The Role of Women in Dawah

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In Alhamdulillah Nana don't wanna Steinhorn esto fue una tubo la mano Solly wanna sell him Elena Vienna Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi a Jemaine official Assalamualaikum warahmatullah loi what our capital? Okay, my dear sisters, as you know, the topic that I chose to speak about today

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is the role that we as women have to play in the path of the dollar to Allah subhanaw taala. You know, and what are the steps that one needs to take in order to be successful in the dour in sha Allah?

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Because sisters, first of all, we need to realize that, you know, the dollar to a level Tyler is something that Allahu Taala has made compulsory upon us as an OMA, both the males and the females. And it's only when we, you know, fulfill this responsibility of proactively calling to the light of Le SNAM that we become from the best of nations and the leaders from amongst all of mankind, as a level to Allah described us in the Quran, quantum hydro matin, or reject leanness, that Morona Bill Maher Wolfie, what 10 How nanny Moon carry or took me known a biller that you were verily with the best of nations who was raised amongst mankind. What is the reason why we the best of nations

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because that move on to Bill Maher Wolf, you enjoyed the good with tenho nanny Munkar and you forbid the evil will took me on a biller and you believe in Allah what the hula should eCola so my dear sisters, what makes us from the best of nations is when we stand steadfast upon our semi principles and morals and we cooperate in calling to that as both the men and women of this former being the lady to Allah is Allah who target Allah says will mean on and will meaner to Babu whom Alia about that the believing men and women are only up to one another. Right, yet more on appeal, miles wagon Hona anil munkar that they stand together in you know, in joining the good and forbidding the

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forbidding the evil. Right. And, you know, one of the reasons why we as women have such an important role to play in the dollar to Allah, you know, in particular, is because in general, we are the ones who have the greatest ability, you know, to rectify the society from within,

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because we are the ones who, you know, we're able to have the greatest influence from within the household in the family itself. And especially and not limited to, because, you know, we are the ones who mainly raise the children of this ummah, right, the next generation.

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And the fact that women make up half if not more than half of society, and they give birth to the other half is enough to show you just how much influence women have upon the Muslim ummah. Right, so, and especially when it comes to giving dollar to other women.

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Like we all know that there are many situations in which the only one who is actually suitable to give that dollar is another woman. You know, because one of the important factors in being successful in your dollar to someone else, is firstly, understanding that person, you know, where they're coming from, you know, what their mindset is.

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And that's why very often, a woman is more likely to be, you know, more successful, when she speaks to those other women or, you know, other girls in a way that, you know, she's able to reach their hearts and affect them, right? Because she understands where they're coming from, she understands the mindset.

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And one of the things that, you know, even research shows, right, people, those who study, you know, human nature, human, you know, nature and, you know, the social system, right? One of the things that they've shown is that both girls and women need role models in order to aim higher, right? It's, that's a very powerful effect on women, when when they have role models to look up to, and, and to show them how to demonstrate what is possible to be done. You know, and especially, if we consider that in light of what our sisters are going through at these times, where they're struggling to hold on to their deen and their SME identity, then more than ever, these, you know,

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role models are very important for them. And we see the effect of social media, like, it's very powerful. And that's why many of our sisters are swept away with it. You know, I mean, and what do we have as an alternative? You see, so we need the alternatives. So

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that's why if you're able to, you know, make yourself firm upon the path of Allah azza wa jal, you will become an important role model to other you know, girls and women around you. You know, even when you might not mean that, you know, you're going to, for example, if you happen to be studying at university, and you're wearing your hijab, you know, with dignity and you're, you know, you're adopting your aesthetic principles or, you know, whatever environment that you happen to be interacting in and you're holding on to a set of principles.

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You are, you know, strengthening other sisters around you, you know, you become a role model to those other women in your circles, right even when you might not realize it.

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And, you know, one important point that I want to raise in relation to the dour is that don't think you have to be, you know, in order to be involved in Dawa, that you have to go around giving talks, right? Or that you have to even have a platform on social media, that it doesn't require that, okay, we need to realize that there are actually many ways of giving Dawa. All right. And so we shouldn't undermine the importance of those other other roles that women can play, right?

