Love ourself to be Loved by others
Channel: Yahya Ibrahim
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always in forever We begin with the praise of Allah we send our prayers of peace upon our whenever he gets a lot he was sitting. We testify with firmness and conviction that non is worthy of worship Allah Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his worshipping slave and final messenger.
I continue to ask Allah subhana wa Taala for my guidance in yours, that Allah subhana wa tada sends his choices and addictions upon our Habib Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and allows us to be honored by his ship and intercession on the Day of Judgment a lot of money. Firstly, at first, let me express how happy I am. And I know I don't look happy, because I'm jet lagged. But that's okay. So I took the midnight flight the red eye out of Perth and I arrived at 6am. So I'm on three cups of coffee, which is cool and hamdulillah Melbourne coffees, okay. Kind of. Well, not joking. I'm joking, however, see how see how they, you may have heard people, man, you and your coffee a lot.
I shouldn't have made a Melbourne coffee job to begin with. That was a fumble, haven't been recovering chama. So I'm on three cups of coffee and come to the lab. And I pray that Allah subhana wa tada blesses us with his Baba and gives us his aid and surrounds us with His angels, Mohammed Amin. So it's an honor and a privilege to be with you here, especially amongst a lot of young and upcoming future leaders. So before I speak about the greatest love, which is the topic that was chosen for me, I do want to first acknowledge the young people in the room. Now, I know that makes me sound old. But I'm not bad. Like I'm old, but not dying. It's horrible. So when I say young
people, it's not like you guys are teenagers, and you know, that kind of thing. But when I say young, I'm speaking the word of the prophets of Allah audio incident, where the Prophet was young, up until the age of 14, in our Deen, you're a shadow and the shadow until the age of 14. And Islam was not delivered to the prophets, I send them until the age of 14. And he didn't get married until he was 25. Some a lot while he was settling, I want you to know these numbers are really significant.
He didn't reach his maturity of strength, some a lot already was settlement and the capacity to influence others up until he's around my age. I'm 42. I come to be done. And that's also kind of Thailand. You better clean up here. I'm adding in our youth and our age along mommy. So by your standard, I'm no longer Show. I'm an old dude, I'm past that 14. But my martial law, the vast majority of you in the room, you're still in that place where the puppet speaks to you directly and he says give them 10 incomes and
make sure you take full advantage of five things before five other things happen. And of the first things he mentions is you your youth, before
you become like
your age, your maturity and your youth is a vibrant moment in your life. It is a moment of growth. And growth is always something that begins with destruction. You like probably what are you going on about
growth is about mistakes.
Growth is about missteps. And growth is about heading down the wrong way and finding that's not where I need to be. And making a repentance and a return to a loss of hand and want to have. Growth is about injury and insult. It's about resilience and tenacity. It's about picking yourself up, dusting yourself off and forgiving yourself so that you are able to later on know what it means to forgive others. And all that comes back to the 100 that I want to study with you today.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says you cannot be a believer.
Law, you know,
you cannot consolidate faith, your faith will never come to maturity come together that you're complete in your relationship with a law until you're capable of loving for others, your fellow man and an amendment No, he says that it's not loving for other Muslims are loving for your brother, meaning people that you like, it's for loving for others, what you love for yourself.
And the real filter this Hadees is what do you love for yourself. And I know whoever wrote the topic when they spoke about the greatest love, they assume that I'm going to speak about the bubble a lot. I will. But I'm going to talk to you today about I'm going to keep it 100 Do you know what that means?
I'm gonna I'm gonna, I'm gonna I'm gonna you're gonna be woke.
gotta wake up. Because I'm awake. I'm three cups of coffee.
So I'm going to keep a real movie. The Greatest Love is the love for yourself.
And if you ever deny that you will never be capable of loving anybody else truly.
Because that's how you are you were created with this default. This defect which is in your default setting, in the insanity of mankind, I created you to be prone to going beyond the bounds, so don't do it. Everything that we speak of in righteousness is supposed to be opposite to what is the natural state of environment.
Anyone know what the word bin means?
They'll translate into a righteousness brother.
What is the root of boom? What does it mean? Do you know what it means? It means an arid desert that somehow miraculously grows vegetation. Like you look at that desert and you say there's no way that sand dune can grow corn. There's no way you can be a meadow of wild flowers have ranging colors from pink to yellow to blue.
Or Bhim is that that land that you believe could never sustain life grows? That's what a lot says. He wants you to be
11 you will never be righteous you will never have that righteousness had that
a boon until you can spend from the things you love because you love them for yourself. You want that product bag sister don't want to meet you. You're looking at that Chanel and you're like that holy bag that looks good. Oh my god, Louis.
