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Tawbah and Building good spiritual habits.

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undesirable elements are allowed Salaam Baraka, Vienna Mohammed, Salah Steven kathira my bad welcome back with us to session number five of Ramadan series that we have handled. I mean if you guys remember we've been talking about Ramadan, we talked about some of the spirituality of the month of Ramadan and expectations for the month of Ramadan. Tonight inshallah as we come much closer to the month of the month of Ramadan less than 15 days a lot of people are wondering right now how can I ensure that my start and beginning of Ramadan is going to be strong inshallah. So therefore we have the show the title of this session will be Ramadan a month of change which means how can I change

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myself in the month of Ramadan inshallah zildjian hamdullah we're very privileged very tonight with having our guest speaker with us in sha Allah, Allah is Imam spending from IIT, Majid Richardson. He is going to be talking in the first inshallah 35 minutes when the law on the first step to change Ramadan and that is Toba. How can you kind of like you know, reset the button and start over and inshallah the next 25 minutes I'll be talking about how to build strong spiritual habits after hopefully you establish your Toba inshallah to Allah without any further delay, management division.

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smilla rahmanir rahim

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Salam Allah wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad in Allah Allah, he was happy he was seldom at the Sleeman kathira on a bad

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tober

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probably one of those subjects that

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really don't want to sit and listen to why.

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Perhaps one of the stereotypes we have is well Toba is only for those people who commit major sins Alhamdulillah I haven't killed I haven't committed yet. I don't do kufr and so I don't have anything to worry about. So really doesn't relate to me.

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I would beg to differ and have to understand that Toba is a topic that should be at the heart of every one of us because it applies to every one of us.

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Allah who has his origin in the Quran and Sora to know the 31st

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he says we're to boo Illa law hegemony an A you help me known Allah Allah Khun tuifly rune

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and turn to Allah and repentance, all of you, Jimmy

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that means everybody. No exceptions.

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Young old Muslim yesterday Muslim all your life

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educated in Islamic school or not everybody?

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Especially when we think about El Nino. He doesn't say yeah, you Hellmuth kneebone or fasciae cone or moody moon, he says to the believers, all you believers, all of you repent to Allah, every single one of you that come to your home, so that you will hopefully be successful.

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And we have Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam telling us in the headsets and so Hey, hello, Jeremy kulu Benny, Adam hapa.

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He's again, the spelling whatever there may be of a misconception where somebody may think not me. He says every single child of Adam is sinful is a wrongdoer. Now, here's what the sisters when because they sit there and say it'll sudo la Haile salatu salam said Benny Adam. So it's the men that are the sinners, not the woman.

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Maybe a loved one.

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But he said sallallahu alayhi wasallam or hiral hapa.

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The best of those who sin or a web boom those who realize what they've done wrong.

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That they correct their situation by going back to Allah hujan ledger lol

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What does Toba mean?

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What exactly is

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once again through the poor Angela who is so jealous or at the very at the 50th year he says jello Allah

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perfil ruku de la la

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Reese

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hasten

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rush in your return to Allah who had surgery.

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So it is to return back to Allahu Allah Allah and to do so without dragging your feet without wasting time.

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Somebody may say well, why repent

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Why do I have to do it now?

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Children, I wait until I'm 60 years old the retirement age. And then when I go make that final hedge, and then I decide to change my life so that this way, you know, that's the clear point.

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Is there such a thing as that?

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That you wait until you're older because when you're younger, you're going to send again, therefore, you don't want to keep sending and repenting sending repenting. Yes, no. Maybe so.

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My speaking in Albanian Is that why nobody's responding to me.

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I want to set the context to this Hadeeth that's in both Bukhari and Muslim.

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That helps us

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through imagery

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to realize how critical the situation is.

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And the parrot that's from Al Bukhari is from economics ru dentro de Allahu, Allahu Allah Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam upon

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in El mina yarrabilba, who can who are the Jebel

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Ali.

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He says that the believer,

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the believer sees himself

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with regards to their sins, as though they are sitting under a mountain fearing that it's going to just collapse on avalanche.

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This is the believer.

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Look at the opposite. He says what nl fer grrrr, the robo cassville babbie murale mP pakala v hakobyan.

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We're told that the sinful person that they see their sins as though it's this fly that's basically on their nose and they kind of look to swatted away with their hand.

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Both of them are sins. It's a matter of perspective.

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The first perspective is that of the believer who understands that it's not about the sin itself, which of course matters.

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But to really put it into perspective, it's who you're sinning against. It is Rabbil alameen.

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Therefore, they look at whatever they're committing, especially the major sins

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as being so severe and that their circumstances are so fragile, that the world is going to collapse on top of them as well as the sky is gonna fall on as though they have the weight of a mountain on them. And it's going to just

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do them in.

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Whereas, the sinful person

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who has allowed for shade to have the greater portion of them

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they have been convinced that their sins are nothing really that it's like that little fly that you kind of just swiped away from your nose because it looks to kind of you know, just disturb you or distract you, it annoys you.

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And the remainder of the Hadith is from Islam.

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And this is from ns radi Allahu Allah Allahu abutilon, some pilot Lola who Tabata khattala shadowfang Vito but the Abdi cleaner to boo la he mean a Heidi Concannon la rahila te Dr. Dean, Fela will take the same steps.

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He says by Allah Allah is happier.

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When any one of his servants repents to him,

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then a traveler who has their animal with all their supplies on it, and they are traveling through this vast open wasteland.

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He says,

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Ben felted men who were they had armor who were sharada who, for at least I mean,

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he says that his camel his animal.

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it escapes

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and it leaves with all of his supplies his food, he drink everything.

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There's no way he's gonna catch it and he loses hope in ever being able to find it and to get it back. He says Fantasia Jonathan photographies liliha caught a geezer mean rahila t.

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So what is he though? He sees the tree. He goes and sits under the shade of that tree, having given up any hope of getting his supplies as well as his transportation back.

