Bulugh Al Maram – Book of Etiquette & Manners #08 – Hadith No. 1237

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The segment discusses the pros and cons of social media and the importance of learning to be content and not let anyone interfere with work. The speakers emphasize the need to focus on audio and not let anyone interfere with work, as well as the importance of not allowing anyone to interfere with work and not letting anyone know about people's struggles. They also touch on the negative impact of past experiences on one's health and stress the importance of staying true to one's values.

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smilla hamdulillah salat wa salam ala rasulillah horarios.

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Yes, go ahead. Read the, the Hadith

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about the law who died upon autos Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on Guru 11 who was Philomena vallotton boo, boo, boo boo,

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boo boo Nia Moto,

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moto Hakuna Lake narrated Abu huraira la putana angle, Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Look at those who are less fortunate than you, but don't look at those who are more fortunate than you so that you will not underestimate the favors of Allah. So you will not underestimate the favours Allah has bestowed upon you agreed upon

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this head eith, actually, that he just read this wording. This wording of the Hadith is reported by a Muslim Rahim Allah is not an in Bukhari Muslim. The one in the barrio Muslim, at least, the copy that we have

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alcohol to Muslim has so many copies and had been hijacked by him Allah. As I said many times, he might refer to copies that we don't have, you know, and might be these copies have different wordings

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that we don't have. So, but what do we have right now? This wording is not an Bahati.

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What do we have now? A different wording where the head either goes like this, and this wording that I'm going to read right now. It's in the body and Muslim as we have them

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is an

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element full data Hillman.

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If someone if one of you

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look at someone who is been favored upon you,

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if even alone, so, okay. So it's not the heading that we have. He says, own voru in a man who has failed, I mean, come look at those who are less fortunate than you. But the hedychium Buhari muscle that we know about, he said if you look at someone who is in favor, then you would wealth and Hulk Hulk it means body Okay, he's more healthier. He has health and you're not you're sick, okay, or he's Mashallah tall and strong. And I am petite and small and I'm not he's I'm sure you know, he's Mashallah no matter what he eats, he stays the same size. I eat a little bit like a couple of you know, things I knew go

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out of hand you know, wait, there is people have different you know, Mashallah His hair is so soft Your hair is you know not saw. So, when you look at those who higher than you higher than you in

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worldly matter, he said some Li Selim the one in the Buhari Muslim he said your immediate time folium or element who asked if you see someone who has been favored upon you look at those who are less fortunate than you

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valuable element foot Villa folium got a lemon who asked for a min min min for glitterati, those who are less fortunate than you and you have been favored upon and you have been favored

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compared to them so you have much better situation than them that's what's a little behati or Muslim he sets the one we have and so he Muslim on rural look at those who are less fortunate or lower than you okay, but do not look at those who are higher than you.

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Lest you belittle the favor favors the favors of a law upon you.

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don't look any with your eyes or thinking okay.

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I found it interesting. Sometimes people actually go search

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to look at those who are been favored. Yeah, and the or higher than you, they go search all these fancy, you know,

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palaces for yachts, you know, well, and people like to know about those people's like luxury life that they have.

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And for who? Yeah, and the

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more likely

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You will, basically, more most likely if you look at those who are so rich and very high than you, you will basically be littling the favors of Allah Subhana tada confirmed upon

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the favors of Allah subhanaw taala upon you.

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Paolo alatus Darrell belittling and is the law, it means to be little thing, you know

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that our radula nhif have had history, he will he be a sudden hustle, you look at the skinny guy, or yourself, you look a skinny guy, and you don't pay much attention to him. But that skinny guy that you see, in that claw, under that claw. So don't hustle is a very aggressive line. So don't be judging people by the look. Then he said, men who have pacom those you look at those who are above you, above you, as you said, and Bukhari Muslim, and wealth and, and basically feature also some of them I said, alcohol could means children family. So those who love blossom are children with family in any worldly matter.

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They, what do we can learn from this.

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And I will share and you guys more than welcome to share as well.

