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I'm simula 100 allow salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allahu wa sahbihi wa Manuela Hobart

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Yeah, well so so we can come to the site.

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One antecedent for the Allahu Akbar Allah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to Birdman Shahada, who I boohoo and openness. A holiday will resolve the snagging hasn't

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hung up on him Allah said,

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ns narrated that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, Blessed is he who preoccupied with his defects rather than those of others of other people or rather than focus on other people's defects. Then he said this hurried reports of bile bizarre with a good of a chain nourish

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had either side of can add to justice and a nurse

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will bath I know you've been nurse. So the previous Halley that if you remember, I was talking about searching for people's mistakes, and spying on people. You know, being nosy? No, it's panela. So he brought this heavy to tell you that you should still the same point Don't be focusing on people spying knowing people's private life. What you should be focused on in your own problems, your own defects, your own sins, your own mistakes, your own character to develop it. So the origin of the Hadith is very well.

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Done. Yeah. And he chose it very wisely. Your boiler live in a band rahimullah worldwide, you will actually lose zoom salamati be talking just to see I know you'll be ness. wise people will save themselves from spying and trying to know about people's private life. The mapan malice de ronneby Slusher, ubm fussy him. Why would you don't care about what people do in their private life? Because what you focus on in your own self to fix your own self, pilot feminista, WV and rubra and how you behave today, those who focus on their own defector on problems, not others. Allah Hubbard anahola, muted kalba who will happen they will live in peace. They will live in peace, because they don't

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care about what people have. He cares about what he has for Colima para ibfc hana Rahim Allah mithila, whom in a fee because when you recognize your weaknesses, weaknesses, you will excuse your friends you will excuse your brothers you will excuse the community. You will excuse others because you have the same thing. You mistake like them you do wrong like them. You get angry like them, you lose it sometimes like them.

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Carlo managed tala B Ruby, NASA and Rio VFC. As for this person who doesn't care about himself he only care about what other people's problems are. I mean, Jacobo attacked Eva better know what at the rally he telco NFC yesterday. He said he will be exhausted from what he said, open the social media of this guy. What did the latest problem with this person? What are these a surging about what people's doing wrong? And that person will be exhausted and he will never see his own mistakes and that's why he will never fix them. We're in them in jest Enos manava NASA de mefi him? Well, I just mean Menachem bfhi

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woman have a NASA Abuja hematoma

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that the weakest person is the person the best he can do. You did this you did this he point out other people's mistakes. It's easy By the way, it's so easy to point out people's mistakes. It's very it's not a hard thing.

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Carl Rogers even worse than this.

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The person who point out other people's mistakes that he himself has it

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any point in them what you have.

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And he said and those who point finger I people people will point finger at those who talk about but people people will talk about about them. They say that when you point with one finger, there is three pointing back to you.

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Every time you point a finger to someone, there is three fingers pointing back to you.

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So be careful.

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This head is any

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given

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They'll have an hetalia call and they know it's not done hasn't it's kind of strange that Marvin had over him Allah would said that this is not his hasn't or whoever didn't and Yakuza hasn't been who has not no wife. This is not is very weak. There's not even a week.

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It has many problems. One of them are narrator whose names will lead him

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and his mukamal Hadith and also has another narrator if a man is another Okay Is he is module unknown so it is hard for me to see how he can say it's

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hasn't or the sound or acceptable and this one it also was came from another narration that Anasazi Allah who answered that in the Viva La La Jolla. Selim give a hot bar while he is on his

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camel wasn't a

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corner patrologiae What is it bill out in a camel anyway? Then he said Are you her Nazca and then motor fee her Allah hi Rena. coochie Okay, and then Ha ha ha.

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as journalists at the Alamo Herman can have individual allies on the way the hope by the sermon doesn't match how we know from the process of him sermon. Anyway, it's a long call about an entity mentioned this phrase that we just started in the valley but again, this narration is extremely weak as a mammal arrabiata himolla with the hubby even an

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RGB and he was interesting that he had been hard on himself. Okay. said this narrations that Anna said that the problems that and it has part with this

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issue which is the issue of

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focusing on other people's mistakes not on your folks in your own defects not other people in it. And having had I said, Wow, that movo McAdoo, gotten a visa. He said that's a fabricated narration

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and in the other narration that it is backup, the one that he mentioned from bizarre, he said it is mokuba babe and he said that this is only from an arsenal bustling, a statement by Hassan al bustling, and where did he says that he said this in his commentary on Muslim bazaar.