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He says

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Bay NEMA who academica either who are behalf or Emerton in the hoof Aqua Debbie's before me her

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He says and while he's in that state

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while he's in that most pitiful condition and situation,

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basically waiting to die

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and he goes to sleep and he wakes up all of a sudden he sees

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voila, the animal is there with everything What is he though? wasting no time he quickly grabs its rings

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he doesn't rub his eyes and say wait a minute is my my dreaming?

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pinch himself to see is this really happening? Or my

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from the dehydration hallucinating here is this an oasis?

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He does not waste the moment to seize that which is going to save his life.

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And the Prophet alayhi salatu salam said so far let me shoot the tea Farah, Allah home and Abdi will enter a book.

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I mean, she that

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that this person

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who add of being delirious,

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that his life was just saved. He says, mistakenly,

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Oh Allah, I am your master and you were my servant.

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He spoke words of blasphemy, out of a mistake from the having been lost his mind of how happy he was.

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You may say, What's that got to do with repentance?

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If you think about this life being a journey, and we have an end destination that we have to make, because if we do not make it, we are doomed.

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What is our transportation and our supplies? But there's a word what is overdue for in the higher Azad the taqwa

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and prepare yourself. And the best preparation is tough for that mindfulness of Allah who is living your life because of Allah who has no jail for him.

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And you know that

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you have to get there. And this person,

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he has that journey, we have our journey.

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And if and when our airmen, our good deeds are taken away from us if they escaped from us. Why because of whatever it may be of the pitfalls that are along the way

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than we do.

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Because we know that if we do not reach our destination, it's not just the physical best in the way that this person would have suffered. But we're talking about jahannam how Allah save us from it. I love them, I mean.

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So when we think about

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repentance,

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I think all of us should understand that in the same way that that traveler seize the opportunity, that repentance was to quickly grab on to that which was going to save him that we should not delay in the least with regards to repenting local wi limin, running back to him racing back to him, and not putting some type of artificial criteria. They say, Well, after I finish college, after I get married, after I have my children, after I buy my house, after I make hedge after I retire, after my kids get married, after the grandkids grow up, because she was gonna keep postponing whatever that that criteria that you place.

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But if we think about

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repentance, we need to think about who it is that we're repenting to. And it's Allah horrible. I mean,

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we have to be clear that our relationship with Allah who has an agenda is a relationship of love.

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We should have no doubts that he didn't love Allah loves us. The question is, do we love him? Super Hannah.

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And among the ways that we test this, is to see how eager are we when we slip and fall and when we make those mistakes, how eager are we run back to him?

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Especially if when when we know that the law was written as he tells us in Surah, Al Baqarah, the 200 and 22nd area

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in a law how you were being aware you have read that certainly Allah loves those loves those who repent to him, repentance, and he loves those who purify themselves.

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repentance.

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You want to learn how to love you and to continue to love you. When you do those wrongs.

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You need to make sure that you do not allow that sin to prevent you from running back then.

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That's one of the things that shaytan will do this

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Same evil being that's gonna cause you to sin against Allah who as origin is going to be the same one that's going to come to you and say, how are you going to now ask Allah for forgiveness? You knew what you were doing was wrong, you knew that it was bad. You think Allah is gonna forgive you?

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I love words is the word you loves to forgive and he loves those who repent.

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There are many,

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many benefits and blessings for the person who repents.

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Here's one of them. That's a surah Tito had the 82nd

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Allah horrible I live in says what in Nila of Lehman tabber

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de la Sol.

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He says and I am certainly the all forgiving to the person who repents and they have faith and they perform deeds that are righteous.

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And then they remain guided.

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Allah azza wa jal will forgive you that sin.

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at how simple it is, Allahu Allah, Allah will forgive you.

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And to conclude,

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we're talking about our salvation, what is salvation?

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salvation is that when we stand before Him Subhana hautala

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that He will bless us to be from those who truly have believed it will be granted entrance into paradise.

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That's where everything is going to matter the most on the day that we stand before the king of kings

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during his Supreme Court.

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And when we think about

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what Allah azza wa jal says the Surah Maryam the sixth area.

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So Jen Luanda, Illa

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M and y Mila, so do you have for all

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the Hulu,

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net

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Muna, she

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says, except for those who they repent, they have faith, and they perform good deeds, righteous deeds, those are the people that will enter into paradise and they will not be wronged in the least.

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Brothers and sisters, let us be honest, this life no matter how good you have it, it cannot come close to paradise.

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No matter how long you live, enjoying, whatever it may be, that

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your senses are finding some sense of enjoyment with

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those enjoying enjoyments are not going to last except for minutes.

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minutes.

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And when we know that Allah horrible Eileen has promised us in His Word and through his prophet alayhi salatu salam of what's in the Sunnah, that which is clearly

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better,

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and that is eternal. And that the least of what a person in paradise will have will be equal to this whole entire Earth.

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But without all of its problems.

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Here we complain about it's too humid, mosquitoes, allergies, bills, traffic, and the list can go on forever.

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And paradise there's not going to be anything that's in the lead is going to diminish what there is of greatness and of happiness.

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So what we should we be doing during this month of Ramadan, we want to make sure that we really run back to him jawara especially when we know that

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the demons are going to be restrained, that we're not going to have those stealth enemies that are always there otherwise whispering to us to do when to act upon impulses.

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We want to make sure that this Ramadan we truly face Allah who is so gentle that we turned to him

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and we never turn away.

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And in case you're wondering, well how does the person repent? You stop whatever it is that you know you're doing wrong.

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Whether it be to yourself or to others.

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Secondly, that you feel remorse inside of yourself for having done whatever that is. Having shown Allahu wa jal ugliness while he shows us beauty and love

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and the third

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That you promise him

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sincerely

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that you are going to do your best not to go back to that.

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And if there's anything that's including another person,

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you want to make sure that you mend that relationship you correct whatever that wrong is.