That l v
looks good on
those Valentino shoes.
Charlotte Ciao cha.
So just a law degree away.
Now don't ever think that that's bad it's not bad to want nice things. The prophets I send them says in a Muslim but I'm sharing with you that he while you're getting a kidney
properly speaking just like I'm speaking with you, so the law he was sent them and he says a person
shall not enter Paradise, when within their heart is a mustard seed and an atom's weight of areas. And it means to solve a lot more it was eliminate the back and said to him moments enjoy God.
In the module Amina and main. One of us you hit the internet the Yahoo has
one motto Anna who has a woman who has a messenger of Allah Are you saying that one of us who loves to wear fine tailored clothing to enjoy exquisite
cuisine and ride a nice ride, have the fastest stallion have the nicest car on the block that that will preclude us keep us evidence. Jenna is not that arrogant. She's like I shouldn't have nice things. The prophets I send them essentially psychedelic you misunderstood Allahu jameela boogyman. Allah is the source of all beauty. And he loves when you draw a thought on your body, and he loves to see the near him and the blessing of the beauty he's created for you shown on your person shown in your clothing shown in your food shown in your home. The prophets like Selim says, I mean, aside
from the things that give you joy in life are four things. A house that is fast in its face, nobody wants to live in a closet like a broke student with a bus pass.
You don't want to take a bus everywhere you want a nice ride. You want a big home, it's been a sad, it's from the things and from the things that give you shut off. I've made a house that is small. Nobody wants to walk into a cluster COVID call me but if you live in Japan,
you don't like that. You want space, things you love. The greatest love in life should never be I'm talking about in life. I'm not talking about past life. We're gonna talk about a lot.
supposed to be you know, selfless and giving and charitable Mashallah
not at the expense of yourself? What good is giving from yourself something that's going to make you hate that you gave it?
A good sharing of your heart to someone who doesn't want to receive it?
What good is pursuing someone who doesn't pursue you seeking someone who doesn't seek you sharing with someone who takes but doesn't give? What good is speaking to someone who ignores you? What good is be that chaser and never the chasi
the greatest love begins where you know what you esteem and love for yourself so that others see that's valuable.
Would you buy a $500 Rolex?
Because Rolex is like 10 grand.
Someone's trying to sell you a $500 Rolex would be like nah, there's no way it's real.
In your mind, because it's cheap, even though it's a brand that's valuable, because it's cheap. You immediately disqualify me say $500 you don't pay $500 for a Seiko for a poser. Yeah, I can see that for a Rolex not i'm not going to get my money for that.
Because of the brand value of it, it knows its own self you know, I mentioned some of these elite kind of bags and stuff Did you know do you were
I know a lot about bags which are my brothers. Once you get married, I'll school you. Don't worry. I got
Did you know what your burns burns sets on fire $30 million worth of excess stock a year for no other reason than to drive scarcity
because they don't have a sale. You don't walk into a door and say Hey guys, so what's on sale? It's like Dude, if you need a sale, you're in the wrong shop. You need to go down the road. They have bags that look like ours. They call them michael kors.
you're still students you're getting that you're getting them Don't worry about it. The brother is still taking the bus Don't worry. He's looking for the cards.
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but that's real right that's that's the truth. What do you love? Who do you love? If you're answering yourself You got a problem with you your life
You better be very self interested.
You got a love for yourself a career
and objective in life goals dreams. You got a love for yourself a type of education, a type of standard, a type of a slot, type of demeanor. You're going to love for yourself certain things. It's going to make your brand a Rolex
So that nobody offers you $500 for it, because that's not what I am.
You're, you're in the wrong category.
People who sell themselves short, you don't have words for that they lack self confidence. They lack self esteem, they lack they
really the essence of it, they've undervalued themselves. Why? Because they haven't sat with themselves and said, What do I like about myself? And what do I want for myself in life.
The greatest culprits of this are usually brothers.
And some common law as you begin to mature, and I wish there were more brothers once I love them, 100 of you, but I wish there was more.
As you begin to mature, you're going to understand that the greatest thing that you will possess is to have within yourself that desire to be a complete man. And not just a male.
And there's a difference between having the autonomy, the anatomy of a male, and having the qualities and the characteristics of a man.
In the same way, also kind of Allah speaks of that in Nepal. And, you know, he speaks about regional qalamoun, which I know, the dear brother, Mr. Johnson is going to speak about that calama It's a beautiful topic, and it's going to be blessed. What it means to be, you know, a man, the prophets of Allah when he was, you know, he would speak to us in ways that at times we look at the surface by the depth of it, is where he wanted us to search to where he wanted us to descend into when swimming. You know, when the Prophet says to me as a father, as a ladder from Suba.
