Absent Parents – A sign of Qiyamah

Yahya Ibrahim

Channel: Yahya Ibrahim

Topics: Hadith

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In this talk, the Sheikh takes us through one of the many signs of Qiyamah. Our beloved prophet s.a.w. said when parents become slaves to their children then it is the time. So this raises the inference that the children shall bully and disrespect their parents. However, there is another Hadith of the sign of the Hour and it is the sign of the absent parent.

Mothers shall give birth to their babies and leave upbringing to others. Now this is clearly visible these days where in many countries the mothers rather pursue a career than care for their own children.

The Sheikh goes on to mention the Hadith involving a father who complaints to Umar r.a. about his son. It later comes out that the father neglected the son’s up upbringing all his life – i.e. the absent father. Therefore the father had no place to complain about his son.

The Sheikh ends the talk by laying down three constructive ways to put into daily practice  by the parent-

  1. Set aside specific time for family
  2. Bring up a daughter with perfect father-daughter interaction
  3. Bring up a son like a son, not like a daughter.

Episode Transcript

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my dear brothers, or sisters in Islam.

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of the great editing of the truthful claim of our nebbia Mohamed Salah Mahajan of us sending them a net will have the law who won't assume it

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is the prophecy, or the foreshadowing the telling of the events that would happen that were distant from the time he made.

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The profits of the law when he was sending them was an ad, a prophet, who was given knowledge by Allah Subhana Allah to Allah that is from the human from a loss of karma to Allah, that would arrive to the prophet to lavon he was sending them as a lackey through various forms. One of the forum's went through a rookie assignment but a truthful dream, as what happened with prophets who preceded him, someone lohani with

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another form went through and in the habit of a calm, a feeling that would enter into His hearts, a lot of us in third through the descent of gibreel, ali saddam to reform our fundamental model on the center of what was and what is and what would be and what could be.

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Some of my body was

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and when you look through the prophets A lot of it was suddenly see rock. And you look through the writings of the odema of Islam, we find something very interesting.

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In the very early years in our Islamic history as Muslims as scholars of faith, our they're not we're not concerned with establishing the proof of God.

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They were more concerned with establishing that within the will when the proof of his prophethood 100 from a love on a person. Because if you could show the evidence of the truthfulness of the one who tells you of God, then Allah subhanaw taala becomes a foregone conclusion. So you would find the great the minds of al Qaeda in their books centered around editing seeds of Mohammed Talabani was seldom as being a man of God, as demanded by Hollywood, right? That would be number one commandment, a jewelry, all the man they would write chapters about who he was, and what it is that he brought that showed evidence of his truthfulness.

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And one of the great chapters of study and there's no book of seal or IV, except it contains a chapter about what is to happen in the future.

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About the signs of the Day of Judgment with a prophet I send them would speak about things that in his time he had not seen in his time were irrational to hold this material fact.

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Today, I wish to speak to you about one of the signs that was predicted by the prophet and fundamental Memorial, it was someone that is evidence of the truthfulness of the prophets on the live audio segment, but that equally has a direct impact on your life as a Muslim and my life as a Muslim, and citizen of this country.

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Numerous habitual use of Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he would say,

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like a food star, you hear many of the studies that begin with this statement, the our shall not arrive

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until the one who is known for the deceit, this honesty and truthfulness

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will be heralded as the truthful one.

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Where you can the most father, and the one who is known for their truth their whole life, people will paint them as this honest and truthful, individual

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way of telling you thought in a way you hold one time in

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the hour shall not come until the untrustworthy will be entrusted by people. And those who shouldn't be trusted those whose whole life was one of nobility and trust, people will not accept them in trustworthy positions.

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Welcome to full ROI.

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And you will have a worldwide leader to be spoken amongst the masses, before hava, who were eloquent people about them. And the prophets, I send them what's the most eloquent of humanity? They would say to him? Well, number one,

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what is this always, he said, tactical, tactically attacking them will be unreal, and it will be a person who has no place in society will be put in a place to speak on behalf of the rest.

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Someone who's unfit will be made fit. Someone who's untrustworthy will be made trustworthy, someone who is trustworthy, their trustworthiness will be forgotten.