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In doing so be it Neela has a gel the conditions for repentance will have been met. This Ramadan you can be from those who Allahu as the gel saves them for being punished and help. And he does this every single night during the nights of Ramadan is retold in the authentic hadith. I pray that Allah hoogendoorn Abbas assaulted me from among them allama amin was a lava salamander

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Zach O'Hara in management in for this beautiful reminder about how to start to change towards the month of Ramadan Allah subhana wa tada made our process of change easier behind me and I hope you guys remember that the first thing you need to do if you would like to start to shell out that change is the first thing is to stop digging, which means we stop the bad habits that we're doing already. And then inshallah hopefully we kind of like have that remorseful moment or regret for what we've done. And then inshallah we make the commitment that we never go back again to this and even if we fail, we recalibrate we keep doing this back and forth to shallow to Allah until we perfect

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that when Allah he has this reminder for the brothers and sisters are actually watching us live online right now. If they would like to leave any questions shala they can use the comment section Bonilla xojo so go ahead you can do that we still have another 2025 minutes inshallah, on my portion of that speech when the larger the talk before we start taking questions inshallah again once again you can post that on the estimate center page as well. Also another thing for us in the masjid Ramadan is coming as Yama one of the things we need to change inshallah Ramadan is wasting so much plastic bottles, we still use them here. So hamdulillah the masjid is making initiative and also

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sponsored by the women committee has one of these bottles that you can use for the entire month of Ramadan and after month Ramadan inshallah xojo it has the logo Mashallah fancy beautiful logo veterans time at center, it's actually sold outside for $5 that goes to the master Sharla so please make commitment in some change in Ramadan that I'm not gonna use plastic bottles anymore. Every night for tarawih ballerup whatever you want to throw it up with water or juice, coffee tea, as long as Helen and you can bring it with you inshallah, to Allah to Allah He Baraka Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa alameen wa sallahu wa salam wa barakaatuh Vienna Muhammad Ali was seldom at the

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Sleeman kathira

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so inshallah Allah we all know understand Okay, before Ramadan begins, I need to reset the button. Okay, I understand I messed up a little bit every year I promised my Allah subhana wa Tada, this year is going to be different. This is going to be the best year in Sharla I'm not gonna make the same mistake like last year, and we do the same mistake like every year. So once you reset the button, what do I need to do next? How can I maintain that momentum? after Ramadan begins inshallah and after Ramadan is over? How can I maintain that momentum of keeping a strong spiritual habits in my life? So I'm going to talk to you shala about this this topic in particular, how to continue and

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maintain that spiritual journey and power as you move on into our life. The first thing we should understand, what does it mean to be spiritual in the first place? I mean, the whole purpose of Ramadan is what to stop eating and correct focus on what on your soul to be more spiritual. So what do we do to get spiritual we go to the Koran, we pray to Ravi, and we watch some TV and all that stuff right? Mix up, some things are messed up again. So we keep doing the right thing and then sometimes we mess it up with other things and then we try to recalibrate and so on. So what does it exactly mean to be spiritual? How can I maintain that level of spirituality in Ramadan after Ramadan

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in sha Allah Allah? First of all, I want to make here a disclaimer, we are human beings. Do you guys agree with me? What does that mean?

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That means you make mistakes, which means in terms of spirituality, constant state or constant spiritual state, constant spiritual state is a human impossibility.

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Do you guys agree with me?

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A constant spiritual state is a human impossibility. You cannot be spiritual all the time.

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Otherwise you become what

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an angel because their spirit their souls that they actually need to get from, from from light they're not like us. Why is this is impossible for us as human beings first of all because the prophets Allah Sam said so remember the high rate of handle of the Divine when he came to the Prophet when I met him in the in the streets of Medina gave us Good morning.

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Hello Kanaka hamdulillah he's like I'm a hypocrite today. I'm a casa de was shocked handle is one of the good Sahaba is on the line on amazing Sahabi Khalid Mohammed Tokuda de la What's wrong with you? Okay, got an akuna Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam there we sit with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. And we hear from him all these beautiful things. And then our Jenna to another iron. We talked to him and we listen to him, as if we're seeing Jenna and fire with our own eyes. But then the moment we leave what happens? We go home and we get distracted with the chores and all that stuff and so on nesina kathira will forget

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what was the deal he thinks is thinking about as it goes, won't you know what you're right, that fluctuation is dangerous. Did if this is the case, then I'm a hypocrite. They go to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and they thought that they talk to him. You're Rasulullah we're in big danger, big trouble, we're hypocrites. And when they told the Prophet sallallaahu them their dilemma,

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which is the impossibility of remaining on a constant spiritual state all day and night. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam he said Carla, Lisa Delica methacholine this is not what you're talking about. That's not what it is. And then he explained to them salado salon, if you would be at home the way you are with me, then the angels will be shaking hands with you in the street. Which means there will be no reason for the angels to hide from you. You become an angel. I'm sure that each one of us would like to be an angel to take a shortcut to agenda. That's not going to happen because we're living in this world. So remember this, that state of the constant state of spirituality is a human

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impossibility. I know some of us might say hamdulillah Thank you. I don't have to worry about it. No, you need to worry about it.

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Because you need to keep trying to improve yourself. That's what it means not like the class I can't be spiritual so that no, I said constant state of spirituality is a human impossibility. But can you be spiritual Of course, because that's what the prophet SAW Sam said handle and overcome by the satin wasa, like we have one time for this sometime like this. Sometimes we feel so energetic and you go all the way up there. And sometimes you feel so low and just panela you become the most human human nature going after desire. So therefore, it's a matter of struggle. We keep trying, we keep trying to do the best inshallah loads of water cordana. So that's the first thing I want you to

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understand that constant state of spirituality is a human impossibility. Number two,

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spirituality in itself. Spirituality in itself is a pure form. It's a pure form. And in the physical realm we live in and that's impossible.

