The Tears Of Grief

If you guys remember last night, we talked

in hadith 28.

We discussed,

it's alright for people who are grieving

to say words. Like, I I thought

when she was grieving over the passing of

her father, Muhammad

But what about crying?

Are you allowed to cry? Are you allowed

to shed tears?

Hadith number 29 answered this question.

And that's Hadith Abi Zayed Usama bin Zayd

ibn Haritha, Mawla Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam wahibihe

wa Abu Nuhibbe.

Usama bin Zayd ibn Haritha.

He is the the son of Zayd ibn

Haytha. Both of them are Heb Abnuhib, which

means the beloved

the son of the most beloved of Rasulullah

Rasulullah If I may ask the parents in

the back, If you guys can't keep your

kids a little bit quiet,

their brothers and sisters like to listen to

the

after we're done, you can have the masjid

all yours, inshallah. So please just bear with

us.

Boys and girls, inshallah.

So Osama bin Zayd bin Haritha was the

beloved of the most beloved to the prophet

sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

He was like his son. As a matter

of fact, was like he was adopted son.

So we talk about his the son of

his adopted son, salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah

salawatullah salawatullah salawatullah salawat

She sent to him, asking him to come

over.

Arzal bintu Nabiya, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, in

nabni qadihtudr

fashhadna.

She She sent to the messenger of Allah

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam and saying

that my son, kadhi htudr, which means he's

actually he is dying.

Like, his time is up. He's dying.

Please come join us. Like, I wanna I

wanna my dad, I wanna see you. Be

with us. Like, I need you to be

with me.

Obviously, this is a very difficult time for

any parents, any child, anybody. Right?

And and the daughter that we're talking about

here in the hadith is, is,

Zaynab, his eldest daughter, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.

So she had a daughter. Her name was

Umama.

That was the one that the prophet, sallallahu

alaihi wasallam, was seen walking with her in

the streets,

in the marketplace.

She was the one the prophet was holding

in his salah. And when he goes to

the ruku, he puts her on the ground,

and then he goes to the sujood. And

then when he comes up, he pulls her

up again, held her

That's

Umama. But here, she had another boy, or

a child that was born for her

but that child did not survive long.

So which means she realized he's not gonna

make

it. So she said to the prophet salallahu

alaihi wa sallam, you Rasulullah,

please come. Come over. I want I want

you to be here.

Farasool

Allahu sallallahu alaihi wasalam.

So the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasalam, he sent

her salaam back and they said

He said to her, He sent to her,

whatever Allah takes away or gives belong to

Him. And everything with Him has a limited

fixed term using this world. And so she

should be patient

and anticipate Allah

reward.

And that's the words that we use usually

right now in what we call or aza.

Like, when we offer condolences to anybody,

we use these words.

To to Allah, whatever Allah takes

back, it belongs to Him. And

whatever Allah gives to you, it still belongs

to Him.

So, therefore, everything that belongs to Allah

And everything in this world

has measure,

has time. So So everything when it comes

to time expires, this is it.

Then as a result, he said,

then just make sure that you be patient

and hope for their word from Allah subhanahu

wa ta'ala for that. So that was what

the prophet sent to his daughter.

What does that mean exactly to us? Look.

Islam is a very pragmatic or practical religion,

and what does that exactly mean?

If someone dies, that's part of life.

We grieve, we cry, we definitely we have

to, feel, you know, the the pain. But

then what happens after that? Life has to

move on and go on. That's why in

Islam, you can't mourn 1 or 3 days

3 nights over the death of somebody, except

for the husband.

4 months 10 days. Just have to move

on. Life has to move on as well

too. So here the prophet says, it's okay.

Allah make it easy for you. Take care

of it. As if he was busy with

something, probably maybe,

he believed it's more important to attend in

that moment.

So she sent back to the prophet sallallahu

alaihi wa sallam. And now this time she

was saying for the sake of Allah that

he should come.

Like she gave like more like an oath

on the prophet

I ask you by Allah that you should

come.

And obviously if you do that to the

prophet

he had no other option but to respond

to that.

So the prophet, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, he

he he got up to go to her.

