Waleed Basyouni – What is becoming a Forgotten Gate of Paradise

Waleed Basyouni
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The speakers discuss the importance of sharing father- fifteenth birthday celebrations and the negative impact of divorce on children, particularly children who are not living with their parents. They emphasize the power of the father in shaping future and the importance of avoiding negative language in court. The conversation also touches on the importance of avoiding sex advice and not giving inaccurate advice. The speakers stress the need for people to not give inaccurate advice and not give advice that is inaccurate.
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hamdu Lillahi wa the host salatu salam ala Mala Baba who in Vienna Muhammad Imran Ernie, he was so happy he was salam, ala Houma to Sleeman Kathira

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have raised your old praise due to Allah and His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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my dear brothers and sisters,

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I want to share with you something from my childhood

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we used to travel to Egypt in the summer.

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And in Egypt, the very well known in a specific area in Egypt to the bring this delicious mango, all types of mangoes, you know, you name it like 5678, maybe different type of mangoes in front of you. And you pick that most juicy, one, not very soft, not very firm, you know, mix between that green and yellow, yellow color, and it just melts in your mouth. And the meat around the seed of it is so much and so nice.

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I remember

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my father by him Allah.

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When he would cut the mango, no, he likes mango.

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When he will cut the mango,

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he will always take the skin and eat the skin

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and give us the rest of the mango.

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And I always asked myself, that golden juice of the mango and the meat of the mango. Why he doesn't eat it.

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We get the best of the mango and he'll always eat the skin. And one day we asked him why do you eat the skin? He said so you don't need it.

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I didn't understand.

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At that time, I thought he meant

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something. And I know my dad grew up in a poor you know, family.

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My dad telling us some days you will not have money to provide dinner for himself.

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Two couple of days will go by with no meals.

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So I know my dad's growing up not in a in a in the lifestyle that I grew up.

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So I was maybe wondering maybe this is an old habit from the old days, you know, we had like the skins and enjoying it

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until the time around COVID

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I remember I brought home

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mangoes and it was so nice.

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You know, put it from one of the * out of stores here. And it was so delicious. And I was so ready

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to you know, to get my revenge of COVID and get all the frustration of being home and this magnet.

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My daughter's looked at and said wow, that looks nice. Then I give her a piece. My other daughter asked for another piece and I gave her a piece. And my son asked for a piece and he gave him a face

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and I ended up with the skin

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uninstalled eating the skin.

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And I had the same smile on my face that my father had

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the same sense of satisfaction that he had

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I realized that he did not enjoy the skin.

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Eating the skin of the mango.

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He really enjoy providing the best of the manga to his children.

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That's what that do.

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And I'm wondering over the years how many mangoes he have given us and he kept the skin for himself.

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Unfortunately,

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when a lot today

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how children they treat their parents

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how they deal with their father.

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They will trust their friends over their fathers.

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They were pleased the people who are strangers and care for their feelings more than they care for their parents and their father's feeling.

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They prefer to spend more time

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and quality time

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and kindness

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with those who are not related to them over their own father or mother.

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I seen children that they will

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listen to their spouses.

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and disobey their parents.

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children live with their parents in the same city.

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Same country

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with a FaceTime at hand and anytime you can dial it.

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It days and weeks goes by, they don't talk to each other.

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Even in the same house,

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it will go to three days without having a meaningful conversation with their parents.

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You know, sons and daughters, brothers and sisters,

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I wish I can go back in time

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at that table, where my dad used to cut the mango and I would rush and if I go back in time, the first thing I'll pick will be the skin of the mango.

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And if you'd asked me I said,

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I did this see don't eat it.

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In deserve to in the best of it.

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A father's tears and fears are unseen.

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His love unexpressed,

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but his care and protection remains a pillar of a string throughout our lives.

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I will talk specifically today about father

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because I found that a lot of time that father kind of forgotten

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his rights, his value, the importance of the role of the father into your life.

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And in the B cell Allah He sent himself he headed ebitdar Daffy, Mr. Lim Agha Khan, your father allowed it your father is the middle gate of gender.

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The best of gates what that means Yanni taking care of your father looking after your father will lead you to the best entrance to dinner.

