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A New Year’s Resolution
Channel: Waleed Basyouni
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In a hamdulillah in men who want to stay in who want to study you want to start Pharaoh when I allow him and surely I'm fusina woman sejati Melina Maja de la dama De La MaMa you will follow howdy Allahu wa Chateau La ilaha illallah wa sallahu wa la sharika wash Madonna Mohammed Abu rasuluh Allahumma salli ala Muhammad Anwar Ali Mohammed ki masala tala Ibrahim Ali Ibrahim in naka hamidah Majeed m de vida LA. All praise Judo line His praise and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam all praise due to Allah subhana wa tada and his blessings and peace and praise be upon our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his family, his
companions and his followers until the day of judgment. I bear witness that Allah is the only one worthy of worship, and Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam his last and final messenger.
I mentioned this before in one of my hotbar, but no problem to mention again,
in this cold weather, I really feel bad for the brothers in the back, who's sitting on the tile against the wall? That's kind of cold for you. So first of all, it is the right thing to do when you come to the masjid not to sit in the back, even if you have a chair is to the front, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam when the man came, and he came to the muster, does he sit far away from the crowd? in Ibiza, someone said
he sat away, and a lot of us sat him away. So that's why don't you come and you see a guy that had come close, but my suggestion for you bring a chair and sit on it, I am in your shoes, I'll bring a chair and sit that's absolutely fine. And when you finish the chair, when you finish the hotel bar And you want to pray, you can just take the chair and put it on the side. But I just don't want you to get cold or you know, with the cold
tiles. So just just as a side point for you all, because some people don't know that they are allowed to do that. You're allowed to do that you can put the charity consider it doesn't need to be sitting on the floor. There is nothing in Islam saying you have to sit in the floor. You know, just when you pray, you have to stand up, but you can put your chair and sit on it. And when you finish, you put it on the site. We tried to make this as convenient as it is for you guys and to make sure that you get safe and have a good learning experience.
Today I would like to speak about something very common happening these days, which is a new year resolutions. You know, many people make new year's resolutions with the beginning of the year 8% of these resolutions only get to see the light only to basically for 8% of those people only able to achieve their new year resolutions only 8%.
And guess what 80% of those people. Their new year's resolutions end by February
failed by February February 80% of the new year resolutions made in United States basically fail or fall apart by February. So good news for dairy queens and fast food restaurants, they will get you back by February. If you planning to do a diet, you know that gym membership that you signed for it only last 28 days or 29 days. But unfortunately, people don't usually succeed in their resolutions and their goals. And today I was reflecting upon that and reading this scary statistic he said we are part of the society. And no doubt that having a goals and resolutions is such a noble great, excellent idea. Not here to discourage you from having a new year's resolutions. But I'm here
tonight or today helping myself and all of you with certain guidelines, certain tips, as few reminders, few words that you might walk away today with them. It will help you to maintain these goals and to be able to achieve them in their in your life. regardless what type of goals that you have, what kind of change that you want to see in your life. What kind of you know, achievement that you are seeking in your life in the deen or in the dunya. It doesn't really matter. As long as you take these tools. If we look and study the lives of successful people, people who really made a difference in life and their own lives and other people's life leaders successful people in all
areas, you will find certain common factors between them. Obviously those successful people usually their success doesn't come because they have a new hero
solutions. They do two solutions every month and every, you know, basically maybe a period of their time they always have these goals and they have plans and they basically develop themselves.
But we see clearly in their life, certain common factors between them. You know, some people have very big dreams once and I'll start with a story happened in hedger and in hedger, which is known as hingeless, main and hedgehog, which is basically that, you know, arch around the Kaaba, they were sitting inside that hedger, three brothers, Abdullah had been a surveyor, an urbanist surveyor, and most either been a surveyor, three of them. And with them, one of their best friends Abdullah live near Omar, the Allahu, WA, and Abbey. So they said, What is your wishes? What's your plan? What do you want to be? their dreams? So I'm delighted to serve as a man of our terminal in Africa. My wish
is to be the hollyford to be the Caliph to be the leader. Or the president. Mr. Ottawa can manifest a man and you new
robot said my wish to be a scholar, to be a person people learn from me
and Messiah set. As for me, my wish, and voila, Mr. Rotella I will be the governor of Iraq war, and as you may or may not, have been to.