Teach your sons to swim. It's not okay, son, we're going to the YMCA, you got to learn how to dive in from crawl and we live in Australia, there's recurrence that that wasn't the intent of appetising. He's speaking to people who live in a desert. They've never seen open water. They don't ride the waves. They're not fishermen. They're not there to experience drowning. But the Prophet is saying to a father, you live in the desert, but your son one day, maybe over there, so prepare your sons, your daughters, for what a future may hold that is different to the reality they experience.
The concept of chivalry, the concept of Hutu, well, a lot of us uses in Nepal and in Salt Lake, city at an ATM and will go up the hill was it now. These are a collection of young men, young, youthful men and women who came together in the worship of Allah and they chose a path that was different to others. They were an oxymoron. You when you as a believer, as a practitioner of righteousness, you're an oxymoron. You're a flower blooming in a desert.
You're valuable, you're rare. And if you don't know your Rarity, how is someone else can evaluate. You don't know what you love for yourself, if you are not your own Greatest Love?
Who can love you more than yourself? Why would anyone love you more than yourself?
Why would I prefer you to myself,
unless I understand your value, and I see that you given yourself and therefore I share myself with you. And that's the concept of marriage for us. That's where the words of macaque come to bear. You become unsettled, where there's two equal parts, they're independent and whole complete, that can be stillage. They become together that the one and the other or separate, unique and complete, that when they merge together in the car coming together as settlement was rejected, you don't know where one begins from where one ends.
That's the blessing of what we see. That's the conceptualization that we have.
So your grievous love must begin internally. The loss of Hannah Montana tells us this in different ways in the whole time. He tells us to search within ourselves. Some of the early philosophers, they would say what you know, know thyself, what does that mean? It means knowing thyself.
Who am I? And what do I want?
And what's important to me and what isn't? And what might be valuable to me might not be the same thing that my parents value in somebody else. And what I value for myself might be different
To my sister values in what she's searching for my brother values and who he's looking for,
what do I care about the most? And what do I feel is necessary for the longevity of my relationship into the future?
It begins with you, and always be able to sit with yourself in solitude. You know, the native Indians, they said that, in America and Canada, we have a saying that the natives would say, silence is is thought, just to be silent, it means you're forced to seek to think. So as you sit quietly, you have nothing around you. You don't have a phone that you just randomly look at past messages, because you're not that popular and people are pinging you.
You're just sitting there that Oh, let me see what was said.
And you just put that away. And you just turn it off, and you just sit.
And you just sit quiet. It's a long lost art of being bored.
being bored is actually called thinking.
There's a sensory overload that makes us overlook everything outside of us. So everything that's outside you, consumes you. But everything that is really central to you is within you, within your heart, within your mind, within your emotions. It's where you release conflict. It's where you deal with, you know, we've all had that. Have you ever had an argument with someone and 10 seconds after you walk away, you think of what you should have said.
And then you turn back, but she's already left you like man, if I would have said that? shot her.
But it's too late.
You're already thinking.
But when you're quiet, you find a place.
It's a place where you find yourself.
Mindfulness begins with understanding who you are, and what you want, what you value within yourself. And see, most of the time we seek to know how we are viewed by other people's eyes. And therefore the prophets of Allah Azza wa sallam, he gives us a really simple formula, the authentic hadith of the man Muslim. He said that Muslim America at the lever is a reflection of their brethren. So I want to, you know, take a critical load of those who you filled your life with. And take a look at them. All the ugliness You see, because a mirror is not normally used to esteem yourself. A mirror is used to critique yourself. So there you are, early in the morning today,
trying to pin that scarf. And it keeps flagging down. You're like,
come on, I gotta undo it again. Okay, iron it again. He did it again. And it's like, yeah, law 17 times, I'm trying, okay, I'm not wearing this scarf. Because it's gonna be on my mind the whole day. You look in the mirror to find imperfection.
And the Prophet it says to you, whenever you're seeing imperfection in those who you've surrounded yourself with, guess where the ugliness actually lies. Guess where that same reflections coming from you are the reflection of those who you've chosen. Those who you've committed to as a consistent thing, so you don't like that she lies to you. And you don't like that? Your friend exaggerates or she gossips or, but you remain solid in that relationship constantly for years.
Because it's a reflection of part of you.
And when you sit quiet, you begin to analyze your life and yourself you begin to see what are the things that you love? And what are the things you don't?