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Your father is the one who brought you to live what Allah made him the reason for you to be exist.

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You carry his name for the rest of your life. And if you don't like it, then you go change his name in the court when you die and resurrect in the biggest court and the most just court which is in the Day of Judgment, you will be called by your father's name, it will be said flew down to Newfoundland, it will be said so and so the son of so and so.

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Jabil the Allahu

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Tao Raja Neela Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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for cada in an email and while while at then we're in Abbey Yatta do Mani Mankin said Dr. Salah have a children, our family, on our money, but I have kids to care about their future needs. My father needs help needs money.

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And he took something to fulfill his need not he took for a luxurious he took for my money for his need, maybe a food or a meal. And he came to the Prophet salallahu salam to complain about his father.

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For condyloma Nabi SallAllahu Sallam and our man who can be you and whatever you possess, belong to your father.

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You can come in and go to court suing him because he took a meal from you or took

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money that he needs.

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If it took me the man, Abdullah had me and then also the law and Wanda Nabi SallAllahu sallam said, and so the Tirmidhi in real Allah I'm a little worried we're in NASA and so hoppin around it. When your father is pleased with you, Allah is pleased with you. When your father is angry with you, Allah is angry with you. But here it is important to keep in mind his anger, if it is for the wrong reason.

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It will not count.

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If him pleased with you for the wrong reason, that will not count.

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It is for the right reason for the appropriate reasons.

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And I was wondering why Father, often forgotten.

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When we talk about fame boudoir today, we're all talking about dutiful Dear parents, we're always thinking about Mother, mother's mother Mother, which is absolutely no problem.

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But it's on sometimes we have this menders misunderstanding that or we think just because the Prophet SAW Selim when a man came to him is the Rasul Allah min happiness in the history so habotai Who is the one who deserve my best form of companions and kindness. He said, Your mother then said to her

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And then who mother, then who mother, then who he said father and the fourth one.

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Some people think that that means the father is not important. This heavy is not to say that the Father is not important this I needed to show you how important the mother is. And the mother have loved three levels above the Father because of three things father cannot do.

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Number one,

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your mother carried you at Hendon.

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Number two, delivery, number three breastfeeding.

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And that's why she was three times preferred because these three things they cannot share it, the mother supersede the Father.

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You might say the father has spent money some mother or rich can work and make money. So in any other situation, you will always find them can be equal. But these three things make the mother very special. But what's what's wrong is to think that this hadith undermine the rights and the value of the Father. As a matter of fact, not a single time out Quran is speak about parents, and he mentioned mother by itself or father by themselves. They are always together and he showed me when he Whitey dake will be in windy day near Santa, it's always put them together.

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No referring one over the other.

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You know those who are so nice and kind to their mother, and they don't care about the Father. I like those who pray but they don't give zakat. Like those who fasts Ramadan but they don't pray the daily prayers

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doesn't work this way. I found sometimes people kind of father forgotten or been, you know, undermine his rights. When the father is involved in how long things some people told me chef, my father is fast. He's bad. He doesn't pray. He doesn't do this. He doesn't do that he did with haram. He lies he's bad character, blah, blah. I said yesterday Allah Subhana Allah said in the Quran and the earth team, Allah says in the Quran, if your father is a Kaffir and there is not word there is no word of sin and Cofer. That's the worst sin ever committed in the face of this earth. If he's a Kaffir, Allah subhanaw taala ordered you to be kind and good to him.

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Not only that, Allah said we're in Jaha Dhaka and Toshi can be managed and it can be not only that he is a not a believer, no no, he is also an abuser in religion, he want you to stop worshipping Allah he force he putting pressure and making all this taking means to stop you from being good Muslim.

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That type of father Allah said

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live with them in kindness

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wasa Him whom after dunya Mr. Hoffa be in the company not to abandon not to avoid them not to cut them off

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also sometimes we feel our father are tough

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so many times I didn't like my with my father or you want to like me to father when he is firm about things? No, it means no. You can go you can stay late. No, this person you can go to their homes. No, you can wear that. No, you do that and then they affirm me. Oh, no. Sometimes annoying. Sometimes it makes sense. Sometimes it doesn't make sense. Sometimes it makes sense later on time.