With him, he had a group of Sahaba

that he was dealing with in certain business

of the of the Ummah. He had Saadib

and Ubada,

Muad ibn Jabal, Ubayyub Nukab, Wazayyub Nuthab, Warijan

radiAllahu anhu, and many other more.

Which

means the prophet was in a very business

very serious business before that. He was with

some of these elites of the Ansar, some

serious business for the community, for the Ummah.

So when he got up everybody moved with

him and came with him.

So then when he arrived

the child was lifted up the messenger of

Allah like was brought to the prophet salallahu

alaihi wa sallam.

She said that so the prophet sallallahu alaihi

wa sallam, he put him on his on

his lap

and and and the child was was struggling

with the with his breathing, Like, very his

breath was disturbed.

And and the prophet, salallahu alayhi, salallahu alayhi,

he saw that. So upon seeing the salawatullah

salallahu alayhi, he start tearing

up. And he has softly start crying.

Now,

I mean,

I don't know about you but it's one

of those moment is so difficult to see

someone that you love died in front of

you, in your arms, let alone a child.

Now his daughter probably she thought or at

least she hoped

that the prophet

been the messenger of Allah, That we intervene

and give the chance for this child to

survive by the grace of Allah

But the prophet, he doesn't own life and

death.

And knowing that it's not in my hand,

I cannot do much for this child. So

as he was holding him, salallahu alaihi wa

sallam, looking at that baby, he starts crying.

So those soft tears starts coming down on

his cheek, salallahu alayhi salallam.

Sad, Ibn Ubada radiAllahu, looking at the messenger

of Allah, and he says, you Rasulullah,

what is this?

Because they learned from the prophet, sallallahu alaihi

wa sallam, you shouldn't be wailing.

You shouldn't be crossing the line, you know,

when someone dies and so forth. And he

thought that this is was something, you know,

inappropriate. Like, you're also you said we shouldn't

be doing this. So he was kinda like

objecting. I said, what is this? You're telling

us not to cry and and that's what

you do?

So the prophet says

because this is different, this is mercy.

It's not wailing, there's not, you know,

complaining about Allah subhanahu and rejected the Qadr.

No. He was

Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has placed this mercy

in the hearts of his slaves and servants.

Like this is compassion

that God put in my heart. That's what

it means here.

Whoever Allah was.

Another narration

says, and Allah

said Allah shows mercy and compassion

only to those among his slaves who are

compassionate.

Which is basically means that if you would

like to be Yani shown Rahma and mercy

and compassion

by Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, you should show

it to the people around.

If you feel that your life is rough,

everything is is difficult and hard,

maybe you should look around your around you

and see what are you doing with the

people who are around you.

How's your,

relationship with your spouse?

How's your relationship with your, with your children,

with the people around you, your friends, your

relatives,

your grandchildren? How's your relationship with your grand

granddaughter, grandson,

Your son-in-law, your daughter-in-law?

How is your treatment to them? How is

your relationship with them? If you're not showing

any mercy or rahmah to those around you,

why would you expect Allah

to bestow that mercy and compassion upon you?

So it's extremely important

if you would like to see that compassion,

that rahma from Allah, be sent upon you,

that you show it to the people around

you as well too. But from this hadith,

what we learned is that in a moment

of grief and sorrow,

crying, soft cries, I would say, is okay.

There's nothing wrong with that.

Showing that,

that sadness,

is okay.

It's not contradictory to the command of the

prophets or the prohibition of the prophet, salallahu

alayhi wasalam, from wailing or rejecting Allah's father.

May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala protect your loved

and

and fill our hearts with rahma and mercy

and compassion for one another

Allah. Any questions, Jamal?

Yes.

Congregation?

So the question, why the sahab radhiallahu anhu

from last night's actually,

khatra when the prophet passed? What we know

is that

the

did not pray in one

jama'ah, rather they prayed in actually small groups

and individuals.

Now the I remember they gave different opinions

in this matter. First of all, some of

them say it's a space, convenience.

Because the prophet was in the small room,

so they didn't could not take take him

out. So they just wanna keep it there.

So they allow the people to come individuals.

But what is more appropriate is what's what

they said that is that

so that no one would argue who should

be the leader,

because whoever's gonna lead the janaza

probably give that

And they couldn't tell who's gonna be the

different than nazah upon the prophet individually.

different than nazah upon the prophet individually.