Bulugh Al Maram – Book of Etiquette & Manners #03 – Hadith No. 1236

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smilla hamdu Lillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah, he was so happy woman.

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But

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we still talking about some of the other etiquettes of a Salaam. And the last point that we reached was the issue of would it be permissible for you to say anything beyond wabarakatuh and he said Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Can you add more than wallbottle cattle? Can you say? salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato mouthfeel to what it was anything extra than what about a cat or only about a cat is the last thing to be said

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and the medical Himalaya reported that had been a basketball the Allah answered in tears salam o Ll Baraka that Salaam and with the word war Bala cattle There is nothing more than that. And also even tomorrow the Allaha and been reported that he said the same and same thing about his father or more of the Hata bro the Allahu, and but in the same time,

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we found that the companions in narrations which are authentic, they said something more than robotic cattle

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and also we're going to find in the son of the prophets of Salaam Did he ever said anything more than robotic what they Sam has two sides. That's right. The one who gives alarm and the one who reply so we talked about you giving the Salaam Can you say a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. And you add something more?

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And when you reply, can you add something more than robotica? That's the whole here. So you see that the narrations that we mentioned from some of the Sahaba like Omar Omnibus said it only in a global account, but other companions have the same position. Actually, even tomorrow, they allow and in the reply, he added more than robot a cattle. He said y equals Salam rahmatullah wa barakato aloha dry hat Yeah, Annie May Allah make a dead night's upon you the blessings and mercy

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okay. Also, what kind of Nero Maria z to the Salim bin Omar whenever some give him Salam he will add more. Why? Because Allah said when someone greets you with something that apply with

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similar or better so if someone told me a Santa Monica Antonio barakato How can I make it better I have to add more to it and that's why I've been remodeled the alarm and would add sometimes what the up salvati will pull up Salawat also

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been reported that they didn't habit wrote to more out of the hour. I know my jam Ian saying uh Sarah Marie Kamiya ameerul momineen warahmatullahi wabarakatu Who am I to who what we be salvati?

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So he added more words and more drama. Okay. And is Sydney also reported that ns said cannot do lunia Moreover, all Assalamu alayka rasulillah Assalamu alayka Rasul Allah, for the prophets of Salaam would reply by saying, what a coup Sam lie about our car to woman Pharaoh 201.

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So here we have integration that the process of him said after a Baraka to Mr. Pharaoh toward one, but this narration is weak. Okay.

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But this narration also came in Terry l Buhari. And is very happy Be sure I will Eman And there is many narrations if you add them together, it might be hassled it might be acceptable narrations that you can say in the reply more than wabarakatu and the most an acceptable one that I share in Albania Rahim Allah said it can be acceptable is the zyada Toma filetto.

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So when somebody gives you a Santa Monica Baraka we can say y equals Salam rahmatullah wa barakato monferrato. What's monferrato mean? forgiveness? Yeah, food is not allowed in domestic. Sorry, you can't eat in the must.

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So,

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here we say that this is something can be acceptable, and many iterations from the setup give you the permissibility of the concert. So if somebody gives you the Salaam and said salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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How can you replay better?

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yellowness, let's see. Somebody said a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah.

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Wa barakaatuh. The use of somebody said Salaam barakato. How can you reply with something better?

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Woman filetto monferrato Yanni and his forgiveness very good. They

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this hadith is Allah pita when you meet your brother you give him Sam shows you that it doesn't matter who you meet someone older or younger.

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Someone riding or walking, okay, you can make a man or woman doesn't matter. And yes, so now that the one who's riding give Salaam to the one who's not the one who passing to the one who's setting but in this case if you met each other, you the best of you is the one who gave the Salah

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question

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is it allowed for me to repeat the Sunnah?

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Only repeat the Salaam if there is a separation, and that separation is time or object, like we remember now we put we mentioned the Hadith that we shouldn't be there

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when you meet your when you are with your friend and you meet your friend, your brother you give him set up for either how to be no Mashallah when they separated by a tree or a wall and they meet each other again, visit Santa Monica again. So let's say I go from this door and you go from the other door and we meet each other. I said Sarah Marie, we go to the Shamrock you go from this entrance and they go from the other entrance we can say Salaam Alaikum we'll meet each other again.