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But when I want you to know that they should not be whatever it is the reason should not be the reason for you not to be connected with your parents, especially your father. Be patient

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be tolerate your father.

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What if he is abusing me?

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It's level if they're abused, reached to a level that it is harmful not safe. You leave the house you go to a safe space.

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Yes, there is some monsters fathers. This is a special case. But not just monster because he told you you know what? I'm not gonna get you a new car.

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Your father is not a bad man. Just because he said I'm not gonna get a car for high schooler.

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He's not a bad father. Just because he tells you you know what I can pay for your this you know? Fancy whatever gift that you want.

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Sorry, you have to live with the PlayStation four. I can't offer five yet. All my father is monster.

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It's not fair.

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You could the ambassador of the Allah imam in Muslim law whoever won for us to be homeless, you know, lay him out in LA Fattah Hala who Berbanding Melton, not a single Muslim have two parents

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Life.

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Both my parents passed away, and many here will share the same with me.

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So if you have an ambassador, if you're a Muslim and you have your parents both alive, everyday in the morning, Allah open to big gates and Jenna to have them wide open.

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Same thing in the night.

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If they are pleased with you, and if they are not you giving them hard time you make them angry. You fight with them, you disobey them, you disrespect them, you challenge them.

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Allah subhanaw taala closed these two doors in Jana, and open two doors in Hellfire for you every day and every night.

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That's what I said.

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Because I said so many times we can miss judge our parents. We think that they are bad. They are wrong. They didn't get it right.

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You know, it's funny

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and unfortunate. The society make it so normal. I don't understand that.

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You don't understand me that. Really?

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You didn't know.

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I know better.

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You know, I said just wait.

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The older

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I get the smarter my father seems to get

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if you get that.

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Sometimes we

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were angry at father because he's not there. We're so connected to mom because she's always with us. I don't see him much. He's always busy. He's working. Traveling. Yeah.

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But I want you to know something I learned in my years as growing up.

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Every time I remember this, yes, sometimes.

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When my father's don't have my hand,

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I know that you got my back.

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I know if he's not with me today. And he's struggling because he wants to provide for me that man good.

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When you work hard, it means a lot. So you can have the comfort line that you have.

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By the time you realize that maybe your father was right. That's usually when you have a son who's saying you're wrong.

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One of the reasons I feel fathers banded and treated bad in the case of divorce.

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Immediate immediately you line up with the father with a mother. And that's wrong. I'm not saying Mother and Father, especially if the divorce take place. All what you tried to do to reconsolidate to help if you can, if not, you don't do you don't even if you're not assume the father is wrong, but so many times you didn't know because you didn't know the history. You didn't know what's between them.

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You have a right toward your father, if you feel your father is abuser in the divorce, advise them. Tell them this route, right? This is not correct. And it doesn't mean that you cut them off.

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Oh, my father married another one. I'm getting an angry at your father. You can give the advice whatever you want. But that's not a justification for you to be bad, to cut him off, to pray to curse to use bad language.

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The worst

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when the mother turned the sons and the daughter against the fathers. So one of the worst thing that's a mother is a body mount is a transgressor as It's haram for the father to turn his children against his mother. It's haram for her to do the same.

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Decide when he treats that parents when their children will be fighting the courts suing their their fathers and taking them to court. It's one of the worst form of federal court throughout the day. You're gonna have an industry mantra *, yeah, the worst form of disobedience disrespect, cutting ties with your parents, and your Coonawarra need to catch any soccer in the summer time that you and your father sit against each other's in front of the judge.

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I mean, if it happened happened, I'm saying this because I've seen some cases where a divorce case then the mother tell the children come on and testify against your father when will exaggerate things. Now your role should not be there. Don't lie Don't you know that is how

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to remember that your father and your mother have rights upon you. Your role is to advise to make dua for them. Wait until things cool down.

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May Allah Subhana Allah Allah make us among those who are good to our fathers. May Allah have mercy and our fathers are going to miss him. Almost over the line Yoda composto people

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him to rely Vidal Salatu Salam on Android whenever you about the word

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in little faith 15

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Any one of the

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manifestation of not understanding of religion correctly?

