The Rights of Parents, Family, and the Poor

Tom Facchine


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whenever we left mutual vehicles you know we can say that

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but young enough that I will do my manual do

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why should I want to know you know I'm not law bashing or 700 and argue lawsuits yeah you need to talk to the White House Party and either one of the tools to be

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able to talk about what to do the hard for me interesting work it was harder for me to have so that I was gonna be Informatica to be on.

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WhatsApp, a lot of these people can no longer count on any of these. Yeah, even when I'm on top of all of our Board of Governors, you'll set it up on our medical playing field a little bit from our main Canada.

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asked me if I'm allowed, what can you handle 100 and some a lot of them are some of them will be for for the ones that have been put on.

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Previously in our series on solar for the stock, Allah azza wa jal has spoken about having the right priorities.

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Allah Allah pointed out said, he has already decided how much wealth to give to whom, therefore we shouldn't spend our lives worrying too much about worldly success, when the real reason we're here is to believe is to be righteous, and to obtain salvation.

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That's almost my entire issue is a command and love the doubt about walking down the path of a tunnel or whatever that moment, my Fula do not set up another guy with the law, or you will have enough condemned and abandoned.

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At first, it seems like a long as I have seen something that is completely unrelated to what he was just talking about. What does idolatry have to do with trusting in a lawless provision and having the right priorities. But upon upon further reflection, that connection becomes clear. People turn to idolatry. They turn to worship with other things besides a law in order to gain some sort of advantage in this life. And often that advantage has to do with money, and status.

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Now, in the olden times, idols might have been made out of wood and stone. People have shrines or they went to the magician to ask for a job or to ask for their business to be successful.

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Today, though, it also changed.

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Today we have a vital health, the south.

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We think that we are solely responsible for making every single dollar and cents that comes our way.

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We have forgotten about Allah says abundance, we have forgotten Allah's blessing and the fact that it is Allah. He is the one who provides for us.

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If we believe that it really is all up to us,

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we will end up doing haram things for money.

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And we will justify it because we're afraid of being poor or making less.

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I need to sell alcohol. I need to sell lottery tickets. I have to sell the cake to my business can't survive without it.

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A long time I've already decided

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Think how well your business is going to do and how much money you're going to make. And selling a lot of things isn't going to change that decision. one bit.

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The only thing you're going to do is make yourself eligible for laws punishments to the afterlife.

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The amount of money you're going to get has already been decided. The first thing Allah Tala created the pen. And he commanded it to write every single thing that would happen until the Day of Judgment included. How much money is coming your way?

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When you are an unborn baby in your mother's womb, Allah Allah sends an angel. So right it's short provision for you.

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Don't think that it's just give us some input on things that he will get less money along promised us will actually get more. He said, what they are talking about, is our little customers who are super hokey, hateful, that are testing, Whoever fears Allah was going to make a way out for them, and provide for them in unexpected ways.

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If you're willing to put your hope and faith in other forces, besides all the odds of gaining wealth and status, you are not trusting a lot properly. Allah azza wa jal tells us here that if we don't trust him, if we try to cheat the system, and put our hopes in other things besides the law, we will end up with the opposite of what we wanted in the first place. Instead of supports, we will end up abandoned on the day judgments.

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Then a lot of successful football Okay, allows everyone to feel happy. Yeah, what we were doing is implement in the one line that kind of Kibeho at Google. Okay, now, the last one.

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What I tend to have upper level math problem.

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For Your Lord has to treat it you worship come by him and honor your parents.

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If one or both of them reach old age in your care, never say to them,

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nor yell at them rather address them respectfully.

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Allah azza wa jal places this command is command to only worship in the essence of a spam telephony in the same sentence as another important amendments. The good to your parents, Abdullah, the student asked for prophets always Hello.

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Hello, a longtime call that somebody got

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a call from a former guru and again, what action goes along the most this is a serious question for the province to license. The prophesy some of our clients preying on time

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in the service and done he says then watch

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the prophets of Allah when he was seven replies, treating your parents well.

