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Everyone, and welcome back to day number 19
of Ramadan 360 with Almagrib Institute. I am
your host once again, sir Hadza.
Very excited to welcome you and to have
us jump in now to day number 19,
SubhanAllah. Tomorrow's gonna be day number 20, then
it's gonna be last 10 nights, then it's
going to be
goodbye for now, subhanallah. Not to not to
get depressing all of a sudden.
I'm gonna quickly just enable your camera so
you guys are welcome to join me on
screen whoever is able to, bless us with
your presence here.
We're very excited to jump in.
To those of you who are saying your
salaams here in the chat.
I see Sundas from France. I got Alani
from Philippines.
I've got Nemo from Pakistan. Jazakam Malekar. And
Nemo making it despite not feeling the best.
So we've got, of course, from Lagos,
Nigeria. We got Carrie, of course, always.
To all of you who are always ready
here and warming up with us every single
day for our sessions.
We're
wrapping up so many things. We're wrapping up
the 10 day,
challenge tomorrow. I hope that you guys have
had a chance to keep up with it.
We've got our final Almagrib webinar taking place
tomorrow as well, InshaAllah, stories of accepted Dua.
MashaAllah. The team always knocks it out of
the park with these topics. And
of course, you guys hopefully have memorized some
of these plugs that I've been saying by
now.
We are, as always, super, super grateful to
our charity partners in Canada, the US, and
the UK. In the US, we have.
I'm waiting for Nemo or somebody to put
into the chat.
H h r d yeah. Close. HRH. Close.
HRD,
Helping Hands For Relief and Development. In Canada,
we have
I hope you guys have memorized this by
now. And I hope that you guys have
given as well,
loyally and consistently. You guys had a chance
to hear from Islamic Relief. I see it
coming down in the chat. And in the
UK, we have
I hope that you guys ah, forgotten woman.
There you go. Alhamdulillah.
Ready with that one. May Allah bless and
accept that from them. They've been so incredible
with all the work. Honestly, we do so
such the the easy job basically of just
bringing to attention. It's very hard to get
people to part with their hard earned money
because you know there's other people that you
need to serve who are in desperate need
of it. People who are whose lives, whose
sanity, whose comfort depends on it entirely. And
it's it's hard to I know we it's
it's jarring, especially in the last, you know,
6 months that we've been exposed to so
much experience, so many videos and pictures of
such extreme suffering and and and and just
horrible,
treatment of the the Palestinian people, but
I know and you guys all know that
there's so many Muslims around the world who
are also suffering.
And these charities have been working tirelessly on
them for decades to bring that support to
the front lines of the Ummah. So please
do support them very generously,
and consistently
throughout the last 10 nights as well, InshaAllah.
And speaking of consistency,
I know you guys have heard enough time,
from me to give daily plug and the
mention of our Ramadan daily giving campaign.
If you've benefited, you already you know, you
joined in that experience and you and you
gave and you donated, we all reward you
and make it heavy on your scale and
make you grateful for it on the day
of judgment and in. But we, of course,
have shifted over, shifted gears because now it's
the final stress. It's the last 10 nights.
It's the final opportunities that you have, especially
in the in the blessed times of the
evening, where we have the opportunity to cash
play with the.
So we're, of course, sharing our last 10
nights campaign as well. So please do that.
That's on ammagar.orgforward/donate.
Please do consider supporting. We've been very smart.
All the all the, donations are gonna go
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but before the next day begins inshallah, and
you catch consistently
the last 10 nights. So do make sure
that you are registering for that and share
it with others as well. A lot of
folks sometimes, they can't give every single day
of Ramadan even if it's a little. So
make sure that you share it with others
so that they wanna really, really maximize, not
wanna miss a single one of those last
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or a bad day that they do register
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forward slash donut. And we were just talking.
You guys, some of you who who came
into the session may have had had a
a little message showing that, oh, the the
the sessions is still in progress. We were
just talking about how many programs that we
have. Like, you know, sometimes we just focus
on one program that needs assistance in one
specific part of the Amager family that that
that we're you know, whether it's for scholarships,
whether it's for among our productions or something.
But we've expended so much over the years
that there is now so many different parts
of the among our community, whether it's rebirths,
whether it's student, whether it's children, whether it's
people who are trying to learn the Quran
and know how the capacity to, whether it's
people who are just have financial need and
they need scholarships. There's so we have so
many different needs that that we fulfill alhamdulill
within the Maghrib world. And by donating, you
guys are, able to facilitate that alhamdulillah as
well.
Of course, tomorrow's webinar has a different RSVP
link. So just a reminder, folks, if you
if you're already registered for Ramadan 360, make
sure that you are registering separately for the
webinar. That's ramadan 360
dotorgforward/webinar,
so that you are in that kind of
thing, and you will get in that stream,
and you will get all the information that
you need, Insha'Allah. Tomorrow is gonna be a
big one. Yesterday was, last week was a
bit of a warm up. It was a
taste of the experience.
We've been, like, preparing nonstop for tomorrow, so
I can't even wait. We have, like, 4
hosts.
Usually, it's 1 host doing, like, a a
marathon of a session, but it's gonna be
crazy tomorrow. And I look forward to you
guys benefiting and getting that hype and getting
that energy and getting the ability and inspiration
to to draw from us and from our
shirk inshallah for the last 10 nights and
the amazing duais that you're gonna be making
then.
With that said,
as always, Ramadan 360 is an amalgam institute
experience. It's our goal with these experiences for
the last 22 years to make Islam easy
and accessible and and to provide you guys
with authentic knowledge in a way that you
can relate to. And one of the amazing
instructors who makes that possible with his kind
of wit, with his eloquence, with his just
deep connection with the Amagrib student audience is
Imam Yahye Ibrahim.
He's a specialist
in spirituality and Quran. He studied the seer,
fiqh, and hadith with scholars from Hejaz in
Egypt. He's well renowned in the west and
in the east,
and, you know, sought after by both Muslim
and non Muslim organizations to educate on topics
of his specialty,
on domestic violence, on misogyny, on gender discrimination,
etcetera.
And he's technically a Canadian. I don't know.
He doesn't like to own that anymore. We
can tell he doesn't have the full Australian
accent yet, but he's he's shunned us Canadians
for the beautiful land of of Perth, Australia.
But he's originally from from my ends, from
Toronto.
And you guys may have seen him across
the world over the last few years teaching
classes like the prophet smile, love notes, on
faith essentials marriage and engagement and or through
a blessed voyage Omar experience if you've been
lucky enough to experience that with him. With
that, I wanna bring on Shehia here for
day number 19,
to take some time to educate us. His
topic today is the topic of repair of
istah, and we can't wait to jump right
in. So let me just bring Sheikh Yaya
Ibrahim on. Assalamu alaikum
Sheikh. How are you doing today?
I'm well.
So Hur is just coming to an end
and,
gonna get ready for Fajr immediately after inshallah.
Allahi barakkalim.