The man says to the prophets I send them can we have nice clothes can we have nice food Prophet says Allah is the source of all beauty. He loves her beauty to be shown to a service advocated go to the air and say Speak up, is bother and help people humbleness is that you cast your site down upon some because they don't meet what you feel is your status. So because you're younger than me, if you would mind me, I said what do they know they're young.
Because what he's from this place, he doesn't have my education. She doesn't have this. I looked down at a person who's
speaks to me or gives a word of truth. And they dismiss it not because of the merit of what they're saying is correct or incorrect, but because of who they are. That's arrogance. And number two humbleness, that it's not just that I reject what they say, but I feel within my heart because of what I wear, because of what I eat, because of what I write that it makes me better than the other. It's not the clothing, that's the problem. It's the feeling of the one who wears it, where they don't see their imperfection in their treatment, and in their dealing with others.
The Greatest Love
is for you to begin within yourself, to recognize those who are nearest key, Khadija will be a lot more on how
she speaks about the character of the prophets on the level on him and send him
the moment he returns after having encountered gibreel and receive the early verses of the Quran. It's not a big deal.
And she says canon law online, yeah, Mohammed's I sell them by God in the law that your physique,
your Lord will never disgrace you, no harm will come to you.
What's her evidence?
a lot to say, All right. Her first evidence is because you connect everyone in your family, you're the thing that brings people together in your home, it's easier for you to overlook the mistake of your friend than your own black. Like, I'll see this even you know, with your children, in your future, you'll try to correct this. And you'll see this in childhood, not in your behavior. But you know, your sister walks in the room, and she picks up a scarf from your 76,000 scarves.
And you're furious. I told you not to come in my room without asking. I told you don't take anything without asking me. But if your friend visits your home and is looking through your scars, because I'm gonna win this tonight, you hold your tongue. You don't react in that same way. Why? Because she's like a family. You don't take that liberty. You're only insulted. You're only loud, belligerent with people who you feel are not worth it.
And that's your blood.
You speak that way to your mom, but you wouldn't speak that way to your boss, you wouldn't speak that way to your lecture.
You take the liberty with your father, your brother, your aunt, your uncle.
But you never do it with someone who extends past your home.
And therefore the greatest honor of the prophets, I send him the first thing he says why Allah will safeguard him. I'll say no, some alimony received. What can you carry on your back food for the ones who have no food? What does that mean? That when you and I choose to sit in company of people, we want to sit in company of those who are peers or those who are elite to us because we hope that by virtue of their positioning, we will ride Shakespeare he says, Son by virtue fall and sung by era rise somebody by virtue it'll bring you down you're trying to get virtuous but they'll humiliate and some by their humanity, it will ascend them the prophets I send them said men love it that you're
the one who humbles themselves before God elevates them.
The profits, his company was not limited to just
for the lucky
or unlucky or the elite of Mecca of the Amazon. But it was to Abdullah human Maktoum, the blind man believed that they would mark him they would see that waste.
You want me to believe in you the way these slaves believe in you? How dare you think? Even if what you say sounds good. Even if what you say in my heart, I recognize it's true. I would never equate myself with them. They would say that to you. In a video not bad. The Rock he says a weak minded amongst us the poorest amongst us.
Because they look to others in what others they think see of them not to what they value in themselves.
If you know yourself, you have no problem mixing with the wealthy or the poor. Everybody's equal in front of you. Because at the end of the day, you are a person and they're a person. The end of the day they go to the bathroom the way you do. Then the day they need to retire to a bed when they're tired. Then the day it seems like you get sick and if you were to cut somebody open their blood is good enough for you.
You don't ask can I have a blood transfusion from an arrow Chinese blood is
as red as yours, if the match is good enough, I'd say we're all the same. And that recognition, Know thyself, who you are, and valuing yourself begins now to help you choose who will value you in life.
The greatest value that you can give to yourself is to recognize your position.
And your position is that of a slave to Panama, the moment you understand your commission in life is not gratification, that is instantaneous, that it's not about the hearing now, but there has to be a deferred happiness in another time. It could be another time later in my future or another time, maybe not even in this life. The moment you understand that the money that I saved so hard for
then I see somebody who's in debt.
And they're, they their family is gonna lose their home.
And everything I work for, perhaps if I for the generosity, that a last place in my heart, that I share some of it towards them that I can alleviate their harm, then I prefer a love, I love myself, I know myself, I know what I love. Well, you know that empathy. And that's the moment you understand who is the master? And who is this? You say, oh, Allah, this is in your way. It's going to them, but it's in your way. Well, I saw what's been happening in that place. Our law had been saving, I have five our life own in the world of a Lot's wife, $100. And $500. Do you may mean a lot as a student, and it might not mean as much to me.