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First of all, this hadith came after talking about interacting with people accepting invitations, giving Salaam you know all the rights of the Muslim upon one another. So that means we got to be close to one another, we're going to interact with one another. So when we interact and we became social with each other, we're going to find a fact that is no way this fact will change, which is there is poor and there is rich.

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That's why these social ideas, that socialist and communist, you know, came up with are extreme socialists and communists came with that as a movement. Now, nobody really buying it, the communist idea, you know, they should tell IKEA

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when they came and they said that all people will be equal, you know, the made the first of all that was lie, because always the member of the Communist Party are very rich in any in Soviet Union in the past and and those people will come with this is not true. Allah Subhana Allah said, let's talk about the combatants Maria, one of our

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data jack, Allah have made some people higher than others and some lower than others, there is boss and there is there is an employer and an employee that is rich in the report, there will be always basically these differences between people. So that idea that all people became rich is not going to happen. And all what people what common a straight to do actually make all people who are poor,

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you know. So that's also It makes no sense. But there will be the so this head is telling you, when you come and you start interacting with people, you're going to see people not only enrich, you're going to people are favored with so many things over you. People have so many talents that you don't have.

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People have things that they don't have, that his countries have things that other countries don't have.

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Okay, so how we deal with things like this, and that'd be solid, solid. And that's why he brought he brought this hadith do basically, to give make sure that this principle is so clear in front of us.

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One of the benefits that so many times we forget about the blessings that Allah have giving us

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Why? Because we keep looking at what other people have in their hands. I'll tell you something, if you always look at what people have in the hands, you will never look at what you have in your hands.

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When you always look for you never gonna look near

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okay. And that what happened when you always look for when you always look at what people have in their hands, what will happen to you

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on edge edge dot and testimonia mattala you will not value the near the blessings that Allah have giving you.

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You will not value the blessings that Allah have given you.

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There is a man in the history

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spend a lot this person

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his life is very interesting.

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His life is a very interesting life. This man his name known as it been a while Wendy, had been around the home in Haiti and muslimeen that you know, kind of how to deal with Islam. What topic Do you need is to not

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ignore Juan de used to be a Muslim and he ended up leaving Islam. Some people said they had repented before he died. Allah knows his situation. But ignorant the Haida was one of the most intelligent people that you can ever think of.

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Okay, and mastered so many different signs of Normandy

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how that one day was sitting on the bridge of Baghdad to make the point when inside when he looked at what people have in their hands, he forgets about what the hand has done, and he will be listening what you have, will not value what she has, or he or she has. So neuron is sitting on the on the bridge of Baghdad, and he sees this Mashallah caravan and, and horses for column and Haida belong to the city. Hola, halifa. This is the boy of the halifa. Okay, atip in Palo Alto community.

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Wow. Another bit, another group of servants and maids and you know, Joe, why do you Wow, wow, they look so beautiful. Who are these? You know, all these servants amazing. And all this wealth of money. So fancy. They said this is for the boy of Al Khalifa bulk. And

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he said

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he and he became so angry. This boy who just used to be a slave of the holly van freed by the Hollywood has all this while he's like cooking from inside. A man passed by him. And he saw him dirty and sitting.

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He gives him back what

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you give him

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bread, like a loaf of bread.

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He looked at he said, That boy gets all this. And I got a blob of bread. And he threw it in dad's river

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was so angry. And he didn't eat the whole day. And it is the only food he had.

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So he ended up somehow law. Yeah, and the hungry the whole day. I didn't come out a lot as a woman. So

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anyone who's upset with a law, what do you mean upset? It's gonna change nothing. And he became so angry. Why? Because he doesn't value what he he doesn't see the blessings yet. This man was one of the most intelligent people that you can think of in the history of humanity. Not Muslims, I think a mnemonic to the extent and move forward and move forward, which is one of the top scholars in Arabic language said

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this abrupt neuro and he stayed with me one week study with me one week. Hello, Janice. Anisha the Julissa McCann You are jealous to McKenna.

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If you were to stay one month, I will be his students.