Always for spending your precious morning hours every
single Ramadan,
with us, especially leading into the last 10
nights. Is it technically, I can never remember.
Is it your last 10 has started, or
it's gonna start tomorrow?
So for us, today, inshallah, we will begin,
the countdown with you guys, and we pray
that Allah accepts from all of
us.
Alright, Shaykh. I've taken enough of your time.
I can't wait to jump into your talk
and to benefit from you. We'll be here
at the end with questions. Bismillah, let's jump
right in.
As always, we begin,
with the praise of Allah
and we are thankful to Allah
for
Niama To the plentiful Niama and graces that
Allah has graced upon us, those that are
apparent to us and those that are hidden.
We pray that Allah,
makes us
makes us from those who are rectifiers
and reformers and repairers
of our own lives and the lives of
others that Allah
uses us for the upliftment
of the ummah of the prophet Muhammad
And that Allah
does not give us
in our hearts a desire to reform that
is actually a corruption for the earth.
Allah
early on in the Quran, he says,
Do not cause corruption,
within,
upon,
throughout the earth
after I have
reformed it and rectified
it and repaired it for you. And
this is a really, you know, important concept.
Allah
is saying that the earth in and in
and of itself was not hospitable for humanity,
just like the majority of what is within
our solar systems and beyond.
And Allah
says, but I'm the one who made this
earth,
repaired for you and reformed for you, ready
to receive you,
oh, Adam and oh, children of Adam.
People
eventually look upon what they do upon the
earth and say, no. No. No. No. We're
actually the reformers.
We're the repairers.
We're the fixers. We're the ones who are
making the positive changes.
And this is a really important place to
begin when we speak about Al Islah.
At times, people, you'll hear them on an
individual basis say, you know, I need to
work on myself. I'm gonna dedicate,
you know, changing this in myself. And their
assumption, of course, is that they are self
intuitive, that they're self,
their
what they think
is what they need is actually what they
need.
And when that decision is made absent
from the revelation of Allah Allah, the guidance
sent to mankind,
it actually leads a person to causing greater
imbalance, disharmony, and corruption within themselves
internally,
externally,
and in effect of others around them. Now,
of course, there's plentiful examples
of this that you could see in the
Quran of nations that were perished because of
that mindset.
You could see that in the modern
day and time that we find ourselves in
today,
where there are advances in particular things, whether
it's in particular forms of therapies, particular,
identity,
studies, particular,
whatever it is
to lead a person to a decision where
what I feel
necessarily means what is right.
And if this feels right, then it's got
to be acknowledged and accepted,
even if it is something that goes against
the grain
of what is normally considered,
an abnormality in human morality,
ethics, laws since the beginning of time.
And that becomes really important. The concept of
Islam for us
is
not
about,
pushing the edge. It's not about going beyond.
It is really about recentering
and refocusing
and harmonizing
with the revelation of why. So we need
to step I know we only have 30
minutes together. We need to step back just
one moment.
The political,
ideological,
philosophical,
spiritual,
ideology
of a lot of the western world, and
we'll just use the western world as a
as a just a main
main construct,
is that they believe in the concept of
the thinking man, that a human being
can just sit and think and ponder, even
if they were just in a cave and
just keep thinking.
And by them thinking, they can come to
a determination
of truth.
Monotheistic
faiths,
cultures of the east,
they believe,
no, there is a guided,
thought to the thinking man, which is revelation.
So we don't have a problem with thinking
and reflecting.
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All of that is something that is very
much a part of our faith.
But that word,
that Allah reveals
onto mankind
what is not
self intuitive,
what is not
within one's
ability to come to a point of rectifying,
understanding,
implementing,
had it not been for the guidance of
Allah. And that's why you find
That concept of us as believers, we believe
had guidance not been inspired to us, we
would not find guidance on our own. And
Allah
tells us emphatically in the Quran and warns
the prophet
not on account of you loving someone, even
one as great as you, oh Muhammad
can that immediately
be caused to lead them into accepting faith?
So you find that there were people who
were antagonists in the life of the prophet
who were from his family and were people
who he loved. And Allah says, you love
this person even though they're an unbeliever, your
uncle,
but they are not gonna come to faith
just because you asked me and just because,
you you have that connection with them, oh,
messenger of Allah. That's really important.
So the guidance that is found, the guidance,
the light,
the light that is sent by Allah.
The barakah of knowledge
is not necessary is not self intuitive for
us as as human beings.
It's not always self evident,
and it's not by how much you read
or how much you memorize or how many
degrees you have in Islam that that aligns
your heart in a harmonious way of seeking
reform for yourself and others. There are many
people
who are illiterate
in terms of,
the the reading substance, reading and writing,
but their iman in Allah
guided by their conviction
in the revealed truth that they have come
to know and absorb from the culture around
them, from what they've
understood as being the truth,
leads them to a higher place with Allah
than those who may be scholarly in the
tradition
and about faith and about Islam,
but their hearts have not been guided with
that light. And that's the very essential concept
of.
He used to say,
you know, that piety of heart. It means
that you work and endeavor to put in
effort
in the obedience
and in the fulfillment of God's orders upon
you
Allah from the light that was sent down
by Allah.
Allah. Seeking the reward from Allah.
To leave off
disobeying Allah,
using the light sent by Allah because you
fear the punishment of Allah. The light of
Allah therefore becomes central for us as a
reformative process.
And there is no ultimate
islah.
There is no reform. There is no spare,
repair.
Spiritually,
intellectually,
physically
when it is absent
from the underlying principles of guidance sent by
Allah
through revelation.
So how do we get to a place
where we can
bring together
what we feel and what I think is,
what do I think I need, and what
are people telling me I need to work
on
with improving myself using the light of Allah
So the first step, and we'll we'll we'll
go through some quick steps in
in the last 10 minutes that we have
together or so.
First is self reflection and awareness. So, from
a psychology of redemption,
you must come to a place where you
are
self accounting, self critical,
self blaming, self reflecting,
self aware
that you do want to improve.
You never assume yourself that I've come to
a place where I'm elite
and there's no more,
above me,
That there isn't room for growth.
Above everyone
manifesting knowledge, there is one greater in knowledge.
And why does Allah use knowledge in that
capacity that there is an,
infinite,
ascension
until you get to the knowledge that it's
only reserved to Allah.
Why is that important for us?
Because as you come to learn,
you come to learn of how ignorant you
were before learning. And therefore, now that I
know, then I know that there is more
to know, which means I remain ignorant of
certain aspects,
in my faith, in my life, in my
self worth, in my self reflection.
And, therefore, one of the first steps is
to reform, is to self reflect,
be introspective.
Muslims are encouraged to be critical. Human beings
are encouraged
to reassess their thoughts,
take command of their actions,
be critical of their intentions,
what I'm intending before,
during, and after,
whether it's of faith or worship or other,
that I try to identify areas improvement,
that I try to consult and receive acknowledgment
that these are shortcomings and sins within my
heart, within my being, within my practice,
and this self awareness
serves
as a foundation of initiating
the beginning
of positive change.