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To get to that level. It's not yet we're not yet. We're not there yet. Because that's physical physical chamber that will our soul is living in or at least operates through obviously, it's not perfect, we get injured. We start you know, producing, sometimes ninjas, blood, stuff like that. So you're not in that complete, you know, pure form. Spirituality is a complete you form. So therefore, in that physical existence, it is impossible to arrive at that level

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it's impossible. So we'll just keep trying in the process of reaching that spiritual perfection we did it with the body and the body has needs you need to eat you need to sleep you need to you know, enjoy you need to do this you take some rest, and that's why we cannot reach that perfect level of spirituality angels don't have that same need like we have and that's why layout soon aloha mama Roma, maroon they never disobey Allah subhana wa Tada. And they always achieve what they've been ordered to achieve. But for us humans, we've been ordered to pray five times a day. What do we do with that as a man?

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There's a lot of shortcuts.

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And sometimes we send charleville agenda, a logo photo Rahim. And we depend so much in the last, you know, Mercy's plan on what the honor, again. So that's that physical room we're living in is kind of delaying us reaching that perfect level of spirituality. The third thing

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do not expect from yourself do not expect the word expect. Do not expect from yourself that constant state of spirituality instead, what you need to do, commit yourself to inviting more connectivity every now and then.

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Be realistic. That's what it means. The prophet SAW Sam says the Hadees when you mentioned in earlier Haleakala have gone well enough. sagarika

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You mentioned your Allah has Rebbe has hacked upon you as of right upon you, your family they have right upon you your body has arrived upon you and then he said several Arsalan, but at the pool that they have been have gotten, give each one of them the hub that is that you owe to them. So part of this, the same thing to that your body is a break, need some rest. So don't expect from yourself that constant state of spirituality.

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Instead, invite more connectivity every now and then. Every time you feel down, what do you do? recharge, try to connect again. And then when you're connecting with handler, go as high as you can. And then when you start getting tired and exhausted, you start slowly and gradually going back again to that point, reconnect again. So invite yourself to more connectivity, every time you lose that connection, what do you do with it, it's not the end of the world. Reconnect. Every time you feel down, you lost that connection, recover and move on. So you keep trying until you reach that level of shallow data or not perfection, but that is satisfactory, that hopefully will

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lead us to improve our life even more and more. One thing that causes people to lose connection with themselves there's what expectation you always expect from yourself to do this to do that. But when you see yourself getting tired, exhausted against your human nature even sometimes you feel disappointed with yourself. And that's it you don't even try anymore. I have I tried this time I tried her last Ramadan, I tried this, I tried that. Because you're always expect more than what your body can really handle more what you can really deal with more than how much time you have more than what space you can give to this part, this project or this relationship. So therefore, take it easy

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on yourself. Take your inner self and invite more connectivity shallow data every now and then. So based on this, how should we understand the subject of spiritual change and changing habits to better and shallow that haven't been the last Ramadan? One thing I read which is very profound statement from john Maxwell, one of the authors and leadership's pilots beautiful actually, quote, he says that change is not an event.

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It's a process.

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Because understand that change is not an event it's a process. Most people think of change like what a switch, Ramadan comes Bismillah Ramadan switch Ramadan is over. So that the load on it, and we're done, right? We think it's a switch. Ramadan comes in, suddenly we're going to become spiritual, all of a sudden, out of nowhere, you're going to become spiritual. Ramadan is over what do you expect? Ramadan is over, I'm going to go back to my old habits. So you let go, you go with gravity immediately. SubhanAllah like nothing is holding you. Rama, you have to understand Ramadan is an opportunity, it just an opportunity for you to change, who brings that chain yourself, you're going

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to do that. And change is not an event. It's not one thing that happens. It's a process. When we talk when we talk about process, you're going to have to keep trying and you fail and you keep trying and you will fail and if you try and so your spiritual spirituality is going up and down, up and down, you can always try to upgrade your level and shallow to volatile data until you pass and until you succeed. So remember, it's a process. What are the grades that have spiritualize I'm looking for the amendment as either a him Allah Allah speaking about purification of the soul, or this purification altogether. He said there are five degrees you need to take it gradual, which

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means you upgrade from one level to the other one, let's see what these levels of spirituality or at least I would say purification until I get to that holistic, you know, kind of concept of being pure number one, you would like to start with purification. What is it the first thing you start with a gym? How do you guys think

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in terms of general general purification, what would you purify first of all your body? That was your body? What does it mean? Because physical purification. So the first thing you start, you start worrying about is your physical purification. you purify yourself, use the bathroom properly. You take shower regularly, you always clean and hamdulillah number two,

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when you purify your body, well, what comes next? What do you thought about your deeds, your amount, your actions. The second level, is start worrying about your actions. So your hand don't do anything but but Helen, your eyes don't see But hold on your ears don't hear anything but head on. So you start worrying about you know your actions, your deeds. Number three that I'm handling physically clean, and then are morally clean. What comes next?

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The higher level right now we're going from the lower to the higher level, the purification of what of the heart.

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Which means what your intentions, you will never intend anything but right. You don't hold a grudge. You don't hold

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Evil you know thoughts, this is kind of like intentions to do anything wrong or haram and so on. So your heart always gives you what we call el azeema. Which means that resolution and that that intention to do right. If you can control your heart, then your body will follow like even claimer him Allah says the relationship between the heart and the and the algebra, which means the limbs just like the king and the soldiers, whatever the king, which is the heart orders, they will follow.

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So if you have your heart desires, good, your actions will be good. If your heart desires, otherwise, you're actually going to do that. So the third level that we're looking for, for purification is as the purification of the heart. And that requires lots of training, a lot of training, you're going to have to try your best to keep your heart always under check. Number four, once you get to that level, what comes after that is the purification of the word

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of the mind. What does that mean? Not even a thought that crosses your mind? But good that's the hardest thing right? Because even when you're sitting like this doing absolutely nothing wrong. Suddenly the shaper start whispering to you something wrong, right? The professor Sam says that every every insect every human being when they're born, Corinne will be assigned to them okay, like the genome shaytan and then the professor said that he was asked jasola What about you? Because even I had a parent even the Prophet has a funny he said well I can Allah Allah and Allah if Aslam but Allah helped me against him, but he so he became Muslim Bella. So he does a whisper editing to me,

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but

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I know most of us will say can I do this to my Korean? Well, I will say we have someone who travels right? Don't even try Gemma. You speak yourself, trust me. But the thing is that the prophets of Assam says you have that story that keeps whispering back to you. So how can I get to that level of spirituality that even the thoughts in my mind, don't cross anything haram or anything that says it was haram to me? That's a long journey to go.