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Okay, you enter the car and they talk to someone then enter the car after you I can say Solomonic as well. Is that clear?

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Or let's say we are in the house or Omar goes to his room and come out of the room. If he comes out of the room and see me outside in the hallway he says some article.

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Is that clear? So all time. Let's say I got in the phone call for a while and after I finished my phone call I look at you and said Santa Monica. So because there is a period of time where separated us from each other.

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And the proof for that the story of the one who came and prayed. Then he came to the salon. He said Santa Monica also said you didn't pray good. Go repeat your prayer. He prayed then he came back and when he came back and said a Salaam Alaikum again, but

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also it is allowed for you to repeat the Salaam if someone didn't hear you. Like I say, Solomonic. You didn't hear me sir Amara come again. And with this you understand that in Obi sallallahu Sallam can either sell lemma sell limit aletheia falletta mishmar and I read the slim that Ivan Murat the Hadith and Debbie Sasa Lampard Buhari, had it ns when he gives me gifts that I'm three times nobody understand that that maybe repeat the Salaam three times no he would repeat it up to three times to get the person's attention. Well, that's what this means. Also, you should give Sam to those who you know and those who don't know it's the right of every Muslim. He sets them up to Sam spread Sam and

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also Nabi sallallahu Sallam was asked what is the best thing to do in Islam? He said the best thing Khalid to do in Islam is to talk to him upon to give food were to create a Salam alimentaria for military to give Salaam to those who you know you don't know. And we headed up the luxury massacre of the law and the process of them said among the sign of the day of judgment that you only give Sam to those who you know

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somebody you don't know you give them set up you don't give them set up.

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And I noticed that somehow when they go overseas

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if you guys got to do that separate from each other please

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Okay,

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I'ma go

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far away from Yeah, okay pay attention. So

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the person gives him to those who he knows only when they go to overseas sometimes they pass in the streets of Samadhi come to someone he just checked me out. Why he even missing out

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you know, it just very weird for some people but it is one of the sign of the Day of Judgment people will only give set on to those who they know by when the process of them said when you meet him you give him set up. It doesn't mean that only when you meet him because when you meet him and when you leave him as well or her

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without inhibition Salaam. What he said to

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me nothing

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The same the importance of the Salaam when you leave is equal to the importance of giving Salaam when you meet and I noticed this is something that is not almost not practiced

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that people don't give Salaam when these leave one another

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they all will give some when you see your friend but not when you leave your friend

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by like why the process sometimes sad when you meet

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okay?

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When you meet Taliban Taliban because

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that's the common thing because the time of the process and people always superstitious by the one who comes and approach them. So they're so scared of the person who's coming. They always have this idea. If somebody approached them It means he getting bad news.

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There is people like that. And I know some people like this at home when the phone goes off immediately bad news. The superstitious any phone after nine o'clock gets bad news. It became a superstitious and if any call on Friday mornings, you know or this day the superstition does not right so the Arab they have this idea in the time the problem so that's why we count the Islam counter that by saying no is this ceremony can only bring peace and good is when the person comes. They

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if somebody leaves we said Do you remember giving Salaam sooner but what's the rule of replying to Salam?

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Why do you have to write the question? What about when you leave and you say Salaam Alaikum? Is it also wants him to reply?

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Yes.

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Exactly like they are equal meeting and leaving equal so if somebody is in Sonic one he's leaving. It's also obligatory on you to say why they come sit out at the law that's what Amala set

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question

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is it permissible to give Salaam with other than a Salam aleykum

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is it permissible to give Salaam

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with other than a Solomonic

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What's up?

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Hi.

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Good morning. Bonjour Pon suar

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como estas

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Yeah, how about like not for Muslims first? Can you greet someone with other than Santa Monica?

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This is basically marhaba Can you do that here outside

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to replace the greeting with something other than Santa Maria is not allowed because as Sara Marie come and greeting with serum is one of the sign of Islam

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Islam

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okay but at this lien fee that

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saying as salaam alaikum asunder does not watch

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he is not watching. I don't I don't get sin if I didn't say I said Mr. ecoman. I passed by you.

