How To Be The Happiest Woman Part 1

Yahya Ibrahim


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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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in Alhamdulillah hinomoto who want to sorry no one has succeeded

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fusina woman say Dr. Medina, Maria de la, la La, la, la la

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la la la la, la la sharika y shadow Ana Mohammed Abdullah sallallahu alayhi wa earlier he was happy he was certainly more than

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always and forever We begin with the phrase of Allah subhanho wa Taala. We send our prayers of peace upon the messenger Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and we testify with firmness and conviction that there is none that is worthy of worship but Allah and that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is is worshipping slave and final messenger. I bet if Allah those whom we love for our, our love for Allah Subhana Allah to Allah.

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It is always a pleasure and an honor to join with my sisters here in the city of Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia, in speaking about Allah subhana wa Tada. And as soon as that of our Nabhi Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and there is no greater honor for me and in sha Allah, no greater honor for you than to be from those who gather for no other reason than the word of Allah azza wa jal, and in emulation and modality and love of the tradition and the path of the messenger, Muhammad Sallallahu, it was something that is the greatest honor and aspiration that we have in our life.

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Today's topic is a interesting topic. Because if I read the wrong way, it implies that we do not have happiness, and we're looking for it. This is not the case. My wife, as I was leaving, she said, when you come home, you got to give me this lecture again.

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I said, Why are you not happy? She said, No, no, I'm happy. I'm sure all the women over there happy too. I said, Oh, and actually, I began to write the notes. So I actually SMS the tour, and I posted it on my Facebook and Twitter page. So you can actually just click on the image now. So you don't have to write every single point, all 20 points are there. We're going to talk about 20 life lessons. And these life lessons are things that I you know, although I just wrote them quickly, they are things that are grounded in the student and the tradition of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And we're going to go through all of them in chat law in the next hour or so that

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we spend Tonight, we're going to break for salata, a shot, I asked you in sha Allah not to pray us to know, after a shot Salaam Aleykum Selam Aleykum your dick and come down sooner you can play it at home and chat lawyer which we can play in at home, especially for the a short prayer, no prayer is coming after it until and that way we get the bulk of the Juma prayer and continue our moves to have the lessons of knowledge about Allah and His messenger Muhammad Sallallahu he was.

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Point number one, how to find happiness, how to keep happiness, how to appreciate happiness. Now those are three separate things, find it, keep it and appreciate it,

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find it, keep it and appreciate it, many of us, we can find happiness, and then we do the wrong things that ruin it.

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Or we find it we keep it and then we neglect it. We don't appreciate having it. We assume it will always be there. And when it's gone, we find sorrow. And we regret that we did not appreciate what we had previously. The first step and the first point is trusting a loss of Hannah, Darla and fate

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of all of the questions that I get sent and of all of the comments that I receive and of all of the questions that I get asked one of the greatest themes that comes across in particular from Muslim sisters is why me How come I cannot have or how come I I had but lost and it could relate to a husband. It could relate to children not being able to produce them. Many, many, many things. finding happiness now that I'm married I thought I would be happy. I'm not having all these kinds of comments come Why first important point is our channel.

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trust in Allah subhanho, wa Taala and integro, systematic complete submission to our faith in a bar. When I talk about faith and color, I must emphasize to you that belief in color is from the six pillars of a man. Just as you believe in a law and the angels in the books and the messengers in the Day of Judgment, you must also believe in a

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highly, it's good that comes to you, and what you perceive as bad, the hardship that entails.

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cutter will react to you in three ways. There are three feeds that happen in your life,

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things that happen in you,

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as you're sitting now, some of your cells biologically, are mutating, altering, some of them become cancerous, every single one of us, some of us are able to get rid of these cancerous cells. Others due to a variety of reasons are not. And in one year, or two or three systematically for many of us out of the numbers of people here, due to our cover, there will be some of us, some of us sitting here today, who will be tested with an illness undoubted, it will happen

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and you have no control over it. In fact, some of the children, all of our children are born with propensities to particular illnesses and genetic illnesses that is put in their bloodline cannot change it. They are born You and I were born with certain susceptibilities, harder

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there are things that happen to you, not even you but to you. As you're sitting here.