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And then the last and the highest level of purification. He says Rahim Allah, Allah bahara to serve, which means the essence the purification of the essence. And what's the meaning of that? That's a high level of spirituality. The meaning of the purification of the essence is that not just anything that crosses your mind is good. No, whatever. Wherever you look, whatever you see, you see Allah subhana wa tada has greatness in there.

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In everything good or bad. You know, some people when they say something good, that is so powerful, so beautiful. When something horrible happens, Why? What's wrong with these people? their innocence of Hana. We don't see the hikma the wisdom behind it, but those who truly are so connected highly connected with Allah azzawajal they see Allah has wisdom, Allah hikma, Allah has knowledge, knowledge, capability and power and everything that happens, good or otherwise. Now, that is a large high level of purification demand requires a lot of training, which is what we call it at CERN as a professor seldom mentioned in the Hadith when jabril came and he asked what it said what is it I

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sought out the baby I reach that level of sand perfection? God San Antonio de la Kanaka Dora the son is worship Allah as if you see him. And if you didn't get if you could not get to that level of certainty, then you're certain that he sees you. That's what a lesson is. If you can get to that level, and allow your actions will always be good. Now, you guys remember these five five categories? Can we mentioned them together right now what was the number one, the purification of worth? Physical purification right? Your body, your clothes, your place everything number two,

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your actions and deeds, you prove everything, make it all good. Number three, the heart and intentions because if you intend something bad, your body will follow. So always intend something good. And number four, the mind and thoughts you just everything is pure and clear. And number five, the essence so that whatever that you look around you you see a larger result and his power and his greatness. Now that is high level of spirituality. May Allah give me that give me that to your blood? I mean, so how can I get to that? Let's do practical tips and shallow data on hi Can I get to that level slowly and gradually I know it's a big topic and obviously to arrive at this level in

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such you know, short amount of time such as Ramadan 30 days and Ramadan. It's not that possible but we start from there remember changes what a demand it's a process you begin to the process right now will follow through Ramadan and hopefully will continue after Ramadan inshallah. So here are five tips I will give you inshallah, that would help you change your habits before in Ramadan and after the month of Ramadan inshallah number one

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if you would like to start to change something if you want to change something like we did over here or Gemma, we said the bottle I have to like this intellectual anyway. So as you can see you

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Make some little change. You start with small change, start small. I know a lot of us Ramadan were carrying that burden of guilt for the whole year and now we say that this big amount of guilt requires what

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a lot of good deeds so we make an unrealistic you know schedule and effort so inshallah from the beginning of Ramadan I'm going to be praying for like I don't even 20 or no tumors it one will finish quickly that I want to finish later so I'll join them both inshallah Donna you can do this you won't be still won't survive it and also when you fast to say I'm not gonna I'm not going to do so I'll fast without the hood and shallow data because I want to suffer more. Yeah, a lot of the ones who deserve

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it so you endure the hardships of facet without having to put more than on yourself. So start with something small. When the prophets Allah Saddam was asked Yasser Allah

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Allah, which is the most of the good deeds the most beloved to Allah subhanho wa Taala I mean, we expect he would sell geographies a bit like giving all your money away this No no, no, he didn't say anything that stuff. He said several Assalam Adama Who is the most continuous and constant even if it was little.

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So it's all about being water jamaa being small but continuous. So start with something smaller Ramadan, but continuous. If you know yourself every year you begin by saying I'm gonna read three pages every day inshallah to Allah, and by the next day of Ramadan, you're done, you're not going to continue anymore. Then the habit we start with one juicer this time, maybe some, this is a wonderful juice is a lot for me. Now have a juice this Mila hopefully in the later days of Ramadan, you get more excited to do more. The point is, start with something little because that will help him shout out to Allah continue more in the line. Number two.

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Now that I know that I need to start with something a little whatever that is that you're going to give $1 a day, you know, five pages a day, anything else? Number two, when you do your your good deeds, make sure to think smart, not hard.

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Thinking smart, not hard. What does mean? What does that mean? I don't have to look for something impossible for me to achieve, to feel that I have done something. It's about productivity not being busy. It's about productivity, meaning I can be productive without having to put so much energy that makes me feel tired and exhausted and on time. Like what? In the Hadith the Prophet sallahu wa salam, a man came to the Prophet sallahu wa salam O Allah and he said Kala Rasul Allah insha Allah Islamic catarratto leadership Islam is becoming too many for me really, I can't do all of this. So dulany Allah Iman and that's the Hadith that many people love because it teaches us what to do of

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the least of these deeds in Nashua and islamicate Casa de la that is of Islam are too many. So tell me something little that I can do. I be continuous to me. But also realize us him gave him something so simplify LA, Casa Nicaraguan Allah as long as you keep your tongue moist. Remember in the last soldier, you're good?

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Can you imagine now how much effort that needs from you, Gemma you keep your tongue moist, remembering Alaska, not much. But when a man asks a proverb was the best of the desert can do. He said, Just remember, Allah regularly thinks of Hana la Hamdulillah, LA, stuffed full of words that you already know. You can repeat that over and over again 1000s of times a show a long time. Also from these smart good deeds that don't have to be big things as 100 the prophets of Allah sallam, he said that in a roger that the person a man or woman will reach the level of a saw even climb you can get the degree and the rank of the one who constantly fast and constantly do the damn with what it

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has nothing to do with your good manners.