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Okay. But if we replace the greeting and instead of say Salaam Alaikum I would say something else. No, it's not a lot to replace that. By what if someone doesn't replace like, sometimes you say Marhaba and

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sometimes you say Kevin Hart

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things of that nature alone Amara Hema home a lot said it is permissible if it does sometimes happen Why? Because in the authentic hadith omiana came to the prophets of Salaam while he was taking a shower and he was covered. Okay by his daughter, she covering him. And she's, he is behind the curtain. And oh me, Hannah, she said Sara Marie. Yasser Allah she gives up in the visa Salam said man who is this? She said this only had it then he said Mohammed Omar honey, welcome Oh man. He didn't even sit in a coma set up. But it could be that he didn't say what was said I'm because he does. A woman mentioned a last name while he is in this status Allah Allah Allah Allah He will send

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them but also there is another narration where Fatima used to come to the mausoleum, and when he sees he will tell her more haben urbanity. Welcome my daughter.

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But also we can say maybe he used to say somebody come, but because Mohammed is something not common. That's why it was mentioned by the narrator. It doesn't mean that he never said when he comes Salaam. What I meant ally what Baba

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So if this is the case, I would say that we should not replace a salon with something else. But if sometimes somebody said something like in a random time it is not a sin in Charlottetown but we cannot replace that because I see now young people they say peace

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they meet each other peace. What's peace and harmony Kala

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it's a Salaam Alaikum not peace. What's up? You know? Amen.

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You know, that's not that's that's not right. What's up? sky is up. Guys is up.

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Yeah.

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All things off these days. Yeah. So when you say what's up that's, you can say this after a while you can set up you say whatever you want.

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But we should learn how that all of a sudden welcomed each other. Yes.

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As no right? You because it remember we said said I'm on a committee we meet and when we leave when we leave. And that's a good point. Maybe even the youth now say peace and the time of leaving. And that's replaced the sinner of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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Yes, and there is no Hashanah and absolutely. When you say Santa Monica Santa Lai take 30 Hassan Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh 30,000

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type

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when you enter the masjid, when you enter the mustard and there is people in the mustard

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Do you give Salaam to people in the mustard? And if you give Sam when Listen to this. And have you heard rhodiola and Rajan and

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what also la hidin is something I hated must for some Latham majah jealous for some lemon honey.

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So a man came to the mustard he pray to God then he came to the prophets awesome

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so remember from this hadith he said,

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an avocado Erica Sam or Jeff or suddenly

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from this hadith LMS said that you start with the greening of the mustard before he gives an ant to the people

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you pray to he didn't mess did before he says so if you walk to the mustard, before you say Salaam Alaikum to people who are in the mustard, you pray to Allah and after you finish, you say Salaam Alaikum to the people.

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And if not Abraham almanza mahad said that's the sooner the sinners that you pray you give the greeting of the mustard cabin and to hyenas.

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you fulfill the rights of Allah before you fulfill the rights of people. And also because if you walk through the masjid salaam aleikum, you make a disturbance. But if you pray

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you're going to give some to the people on your left and right so it will not causal disturbing in that must

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a Salaam also in the be sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said law to suddenly move tasleem Alia hood for internet asleep homebrew see when a coffee alysha he sets us on them don't give Sam like the Jews do in Medina and the time of the process alum he they seeing them giving Sam how he said with their heads or with their hands anything of sound like this

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you know in the bedrooms where I love them sorry yeah the bedrooms like that.

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That's it he just nod his head like that. Or like this. He got he did like this. This is not like this like this. Yeah.

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Yeah, no, that's like the process of them said don't make your greeting have a salaam aleikum with sign language unless you cannot talk or you are in the salon.

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If you're in the salon, you cannot say what alikum salon you use sign language to reply. And I will show you now how

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cotton abuse will allow it was

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not among us who imitate other than us. Lisa Minam and Tasha Bab Irina,

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very beautiful. He said that the people the book when they give something of Salaam with the sign with their fingers in their hands should know you should say Sam, verbally because like what just said. He told you that if you do like this what action you take what reward you take, but he says Assalamualaikum warahmatullah Faris

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There is a meaning you can relate to the meaning. There is there is a message when you say assalamu alikum it's not like when I say to you like that what's up

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and instead of saying I Salaam Alaikum warahmatullah I pray that Allah has mercy and blessings and peace be upon you.