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If we look at the Sera, if we look at the women in dour in the history of Islam, right, we see that there are three main ways we can summarize all the different roles and you know, basically, you know, divide them into three main ways, you know, that women contribute to the Tao of Allah subhanaw taala, right down to Allah, and none of them is less important than the others, right? So the first of these main ways, right? If we, you know, I classify it as you know, the role of supporting and helping the dour from within now, like from the greatest examples of that, of course, was hurried your body along on her right, in how much she supported and helped Madonna have a level to either,

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you know, especially at the time when, you know, the dollar was, you know, at its most vulnerable and critical face.

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And we see how much she stood behind the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and his daughter to Allah, you know, and she supported him, you know, in every way, in every way, right? With her words, you know, every step of the way she was supporting him, and you know, how much she gained from her wealth for the sake of value SNAM. And, you know, Subhan Allah, she was, you know, we know that she was, you know, backing up the Prophet sallallahu sallam, you know, financially, emotionally, in every way, right? So this is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to say about about how did you Radi Allahu Unha, you know, he would, he would, he would always say, you know, she believed in me when the

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people just believed me, in me. And she accepted Alison, when the people rejected me. And she supported me with her wealth, when the people were depriving me

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such as we need to realize that, you know, the role of women in supporting the dollar from within, you know, whether that is, you know, supporting the dial with your money, or, you know, supporting those who are active in Dawa, you know, it could be you know, you're backing up your husband, for example, if he's active in data, or, you know, just do standing behind dour organizations, right? This is a role that should not be underestimated, or looked down upon.

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Because if you look at the vast majority of the greatest scholars and do, what

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you find them that behind them is, is is most likely a very patient and supportive wife, who if it wasn't for her after law, a level to either that shape or that day, would find it very difficult to continue in his data. Alright, so just want to open up your minds to the different dimensions that we can be involved in data. And like I'm saying none of these is more important than the others, they all they all these women play a very powerful role in the data. And the second main role of women in Dawa is something we might not even think of it as dollar, right, their role in raising much as children.

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And if you look at the history of early SNAM, you know, one of the greatest contributing factors behind the majority of the greatest leaders that we have seen this, ALMA has, in fact been, you know, the careful and devoted upbringing of a righteous mother, to the level sisters that if you were to do a research about, you know, all of the greatest leaders that we have seen in this format, you would hardly find any scholar or Mujahid or leader, who wasn't the direct product of a righteous mother after a lot of other right.

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If we look at, you know, if we, if we take the case of three out of the four major football hat, whether we're talking about Al Imam Malik, or talking about Imams, sheffey, or talking about killing them, right, it was their mothers, if you look into the, you know, the stories of these great events, right, it was in mothers who were the ones who were responsible for directing their sons towards the seeking of knowledge. Right. And, and many of you would have heard that story about, you know, how the, the, the mother of any man or woman would, you know, wake him up before Fajr when he was very young, you know, one the water for him and to help him to take the ball and then wrap him

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up in her hijab and you know, take into the mat the masjid for his Quran lesson and then you know, she would wait outside until

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you know, he's finished and then taking home so she put him on the track to begin with, you know, she set him on the right track to begin with. So sisters again, this role of a mother in raising and bringing up righteous children, is a role in the dour to Allah to Allah that we cannot emphasize

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Why is enough how important this role is. And in fact, I can say this, that it's only when the mothers of this former begin to pay as much attention to raising their children upon the guidance of the Quran and Sunnah as they do about worrying about their food and clothing and education, that we will inshallah once again, see the leaders and role models, both men and women, once again, this former US military to Allah, so this is something to, for all of us to be keeping in mind, you know, we all want to get involved with dollar but, you know, don't forget the greatest dollar starts at home, you know, with those around you first.

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And then we come to the third main role of women in Dawa and this is the role in, you know, teaching and spreading the deen to others. And from the greatest example of this, of course, is I share with the Allahu Amha, who as we know, became the first female fapy her, you know, jurist in the history of Islam when she was only like a young woman, even if just like 19 years of age, right.

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And the man is ovary, he said about our issue or the Allahu Ahad that if the knowledge of Arusha was to be gathered up, and compared to the knowledge of all the wives and all the other women, the knowledge of a show would be greater, right. That's how vast her knowledge was. And that's how much respect the men have this woman had for moving in Arusha. Marie Allahu on her right. And, you know, it said that her style, you know, in imparting her knowledge, like and giving her knowledge and data was so powerful and impactful. That, you know, for example, you've got the likes from the tibial nerve in the face. He said about her or your loved one, what about her? I have heard the speeches of

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of Bach and Omar, an Earth man and Ali Radi Allahu anhu, Jimmy on, right, and the Hall of Fame who came after them. But I have never heard any speech that was more eloquent and beautiful than that of our issue about the body a loved one. Hmm.