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We've heard these times

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one of the most famous of the puppets on the model it was send them in to believe which is recorded in the flesh, and wisdom and other narrations and debris and came in the form of a man entered upon the Sahaba one

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and his son marriage from him.

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And he says that entered upon the Sahaba was a man of white clothing, dark hair, dark beard, and he sat to the properties and left and began to quit asking the question, what is Islam? What is the mind what is exciting? So a lot he was telling them respond?

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And then he says to him matter, sir, when is the hour? The prophets I send them say myself, you know, I know the one asking and the one being asked, neither of them has more knowledge than the other 800 number only.

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So he says when I am about to have what are its signs.

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The population level begins by saying

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Have the signs of the day of judgment

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that there will be antennae then Emma to have better

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than a woman

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who is free will give birth to her daughter to her children, and her children will be her master. So

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limit the number we and others when they comment on this study to have different opinions. But some of the contemporary scholars, they say Sal de la sala la haut he was sending We live in a time today. And of the signs of the day of gentlemen, is that you can almost see that within our children, that they move the authority of the parent.

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And I wish today to speak about this issue in Sharma many times I have parents say, Please speak to my son, can you please speak to my daughter? Chef? I'm having a tough time with the chef in the school. Can you give them more reminders? Can you talk about parents? Can you talk about the importance of parents and no mention this honey, so kind of why a chef you know the prophets a lot he was saying them he said that this day would come

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and you English for you to understand this Javi and others in an opposite direction.

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You might look at it that it's your children fall for overruling you. But today I wish to share with you that one of the signs of the Day of Judgment is that absent parent

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is that a man or a woman they bring a child into the world and they give the world their child to raise instead of them being involved in their child's life.

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And when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, When a woman gives birth to her daughter and her daughter becomes her master, her daughter becomes your master because the mother was not her mother, in the sense of the word that is asked of her by a Muslim kind of guy.

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Let me share with you more heat of the day of judgment arrival. The prototype segment says there will come a time where a man you can live with a saw.

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And authentically. And men will speak into a stick

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to any feedback.

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And you will know by talking into a stick what is happening inside his house. You might see some kind of law you know we talking to our own to Panama, what else would the prophets I send them say about a phone? It's like a stick something you're holding your hand? What do people holding their hands today.

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But I want you to see that from this study is another evidence of parents, fathers who are acting from their home. He's not within the household. He's not involved that the puppet used to be some a lot. He was setting them with his community with his children. He's not the parent who put his son and daughter's education at the center of his duties and responsibilities. But from a distance he must contact.

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You hear the prophets a lot more on a mission than say, lack of oosa the Day of Judgment shall not come

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until a woman is forced by the nature of life. And to realize

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that a woman will have to assist her husband in the marketplace. She'll have to go out to work. Back then at the terminal. This wasn't something commonplace. It wasn't something that you would see that the woman would be selling. She'd go out to buy, but she wasn't one who sat to say. So the prototypes and instead of the signs of the Day of Judgment, they will come a need that the Muslim woman will go out and assist her husband in the marketplace.

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They have been satisfied he

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is that they're absent from the primary duty of Arabia to Allah.

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What is that famous Hadith of the prophets? I send them all of you know the beginning. Couldn't have come right.

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All of you are shepherds of something. All of you have a duty and responsibility. And all of you will be questioned about the responsibility. Then the Prophet speaks about the managers by what

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a man is why

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he's responsible for his house and his wife and his children. What model as aurania to feed baby through them get her sister, that woman she's responsible within the household for her children, for the upkeep, some a lot hardiness

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and what we see today of some of the imbalances that we find in our community

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Now don't get me wrong. I'm not saying to you there's anything wrong for a sister to need to go out and to earn a living that turns her away from column to column. This is no bad and there's evidence of this Oh, come on. Musa alayhis salam in SoCal sauce. He comes out of the desert of Egypt. He's been fleeing with his life, but I'm not one of them.

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Why did he

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do it?

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He came out of the desert and he came to the people of Medina. And then we're large crowds of people, lots of men at work. And in the middle of the family, two young ladies.

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Why are you empty working?