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That someone especially righteous people, people who try to do good think that doing an act of warships, a volunteer act of warships are more important than pleasing their father

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or their parents in general.

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Can you imagine in the time the process alone, the war the jihad, we send you the law what's can bear under law

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to defend the price of salam to defend this now? He said, Yeah, rasool Allah, I want to come to fight with you. That in me, so Salam said, How about your parents? Are they okay with that? He said, No, they were crying that I left him. He said go back to them and make them laugh as you made them cry. That's much better than joining my army fighting with me die as a shaheed.

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Or people think that you know what, being involved in Dow or doing this or doing that, on the expense of abandoning the parents

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on the expense of not fulfilling their parents, right. You have to say didn't Sofia, not a single time I was praying a volunteer prayer, and my father called my name unless I cut my salah immediately answer him.

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I'll not finish the salah.

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But with its volunteer prayer,

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it is nice when you see your son help you.

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It is sad I asked about this.

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This young graduate I know the future is big in front of you. I know your parents maybe don't need your money. But you know what it means a lot. When you just make money and you say that you know what? This is 5000 this 10,000 this is a new car I'm getting hamdulillah Allah Allah gave me money.

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And there is another hope for those parents who abused the role and abused their children. But that's not my talk today. Talking about you initially do that. You know that his kids work and make money. They have a full time job. And still the parents pay for their phone bills.

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Pay for their insurance, for car insurance. They still pay for their you know daily expenses.

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If your father millionaire father, even if he is but it's about you as a son you doing this as showing your appreciation to him. You should pay for his if you can.

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And one other thing if you know your parents and debt to pay off their debt and you don't show off and you don't make it as a favor to them.

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Make dua for them.

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You know and Satan Behati they've been ambass said that side of Nero about about the Allah and Bob and he said his mother passed away. Then he came to the proxy Salam said Yara Salah my mom passed away and I wasn't here to take care of her I was traveling. I feel guilty that I did not fulfill her rights in the end of her time.

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You think it will benefit her? If I do need something on her behalf? I don't have to be Hannah.

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Either for a new Shizuka inherit the rough, solid pattern area. He said You are my witness jasola That my farm the one who produced the most of dates the one who makes the most of money. I made it for my mom so that means it sadaqa jariya every year this basically fruit comes sales goes on her behalf

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my brother and sisters

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in the Bisola Salam said the parents gender will be elevated and they will say why what do we do this is nothing but your children made to offer you minister for free and that's what elevated them agenda

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maybe

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today you can do something nice to your father.

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Once I got this beautiful message

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from my daughter

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says Dad

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I know you have loved me as long as I have lived

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but I want you to know that I have loved to your all my life.

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Just nice. You don't need to be so eloquent lines like that.

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But something express what you feel.

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Just say to him, thank you.

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The chef today when he told me that and if he'd passed away make dua for him.

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Say Allah I want to thank my father for all what he did to me.

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I will never forget that Facebook picture of a brother next to his father, and he was mashallah tall and the father short, and he wrote a very nice caption underneath of it. He said that no matter how tall I get, I will always look up to you.

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As expressions

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is so important.

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Just the nice word sadaqa

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I just told my son and my way here, hey, I don't like this or my daughter. You know? I said I don't like this one. My opinion I don't like it. Immediately he took it off.

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That's a good deeds. That's something I love the word you for it.

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Even though I like it. You know what I do this from for Allah to please him.

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Finally, I want to say

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fathering is not something perfect men are perfect men do.

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fathering is not perfect. Or is not something perfect men do that for sure. It is something that perfects the men.

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Now let's find out and make us good fathers and make I lost my dad and make us good to our children. Last but not accept our deeds. May Allah forgive our sins. May Allah make this a blessed year for all of us. And Allah make it easy for our brothers and sisters and WhatsApp and for the steam and an everywhere where where bloodshed and unrest as May Allah bring peace to the world. A mega last month Allah bless us with good leaders who will make us live in safety and prosperity and moral society around here and around the world. Ask Allah subhanaw taala and newly added Muslim in the era when you will know I'm sure Allah no sharara home low ministerial code who dealt with took our iPhone

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