What Sakina Tintin Hussein,
he said, As for my wish to be the governor of Iran, and to be married to do these two women in the same time, I should the daughter of talhah, and Sakina, the daughter of Al Hussein,
they all looked at the fourth one I'm delighted the aroma and the acid and what about you, but I'm gonna fall to another fella who D.
Live in Yama said as for me, my wish to learn is to be forgiven. All my sin whatever wrong I did in my life to be forgiven.
So I'm busy, busy, not who reported the story from his father. His father told him son, I witness all of these people's life and I saw it in front of my eyes. As for Allah, he became the Grand Mufti of Medina, one of the most noble fapy and grants colors that ever known in the history. As Musab he married these two women, and he became the governor for Iraq. As of Abdullah, Tibet, he became the halifa for a while until basically I've done magic number one was basically killed him later on. He said all of them have gotten what they asked for or wished for. And I hope that other live near Omar also got what he was seeking.
Out of not that as he is or Hema Hola. He said our very ambition la Sol, alanine efficent awaba. Every time I achieve something, I look for something bigger and higher. He said what I said when I was young, in Medina, I used to play with the kids and they see people in the masjid seeking knowledge. So when I was a child, I said, I will be a student of knowledge. And I stopped seeking knowledge until I became an a knowledgeable person. When I became young, like in his late teenagers around 18, he said, My wishes to marry this beautiful, well mannered woman, Fatima, the daughter of the halifa.
Then he said for the moment, I'm the medic, and he said, I married her. I work on that until I got married to her. Partha Mustapha fcn akula hualian. in Medina, my soul also has an ambition to be the leader of Medina to play the same role of the governor of Medina the personam rule and play that role and to apply justice in Medina and I became the governor of Medina and
then my soul or my neffs I am so ambition to be the Hanif after that, and I became the Hollywood even though he never was in the line to six basic to be successful for the throne. But he became the honey for for a story that is known in history. Then he was asked and now what he said what I'm now looking for is Elton, and that's basically what I'm focused on to work on.
An Amendment No, you're a chemo law, you might heard this name and knowing everywhere you go in the world you see one of his books. When he was young, he said one of his goals in life is to introduce the Sunnah of the prophet SAW Selim to the public, to the people.
He said that what am i wishes Tyler an
alumnus. So he wrote a small tiny book, it called the collections of unknown
40 Hadith that he collected every corner on this earth today you will find a copy of this book. Most of the people that is many books written it's called the 40, Hadith, the 40. But it became automatically when you think the 40 I mean, think of a note.
A lot of
marketable Kathie Lee, not
many books written in luxury or in Canada, but his book became very famous. Then he wrote another book, he said this one first one for the masses. And I wrote another book for the people who are a little bit higher, like mid basically intermediate level, he called to the other side of him, which is became very famous everywhere in the world. Every message you go, I went to islands in Hawaii. I went to islands in Guam islands inside Guam. And there is no birds in this island.
Some birds that it didn't reach there, I'm serious. And I found the mustard there on evidence and the most in the reading they have a solid eight
by 11 no Rahim Allah.
Then he said I after that I decided to run to write a book which is a little bit advanced. And he wrote one of the most beautiful explanation of headings that you can ever read in your life. He explained the book of safe Muslim Rahim Allah Shara, he know you're a Muslim in a German Matata.
There is a young boy,
when he was a child,
his mother used to take him
next to the sea. And she said you see in the band, the end of that see these lights? And he would say yes. Then she said, You know what that is? He said no. Then she said this is Constantine
which is known today as stambaugh. You see that light
that's the lights of the Romans,
the Byzantine Empire there. One day you will conquer the city
every day or every other day has another take him to the road to the to the shore and show him the lights of that city.
And one day, he conquered that city and known as Mohammed Fatah.
The opener Mohammed
One of our people today modern days, I'm just giving you a few examples here and there. The famous Egyptian scientist,
Dr. Ahmed Sawyer, very famous Nobel Prize winner.
when he was a kid, when he was still in elementary school, he would write in his notebook and new in his door and his books and his basically belong is Dr. Ahmed.
Here, right doctor, I'm not because arrogant but because that's a goal that he wants to achieve. And he became one of the most recognizable scientists for him. A lot of him allowed me.
Yes, I know that all the success that people achieve in their lives. It's a funnel and Mina and tofield and guidance and the blessing from Allah to them. Yes, I have no doubt in that as well. But also it beside that. It's an attitude.
It's a way of life. It is a certain pattern that those people have taken have led them to achieve their sec the success that they want.