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That's how intelligent he is. I'll give you just since we have Dr. Abdullah with us, I give you a couple of things about how this man is. Can interesada he used to have seizure he came up with the idea before his time before its time the medicine that is known to humanity was based on a some Roman or Greek philosophers idea.

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come up with this idea that you have in your body four elements.

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If any imbalance and these four elements you became sick or died, that's the theory. Heat water air and I forgot was the fourth one. Hmm

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I don't know what's the fourth one inside of your body? I couldn't remember right now. So bullcrap I don't know what also how they pronounce in English. This philosopher came up with this idea. And that's became the medicine. So you sick because one of these things get imbalanced and completely imbalanced you die. He come with the idea said no. Actually your sickness and death can be caused from inside and from outside. There are things outside your body, attack your body and make you sick.

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For the first time actually, somebody speaks about a concept of viruses, which is was discovered not long time ago. He came up with another idea he said constantly that is something in our body fighting these foreign elements that trying to kill us or to weakness like why

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blood cells, like their immune, he come up with the idea of the immune system way before any Western or Europeans or any body came up with that idea. And he talked about someone who basically was living in the ninth century.

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And he come, he was his seizure. So he wrote, he said, I think one of the ways to cure my cedar is to expose my sickness to another sickness.

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He said, What if we bring to sickness inside the body, and the kill one another.

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Less than 100 years ago, we came up with the idea what hundreds or maybe even less than that came up with the idea that cancer cells how we kill cancer cells, by bringing another cancer cells to it, that kill it.

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So this man to speak about things like this, that just modernly we were able to speak about it. That's a genius.

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lacking the who can have an episode, he helped a lot.

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But he was an absolutely ungrateful person.

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Evil stavola

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nothing but dunya. He wrote a book to prove that is false, and Mohammed is false. And he's not a true prophet. And he said, all these prophets were liars. And they have mental problems.

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The Jews in his time had been set, paid him to write a book at Kunal Zulu that

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Allah knows, but that's what's been said. And zmodeler is a book that to criticize, or and he proved that Mohammed is not a prophet, and Koran is incomplete. And he used to make fun, he said, Who said that? Who said the Orion is a miracle, nobody come up with a Koran. He said, the poetry of so and so better than anathema cocotal.

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He said, Who can come up with Socrates book?

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Who can be like, you know, all these philosophers

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at GE,

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and he got an fight. Then he decided to write a book against a Torah, the Torah, he then we paid him double the money not to write the book.

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Then he became an extreme sheet irrationally.

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Then he left Islam completely and he became atheist.

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When they have he wrote his biography, and he mentioned with the Mossad said, he said, part Allah who the caterpillar Eman wa Baraka, la Whoville fille Bella the team at Aqua

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mela, curse intelligence that bring no faith

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and May Allah bless a slow person whose righteous

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you listen telling you not very smart, but you're righteous.

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And that's how he ended his biography Rahim Allah. Anyway, so my point is, it's just show you how you became so unhappy happiness, I'll guarantee you will never come to those who fail to appreciate what they already have.

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Comparison make finding content million times harder.

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When you're always constantly comparing yourself to other people, you live in misery. You live in tiredness, you always compare yourself to other to others to others to other it became so exhausted which you need to stop to get out of that cycle of doom.

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Also, from this Hadith, okay. It's so important when it comes to interacting with people why? Because if you always look at what other people have better than you, you basically kind of look at them and admire would like not admire it kind of, you know, feel so hungry for they have and so upset with your situation. Okay, you will never look at yourself in a positive manner. You'll always say why I'm not this one not this one. When you constantly say why I am not you will not find the time to say what I am. Because all what you're talking about what I'm not. I'm not this I'm not this I'm not this, I'm not this so you will not appreciate what you have. Okay, and when you became so

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negative like this, people don't like to deal with you. Nobody want to be around someone who's so negative. Who's so not contempt with Allah subhana wa tada have given him.