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And you replace those with a sign there is no benefit in the sign.

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So here

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also

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there is a hadith was mushkin

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which is in every cell allowed to sell a model of MST do a two minute Nisa equal route

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for alpha d bit asleep, the tender Mrs. Allen passed by a group of woman and he made the sign of setup. So all of a sudden Debbie Salim here did assign, he did not say that's what basically, as Matt said, he only we show his hand as if you're giving us a set up.

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So no, no, no go to him. Allah said, this is a hudy that mackaninee there's a we have to understand it. Because now he did something, which is not supposed to be done. And no to him, Allah said, it looks like in the visa, some of them said it, and he used his hand. So from this, we know that if you use your hand, while you are saying it, it is permissible. So I said, I said I'm already using my hand or whatever sign you on it. So article, whatever you want to do. So you can use the handling though. But you cannot without verbal, verbally saying it. It's not you have to say it verbally. From this also we know that that's why I said that military greeting is benign. It's not

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in the military greeting. That is no cinematical. When an officer meet a soldier how the soldier in the officer greet each other.

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salute him without saying anything as not a lot. And Islam. He should sue them but he can do whatever you want. Is it like this? But he said well, so Santa Monica amatola.

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In the end, that's what should be the etiquette of Muslims. And I know in some Muslim country that what they do actually they don't they allowed you to say salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah Salaam Alaikum. And he would say to the captain, or the soldier, but some Muslim country, they don't, they just don't want to be like, how, like they don't, they don't adopt the stomach etickets they just copy other people. That's why nobody saw don't imitate others, because those other don't have the same guidance that we have as Muslims.

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They What if you walk into the room

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and you find your mother prank?

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You find your brother praying? You find someone praying in the masjid? Do you give them send them while they're praying?

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The vast majority

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of the Muslim scholar said it is allowed as long as you're not going to cause disturbing to the mustard. Or you know, if you say that you're not gonna cause that person who praying to do something wrong in the salon? Because remember, so I'm assuming. So for example, Omar doesn't know the rules.

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I go to Santa Monica.

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Or Han or Jonas or

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then I say salonica, then is it

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his salon will be invalid you can say right? So as long as I know the team knows the rules, I can but if I am thinking he cannot, I should not confuse the person. Otherwise you're allowed to give ceram to the person who prays and there is plenty of evidence for that.

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Abu hanifa Rahim Allah and the Hanafi said it is actually dislike to give Salaam to someone who was engaged in Salam. Why because the worry about disturbing but to Jammu said if you know the T knows the rules, you can say

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them How do you reply to someone give you some water Frank and write a shot or volunteer prayer or obligatory prayer. How can you reply to my setup?

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How do you do that? Listen, and I'm delighted numero de Allahumma rasulillah salam ala tibba you saw LiFi

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he brings up about some

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unsolved came to him while he's praying. So the greet him by saying As salam aleikum, so they give Salaam to the oil price.

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faultily VLAN kafer are at rasulillah salam Yara

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and how they used to reply to them. You know when the prosom go to Aruba

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he used to go there on when his day some of us

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when you go talk about to pray, and unsought used to come to give him Salaam and sometimes he come while he's praying and they give him set up. So I'm gonna ask Bella, how did you see the process of applying?

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Then he said, Yes.

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He do like this. Well, muscletech a fell Java. Private Howdy, Basilica fell with Jana Wagner, who in a spell or Java LFO. So the process of reply by saying if you praying and somebody gave you, Sam, how you reply, Omar, and yours, you're like this.

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You go like this. So the palm down, and you don't say anything with your mouth? You just still like this?

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Yeah, like this. And you come back tight. Oh, also. And so he brought the Allahu and he said, I passed by the Salah was praying, and I gave him set up.

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And the prophets of Salaam replied with me with the sign.

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I think it was a sign with his finger.

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Like I gave us out here and apply by

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just not to the whole palm behind with the finger only.