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Four letter

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language.

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We're here because we're keeping our sheep away. We don't want to mix with these men. But we have to do an honest day's work. Our father is a shaman. He's an elder, and he has no son has no son, we have to do the work. There's a need a law against its legitimacy in the book of Allah. Don't ever confuse our Deen as being one way or no way law. But the prophet predicts that there will come a time where the duty of the home is neglected, on account of the marketplace, attracting people. So Allah gives you this warning Allah gives me this morning, and man with

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Xena

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of the beautiful things that you seek in life or wealth and children. So Pamela they mandate. They say

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nobody holds their money and says, Oh, I love you money. You hold your son, you hold your

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love nomadically Oh, I love you, my boy, I love you, my daughter, you kiss your child, you don't kiss money. But why does a love put money before children? Why do people have a love in their heart Even if it's not on their tongue?

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for wealth, and access and ability more than your children regularly, we make those bad decisions

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where you will take extra hours at work for an extra a little bit of pain a little bit more than an extra 300 a fortnight. But it means you took away two, three hours from your son to three hours from your wife. It means that instead of coming home at five, you come home at 630 Oh, Brian told me an hour and a half an hour and a half over 365 days after your 500 hours.

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But after may have to run for our risk is yes.

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But not at the expense

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of your running

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a man thing to remember the Allahu Akbar.

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And he said to me, I mean,

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in a way that they are my son.

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He has been disrespectful to me. And of the things that the prophets I send them warns us all about is open. Why do they need to be unduly oppressive to our parents? And whenever Allah praises the prophets of Allah, he would praise the prophets of a lot first because of how they treated their families and their parents.

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When Allah speaks about Yeah,

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he said,

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of the greatest things he had to do and why do you think he went into making the jump? And he wasn't one who dominated them. He wasn't one who wanted to overruling, jump out and

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jump out on the trampoline? Yeah, for each time he has said.

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It is not the greatest phrase to be humbled to your family. What is that?

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even lower your meaning to them? The mountains, they say, why does the law speak about it? You know, you and I even have a week you must be like a bird whose wing is broken in front of your family. You know, if you find a big gift, it's really broken. It needs that kindness of whoever is going to feed it. It can't fly, you can defend itself it can't move. Somebody has to feed it until it gets better. That's what image Allah says, Welcome

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to India will be

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at the end of that. Walk.

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Break Do you mean for them to

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be like that? I can't fly away from them. That they will continue to feed you even if you feed them to Panama. Even though you provide for them. You are a broken bird at their feet

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and then asked Where is Jenna in the pocket points to his mother's feet and the other way around?

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It's at her feet. Now we'd like to think that it can make it for all mothers, which is a mobile, it's not a soccer agenda to academic.

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He spoke about one woman, he said to her son, at her feet, if you will find your genuine, your genuine love of money.

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But listen to the words of the Prophet.

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Listen to what you raise the Sahaba when a man comes and says, Yeah, I

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need my son, I want justice. He doesn't listen to a word I say, is this disrespectful to me at every turn, every time I asked, every time I request every time I need, he turns his cheek from me.

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Breathing, and the man comes. And he said,

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it's reached me from your father who stands in front of me that you are disrespectful to

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call me on me.

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And he makes three claims against this father.

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The woman who gave birth to me was not a good woman. He chose a woman who later left, he left everything. He brought me into this world without care of where he was planting the seed.

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Even before my birth, he had made a fool for me.

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And when I was born, because he hated my mother, he gave me a bad name. He gave me a name that was disrespectful to me.

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He called me Beto.

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That was the name that he gave me. I mean, I've been teased my whole life. Everywhere I go, younger kids, they would make fun of me on account of the name my father My father gave

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me

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as long as I

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remember his father, who now says to you this about me that he himself taught me one verse. And how does he ask me for anything? So remember, turning to his father and said, I thought

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you disrespected him, before he began to disrespect.