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one of the important point for this hadith to understand this only Nemesis en la tamburini

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in Norfolk, Virginia, don't look at those so higher than you engineer. It doesn't mean you should not be inspired by success. So I look at, for example, a successful rich man. Okay, I look at my uncle, I look at some community members who became so successful in their business and inspire, to be inspired by that, to know how to be like this. You know what, for example,

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Khalid will say, I'm so inspired by so and so and I want to be like that person, a scientist or a scholar. I'm so inspired by someone who made so much virgin fortune or a good

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I'm inspired by Hakeem Olajuwon. I don't want to be like him. I want to aspire by this soccer player or that basketball player, you know, and I want to be like that. I'm looking at them not because I envy what they have. Not because I I look at them so I can be inspired. So I can look at the thing that I have and development. Okay.

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So don't ever think this hadith Yeah. And then semicolon Docomo. And son does not have an aspiration, or Inspire to be better. No, that's what Miss honey talks about. This had he established a very important fact, which is, if you're not happy with what you have, you will never be happy with what you don't have.

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If you don't learn to be happy with what you have attend, you will never be happy even if you get things which is you don't have

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you have to teach yourself to be content to be happy with a smile that I have given you. That's why Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said I am Adam illiterate nothing will fill your eyes until you die.

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You will never be filled. You will never be feel like colosse I got to the top of it until you die. You always have something you go farther far I want more. I want more. I want more. So you need to learn how to be content. Paul side view of past lives in a certain capacity his son, my son,

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either palette elvina for an hour. If you want to be a rich, learn how to be content.

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Because contentment man lionfish

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This is wolf will never come to an end with Jaco Palmer for in Norfolk Ron Hubbard. Don't be greedy. Because greed. It means that you will always live in poverty. Why la cubilia Yes, for lmts minchie in up 11 aka lawan and give up things quickly. don't attach your heart you know what is not working, just let it go.

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Just learn how to let it go. It's not gonna work it's not gonna work move on.

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And newbies are seldom said anytime they're sorry, sign up, I said to son, anytime you do, that, a law will replace you with something better, a law will give you something better.

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He who is contented is rich. Remember them? How can I Kansan laughs

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Allah Subhana Allah said

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we sort of the nahan

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men I mean, asani him mean that get in our own

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mean felon, he

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known as the axonometric.

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Those who live who do good deeds from male or females while they have faith and a man we will let them live a good life. Mohammed bin camp and what are these said what good life means? He said

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to be content. That's a good life.

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hamdulillah I do my work. I do my part hamdulillah what I get I'm happy with

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for salah and even avataan available banana, Ali and Hassan Bosley all of them said, Good live it means to live to be annoying. Be content with what else want that I'm giving you. That's why nobody saw Salam said

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indeed achieve success. Men Aslam those who submit themselves to Allah wa ruzicka Khalfan wacana Allah, Allah giving him little, but he's still content with what Allah has given him. reported by Muslim to be content. It doesn't mean you don't desire more. No. It means you are thankful for what you have

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patient for what is to come.

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That's what they'll

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say this again, is to be basically thankful for what you have, and patient for what is to come.

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One of the lessons from this hadith live and I am live will always have someone who is higher than you and someone's lower than you.

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What you really need to

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what you need to focus on is to focus on the audio.

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That's why in the accurate you make sure none of your peers above you. And

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that's the real competition.

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your peers,

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any I make sure Omar will not be above me in general,

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I'll make sure that juice is not above me in 10 we're all like competing to be in the top. You see, your peers also.

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Remember, it is normal. It is that's life, you everybody will have ups and downs.

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You can it means been said a man

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said to people who complain, complain, oh, you know, my life is not going good. And he doesn't know that other people also their life is not going good. So why the person said look at those who are less than you. So you can understand the fact that this is how life is Allah gives and takes

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Allah gives you from something and takes you take from you. So those people complained to the chef, so or that wise person so that will pass did what he gave a piece of paper from Amazon

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and give up another piece of paper to

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Mohammed and Omar Abdullah Anderson. And he wrote everybody said an idea and everybody said, write down your problems on life.