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Also, Eben Massoud said, I passed by the prophet wise praying, and I give him Salaam. And I saw him nodding his head. He didn't use his hand. So we have three integrations, one of them that he did like this, and that's common. In it more than several times he was seeing doing this. And one incident, he used his finger as assigned for applying. And one time he uses that. And remember him Allah said, it shows that you can reply with a sign that the other person will understand that you're replying to send them without verbally replying

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in any form.

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And some other said know, the process seldom use the hand when he was standing.

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But maybe use the finger when he was making suit

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or record. And maybe he was the head because his hand he couldn't use his hand. So he said based on your situation, you're allowed to use a sign

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as a form of reply, but you cannot say it verbally.

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Because we're not allowed to speak or to talk in the salon. Allah said we're in the locker and that's I mean, Emery Allah have made a rule and letter Cal mo fissara you're not allowed to talk in the salon.

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There is a hadith in some widowhood. This Hadith is very weak. So don't let someone

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tell you Oh, this is not correct. Why he tell you there is a Huddy that individual solemn said whoever made a sign in Salah. That is understood.

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This sign is like is the replacement of word and if you see it you understand what this person trying to say. That person should repeat his solo vitamin ash out of his shot into from failure. It's like this honey, he shouldn't be there. And a good old Rahim Allah said that Hadith one this hadith is not authentic.

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Like Assam is a form of

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when I say a Salaam Alaikum I'm making sure I'm praying for you.

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Okay.

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And also it is a greeting. I agreed you that's why it's talk a dialogue. I talked to you expecting what reply from you. But when we say Assalamu alayka Rasul Allah, in Tisha hood, that's not a dialogue. That's

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when the Sahaba say Salaam Alaikum in the process of Psalms in in front of them or not, the prophet didn't look back

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on the Salah.

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Because if they were talking to the Prophet, their Salah will be invalid. Same thing when you go to the cemetery. Assalamu alaykum Allah Dr. When he says salaam aleikum, all the people of this land, you're not greeting them because they cannot hear you and reply to you. You are saying Oh Allah, shower them with your peace. It's a form of drama.

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In a form of communication with the dead, because we don't talk to the dead and the thought and the dead talk back to us, we don't do that. That's why when you go to the cemetery, you don't talk to the dead, you don't say to your brother or father or whoever died, you talk to them and you as if you like compensation, that's not a lot.

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They don't, they're not going to be able to communicate with you.

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Even if they hear you, they don't hear you in a way where they can respond.

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So,

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these are the issue

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that I have for you in regard to

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giving Sam and seeing as salaam alaikum. And this points that we mentioned is about 30 different points. In the B cell Elias lm said,

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What either the ARCA ajeeb and if he invited you

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answer or accept his invitation.

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What that means invited you to what

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invited you for what to eat at his home? Or invited you for a feast? Any invitation?

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Yeah, Nikita,

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Allah de open the heart of you know,

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Kabir and he said, Kindle by mistake. He said, publisher Holly that my home? I'm cooking for you today? Yeah, no dumble I

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Oh, man, he do. He does the best one. I shall say kid that came out. He said come to I have to answer that.

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So any invitation?

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Hey, we're making Halloween tonight come over.

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So I am obligated to go to eat.

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Hallelujah.

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Okay. Or the process of them said either the ACA ajeeb. In relation to a limited resource

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to the feast of the wedding Yami.

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Got married.

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Your son got married.

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Your son got married. Okay. And he invited me for his

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for his marriage.

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Is this dorm that the press I'm referring to or any kind of invitation?

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I can tell you, the overwhelming number of scholars I couldn't now think of any scholar said that this apply to any invitation.

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The overwhelming of scholars, all of them almost agree that this is only restricted to the issue of what

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the feast of the wedding when limited else.

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And the set for the wedding. It is must

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its watch. So if someone invited you to the wedding, it You must answer that invitation. And that's the majority of that scholars. And that's the position of Hanafi Shafi, Maliki Hanbury and Mr. Barr and vava Hurry, and some random acclaim there is a consensus even on boss, but there is no consensus. Okay.

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But even Abdullah bar will call the armed and now he said it's agreed upon between all the scholars. If somebody invited you to the well to the wedding feast, you must answer it.

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Okay.