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And besides Ayesha sisters, you know, we need to realize that of course, you know, throughout the history of Islam, there have been hundreds, if not 1000s of women who have, you know, followed in this path of female scholarship, you know, and, and in teaching and passing down the knowledge of the deen to the next generations. So this is another of the major roles that women have played in, you know, throughout the history of Islam, you know, in the dollar to Allah. Tada, right.

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So, after understanding, you know, these important roles that we have, we can play as women, you know, in the down to Allahu taala, what I want to speak to you about now, some of the steps that you can take in order to be successful in this field of Dawa and you know, the methodology that you need to adhere to when giving dour. Alright, so starting off, and what I would suggest is if you have like a notebook, and rather than just listen to the lesson, it's not just about motivation of motivational talk. It's also we ask a lot of Tyler that, you know, there's some benefit that you take away from the lesson, right? So if you have like a notebook, you can take some notes that will,

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that will give you the maximum benefit being the law. So first of all, of course, in order to be successful in anything, and that's including data, then it starts with Nicolas right? It starts with the intention for the sake of Allah azza wa jal.

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You know, how much you are sincere in the light Allah is how much blessing that will come into you know, your work. So this is why focus on you know, having that

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in a purifying your intention for loss of $1 and you will be tested in your intention. So, you've got to keep on renewing your intention, always, it's not something that you can just start out with that pure intention and then hope that it's going to stay like in fact, the more public you are, the more you have to strive and struggle with your intention, but always remember, like, as a lot of Allah says in the Quran, when they're told for up illa biLlah right, you can only get tofield you can only get success with Allah azza wa jal and you know, if we go away from having a class, then Allahu Taala can contest us greatly now protect us all. And the second thing is to realize that the

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influence needs to begin with oneself and one's inner circle.

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And this is in fact the man Hajj that we learn from the Quran, you know, Allahu Taala in the Quran, he says for example, yeah, you Alladhina amanu who and for sarcoma Alikum now, right? Are you believe Save yourselves and your families from the fire? So that's the number one people you need to be concerned with. Right? And you never put other people

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you know, you don't focus your efforts on like, on those outside when you yourself and your family are drowning, okay? So you need to like start building up yourself, start with your family, start with your inner circle, and then you work out with me. Okay, there's no use

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me or anyone giving Dawa outside and pay attention to all these other people, if my own family is, you know, struggling and in their religion and they need my attention, okay? So the first step, okay, and in accordance with what Allahu Allah, this is, the first step is rectifying oneself. Right now in order to do that, you need to seek and you need to seek knowledge.

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And then, after seeking knowledge, or at the same time of seeking knowledge, you need to try to act, you know, try your best to act upon that knowledge, whatever knowledge you take, you try to implement it, like, we're not saying everyone's perfect, and that you're going to implement every bit of knowledge that you take. But we're saying that, you need to realize that, you know, the impact of your data, you know, the impact that your data has on others, is very much connected to how much you strive to practice what you preach. Like, we all know that we get more affected by those. And may Allah kind of help us all to be amongst them, you know, those who tried to, you know,

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actually live there, they live their words, you know, they don't just speak, but they, but they did the opposite of their words, we all know that those people don't affect us, because we know that that's, they say one thing, but they do another thing, right? May Allah protect us from being amongst them. So leading by example, is very important. And the more true you are to your words, the more impact you're gonna have. And from this also, is to strive to, you know, rectify your luck, and your manners as much as you can. Because, you know, you have to realize that, without beautiful manners, and without the beautiful character, and the realities that you know, you you will not, you

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won't be able to show the people, the beauty of Islam, and to reach their hearts. So these are some of the very important things that we need to focus upon. And this has got to do with our own personal development, right.

