Channel: Wael Ibrahim
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My dear respected brothers and sisters in Islam inshallah I'm going to deal with today's topic in two parts inshallah. So, the first part of my lecture will be dealing with case studies, stories that have witnessed myself people who come and relate to me their agony, their problems regarding sexual immoralities and the negative impacts that have been left
on them the scars that were left on them and how some of them their lives completely were unfortunately destroyed.
And the second half would be inshallah practical tips on how can we inshallah make positive changes in our lives to make some corrections? Because again, I would repeat what I said yesterday, everyone in the room knows very well.
That sexual immorality is something abhorred something that is prohibited in Islam, so we don't need to remember to to repeat that again and again.
You see, a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
and he told him all messenger of Allah and that that man is a Muslim is a companion, one of those Sahaba one of the greatest people ever existed. And he told the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam allow me to commit adultery.
Can you imagine? The man coming to the prophet SAW Selim asking for permission to commit one of the major sins of the adultery? Now, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam could have easily told him, it's wrong. Don't you know what the Quran says about adultery? Don't you know the punishment that was revealed in the Quran about those who commit adultery, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam knew that the man is not coming to ask whether the act is halal or haram. The man simply was having an issue was having some weakness in his heart about unlawful woman.
So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam used a different approach, a different approach, to wake up that men and to facilitate his ways so that he can do the right thing.
So when the mantle the prophet SAW Selim, allow me give me permission to commit adultery, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked him questions, Arthur dahulu omic Do you accept this to happen to your mother?
He said, No.
How about your sister? Would you like this to happen to your sister? He said no, even to your aunt, your relatives? He said no. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam reasoned with the man and he told him other people don't like this things to happen to their mothers, sisters, and so on and so forth.
So telling you that Zina is haram wouldn't help those people who are actually infected with Xena it wouldn't help you to not solve your problem if you knew that it's Haram.
Or if you heard me saying it's haram haram haram haram because unfortunately amongst our people, may Allah and he save us all a mirrorless pinata Allah grant us the right understanding and the right you know that the
Wisdom so that we can deal with those people who have who need help in this area. Whenever these issues arise, do you find those haram hunters I call them the Haram hunters you know every time you speak or every every time you do something wrong, you find somebody telling you haram
okay then what what is the solution? Some of them they have you know the harem gun in the waist like everything.
And some of them even have the the automatic harem gun. You know the nose, no chance for you just speak
Yanni for our brothers and sisters who are engaged in dour, engaged in the community, you know, spreading goodness.
make things easy on the people.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he sent two of his companions to Yemen inviting people to slam he gave them any In my opinion, one of the best advice that we should adhere to and we should always have in mind, he told them, he has Sera
Sera Sera Hola, tuna Farah. Wha wha wha la Khalifa?
You're going to invite people to goodness to Islam. So make things easy on the people do not make things difficult on them what the Shira and give people good news before giving them harsh news telling them tell them what is halal first before listing down to them what is haram?
Talk to them about gender before scaring them by talking about Hellfire watertower and cooperate with one another. Unfortunately, in our time today, even those people who are working in, in our organizations in Islamic organization, we who supposed to be doing the same work for the sake of Allah, even them they can't cooperate with one another in the same field. Unfortunately, and sadly,
a lot of times fine do not contradict each other.
So whenever you find someone who's infected with these issues, be kind to them.
Learn from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, how he dealt with this man who came and asked him about committing adultery. And later on the prophet SAW Selim place his hand over his chest and he said yeah, Allah remove the love of unlawful woman meaning you know indulging in these things from his heart and after that the man was cured. So, the first part of the lecture will be about real cases that happen and then we will give some such some reminders from the Quran and the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. The second part would be inshallah the practical tips What should we do in sha Allah to become better and to improve until we stay away from these
The first story on the list was happened few years back, when a brother of mine gave me a call, he gave me a call. And I noticed immediately from the first Assalamualaikum, that he was not sound right. There was something wrong. So he told me that his brother, a young brother in the community had passed away.
So I told him in the law, you were in a layer on your own, we belong to Alon to him when she returned, and the brother was so down, like his voice was so sad, and he was a bit, you know, down and I reminded him of, Hey, this is true, this is gonna happen. I thought that I was, you know, comforting him. But he said, That's not the issue. I know. I know. So what's wrong? He said, he died in a hotel room.
They discovered his body in a hotel room.
And the girl who was with him, she left a a note at the reception. And she ran away she disappeared.
And the note says that while we were engaging in sexual activities, he collapsed. And he passed away
and allow him my brothers and sister when I heard this, I said, Yeah, Allah. We just mentioned one of the narrations yesterday, that the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam said, that the one who dies upon any action will be resurrected on the day of judgment upon the same action. I was asking ALLAH, grant us a beautiful end,
and make our last deed the best before we meet you.
So what are the chances for those who engage in these activities that the Angel of Death might strike anytime and the Angel of Death doesn't knock doors, he doesn't seek permission from you. He will just come and take your soul by the command of Allah subhanaw taala. But this was not the whole story.