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And the Shafi said it's for the iron

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it's a must upon every individual, the hanabi that said it's for the key fire. If you know that is some people will go to the feast and to the wedding feast house, you don't have to go.

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You only have to go if you know nobody showing up except you leave.

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That's F, F and Hannibal. I said that's F, the invitation is general. Yanni, somebody comes here in the mustard and he said, by the way, all the people in the class, you're invited to my wedding.

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And I believe that in this case, if some will go the rest doesn't need to go. But the handler said if he come to you and he said, Brian, I'm inviting you to my wedding, the Annapolis that you must go.

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You see how this time because it'd be so seldom said either

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Lima failure to Fallujah

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to delta either do E to all these words in from the possum said clearly if you are invited answered come respond okay

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and in Debbie solemn said woman taraka da cerca de la hora sada and those who do not show up have disobeyed a lot in his message of sort of Lawson and this halifa say, hey Bukhari Muslim,

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the worst of feast are the one that you invite the rich and you don't invite the poor, and whoever is invited and didn't show up, is have have disobeyed Allah and His messenger. So the law of audio it was sent by

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there is another opinion that it is highly recommended to answer that wedding feast, the invitation to the wedding feast. And that's the opinion I choose. And that's the opinion of shall stand between me or him Allah as well. And it is one relations among that pan abita why

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and basically, and that's also some Maliki some Shafi said that why they said because number one answering or coming to the feast or the wedding feast

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it is a bet that the minute I doubt or macadam lock, listen it's among the manners and you know it's not an act of worship that became must upon the person and it is just among the good manners and these are things which is recommended if you look at that the way the [???]ty a build its ruling doesn't fit to say it is watch

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if you look at how the Sharia established all the ruling, this became something of the recommended act that you should do. As for the heavy the prob the big problematic is the head either say hain Abu hurayrah he said he this obeyed. Allen has messaged us also

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in law said that the profits are solid misstatement is the worst of feast, the one that you invite the rich and you leave the poor.

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The addition and those who don't answer the when those who don't answer the invitation, this obey the law has messengers in that edition. It is from Abu huraira not from the process Allah Cardona movement cannot karamea line where a man can I mean Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so it is his opinion his t hat.

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As for the other Hadith, if he invite you answer him, that's because it's recommended for you to do so. But in any way, I would say. If you are invited to a wedding feast, you make sure you do your best to go as long as this wedding feast is held at

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any one time I was invited to a wedding.

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I was invited to attend and to give a talk.

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By the time I arrived, I found a belly dancer in front of me.

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So I made a U turn left.

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I don't have to answer someone.

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Okay. So Zephyr so in this How am I you are allowed not to go. There is mixing there is in a way that is not allowed. Or there is alcohol or there is like you know things like those you are you have that reason for you not to attend

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type.

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And also, I want to sign

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when he invite you answer the invitation.

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It means that you show up but it doesn't mean that you have to spend the whole night.

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So if you invited me and it goes inside como block, do I have to set until to eat because one time many time I go to wedding, they told me it's not count until each year. That's not sure. If you eat the XML feed every day, it's better

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it because responding to the invitation levels, the minimum level is to show up

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and to show our support higher than that is to set that to eat and do you know even go all the way to the desert.

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Also, I want to cite

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it is

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among the good manners. If you

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You're not going to show up for the wedding, that you apologize

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that you say I'm not coming.

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Why? So you don't open the door for the Shabbat. And you ask for an your brother to excuse you.

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If this is the case, I want to say also, that when you invite people for a wedding, make sure that in your intention,

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anyone doesn't show up is forgiven?

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Because the majority said it's must.

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So you put me in big habit. And sometimes people have a wedding that I see. I don't know them very well. He comes in he said, check this invitation.

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Oh my god, I have to I'm now stuck. What if I take the opinion watch.

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And also, if you cannot attend, you can tell the person from the beginning Hey, I'm sorry, I cannot attend. I can promise. So at least to be in the safe side not to be responsible for it.

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I would like to say also that inviting you today people invite each others with

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me ask you a question. Do you guys think it is still a common practice? people today that the print the invitation card?

