is the other way around, we will rush to the doctor but with a different type. It's not the same type is not the same. You know, what is that common? This is the reality of Allah's creation that the parents need to have a certain type of love to take care of their
children. Right? So Allah zodion has placed that love there's nothing wrong with having different types of love. But at the same time, we should recognize this as well just like a bit Mr. Ali Allahu taala and who pointed out in this regard, and of course we all know that Allah azza wa jal always pairs in the Quran, the rights of himself with the rights of the parents and this is in multiple verses By the way, it's not just in the famous verse of certainly saw local Dora Buccola Tabitha holiday near Santa, this is the famous verse that is always mentioned. But there are many other verses in the Quran as well. For example, even in previous nations, the same ruling was given Allah
says in the Quran, where the Cardinal mitaka Bunny is strong Isla la buena de la la hora de near sada. We took the covenant with the children of Israel, and we said to them, You can only worship a lot alone, and you must be good to your parents. And notice the word that is always used in the Koran. typically use is a sign
Any sign means that you give more than the rights that are due, and that you accept back less than the rights do unto you. So it is a state of excellence. Yes, that is the highest form of generosity. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says that the righteous are those who are giving with your son to their parents. And there are of course, so many other you know, I don't need to go over to the blessings of the Quran and Sunnah with regards to taking care of parents, it's just a reminder for myself and all of you that those of you whose parents are still here, and I especially speak to you, those of you whose parents are still here, that take advantage of this time, take advantage of this time,
that Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah you have one or both of your parents, it has mentioned that a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and you know, confessed of a sin and said that he had done something so the profits of the lesson and said, Are any of your parents alive? Or any of your parents alive? Our scholars meant in this case, he said, No. Our scholars mentioned the reason that he said this was that this would have been the biggest good deed that he can done. He could have done it been our bus, the Companion of the Prophet said and a man came to him and said, Oh, even a bus. I have done a major sin. I have committed murder. I've murdered somebody. How can Allah
forgive me had been busted? Is your mother alive? He said yes. He said, Go to your mother and serve her till she passes on. Just be her servant leadership has a notice of Hannelore. The man committed the worst crime imaginable on this earth, and he wants to do a good deed to make up for that. It'd been a bust the cousin of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. He said that, yes, go to your mother and help your mother out that will be the greatest good deed that you can do to try to redeem yourself in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the famous Israel Mirage journey. When our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was in the heavens, he heard or he saw a beautiful palace. And it was so
beautiful. He wanted for himself. But he said to journalists, whose policy is this? And Djibouti responded, this palace belongs to Hardee's. Even a Norman How do you say Eben and Norman and then the prophets of the law? Why did he was seldom said that palace was given to hard ether because he used to be good to his mother so panela can you imagine our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is seeing a palace that is gorgeous, beautiful, that he comes back. And he tells us the reason why that man got the palace was because he was indeed good to his mother. And of course realized that to have one or both parents alive is it is a very, very big blessing from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And it
shows us that the doors of gender or open up it is mentioned that one of the Sahaba when his father passed away, that he was crying at the grave and the people consoled him. And he said I am not crying just because my father has passed on. I am crying because the biggest door to gender has been shut, okay, I'm crying because the biggest door to Jenna has been shut for me. Therefore the shows us that if your parents are alive, they are the biggest door to gender for you. If one or both of your parents are alive, there is nothing you can do to please Allah subhanho wa Taala after your five prayers than to earn Jenna through them, and how what is to be done? Well, obviously, you know,
there are financial and legal and moral obligations as physically serving them. But you don't want to talk more about another aspect which is overlooked. And that is the emotional support. And that is just to show love to them to be there for them to call them up to just be a part of their lives when they need you to be a part of their lives. That that is a type of emotional support that for many, many parents, it is much more important than just sending some check or sending some, you know, some other type of item that they need. Sometimes that emotional, you know, love that the child can give that the son and daughter can give just to call them up on a regular basis to visit
them on a regular basis. This is something that do not trivialize and do not underestimate the joy that your parents will have when you remember them. So many of us have had a low we never even call our parents regularly. And then perhaps the time will come when we cannot call our parents. So before that time comes to do your best to make sure that you are there for them in whatever way that it is possible. If it so happens that your parents have moved on. If it so happens that they passed on to the next life, there is still much that you can do for them. And of the things that you can do is obviously seek forgiveness for them ask Eliza to forgive them and to fulfill any requests that
they had and to give charity on their behalf and to give the old here in these days or in any days in their name and to make the hedge under ombre
In, in their name, so you go for Hajj if you've already done a hydrocele or ambala, and you gift it to them, and to also visit their friends and their relatives as well, their friends and their relatives as well visit them. And remember them when you go there, because our scholars mentioned that when you visit the Friends of your parents, what is the topic of conversation going to be is going to be your parents. And so it will bring back the memories and it will make you make do offer them and it will overall be something that will be something that the sweetness of those days and times it will come back. So this is one of the things that our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Many mentioned when it comes to giving the rights of the parents even after they have passed on, therefore, of the good deeds that we should do in these 10 days, whether our parents are alive or they have passed on is to do something for them if they're alive, much can be done, and if they passed on, much can be done as well. I suggest to you and myself that we should do some regular good deeds, especially if our parents have moved on, put in your calendar once a week I'm going to do this or once a month, I'm going to do something for them special so that you know do some and you can recite Quran for them and pass it to them as well. If they've passed on in this world, do a good
deed for them. give charity in their name, do an ombre or hedge. And the least that can be done is to raise your hands up to Allah subhana wa tada and make dua and it's too far for them. This is of the least of the rights that a lot xojo has asked us to do. May Allah surge and make us all righteous children of our parents, shallow toddler who will continue in our next lesson tomorrow.