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Another companion wants to ask the Prophet yes of Allah, then I can see it must be so hard that he, O Messenger of Allah who deserves my companionship for the most.

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Part like

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you said your mother,

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call a local man. And he said thank you after that.

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he said to your mother after that, I

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thought I thought he said after that.

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After that, your mother.

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And then after that one last time that you met her, all of that phone calls.

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Finally after that, then you're following.

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In this verse, Allah azza wa jal, that first leaves an open ended. He doesn't tell us exactly what to do for our parents. He simply tells us what leaves us with a strong word extend.

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Remember the heavy foot debris on the profits of a long way your son explains the three levels of servitude,

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the lowest level in this plan, submission, obedience, the middle level, the next is the man will leave a conviction the highest level of sad excellence also did not come in this series of obey our parents. He did not use the word discipline he cut right to the chase went directly to the highest level are going to add in

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and have maximum storage of payments. The dip

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was clear, obedience is great, but it's reactive. You're sitting back, you're waiting for a man or an instruction. And being obedient means that once the instruction comes Saturday, listen,

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excellence requires that we need more proactive than that. It requires you to think ahead,

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to be always searching for the next way that we can serve our parents and make them happy.

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The Companions lead the way, and showed us what it means to have excellence towards our parents. One Sample like there was a typo on how much

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he saw a man performing Koloff walking around the fountain with an elderly woman on his shoulders.

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And he asked her, like having

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Who is this? Or like in The Hobbit movie?

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He sat down on the living room, and this is what Mother Cameron.

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And the man said, Come on a couple of days, you have a higher power?

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Do you think I fulfilled my duty to her? Do you think I paid her back? For what she has done for me?

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The following will

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matter we have

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the conference in Washington, one of us happy sounds.

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Even I'm gonna respond. And I swear by the laws, that whatever you do, it will never amount to a single to contraction that she suffered during the birth.

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This is something that the Muslim world still does generally well within

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our nations might have been torn apart by war and disaster. They might not have the material wealth of places such as the United States or Europe. But look at how our elders are usually treated. They still have respect. They still have dignity.

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People would ask me, if what they heard about nursing homes was true.

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Is it true that many Americans are sending their elderly parents away to nursing homes where they live in their last years alone with strangers?

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I had to tell him Yes, this is true. And he could see the look of horror on their faces.

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They told me that people that are in Medina, would think bad about the person if they did that to their parents.

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The norm for them and many places in the Muslim world, is that those final year is part of the time to work the hardest for them, to take care of them the best techniques that are passing into the next life.

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As the Muslim community in Unicode ensures, as we move from the first to the second to the third and fourth generation of beautiful Muslims, we must make sure we keep intact, this beautiful way of ours, the honor and care that we have for our parents.

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So at first I was I was gonna at least an open ended instead of simply Excel, be excellent towards them, then he draws our attention to a few specific things to watch out for. First, he says that if one or both of them should reach old age with you that never say to them of

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what is the smallest expression of frustration?

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If even the smallest expression of frustration is forbidden by Allah, Allah? Then what about things that are worse than that?

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What about yelling? What about blaming?

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What about making them feel guilty?

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All of that is forbidden and all of it is sinful behavior. A lot of us doesn't want to leave anything lost in between the lines here. That's how important this issue is. So he says specifically and don't yell at them. But instead address them with respect.

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A lot as

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is acknowledging in this verse that there will be things that are frustrating.

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Our job is to worship Allah through patiently enduring those frustrations.

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This is the opposite of what society tells us today.

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Today in our our youth are told to avoid every source of frustration and discomfort.

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If you have a relationship that's frustrating, or uncomfortable, we're told that we can just call it toxic and be done with it absolve ourselves from every duty that's upon us.

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And while it is true, that occasionally, there is abuse and manipulation from parents, towards their children, and it is true that those extreme situations are special cases with special rulings, the default assumption is that yes, frustrations will occur. And by serving your parents in their old age and patiently bearing those frustrations, you are worshiping your Creator and building for yourself a place in paradise, a quote unquote, the handle was suffering.