I have observed some of the following points in my life. I consider the major reasons we sometimes fail to meet the goals that we set for ourselves. And the first one is Excuses, excuses, excuses. I mean, we all make excuses to be fair, okay. But there are often easier to come up with the reasons why we need to do basically something. It is so easy to come up with excuses why can't undo Why didn't they do it? Why can they do it? It's much easier than become and the reason why I should do it. Why can't do it? Why I didn't do it. It's much easier. It's a basically an attitude that people take versus how can I do what it needs to be done to do it. Sometimes it seems so easier and safer,
not doing something or not doing anything at all. And then tackling that with needs to be taken care of. And we have always these excuses ready to justify our laziness. I personally come up with many excuses. Sometimes when they feel scared when they feel afraid, intimidated, anxious, or simply lazy. I just come with all the excuses I have for myself. And it just makes me feel basically good about my failure, and good about just being in that comfort zone. And I think that's not right. And these successes
uses can range from, I don't have time for it all to what you know. That's what Allah Allah have decreed upon me. And in between these two brackets, all kinds of Excuses, excuses comes.
And on a side that a man can fail many times, but he is not a failure until he begin blame somebody else for his failure. until you start finding this hanger, you hang on to all your failure. So make sure that you basically quit excuses, my advice. Every time you think about excuses, tell yourself don't make an excuse, make a good, make something good. Just don't think about excuse to justify you being not doing anything. And talking about excuses. I want to make mention something also important. I found this trap a lot of people fall into it. I call Apollo hate. The ultimate excuse was people put one thing if this thing's goes away, everything would be perfect.
It just choose one thing and you'll always have that one thing. You know what? If I graduate, everything will be different. Just with me finish until I graduate and you will see me a different person. Just wait until they make hatch. And when they make hatch, oh, everything will start just wait until the New Year start. When the New START I'm ready for it. You know what, just wait until the stock market goes up a little bit higher. You know, just t wait Just wait for that. I'm just waiting to have more money and we'll get money out we'll be donor I will be this I'll be do that. You know what, just I'm waiting until I learn Arabic When you learn Arabic Mashallah, we'll start
reading Koran and seeking knowledge, you know, just waiting for this. He, you know, just waiting to get rid of this work. And you know what finished my work and I will be volunteering in the mustard and coming in early. You know what, I can make that hour now because you know, I'm doing just me charlo and equip these sins, and it changed my life and it became more religious, I will be better. Let me just find a job and let my kids just grow older, and I will be ready to participate. And that's how the shape and take you from one step to another, making this whole entire reason not to doing anything. It's because one little thing.
And that's not a little thing that things just basically sometimes cause you your life.
Also, one of the things that I want to say it's important to pay attention to it to magnifying our fears more than we do to our abilities. One of the reason we don't succeed, which is magnify our failure or fear from failure, fear of failure has killed so many dreams before even they were born. Or see the light.
There is a Japanese saying or proverb says feed is only as deep as the mind allows. Remember that. So fear is only as deep as the minds the mind allows. Fear robs us from our self confidence, and allows us to come up with reasons why we cannot do things or make them happen.
Grab your fears by the horns and stop under estimating yourself. Stop thinking little about yourself or less of yourself. You're more capable than what you think of stop lifting fear of what people might say about you, stopping you from achieving your dreams. stop fearing from the future is stopping you from pursuing your dreams. stop fearing your past experience from stopping you to enjoy your present. stop fearing from failure and failing from Miss fear from mistakes, stopping you from trying to do what is right.
Basically magnify your ability opportunities don't magnify your fear. Remember, the shadow is always bigger than the reality.
we don't sometimes we don't achieve what we want we don't we have we don't have a strong why.
What does your goal mean to you Really? Why you have why you have why you have set it up? Many times we don't achieve our goals we don't because we don't have a very strong why. That's why in *ty, there is always wisdoms mentioned that is always the word dementia to motivate you see you have always something that you know what there is a reason behind me doing this why motivated to do that. We sometimes chase after things because other expect us to do or because simply my parents want me to be
like many of those specially accountant. I asked him why you're an accountant. You
Love numbers, that's how much he said, Oh, my parents want me to be an account
is a common thing. You know, is it something really you love to do why you want to be a physician, why you want to be this, why you want to be done, why you want to learn this, why when it come to the to this event is there is a strong why I can guarantee you there will be an actions, and you will achieve what you want. When we set goals for the wrong reasons, and chase after things we don't truly need or desires, we aren't driven to pursue them, committed to them or achieve them, we end up wasting our time, our resources, our money, our life, our energy, on things that most likely we're not going to achieve. And if we achieve it, we're not happy with it. And I want you to remember
something. Why is not a very, it's not only logical thing, like sometimes I know why I want to be this why 4123 logically understand why I should do that. You know what I want to lose weight for 123 reason, health reason, blah, blah, blah. But you know, what I found also logical reasons are not enough to keep us motivated. You have to there is a human being is not only after, there's not only logic, also feelings, you have to be motivated about it, you have to something that you love you want, you're happy to have you happy to pursue. So make sure that you don't, basically don't ignore your feelings as well.