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And I just want to also direct you to a useful book that can help you. It's a book by Stephen Covey. And it's about, you know, the seven habits of, you know, successful people or, you know, successful leaders or something like that. But the interesting thing is that, what he brings up in that book is pretty much the main hedge of what Islam directs us towards, right, where it's speaking about how you know, you need to work on yourself, work on your inner circle, you work on your circle of influence, and then you move outwards. And, and here you can see the mistake of a lot of people, especially online on social media, where, you know, they're trying to reach someone far away another

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like, somewhere, someone's very far away, but they haven't worked on this circle of influence, right, which is yourself, your inner circle, your, your local community, you know, and those people, like, it's very easy for them to crumble, and you've seen different individuals, various individuals, where, like, their main concern is the online, you know, audience, but they don't take time out to work on themselves and to work on, you know, their family, their local community, you know, all those things. And so, you often, you know, generally speaking, you find those who end up crumbling, you know, because I haven't got the foundation, see. So, if you look at the systemic way,

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or the Civic approach, and even if you look at the way the Prophet sallallahu Sallam like his approach know, his Dawa, like, you know, it start off with his household, and it spreads out with me, right?

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So this is the same approach we need to be taking with ourselves. So that's why I'm saying that you start with yourself, you know, you build yourself up with him with knowledge, with our man with, you know, with actions trying to implement the Quran sunnah in your life, right? leave Islam, not just speak about Islam, leave your Islam, right. And then test kid that pesky of the next, you know, trying to, you know,

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you know what I mean? Like, come, you know, train yourself and

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get rid of all, you know, like the diseases of the heart. I mean, of course, you could wait the rest of your life before you get to a point where you completely overcome that, but I'm just trying to say is, you try to improve yourself as much as possible, because, you know, especially if you want to beat someone in the field of dour

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and then, you know, you've got to focus on your inner circle, like I was saying before, so whether that's if you're married, if you've got kids, your your family, immediate family, you try to work on that, because that's all your foundation, and then you've got your local community, you know, like a lot of people just online active, but where are they in their local community, what impact they're having on the local community? You see what I'm saying? Sisters. So that's, that's, you know, the real, the real dropouts, they are very active in their local community, you know, I mean, they have an impact, and then they move to the wider circle outside when they're successful in their inner

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circle, and then they're successful at the local level, then they're able to move out into the international scale, right. But what we see today is the opposite happening, like I was saying before, where we've the focus is the international scale and they forgot about, you know, all the innocent

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Right. So just pay attention to these because this is, like I'm saying, I'm talking about how to be successful in your data, right? And then we come to number three, which is, we need to understand the methodology of data. Because, you know, while that, you know, the means of data can change, because technology changes, times change. And so the way we give our the means we used to give the dollar can change, but the actual methodology stays the same. Right? So

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and I'm going to give you a few points on this particular point in particular, right? So number one, the person giving Dawa needs to have knowledge about what they're calling to say we're talking about them at the methodology here, right, this is for any time in any place, these are the rules that apply or these these are the things you need to pay attention to right, regardless of time or place. So the first is you have to have knowledge of what you're calling to, you want to call people to understand. You want to call people to a toe heat, right? You want to call people to the you know a shehryar you need to you need to have knowledge of what you're speaking about, right?

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So Allah hold on the Quran for example, he says all heavy severely ADIRU it Allah He, Allah Darcy Ratan, Ella, Anna woman eater, Bonnie. Right. So he says, like, say that this is my path I call to Allah, Allah Wa, ala de Sierra, right? So in other words, with foresight, like, you know, with knowledge, you know, what you're calling to, you have an understanding of what you're calling to. And so this is why in order to give Dawa effectively, that a person should focus on building themselves as much as they can with knowledge. And I'll be honest, the more knowledge that you're able to build up with yourself, ultimately, the more effective you can be in Allahu taala. So that's

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why it is important to have a strong base,

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you know, to be more effective. Then the second thing, the second thing that, you know, from the methodology of Dawa is you need to have insight and knowledge about the condition of those you're calling to write. So if you're going to be giving data to someone, you need to have an understanding of the background, or at least some understanding of the background of the people you're speaking to. And that's why, whenever you're going to be when you're asked to give data to someone, you need to find out a little bit about the background of that person, right? And this is something we learn from the hadith of even our best Radi Allahu Anhu. When, when the Prophet so long when he was sent

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and sent why, and he told him that you know, very you're going to a people for amongst the people of the book. And that's a hadith in Al Bukhari and Muslim. So

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if we see that this particular Hadith, we see that you know, the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam is telling me that, um, you know, when you go to these people be aware that, you know, the condition of those, you're giving Dawa to, right? That they often amongst the people of the war. So in other words, when you speak to them realize that they already have some knowledge about Allah azza wa jal, and they already have some knowledge about messengers and books and the Last Day, right?