The whole story finished by
When the brother mentioned the name of this young man, he told me, this is the brother who passed away.
And I was shocked. I told him, I'm going to call you back. Because few months back before this incident, this brother came to me
24 years old.
And he opened up to me about his struggles. And he told me that he's suffering from internet addiction, particularly explicitly pornography.
And he has been addicted since he was eight years old. Like he was hooked on porn when he was that young.
And he remained in that cycle for all these years.
And as I mentioned yesterday, briefly in the q&a, once you're addicted to pornography, what happens is
the person himself or herself, because many people think that this is a guy thing, this is a man thing. No, there are also sisters who are infected with this problem, may Allah save us all.
The problem is that
once you are hooked on porn, there is a chemical reaction, a hormone that fires up in your brain reminding you of this activity. So if you like sweet food, there is a hormone that pops up in your brain reminding you of eating sweet like me, I love sweet, so I always keep on eating sweet. That's why I'm expanding in a little island.
That that hormone called dopamine, one of the chemicals, or the hormones in our brains that is responsible for your pleasure, responsible for your happiness and excitement.
Now, those who are addicted mostly don't know about this, all what they know is that they are out of control at the moment of sitting in front of their computers, and browsing these websites and these images.
They don't want it but they can get rid of it.
Most people who emailed me regarding this matter, they always start their introduction by saying, I have tried my best to quit, but they I cannot. I don't know what to do, because you have been training your brain
for many years
to see these images. And the problem is, as I said yesterday,
you will start with one type of pornography or a doubler. And things will get worse, day by day, month by month, it will get worse. You're not happy with what you're watching anymore.
until you reach to the point that you're not satisfied whatsoever with what you're watching on the screen. You want the real thing you want to act out now. And that would happen to the brother. That is exactly what happened with him. And he was telling me that he had committed this act of Xenon, I had a couple of times because of pornography.
And the last act was what?
I pray for that brother will lie. Because I said they are a lie. You know that he was weak, you know that he was fighting? You know that he was trying to repent and go back to you you know that. So show mercy to him have mercy upon his soul.
The grieving thing that happened to this brother is that no one in the community wanted to offer janessa for him.
I was praying for him and I I asked Allah spirit Allah to forgive him and overlook his sins because he was weak he wanted to change. And may Allah subhanaw taala accept we never know. We never know. But the lesson is my brothers and sisters, if Allah subhanaw taala have showed mercy to that brother, will he show mercy to you?
If Allah subhanaw taala decided to forgive that brother and to wipe out his sins because you are struggling and fighting, will that exact scenario happen to you? The answer is unknown. We don't know. So what are the chances for us to die Upon doing that which is shameful? And what are the chances for us to die doing that which is beneficial and pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala we have to consider that really seriously.
Many people are taking things for granted.
The danger thing is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam informed us that the man or the woman who commit adultery at the moment, at the moment of committing adultery, they are not believers. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said an adulterer is not a believer at the moment of committing adultery.
Eman is taken away from you faith is taking away from you right there at that very particular moment. And as we said also briefly yesterday, many people when we say is dinner, the
Always think about the actual act of intercourse, the Haram activity. Many people think that this is the Haram but watching people having intercourse is Hillel.
Yeah. Then people think this way.
Well, I receive sometimes horrible emails that I can reply I can, you know, I don't know what to say. Assistant is complaining that her husband is pushing her to watch actually these things so that they can enhance their sexual activities. He's inviting her his own wife to watch that which is unlawful for his own pleasure. The thing that this has had, it's better than Xena.
Wala hate is never better than Xena. It will lead you to Xena.
hundreds of emails from brothers who are already married
because of the act of pornography because we cannot protect the gays. They don't look into the Hillel rather they look at the harem. Even though next to them are the lawful wives that Allah subhanaw taala had blessed them with still they go out and they commit Zina with other people.
So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said he man will be you know taken away from you at that very particular moment. When you look at these things when you watch these haram when you go out with your boyfriend, boyfriend, girlfriend, I love him, brother.
What can I do? I love him the power of love.
And sometimes the people will ask us questions like you know, they wanted us to give them what they want. Brother Can I try with chat with my boyfriend? I don't touch his hand. just chatting. What do you say, sister?
You know, you know? Why are you asking me because she wants a permission from someone with beard.
Yeah, she wants a permission. Yeah, go and go and chat. That's what you heard. Like the example I gave about the cigarette, the man who wanted to quit smoking. Who wanted to you know who came attacking me say Don't tell me Tom.
So what do you want me to tell you and eat eat bananas?
What do you want me to tell you? It's Haram. All the scholars around the world say it's wrong because you're damaging your own body that Allah had given you. A Hold on.