one of the things that I found why we don't achieve our goals, because we don't set our priorities right.
There are times when I choose to keep up with the news, or Mr. Trump's Twitter's over, you know, doing my work, I'm preparing my classes,
various time where I keep like following things and like, you know, getting distracted easily from the thing that I'm supposed to be doing.
It's amazing how we managed to find time for these things with the don't really matter the most.
We found all the time for them. And we don't find time for things that matter the most us.
It's never ever about having time. But more so about making time.
And I will tell you one thing about setting your priorities straight. One of the best thing about setting your priorities straight in life, it create balance in your life. Many young people especially asked me, especially young graduate shift, how can I set balance in my life, work, new family, saving, that our learning year they're being active in community, many things they want to balance. And I tell you the key to balance your life is to set your priorities straight.
The more you know what are your priorities in life are, the more you can balance your life. But if you don't have your priorities, set a straight you will be all over the place.
Because if you became all over the place, you're trying everything you're trying, basically, you're hard at everything, you're gonna end up with nothing. Because as we all know, it is very easy to become a jack of all trades than a master and basically and a master of none. It's an easy thing to achieve.
But to focus on one thing to master or to put your priorities straight, to master it and to basically finish this and go to the next what's important for me, that's that's the key to success. Another reason for a lot of people don't succeed simply because they have no plan. Your plan is the GPS that will take you navigate, basically your navigation, how to go from A to B. And if you don't have a plan, you most likely you're not going to end up where you want to be running around like a chicken. Basically, a headless style is not a fun thing. And it's not going to make you achieve what you want. That's why you need to be sallallahu Sallam and the prophets life is so clear, they have
very clear ideas what they want to achieve very clear plan how do you want to achieve this and how do you want to do that?
Also, one thing that I noticed that there is a lot of talk, especially when it comes to
goals and New Year's resolutions, a lot of talk, but there is no really commitment real commitment does not exist. How many persons in this master today are listening to my talk now had said to himself I want to learn on honor memorize for
many of us, but how many
have us really committed to that
how many of us really spend and invested time money effort in learning the book of Allah subhanaw taala just all talk
we just we said we want I feel bad about it for a few seconds few minutes, maybe a few hours this pain three remain. Then after that we move on.
You know what I'm talking about?
Unless you're fully committed, following through with what has set what do you have set for yourself to do otherwise most likely you're not going to achieve it.
Also, one thing that helped a lot to accomplish in your life to set deadlines for yourself I have one brothers here that does mustard he always taught me this and I'm very grateful to him every time I asked someone to do something he told me Hey get given them a deadline he said in business you always put a deadline for people because that's really what make people plan properly and achieve and you see that he my goals are not so have deadlines for yourself because if you hit a deadline they didn't achieve what you want. That's the time to review to basically evaluate your work. So if you have a deadline for yourself for example, to improve your Koran or citation or your attended to
Salah or to improve your your relationship with your family reevaluate okay I have like by four months, three months I gotta reevaluate what I have done and so forth.
One of the things that I noticed and it is very interesting and I noticed a lot in young generation giving up when they are going through when basically going when things getting tough people ready to drop the basically the balls decide to throw the towel to quit unfortunately we live in a generation and in a time where basically people can't people cannot take pressure with any little bit of pressure people give up
when a bit of pressure people basically wait to quit You know why? Because we live in a live now these days where we are so used to quick fix thanks for the new pharmaceutical industrial everything's a quick fix you don't have a headache there's a quick fix you have a stunning a quick fix everything is just the drug culture. It's very fast. It's the how things even the computer or the things you know, we just want to instantly things happen. We have no patient we have no server, we have no perseverance. We have no basically resistance we have no we're not tough enough, we became very soft. That's why any pressure can break us.