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Fully stop you're talking.

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What's up everyone. So do you want to share with your wife and so you can call him and

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say that what happened in October was sort of what area planning sort of what are the what are the what's happening with planning for suddenly with schemas revealed?

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After Eliza John tells us wants to avoid.

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He gives us specific instructions for how to act toward our parents, saying, What's your level of gentle handling, men are often putting their hand on a female body

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and be humble towards them out of mercy, and pray, my Lord, be merciful to them as they raised me when I was young.

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When you speak to them, speak from a place of humility, and mercy, when you do something for them, do it from a place of humility and mercy. This is the only ways to not let the inevitable frustrations gets to you.

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Finally, pray for them and recognize your depths of them.

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A lot of is pointing out something very suddenly here. Those of us who are parents will understand this right away isn't always easy to do. What

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is the life of a parents just a life of bliss and ease?

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No, of course not. Our children sometimes annoy us. Sometimes they frustrate us.

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And it takes a lot of patience to deal with them.

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Think back to when you and I were children.

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Are we really any difference? Did our parents require patience to deal with us? Yes, of course they did. So just as they were patient with us, when we were children. Now it's our turn to be patient with them. And their old age.

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Maybe they can't hear so well. Maybe they can't see so well.

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Maybe they have become forgetful. Didn't we all come into the world this way.

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There was a story. making the rounds on social media some time ago that spoke to this was a story of a man and his elderly father.

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The elderly father was sitting on a couch and the sparrow a small bird came in personal for window.

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The old man lost his son. What is that?

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It's a sparrow. His son said a few seconds passes. The old man asks his son in the very same question. What is that? That is a sparrow. His son said he was a little annoyed that he had to repeat himself.

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The older asked the same exact question a few more times and his son got angrier and angrier he just finally had to reveal himself until finally he stormed out of the room.

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Later, the son was going through some drawers to get on his father's old diary from decades ago.

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He started looking through the diary and so he found a page where the software had been.

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Today my three year old son sat on the couch and saw a sparrow outside our window.

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He asked me the same question 20 times

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and I did my best to not get annoyed or angry with him.

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May Allah help us to treat children with patience and mercy? And may Allah also know us to treat our parents with patients the person

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that's the law, I believe that says humbled him and I believe that he knows

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People in Taiwan are slowly being the whole candidate of wellbeing for all your Lord and knows best what is in your hearts.

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If you are righteous, He is certainly all forgiven to those who are constantly turning to him.

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Whenever Allah gives us a difficult command in the poor, and he immediately reminds us that he does not expect perfection.

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He knows that everyone gets angry. He knows that everyone gets frustrated, he knows that everyone says and does things that they regret. He patience with our parents, in their old age, this is difficult.

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A lot of us didn't expect us to be perfect what He expects us to be sincere and to try.

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This is why he reminds us here that he knows what's really in our hearts. He knows if we are really trying or not.

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If we are trying our best to be righteous, Allah will only treat us with forgiveness, and mercy

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will ask you more about how awful was it in order to serve you? Well, that's about it. 70 It'll give to close relatives there too, as well as the poor and needy travelers and do not spend the wastefully

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after giving us guidance related to how we eat and how our duties towards our parents so long as we're that turns our attention towards others who also deserve to be treated well, our relatives, the poor, and travelers.

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As for our relatives, it is our assignment duty to maintain relationships with them.

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Like everything a lot of storyteller has commanded generally, the specifics are up to us, call them on the phone, write them letters or emails, talk to them on social media, with all the means available today. There's very little excuse to be out of touch.

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Our relatives also have certain financial rights over us.

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The first rights is the fair distribution of inheritance.

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You would not believe how many times a family cries together at the janazah just to start fighting each other over inheritance the very next day.

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This is why I'm also planning on making the rules of inheritance so specific. And he put them directly in the format, not the Sunnah.

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So that no one would have an excuse to deny somebody here, right?