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Which is he here referring to so in which it shows you either there is a mistake in the south and the people who wrote the copy of blower muram but it's definitely not an authentic narration. But in man Asahi The meaning is absolutely correct. Absolutely correct. boba

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boba for a newbie salal in this Halle saying that boba is you preoccupied with his defects

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What does toolbar we said here blessed pullback comes from

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a fella in a

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way a

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tough lead. It is Yanni

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great things for him a greater thing for him. Okay good thing for him. Sometimes toolbar used to refer to Agenda

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because this the greatest things toolbar refer to a lot of reward.

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boba can refer to a tree in general

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a treat called Boba Fett agenda

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and sometimes it means an abundance of goodness in the dunya and the euro. Okay, everyone Cathy Rahim. Allah will Bella we have mentioned Yanni several meanings for the word toolbank maybe 10 or so. All of them are reported from the early generation from Sahaba. Delano. But it's all about a great deal of goodness. And when you say that, that will include the agenda include reward include forgiveness include blessings it could include. So that's from the word of pyy which is something pure anger What do we learn from this heading? This had encouraged us to focus on not only recognize our mistakes and our defects but fixing them working on them. Okay, why so we perfect our manners.

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If you haven't had it has half Allah has no Hello, Yanni you should work on yourself so you possess the best of manners to that's one, two, and Hades also encouraged us to focus on ourselves to always self evaluation to always

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Review which we have done if we done a mistake we would repent from it sin we repent from it always see where I'm where am I short or I'm shortcoming when animal cursor when and I'm moving it? Where is the area that I need to improve?

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Why to prepare myself for the author because I can guarantee you if this is your attitude on life you are constantly reviewing and checking yourself that mean you ready? You ready to meet Allah?

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The one who's not ready to meet Allah who are lynnie vilaflor The heedless. The one who doesn't think and when you are heedless, when you don't think about the Accra we don't think about Allah. You never think about your mistakes.

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kedron Rahim Allah

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wa Bharani the reports about arrowheads in Muslim cavani another fight related to this hadith which is in the Bissell Allah Islam a Buddha told him Oh Sonny give me an advice. Kinda oc oc can be tough one life in ASEAN only America Cooley had it. He said I give you an advice to have Taqwa because that will fix everything in your life. If you are God conscious if you are always thinking about the last panel data, what pleases him the most all your affairs will bring goodness and good. Then in the end he kept he kept telling him then on a Sidney, give me more. Carly Jessica and Enos Matala, mindef sick

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what will held your tongue and will hold you back from talking about people what you know from yourself

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as the person told them, what will help you not to talk about people not to criticize people not to attack people is what do you know from your own self The only way you know how you know weak you are you know how not imperfect you are. You're called hustle bustle Rahim Allah Yebin. Adam, son of Adam, learn to see the happy cattle Eman you will not be true believer hatanaka even NASA be even who are fake until you will never criticize somebody with something that is in you.

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Me Salah helical I personally have been FC and before you do that you start working on yourself first for either Canada Alec Can I show Luke if he has enough sick? Will I have a bad deal Allah man Canada Canada. So you will focus in your own self to fix it. And this is the most beloved servant on this study says are telling us that we should not occupied you should have incentives. And I love this word is struggle. A struggle in Arabic language have

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three extra letter is ish toggle. Yeah, Yanni fiama and a toughy. It means I am constantly seeking, I'm putting effort to know about people's mistakes, Nana here he wanted the opposite. You want to put an effort to find out about your own mistake to work on yourself and to be preoccupied with your self.

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And if you do that, definitely you will end up fixing yourself and becoming becoming better.

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Why focusing on being preoccupied with your own mistakes will prevent you from looking at other people's mistakes?

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Why and the reason why this has suggested that if you preoccupied about your own mistakes that will keep you distracted and busy from thinking about other people's mistakes.

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What's the benefit?

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minister gonna be slacking off so you're gonna have to inshallah, hurry. Why? Number one,

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I'll give you one maybe you guys can give me some points. And then send that your way either heart attack serious power. When you think of your own mistakes. You start finding excuses.

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And finding mercy and soft, hard soft spot in your heart for those people.

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Let's give you an example. One of your children give you a hard time.

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Give you giving you hard time. Teenagers girl boy and driving you crazy.

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One thing that it is to sit yourself. You know what I do worse than that?

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You know, I'm asking him to be committed to studying and I waste my time all the time.

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I'm angry at him that he's doing that. And I will I'm not saying I'm not gonna let him go free. But I, my attitude became difference. Because I became more merciful.

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You know, somebody did some say something bad and I'm so angry at him. And I said to myself, you know what, look at your own self.

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I tell myself and do worse than that.

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So that will help you a lot, to be merciful with them, and to give them excuses, and to treat them in a much, much better way. You want an inside the cinema, no Latin guru, you will be nasty, our bad.