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Something might fall on you, you might trip. You didn't do anything wrong.

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You're sitting in a red light, a car hits you from the back, it's color, you have no ability to stop it prevented for changing, you did not do anything negligent or wrong to bring it on it happened.

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And third,

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is how we you react to the first two.

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This is what you're accountable for. When we talk about free will. None of us are free.

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In that sense, in the sense of the first to no one has freedom to choose when they are born, who their parents will be how they will be raised, what kind of income level they will be raised in. None of these big decisions in life. Big matters in life are in our control. They happen to us

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and in our life, they will things that will befall us. But how you react to those two is now your responsibility. When Allah subhana wa Taala says you believe in unclutter it means that if you are sitting there and nothing wrong in your life befalls you submit your loss of Hana to Allah and react in the way he asked.

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You got married to someone you loved.

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You thought everything was wonderful.

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A year goes by two years goes by he falls ill you find yourself widowed. You find your children without a father clever. You cannot change it. You submit to the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala now becomes the moment where you're trusting a lot begins.

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In Allah He we're in an era

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we are all belonging to Allah to him we return Qatar Allahu Allah, Masha

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Allah estimated This is something they should bear and what he did was by his wheels of Hana to Allah no one can change it. You submit to the will of Allah.

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People can be of two types Why me?

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How can me How can this disaster befalls me or

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yeah Allah assist me in the journey that remains in my life. Yeah, Allah protect the children Yeah, Allah protect my name. Yeah, Allah give me better than what I had.

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Trust and belief in Allah is the foundation of happiness is that

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we will pause for the burning chat law for the event of a shot I'm not sure if we will keep

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But if we hear it, we will stop in sha Allah. The second statement, or the second principle of finding, keeping and appreciating happiness

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is master the fundamentals. Be a master of the fundamentals of your life. What are the fundamentals of your life?

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What's the first fundamental the thing that everything else is built on?

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Sala you have to be a master of it. See what happens to people?

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Is that we assume so that is important. Yes, it's important. But yeah, I mean, how important is it? Sometimes I miss the prayer. It's okay, I'll make it up.

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Yes. Is it okay

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we'll pause for it in Shama.

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I'm actually not able to make out what he's saying. That's why I didn't stop which is filler.

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So after the exam will continue for another five minutes in chat bar, then I will beg your pardon. I will join the Jamaica. Those of you who are able to join us please join us. don't pray your soon that in sha Allah. If Allah asks you, you say chef young yourself.

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But come down for the talk and we will continue in Shall

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we continue in chat along number two point number two is master the fundamentals of life. There are certain fundamentals that become necessary for us to master things like solar, things like a bad things like re citation of the

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things like Vic enters via the vicar of the morning, the vicar of the evening, separately. Yeah, these are things that are going to make me happy. The heart you're putting your heart will never what logon By Allah, Who there is no God or deity worthy of worship, but he

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by Allah who created the sun and the moon and the stars, and you and I,

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you will never find peace and tranquility, except in the dhikr of Allah subhanaw taala.

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And if you look for it, and find something that you see

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is peace and tranquility, it will never last.

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It will never last. Yes, you might enjoy yourself watching a movie. And then it comes to an end. And the time spent is over. But the reverberations of that V curve, a loss of Hannah winter, Allah laughs, remains. It has a taste in the mouth. The prophets I send them says unpadded narrated by Mojave and Muslim the Allah with an email the person tastes, the sweetness of faith.

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What is the taste of it? What are some of the things one of them is that a person would rather be killed and thrown in fire than to become a non Muslim? That person? That's the Eman that results from that surety of faith.

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Vick, the heart, LLB degree law he talks about

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the heart cannot become still and quiet, and tranquil.