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You come to me with your family tree and you let the man split up the inheritance according to Cydia. And you obey. It's that simple. You don't get to prevent a family member from their inheritance just because they are a woman just because they are young, or because you don't like them

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a lot. So it just says here to give your relatives they have to. And that includes first their rightful inheritance. It also includes assistance. Whenever disaster strikes. Just a few days ago, we had terrible storms blow through this area, knocking down trees and destroying homes. If your relatives are ever affected by something like this, it's your duty to help them.

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Let them stay with you give them what they need until they can get back on their feet. This is your assignment duty.

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A lot. So that also says in this verse to give a poor there are a few.

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That means first of all, there's a cap.

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The cap should be paid locally, in the place that you live and work afforded from majority scholars. And it is desirable that it be a public thing that'll be announced so that everyone knows who pays there's a cash don't believe the poor person next to you in prayer and the message in doubt.

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As to whether it was the kind of money is going overseas? Or is it paid it off?

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The devil is waiting to create suspicion and distrust between us

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actors and how the poor must be able to benefit from the piece that happened periodically in our tradition. We have the wedding, the wedding feast we have the paper when someone is born, you should make sure that the poor and the community have access to these events. We have made a mistake by making these events into private gatherings where only certain people are invited

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The promise of Huawei sort of said, it's the final bits of anonymized with what he you that I can help me out where he's gonna vote overall.

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The worst food is the food on the winning piece where the rich are invited and the poor or not.

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After the four illogical just says to give the travelers there to

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buy travelers alive, so as I was talking about anyone who is cut off from their home, or cut off from their money,

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these people aren't in vulnerable positions as possible, because we can't turn our backs on such people we must assist them and help them get home, or help them get to a place where they can access their financial resources. Then the last one, it says, Well, that's very good for the euro, and do not spend the waste for me.

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This seems again, to have almost nothing to do with what is the largest center for the scholars of Tafseer such as if it appeared to be a point out there spending wasteful evenings spending excessively on yourself, and the things that you want.

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Allah azza wa jal is trying to show us that we can't hide from the poor. We can't hide from the relatives by tying up our money and cars and things and entertainments,

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so that we have nothing left over to give those in needs. Know, and 70 must spend responsibly and be frugal when it comes to ourselves. So that we have money in October to give to our relatives and the four of us talked about on this course what they search for and get them to be entertained tan on his last day of the

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week chemistry finally, w e f overall,

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surely for the wasteful our brothers to the temples, as a temple has ever ungrateful to this Lord. Allah tells us to spending wastefully and excessively is a habit of the devil himself. Why?

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Because it demonstrates in gratitude for the provision that Allah gave us. If we were really thankful for what Allah gives us, we would use it in the way that Allah wants it. Not just in the way that we want.

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Allah subhanahu wa zemana wants us to be frugal with our own needs, so that we can be in a position to help those less fortunate that shows a law that we are truly grateful those are loosening up

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our faith in the law home and who you're supposed to be. Yeah, because of the need to have somebody who has such a schema or somebody around what on earth can I

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mean everybody in the dining room machine Allahumma barik

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came at me with one of me rocking in the

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automotive system I was singing I was in the ship going shooting or gender on Thursday and once somebody's got to compete with our hola hola video this time man over getting the hell out I mean, oh Allah bring onto the sun and the Muslims and humiliates idolatry and idolaters and destroy the enemies of faith and the sister believing servants and make the lands of Assam safe and tranquil Sustainer of the universe also at work so I can overload assist our press brothers and sisters all over the world along feeling that we need our we have one was to be the one who stands up for what that was. Yeah, so

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Oh ALLAH forgive for believing men and women, forgiving Muslim men and women those living and those disease oh you hear every prayer along with

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what is the

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what are the development of course openness to oh well let us see the truth as true and grant us the ability to follow us and let us see possible as possible and grant us the ability to avoid this error he got along and along there will be another anyone except when you tap in for the 150 Charlie one penny one lucky

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ever wanted before a lot of football or should have won everything. Is it all along? Yeah.