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Because, and one thing we and one, one thing we learned about that is, you know, for example, if you're going to be you know, you need to find out what background that person has, you know, what kind of background get from this person you're speaking to, right? Like, you're not going to speak to a Christian, the way you're going to speak to an atheist. Alright, so that's why it's very important to find out what kind of background this person's from. Are they a Christian? Are they? Are they an atheist? So how old is the person? What kind of experiences just try to just get some general knowledge about the person before speaking to them? Because like, there's no you're speaking

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to an atheist about like, Well, Jesus, he's not the Son of God, for example, like, the atheist doesn't care about that, because they're an atheist, they don't believe in God to start up to start out with. And the same thing with a Christian, there's no point speaking to a Christian, or you know, and telling them, you know, the proofs in believing in a loss of pantalla, for example, right? So that's why it's important to have that knowledge.

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Then the third point that comes into the methodology of Dawa is you need to have knowledge about what to prioritize, you know, when you're speaking to people, you need to learn how to prioritize things. And what do you speak about first. And this is also something we've seen is Hadith. When the prophets little loner send sends moths to Yemen, right? Like he tells him that, you know, when you go there,

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that first of all call them to the shahada of their Ilaha illa Allah, Muhammad Rasul Allah, right. So to start off with Tauheed, called the call to toe head. If someone's not Muslim, you don't start off by you know, if they start to try to sidetrack you and speak about other topics, you still try to bring them back to the Tawheed you try to bring them back to the appeal of Le SNAM. Right. You You know you call them to the toe heat in the belief in Lahore to Island

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worshiping Him alone. And you call them to the belief in the final messenger Muhammad Allah, it was sudden. Um, okay. And then the other thing is if the person is accepted that then you call them to about the Salah, and there's a cat. So, um, depending on the level of where this person is at, right, so you start off, you know, there's no point for us what again, what we learned from this is like, so you've got a sister who she's just become Muslim. And then you know, are you going to speak about like something which is very minor in Islam, like, you know that she grows her net her fingernails too long or something? I going to speak about that? Are you going to speak about that?

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You know, I'm, I'm going to teach you how to pray. Right? Like, you've got to understand if someone's not even praying yet if they're not even praying they're FOD prayers. Okay, then how are they going to you know, implement the other rulings in Islam right so and also is that really a priority is like growing the nails Okay, that's something that's sooner to you know, to cut the nails and all that but you know, prayers is like your number one foundation of your whole Deen you know, what I'm trying to say. So, this is a mistake we do find a lot of people when you know someone reverts, they start telling them all these extra things but just focus on this you know, focus on

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the you know, the for it to start out with, you know, focus on the you know, the

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the obligatory actions, and then be in Allahu Taala you know, when they're implementing the Salah, you'll find slowly slowly everything and everything else knees down will slowly fall in place for them you've got to give people time okay, but that's something we do learn from that particular narration from the Prophet so long what else and

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then when we're talking about the methodology again still on the subject of the methodology of the dollar to olive oil, Tyler is to call to Allah hota Allah in a beautiful way, you know with wisdom with gentleness in your dollar in a way that reaches the hearts right, this is very important and we can see that this is something really lacking in the dollar today. Like, if we look at male detect us the toxicity on like online, we can say this is not being practiced. And this is the methodology of the data that does not change, right? Um, Allahu Allah in the Quran, he says, we'll do Isla Sabirah because Bill Hekmati Well, no worry that you'll have Santa, you know, call to the path of

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your Lord, will he come up with wisdom? Well, no either till Hassan and with the, you know, with the beautiful preaching, which I did home biller to hear us and, and you know, and argue with them and debate with them in a way that is better.

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We have to realize that, you know, the only way to reach or to penetrate the hearts with your dollar is in fact through gentleness and softness in your preaching. Right. So that's why if you want to be you know, successful in your Dawa you need to try to you know, look at those that you're calling to like what I said as sisters all I say to anyone is that try to look at the person you're calling to in the same way that a good doctor would look at their patients don't try to say like you need to actually care for people you need to have genuine care and concern for others and you know having love for them what you love for yourself right as the profits little lie someone tells us let me

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know I had to come hurt that you hit Delhi Fe now you hit put enough see, right. None of you truly has, you know, completely men.