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It's getting less and less that's old style. That's right old fashioned. Yeah, it's still less than less. I want to make a couple of things about this invitation letter that people send you like the print, sometimes they waste so much money.

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And in the end, all of them ended up wire, trash. Also, some of them put verses in the Koran or Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. And with this, you trash it, and it has vs. It has Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim. So make sure you avoid any Arabic texts with a last name mentioned.

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Okay. Three. One of the cool things I found of invitation. And I know some community member here in our community did that a long time ago when I suggested that they used CDs in the time where CDs were common. So the CD is actually the invitation. It says I invite you to my daughter wedding and my son blah, blah, everything written on the CD and the CD itself. It's on or it's a lecture or does you know the car you know, so people will use this in the future and it will be beneficial to just wasting you know, papers. So some people do that. And today a lot of people do what the E invitation Okay, you just basically invite people electronically and

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what do you do if that wedding has hot arm stuff?

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What do you do? Should you should you go or do you don't go let's say that it's things hot I'm in the wedding let's say music's loud I'm still playing for men

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say that again?

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Yeah

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yeah that's a that is a nun Muslim wedding or family or convert or co workers and definitely there is things is not allowed Come on alcohol stuff like that. What do you do? In this case is it it can show up and say Congratulation, give the gifts and leave was not allowed is to be participating and drinking or socializing and loved sunsun you know being part of it, but you can go society. Hey, Congratulation, and even if it's a relative, you can go on you know, give greed them Hey, how you doing? And leave like this belly dancers wedding I told you about when I went in. I was like, shocked, actually, when I went. So what I did, I didn't just leave. He didn't know the person. I

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made sure that he knows that I came. And I had a gift and he put it on the table and they left.

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So you don't have to purchase but sometimes you have to stay. What if it's your brother? What if it's your uncle? What if it's somebody near like dear to you, close to you. In this case, you avoid the hot arm as much as you can.

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Sometimes it's your own wedding. And you can control it.

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He had to go back to get to like that. And like his friends.

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You You can go and give your portfolio dirty but you're not allowed to stay in a place that is haram where you don't have to stay you have to leave the place you fulfill your duty and you leave

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let's end with verse this also rules apply to Muslim or non Muslims so it is from the good manners a non Muslim invited to answer their invitation all sorts of good manners when somebody invited you at General at their home for food that you've come doesn't need to be wedding or at the restaurants or at their you know, no

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any

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What about Can I invite you to my friend who invited me

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let's say Mashallah avoided invited me to his house

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and I bring with me up. He didn't invite him up. I showed up at a bring with me.

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in Abuja Salaam did the same thing.

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He showed up at the person's house, and he said, I have with me guests.

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Would you give them the permission?

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So you take a permission, he said, You are welcome. And your guests are welcome as well.

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But Johnny, please be sensitive.

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And if you know it's hard for the person, you know, don't embarrass the person. Okay. And

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there's one thing about Santa Monica, if none Muslim give you Sam,

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what you said

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sometimes I Muslim politicians all the time.

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You give them salami. sidhwani. Come, Sam.

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He said salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa salam Rahmatullah.

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ambassade around, not around. Tell me May Allah bless you also may Allah bless you too.

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Hello parini from Baraka lovick to Africa Barak

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and also in the B cell Eliza Lam.

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He said As salam o Allah Allah tala for Buhari to a group of people Muslim and non Muslim sitting together, he agreed all of them by Solomonic Allah because remember, it's a form of what can be better than a loved one is mercy and blessings on someone.

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They What about if somebody said no, you should say why they come.

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in Ibiza Salam sidoarjo A come to those who used to tell him Somali come

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what

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Samadhi Sam, it means death upon you.

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Sam, it means death upon you. But it sounds like what? Salaam so the person didn't know did they say salon or spa. So the process of them said was Same to you.

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He said if they said a salon peace, so peace to you. And if they said death, it means death to you. And Allah would accept from us on

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this is beautiful. That is one thing you learn about. You learn from this hobby. Other than cinema, the issue of cinema which is you avoid as much as you can want confrontation.

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We're not looking to start a confrontation.

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You know if the Prophet said Why would you say something? They would say what I didn't say SAP you heard me wrong, and it will back and forth. You're not gonna go anywhere. So cut it off. Say Same to you and move on.