And
if a person is not willing to confront
themselves,
is not willing to,
admit that there is room for improvement. If
a person if a husband is not willing
to acknowledge they could be better,
if a wife is not acknowledging that, yes,
I can be softer, I can be gentler,
I can be, if there is,
a a son, a daughter
who is,
unwilling
to,
find within themselves the scope of being more
dutiful and being more careful and being more
conscious of how they speak to their parents,
not just what they say,
then the relationships
that are intertwined in that familial process
cannot find reform.
Allah,
he says that it takes
willing
participants
always on both sides
whenever there is dissension and disharmony. Allah says
in the Quran,
that if the 2 agreed parties, husband and
wife and their families,
seek.
They do want to self reflect. They do
want to be
aware of where it is that they can
improve.
If they are willing to hear from each
other, from each other's perspective,
Allah can make tawfiq between them. But if
one is set in stone, no. I'm right.
There's no other, way of looking at it,
then it becomes difficult to make that change.
Number 2 is once a person has this
understanding that, yes, I can be blameful,
I can have
within my heart the capacity to see where
I've come come wrong.
There comes this central concept in a slah
of not just the recognition,
but seeking to make amends. We refer to
that normally as and.
And making
is not
really,
an intellectual
process.
Sometimes it is entirely spiritual that leads to
intellectual.
And one of the the the best ways
for a person to become regular in tawba
is not that I have to know what
I did wrong and I have to,
acknowledge it first, but I have this heart
that does see
that there are moments in my life where
I can commit wrong and not be aware
of it. The prophet would make this dua.
He would say,
oh, Allah, I ask you to protect me,
from,
From the scenes that I'm aware of and
the scenes that I'm unaware of. From the
problems that I know I've caused and from
the problems that I didn't know I caused
within myself and within others.
So central to the concept of Islam is
the recognition
that I'm capable
making mistakes
and that I have made mistakes that perhaps
I'm not aware of and that I seek
to be sincere in my repentance to Allah
and absolving of those mistakes that I have
caused between myself and others. And Muslims are
taught to approach Allah
with humility.
You are you your pretext and the reason
the prophet
says to us,
every human being is capable of sin, is
that you know you're a sinner.
You acknowledge
that.
You know, I know as I stand in
front of you, oh, Allah, in the last
10 nights, I am a sinner. Yeah, Allah.
Whether I remember
it, what I know and what I don't
know. What
uh-uh. It's major and it's minor.
It's hidden and it's open.
It's past and it's present, and may Allah
forgive me into the future. And that's why
the prophet
is assured,
you know,
what you have done and what could come
of you in the future, oh, Muhammad
So having a a a psychology
of redeeming oneself and a psychology of reform
is built and predicated on being self aware
and having a repentant
Tawab
persona.
Number 3, well, how do I align what
I feel of my negligence
with whether it's true and and and how
to repair it? It come through
acquaintance with the knowledge
that is revealed by Allah
and the knowledge of thought. And therefore, we
always seek to blend.
Yes.
Modern scientific processes
with a guided process
of revelation.
We are not,
distant from,
you know, modern,
interventions and medical interventions. We have no problem
with that at all as human beings and
as Muslims. Rather, we encourage it as long
as it's guided by the light of truth
that we seek that aligns with the Quran.
And we're encouraged to study the Quran. We're
encouraged to study the sunnah of the prophet,
sallallahu alaihi salam. We're encouraged to seek sources
of,
important
inspiration
and,
ideals
and morals that were found in the Quran
as previous lessons onto humankind.
Number 4
is the
production of virtue,
and one of the best ways for us
to be reformers is to just set a
mandate of pushing out good deeds,
pushing out good words, pushing out good demeanor,
pushing out forgiveness, pushing out, you know, virtue,
that you are a virtuous person, you know,
subhanAllah.
May Allah make us of those whose
deeds are virtuous and plentiful.
And when you make dua for somebody to
have a long life, you must couple it
with,
you know, Allah,
may Allah give this person a long life
family
And could put and goodness
in the pursuit of their.
Right?
Being a virtuous,
deed production
factory
is the the mindset of a believer who
seeks Islam.
Because as you perform your act of Ibad,
as you perform
your devotions, and as you do it with
sincerity,
and as you embody moral virtue,
and as you sit between 2 agreed people,
and as you display honesty, as you display
kindness, as you become more patient, as you
persevere, as your as your generousness
is given to those who would not be
generous to you, as your spirit
is expansive to bear the burdens that other
put upon you, as your interactions with others
have a a a wall of virtue
that surrounds you,
it becomes an impediment to sin
to becoming more manifest and more capital in
your life. It's a barrier. That's why the
prophet when he speaks about how to achieve
taqwa, he says,
fasting is a shield.
And your charity
that your charity in secret
extinguishes
the
wrath of Allah that you have incurred upon
yourself the way water,
puts out fire.
So becoming a a virtuous
machine, a practitioner
of virtue,
where in your mind, it's not necessarily I'm
doing this to cancel this
out. The good deeds cancel out bad deeds,
but it's not necessarily,
oh, I did this, so I need to
do 10 to cancel this out. No. It's
just my mindset is a mindset of I
just want to keep doing good. I committed
a sin. I I still pray. I commit
I I'm fasting Mondays Thursdays. I'm praying tahajjud.
I'm giving in charity. I'm being kind. I'm
being empathetic. I forgave somebody who may not
have forgiven me. And you continue
seeking to read from the Quran and to
learn it, to gain that knowledge that becomes
necessary.
Another important,
consideration
is seeking to build,
a
a string of virtuous deeds that become a
habit.
So although I'm a factory of good deeds,
I want to have a production line, and
I want that production line to be consistent.
The prophet
tells us that something small that is consistent
over time
compounds
into something better than doing the one off.
Right? It's better to have a savings plan
of small good deeds regularly that compound with
a law, aduaaf and mudaaf,
then for me just do that one off
and then I go back to doing whatever
recklessness
I had in my life. So cultivating
a positive habit
and routines of worship,
of reflection,
of Quran
weird,
sections of the Quran that I read every
day,
of aligning myself to a Quran class, of
enrolling in,
you know, the 3 60 programs and the
Ramadan program,
of having,
seeking to be part of the Murabbi program
where I'm taking on and and being,
you know, mentored by others,
incorporating
habits,
of and
of,
a particular set of salawat and durood upon
the prophet
each and every day,
maintaining a balanced lifestyle
of exercise
and good nutrition because I want to remain
healthy into my years so I can continue
to worship Allah and continue to make sujood
into my seventies.
All of that becomes a positive habit building
process
that's not just I'm pushing out good deeds,
but now I'm streamlining
important
processes.
Consultation
and seeking guidance
and finding support.
And, you know, even Mohammed's ai Salam needed
Abu Bakr and Umar and Uthman and Ali,
and they were.
The prophet would speak to them and consult
with them and ask them and and favor
their opinions
over others.