Again, in another nation, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said when a man fell in adultery when someone commits adultery, fate leaves him leaves his heart and overshadow him but if he frees himself, then his faith will be restored. So the point here there is a chance and hamdulillah there is an opportunity for you to repin Allah subhanaw taala and the Quran boulia Iberian Latina Surah
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boo, Rafi, la, la Santa Santa, tell them oh Mohammed Salah Lawson, tell them tell my slaves who have transgressed against their own souls who have committed sins day and night especially when they're alone, secretly doing that which is displeasing to Allah which is abhorred, which is harm and yet Allah is giving you a chance after chance. He did not yet cause you to die upon that haraam. Tell those people who have lost hope. despair, not from the mercy of Allah my brothers and sisters so long as we are breathing, there is a chance for correction. There is a chance for repentance Allahu Akbar.
Indeed, Allah is the most forgiving, Most Merciful.
On another occasion, a sister came with her mother.
And the mother was crying while ly it makes my heart bleeds.
What is the story system? She said, It's my fault. The mother started by saying it's my fault. She admitted that what happened to her daughter is actually her own fault. What was the problem? The sister, the daughter started to speak. She said I grew up watching movies with my parents, watching, you know TV series every day.
My mother all of a sudden when I was 18 or 19 years old, she became more religious. My father became more religious and they don't want me to watch movies. They don't want me to watch TV series but it was too late.
With the rise of devices, internet devices and so on so forth. I will go and sneak and watch movies and watch TV series. They
and I became addicted to them. And that is the danger of movies and TV series and MTV songs and music and so on so forth. Unconsciously you will imitate their actions in real life later on.
You will imitate their actions if you don't, you know, quit these things will lie. The first thing the first incident will take place in your life. Unconsciously you will fall into the same you will act out what happened in in these movies and I have two two stories and he happened to me as well. In the dark days, I used to love Indian movies.
when I was young Indian movies were like wow. Yeah. And don't tell anyone about this. Okay.
Between us, yeah. So Indian movies, and
the actor that is loved the most at that time was Amitabh Bachchan Okay, so he's the most popular actor actor in India Bollywood stuff. And there was that movie that one movie that left a memory in my brain for so long I watched that movie like plenty of times it was called murder. So, that movie started like this The man is trying to protect his you know village and his family and his infant child from those Britishers were coming to attack that village. So he put his wife on a horse and he wanted to give her the son but he is afraid that maybe they will get lost so he wanted to create a sign on his son's body so that he can remember him later on recall him or make an identification
about him when he seemed later on. So out of all ideas in the world
and he could have put a reborn he could have write something marker or something like that. Out of all these ideas he choose the most awkward idea he took a knife a knife and he was an infant. And he stopped writing the the you know the name of that child on his chest with the knife mirth
and the blood coming out from that infant the little flesh and the boy was crying and the music the effect of the music our beloved the lady there is in the in these in the movies anyone used to watch any movies or is that your hand
so there is that lady that old lady who always the brought her the bring her always in these movies to sing in the background to create that emotion. And she while the music is running, and she's like that, ah, you know,
and the people are crying and my mom is crying and I'm telling mom we have problems already. Why are you crying? Why are we bringing these movies here?
Anyway, the lady took her son and she ran with her horse and the boy was in the river you know up and down and and she fell down and she became blind and anyway 30 years later the writing 30 years later I mean that became a grown man the writing still there.
But it's it's now metal. It's not it's not blood anymore. It's It's It's iron.
Don't go watch that movie. Okay, so
one night I woke up
and when I woke up, my brother says, Hey, this is a true story. I will give you my sister's telephone number you go and she's a witness. And I woke up one night. I am Amitabh Bachchan.
No one could have ever convinced me at that time that I'm while Ibrahim. I was Amitabh. I was actually not Amitabh, I was mud.
And I walked through the toilets. And I searched in my father stuff. And I found that little blade and I looked into the mirror
and the music started working in my brain.
And I wrote on my chest Mark
but at that time it was in Arabic you know.
This is this is how these movies have gotten impact on you.
And if these scenes are sexual by nature, you will do the same while law he will do the same. We are learning from these dirty movies, we are learning from them. And we are applying the these actions in real life.
This sister and her mother
told me that there was a TV series that was very popular. And I believe if I mentioned the name of that TV series, and if I said how many of you have watched it? I am 100% sure that the majority of the people in this video will raise their hands
TV series runs for 10 years.
And in this in this TV series, the people, the actors and actresses were bonding together for a long time. They were neighbors. They were living together actually. And in that TV, Yeah, I know.
And in that TV series, everyone have committed sexual immorality with every other one. All of them. We exchanged each other that and this is one of the favorite ever TV series ever produced the most successful and who watched them who are watching them Muslims? Be honest. And this sister was addicted to this TV series, and she watched it many countless time.
And in the campus and the university,
she got to know that man.
She fell in love with him. And she said, touching his heart, we just sit together, okay. We sit together a couple of days touching, become Hillel.
But hugging his heart A
few weeks later, hugging is okay. But that's it. Okay? No more. After that sexual immorality started and it becomes the norm. It becomes okay. Because I love her, she loved me and so on and so forth. The impact of these things upon you, my brothers and sisters,
is what Allahu Allahu alight lie, you will never become a good Muslim, you will never become a better Muslim, while watching these things. They are programming you, especially these TV series that comes every day on a particular time. These studies psychology, they know, they know how addiction actually is formed.