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This man brought one problem, another problem. You know, everybody wrote his problem. Then he put it in the pot. He mixed it and he said now you come and pick

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one of the problems Let's switch

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you take my problems and I take your problems

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you think everybody's because when you see someone Mashallah you know have so much wealth and stuff you think and nobody has everybody has issues. So when everybody picked one of these papers, and open it he said no, no, no, give me my problem back. I don't want to live his problem.

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Everybody said no, no, no, no hamdulillah

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I don't want to live somebody else's problem.

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and Islam asked us to look at those who are

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lower than us in dunya. And don't look at higher than us higher than us in worldly matter. But when it comes to faith, when it comes listen carefully to manner add up to knowledge to beneficial things for us. We should look to those who are higher than us. Yeah, Annie when I tell you you need to make sure that you're a good Muslim You didn't tell me I have my cousin who doesn't you pray

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you know, you know what? At least I put a job somebody doesn't put a job

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at least I made

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at least I'm Muslim is not even a Muslim. You don't do that. You look at those who are higher than you and it comes from you I tell for example, Mr. Rama you need to be courteous. When somebody asks you something do something he said thank you. He said Baba you know I see kids in school curse at least I don't curse

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as not standard when it comes to hold up and to Dean you always look at higher Robert to me the in his son actually in his jam.

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And even should even be handed that didn't have B cell allowed SLM said

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Khosla tanaman, Canada fee, gettable Hola Hola, Shakira sabirah if you have to this these two qualities are lower right to down as a put you down as a thankful patient person. monography dounia elimine who aduna who for Hamad Allah,

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you look at your worldly matter. And you see those who are less fortunate than you and you say Alhamdulillah for whatever you have favor Mia Allah with.

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And when it comes to the dean or another of Ed, when it comes to the religion and morality, he looked at those who are higher than them factor that they

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start copying them

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Competing with them want to be like them

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are a meme another uffi dunia. illman, who afoco for se for lm affetto for in the hula hoop tebu Shakira sobre la.

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So the first one is the Grateful thankful one, patient one. The second one, the problems are those who look at those who are higher than them in the worldly matter. And they are the feel sorry for themselves, and the sort of bad about themselves, and the want what other people have, you know, and just envy them. This not a patient, personal a grateful, thankful person.

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it is allowed to look at those who are higher than you, as they said, in things, to learn from their success, to learn from their experience. Somebody for example, Mashallah who's lost a lot of weight is healthy. I asked what kind of diet that you do, what kind of exercise that you do, Mashallah, you're very successful your business, what did you do, right? So I can learn from you.

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Also, I wanted to know

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that, when you look at those who are less fortunate than you, your heart will be in rest. Between you always look at those higher than you, you're always tired.

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And this doesn't bring you happiness. Believe me, happiness is not about having more than what other people have.

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Happiness is to be more happy than what you have with what you have with what you have.

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The more happy with what you have a bring real happiness.

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Happiness doesn't mean that you have too much or too many things. Sometimes we are very wrong about this with our kids. And I'm guilty of that.

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We think that buying too many things to kids make them happy. That's not true. There is a study was made by BB suggests that PBS, the British one,

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the be the BBC, BBC, BBC,

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BBC yet, they did a study on kids.

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Kids in San Francisco, the kids in Japan, the kids in Africa center look somewhere Africa, East or West Africa, and a kid in Tibet, Central Asia.

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And they compared their life,

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the San Francisco and the Japanese kids laptop robot, you know, a cell phones, all this kind of thing.

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The kids in Africa, and the kids in Tibet, they have none of these things, no cars, no electric cars, no toys like that. They made, you know, like what you used to do. In the old days, you know, we put like wheels made of the cover of the

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remember, that's like, like, you know, the cover of the bottle, you know, the bottle of Coke, the last one, there was like metal cover. We used to take them and make holes on them and put a stick, and we run out like that's like a car, we make a car like that. You know, that's Oh, that's so happy. Like, you see, I saw kid that day, you know, have a cell phone made of like, a wood. You know, and this the toy like this is his cell phone somewhere in the world. So they have not much. But guess what the study shows that the one who lived in Africa and Central Asia are much, much much happier. They're very happy kids compared to the San Francisco one and two that Japan is the Tokyo

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kid one.