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Good manners, you know, what does that mean? That means even your regular interaction with people can be the most rewarding for you and the more spiritual

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the regular interaction becomes an act of a bad all of a sudden, if you think about good deeds, think about having good manners with a lot and what you do.

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The Prophet sallallahu wasallam

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when he

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when he saw a man, by the name of

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this man was standing in the middle of the Sun without talking for the purposes of karma, what's wrong with him? Is he okay? But also another he vowed to fast they standing the whole day in the sun, and don't take initiate and not talk. That's he vowed to do these things too fast all day, to not to sit down to stay in the sun and not to talk. And the professor said like no, no, no, no, no. That doesn't work like this. It's not about torture yourself. Worship is not about torturing yourself. He said muru gave him the order to sit down in the shade, let him talk and he can continue fasting.

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Once again when it comes to fast

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When it comes to good deeds, it's about acting smart. Not so hard number three, okay, now they understand that so what do I do? There are so many things that I need to work on this and that alternate your good deeds. What does that mean? Sometimes you say this day I'm gonna read more Koran and you will but then what happens you get tired.

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Alternate instead of you reading Quran for 510 hours, no I would say I will do it for one hour Quran and then I'll take half an hour for example it Hadees and then I would say another half an hour do another half an hour I'll go to the method with the people for example to help him out. another hour I do this and then I go back to the Quran. Alternate with your good deeds. Allah subhana wa Taala says well bathia to Saudi heart means Alba Sahaja Lama says atka but it also means that good deeds are numerous good deeds, like there are a lot of things you can do in order to increase in shallow the level of spirituality and a brother in the heart of the prophets of Allah Sam says your

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spiritual Oculus Lama honeycomb sada Coolio multiplications every single day when the sunrises you look you're responsible to give charity on behalf of every joint of your body.

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And he mentioned few things that a lot of them like what you mentioned many many things like Vicar was mentioned there especially helping other people giving in charity assisting others and so on So, and sit on top of all of this, you can summarize this and praying to Raka

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So eventually, the professor suddenly mentioned that you know, there are so many things you could do to achieve that level of spirituality inshallah, number four, number four, now that I have so many good things to do, which one comes first? How am I how much should I put in my schedule? How much do I take away from my schedule? Number four, be flexible.

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And what's the meaning of being flexible? That means Be prepared to change your schedule be prepared to add some and take some out add some and take some out because we don't know maybe today you got holiday got busy. You had guests coming over probably this day, you have homework, you have an exam, you have this you have that. So it depends on your schedule, you're going to have to learn to be flexible in participating these with good with his good deeds without feeling guilty. Remember, you can't be in constant state of spirituality. But in doing that hopefully shallow data you will be always rewarded with Allah azza wa jal and the visceral assumptions in the Hadith pikler formula

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amodimethicone whenever you will do something do as much as you can afford as much as you can afford well as fast as in a foreign photopolymer.

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They also do in funeral as well as much as you can. Number five and the last point is shallow who Darla so what do I do to help Holly establish good habits in Shaolin Ramadan number five, look for a guide look for a buddy in Ramadan will be with you inshallah Allah or at least look for a coach. You see the Prophet sallallahu wasallam when he was delivering the message of Allah azza wa jal, he had a wonderful, wonderful partner who was his partner, Gemma, you know? jabril I know. It's not a work of jabril whether he always wanted to be in the company of jabril even he usually sometimes he would ask me, why don't you come and visit us more often? Like I love your company? Why don't you come on

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often? jabril He says, I can't come on my own. Or me I'll come down and the last of how revealed that to the prophet in the Quran. Why am I not an Arabic we only come down we only descend down by the commander of your Lord, which means it's not for me if I would like to come here or not. So, even the prophets Allah said and he desired to be always in the company of someone such as to be the most purified you know, that came to earth.

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So therefore, in our case, in this dunya, we would like to look to somebody that we can look up to, you might not you might not find some money any easy, but if you can, someone who will be on the same level like you, that'd be a buddy system.

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You couldn't find a coach that you could look up to and they will help you to teach you what to do what not to do. Then find someone in the same level so you can both grow together and shallow trovato Donna Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam used to receive jabril every Ramadan and they will review the plan together. Or at least you please review the Quran with the prophets of Allah send them every month on in the last year of the life of the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, he did that twice. So he always had that company and the month of Ramadan. So five things I would like to again to recommend for you on shallow data hopefully we can establish this as good habits number one, that

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when you start you start with something small

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Don't do like every time you do start something big and by the third day of Ramadan that said you lost momentum and that's it I can't do anymore. Now start with something small and start building up a shout out as a recommendation you still have about maybe

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almost couple of weeks after Ramadan begin inshallah Metro to begin from today. Start doing something from tonight inshallah. So I build this

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On top of that, but the laws are the number two you do smart not hard work What does that mean? be selective use the little things that will give you great maximum reward and shallow data such as equalizer or just good manners and so on and add to this as you as you move forward in Ramadan number three alternate because I can't keep doing the same thing over and over again over and over again I need to alternate every now and then and change hopefully you know I learned how to do something good and then keep going back again to different activity bada number four be flexible because your schedule is dependent on how much time we have you know in the day and the night so

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therefore make sure that you stay flexible and shallow data add take away Don't feel guilty for doing that. And number five, look for a guide look for a coach and if you couldn't find someone who will help you upgrade they look for someone who will be like you as a buddy system in Sharla that you both will grow together in the month of Ramadan May Allah subhana wa Taala make that process of change for us Ramadan easier behind me. ask Allah subhana wa Allah to put the love of the Quran in our hearts. And I mean to put the love for, for the better and worship Allah subhanho wa Taala and I mean ask Allah subhana wa Allah to guide us in this Ramadan to do that which will pleasing to Allah

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azza wa jal and ask Allah Subhana Allah to make us among those who will frequently repent back to Allah azza wa jal and make the life in this Ramadan the best Ramadan Hello Hola. Hello Hello Blimey Barcelona Vina Mohammedan wa sallam. Now inshallah Allah we can take with the larger questions if you have anybody who is watching us online, they can post in the comment section. I'm sure they will take your questions with the light. The barcode on

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this is yours. Okay. smella

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any questions you might?