And having people in your life that are
knowledgeable, having people in your life that have
a heart of,
taqwa, having people in your life you assume,
inshallah, having people in your life who are
willing to continue
in their self reformation
and assist you in yours and are willing
to receive
insight from you into where they can
continue to mature and improve,
all of that becomes powerful. And the best
place for you to to turn for that
are the inner family and the the companions
that you align,
your life with. And you have to choose
who you are friends with, not just become
friends by accident. You know, if there's any
advice,
that I can give to younger people, and
now that I'm in my, you know, 47th
year,
is to choose your friends.
Like, don't become friends by accident. And you're
like, oh, how long have I known this
person? It's like, there was no
mandate
behind it. There was no thought behind it.
The prophet
did not just all of a sudden, you
know, Abu Bakr was just there. No, he
was his friend.
He was his friend for years, even before
revelation, so he remains his friend after because
Abu Bakr is a bright soul.
Same with Earthman and Ali and and Umar
These were virtuous people before Islam and after
Islam.
And it's, you know, it becomes important that
we kind of look at the substance of
the people. You are the sum
of all those you have made into your
life.
You are the sum average of your best
friends. So if you look around, you got
10 best friends.
You are the average of them. And if
you see something you're like, no, I don't
like that,
then that's, you know, an important consideration.
You need to, you know, choose and be
very choosy
with the cast that you have in your
life. And finally, and I know my time
is coming to an end,
is
patience
and endurance
and achieving
over the long term with Allah
is more important than the small goals and
small wins. It's more important than the things
that we do in isolation
that Allah
gives us an opportunity
to push forward in life and
to seek,
to remain vigilant and patient, to,
have the the the rippling
waves of our life,
that the point source of it was the
revelation of Allah, and every ripple that extends
from it is something that is a benefit
that we're willing to sustain. As we go
up and as we crest the wave and
come crashing down,
there is always going to be
Allah in our life, in our heart, in
our,
ideals, in our approach.
And I pray that Allah
grants you and I
that
Allah makes us
not just I
end with that.
Many of us
we are solid. We live a good life
and we try our best.
And, you know, people will say
that man, that woman, they are they're good
people,
but that's not enough.
Being a good person was not enough for
Muhammad
He needed to leverage that goodness into other
people's life, and that's the difference between being
and Muslim.
Is that I'm good unto myself and my
home and my family, and I that's it.
I don't care about anybody else.
Is that I have that empathetic
desire
to an altruistic
virtuous
intent to help in other people's perspectives and
lives to bring goodness into other people's lives.
And may Allah make you a conduit of
good, a bridge to righteousness.
May Allah make you a salvation
to your home and your family and to
those beyond. May Allah
give us a mandate of life of seeking
to go
past ourselves and to look outward,
into,
the world and become beacons of light. And
that Allah
leads people to
a a noor
through our habits and behaviors.
Allah
extract us from the many darknesses that surround
us and bring us to the light,
yeah, Allah. Oh, Allah put in whatever risk
you have given us and protect us from
the punishment of hellfire.
We have wronged ourselves before you, oh Allah.
If you don't forgive us and show us
your
mercy,
we remain as sinners and losers before you.
Oh Allah, upon you, we put our trust,
and to you, we make our return
and our repentance.
We recognize that there's no inevitability
except in returning to you.
Oh, Allah, bring for us from our homes
and our families and our spouses
and our children that which is pleasing to
us.
Make us guides unto the righteous
that they find reference to truth through our
conduct and behavior
and
attitude.
Aspects of our life that which is private
to us and in our privacy
and that which is publicly declared. We pray
that Allah
adjust our homes with the
Quran and tempers
our,
personality with our fasting
and increases
our risk with our charity,
and then Allah
blesses us with return time and again for
Hajji and Umrah
to purge ourselves of our inequities
within ourselves and others.
May Allah
continue to send his
unending blessings of peace upon our Nabi Muhammad
and join us with them in the highest
levels of Jannah.
For this beautiful gift of this session and
this dua as well. May Allah make us
give us a tawfiq to implement these lessons
into our lives and and repair our relationships
with others in Allah.
Hearing you speak is like like a mixture
of, like like a poetry that speaks to
both the mind and the heart.
Now I know we have some time at
the very end here for some questions for
those who I I received one privately earlier
as well. For those who have questions on
today's topic of repair, please do
please do put it into the chat privately
for me so that I don't miss it
because the chat just keeps going and going,
and I I can't keep up. So the
first question that I received was I know,
Shay, this is a heavier one. It's hard
to kinda tackle it so quickly in this
type of a a setting, but as as
best as you can, how can a child
who is physically abused by his father repair
the relationship with his father? He says that
he has forgiven him, but he hates his
father. I don't really care what your feelings
are towards your father. I only care actually
about what actions you will perform.
So it may be that your,
feelings are not one
of love and,
and repair, but your actions need to align
with the intentional spirit of Islam.
So what I would say to you is
you would need therapy. There would be
necessary
interventions from a clinical perspective, from a spiritual
perspective. All of that is something that I'm
going to assume
that you Insha'Allah
are going to work towards, but I'm speaking
to you as an individual absent of your
father now. So my counsel to you would
be,
alright, begin with the small things that are
necessary.
Begin with something small that is necessary.
What is necessary? Well, Allah
says,
If all I can do is that I
just don't just, oh, man, I just I
hate I don't wanna even look at him.
Okay. Restrain that. So begin with that.
Begin with actions that you can build on
as you go through your moments of therapy,
as you go through rectifying your heart, as
you go through clinical interventions, as you go
through some of those
necessary,
processes to bring you to a more holistic
perspective in dealing with each other,
monitor
your conduct.
And it's easy to say, you know, when
I was young, this used to happen to
me, so I'm not going to do anything
now. I'm gonna say to you, no. It's
better for you to make gestures
of righteousness for your own better for your
own self, and it's better for your children
to see that from you as you mature.
It's better for your children to see from
you that you honor your father even if
you were dishonored by your father.
Even if there were things that you're not
happy with your father, it's better for you
to have a sense of honor in how
you conduct yourself,
than to have others,
than than to be held hostage by that
past. So there will be things that are
traumatic, and I can't ask you for the
world. I can't ask you that you're gonna
treat him the way, you know, other people
treated others. But there's an example of prophet
Ibrahim with his father, Azar, in the Quran
for that very reason.
You are not unique. You are not in
a place where this is something nobody else
has endured before you.
And whatever
toxicity that you may have experienced,
you're gonna have to deal with it in
various ways, but at the end of the
day, don't replicate that toxicity with your words
and your actions towards them. May Allah protect
us all.
The next question that I have again, it's
a it's a heavier one. If as best
as you can summarize, Sheikh, is how do
you how do you suggest to repair yourself
from a divorce of a marriage of 20
6
years?
Who saved you.
You know, it could have been 27 years,
and it could have been 30 years.
And it, you know, it could have been
that you might find yourself in a place
where there are,
men and women who are held hostage, and
they haven't been able to find that that
divorce.