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Having more It doesn't mean it will make your kids happier.

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With it does it make your kids don't value what they have.

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So we have to learn that someone is happy with less than what you have. So that means happiness doesn't depend on how much on how many things you have.

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One other thing I want you to pay attention to it when it comes to look at those who are less than you in marriage. But don't misunderstand me.

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I'm not asking you to settle for a bad marriage.

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But sometimes I noticed one of the things that ruin marriages is people start having all those dreams about the perfect husband the perfect wife, which is in Sharla and Jenna but not in dunya there is nobody perfect so sometimes, you know these some sisters and some brothers, what these all my god, you know, this guy.

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His wife though some Muslim Muslim and he likes looking at imagine

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Everything sometimes.

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But you know what Hamdulillah, your wife is great woman.

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Look at, look at what looks good on you. And you will appreciate what you have.

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Also one of the important thing about why you don't look at those who are higher than you, so you don't envy them in VI is the first sin in the heavens. What's the first sin in the heaven?

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Which is a blease in with Adam.

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And on earth is the first sin,

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which is

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the son of atom in V.

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was on brother and he killed his own brother. That's right.

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I told you before somebody asked me

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if he killed his brother.

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So that means we are all the sons of that killer.

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That's so bad. Yeah, and you will all the fun of that killer.

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If he killed his own brother, what about the end? So the rest of it came from another killer?

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The answer is

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no. Adam, and he set up it's been said has 100 sons. So these are only two of them. But doesn't mean that you had only these two.

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Okay. Some said he had even 1000 anyway.

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Also, I want you to remember what I'm going to tell you now because this is also a golden rule.

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What do you look at people have a process? Sometimes it's not what you think.

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You imagine things? That is a word used? If I would write a word with a golden ink, it will be this statement by an Imam, Mifflin Mifflin. karate Jr. One of the smartest fapy ever come across in my life. Okay, they've been Mifflin said listen, Elaine, to rica FEMA Lisa, in that malaise a FEMA Tara in the nurse

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aligned to Rica, FEMA, Lisa and Marisa and the nurse

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your eyes show you

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things which is not real. What you see at other people's app, you see it in the perfectly and in reality is not perfect.

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And if for example,

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somebody look at this woman

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and how long would he looked at her What?

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But the reality is not

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one time somebody came to me in a restaurant is Joe Stovall law this woman Yeah. Any Muslim man? And she is like, Look, she's like not dressed properly.

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And I know he saw like in it. It's really got his attention is really good as like touches art. Okay, but he's like trying to cover this by and he been so righteous installed with a low the below all this kind of.

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But I know in his heart, he really like it. Like

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he's like, much older than me. So I said when I said okay, I said to myself, I have to teach him a lesson.

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He is like, so like, you know, impressed by her. So when she came

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to service, I said, What's your name? And I talked a little bit that he she laughed. I said, Did you see that? He said What? I said, Did you see her underarm? He said What do you mean? He said there is a big stain here on her underarm.

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And she came again as you see she's when she come again. Look, she has so much stain and she has all this hair in her hands. It's just like, man I met her looks so terrible stuff blah blah. But what and when you look at this he's it's a big stain. It's like so disgusting actually, for her to come like to do that. But my point was not about I want to teach him a lesson. When you like somebody, when you like all excited was like you don't see your aim to read Kamala Sophie matara in the nest, your eyes will show you things does not even exist.

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And if you look carefully, you will see that it's so different than what you think it is. That's why shape on He will make a person cheat on his wife, with a woman so ugly, so dirty, so disgusting. It's like a public toilet. seats. Everybody come and pee on it. And he will go cheat with a woman like that. And he will leave his pure, beautiful wife

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And she will cheat on her husband who is so dedicated hard working man, a good husband, a good man with a pump or a loser. Best know how to talk maybe in a couple of slump. It just wouldn't reality heads. Oh my god.