They tell us that addiction is something if you if you want to be addicted, and this is not a tip, but this is how the people discovered that addiction is actually formed by performing a certain action regularly on a certain time every day or every week on a particular time. That's why those who are addicted to pornography. When I asked him what time are you normally watching they say past midnight when everybody's asleep.
Why because not only because there is no one around but he accustomed himself or herself to watch at that particular time. So the dopamine that we talked about earlier will be fired up at that very particular time. What is the cue for that, by the way is to perform a healthier action on at the same time
to perform a healthier action at the same time and to force yourself to do that which is right at that very particular time.
And create that habit that new habit.
One day I was watching a movie I asked you a question yesterday Remember I told you who amongst you watching movie Can we see hands again? And don't worry the Mufti also is not here. Raise your hand if you're still watching movies TV series Don't be shy voila here we are all falling into this era. Okay many people. Okay by show of hands how many of you have watched any movie in your entire life where there is a girl had fallen in love with a boy raise your hand?
How many of you put down your hand how many of you have watched the same movie with the boy who was actually coming from a poor background? But the sister from a very rich background? Raise your hand
they always make us poor Sure.
How many of you have watched the same movie with the boy proposed to marry that girl and he was rejected because of his financial status?
masala masala. It seems that we have watched the same movie.
How many of you have watched the same exact movie where the girl decided to run away and leave her parents for the sake of her boyfriend?
One day I was watching that movie with my grandma.
And in about the Arabic version of the movie I was born in Egypt right? So in every culture, you will see that kind of movie
promoting the harem relationship, promoting it in movies and TV series all the time. Watch any movie you will see a love story there when you will feel crying for
so one day, I was watching that movie and the girl in the movie The actress decided to leave home to run and the boyfriend is waiting for her with flowers.
And if that actor, he's a singer, he will be singing all the time for her. And of course the sisters watching movies. How would you wish to meet a brother who will love me like that? And sing for me all the time.
I want to ask the brothers even if your voice is beautiful. Will you ever sing to the one you love?
And wait for outside say I love you. I love you when you do ever nice things.
That creates, you know, creates a picture in the in the especially in the sisters mind that this is the model that I wanted to marry. This is demand, you know my dream. So the girl entered her father's room wanted to steal his car key so that she can run away with her boyfriend.
So she enter and of course, the director wanted to create that suspense. So the door when it's open, it's like,
and the Father, the father started to turn his side as if he's disturbed with the voice and all of a sudden my grandma raised her hand, y'all Allah.
Don't let the father wake up, please.
this is what they wanted to teach us. This is what they wanted to teach you sisters to neglect your parents for the sake of someone who you just met few weeks few months back.
That's what they wanted to teach your sister to commit illegal sexual activities with with someone who's not your husband, who's not your local husband. That's what they wanted to teach you. So they made my grandma and all of us feel sympathy for the harem?
Yeah, that's why she makes
she's begging a lot. Don't let them wake up. let the girl go with the harem guy.
Can you see the danger now of these the impact of these sexual immorality.
I was just in a particular country, and they told me that there is a boy and a girl they committed suicide together. Why? Because the parents did not allow them to get married. They rejected the marriage. So they killed themselves. Again, from where they got this idea.
It's there in the movies.
It's there in the movies. Of course, this is not a justification to commit suicide. This is something any one of the biggest haram actions in Islam to go to endure your your life by yourself.
And of course, also part of the guilt is shared by parents.
And parents are making things difficult on those who wanted to get married and do the Hillel thing, right?
The exaggeration in asking for doubting formar is something biani I asked you is something How much do you hear the minimum?
The sisters will know better. Because the brothers don't want to pay anyway.
But in many cultures, people are exaggerating and asking for money. So the people the men who are just graduated and they wanted to, you know engage in holiday relationship, they don't see that we are facilitating the halaal for them, so they go for the hurrah. So we cannot put the blame all the blame on youth on youngsters. We should also put the blame on parents who are making managers making the halaal difficult. The Haram becomes very accessible. Very affordable, it's absolutely free. And the halaal becomes much more expensive. And the guys cannot afford what can they do. Parents should come and talk to their children and tell them if you wanted to get Maddie telling me I will help you
out. I hope that this journey something the people here will consider seriously. It's not just about the speech that we came to deliver and go it's really we wanted to create some positive changes in our lives.
The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that whoever fornicating or drink wine Allah takes off his faith from him as a man takes off his shirt from over his head.
So I believe that community share the responsibility here. There is no justification if marriage if marriage becomes difficult, there is no justification for fornication and Zina.
And parents also share part of that guilt by not facilitating the halaal and making it easy on the people. But the bottom line here, if you step, if you cross the boundaries,
then Allah subhanaw taala will take that even the most precious thing Allah has given us along with taking back a Lost Planet. Allah says in the Quran, Allah Yama acmella, to Lacombe colombina como
una de oro de la Kumu Islam Medina, this day I have perfected your religion for you. I have completed my favor upon you and I have chosen Islam for you to be your way of life. Allah subhanaw taala is the one who perfected completed and chosen that faith for us and once Allah subhanaw taala, perfected completed and chosen
His choice is the best.