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And so you love with your brother, what you love for yourself, we love for your sister, your love for yourself like you love Jana, you love someone to speak to you in a soft way and to be caring towards you. Why don't we treat our sisters the same way? Right? Why don't we treat each other the same way? Right as Muslim brothers and sisters, right.

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And here, I want to highlight some mistakes which we see a lot.

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So sometimes, you know, we have people who who misunderstand

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what being really just means, you know what being with Azima or stuck to the religion means and so what you find, sometimes, you know, they'll become stricter, you know, as they become, you know, more stuck to their religion, and more strict down following. Unfortunately, they also become harsher and more judgmental of others. And so unfortunately, we find that they, they start to look down on others and, and deep down, they think they're better than others. And you can see it because I have some sort of contempt when they speak with others, right.

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And the other mistake we have is that the person becomes overly enthusiastic about what they believe is the truth. So this person doesn't necessarily look down on others, but because they're very enthusiastic, you know, they found the truth, unfortunately, because it's so enthusiastic, you know, it causes them to be harsh when when advising others. So we need to realize that

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Even when it comes to like even when it came to someone as harsh, as harsh and hard upon coffee as your own right you think about your own how hard it was he upon how hard it was he upon you know disbelief and yet how does Allah how to Allah command more solid slammin how to approach frown, right? He says for color level hola and Lane en La La Jolla Jeddah Kuru Oh Yaksha. Right. So say to him, words, easy words that he may be reminded or he may, you know, fear Allah subhanaw taala.

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So, if that's your own system, this one we have to ask us if that's around, then imagine the one, you know, the one that if the one that you're giving Dawa, to is is a Muslim, you know, is a believer already. She says, let you know Hello law. Muhammad Rasul Allah, right.

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And so this is showing us where we're going wrong in a lot of cases, and this is what's causing a lot of people to

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you know, like, they're really sort of getting turned off. Like they're getting turned off a lot of the times, you know, from from being part of our Alma because of the way they've been treated by others. Okay, not everybody comes from what I want to remind everybody, not everybody comes from a practicing home, my dear sisters, some people are dealing with mental health issues. Some people are, you know, struggling just to practice their Deen in their homes. Maybe their husband does not support their Deen, maybe the parents don't support them in their Deen, you know, so and we look at our situation sisters, like most of you here, you're living in the West. Right? You know, it's a

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struggle every day to practice your deen. So we can't be harsh, especially in these times we can afford to be harsh on you know, on others, our Muslim brothers and sisters, you know, because we've got to consider the situation that we're all in.

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Right, so this is what you have to consider, like I say, this is the approach to found, then what about our sisters and especially when they're already struggling with like a summer phobia and, and just practicing his time in general in a non Islamic environment.

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And in this time, just in this time, and the pressures of social media and all of this, that we've got these pressures on us, and then we have to realize that this is a time for us to be particularly, you know, try to reach out to others with that care and concern I was mentioning before, and think of them like the way that a doctor a good doctor would look at their patient, they want to help them right, this was the way this was the sincerity that the Prophet SAW Lawson head towards others and that's why he was so upset so successful in his Dawa and you know, that's why Allah Tala, you said about the profit so long, whatever. 730 Now, Matthew Mina Llahi Lin Tala home,

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what Oh, Kwanzaa for one volleyball, palpi Lan subdomain Holic. So a lot of Donna says that it's from his Rama, it's from his mercy, that you were gentle with them. And if you had been harsh hearted, if you had been harsh hearted, they would have fled away from you, they would have distanced themselves away, right. And unfortunately, let's be honest, the way that people are dealing with each other, especially on social media, is the best example of that they really turning people off Islam from the harshness the way they treat people all the billing shake on our gym, you know what I mean? And it's so far away from the men hedge of our beloved prophets that along with

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the center.

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And, you know, this is why

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the Scholars of our time actually stated that this we are living now in an era of gentleness and patient like this error is an error is the error of your patience and gentleness and wisdom. It's not an error of harshness, okay, particularly at this time. So this is something I want everyone to, you know, consider.