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Because the ship I'm making see so sometimes we look at those rich people who think all their lives perfect, no happy. They have drugs, they have stress, they don't go to sleep. I know one of the billionaires. Okay, I saw him in a wedding. And I notice will lie. I'm not exaggerating. It's like this. And I don't want to mention his name. I don't mind

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wearing the wedding. He's a multi billionaire guy. Every few minutes he's like

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he goes like move on he said.

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So I asked one of his relatives

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and he said actually has a form of disease he can't stand he can sit but

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he can sit for he has to stand up it's so

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he has to take some like medicine for

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you know what you think those people perfect life. Now

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you see what people have? You see in what people you see in what is people have in their hand? What's not real? It just deluded that you think it's perfect. But it's not. It's far away from that. You think these players like movie stars? You think they have a good life? You see him in the movie and everything perfect, but the reality is not

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reality that he committed suicide? Who the comedian's what his name the famous guy who died who committed suicide? He's a comedian happy

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Salalah Yes.

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One of the benefits of the Hadith that the Hadith shows us the importance of remembering the blessings of Allah all the time.

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You remember it in different ways. First, you remember the net amount of a lot upon you. Then you basically sign in you remember who give this to you.

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For instance, so many of us live in a stable family. That's right.

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You know what, there's a lot of people have no father No mother.

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When was the last time that you reflect upon that? A blessing.

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You know what candlelight or healthy

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there is people can come to the most. You know what you live. There is so many kids are in refugee camps killed, injured in war zones that his kids basically kidnapped by you.

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matter law protects all our children kidnapped and in age by

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gangs and to be raised to be gangs and to be professional thieves and to be used in all kinds of ugly criminal life

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you complain about you know your health whatever you have you remember, this honey encouraged us to always think about the near MLS climate and also remember the blessings of what a law protects you from so the nightmare could be what you have, and the nightmare the blessing also what did didn't happen to you?

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The things that the last one's gonna protect you from

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Allah protect I was sick, it could have been a disaster outcome. But hamdulillah didn't I'm very grateful to Allah Spano Don

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this hadith should not ever be

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ever be a reason for us not to aspire to improve our life or to be lazy or to live in poverty that's not what that individual Salaam said. Allow me as a local Rena are becoming a *. He said y'all law make me rich and Yala protecting me from poverty. So that's not a goal to be poor. Or no, we lost my daughter Richard means to be basically sufficient. in Ibiza, Salim said, to leave your family rich and have money better than to leave them poor.

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Also, if the head is telling us not to look at what people have in their hands, from wealth from health from whatever blessing that they have,

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okay? Because that's make you basically belittling the things that you have in your hand. Also, it makes you kind of envy them also to waste of time. So what if they have all this? What benefit that you get? I just want to know, you know, that his TV shows is all about what rich homes and rich houses and all this? What's the benefit of that? Just watch this.

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It just make you you know, almost you get some ideas for your home. But what's the benefit of them?

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I think that also can can lead me to say

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I will I'm in dannic

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to say

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what happened when you look at what people have in their hands, you try to copy them and sometimes when you try to come in it's not only about you belittling your name, it can mislead you. So what do you do? You go and you want to copy that person? Like I know someone told me once I want to buy this car on this car and this car like hundreds of 1000s of cars then it ended up getting him Honda

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Okay, I said by Honda Why would you go you know Hi.

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Sometimes you spend and that's people who have something people don't have the ended up what putting a credit card put it in debt just because he wants to be like those which you know what my cousin had her wedding and this hotel was sad to look at when we're higher than them.

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Okay, so what he do he goes on he do his wedding also this fancy and you get an all these debts.

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You know that Allah, Allah bless some of the money capable to buy this car cable to do this vacation capable to do that. Why would you look at this and you try one of the problem when looking at this kind of lifestyle that you can't match, that you start doing things beyond your limit or beyond your ability, and that's a big problem that we have today. And guess what that will lead you in ended to be in misery and distress and debt and so forth.