So, Alhamdulillah, that Allah has caused for the
circumstances to come, that you are now in
a place where you are
beyond that, and you
have, you know, exited from it. So now
it's a new page, and it's a new
chapter. And there are things that are going
to be bitter, and there are things that
are going to be sweet. And that's the
same with every aspect in life.
So what I would say to this brother
or sister, I'm not sure,
what what I would say,
to you if you were somebody who is
within my family, within my household, the first
thing I'm gonna say, Alhamdulillah,
you know, it's
over.
Right?
Now what? We'll take a little bit of
time, take a little bit of pause. You
know, there's a reason why we have, especially
for women,
that lag period between divorce and remarrying.
There's a there's a reason why a man
cannot even interact with you and and and
even suggest
to you,
you know, during that lag period because you're
in a
vulnerable and difficult state. So just push back
and just enjoy yourself. And if you can
afford it, go to Umrah. Fry your heart
out to Allah
my brother.
Stand
in a stand,
you know, in a in under a pillar
in in and
just, you know, just release all this 26
years of anxiety, whatever it is that was
there for you, and take pause, and just
put pause on this
relationship on on whatever it is, and then
deal with the consequences of it. Oh, there's
children. How are we gonna deal with custody?
Attend to it with a heart,
that is not blinded by vengeance.
Attend to it with a heart that is
not poisoned by,
people's
ill advice
to you, meddling advice.
Oh, he did that. He did you you
you gotta take everything from him. You can't
don't let him see the kids unless he
does this. You know, that kind of stuff
is going to
cause you to relive
horrors.
So attend to it with a righteous
counsel.
People who fear Allah
will have your interest in it,
and set forward,
you know, a mandate of 5 things
that now I need to to work on.
I got kids. What am I gonna do
with the kids? How can I make sure
that she sees their mom, they see their
dad, and that they find balance? They see
that we practice the sunnah because
if if my kids see if your kids
see
you misabusing
and trash talking their father or their mother
outside their absence, who they still love, they're
gonna disrespect you in the future.
That teenage daughter is gonna look you one
day in the face and say, mom, you've
always you, you've always made me hate my
dad. And she'll be 26 years old on
her wedding day, and she's gonna have resentment
towards you.
Fear Allah
fear Allah
So deal with the kids, Deal with your
financial circumstances. There's always financial fair fallout.
But be equitable. Find somebody who is going
to govern with the with the tawhid of
Allah
on the sharia of the prophet Muhammad
find an honest, righteous mediator
who will will look after your interest from
the Sharia perspective, the interest of your family
from the Sharia perspective,
and from an equitable perspe perspective,
one that is aligned to to goodness and
truth.
Number
3 is deal with your,
your own baggage,
not the baggage of other people.
What what am I carrying now? And begin
to unburden, begin to take things out of
your baggage.
There are physical mementos you need to get
rid of.
There's, you know, there there's all these different
things that we have.
Begin to get rid of those,
things 1 at a time, and then repack
your baggage.
Right?
Nobody wants that. Everyone I I don't want
any baggage in my life. I don't wanna
marry somebody with baggage. No. Just repack it.
You know, rebalance it. What's your carry on?
What's your heavy you know, what's gonna go
in the undercarriage of the plane? There's 2
different things. Some things are storage,
some things that you keep with you.
Number 4,
as a believer,
know that everything that happened was better for
us with the with the knowledge of Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. And you going through a
bitter divorce
can be the stepping stone to a life
of happiness in singlehood for a number of
years before you find somebody else. And sometimes
people panic. It's like, I've never not been
with, you know, someone, and I I you
know, and then they make bigger bigger mistakes.
You know, there are people out there in
the world, and this is finally number 5.
Be wary of the sharks
where they where they sense blood in the
water, and they begin to circle around you.
And all of a sudden, that man, he
just keeps calling and messaging and who is
it? And it's
not out of out of genuineness.
Be careful with the sharks who begin to
swarm
because,
you know, those are moments of of difficulty,
that can be compounded,
when you you let your guard down. So
be careful
and take good counsel with the righteous. May
Allah give us all and healing
and
it was 26 years and not 27.
Alhamdulillah,
you still have an opportunity
to find,
comfort with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And of
course, this advice is just general. I'm not
speaking to your particular case, my dear brother,
my dear sister.
It's not my place to do so, but
these are just general reflections.
What a thorough and and complete,
piece of advice. I didn't think you'd have
the ability to do the justice, but I
under,
like, I I I under what's the word
for it? For you.
But,
It's a pleasure, and I know it was
healing for a lot of folks in the
chat that this is exactly what they needed
to hear in a variety of circumstances and
situations. It's a blessing to have you back,
Shif. We're looking forward to,
having you tomorrow, inshallah, for our webinar on
accepted dua'a, and hearing
your reflections, InshaAllah, and your sharing tomorrow. So,
JazakAllah Khair for being here for Ramadan 360,
once again, benefiting our community, and subhanAllah, I
don't know how you're awake and coherent and
guiding us during your suhoor time.
You're Masha'Allah,
an inspiration to us all. It's a pleasure
to have you back, Shaiyah. Inshallah, see you
very soon. May Allah give you a blessed
end to your fasting or a great beginning
to it, Inshallah.
And, make sure that the Quran is a
part of your life in these last 10
nights. Reading, hearing, looking, you know, even just
looking at the is.
Look through the Musaf if you are listening
to it,
inshallah.
Beautiful advice.
That was Sheyahi Ibrahim on day 19 of
Ramadan 360
on the topic of Islah repair. I hope
that you guys benefited immensely from that session.
It's so frustrating when the shooq are so,
eloquent and then you forget your words.
But
knocks it out of the park every single
time.
For those who came a little bit late,
I know a lot of folks join later
in this session, make sure you don't that
you you catch up to what you missed
out on, and you you catch up to
the notes as well, Jazak Malkher Suri, and
to the rest of the community who's been,
you know, itemizing and and sharing the notes
on Padlet and through the chat as well.
Please make sure you also share on Telegram
for those who are only catching up to
the session recording. Shayha had just mentioned about
spending lots of time with the Quran, and,
alhamdulillah,
we're in that habit through our 10 day
Quran challenge when we're talking about
perfecting that, and at the dweeb, and of
course now through the Quran reflect sessions where
we get a chance to reflect, and through
the as a community and individually as well,
Alhamdulillah, what a blessing,
that is. I can't wait to jump into
today's Quran reflect with Usadataymiyah,
who, Insha'Allah, take us down that journey as
well, and to hear from you guys as
well. Reminder as always,
for
the Names of Allah YouTube series with Sheikha
Maher Shukri. Today's name was Al Wudud. Beautiful
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and that you pick a few names of
Allah that you personally connect with a lot
so that you can really make sure that
you utilize them in your dua'as, and you
really feel that emotional connection when you're asking
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One more time, of course, I always wanna
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sipping his final kind of sips of water
to catch that last bit of time before
he's not able to eat all day, subhanAllah.