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The next point, you know, don't want to mention now after understanding the methodology of the dollar, the next thing we need to do now is to have patient in your dollar like so going back to the points about how to be successful in our dollar, right. So the next point is to have patience in your data. And you have to realize that you're going to be tested in this path. And there's going to be times where you're going to go through hardships, and we only have to look at the zero of our beloved prophet Sallallahu sallam, all of the different trials that he went through from, you know, being defamed and called names and you know, slandered and you know, rejected, even by his close

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family members, you know, physically attacked, um, you know, exiled from his home, you know, his, his, his beloved companions, you know, tortured, killed,

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all kinds of tests, you know, subhanAllah he had to go through in his Dawa, to Allahu taala. Right. So, if this is the most beloved of creation, and this is a type of

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hardships that he went through, then how do we expect to be involved in Dawa, and we're not going to be tested at least to some degree. So this is something we have to, you know, keep in mind. But you're going to have times where unfortunately,

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you know, you're going to have people you will be scrutinized, anyone who's involved with Dawa will be highly scrutinized, you have to be ready for that. And the other thing is, you have to bear the attacks of others or criticisms of others. Unfortunately, that's just the way it is. But, you know, as a lot of Dallas's, you know, instead of anchor bolts, he says, I see banners to a youth, Roku, a Roku and hula, you've done like, do people think that they would be left to say, and men now, and they would not be put to trial, they would not be tested. So if you truly want to be successful in Dawa, you need to, you know, keep yourself patient and firm upon the straight path. And, you know,

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and just patiently,

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you know, bear the attacks and criticisms of others, it's just something that comes along with it, right. And this is where I'm just want to quickly mention that, you know, self care is important here. And you need to learn not to take on too much. Some people they drown, you know, some people, they, they might take, start taking on too much outside, like or taking on too much in general, right. So it's very important that you keep on looking after your own spiritual and mental well being like you need to recharge yourself, you know, you cannot keep giving to others, if you haven't looked after yourself, like, if you're, you know, there are people who could be involved in Dawa.

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And yet, if you were to look at their prayers, maybe they're even praying their prayers on time, okay, they're not even, they even don't even have time to read enough Quran, you understand sisters, so you have to go, like, go back to what I was saying in the beginning, remember how we said about the AR, four and four seconds from now, right? That you need to always focus on that that's not just something you start out with, you have to continue that all your way through in your your journey of data like that, you always make sure that you're still looking after yourself and making sure that you're in the right state. You know, in regards to your Eman even in regards to your mental well

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being, you know, you need to take time out, you need to look after yourself, need time for your family, you know, and don't take on too much that you burn yourself out.

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Because it does take a lot of effort, it does take a lot of times a lot of mental,

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you know, mental effort from you. That's why you need to be able to recharge yourself in order to be able to keep giving, that's a very important point in the long run to mention.

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So that's in relation to bearing the hardships, and bearing the trials of Dawa.

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Now another dimension to remaining patient upon the path in dour also, which is I think, very important to mention. And that is,

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you know, standing for upon your Islamic principles in your data.

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And not to start compromising what Islam teaches us. Because, like a lot of people in that, you know, some people when they see all the different, you know, tribulations around around us, sometimes they they start to give in and they start to you know, compromise the deems compromised certain things a dean, thinking that this is going to attract more people to the dean, or it's going to make them happy with us. You know, an example of that is like, some people might get involved with interfaith interfaith dialogues like that can be beneficial, but a lot of people who get involved with that scene, sometimes, you know, they kind of lose themselves in it. And, you know,

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they start to compromise, you know, Islamic values, Samak principles, you know what I mean? So we have to stay stuck to our principles. So we can't start bending the forbids or the, you know, the

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stable, the stable rulings of Islam, but you can't start telling people like, Oh, it doesn't matter if we don't wear hijab, you know, it's not far. Like, it's just, you know, don't you understand sisters, like, you can't just start

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compromising the deen because you're trying to attract people into the religion, like some people start doing that. And here, you know, there's a saying that's been attributed to Malcolm X, just, you know, might help you to

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sort of absorb this principle be better. And this statement, he says, he says, He who stands for nothing, will fall for anything. So if you don't stand upon your principles, if you don't stand firm upon your principles, then basically you can fall for anything, you know, you basically stand for nothing, in other words, and you can just be blown away like that, right. So we need to realize that, you know, one of the main reasons for the majority of people to be attracted to Ellis Nam, is in fact, you know, the morals and principles that iStan stands for.

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But if you start to you know, water that down, you end up making Islam resemble anything else that's out there. Right. So we have to realize that it's, it's by our standing firm

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Upon Arizona principles, you know, and showing, you know, showing those around us the clear difference between, you know, the light and guidance of understand. And the darkness, you know, from the darkness and ignorance of poof, you know, just see that difference between the two, right? That is what will have the greatest effect ultimately, in attracting the hearts to a listener and being the Allahu taala.