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There are no question. I'm gonna start asking question.

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Bismillah

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so the question again, is, you're saying that the constant dicker if someone's writing the name of Allah subhana wa tada with their hand would that be considered dicker

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boss the purpose of larger than ever larger frequently.

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Okay, so the question is, if we want to do a constant decay, it

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doesn't mean that

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you know, instead of saying it Can I just keep you know, writing it with my hand like to maximize basically my reward by reading it while I'm writing it and so on. I mean, there is no doubt there is more rewards in this because you're involved right now more than just Johnny your tongue. You're involved in right now your eyes, your hands and making that declare, but I'm in

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I don't show that the Sahaba of the land. They did that. I mean, mostly obviously. Besides, what are you gonna do with that piece of paper after you're done?

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What are you gonna do with it?

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I know nothing planned yet. So it's hypothetical question. Era shallow.

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Shallow

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now? Yes.

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I think it's La ilaha illa Allah.

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There is also an a hadith that does mention that hydro decree Al Quran that you read the Quran that that is also from among the best of remembering Allah azza wa jal and a lot more specific

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question questions.

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Okay. Let me ask you a question. There is another question Bismillah

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god

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no.

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No.

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Na.

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So the question is, if I would like to do my after Salah Decker, which is basically the answer, which is the microphones

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So if

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if you basically you want to do declare after Salah, the son of the Prophet salallahu salam, after you're done, you stay on your spot better for you because as you make your liquid, the angels are making the app for you on on your behalf as well until you move from your spot or lose your room. So the question is, I'm sitting in my spot, making my decorator hopefully to get that maximum reward for doing that. His question is, do I have to be always attentive to this? Or if my mind starts, you know, flickering around the gunk all over the place? What I get the same reward? The answer is no. Because the more you engage your senses, the more reward you get for it and even Allah, Allah

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Subhana, Allah, Allah, Allah moon alladhina, homefree, Salatin pashtoon successful other believers those when they pray they connect. He didn't say success for the believers, those who pray because it's already implied when it says successful other believers know successful other believers, those when they pray they connect and for sure, so it's the same thing when you make your, your Vicar. If your mind is absent, you're still getting the reward for counting the detail. But you don't get the same reward like when your mind is also there as you make your decision. Charlottetown now

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okay.

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So just a question

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says if Kim from the online audience, if you have wronged someone who is deceased, and they were not Muslims, how can you correct that?

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I don't know. I don't have an answer for that one. You can answer it? No. So the question if you're on someone who is deceased, and they were not Muslim, how can you correct that? See the prophets Allah Subhan. Allah subhanho orders as always, to forgive as much as we can understand if we make any mistake towards anybody that we need to repent, and part of the repentance if it was involving someone else's, right that you correct that by reconciling with them. So for example, if it was money, you're going to pay that money back, unless, of course, you fear that this is gonna cause fitness. So you send the money in a certain way that goes back to them. So if someone already died,

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they say it depends if it was financial, then you need to give that back to them, or their heirs, or anybody who's relative to them. So if the person is talking about a non Muslim who disease for example, and you owe that person money, or the wrong name in regards to money or property, anything, then you have to fix that situation, whatever that is. But what it was, it was a matter of, you know, kind of like saying something about them, or,

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you know, having been unfair to them in a certain way. So it depends on case by case scenario, there is nothing really that can be done now, then the least people that need to go and clear their names, if it's required to clear their names. Have you said something for other people? You go and you speak otherwise, go and say, by the way, I know I've said that about him here. And I would like to let you know that I apologize was my mistake. So try to reconcile in that fashion, shallow, diabolical. Now.

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So

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what fasting? So a question from online as well, as it says, if my friend falls ill during the fast, and for two years for two years ends up in the hospital, I don't know for two years or two, but says two years, end up in the hospital, who determines if they should abstain from fasting, I think maybe two days probably many alarm.

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So if a person is ill,

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and they're in the hospital,

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then there should certainly be consultation with regards to whoever the medical experts are.

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And in consultation with the medical experts, they would better be able to tell whether or not the person has the capacity to fast

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meaning that if they fast, are they going to harm themselves? Or are they going to slow down what there may be of the healing process?

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Or is it even something that's not possible because of medicines that they have to take, which are necessary for them to heal or to keep them somewhat stable. So it's a joint communication that has to be between the person themselves and they need to be honest about their health and how they're feeling? Again, because not to feel like I'm tough, I'm going to make it happen. I'm gonna you know, regardless of how bad I may hurt, or whatever the case is, because it's not about punishment. It's about being honest, and communicating with the health experts that are there. And if they give the approval Alhamdulillah if they say two days, two years, no, you can't because then a person will

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naturally look to do the other thing, which is then in those cases, if it's a two year case, especially that they would basically be feeding the hungry, but if it's a two day thing or a two week thing, they would look to account

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Those days make sure they don't forget them so that they're after they could look to make them up inshallah. And Allah knows best.

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So any question before we take a question from the artist, Gemma? Okay, good.

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So that's about towba someone keeps lying. And then they, they know they lie, but then they keep asking forgiveness and they lie again. So what do we do in this situation?

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So I think when when she, yes, had Allah bless him had mentioned that none of us are angels.

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And it's going to be impossible for us to be to that level.

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But repentance requires a sense of genuineness that if a person knows that they have a problem with lying,

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they need to, at least in acknowledging that take the second step, then to ensure that they're putting something in place that's going to better help them to lessen the quantity as well as the severity of lying.

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It may not be that it's, you know, something that you can flick the switch on, and that's it, it takes care of it. But you need to be vigilant and if you can have others for example, and this is where sometimes we require a sense of vulnerability. If I know that that's my case, and I turned to my brother and say, Bro, I need you to help me out man, I'm having a problem with you know, not speaking the truth. So can you help me my mirror? If we were to utilize the people in our family, for example, in that case, our friends I think that perhaps with that sense of teamwork, we can better help overcome whatever we have of some of these character flaws, and Allah knows best.