Sometimes there's, like,
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cats join us. Yes, we miss the cats
this year, subhanAllah.
But alhamdulillah, we'll see more of him tomorrow,
insha'Allah, look forward to that. And of course,
Uzad Daymiyahu Masha'Allah has been with us every
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we have a few instructors doing Quran reflect,
and it's I was
shocked at how she was able to facilitate
so far. Please keep our instructors in your
duas because I have a hard time speaking
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I start to have to, like, you know,
wipe my mouth a little bit in between
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session to session, 30 minutes, an hour, so
many,
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to the community,
you know, forgive them, make it heavy on
their skills, and make them, you know, of
the companions of the prophet on the day
of judgment. With that said,
let's jump in. Let's start our own reflections.
Let's jump into day number 19 of Quran
reflect and spend some time with the Quran,
inshallah with Usada Taymiyyah. I know she's been
patiently with us from the very beginning of
this session. So Assalamu alaikum.
How are you doing
this fine Jannah?
I'm feeling very uplifted.
Alhamdulillah.
Listening to Sheikh Yahya. Alhamdulillah.
Such
good advice,
really soothing, very uplifting. Alhamdulillah. Very, very positive.
Alhamdulillah.
Beautiful. I'm glad to hear that, Usada. I
can't wait to jump into your session. I
will share my little one little reflection or
or testimonial before we jump in subhanAllah.
I feel like this has been my most
emotionally connected year to the Quran today.
And honestly,
no plugging, no nothing, since we did our
purified course pre Ramadan, we did lost in
translation with Sheikh Wudid. It kinda got me
into that mindset of connecting with specific words,
with specific ayat, certain things pop into my
head and they have an emotional connection, then
certain names of Allah, now I know so
much better. So this community itself, it's facilitated
I hope that you guys feel the same
way Is that last night's taraweeh, like, it's
building on top of itself. It's getting better
and better. And I hope that Allah makes
it heavy on your skills, Estada, and all
the instructors who facilitated this connection here. I
know I've heard so much of the same
in the chats. So
for facilitating that for us, and I can't
wait to jump into our session for today.
Okay.
So the word 'Islah'
in its various
forms,
occurs about
a little over 40 times in the Quran.
And the word Islah
means to repair
and to mend what has been ruptured.
So it is to restore something to its
proper,
correct
state.
All right. So
'Islam'
by definition means that you have
messed up.
You have made a mistake. You have done
something wrong or that there is some kind
of conflict.
Alright?
Because it is to set something
right back again. It is to bring something
back to its correct and proper state.
All right.
And,
Islah,
it it it sorry. Islahu,
that you've been you need it is to
to mend
the the relationships
between people.
So when there's conflict,
to resolve that would be
And Allah tells
us in that
fear Allah and
fix that which is between you, meaning fix
your relationship,
mend that.
Now islah
is the opposite of ifsad.
Ifsad is to cause corruption, to damage, to
rupture, to ruin,
to spoil
something that is good. Now, Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala, the way that he has created the
world is that it is it, it, that
it is good. Right?
As we learn in the Quran,
You need the way that Allah
has created the Earth is that it is
in a good and proper
state.
But then what happens?
We create some kind of disturbance. We create
some kind of disorder.
So,
ISLAH is to
mend
what has been,
what has been ruptured, what has been,
you know, ruined or disturbed.
Now,
when a person learns,
right, and alhamdulillah,
over the past,
you know, 2, 3 weeks, we have been
studying about
different
virtues, different
qualities that we should adopt
different concepts
that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala has emphasized in
his book.
Now what happens is that when you learn,
you are able to
see many things.
And part of the things that you begin
to see is also your own faults.
Right? Your own weaknesses, your own struggles.
Like for example, when we learned about Haya,
about modesty,
right, when we learned about Husnu Al Kholek,
about good character,
I'm sure you thought to yourself,
well, this is something that I really need
to work on.
And I'm sure as you were attending class,
maybe, you know, a thought came to your
mind that, yeah, this is something that I'm
gonna work on, and I'm not gonna make
this mistake again. But then what happens? You
step out of class.
And because you're human,
you get angry.
You're fasting.
You're ups you're, you know, you're tired, you're
sleep deprived, and you lose your cool. Right?
And then after a few moments, you realize
I have
messed up again.
Right?
Now the thing is
that
if when we when we,
learn about our mistakes,
this is something that can lead to a
lot of shame.
And it can lead to a lot of
guilt, and it can also lead to a
lot of self loathing.
And this is where the beautiful concept of
Islah comes in
to, to give us that hope and guidance
as to how to mend and how to
fix and how to repair
what we have,
damaged.
Now, the first thing is that there is
no such thing as a perfect human being,
right? The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam told us
in Hadith Qudsi
that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala says that that
that that all of the children of Adam
are
are,
you know, Khattah, any they make mistakes.
So as a slave of Allah, you make
mistakes.
As a spouse,
you make mistakes.
Right? You mess up. As a parent,
you make mistakes.
As a son, as a daughter, you make
mistakes.
Right? We all struggle in all of our
relationships.
But then what should we do when we
realize
that we've done something wrong?
That when when, you know, we may have
said something that has caused some damage
to ourselves
or to to other people.
There's
several options.
One option is that we persist in our
errors because
we say we believe about ourselves that we
are unfixable.
And unfortunately,
many of us
think
about ourselves so negatively that we think, you
know what, I'm unfixable.
This is just who I am. I just
don't have good akhlaq.
I I'm just, you know, I just don't
have subr. Right?
I am just a bad person. I'm unfixable.
So forget about this. Right? Or
sometimes we just want to move on and
pretend like we never made that mistake. We
just want to
rely on,
you know, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is incredible
mercy,
and, you know, not worry about
correcting our behavior or our actions.
But
neither of these approaches is actually effective.
Because if we persist in our errors, guess
what?
One bad deed leads to another bad deed.
Right? If you don't repair,
if you don't do Islah, then what's gonna
happen. One sin is gonna lead to another.
And if you move on and pretend like
you didn't hurt the other person,
right, then what's gonna happen?
You you are causing
more damage to the relationship.
Right?
So,
what we need is ISLA.
And if you think about it, it is
Islah
what differentiated
Adam, alaihis salam, from
Iblis. Right? If you think about it,
Adam made a mistake.
Right? He ate from the forbidden tree. One
thing he was told not to do, and
he made that mistake.
Right?
And Iblis, what did he do? He was
told to make one sajdah, just one prostration,
and Iblis refused.
But what did Adam
do? Adam,
you know, he admitted
that he made a mistake, and he turned
back to Allah.
Right? He asked Allah
for forgiveness, and Iblis did not do that.
So when we look at the different verses
in the Quran,
we see
that Islah includes a number of things.
The first thing is
that Islah
means that you have hope in Allah's mercy
and you don't despair
and you don't you don't think about yourself
that I am unfixable,
that there is no hope for me, that
this relationship can never can never be fixed,
or I can never, you know, mend my
akhlaq,
right, or or my behavior.