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The absent father

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will not hinder you from your income and

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your wealth will not help you on a time where your son, your daughter turned from you, I you will say Yes, me, my son, I will give you whatever you want. But don't do this. Don't smoke this, don't eat this. Don't marry this. Don't go there. Don't travel there. Don't wear this. And they turn for me. Because you were not a part of their life when it was important. And when I sit sometimes with our dear parents, and I say to them, yeah, I've done law, the greatest saving you will have is the time you spend

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with your children. Look at how we use that how we say I spent time with him. It's like something you've given me space.

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You've saved a life by sharing your existence with your children, sharing your consistency with your family, with your wife, with your loved ones. One of the most difficult jobs in the world. And you can ask that you managed to meet you here could come speak to me after this to be an Islamic Studies teacher at our schools in Australia.

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anywhere around the world.

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As parents have the greatest demand, you might say I wish my son could learn more if

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I smile.

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And I wish to say Allah He in my heart I wish to say Abdullah, have you open the hole under the

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chimney I send him to Duke See, I sent him to Mecca. I send him to Islamic school. I pay these fees. Is it not enough

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of the love that I shared with you the reason

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I became better is a Degree or no degree than white clothing. Do you know how this idea begin?

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I told you to remember the one who was sitting with the puppets I send them but you know this is the first I've even speak mostly, you know who is the narrator of this study? It's

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not

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so atmospheric it begins. Abdullah

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Abdullah Omar has narrated more than 3000

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but he makes it the most important Elisa ID and Amanda shepherd. He makes it as the for one of the fourth of the very few

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All hugging and you keep one of these for this Elise is enough for the deen of Allah mahyco how does this relate to my destiny?

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My father taught me

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He doesn't say Mahatma Gandhi says what does he say? has definitely led my father.

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He sees

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a memory game. He can say I asked him if I know my father.

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Even when he was like telling him is your teacher 3000 a month I sell them you still learn from your father.

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My father taught me how to tell me about hubsan

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Yamaha

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and Roland there are many

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know that I need

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to love.

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It is a man

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what is in America now that you your children?

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Look at how the future about your child.

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Make a board member let you see this day.

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A man lost his son.

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There was a man who used to pray behind the prophets I sent him

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every day. He would provide the proper way.

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He would come to the magic with his son his hand in his hand, breathe a little boy to the metric every day.

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And one day the man doesn't come.

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The profit that I send them was not like us when someone's missing he notices. First day it didn't come second day the

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third day.

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The Prophet knocks on his door someone left on

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what happened with

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the men didn't open

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Prophet said what happened to him

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he's locked himself in his home

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he's depressed Thomas and

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his son has died. The one needs to come to them and

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he got so upset

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that he's given up so that habits an episode is a polite way of way he gave up hoping a loss of humankind.

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He doesn't pray anymore.

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He locked himself in a hole in the crushing hospital.

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So the profit goes without knocking on the door.

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Aftermath look at the words

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in our law, if you wish if you ask me, I will make dua to Allah and

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I will make dot now to Allah that Allah returns your son alive and you will live with him as long as you live.

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Or you can be patient come back to your father William

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or you can be patient in the dunya and your son will wait at the door of Jenna so when he sees you he will pull you to your house in January

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Allahu

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Allah in the prophets I send them

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a law saying common law lot.

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A lot asked the angels who took the soul of a young child from their parents.

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What did they do?

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And the angels say hammer that our check out

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that far farther than they said and

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we have

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a lot of

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animosity, this is what they say. That new level in very thin feagin there was a movie

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if this is what they said build for them a housing gentlemen, and he put on his title the house of thinking of lots of animals are the individual.

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And the prophets I send them send men after about a month after the model cabinet cabinet.

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Now one who will not take the blossom of their eye the sweetness of their heart.

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They have a house in general that

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the reference of your children is that they are a part of your heart, a part of your body a part of your needs.

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Do not ever above the law.

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feel that the hour you do extra at the expense of an hour. That is last week.

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Your children will be of benefit for up to junior or after.

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Count your outwards. Remember, not your hours at work. I want you today in the in the minutes after hours for that I want you to look at the last week, how much time did you spend with your children. And when I say spend I don't mean sit in the same room.

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Within our culture, you might be sitting and watching the news and your child is there on their phone and you think you're together? No, you're in the same place but you are not together. Together means that you aren't together involved with each other, you're aware of each other.