I say we do you know even the community at large when any pressure on the community just people give up
and willing not a winner to pick to have the fight. And that's not not a good attitude. Successful people. They go through tough time hard time. There is nobody just take it for it doesn't come easy this how the life is not that hard on an incentive fee cabin.
This life is hard. It's not easy. I lost my dad telling us.
So that's one of the thing and whenever you go through a tough time and hard time make sure that you always remember a drought is a very good tool to help you during that tough time to pray to Allah Spanish on friends, family members,
people who can consult and help and support you are well needed in the time of tough during tough time but don't give up just because you're going through a tough time or it's hard for you. I asked the last panel to add and you know your communicatie higher akula masamoto story
hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala Milena Viva Hobart
in endless in Spain.
There is this man also sitting with his friends named Mohammed Nabi amor
he told us to and those people work how many you know, it's how many and how many any? They have mules or donkeys that they carry people from one place to another very low type of job.
Very poor, you know, they just work her work on that donkey. So he told his friends, if I became the Caliph, the president of Spain and debtors the most the you know, prestigious country in the world. What would you like me to do for you? They start laughing at him. I said you became you and you barely you don't even own the donkey that you have.
You smell like this like this. Basically you smell bad. You look about how can he became a honey, you have nothing. He's just just
In case What would you like? So the first one said if you really became a Hollywood Hmm, I would like you to give me 100,000 pieces of gold. And I would like to give me 100 servants and I would like you to give me
not donkeys anymore. I want a barn filled with horses, Arabian horses.
And I want to also for you to give me beautiful palace.
Got it, you know everything for free?
Then the other guy said, You will never be just just hypothetically, what would you do? He said, If you became a halifa, I want you to let me ride the donkey backwards, which is in cultured Arabic culture, it's a form of humiliation backwards, my face, basically facing back. And he wants you to bring everybody around me and tell everyone, this person is a liar. This person is a bad person. Nobody allowed to talk to him. If anyone talked to him, I put him in jail. Wanted to humiliate me in public. Just to make the story short. This guy went and he sold his donkey, this Mohammed bin, that'd be 100
he sold his Dunkin with the money he traveled from his village to autobahn.
Take first step, a lot of us we need to sell our donkeys.
Every one of us has a donkey need to be sold.
That obstacles that stopping you from growing.
That fear that's holding you back from taking your first step.
He traveled to Cuba he became in the army, he actually ended up the chief of the police, which is very high position and autobahn
kotoba then years goes by and guess what, and this person, not the halifa died. And his son who was 10 years old became the one on the top of the throne. So the Muslim that time said 10 years boy your robot can use old boy cannot lead. So the choose three people to be wasI in charge of the halifa Council the halifa. Our man, Mohammed was one of them. And
then soon the other to quit and he became in charge of the halifa.
And he reached a level he ruled for many years, about 15 years or so he became the honey van if you search and it'll be down when you hire if you search in Google, and you said the Omega two states actually there's a period of time it doesn't known as the Omega two states. It became the American States after the name of this man.
They call him a highly fertile hammer.
30 years between that conversation and he became the top of the country fear by whole Europe. His story is a mystery is amazing.
Nikita Rahim Allah wrote in his book of history, then he said look for these two guys
in Korea still alive, bring them to me, and they brought them to him.
And he fulfilled the first person's wishes. That's a conversation. I don't know the details, but you can imagine. And the second one he told them, and what about you what was your wishes? He said, Please forgive me. I don't want to say he said no, say it.
In front of everybody. And after he stated he said you got what he does what you wished for. And he did to him what he wished for.
And he said let my guard my guard or my soldiers who taking him around the city on the donkey backwards says to everyone, let everyone know Kalia tube. Al Khatib Walia Conan,
Sahib Sherpa, you write to everyone that in the law coalition
that are lost capable of everything.
There's so many things to learn from the story. But you know, my point is,
don't give up your dreams.
I'm sure your car outside better than that donkey.
I'm sure that you can be much better than what you are today in all aspects of life. So I really from the bottom of my heart, I wish each and every one of you a very successful Happy New Year. And I ask Allah Subhana Allah to bless you and to bless your days and nights and your family and your wealth and your health. And to bless your deen and your dunya and to make your tomorrow better than yesterday, and to make us among those who listen to the speech and follow the best of it. I asked a lot to forgive our sins, and to give us the ability to conquer our fear and to fulfill our destinies and to reach our full potential.
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