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Current Nabi sallallahu Sallam

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Manasa humming from meenan fi surbey.

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More often he just said in the hoopoe to Yomi *a Anima. He's a dunia behavior.

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It took me the reports of this individual Salam said if you woke up in the morning, and you're safe at your home, and your

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where do you live more often visa city no diseases and you have the food and the expense of your day. You have been giving the whole entire world

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as if you own the whole world because what you need more than a food and sufficient on clothes and to be safe.

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To be healthy.

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You're one

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if you can go to bed and your own,

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not through not because you need medicine and drugs and you can go to bed and you're and you woke up by yourself. You need someone to wake you up.

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You didn't wake up because of pains. No you woke up in your own

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and you go to the bathroom, by yourself. You didn't need help or ate to go to the bathroom. And you can walk in your feet. You're one of the kings of this world and the queens of this world.

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This only you can go to the bathroom by yourself.

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And you woke up from your bed on your own.

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Wake up, wake up in your from your bed and your own

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and you can walk in your feet

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and you can go to bed.

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Also in your own

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I believe you are a king and a queen.

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Also, one of the

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reasons for being content

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or how to achieve that contentment level is not to be a waster to have trust in Allah subhanho wa Taala is not to look at what other people have always that's why last month Mohammed Islam when Adam would deny a naked a llama Medina be without Zahra tan heretic dunya don't stretch your neck and look at what people have. This is Zara what Zara means

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Zara watches what's Zara

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if you pick a flower how long the flower last

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the best and he will a Sam's Club tell you put the sugar blah blah blah 10 days

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that's the junior few days

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what they have in their hands that's the basically the reality

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those among us who complain about poverty less money less portrait

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I just wanted to make this comparison

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between you and the sort of muscles on them

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and you know who you are underneath to tell you and you know who is Mohammed Salim is so I don't need to make comment. You know who yourself and you know who is Mohammed Solomon's? I shall be Allah and he said couldn't Allah number 11 man Hillel, Thumbelina

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three months, two months well movie the debate in the visa Salaam now.

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We don't have anything to cook

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all the food that we eat for three months uncooked food, which it means date. Milk

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there is no bread. There is no meat.

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Nothing can be cooked

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What is this it? Yeah, no fire in your home for three months. No cooking. What do you guys eat? She said, we eat most of the time. Water and date. Not even milk. Unless we're done.

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Three months straight.

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And sometimes our neighbor will give us milk. They will milk it from that sheep's that they have or gods that they have as a gift to us.

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I just said matter rasulillah don't think this is the beginning. He died subtle. I send them What am I shabby I'm in hubsan was at home and

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she said Grosso Salaam died. And yet he never ever was able to eat bread. dipped in oil twice a day.

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He never had enough bread to eat twice a day.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam bet that was made of what tissue

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you know that the the the trunk of the palm tree you know this leaf on it just cut it. That's how he sleep on Romano the alarm and so marks on the processor on site

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and say Muslim, and he cried isn't jasola those purgin kings and Roman kings are on silk and face

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See beds and you like this on the floor and I see the mark in your sight

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from your bed

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as the lot that's the lifestyle that he had

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you know it hasn't busted his son, I entered the house when I was about 14 years old. When I jumped I touched the the ceiling

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that's the process of the house

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many hours outside that basically the roof holds. Almost said once I was in the tub, I can see through it

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so long

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as the lifestyle that he had

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not many clothes or shoes. So just just to make this comparison.

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So you know how much you're blessed.

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They can't get enough of saying it's not

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about not to aim for a better life.

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But it's all about the GB happy with what you have and thankful for last five data for what you have. Because you have a lot and if you can see that you will never see no matter what you gain in this dunya May Allah Subhana Allah Allah I know your commitment in Verona that Eman elimin horsehoe Pompey, a dean or a man who has Filipino dunya on your Moroccan on your zacchara Kanata Nigella shanaka solo la silla mama Nabina Muhammad