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You know each other.

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Open your heart to a loss of Hannah Montana and ask him for forgiveness as I do of the negligence we have towards our families. And I want you to remember the drive the profits of a model won't be Johnny Murphy, Masada, Domingo de la, make me one who prays and my children. But this comes after Allah says what

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is enjoying preform with Richard upou comm we have a few more

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stuff to

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Finally, my dear brothers and sisters, three constructive ways for myself for you to improve our relationships with our team.

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First, in shop a lot is to set a regular time in a schedule

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that your children, my children know that this is family time. Whether they have homework, whether they are busy, whether you have hours that are given to you by work, whatever it is, I want you in shop law to find a two or three hour block, that is a time that is no posted, unchangeable, nothing but that injury is going to change it in law, that this is your decision, we're going to do something together. Even if it's as simple as a walk around the block. Even if you just click and you talk, even if it's you go out and do something entertaining, even if it's just to have a meal together.

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And build on that hour. Begin one hour, two hours, three hours. It's not just a fun activity that comes out of the blue, but make it something that is scheduled habitual family contact time. Number two for our fathers who have daughters.

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If you have a daughter,

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I speak these words to you of the greatest dysfunction that your daughter will have in her future life is based on the interaction you have with her as a father now, if you are rough with her, she will expect that treatment from others. If you are dishonest with her, she will expect that treatment as being regular with others. If you are accommodating, unwilling to listen until she given everything from her heart, if you keep interrupting her, she's going to feel that this is normal behavior for others in her future life as a wife as a mother, that will be a part of the stresses that she will impact upon others.

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If you have been blessed with a doctor, then make nihonmatsu I send them in the profits of a lot of your greatest books. Well you know,

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whenever a man was given a doctor in birth, I did not commit with sending a card of congratulation. He will say Howdy.

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how lucky you are that you've been given a doctor. For now you are in the club of the prophets of Allah. All of the food who survived Mohammed

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Fatima yamana who is the one who carried the lineage of forward plotting on the Allahu Akbar. It is an honor for you 127 that delivers the coffee mug on your mana enter into the room except that he got up walk up Bella had got up, walked to her and kissed her and 101 of us a happy mechanic and when we were sitting she would sit and he would sit beside some

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special treatment for the doctor. The prophets like Selim said when Allah is the one who raises two young girls, your sisters, your daughters, even orphans will accent

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and raise them with good eggs. When you fall in alpha Lima and did not refer their brother to them. One of the biggest mistakes we do you favorite your son when you focus upon Allah Hema and you didn't favorite

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Avoid overdone coding in Java and sit for a minute now, on the day of judgment, there will be a barrier between him and hellfire.

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No honor like that for your son. Your Honor, on the day of judgment, you may have given me a feeling you're going to run from your brother, but not your sister. Won't be me want to be your father and your mother? Well, sorry, if I think you're gonna run from your wife when they need your sons, who's left your daughters, your sister, because of the Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad, Allah.

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May Allah bless us with our sisters and daughters.

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Third, and finally, raise your son to be American.

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What does this mean? In our show, Dr. Abdullah, the moment your son has become responsible Mukunda the Father, you are no longer financially obligated to him.

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You don't have to provide a roof, close food or education.

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So Pamela, because we raise our sons like golfers, your daughter, from the moment she's born until the moment you enter a pub, she does not have to have any financial obligation. She goes from my home, to a husband's home, from my husband's home to maybe back to my home, may Allah never allow a divorce or we don't look

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for if not her Uncle, uncle, her brother. From the moment your daughter is born chief to live a creative life life, but your son supposed to be a man.

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Don't raise your son, the way you raise your daughter with that softness with that you have made

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you have to learn to be responsible to earn a living, to be fiscally responsible, how much to spend, and how much to buy and how much to sell and how to make money.

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And this was the etiquette of the sooner of our,

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in our shredding your son, the moment he's become bukanlah is supposed to be an independent entity.

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That whatever you give now, it's

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it's like you're giving a charity, it's not out of blue, it's not an obligation, because he's supposed to be a man who's raised up to bear the foundation have a family on his shoulder,

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as was taught by ordinary mechanics such

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