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Because, in fact, it's that difference that people are looking for, right at this time, especially when we can see that, like, we look at the world around us, right? Pretty much. It's lost any sort of moral compass compass, like anything goes now, right? Where, where are their principles, because they're not following any religions anymore. Most of people not following religions. Most people go on to like atheism. And there's liberalism and all that, right. So people have just lost it. And there's just no moral compass anymore. So. So after a while, people start looking for guidance, they start looking for guidance. And so this is what this is what STEM stands for, is saying is the

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guidance of mankind, you know, and so we have to stand firm so that people can see that guidance.

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So that's another point I want to mention. And then another aspect of remaining patient as well is, and this is, you know, really important to think of too. And that is, like, don't despair, when especially those who love don't respond to $1. That that is very painful experience, right?

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Where you know, the ones you love the most, they respond to your dollar,

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a lot of time to put on he says in the color that the men that were lacking no law, her yeah, the May Yasha. Right. So this is a very beautiful reminder to us that very, you cannot guide those who you love, but rather, Allahu Taala is the one who guides. So this is this AI, in fact, is such a comfort to the heart, you know, because this is something that is very painful for most people, that you love certain people like maybe you're for a revert, you want your parents to accept Islam, or you're born Muslim, and you're, you know, your family is far away from Islam, and you feel sad, but you know, they're so lost in their, like, in their misguidance, right. So this is something that we

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need to always keep in our mind that, you know, our job is just to try to plant the seeds in the hearts. But ultimately, it's Allahu Allah, who causes someone to be guided. Right. And I think one of the most beautiful things here is that, you know, when you reflect upon the spirit of the prophets that along with them, and you think about the pain that our beloved Prophet salallahu Salam went through, you know, of, you know, his loved ones, certain loved ones, that especially I will call him, you know, that, with all his heart, he would have loved for his dear uncle, you know, to have accepted Islam. And you know, how much, you know, even believed that he was a prophet, and that

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he was sent. And

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he supported him in every way, right? But he would not accept any stand due to him not wanting to leave the region of his forefathers. So, when you remind yourself that if that could happen to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, then Then what about me? Who am I for that not to be for me not to be tested with that. Okay, so I think that's a really powerful thing to remind yourself when you feel that pain when those who love don't accept the dollar.

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So in finishing up, Inshallah, um, one thing that I wanted to basically say in finishing up is that, you know, especially at this time that we are living in, when there's all these, you know, we are so surrounded by all kinds of fitna and deviation.

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We need to realize that, you know, every single one of us has a responsibility towards the dollar to Allah subhanaw taala. Right.

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And, in fact, many scholars have said that, you know, this obligation of Dawa has reached a level where it's a FUD line, like it's an individual obligation. Now, not just a communal obligation, but a, you know, an individual obligation upon every Muslim to call to Allahu Taala according to their ability, and of course, according to how much they have from knowledge, but as we know, the prophets that Allah has sent him he's told us ballyhoo Arnie wallow, aka, like, convenient for me, even if it's just a verse. And I'm sure all of us here I'm sure there's not one of us here except that we know at least one Hadith from the prophets that are longer that I'm a one verse from the Quran.

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So we need to realize, you know, we all have something we can pass on to others, right? We all have something that we can pass on to those that we interact with, on a day to day basis. And we need to realize that this is a time in which there is like an unseen battle of the hearts and minds. And that's why, you know, all of us need to be, you could say arming our souls with with within with knowledge and also taking an active role in you

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Use the knowledge in this battle. Right? So sisters, you know, whether you choose to use your writing skills, for example, to defend the dean, or you get involved with our organizations by, you know, supporting them with your wealth or you know, even dedicating some of your time towards supporting them. Just realize that all of us do have an important role to play in the dollar to Allahu taala. And this is why what I'd like to finish up by saying to all of you here tonight is

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you know, consider the unique qualities that Allah azza wa jal has given you

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and have a think about how you could use you know, the certain personal abilities that you have in in spreading and supporting the dose of Le Slann. Inshallah Bismillah so, I'll leave it there and then if you have some questions, you can type them in the chat box, and we'll have some more discussion Inshallah, depending on what you would like to ask inshallah. So it's a panel sir panic alarm will be handy. Nisha will let you learn how to learn a stockbroker one or two bootleg