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One will either you become kelabit when you look at people's mistakes, don't look at it as if you are God as if you are perfect.

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And he said, and we look at yourself, look at your own mistakes. The way servants look at their own mistakes.

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A man will see the hair in his brother's face.

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But he will not see a trunk of a tree in his own face.

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Carla international dulann and the continuing as I said, Jesus said peace be upon Mahaffey and woman terra

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firma doula medulla haffi Warhammer muqtada,

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there is two kinds of people in this life. Someone are going through test and someone is saved from test

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is not on trial. If you are not on trial, if you're not going through tough time, or you're not having a problem in your life, st hamdulillah.

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But if you going through heart if you if you see someone else, going through tough time and dealing with something that hard for his life, be merciful with them. It's enough that they are on this tribe.

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Number two, one of the reasons that you will not be

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focused on other people's mistakes, and then selected work to remove the hotness. If you focus about your own yourself and your family and your own circle, you will have no time to think about other people.

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pillar Wabi Sabi is a student of who even miss Rudra the Allah and Allah Kenya on a Mr. globe is reduced to tell him well let him know what I can never use or send him back.

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I can guarantee you of the process lm would have met you. He would love you.

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There's an image of a beautiful

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amazing man. Somebody told them Kyle Lima de la Danny, why don't you talk about those, those people those people, you know, what's not going on to mention the bidder to win the wrong the petitioner Why don't you criticize people

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on our lahemaa and unnecessary bureaucracy Vicki for any automobile? any party boy, I'm not happy with myself. How can I criticize someone else?

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Three Another point that is important also, in this head, this head it doesn't mean that you don't give no say you don't advise this head it doesn't mean that you

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make virtue. Common Sense.

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This head it doesn't mean that you spread goodness and you

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enjoy owning people to do what is correct or

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advising and encouraging people to do what is good and stop what is evil. But all of them will come no. This head is telling you you start with focusing on yourself. And the focus is not about the mistakes of individual. Now even when you correct someone advice someone is not about focusing on their mistakes as much as about you want good for them. That's why you give them an advice

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and inshallah you will have a Allahumma voir kathira

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focusing on people's mistakes and what wrong they do have many many different negative impacts on you. And I hope we can mention any you can help me out if I miss something. Number one when you focus on other people, you forget about your own mistakes. Immediate

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because every you always look at far You don't look at yourself. Number two

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is Turkey's aluminous Ukrainian central kibra

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when you start focusing on other people's mistakes, you became arrogant

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instantly panela and you feel that you're perfect. Oh he's this is this is this is the

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This is on a Phil, I'm perfect person, your incident command is

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the and you heard this narration from as I said, I'm also humbled and I'll sit down, and Massoud said that many said you see other people's, you know, the hair in their eyes and you don't see the tree in your own eyes, in your eyes. By

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30, then, when you focus on people's mistakes, that makes you

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look down, at your own sense, and in your own mistakes. Why? Because, Oh, mama, oh, you know, look at other people.

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They know worse than me.

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So what happened, your own problem became so small, because you're always comparing to people that will make you belittling your mistakes, belittling your sins, and it's a very dangerous route.

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And that's one of the consequences of focusing other people's mistakes.

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Another problem comes with that, if you start focusing on other people's mistakes, it's gonna lead you to hate those people.

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And don't like them.

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And that will cut ties in society, and you might back bite them. And they might know that you are focusing on their mistakes, and they will not stand you do understand you don't want to talk to you anymore. See, there is basically an it have a consequence and an impact.

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Also, adding shirvan focusing on people's mistakes, in my opinion, it's a clear sign that this person's intention is corrupt.

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And live Europe is openness. And if you're not willing to have the lead, Allah said Nita,

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it's not about fixing them, it's about putting them down.

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Yanni, I heard one, some person said, My mission in life is just to expose Chef sonza.

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Or this group,

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or this organization, that's I cannot imagine that this is ever going to be a good intention.

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Because it became personal.

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And every time you only focus on people mistakes that will not gonna get you anywhere.

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Also, when we focus on other people's mistakes, we will never be fair and just with them my income documents of now, because I only see your mistakes, I only focus in your mistake, it becomes so exaggerated that blind me from seeing your the goodness that you have

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recently, one of that Michelle was talking to me about one of the devout and one of the activists who said things which is wrong, but because there is constantly 12345 mistakes, it makes us psychologically see this person through that frame through these mistakes. But we forget that this person is on so many other things that are good. And that's very dangerous, Rob, and it's a psychological trick you have to be worried about and that's why we should not focus on people's mistakes. Spell of focusing on mistakes also can lead to harm things like what spying backbiting

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LIBOR, gossip shoe oven when you focus on somebody's mistakes and other people's mistakes, you became naturally always think the worst of people's action. You never think you never have good faith and people also allergic white Muslim. Another problem that you look down at people arrogance.