But if you don't deserve it, I'll always take that back.
I'll always take it back my brothers and sisters, the most valuable thing, the most beautiful favor that Allah has bestowed upon us is Islam. Is that beautiful Deen
that prevents us from worshipping anything besides him the creator of all.
Yet sometimes we just
go with the wind and surrender to our desires. And as a result, Allah would say, okay, no more, no more faith for you know, more demand for you.
Everyone in this venue have experienced at certain points in his life or in her life, the sweetness of faith, the sweetness of a man
may be in a prostration with sincerity.
Maybe in a in a long day. Maybe during reading the poor Andy feel the sweetness of Eman, the tear of the cry from the fear of Allah subhanaw taala every single person of us
but sometimes that feelings is vanished. Sometimes it's not there.
People will come and tell me brother motivate me, give me some advice, give me this motivational, you know, thoses so that I can do something I said my brothers and sisters, you don't need to be motivated to do that which is right, you don't need to be motivated online. If you rely on motivation alone, you are not going anywhere.
Because this conference itself is not going to last more than two days. That's it and we are going back home. And you will be here left alone going back again to your normal life.
So the same feelings that you have today at that very moment and also during this speech is going to fade away. We're just giving you that little push to take an action.
We are the boats, the ships but you are the captain. Without you, you're not going to go any destination.
So motivations alone, if you rely on them, you will never be able to correct and to make positive changes in your life. What is missing here is the action. What is missing here is the willpower.
Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran wakulla Malou. And say, does the Mohammed work hard? Do actions tell them that is the key for success. That is what we need to do is to act not just to be motivated and sit back and listen to an inspirational talk. And then we go home, we switch on the TV, we start doing the same thing as if we have never heard a warning.
As if we have never heard a hadith from the Prophet telling us to stay away from that which is how
we read in the Quran that one of the characteristics of the believers is what are called semi auto on and when the believers hear the commands of Allah, they say what Samana we hear, and we obey. But nowadays the Muslims have become the people of semana only
we listen very well. But when it comes to Obama, when it comes to obedience, we have some difficulties
shaitan Satan ablaze.
He had promised His
shayateen His descendants he had promised that he will crown them and he will honor them and he will make them closer to him
if they were successful, to trick you into that which is prohibited.
So I stayed in goes to a police and tell him that I have been successful
in creating hatred between a husband and a wife and as a result they got divorced. It leads to respond by saying you have done nothing, he will marry again.
And that's normal right men they just marry
another state and we'll come to the police and tell him that I have become successful in making a separation. A hatred between a brother and his fellow Muslim you say you have done nothing they will reconcile. Another one will come to the police and say that I have been successful in making such and such commit adultery
and he said you have done very well. And he will crown that shaitan and he will make him closer to him because of you. You will make sure our team proud. You will make Satan's proud.
Would you want to do that my brothers and sisters.
So those who are into relationships, those who are into boyfriend and girlfriend thing, calling each other day and night texting one another day and night let us let let me be very frank with you.
I never say this is halal or haram because as I said earlier, I am not a scholar. But for this, if you will ask me, I will say absolutely, it's absolutely prohibited. And you know, that's why you're doing it in secret.
And that's why the Prophet sallallahu wasallam in defining sin and good deeds, he said, the sin is that which you do it secretly and you don't want the people to know about it, that is sin.
That is sin.
So if you are serious about this relationship today, tonight, call that person and tell him from now on, we wanted to highlight our relationship. Yeah, if we may use that
word, highlight it, make it local, how to make it local involved, family members, talk to your parents, I'm interested in that person. And I don't want to commit Zina. I don't want to go beyond the limits of Allah subhanaw taala. So help me out.
If you can't stay away from that person, simple as that stay away.
If you want it to be a better Muslim, if you want it to be a productive Muslim.
Learn from the people who run away from just looking at someone who was baiting Salahuddin Abdul Rahman.
One of the young companions, who used to serve the prophet SAW Selim from time to time buying stuff from here buying buy things from him, and so on and so forth. And one day he was going to fulfill one of the requests of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, and he saw a house, you know, the door was open. So out of curiosity, he went closer, and there was a curtain and the curtain was lifted, and he saw a naked woman bathing. That's all. And immediately he remembered Allah subhanaw taala. And he lowered his gaze and he run, what will you do young people, men? What will you do if this happen? There are people who have microscopes now in balconies and Windows just to sneak and see
people who are changing the government's intentionally people will go to watch these things. And now we don't need because the internet is providing it all.
So he ran away.
And he said he will never go back to it and return to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam because for sure, Allah will reveal a core and a verse about me telling the process, that I am a hypocrite. So he ran away weeping. He disappeared, he vanished. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam was worried about him every time he will sit with the companions. He will tell them where is where is. Where did he go? He sent the American manufacturer says he looked for him everywhere. He couldn't find him. After many days, he sent them again to look and he saw people down the mountain and the ask and he gives a description of Taliban ecru do you mean the guy who always cry?