And I might give $5,000, and you get 50 of your 500 and a lot accept that as being greater than my five pounds.
Because you went against your inner calling, you became a desert that Belinda rose.
Love begins with yourself. But the greatest love is that you look past yourself, although you know you are worthy.
And then you understand that you are in the position of a slave. And Allahu Allah
is the one who is the in ritually, the one without need and whose mercy descends upon us supply them with
the greatest love that needs to understand you're moving into a loss of Hannah Montana, is that you know, your entitlement to a lot is a part of your entitlement to yourself, that who I am and what I want, is very dear to me. She made that very clear, I must value this I might, you know, there's nothing wrong and going after that, Louis, nothing wrong with it.
But if there ever comes a moment where I have to make a choice of whether I'm going to spend, which is my disposable hard earned savings, income to something that will give me some gratification now or that I park with it. And I take from what I love for myself, because I'm the greatest love for myself, but I'm going to prefer somebody else. I don't do it for my master.
That's where a lot shifts mountains in your life.
That's what commandment is that we're about to be follow reverting. That's where illness that we're suing to set can be channeled elsewhere. That's where you draw becomes elevated and you become sanctified in the law. And that's where the calamity that descends upon you, you can bear it when others buckle and lose faith.
That's where Baraka is added in your home. That's where your spouse who you have not yet met 10 years from now, will remain faithful to you. Love you because you love another human being. I'm going to tell you a real story. You know, I was young.
There was a kid in my class I was like, in grade two, or three, year two or three. There was a kid in my class, his name was Chris.
And a lot Forgive me. Forgive us those who are my classroom.
We used to tease him because he used to wear we used to call them goggles.
I used to wear these really big glasses. They call them goggles. And
then when I was growing up in Canada, like the word bullying wasn't invented.
Like that concept of bullying was invented. So he went to the teachers
The teacher would turn around and say, this is just messing with you.
There wasn't you know, any interest you just were expected to take it and give it back. Whether that's good or not, is a different story.
I got in the car, and I rolled down the window. I said, see tomorrow goggles.
And my mom stopped the car says What did you call it? double zero 170 goggles.
Looks like he's wearing swimming goggles.
The fish will have had in the mat, like
nothing you've done even as a young child, anyone said it's gonna come back.
Couple of years later, I got my first goggles.
And those same friends of mine who used the goggles, well guess who they started calling goggles. Like, oh, there's goggles to I was goggles to like in grade five. I was they used to call me goggles to me go like this from far away.
And I always would remember what my mother
And this is a natural law of a law
men center. The one who doesn't go in
eventually receives good woman as a as a hologram and the one who brings something that is not good. It returns back to I'll give you an example from the moron that chose the perfect symmetry. Ibrahim's father I mean you said he tried to kill him right? What did they do to Ibrahim they said throw him in
and I'm not saying they brought him put in a now with Guney Baba nos lm Allah Ibrahim all fire that has been blaming the coup, the president upon Abraham and Ibrahim Ali Salman was hanging out in the fire until it died. And then he went out. And his father said to me, maybe leave we never want to see your face again.
Ibrahim never really understood how much of a test he was for his father. Until a law tested him with the exact same thing.
Your father was so committed to his idolatry
that he was willing to sacrifice you
Ibrahim, are you as committed to me as he was committed to that was a lot harder for him to do
to to do one. Come on. You guys know the story.
You went to school or not? What does the law say to the Brahim slaughter your son Why? Because committed even to done as you were a test for your parents, your children will be a test for you in the exact same way.
So kind of like I can see it in my children. I look at my goodness, oh my god, that's my dad.
But like I used to exact same karma. Stop acting like me.
Don't do that.
And you are so kinda like the perfect symmetry. Ibrahim your test is what you were as a test for your father
in life, your grievous love is your setup. But your greatest ambition is to go past it to become as good of a law where you prefer others to a loss of connection with the planet. I conclude by asking him a loss of content to add up to bless all of those who have come together as volunteers to all of the Muslim associations of Melbourne, the head of Islamic associations of the universities I see. What is it we got University of Melbourne and Deacon and a couple of campuses from Monash and how do you say that
I'm Canadian, so don't judge me. And in the morning, Monash and
don't judge me too much. I'm in chama mail, also kind of Allah reward all the sisters with a nice Maroon scarves. Why don't the brothers have to dress up? Are you all in black? I thought that was just like Armani.
I love them and I look forward to our sessions that are upcoming in LA to kind of allow them
to like know
super relevant to the topic.