No,
la taqunatoo
Mirrahmatilla.
As Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us that
do not despair
of the mercy of Allah.
Right? And Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala helps you
when you
strive.
And part of this is
that when you identify certain things in your,
in your behavior,
in a separate
your behavior from who you are as a
person,
Recognize that, yes, I made a mistake. I
yelled I should not have yelled.
Right? Or I just
bragged about my good deed and wasted my
reward, and I should not have done that.
Right? So recognize that this is a behavior.
This is not who I am. I want
to be a muttaki.
I want to be a person,
you know, who has taqwa of Allah, who
who who is a person of Ihsan, who
is just.
Right? Who who is a a mukhles, who
who is sincere to Allah. This is who
I want to be.
Alright? And the mistakes that I'm making,
they are,
occurrences,
but they don't define me.
And this can only happen when you have
hope in the mercy of Allah and you're
not despairing.
The second thing is
right? Recognize,
acknowledge the mistake that you have made, Right?
Name what happened
and take responsibility for your behavior.
Like, Adam, he
said,
our lord, we have wronged ourselves.
Right? We have made a mistake.
What did Iblis do?
Iblis blamed Allah. He said,
You
led me astray.
And sometimes
when we are,
you know, when when we realize we've done
something wrong, we've hurt someone,
you know, we we are apologizing,
but in that apology, we're actually blaming the
other person.
Right? Like, for example, we we we tell
our own younger sibling. Well, if you hadn't
said that to me, I would not have
lashed out.
Right? I'm sorry I lashed out, but
you you said what you said, and it
made me angry.
You made me so angry that I had
no other option.
So this is not really an apology. This
is basically,
blaming the other person. Right?
Then the next thing is,
seek forgiveness.
Right? Apologize.
As as we see, Adam he
asked
Allah forgiveness. He
said, Oh, Allah, if you don't forgive us,
you don't have mercy in us. We're gonna
be of the losers. We desperately need your
forgiveness.
Right?
And then
part of ISLAQ is
that you focus on the next steps.
All right. And this
is very, very important.
You
you state what you're gonna do different next
time.
Okay? So for example,
you were in a heated,
discussion
with your spouse
and you ended up saying something that was
very
hurtful. Right?
So you when you're cool, you go and
you tell them, hey. I'm sorry about what
I said.
You're you're not what I said you are.
I was angry,
and
I am working on,
on on keeping myself
more calm, and I'm trying to
figure out how to communicate more effectively.
Alright? So you state what you're gonna do
next,
you know,
what you're gonna do differently next time.
And this is something that Allah mentions in
the Quran.
So for example, in Surat Al Baqarah, verse
number 160,
Allah says,
except for those who repent,
and then they
repair,
and then they make clear what they previously
concealed.
Alright? They repented from the sin of concealing
the truth, concealing
the knowledge that Allah
has revealed.
Right? So then they repent from that.
They repair
and they make clear what they concealed. You
need they do things differently now.
Right? They they fix the behavior
to the best of their ability.
In 146, Allah
mentions regarding the hypocrites
that except for those who repent,
and they make reforms,
and they hold on to Allah.
They hold on to Allah
because previously, they did not. When they go
to pray, they pray lazily. They don't remember
Allah at all. But now after Tawba, they
hold on to
Allah.
Now they do things differently.
They make their religion, their worship sincere.
You know, they do it only for the
sake of Allah.
So part of islah is that now you
change your course.
Right? You don't just
apologize
and and, you know, try to mend, but
you need you have to change your course.
And then we see in the Quran that
the repentance that Allah
accepts
is the repentance that is with Islah.
And this is mentioned over and over again
in the Quran. In
verse 89,
Allah
says
Except for those who repent after that and
then mend,
they repair,
they make reforms,
Then indeed Allah is forgiving and merciful.
In Suratul Ma'ida verse 39 also,
Allah says, Whoever repents
after his wrongdoing,
and makes reforms,
Then Allah turns in mercy on this person.
Allah accepts the repentance of this person. And
there's many verses in the Quran that mentioned
this.
And in the Quran, Allah
tells us that the people who do isla,
the people who who are Muslim,
who are,
you know, repairing
not only
their relationship with Allah, but also their relationship
with other people or
or the relationships that exist between people because
it's not sometimes it's not the conflict that
you have with someone, but the conflict between
people that you witness.
Alright?
So is needed over there too. You can't
just worry about yourself. You also have to
be concerned about other people.
So those who do islah Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala tells us 2 good
news about them in the Quran. The first
thing Allah
tells us is in
1 17. That
That indeed we do not allow to go
waste
the reward
of those who do Islam.
Meaning those who are focused on repair,
Allah
will not
not waste their reward. Meaning Allah
will certainly
reward them.
So as long as you're working on improving
yourself. Right? This is this is a this
is a constant,
you know, part of life.
So as long as you're striving, you're mending,
you're repairing,
you you are going to be rewarded.
And, yes, there is going to be some
wins and there is going to be some
losses. But as long as you're on the
right track,
that every time you see yourself making a
mistake, you pick up. You get up. You
repair.
And then,
we also learn in Surah Hud,
aya
117, that the second good news that
That when there are reformers
in a community,
when there are people who are working on
reforming,
not just themselves, but others as well, by
commanding what is right, forbidding what is wrong,
informing people,
teaching people, then what happens Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala will not punish them. Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala will not destroy them as a whole.
So they are protected from the punishment of
Allah as long as they
are working towards
Islah.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
grant us all the ability to realize our
mistakes and give us the courage to,
take responsibility
and and work towards repair. There's a beautiful
dua,
in which
it's reported in in Sunun Abu Dawood
in which we learned that the prophet
told us to pray for,
for, repair in our relationships.
That, oh, Allah,
join our hearts
and,
any,
repair,
mend
the conflict that is between us. Any,
you know, between me and other people or
between us people,
any our our social relationships.
And guide us to the ways of
of of peace, meaning the ways that lead
to paradise.
And deliver us from darknesses
into light. And the dua is longer, but
just this part,
And it's very, very effective, very beautiful,
especially if you're struggling in, you know, your
relationships, maybe constant conflict with the spouse, you
know, with parents, with siblings
increase in this or even with a coworker,
make this dua a lot.
Alright. Let's hear from you now.
Bismillah,
raise your hand, and,
you can take the mic. Go ahead, Nur.
Bismillah.
Yeah.
I I want to reflect on the pay
that
an incident of my childhood.
And,
I used to
play with 2
children.
Like, I was in, higher standard, and they
were in lower standard. I used to go
visit, and they were so adorable.
But they were very,
like,
they don't use to talk to anyone. Like,
they are some,
annoying type. They don't talk to anyone, and
they are with them only. So
I daily went to them and talked to
them. And
one day,
they just repair. I I mean,
they just changed,
and they become very,
that initially, they don't talk to me. But
with constant efforts,
they change their themself, and
they are loving towards me as well.
See, Allah is not waste the reward of
those who
to to try to repair things. Beautiful.