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So a question from online with regards to the five stages of purification can one jump these stages or change the order or has to be done in that sequence? Mashallah, we have only

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one skip stages of handler from the purification of the, of the value to the purification of the essence. melasma make it easy for you, if you would like to skip these days, but obviously, it is actually it is a natural progression really, when you you if you don't care about purifying yourself, how are you going to care about purifying your deeds, like Carla until this day, with all due respect to the brothers and sisters of Panama sometimes it's very sad when you go and you visit the bathrooms in the masjid and you see that disasterous there are so many people because they're in a rush it's a public bathroom, so they kind of like become extra careful. So they mess up the whole

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thing and as a result, they don't purify themselves their clothes and so on. So make sure to do it in that sequence inshallah, but that doesn't mean you wait until you perfect one stage before you move to the other stage. No, you will work on every stage. But at some point you will be working maybe 60% in one stage 20% another stage another 20% of the state and so on. Or maybe 70% here 10% to 20% there it depends melasma make it easy for me

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another question here from that the medical condition show there's a difference not a question though but says there's a different field to Ramadan without the fasting part meaning someone is not fasting due to medical reasons. They don't they cannot fast says any advice on how to make up for that gap that did to increase the amount in the month of Ramadan? Like, I mean if I'm not fasting because I'm ill, I'm not gonna feel it. So how can I still feel Ramadan even though not fasting?

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Honestly, I don't know that I can give you an answer because I haven't been there. Right.

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I think part of what we want to pay attention is that Allah was vigil puts us in predicaments.

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And we should be grateful to him for whatever it is of a stage that we're in in our lives.

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And if you want to talk about feeling that spirituality and feeling your emotion, it's in recognizing that you have that limitation and to not in any way think less or to feel your you know, being cheated out on something. And this is kind of like that issue with our sisters sometimes where they think that you know what a Madonna is coming, I don't want to have you know, the menses come Therefore, let me find out if I can take some medicine so that this way, I can feel as though my Ramadan is complete.

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That's unnatural. Allahu, Allahu Allah, if that was the case that he wanted that he would have made it so that women during Ramadan, they don't get their menses, he would have made it such that people they don't get sick that they don't get old that they don't have these issues. So regardless of what I think part of what we need to come to grips with is that Allahu Allahu Allah has decreed that we need to be content with Allah who de Laval is decree and to make the most of what he has given to us, instead of looking at what we are lacking in and in doing so that we're

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actually hurting ourselves, we're doing a disservice and Allah knows best.

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No?

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No.

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So the question is if someone is addicted to alcohol or drugs,

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can they use Ramadan as a turning point in their lives and recalibrating and do better? So he mentioned something about, you know, the one who drinks that they're not supposed to come to the method for 40 days or so. Did I hear you correctly? Right? So as a result of Ramadan is coming in one week, can they do that? So they have to stay away from the method for 14 days before they come back again and start you know, the process? The answer that the assumption you're making about the 40 days is not actually it's not it's not correct. So they don't have to add not even for a second as a matter of fact, drunk people can walk into the come to the message and we had one last night as

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a matter of fact, they

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just came visiting. The thing is that the thing is, being in a state of intoxication, there is no doubt as Hallam Absolutely. However, if someone is coming looking for help, and the message should not be banned, as much as we can shout louder as long as not disruptive Of course of the order and so on. And if someone would like to quit drinking, of course, Ramadan is a good opportunity. It's not going to be easy though because the problem is not with the drinking alcohol. The problem is with addiction. And that addiction requires professional help predict so my recommendation with the spiritual healing they're trying to achieve in Ramadan, they probably maybe should also have some

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professional you know, you know, in a drug or alcohol experts who can help them inshallah to Allah to recover from that bad habit with the large origin. As for the holidays, you're talking about, there's a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam who said that whoever drinks alcohol from Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, lamb to Allah who Salatin albina Leyland like his Salah would not be accepted for 40 days. Now his Salah not be accepted in terms of reward, don't expect much, but you're still obligated to do it. Like you have to do that Salaam and when it comes to Allah man, it's in the heart in that sense. Yes, of course the deed will explain that so I don't want people to think that

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since someone is drinking so how would you think about Ramadan anyway? Like I don't know what what to tell you. But I met somebody and it's upon my life that I witnessed the Genesis one who was drunk. But he was so addicted to alcohol that he couldn't stop it even if you wanted to stop Lumsden until he died because of alcohol. However, he's always in the masjid and Ramadan comes Mashallah he always there to serve the people who are fasting until he died because of the alcohol liver failure unfortunately, and the Hadith the Prophet sallahu wa sallam a man used to be brought in front of the people for punishment because of drinking alcohol. And one of the Sahaba and after some time, he

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says Kala Kabbalah might be for someone like me like What a loser how often they're going to keep bringing in for this. The professor Sam was upset. He says Carlota Don't say that. No, we have a la hora Sula, because he loves Allah and His messenger. Look, the province speaker about someone who's alcoholic, because he loves the law and the messenger. Some of us will have overheard that they said in that moment in time, I was hoping to be in his place.

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Why because of the Prophet testified for a drunken man to be loving Orlando's messenger. That is a great testimony. ajumma the sin did not prevent him from loving the land as messenger but he was too weak to stop that social mela make it easy for all the brothers and sisters who are going through these difficulties in their lives. And we ask Allah to make Ramadan inshallah the best for them in the larger vertical African social Gala. Next week on the same time in the lobby having our last session of the series of Ramadan with Eman Abdullah will doodle from the capelle Masjid inshallah. And our discussion will be about establishing

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a good order, personally, and socially how to start good scheduled and Ramadan for your personal schedule, and a social schedule and shallow data. That's going to be our discussion next week. We hope to see you all there. barakallahu salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.