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So

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then can you greet non Muslim with a Salam Alikum you initiated in Ibiza Salam said and that's the correct opinion as Abraham Allah said if number so by himself you don't initiate the greening by say a Santa Monica culatta don't know salatu salam very explosive do not start but you start with other than sir America you can say hi, how you doing WhatsApp or whatever you want? mahabang anything you want.

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Okay, and some other LMS said no. You're allowed to say cinema you can even do them to start with if they understand and that's part of their culture.

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And the last part Allah knows best. So the last one Yes.

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Can I attend a wedding or sit on a table of there is alcohol on

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table, the person should avoid sitting on a table or the alcohol sir,

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should avoid only allowed to sit on that table if there is if I have to be there. And there is no other alternative.

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Let's let's assume there is a situation where I have to be, I cannot leave, and I can't find alternative. In this case,

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I manage my own space.

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I don't pass it, I don't serve it I, because serve me there are certain scenarios where I have to be there.

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Like for example, some demands,

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their deadlines, and they will be in a gallery where they don't have the luxury to make choices.

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You know, and I get this question quite often from people, ambassadors and people of that nature. And we tell them, you do your best, but you can't, you can't.

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Or some managers, some, like some business also deals, sometimes you can get out of it.

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In this case, we say he took a lot homicidal thoughts, and we feel a lot of coding do your best. Like, sometimes also,

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the only space is available for you to eat or to consume like food, or it might be a place where like an airport.

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If you go to Houston airport, now they have this

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tables in the middle, like a long table. And you people sit on it. It's one table, but it's very long table. And I sitting that day working on it waiting for my flight on somebody in the left on the right. coming with their drinks.

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You know, we're all in the same table.

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But it doesn't mean I have to leave.

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You see some certain scenarios could be like that.

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Yes, I'm on

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now, because like what you heard me it's a sinner only to do go so it is not a sin not to go. So you can but you should apologize and said I can because my son is sick.

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Yeah, sure, but let him finish up.

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Okay, if somebody greeted me with their own greeting, I, if this greeting does not include any type of praying to God or praying to other than a law or any religious meaning behind it, or should it be behind it,

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it's okay. But as a reply to them, it's like somebody told me

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punch or punch or it's a culture so it's you reply to them in the same manner.

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I remember in India for example, I got in trouble because I said I was in Kerala down south. So I said Vanakkam

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I guess nobody from India

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Vanakkam which is a Tamil, which is a way of greeting. So some people get upset that you know, this is a God and deity and little villages out it became a whole debate for three days between people around me, is this religious or non religious?

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So I said, if it's an illusion, I apologize. I should have not done it. But I asked before and I was told was just a grieving. And well that's what it looks like. For me. It's just a grieving.

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Yes, final.

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Not

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in our offices, and then

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everybody is supposed to be

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I do believe that this kind of gathering like

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Thanksgiving gathering.

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Let's put the Christmas on the side a little bit that most of the rest of them are social gathering. Okay, and I don't believe there's a problem with bringing food in person. When it comes to Christmas. The scholars today have two positions. Some of them believe some of them believe that this is a social gathering is not normally significant behind it. Especially the one happened the business it is Christmas became a very social issues. There's no nobody praying or like associated with religious rituals or anything like that. It's not part of its ritual even to have a party. It's a cult

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thing.

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In this case, he said it's like any culture auction, so you're not allowed to attend to participate in it and the food and some said, No, it still have a religious connotation attached to it. And the Muslims should not be part of a religious, any non Islamic religious options. So the person should avoid this one in particular is like Easter that is a Easter dinner like somebody like that you avoid that has two opinions exists. I feel more if it's a social gathering, I don't feel it's a religious gathering in most of the cases, but in some certain

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companies certain gathering could be a religious motive. And so I'll let the person make that judgment based on what he sees on the center. Okay, I'll take that question. And as an individual, you're asking a question today, so I'll give you

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you should leave and if you couldn't leave you stay away from the hot arm stuff.

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You basically it doesn't mean Christianity. Jews are Muslim or it can be Muslim anything, but you just don't be part of doing what's hot on go play outside.