There is a boy with this description is sitting over there in the mountain in the cave. He just come every sunset or sunrise for food and we give him the food and every time he come he cried. So on top of your lawn or lawn, he's other companies they hide behind a rock until he came down and he went up to him what happened? Where did you go? He was so concerned. He told the prophecy. He told the companions did Allah reveal any error about me?
Was the Prophet informed that I am a hypocrite? He said, Well, we don't know. But the prophet SAW Selim wanted you to come over he didn't know Leave me alone. But on top being, you know, masala masala companion. We carried him back. Yeah. Because there's a command to bring him to me.
But he refused to go to the prophet SAW Selim his house. So he went up to his home, crying, crying just because of a look.
And then the
the Merciful, the mercy to mankind the laugh like he went up to him.
Learn my brothers and sisters to be merciful for to those who have committed shameful activities and undesirable behaviors. We have these weaknesses. He went up to him and the Prophet Allah said and told him what happened. Where did you go? He said, did a lot of anything about me? Did Allah mentioned that I'm a hypocrite See? No. He told him no. So he cried the wheat. And the saw Selim said, what he didn't tell him. What did you do? Did you do something wrong? He didn't investigate about the standard. He just let go.
And he put his head the processor and took his head and he sat down and he put his head on his lap. And the man told him, removed my head from your lap almost in general. I don't deserve it. I'm dirty. Say No, just sleep. And he told him almost injure. Voila. I feel like there are ends creeping between my bones and my skin
Prophets Allah Allah Allah so I'm told him Is that what you feel is a yes. So the prophet SAW said and told him this is death. This is death.
And after a while, he took the Shahada and he died. In his funeral the so the Prophet sallallahu Sallam walking on his toes, and the people started to make a space for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam yet the processor and kept on walking on his toes, toes on top of the Aloha norba told him on messenger of Allah, the people already opened ways for you Why are you walking on your toes he say by Allah the angels are attending his funeral there is no space
repent my brothers and sisters before it is too late to repent and then run away because he felt that guilt Have a look at that which is haram. How about you and me how much images movies
and that which is unpleasant, how many times we have seen these things and to an extent that sometimes we say Allahu Akbar in our salah and these images comes to our brain comes to our mind how many times and yet we are reluctant to repent.
the practical part of this lecture in sha Allah will be six things briefly inshallah in the remaining time, six things to do in order for you to create a shift and do you know things seriously inshallah, and we will use the word strife, we will use the word strive to make it easy for you to remember. So each point in sha Allah, each point will be linked to the letters of the word strife. So what is the first letter?
Now wake up? What's the first letter? s inshallah s for seriousness, be serious about making a change, be serious about moving away from that which is haraam? Look at the examples of the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and his companions when it comes to an action that would please Allah subhanaw taala they used to compete.
They used to compete because they know the agenda is for real men. And when I say men here I mean men and woman.
Jenna is not cheap.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that
there is a commodity for Allah subhanaw taala. And that commodity is not cheap. In the sell off Allah is Alia. The commodity of Allah subhanaw taala is very precious is very expensive. And that commodity is general is not cheap, is guaranteed to those who are true to the faith.
Meanwhile, minari, Jalan Sadako Maha de la Holly, among the believers are true men, true women who have been honest and true to their covenant with Allah subhanaw taala. And they never changed any to what Allah subhanaw taala has revealed.
And they never change anything about that covenant. So be serious. Look at how our workers to decode the Allahu anhu or da when we when he was the halifa of the Muslims. He used to go and clean the house of an old white lady clean her house when he was the leader.
With the children, cook for them, wash the dishes. And all the Aloha Anwar used to go after him to see what is he doing. And one day he entered after a walk left and he asked the lady Who's that man who was here with you. She said, I don't know. She didn't know that he was the leader. He didn't tell her. He didn't tell her by the way I'm gonna cook for you wash the dishes and you just vote for me.
She didn't even know that he was above workers to be called the law.
And all the alojado he asked the lady, did you give him any wage any price? She said no. Then he cried. Or mercato cried or the Aloha Norma and he went out and he said that famous quote laqad adopted hola and embody.
You have made it so difficult for the leaders to come after you Oh, that was that was something the different different? So as for seriousness, what is the next letter T is for today and now for today and now to make a decision for today and now to decide to go back to Allah Subhana Allah and to do that which is right. Don't ever wait until tomorrow today and now in that very venue. Make a decision now write it on the notebooks that are giving. today. I'm going to change today I'm going to put a plan to do that which is positive to do that which is Hillel because we wanted to remain upon that path until
The end in sha Allah today don't ever wait for later. The later of yesterday is today.
How many years we've been saying later in sha Allah how many years people wanted to quit smoking always say in sha Allah Pray, pray for me brother.
He will be smoking and blowing the smoke in your face and telling you pray for me Allah guide me. I didn't want to quit really seriously you are enjoying it.
crash that pack in your pocket, crush it and throw it away and say from now on no smoking. You will have a headache a bit a little bit for the thick of a liar. For the sake of Allah have some heading. The companions were tortured will kill and they never complain.