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Also temper our rottenness will Muslim or follow him while Adam citri cool Have you heard of all these? Are you looking Are you searching you're exposing your mistakes you will brother even though we've been ordered to cover all these our sins that you are accumulating

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because of the attitude of focusing on other people's mistakes.

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I'll tell you something. Unlike those who focus on people's mistakes, Allah Subhana Allah sent to them who will focus on their mistakes to enable does that mean gentlemen? In our culture, this is what we see. 100% Yeah, unfortunately. Leave people

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in the into here with the NACA Solomon. Hello, come on food on wherever to Casa yinon. Misano calatayud Kirby here our autumn written for Khun Luca rotten Valley NASA LC No

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Wait, where are you in okay in update la Cal Masaya. For Suna rahula I in the NASA you

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If your eyes tell you Oh, look at this. Tell your eyes by the way people have eyes too.

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If your tongue tell you talk about this person, tell your tongue By the way, people have tongues too.

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If you want to live free from attack and people looking at digging and you don't dig on people

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shaffir himolla

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have a mature call handle in Africa Canada talim Yeah, you have wonderful mwalimu

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kaymar social behave Anta supima das da le this economy nabanna came I also want to supima Latin and hoolock in water t mismo en la ke DAF Deaf I'll tell you if the NFC kefan haha and for an internet for and hakima for hoonah kayoko moto moto yoke tada we'll call him info info taleem if you want people to learn from you to benefit from this, shall we say start with yourself. It is a shame if you say point people's mistakes and yourself have them

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in a basket all the Allahu anhu Allah was sitting once and a man mentioned somebody else and some this person has this and this and this they've been ambassadors was angry and listen they'll be happy if Karla Peridot and Ted crawl yoga hypocritical or ebook if you're going to point his mistakes and his problems point your own first talk about your own first.

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But

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there's also a line of poetry very beautiful it says I dipped to remain empty and mot Are you ready? He do more on what I have Kiana multidomain

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we shed tears over people who died that we know

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but we don't cry over the death of our hearts when you're hot your own heart is dead

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gentlemen an even more strange

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and your eye behind he are we even have a name here and I be here

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the TC other people's mistakes so big when it comes to his own mistakes is completely blind.

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Mashallah Allah 20 over 20 when it comes to other people's mistakes

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but when it comes to him is legally blind.

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And xop is just bad.

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And I will

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any uni I just want to say there is a practical application to this at home Watch out.

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Sometimes your kids will say Baba What about her?

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What about him?

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teach your kids don't do that. I mean, talk about yourself

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is not fair. It's not fair not fair. It's about you. You see you look at your own mistakes and you fake focus on their is their voice to you say Don't let this goes unchecked. These are essential so like the brother he's saying we have this all over our culture you know we can't we can't make that change.

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There is headed settimana and I wrote a comment today

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it is very alarming my brothers and sisters very alarming the way that our society looks like and by the way not only in America across the world

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and it will come with us Hadith that this hadith. Yeah and he assured me

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and the comments that I wrote and literally they said a shoe issue more so shoot me is when you see something and you expecting bad comes out of it or after it. Okay. The name is I was saying a shoe is bindery urine.

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That assume is something that bad luck coming you know with something. So bad manners is the bad luck is the bad arm is the something that will bring bad after. And that's very true.

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If you want to see how nations go down the drain, civilizations go down any person marriage to be destroyed

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relationships

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Friendship what happened It starts with bad manners

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when the slap on the character get bad and you have you know in look what happened with some of these teenagers when they became teenagers they became disrespectful bad manners acting this then distance happen unless you contain that and you it's a result it's the first thing it drops is the manner and relationship when you don't like when there's a fight look it's that is a bad mannered bad manners raising your voice being disrespectful being angry being that that what happened next problem problem robot divorce

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somebody has a bad attitude.

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It just it goes down the drain.

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So as a last parameter Alinea

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shala Next week will continue Mashallah.

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I don't know if anybody in the zoom or we still have our

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people on zoom kelim is not here.

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Gary, is any anybody has a question before we record because the online

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Okay, good. Zack will call for tonight. shala. We had also a great reminder from the show.

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Comparison and you know, when you have less than people, you're socially excluded, criticize, you know, they look at you like you're a loser. I asked brother. Yeah, he told me don't worry about people. It's a part of the test, but that's what it is. Right? Yep.

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Absolutely.

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So don't worry