For sharing.
Next person.
I know our beautiful reflection. Zahra, go ahead.
Hi. I just wanted to mention.
Oh, sorry, Zahra. I muted you by accident.
I meant to mute somebody else. Go right
ahead. Please unmute yourself. That was my mistake.
You mentioned to mention that, when
was to
yeah. Sorry.
When,
you mentioned that and, them,
they they they tend to, like, control themselves
very, like, very much and not like,
how can I say it? So for example,
when you said that, like,
Ibi said that Allah, Allah, you led me
astray.
That I I he kind of explained it
to Allah
and
also reminded me of when Adam said the,
Adam recited words from his lord
and his lord turned towards him. So then,
like, when I thought of it, I thought
that, like, when you were talking about how
we can change and stuff like that,
I I kind of thought of it as,
like, you see how Adam was,
was inspired with the words so he can
see forgiveness from Allah.
Mhmm. So I yeah. So then,
so I was thinking that the the way
Adam, alaihis salam was granted word words to
seek forgiveness,
it it it also comes to him maintaining
the change of when he repents, if that
makes sense.
Does that make sense? So, like, for example,
like, you see how it says like,
there's no change nor,
there's no change.
Yeah. There's no change or,
power but with all those panels I love.
Because I found that myself that when I
used to, like, repent and, like, I used
to depend on my on myself and say,
Zohra, you're going to change this way, this
way, that way, and then I'll maintain it
for a few days. And then after it
will go down the bin, if that makes
sense. And so then it's not it's only
when I actually made the dua and I
depended upon upon Allah completely and holy. And
I told him that I wanted to change.
And then after that's when,
I actually I I saw, like, a long
term change, if that makes sense. Yeah. Yeah.
It does. Yeah.
And I just want to to mention one
thing as well is that, you see one,
like,
for Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. One thing that,
because one thing that I'm one thing that
I'm not supposed to be found
one thing I've noticed with the Chetan is
that he he tends to work with habits.
Like, he found, like, he starts from something
small and after he work he and after
he he works like in small steps, and
then after those small steps become a loop.
And that loop will essentially become a habit
eventually. So then after
but then with all habits, like, there's, like,
a trigger to the habit. If you know
what I mean, like, that's something that it
initiates the habit. So then, like, if you
want this is just for everyone, like, just
yeah. From my own experience, is that,
it can,
it's just to look at that trigger. Look
at that,
look at that thing that,
yeah, just look at the trigger that causes
you to turn to that to the action,
to that scent, basically.
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing your personal experience
and your reflection as well.
Next let's hear from sister Aisha,
and then we'll take
church.
Church. So this just reminded me about a
personal,
situation that happened with a friend, and we
had a little fallout. We were, in the
same we're roommates
in school. So we had a little fallout,
and that seemed to prolong for some time.
And
I decided that let me just reach out
to her and then say hello. And something
that that could have degenerated into a longer
conflict or a longer disagreement.
We became best of friends, and we've been
friends since then
for almost 10 years now, and we are
still very good friends.
So this is something that came to my
mind. I said I started to share.
Very much. Is it really? Mister Ayesha? It
next. Sorry. It reminds me of the Hadith
where the prophet
mentioned that, you know, when there's 2,
2 brothers who are any brothers in faith
who are,
not talking to each other,
right,
the the the one who
initiates the greeting,
okay,
is the one who is the better of
the 2 of them,
because he initiates the greeting of of Salaam
to start a conversation, and from that, repair
the relationship.
So somebody has to take that first step,
and whoever takes that first step is is
better off the 2 in in the sight
of Allah.
Next, let's hear from Carrie, Inshallah, and then
it'll be Razen.
And guys, just a reminder, please keep your
reflections as short as you can. We wanna
sneak in as many folks as we can
before we close off in today, and we
try try to finish by 6:15 every day.
Go ahead, Carrie.
We can't hear you. Sorry, Carrie. We're having
trouble with your mic.
Give it a sec.
Alright. Right. Where Carrie tries to fix that,
we'll hear from Razan. Go ahead, Razan.
My reflection is the more you repented to
Allah, then Allah will forgive you all your
sin.
I'm I'm starting to really look forward to
these one liners from Rosanna every single time.
I love them.
Let's next, let's hear from, Kanwal. And, Carrie,
let me know in the chat if your
audio is good. You can just test it
for me. Kanwal, go ahead.
Am I audible enough?
Yep.
Yes. So today, I have really seen the
intersection of secular therapy and guidance in the
Quran.
And it's just the same. The social philosophies
that I've learned are all defined in the
Quran, and it's it's my sorry state that
I have come to realize it's so late.
So the one that I really want to
reflect on is when you and when Imam
Yaya mentioned about Islam is making an effort
to be towards
growth to be,
towards an overall positive state.
So as far as the curve is showing
growth, you're on the right track. One may
fall, but it's the ability to get up
and fix the wrongdoings.
And this is what I've really learned in
the social psychological
world, but
it's in the book. It is in the
book.
So that's my prediction. Thank you. This is
what
the narration.
In one of the narrations, we learned that
whoever wishes to gain knowledge,
then he should study the Quran
thoroughly.
And he don't just do a superficial reading,
but a deep study
and over and over again.
Why? Because in it is the knowledge of
the first and the last.
This is this is the revelation from Allah
and Allah
has mentioned the people from earlier times and
also what's gonna happen later.
So if you wanna learn, this is where
you go. And sadly, we think that knowledge
is everywhere
but the Quran.
So we study our we spend our lives
studying one thing after the other. And when
it comes to the study of the Quran,
we think that,
you know, it's for people who have nothing
nothing else to do.
Alright. Finally, just because, I know Carrie's mic
is still working, we'll take one last reflection.
Keep it short, and then we'll close off
for today. Carrie, let's hear from you.
Oh, no. Sorry. You're muted still. Give it
another try to unmute.
Okay. Can you hear me? Yes.
Yes. Oh, yay.
Just to point out one
interesting point. If we notice
that everything was directed towards us, So we're
not waiting on somebody else. And that is
so freeing
when you are not waiting on somebody to
see where they have offended you or they
have hurt you. You immediately start to think,
okay. Well, what was my contribution
to the confusion, to the disconnect,
to the static in this relationship?
And as a person who prides himself on
continually
working on my self improvement,
that was one of the first things that
really gave me a sense of relief. Because
if you are waiting on somebody else, you're
gonna be waiting for a long time. So
you might as well go ahead and see
where you
were at fault and work on that. And
people also to come with some solution. So
that also helps that even when you're not
just coming with a complaint, but you're also
coming in with where you see you went
wrong and also to come with some solution.
So that also helps that even when you
do even if you do have a valid
complaint with somebody else, that you don't just
come with a complaint. You come in where
maybe you could have, been more receptive or
more transparent
and how you think things can be repaired
and both of you can move forward together.
That was excellent.
Very well
With that, That
was
day number 19. We made it through the
1st 19, almost 20 days
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