You will have some headache for few days Yaki for the sake of Allah, some of your sins would be wiped out because of that headache because of that laziness. But don't go back to that which is haram. Today is the day. Don't ever delay your Toba or else shaitan will be standing on your grave and laughing at you.
Because you kept on delaying your Toba tomorrow in sha Allah insha Allah insha Allah and as we all know, we use in sha Allah in the wrong way. In sha Allah could means yes.
In sha Allah could means also maybe in sha Allah could means yes and no, I don't know. It's like if you ask somebody Are you coming to the conference? He can tell you in sha Allah.
There is no intention. There is no any intention behind saying inshallah no learn to take a decision. And then say Allah insha Allah. Learn to say I'm coming to the conference, make the necessary arrangements, set your alarms, you decided to come, no one is going to prevent you. After you decided, say insha Allah because maybe Allah is the one to prevent you from coming.
But don't use in sha Allah any lucidly. Today, the next letter is
what is that?
I love the art of the Malaysians was
like neither art nor a it's like something in between
our food for repentance. What is the difference between repentance and asking for forgiveness? What is the difference between Toba and it's the far
Toba is to quit the sin and to commit never to do it again in the future that is Stover, so Toba is related to the future. What is that for seeking a loss forgiveness is to ask a lot of forgive you from whatever you have done in the past. It is as if Allah subhanaw taala wanted us to be in a constant state of repentance and forgiveness, past and future past and future. The Prophet of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as mentioned by Dr. Mohammed Salah yesterday, he himself the chosen one, the best of all creation he himself he used to seek forgiveness every day 100 times. How about you and I? Don't we need to repent. Don't we need to go back to our last panel to repent today and every
day, but start today my brother and sister repentance the next letter.
is the karma. The next letter is for the comma to remain consistently on the straight path
to ask Allah subhanaw taala as the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to supplicate along in the Lucas Tibet or Allah I asked you to grant me steadfastness upon this Deen upon this affair. And I know it is challenging. It is very challenging to remain upon the straight path all the time to be consistent, it's difficult, but there is a key here. There is the key here solution, how to become consistent how to become always on the straight path number one good and righteous company. Those people will those who when you when you meet, they always remind you of a lot of these commands. But if you meet those people will tell you let's go to cinema. Let's do this. Let's
talk to that. Let's look at this. And if these things are haram invitations stay away from those people because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Alomar Allah Dini Halima, a person will be always inclined to follow the religion or the way of life of his friend. So be careful who your friends are. Look carefully. Look carefully in the
index of your phone. Those friends scroll and check the names and try to recall incidents that took place between you and them. And ask yourself are these the true friends that would bring me closer to Allah? Or do you make me stay away from the path of Allah Subhana Allah
and if you want to remain consistent, here is another point do i do do I
The Forgotten tool that Allah subhanaw taala had given the Muslims to change color
the only tool that can change the destiny of Allah
the color of Allah is the supplication your Allah changed me yeah Allah I want it to go back to you. I am weak helped me out. That's why in Surah Fatiha every time we pray we say What?
mustafi Guide us to the straight path. Show me the way. Take me there. Keep me there. That's the meaning of Idina serata was 14 because the prophets Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam informed us that the hearts of people are in between Allah subhana wa tada finger, and he can just flip them the way he wish at any time. So ask Allah subhanaw taala to keep your heart firm. yamo colleyville kulu with Colombia biala Dini or Turner of the hearts, this is one of the eyes of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam you can use it oh Turner of the hearts, strengthen my heart upon your deen make my heart firm, make me like all modern.
man when he embraced Islam, he changed the course of history of the course of Islamic history. It was the first time ever Muslims will be able to practice Islam in the open
because of one man Omar Barbara de la hora. Is the karma. Be like hold up the live know that for me.
And I want to do your homework. So yesterday's homework How many of you have made the homework of yesterday? How many of you have kissed the mother's hand and father's?
Husband alone? Am I lucky? Charla coming tonight is only have two homeworks. Those who didn't do the homework of yesterday will do it today. Now, the homework of today is
two parts. Number one is to memorize that name, the name of that companion Abdullah ignore
me, the man who was sent with more than 300 people or he was captured in one of the battle he and three hundreds of the companion at the time of Omar Katara, the Allahu Akbar. And he was captured by a Christian nation and the Christian King was very interested to convert them to Christianity. So he told him embrace Christianity, and I'm gonna give you half of my wealth. He told him what law he listened to his words. He said, Well, law, if you give me all your wealth, and the wealth of the entire planet, I will never leave the Dean of Mohammed for a blinking of an eye. How firm is that? The jail him. They prevented him from eating food and water for three days.
And at the end, he gave him pork and wine, and he didn't touch them. And they told him you will die you're weak, his neck was twisted out of hunger. He said by Allah, pork and wine in my condition is hollow, because I have no option. But I will never let anyone say that Abdullah had no deficit may have eaten that which is
very firm. And then the scent after him a prostitute. Here is the power of a man
that when when when you see these things you will remain more from you will run away.