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And last, in that, accepting the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when I use the word remembrance of Allah, I mean, anything that reminds you of the day you will stand in front of Allah.

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It could be science.

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It could be the Quran, something you read in the Koran, it could be a talk or a lecture. It could be a sisterly, talk with your friend. It could be the pain that you receive after making a mistake. It reminds you of a lot. Why did I do that? I will never do that again. And all of a sudden you say

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I did that. And I move away from it. Now, all of a sudden you find that piece, you recognize the error, and you've moved away from from it towards a loss of data.

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So those are fundamentals that need to be mastered the head of them is the solar.

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When the modeling says hi Allah, Allah. The answer is I will come alive in prayer. What does the more I've been saying? What was he

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Hi Yah, hi yah life. Hi Yah, Allah, Allah come to life. How? How does your soul come alive? What's the difference between the soul that prays and the soul that does not. It's the difference of life and death. These are the words of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. The one who gives the remembrance to Allah means pray. Method levy as the Quran means make solid to Allah, compared to the one who doesn't like the living to the dead.

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You have to be a master of this.

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Your heart must wake up before your eyes wake up. You know that you have become Buddha when Allah sada consistent in prayer, when tragedy comes before your phone rings before your eyes open, your heart is awake. It's time for prayer. you anticipate your phone buzzing your clock going, you anticipate the time for the phone app, and therefore your heart is alive even though your body is asleep.

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Hi yellow sauna. Hi Alan fella. Come Alive to prayer. Come Alive to the remembrance of Allah. We will break here we will continue with port number three to 20 after so let's have a shot in sha Allah Subhana Allah homovanillic eyeshadow and

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to boulais and I will see you shortly the infinite that into either

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la hora

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Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah salam O Allah, Allah He was lucky he was suddenly momen Wada Muhammad Abdullah Abdullah sada

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Alhamdulillah I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala accepts our slaughter

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and accepts our time together as short ibadah of hints upon what to Allah.

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And I pray that Allah subhana wa tada makes our gathering and gathering of Rachmat and the gathering of mercy. barakallahu li walakum Fie. We're going to continue in sha Allah with our discussions.

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And I know that some of our sisters are just joining us after selected a Sha.

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One of the students that we learned from the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu, alayhi wasallam is not to sit in the seats of someone else.

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So keep that in mind, inshallah.

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We don't want to have any trouble.

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We continue with the third point, which we said

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we wanted.

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The second point, we wanted to master the fundamentals. And I began by speaking about a bother.

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But mastering the fundamentals is also a necessity in anything you do in your life. Whether you're studying math, whether it's cooking, whether it's whatever you're doing, whether it's driving, you have to first begin with what is fundamental.

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One of the top basketball players in the past in the world was Michael Jordan, I'm hoping you heard of him. All right. Now, Michael Jordan, he said this one amazing theme.

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He said, If you shoot and practice 10 hours a day shooting,

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but you didn't learn how to do it correctly. You just taught yourself the wrong thing.

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So now you have to practice how to unlearn it, and then practice how to relearn it.

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So the fundamentals, the basic blocks are the things that you must stress

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and therefore you see for that is repetitive. So yarn is repetitive. zecca is repetitive. It's intense. It's also collective. It's not done individually. It's done together. Because the fundamentals of your life. You need support in them, and you need people to hold your hand through them.

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So focus on the fundamentals of anything in your life. Whether it's how to tie a scarf, you know my wife, she's experimenting with new ways to tie the scarf I know sisters are very inventive. YouTube is full of videos, how to tie a scarf.

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There's the out of the way the Egyptian way the Jordanian way, the Malay way. Lots of ways right. But the fundamental is what that your hair is covered. Your ears are covered. Part of your chin is covered, your neck is covered. Anyway, now you want to get fancy, get fancy

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But the fundamental is what you must master. Point number three

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is learned from your parents life.

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Point number three in finding happiness yourself, learn from your parents. I don't mean the good things only

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your parents were there as an example for you in good and not good. We all we don't want to say bad. There's some parents in the audience

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in good and not so good. Don't look to your mom, now. Leave your mom alone.

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There's things and hamdulillah you're going to learn, good. But there's also other things that you need to, to learn not to do, and not to accept for yourself.

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There are certain things that you see that you must say, this is something I want to avoid. I want to maybe raise my children differently. I want to deal with my husband differently. I want to be employed differently. I want to dress different. I want to do this differently. I want to make peace with family members who I haven't spoken to peacefully. Some questions that I received. It says my mother and her sister are fighting. Can I still talk to my aunt? Because she's my mother. I have to listen to my mother. But I love my end. Because they're fighting. Do I have to fight with them?

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Right? No, you have to learn from your parents mistakes. Ibrahim Ali has said he says to his father, yeah, Betty, my father, the word evety. in the lobby. It's not just my father. It's my my father who I love. My father who I respect. My father who I'm not rebelling against who I'm not arguing with Yeah, but you are the one who brought me to this life. I acknowledge you the one whose favor is on me. You are the one who who was up when I was sick, who fed me instead of himself. You're the one who carried me taught me to walk taught me to talk taught me everything I know. Yeah.

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I've learned something you don't know.

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You are able to learn what your parents don't know.

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You are able to study what your parents might not have studied. You have been given opportunities your parents might not have been given. It is not your life to live their life.

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It is your life. To live the life Allah wishes for you. Not in rebellion, but in choosing the good and keeping it and in learning from the things that were not perfect to avoid them. So you have to learn from your parents life. Now I want you to understand the wonderfulness

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of your father and mother, even if they are unbelievers. You say, I don't understand. But

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I want you to understand the mechanics, the place the station, that your father and your mother even if they are not not just unbelievers, but unbelievers who are making jihad against you

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to become an unbeliever.

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How should you treat them?

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I'm also kind of a toddler says, we're in Jehovah.

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If they were to fight and exert all energy, if they were to make every form of jihad, with their money, with their authority, with their power, with their influence with their body, if they were to do everything, either, to Sherry can be to force you and compel you to disbelieve in me. I lead to terrible man. don't obey them. Don't disbelieve in a mob. And then Allah says, while saw the woman

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be there so happy in the junior. Do you know what that means? Your father your mother could be emotionally fighting against you, you have to be able to them.

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You have to be like a woman and a man and a Sahabi to them.

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So how is it if they believe in Allah subhanaw taala

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How is it if they pray to Allah subhana wa Tada.

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this third statement is not rebellion against those who taught us and raises

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its insightfulness, and it is the way of our Navy Mohammed sama lahari. Who was

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number four

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Islam every day,

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you say but I'm a Muslim brother, I'm a Muslim, I'm practicing So no, there's a difference. Islam, my dear sister, it is to give yourself will fully, intentionally, voluntarily to the will of Allah.

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Hoping to attain peace and comfort in your heart and with those who live amongst and it takes practice you have to work at it. Submitting yourself to Allah saying Yeah, Allah I will obey. Yeah Allah I believe this Yeah, Allah I will do this. Yeah, Allah I will be honored by this. Yeah, a lot. I will step back from this. Yeah, a lot, I will make this decision.

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It takes practice and determination, to come closer to Allah Subhana Allah and therefore you must practice it.

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You must will yourself to submit to the Creator, the Almighty Allah Subhana. Allah to Allah.

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So practicing Islam

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takes root in your heart. Islam begins in the heart.

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It is that your heart becomes settled.

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Happiness of knowing that the directions I choose in life, I'm not choosing them haphazardly, or out of desire and emotion. I'm not leaving the dunya because I'm going to live once there is no YOLO.

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Right? No YOLO

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you only live once. Your direct feed in your life. You're living life, but there is someone in command.

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Someone who says turn, stop. Return repentance, Move back. Move forward. Be with them. Stay away from them. honor them. Leave them. Allah subhana wa Tada. And the way you're gonna be Mohammed. Salah lahardee. Listen.

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Number five

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is important.

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The key now becomes, you want me to practice Islam brother. Yeah, you want me to focus on brother fundamentals? Brother? Yeah, you want me You want me You want me? This is how I'm going to be happy in the long run. This is what's gonna keep me happy. This is what's gonna keep me appreciating the happiness I have.

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How do I know what to do in knowledge, you cannot be a Muslim.

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Who is successful?

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Without any? See, there's a difference. My dear sisters in Islam between a Muslim and a good Muslim, right? There's a Muslim hamdulillah lots of Muslims. But then there's a good Muslim, and between a Muslim and a good Muslim is like heaven and earth. And there's a difference between being a good Muslim and a great Muslim.

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It's also set heaven and earth. Big difference. There's a big difference between someone who can stand up at night and pray to a lot even if it's to Raka and someone who snores until

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there's a difference between someone who waits for a file and someone who doesn't have a professional sense of self in love and praise when the sun is up. Huge difference. There is Muslim, then there's good Muslim, then there's great Muslim. And there's Islam and Eman And

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the one who reaches that is the one who knows what to do.

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And that knowledge translates into taqwa piety, in their heart. And therefore Allah says in America shall law. Those who fear a loss due to reason the word Pasha, it's not in your heart for law, not those who are afraid of a law known Yasha yaksha means that they know why they should be afraid. That's important. It's not just I was saying earlier, some people are scared of the dark. There's no reason to be scared of the dark.

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But I'm afraid there's no reason to be afraid. It's illogical to be afraid of the dark, but it's fear.

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Harsha is that you know why? To be afraid there is something to be afraid of. And you understand it and then you are fearful. It's not illogical. It's logical. That is CATIA of a loss of Hana which Allah innama yaksha they understand why they understand what happens to the one who misses failure.

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They know what is the reward of the one who stands at night to unlock the door. What is the benefit of as Vic and FSB analyst afar?

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shall they fear Allah Subhana Allah because they know why they should fear him. I mean anybody here Allah, from those servants of his who are older man, the winner will not hear it doesn't mean the older man here is as a man sharp

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lady said.

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They said men, women are the man who is the only man in this area.

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Who are the ruler Ma, he said,

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Man Amira be Maryana, the only man in this ayah the scholar the learning is the one who does by what he knows. You learn something so you put it into practice.

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And therefore learning is important. It's the key.

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Number six,

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for happiness.

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We're now going to get into the controversial stuff.

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Don't let people get into your head.

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Don't let people mess with you.

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Don't let people's words or actions or behavior influence your words, your action, your behavior. One of the manifestations of extremism is what? The people who take Islam to extremism.

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You killed us. I'm gonna kill you.

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You droned in Yemen. I'm going to kill you in Kenya. Now.

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A Muslims reaction is not based on what happened to him. Hamad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not react based on what people did.

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He acted based on what a law order and what a law sanction and what a law permitted

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in the same way.

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Someone spoke badly of you. Don't speak badly of them.

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Someone made you feel uncomfortable.

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Don't make them feel uncomfortable or get her back. Wait until she's on my side. My side of the city. Wait till she's in ampang she thought she is in bangsa wait till she comes my side. I'm going to show her out my misery.

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Different life over here. No.

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She cut you off. You join her.

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She hurt you. Please her. Some of mahadi was sending this is our Navy.

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They asked me what can I do? I want to get two gentlemen. He said slim man Pathak

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The one who cut you off. The one who you were friends and they broke away from you. You connect them?

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You go to them, but they're the ones who let go to them. Some of them what are

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the one who dis honored you? hurt you oppress you wronged you

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should kill him.

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Sister says I got revenge. A lot. I have reason to do what I want know.

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my brother if I forgive they got away with it.

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Sisters are scary people

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have to be scared. I'm scared today. Too many sisters Mashallah.

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The wife of the woman who looked after use of Allah He said

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when the other women in the city they heard what Harlan is what? Phil Medina tomorrow. as easy to draw. We do Fatah. nuptse. The wife of the prince. She's chasing her little servants boy around the house. Ah, look what she's doing.

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He drove her mad with love. She said okay, I'm going to teach you a lesson. Come in.

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She invited them to her home.

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She planned revenge.

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Plot In case they couldn't plot

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sukeena she gives everyone a knife.

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And some fruits. We'll call a tofu rajala him Come hear us. Show them yourself. Show them why I went crazy. I'm gonna make them crazy like me.

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A foreigner at home. They cut their hands likes their hands off. Mahadeva he's not human. He's an angel in Hawaii. lahmacun Kareem.

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I have to show them that they are not higher than me. Even though she should be embarrassed of herself.

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right she, she's wrong. Her husband found out that now the city is talking she got I don't care, as long as I'm gonna show them why. Now,

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the believer is different. The movement is different. The movement that doesn't think she got away with it, no the movement that says Allah is watching.

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Because they have trust in Allah. They believe in fate.

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Allah is watching. Yeah, Allah has to be a lot whenever my rookie year Allah, I was wrong, I leave it with a lot has to be a lot, a lot is enough for me.

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How many times did Mohammed sanlam say has to be a law, instead of saying to the angel of the mountains, destroy the city. So

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don't let people get into your head. Don't react to people's actions don't seem to people's level. Don't worry about those who don't pay your rent. All right. So don't let people influence how you act and react. Don't let a comment from someone about for example, your children or your husband making, you know one of the one of the things that and it's really, it's abuse of our children.

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You go somewhere, and you expect your children to behave extra special.

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So before you get out of the car, you hold on. Listen, these people don't let them talk about me by what you're going to do. So your poor little four year old five year old, he's sitting

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and he can't. He cannot. He's four years old.

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And when he that you look at him, then you have then you raise your voice.

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Right? Why are you doing it because you're worried what others will say.

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Now, I'm not telling you spoil your children.

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But don't expect just for someone else that miracles happen and then everyone changes on account of other people's words or comments. Don't change your attire because someone critiqued it. Change it for Allah. It might be someone to assist here I could see your you know, the This was too tight. No, change it for a long not what other people's comments are you consider it hurtful. Everything is for a lot. So kinda What's our island?

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number seven.

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Know how to respond to failure.

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And all of us, my dear sisters in Islam, we're going to fail at something.

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And none of us will ever be happy in everything.

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And no one on in life was ever given balancing everything. It's it's a it's a mission in progress. So you might be successful outside your home and miserable in the home.

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And you might make it look like you're happy and moan to others outside. But you are hating the environment you are in.

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How do you respond to failure?

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How do you make a position of distress becomes a position of success.

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It takes three important qualities first,

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don't be blind to what is apparent. Don't pretend nothing's wrong. If something's wrong, it's wrong.

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Recognize the mistake. Don't be blind to the mistakes.

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They say love is blind.

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Don't be in love that makes you blind.

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Be in blah, blah, blah. That can make you see. Right that you see. There's reason.

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So the first look, see basilar open your eyes to what is around you. Open your ears to what people tell you. Listen to what is happening. Look around you to the situation second.

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be decisive.

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Either as I'm talkin Allah, what should be done? What is the right decision to be made? Take advice. What should I do? understand the situation understand the problem, make note of it and be decisive.

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If it's divorce, it's divorce.

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If it's counseling, it's counseling. If it's changed my kids school change my kids school, if it's moved from a suburb moved from a suburb, if it is be friends or not be friends with someone make the decision. What are what can Allah put your trust and meaning

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Take the decision for Allah subhanho wa Taala. Third,

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don't make it about yourself own.

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Don't say, sometimes you know my wife, she's not here, it's okay.

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We were making a decision.

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And she goes, but this is going to do this to my schooling or mine. Or, and I'll say no this is going to do. If you make the decision, and it's only unilateral, it's only going to serve one side, it's only going to serve you, then the failure is just shifting to another failure. You're not actually curing the failure.

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You have to make a decision. That is something that is going to be equitable, and just and fair to all those who are representative of it. Insha Allah.

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So know how to respond to failure. Look around you. Be decisive. And don't do it for yourself. Don't be self centered.

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Take note of the situation, make a decision with szura. And don't do it just for yourself, but do it for the interest of all involved.

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Number eight.

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Fear is an illusion. People are afraid you know, we were talking about people afraid of the dark, because in their mind, they think something is there. My daughter, we were in the pool this morning. And she goes and you know, she's learning to swim and come to LA. She says Baba, there's no fish. I said there's no fish.

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She said Are you sure? I said I'm sure she was how do you know? I said I looked. She was Baba, I feel this fish. You know, when you're swimming over something you look around you. You're like jaws is waiting in a swimming pool. Right? It's an illusion. Fear is not something you should be afraid of. It's strange to say that fear you shouldn't fear it.

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musala is Sam we're going to study intimacy is super hot in the weekend in sha Allah.

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Allah says to him four times. That's the half Don't be scared them. So why are you scared? You know, Moosa was this giant of a man. He wasn't really wasn't just tall. He was. He was double tall. Like he was told told. You'd say, wow, that's tall. No, no, that's tall, tall. to one.

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He hit a man with one one strike, he killed them.

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And yet he's scared. Every moment Allah says, Let's hop in Mr. Kumar. I'm going to be with you. And how long Don't be Why are you scared? You're speaking to a loss of hundreds. Don't be scared to move. But fear is natural in you. fear that hinders you from changing failure, from making a decision, from going out to do what's right, from helping others. fear that restricts you from life

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is unacceptable. And therefore you have to push yourself through those boundaries of fear. And Allah subhanho wa Taala commands us in Nepal, to always not be fearful of the dunya or those in the dunya. at home. Are you scared of them? Will law who shall Don't be afraid of anyone Don't be afraid of anything. only be fearful of the Almighty the merciful Allah subhana wa Tada.

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Number nine. I hope Nike doesn't sue us.

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Just do it. Get out there and do it.

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I want to learn how to do it.

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But how? Yeah, he opened the portal and, and practice doing chef make sure that you know I begin to pray

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this way. Praying? No, no, no need to have a look and it helped me. Yeah, you're off the cover is this way. Here's the Java code.

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You know how to do it.

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Just do it. And this is one of the secrets of happiness and success that a person feels within themselves that they can do it. And the first thing talk to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was that he can do it. When the wacky came if Quran was revealed the prophets I send them was very doubtful. He ran into a deja Cover me cover me. What's the ayah that was revealed? Yeah, you'll have more death there.

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Oh, you covered up Stand up. Go tell people what to do. A lot like

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a command straight away but I just received the wacky really I can do Yes. Come

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Stand up, do it. Some A lot of us

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have that desire to bring people and bring yourself closer to a lot. have that desire and that ability that I can do it I can accomplish what I want in every facet of life.

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Never be hindered by the fear which is illusionary it's not fear that will that will hold you back. It is your own wheel power that will hold you back.

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The fear the thing you feel will not happen, but you're thinking it will happen is what is holding you back from that success and what could bring you a great deal of happiness. Consider the Prophet Muhammad sigh send them his marriage to Khadija

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in Arabic society. It was strange Jani Khadija asks the prophets I send them I want to marry Allahu Akbar. This was something that she's an older woman. She already had children. She'd had two husbands before who had passed away and one killed in battle. And Mohammed's I send them was 25. She was older.

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I like he is the right man. why he's honest, he's trustworthy. He's handsome. He's this, this, this, this this.

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I don't care what people are gonna say.

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Even if he said no, I don't care. I'm gonna ask. Just do it.

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Right. The job of your loved one