The Senate after him a prostitute who ran after him within his cell. And he ran away from her until the girl became bored. And she went out and he she said what? He's a rock.
He's not moving. He's not moving sexually doesn't mean that you have any problem.
It means that he has a man. He's a court. He's like the quality of use of alehissalaam who was running from the wife of Al Aziz because she was seducing him for something really bad. Be like him be like Abdullah he sent me be like Yusuf Alayhi Salam be like Miriam. May Allah be pleased with her be like those people don't look at actors and actresses and then imitate them. They are not our role models. My brothers and sisters wake up. Look at Abdullah hit me the broth to have his companions and the dip them into boiling oil to unextended. The man said that I saw my companions, bones were separated and they were floating on the surface of the boiling oil. Then he cried. And when he cried
the Christian King said, Are you ready now to become a Muslim? He said no. He said so why did you cry? He said I cried because I remembered that I have got only one soul who killed me That's it.
I will just vanish I will just die once. So I wish to have 100 souls so that you can kill me 100 times and every time I will die for the sake of Allah.
Different quality, different quality people, different quality Muslims.
The King gave up and he told up
Like me, okay, I will let you go free on one condition kissed my head. He told him I will never even allow you to kiss my head.
Look how firm and stubborn any one of the stubborn companions muscle, is it okay? Now the king started to looking embarrassed in front of all his soldiers. They can see that because of he man, because of Islam. That prisoner is more powerful than the king.
Because of his firmness and steadfastness, that's what we need.
He told him, okay, kiss my head, and I will let you go free and with you 60 of your prisoners of the prison. He said, No.
He said, okay, kiss my head, please.
And I will let you go on with you. 120 he said no. 300 he said, Okay. Can you imagine? Oh, the whole lot.
And then he told him
and then he went up to him and he kissed his forehead. On the way back to Medina. Some people started to talk about Abdullah. Me.
They didn't like the fact that he kissed the forehead of the Christian king who heard it all meridian hombre de la hora de and he said by Allah, it is a duty upon every Muslim to kiss the forehead of Abdullah hypnagogia Sammy, do you know what is the homework now? Anyone can get the homework. Anyone can get the homework not to kiss my head.
The homework inshallah is that when we get to Jenna, see inshallah see me. Charla May Allah make all the people here in Sharla the inhabitants of gentlemen not any gentleman, with the profits of the licen when we get there and salah and when we meet the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam at the pool, and when we get that beautiful drink that will make us in sha Allah never asked for water anymore. Let us go and look for the law of Nevada Sammy, and let us go up and kiss his forehead that's your homework that you will report in sha Allah in general, I mean, and for the sisters, I think you can kiss him in January and
last two points, I know I run out of time two points. inshallah.
After I Can you remind me of the next letter V. Four virtues be a well mannered person I was talking to one of the shields yesterday and I told him that Mashallah what I like about Malaysians is the manners the ethics, you say? Not really.
I said, No, I never experienced anything. He said, there are certain things here and there that is not according to the manners that are prescribed and practice by the prophet SAW Selim. So we need to improve that you heard Dr. Mohamed Salah, I will never repeat, I will not repeat again when you talk about manners, the manners one of the qualities that will bring you closer to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the last letter is E. And that is for emulating your role models emulating the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the companions back then they will not only emulate the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam in his prayer in his acts of worship, they will
actually and literally they will emulate him in every little thing, to an extent that one day, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was in the battlefield, praying
in the shoes, and all the companions behind him were in the shoes. And all of a sudden the prophet SAW Selim removed these shoes while he's praying. And he continued to pray.
And what happened next, all the companions, they started removing the shoes.
Now, logically speaking, logically speaking, the people behind the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam should ask him later on after they finish the prayer or profitable law. Why did you remove your shoes during the Salah? True, that is the logical expectation.
But none of them open their mouth. None of them asked the process alone. Why did you remove the shoes? In fact, the profit was the one who asked them, Why did you remove your shoes?
So they say we saw you removing them. So we remove them? That was the simple answer that was sufficient for them to obey the messenger of Allah, because we saw you doing them. We did it as well. On the Hata. When he looked at the Blackstone, he said I know that you are a blacklist, that you are your stone you cannot harm nor benefit. And had I not seen the prophets of Salaam kissing you. I would have never kissed you.
We need to go back to that state my brothers and sisters we need to emulate the prophet SAW Selim and his companions only then you would be protected from the devil. Only then you would be protected by a Lost Planet Allah from that evil desires that you are, you know, remembering from time one time to another my brothers and sisters in Islam. I wanted to remind you that if you fell into the sin of Zina into the sin of
All types of Zina whether it is introductory, or whether it's the action itself, introductory referring to relationships, around relationships, in instant messages, what we call innocent that leads to the actual act of adultery and Xena May Allah subhanaw taala save us all. May Allah Spanish Allah make us among the people who hear the commands of Allah and follow them to the best of our ability. desikan la hyaluron was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh