Earn On-Going Rewards Now
The Muslim Woman – Part 2
Channel: Tim Humble
File Size: 30.42MB
Episode Transcript ©
Transcripts are auto-generated and thus will be be inaccurate and at times crude. We are considering building a system to allow volunteers to edit transcripts in a controlled system. No part of this transcript may be copied or referenced or transmitted in any way whatsoever.
Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim
al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen
wa Salatu was Salam
ala rasulillah, he Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi edge marine mvat.
The Muslim woman, part two, because we've spoken about the Muslim woman in the previous Friday night reflections.
And we'd only got about halfway through what we wanted to speak about. And so
I wanted to continue. And the first thing that I want to continue with is a discussion on the hijab.
And I want to emphasize again, as I had said, Before, I want to emphasize again, that the hijab is not something which a man has imposed upon a woman
and exempted himself, you know, that my wife, you have to wear hijab, and I don't
rather Allah azza wa jal, who created the heavens and the earth, who knows best what will correct us as, as human beings, has decreed the hijab for a Muslim woman.
Now there are a few points that I want to note about this before we talk about what the hijab is, or the conditions of the hijab.
Firstly, the brothers should not feel that they are exempt from rulings on clothing Alhamdulillah the rulings on clothing extend to both men and women, but they are different. Why are they different, because men and women are different.
While he says vacarro can,
the male is not like the female,
the male is not like the female. So because there is a difference between them a lot as though a gel has made a difference in some of the clothing that they have to wear.
But that difference, we should understand, does not mean that the brothers are exempt from wearing proper clothing. Brothers also have ruling up rulings about what they can and can't wear. And they have some things that are forbidden for them, and they have some issues of attire. But you can see that the issues with regard to the brothers are somewhat easier in our culture, in the culture that is prevalent in the place that we live, it's a little bit easier. And I want to emphasize you know that as well that we really, really appreciate how difficult it is for Muslim women to observe the hijab. And I don't think that maybe every brother maybe appreciates how difficult that is,
especially in some non Muslim countries.
You know, there are some places where there's an impression that the men force the women to wear hijab, but my experience in the UK, is that the majority of the people who are being forced with regard to the hijab, or people who are forcing their parents for them to wear it.
And there are women saying we want to wear the hijab, but my dad doesn't let me and he's forcing me not to wear not to wear the hijab.
This is actually quite common in, in, in non Muslim countries.
And so we shouldn't be under the impression that it's something easy. But at the end of the day, it is something that Allah azzawajal legislated. And Allah azza wa jal in every part of his legislation has a perfect wisdom.
In every single thing that he does, he has a perfect wisdom, heck, metron barely have a perfect wisdom.
So that being said, and being understood,
that this is by no means me sitting here saying,
you know, the hijab is such an easy thing you should know it's about understanding the difficulty but also understanding the obligation.
Because yes, there may be difficulty for some of the sisters and some of them find it very easy. And some sisters will say to me that
we find the hijab extremely easy and comfortable, and some find it difficult, but ultimately, it is an obligation upon all of them.
Regardless of whether they find it easy or whether they find it difficult
so the first condition
of the hijab
is that it should cover the entire body except for those things which are exempt.
Allah subhanho wa Taala said yeah, you hanabi Poli as well. Jika wabanaki Kiowa Nisa, meaning
you de Nina la hinami Angelababy hin Hindi Valley Kadena your offner fella you think? What can Allahu corflute en Rahim
O Prophet, tell your wives
and your daughters and the women of the believers. So this is important that we reply to a shopper maybe some people have regarding the hijab, where they say that this hijab is only for the Omaha, meaning it's only for the mothers of the believers. But Allah azza wa jal said only as yg kawabe. Nautica when you saw me, say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers,
that they should draw their cloaks, their
jilbab Jani, the thing that they cover themselves with on the outside, all around their bodies,
they should draw it like circle it or envelop their entire body with it.
Valley can Edina your offner follow your vein to benefits of the hijab.
Number one, are you are
those women are known? What does it mean to be known?
It means that the hijab, the proper hijab, it sends a signal? What sort of signal does it send? I kind of like to like to compare it to a police man's uniform.
When you see a policeman in uniform, and you have a police officer in uniform, and they come up to you and speak to you, how do you behave? You behave the same way as if the cleaner on the street or the guy in the bacala comes and speaks to you? No way.
But the only difference between these two is the uniform. And he comes with a uniform. And suddenly you're like, yes, no, sir, what can I do for you, because that uniform sends a signal. And it's designed for that. That's why they wear those uniforms. One of the reasons that they are, you know, you can tell that a police officer. And the other reason is that it sends a signal that you better respect, what I'm going to tell you, because I'm a person of authority here
the same way or in the same way, the hijab sends a signal. But it's not a signal like the signal of a police officer, but it sends a signal. First of all, it sends a signal that here is a Muslim woman who believes in Allah as though again, that's a beautiful signal to send out.
Here is a Muslim woman who believes in Allah subhanho wa Taala.
It's number one.
Number two, it sends out a signal about how you speak to her and how you deal with her.
Now let's just imagine a man who has,
let's say, a bad intention with regard to a woman. We're not talking about a pious man talking about a sort of a disobedient person who wants some evil for that woman. Is he going to behave with a woman who is dressed scantily in inappropriate clothing the same way as he's going to behave in a woman with a full jilbab? No way. Now it's not the woman's fault. So don't misquote me on this journey. Sometimes the people on the camera and either watch it later, any of them they'll misquote me and say that I said it was the fault of the woman. No, it's the fault of the man that wants this bad action. But the reality is that this woman is safe guarded from that man, by what she wears, it
sends out a signal to say, I have certain rules. I have certain morals, I have certain standards. Speak to me with respect, lower your gaze. It sends out a message
and likewise as we said it protects her from harm.
It's not that she's it's not to say that we're saying that the woman is the is the problem. She's such a, an attempt to us that we have to you know, blanket her up in anything because she's such a temptress.
The problem is that the reality is that men are tempted by women, that's not the fault of women. That's how Allah azza wa jal created mankind.
And so to protect those women, to keep them from being harmed, to keep them from being harassed, you know, what the problems of, you know, what they call harassment, you know, women being harassed by men, the jilbab is intended to protect them against this.
So it's there to send a signal, she's a believing woman, it's there to send a signal about how she wants you to speak to her and behave with her. And likewise, it is there to protect her from people who want something bad from her,
or people who would want to harm or harass her in any way. You know, not just in the major ways that sometimes people talk about, like the major issues, but even in the minor issues.
You know, the classic example is the woman is walking in the street, and some guy is, you know, wolf whistling, you know, like he's trying to cut cord get her attention trying to, you know, cause a problem for her. The jilbab is there to stop these things from happening, to stop people looking at what they shouldn't stop people also talking about her in a negative way. And people, you know, saying bad things about her about her respect, or so on. So the jilbab, or the hijab, as a whole is there to protect the sister, and their to send a signal about who she is and what she believes. And so it should be worn with pride. Not with disdain, like I don't want to wear this or this has been
forced upon me, while I feel like I'm claustrophobic or I feel like, you know, I'm not allowed to be free, I'm not allowed to be myself. This is pride. And he should wear it with the pride of Islam. You need to be able to turn around and say, I wear this because this is who I am. And this is what I believe.
Whoever wants to take it, let them take it and whoever doesn't.
It's not my concern.
Also from this ayah, we can understand that the hijab is more than a headscarf.
Subhana Allah now there is so many shoe bohart around the hijab, so many doubts, we are seeing. Sadly, Annie, my you know, so Paula, some of the sisters told us that family and so on.
And he there are sisters on YouTube, giving hijab tutorials.
And sadly, they are not telling the women about the proper hijab, not that it would be okay if they were but in any case, they are telling them you can wear a cap like the cap that I'm wearing, as long as it covers your hair.
You can style it with jewels and pink colors and green colors and make it all bright and beautiful. I'll show you how to wear the hijab to make you as beautiful as you can be.
This is not the purpose of the hijab. And the sisters who are doing this are sadly serving the aims of any those people who don't want any good for Islam and the Muslims.
And they teach the sisters how to wear makeup with a hijab and so on and so on. There are so many doubts over the hijab. The hijab is not a headscarf the hijab is not a cap that you wear to cover your hair, the hijab is to cover the entire body with a loose garment. Except for the area which is an exception out of that out of that unit which we'll talk about in a moment. What is accepted what is the exception from the covering up the entire of the entire body we'll come back to that later on. The AI also tells us
there will be some things that will show
on the outside of the jilbab are the hijab
and that this is excused by Allah subhanaw taala so maybe some basic shape of the body the shape of maybe the side of the body or you know maybe something that is showing from the hands or the bottom end at the end of the day there will be it will not cover her like putting a box around her and moving her around inside of a box. Ultimately, there will be some things that will show but what will show us what Allah subhanaw taala has overlooked and forgiven and what will be concealed is what Allah subhanaw taala has commanded to be concealed.
As we mentioned, the hijab should not be an adornment in of itself. It should not be beautiful.
If the hijab makes a woman look beautiful, that is the opposite purpose of the hijab, the hijab is there to divert the gaze, the hijab is there to remove the harm. So how can we then
have a hijab that makes her look better than she does without the hijab?
And the answer to that is not to remove the hijab, but to change the hijab
to such a style or such a way that it doesn't cause her to be attractive.
Because this is going against the purpose of the hijab, as Allah azzawajal told us, while Are you Dina Xena tahune they must not show any beautification.
They must not show any beautification,
they must ensure any beautification and
beautification can be within the hijab itself.
The hijab should be thick enough
that it does not show anything from underneath.
And that is obvious in this sense, but there is a hadith
in which the prophets lie Selim said, for example, during the last days of my own mother, there will be women who are clothed, but naked,
ie, they are wearing clothes, but their clothes are not stopping their nakedness from showing. So this also is important with regard to the hijab, that it should be thick enough and loose enough that it doesn't describe the body that is underneath. Of course, it must not be perfumed or fragranced. Because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Any woman who puts on perfume, and then passes by people so they can smell her fragrance is an adulterous.
So this is also a serious issue. There is no harm in a woman using a deodorant that doesn't have a smell that comes or doesn't have a fragrance that comes out of the jilbab. But the perfume, she's not allowed to wear it so that when she walks past somebody, if he smells, he can smell her, her perfume. And that's obvious the reason behind it's obvious, it's very much common sense.
Of course, it should not resemble the clothing of men, because the prophets I seldom curse, the man who wears women's clothes, and the women that wear men's clothes.
And there are various other conditions like not resembling the clothing of the non Muslims and so on. So these are some points to bear in mind with regard to certain parts of the hijab. Now we come back to the issue of what it is there is an exception in terms of the hijab. In other words, we said that it is to cover the entire body, and the hijab of the woman is to cover the entire body. That means from the top of the head to the tip of the top. So what is the exception from this? In this, the scholars have two opinions.
And that doesn't mean that a woman is free to choose any of the two that she wants, she must strive to which one is the more correct, and which one is the more true of the two opinions. But the scholars in general,
they had two opinions with regard to this. Some of them said, the exception is the face and the hands
meaning that she must cover her entire body from head to toe, except for the face and the hands and some of them added the feet to the hands and some of them said only the hands and some of them differ as to whether the feet is
included or not included in that.
The second opinion is that she must only display what is absolutely necessary for her to be able to see whether it is one eye or two eyes.
And I just want to quote to you some of the evidence that we can, we can hear from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and the companions and then let you make a judgement as to which you think the strongest evidence is for.
Evening Ibis. Bloody Allahu anhu man said regarding
the IEA let them draw their cloaks over their bodies. He said except for one eye or two eyes except for one
Or two eyes.
And it's narrated from Sophia, when shaver that Ayesha used to say, when the words were revealed and draw your veils over there. Do you know who Marina Elijah Ruby Hinata JRuby
they took their is out, they took the bottom part of their clothing, and they tore the edges and they cover their face with it.
And in Abu Dhabi, may Allah have mercy, the first Hadees in behati in Abu Dawood, may Allah have mercy on the mohajir the women from the Maha God. When Allah revealed the words and draw their feet draw their veils over their julu they tore the thickest of their aprons and covered their faces with them.
And it's narrated from Ayesha that the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to go
out at night,
to a place to relieve themselves, Under Armour used to say to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Wouldn't it be better for your wives to be veiled? Then one night sowder radi Allahu anhu went out at a short time and she was a tall woman. And Omar called out we have recognized you or soda. Then Allah azza wa jal revealed revealed the verse of the hijab.
And it was narrated from Ottawa that I shadow the loved one has said that women used to pray with the Messenger of Allah so I sell them and feather wrapped in their garments. And they would go back to their houses and nobody could recognize them.
And it's narrated from eyeshadow, viola. And the writers used to pass us by when we were with the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam in Islam, and when they came near to us, we would lower our jilbab from our head over our face. And when they would pass, we would uncover it again.
And it's narrated from Asma bint Abby Bakker that she said, we used to cover our faces in front of men.
And it was narrated from our simile
that he said that we entered upon hafsa bin serien who had put her jewel back over her face. And we would say to her, may Allah have mercy on you? Allah said and asked for women past childbearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard the outer clothing. And she would say to us what comes after that, and we would say, but to refrain, refrain is better for them. And she would say that is confirming the concept of the hijab
will lie for me when you hear these evidences and other evidences, I'm just picking a selection from an article but I mean, otherwise, there are plenty of others. This indicates to me that the common practice among the women of the companions was to cover their faces. And it is not something that was done only by the wives of the Prophet radi Allahu anhu, no sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Because it's mentioned that from Isaiah that it was the Mohajer women who used to cover their faces.
And the women who prayed for God with the prophets lie, Selim, would cover themselves completely, so they could not be recognized. And if my boss said, except for one eye or two eyes to see the way,
when you see this, you don't take from this, that it was a common thing for a woman to uncover her face. Even in Iran, when a woman is obliged to uncover her face. When a woman is obliged to uncover her face, the women would still cover their faces in the presence of non Muharram men.
This to me says to me that an Eliza, which knows best at a stronger opinion, is that the hijab is to cover the entire body except for one eye or two eyes,
enough for her to see the way.
And that's not to take away from the sisters who
uncover their faces and hands. They are not following their desires. I mean, they have an opinion for what they are following. But I think that on balance of evidence, it seems when you read the evidence, there isn't a great deal of evidence for uncovering the face and the hands.
And I understand how hard that is, but it's a word of encouragement. Because at the end of the day, as we said, Our responsibility is to convey the message from Allah, and to do our best as human beings to implement that message to the best of our ability.
And sometimes there are parts of that that are harder than others.
But ultimately, when we recognize the value and the importance of this hijab, we encourage ourselves and our families to implement the laws of our law as best they can.
And if it were the case that a woman were to say to me, I don't believe the hijab or the niqab. Sorry, is fourth, I don't believe covering the faces fault.
We would say to her that based on this evidence, do you believe that it's sooner? She would have to say yes, because there are only two opinions either fault or either sooner? Okay. Is it an important sooner or not important? So now, bearing in mind the danger and the problems and the fitna and all of the other things? And is it a Is it a sooner which is insignificant? Or very small like this? You know, like, Is it just the sidewalk at hoodoo time? Or is it something which holds serious consequences for the Muslims in it
is no doubt that it holds serious consequences for the Muslims. And the the least you can say about the niqab is sooner more accurate, and that is the least that you can argue. And in my opinion, it's his fault. But in any case, the least you can argue is that it is certainly more academic. And isn't it befitting that we should try to encourage our families to do something which is a sooner more accurate, something which is the highly recommended sooner, for whichever opinion you take, the aim should be towards the sister covering herself completely, except for Jani, what is obvious from the the shape of the the jilbab, and whatever she needs to be able to be able to see clearly to be able
to see what she's going, where she's going.
And this is something that is
it also has a role in it for the men.
And that is the role of the men, as we said, encouraging their family. Because again, sometimes the problem is not the sister, the sister is willing, she says, Yeah, I understand I maybe she doesn't think it's hard to cover her face, but or she's trying with the hijab and so on. But she says that ultimately I'm I want to be better, I want to cover in the best possible way. But her husband is telling you, I don't like it, when you cover like this, I don't feel comfortable, my parents don't like it. This is also a problem. Because this is him now being an obstacle to her getting near to Allah subhanaw taala. And it shows a lack of lira a lack of jealousy and protective nature over a
woman that you're happy for your wife to go out with half a hijab, or nor hijab, or hijab and makeup or hijab without job. And you know, a person is happy for his wife to go out like that. And that's very sad. And I know, that's not always the case, there are some women who go out like that, and their husbands are telling them cover. But a lot of the time the woman is trying to improve, but the husband is telling her, I'm not comfortable with this, you're not the woman I married, and so on and so forth. And this happens a lot when I do marriage counseling, that we see a case of, you know, the woman she's seeing, I'm trying to better myself, I'm trying to be better. And the guy is saying,
Well, you know, I married you like this, and you know why you changing and now you want to wear jilbab. And then you tell him you want to wear, you want to take the makeup off and then you're telling me you want to wear niqab and so on and so forth. And you know, he's not comfortable with that. So it's important that the brothers also play their part in encouraging their families, slowly, slowly. You know, everyone is at their own level. If the system maybe is struggling with the basic a job, then let's start at least with the basic hijab.
You know, maybe if she's, you know, in stages, she can take it until it becomes easy for her to do the hijab as Allah azzawajal commanded her to do.
And ultimately, what I wanted to kind of conclude about the hijab, before we move on to the next part of the topic, because I had a few topics to talk about is that the hijab is an honor, not a disgrace. And it's a means of honoring the women, and we should see it as an honor. It's an honor for a sister to wear it, and it's an honor to be with a woman who has it.
And we need to see it like that and present it like that, because Allah azza wa jal only revealed in his core and that which will honor the believers
and that which will raise their status in the sight of Allah Allah which I did not reveal anything which will lower the status of the believers in the sight of Allah.
And Islam is all about honor. What is
the law and say,
national common as an Allah who will Islam we are a people who Allah give us is in Islam, Allah gave us honor, we had no honor. We have no dignity. Look at how people used to do Nikkor before Islam
and you cannot
Imagine the kind of relationships that there were how women used to dress before Islam. How men used to behave before Islam, how people used to drink and eat filthy foods and behave in an evil way towards their brothers and sisters. Islam came and brought us is
and we have to respect that and try our best to embrace that as a lot. So we just said yeah you have Latina M and o v. Cilmi katha while at a Tabby, Rohit watershape on in hula, can I do a movie, oh, you believe enter into Islam completely, and do not follow the footsteps of the shaytaan he's a big enemy for you.
The next issue that we wanted to come to deal with with regard to the issue of the the sisters,
is the issue of the prayer and the sister being focused around the home.
Now it's not forbidden Alhamdulillah for a woman to leave her home before the law and Allah azzawajal has not required the women to be imprisoned in the home. However, there is no doubt whatsoever that Allah subhanaw taala has encouraged a woman to be centered around her home journey to be based there and to limit her trips outside to what is important and needed. And there are numerous evidences for this. One of them in Abu Dhabi with an A Timothy from Abdullayev and Mr. wrote that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said a woman's prayer in her room is better than her prayer in the courtyard. And the prayer in her private area secluded area of the room is better
than her prayer in her room.
And on her mate, the wife of Abu Hamid, a Sarah de la B, Allahu and Houma came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and said O Messenger of Allah, I love to pray with you. And she loves to pray with the prophets of Allah. Is this a good thing or not? It's a very good thing. He said, I know you love to pray with me. But your prayer in your room is better for you than your prayer in your courtyard. And your prayer in your courtyard is better than praying in your house. And the prayer in your house is better than the prayer in your message. The meaning of courtyard is the center of the house not, not the meaning is not outside of the house and in the center of the house.
And the prayer in your house is better than the prayer in the masjid of your people can either local Masjid and the prayer in the masjid of your people, ie the local Masjid is better for you than the prayer in my Masjid.
is narrated by the man at MIT. And it's Heidi from Sahib imagine others.
prophets lie Selim said that it's better for her to pray in her home than it is for her to pray with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam in the message would never, if this is the case for the prayer, then what about for the other things? And yet the prophet SAW Selim set last time narrow Nisa akumal masajid wobbu to hire en la Han, do not stop your women from going to the masjid and you don't lock them and imprison them in the home. Don't stop them from going to the masjid. But their houses are better for them. And a lot as they were just said in the Quran wacana t bu t con and stay in your homes.
So when we take this all together, what do we see? We see a balance Islam has not forbidden a woman from going out of the house
for her needs. For example, the women are of the time the Prophet size enemies to go out to relieve themselves or used to go out perhaps to pray in the masjid fetch or whatever it may be.
But for a woman to be focused upon her home and centered in her home is better for her.
And so this is something that we would encourage the sisters towards and I know it's not very fashionable. And the fashionable thing is to be out in every mall and coffee shop and soup and all day and all night. This is what is fashionable by in people's standards. But Islam calls you to something more honorable than that. And likewise the men should not be the ones who are everyday in the US walk and the coffee shops and all the rest any there's no any we're not being biased in that game. But ultimately, there's nothing wrong with a woman going out. There's nothing wrong with a woman going to the soup, but being based in her home and centered in her home and spending most of
her time there and limiting her time out to what is needed and what is best
In official, this is what Allah Subhana Allah has commanded her to do.
And that's again, something that assistant can work on overtime, she can work on it. Again, it's not forbidden for women to work, and he shall have a job with certain conditions. And he from those conditions, if she has the permission of her husband, there is nothing there is no fitna in the job she is doing it's a hostile environment.
And that she's not breaking any of the laws of Islam by by doing it. And likewise, that she's not becoming negligent with regard to her duties as a wife and a mother. So ultimately, Islam doesn't lock a woman in the home and close the door. But Islam tells her to base herself there and to know that that is the best place that she can be.
And there is inshallah no harm in that everyone needs some time outside, everyone needs some, you know, everybody needs to take a breath of fresh air from time to time. But ultimately, we have a preference in Islam, which is the preference of the sister being centered, and based around her home. And when she goes out, she makes sure that that is for a beneficial reason and a neat, and that also makes the job easier. If you think about it, that also makes the job easier for those who find the job difficult. Because ultimately, it means that she has to spend less time in her hijab, until you know her her her covering.
That brings me to another issue. And that is the issue of a woman having the right to her own accommodation.
And I know the guys don't like it too much any sometimes when I mentioned these things, because it makes it they get questions at home.
But the sooner and the law of Islam is for the woman to have her own accommodation separate from her in laws, especially in those that are not her Muharram like her brother in law. Sometimes we put so much burden upon our women folk, by making our wife stay in a job 24 seven,
because basically the brother in law is there. And you know, the cousins are coming in the house. And basically, it's a big, you know, collective family environment. And it makes a big problem for her. The scholars are agreed upon the right of the woman to have her own accommodation. And she can forego that, right. If she's happy to stay with her image. She can stay with her in laws. But it's within her rights to ask for her own accommodation. And this is important because it gives her some freedom. You know, we're telling a woman you should be based in your home, and then we're telling her, you should be based in your home cooking for my mom, and cleaning for my sister and covering in
front of my brother. This is not right.
This is not right. And another problem that brothers have is that they expect their wives to be servants to their mothers. Where in Islam is this barrel, Wiley Dane is your individual responsibility. It's not your wife's responsibility, she should help you as much as she can. But someone who gets married because he wants a maid to look after his mother better you get a me to look after your mother and pay her for it.
And it's not the right thing. It's not Islam. This is not Islam. This is Jay Z and Hinduism. And whatever the people took this from none of this has anything to do with Islam. A woman should help her husband, with his mother, no doubt about that. But as for marrying a woman for her to be a servant, what are you going to say to her, you're telling her stay in the home and cook for my mom and clean and do this and do this? What you want to be saying stay in your home. And your home should be like your own kingdom, your own little palace that you have your queen you're in charge that you can wear what you want and do what you want and relax and feel free and feel comfortable.
And we're not saying it's haram to stay with the in laws. Some people have very good relationships thing with their in laws. But a lot of time a woman is kind of told you can't have this and you can't have that. And this leads to problems when you push them to be restricted more than the Sharia restriction. And you push them to do more than the Sharia asks them to do. Because then you're asking them to go beyond what Islam has asked of them. And that leads to pressure and it leads to people rebelling and saying, right, I don't want to you know, I don't want to wear this hijab and I don't want to follow this religion and so on and so forth. Because the pressure has been put on them
more than Islam has legislated it to be. So we're not saying that a woman should not help with her husband's family. Of course, this is part of her being her husband, but that it's her husband's respect
sponsibility to be good to his parents and to take care of them. And her responsibility is to help in whatever way she can. On that topic we now come on to the issue of kind treatment of our sisters in Islam.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,
Man can you mean ob la he will he will ask you
for either shahida Amman Valley utter Kalam be higher in our earliest good was so so beneatha he said whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, then if he witnesses something, let him speak good or remain silent
and let him treat his women well. Stoessel be nice.
Let him treat his women well. And in the end of the Hadith is Stoessel benissa hiera treat your women in the best possible way. The prophets I seldom explained something about the nature of a woman.
He said for in Al merata wholecut Minh Villa,
we're in our we're in our cache in fibulae. Allah in the hepta to Ki Moon cassata. We're interruptor who Lamia our is stone soup in the Sahara. The prophets I seldom said the woman was created from a rib
and the most crooked part of a rib the bent part because you know a rib is not straight, a rib has a bent a bend in it. The most bent part of the rib is the upper part.
If you try to straighten it, you will break it. And if you leave it, it's still going to be bent.
So treat your women well.
Treat your women well. This Hadith is not again, we should be clear, a criticism of a woman. This Hadith is an instruction to men to be aware that in the nature of women, there will be things that you will find to be against what you would like any like a crookedness like a bend in, in the rip, and you will find it it's not how you would like it to be.
You will find things that you don't like like the Prophet size, lm said, If you dislike something, if you dislike a characteristic about her, you will find another one that you that you like. And so you find something you dislike there is some some crookedness, something that you wish you could change. If you keep trying to force her to change it, you're gonna end up breaking it and breaking it is divorce and you're gonna end up divorcing that one. And if you leave it as it is, you're still gonna have that same characteristic that you don't like. So what is the answer? Treat your women Well, that's the answer. overlook anything that she may be might say something and she doesn't mean
that she might say, you know, like, you don't love me or you don't care about me or you don't show that you care about me or something like that. And she doesn't mean that she just said something that's crooked like the crookedness of a rip. If everything that your wife does wrong, you try to
iron it out, you're going to end up in a state where you divorce.
And if you leave it like that, you she's still gonna say those things. So the answer is treat her in the best possible way.
Treat her in the best possible way. And ultimately, we realized that that is how Allah azza wa jal created him. And that doesn't mean a woman has a license to say things to a husband that are Haram. But Allah created her with a certain characteristic, a certain
sort of crookedness in the rib. And some of the scholars say the crookedness is the tongue, seeing things that she doesn't mean like saying that I don't love you or you don't love me or something like that. Some of the scholars said, this is the meaning of the crookedness in the rip. But generally, it's something you don't like you wish you could change about it. But ultimately, if you try to change it by force, you will hurt her. You break it, you're going to hurt her. And if you leave it, you're still going to be dissatisfied. So the answer is to treat her in the best possible way.
And there was no one who tret their family better than the way the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam tried his family, he said hi eurocon high eurocom the aliko the best of you are the best of you to your families. What Anna hydrocone le alchemical Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said
The best of you are the best of you to your families. And I am the best of you, to me to my family and the best of all of you to, to anyone's family and the prophets. I seldom is the best example of that.
But the best of men are those who are the best to their women. And you can judge the quality of character of a man by how he treats the women that he is responsible for.
So this is something that we have to bear in mind. I wanted to finish with another shoot, another doubt that people spread regarding a woman when they may be accused Islam of bad treatment, or they try to paint Islam in a light where men are against women. How can men be against women when Allah azza wa jal said, Well, let me know in a minute, but I'll go home earlier about the believing men and believing women are allies to one another. But the non Muslims continue to try to drive a wedge between men and women in Islam, telling us that Islam is there to oppress the women and trying to encourage the women to go out without their husbands permission, and remove their hijab and disobey
and you know, and to behave badly in the religion of Islam. And they tell the women that this is freedom. But there are certain doubts and confusions and misconceptions that they spread, in order to confuse people. And one of them is a hadith of Abdullah in Arma.
That the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said this, I'm going to quote this from Sahih Muslim
women, you should give charity and ask much forgiveness, for I saw you in bulk among the dwellers of hell. This is the first part that they say. So when they say that
they say this hadith is telling you that all the women are going to help because like we told you think she's a temptress and you tell her she has to cover and you tell her she has to be a chest woman, and so on and so forth. And we're telling her she has to be free and independent.
So you're telling her that she's going to help
anyone who listens to this howdy can see that the Hadith itself contradicts what they are saying. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is advising the women how not to be from the people of Hellfire, not condemning them from being for the people of hellfire. He is telling that I saw women making up a large number of the people of Johanna, and I don't want you to be among those women. So therefore, I'm going to give you some instructions as how not to be among those women. That is something beautiful. That's not a criticism of a woman, that if somebody says, super, super, like we have a Hadeeth, that I saw certain men to be from the men of hell. And if you do this, and this, you
will not be among them, I will be so grateful for this instruction. Yeah. And he that the prophets I sell them is instructing how I can avoid being from the people of Johanna. So the prophets I sell them is telling, I saw many of the inhabitants of held to be women. And I don't want you women to be among those women. Therefore, I'm going to give you some instructions as how not to be from those women, give charity, and make a lot of ecfr. Give sadaqa from the wealth that you have, because the woman's wealth is her own, so she can give sadaqa from her own wealth. In Islam, a woman is not owned, like she used to be owned in the way of the non Muslims and the way of the people of jaha.
Leah, she has her own wealth, give sadaqa from it, and make this therefore, and this will balance out what is causing these women to be from the people of health. So it's not like they have to do a big thing. You know, it's not like the prophet SAW. Selim said, You must sacrifice this and this and this. He just said, Look, if you don't want to be from those people have Johanna, give charity and make it safer.
I don't think this is critical of a woman at all. However, they continue because the Hadees continues. The prophets I seldom observed, you curse too much and are ungrateful to your spouses.
This is explaining the reason why those women ended up as the women of Johanna and II there is a potential reason. One of those reasons is frequent cursing, and a woman might get angry and say, curse this person or curse this child or curse this man or something like that, and maybe this curse would come back upon her because we know that the curse goes up to the heavens and it finds the heavens to be locked. Then it comes
down and it either hits the one who cursed or the one who was cursed.
So maybe if a woman has a habit of frequently cursing, then maybe this would cause her to go to jahannam because the sin of the curse keeps bouncing back upon her. So the prophet SAW Selim is warning her against this characteristic. And he is
telling her how to expiate it through charity and his default.
There is one more point about this as well. This Hadith does not say that all women are like this. Rather, this hadith says that this is a characteristic of many women. Now, is this true or false? Is it true that many women are a bit too frequent to say bad things about people?
We I think this is a fact of life. This is not like something that you can debate. You know, this is a fact of life.
And ultimately, the profits for ice lm is teaching a woman how not to be like that. How to avoid that sin. And if she doesn't, how to expiate it. So again, we don't see anything in this as for being ungrateful to the spouse, then the meaning of this is, for example, she might say, you've never done anything good for me.
You know, she might get upset with him and say, You've never you never did anything good for me. You've never listened to me when he has done a great deal of good. And that's something unfair, and will is Volvo Matsuyama. Kiana is darkness on the Day of Judgment. So perhaps a woman would also be accounted for this. Is it true that many women,
not all women, but is it true that many women say things to their husbands like, I've never heard anything good from you, and you never listened to me and you've never given me anything? Any This is also quite common. I don't think this is something that people can debate. It's something factually, which is quite common. So again, the profit slice lm is advising about something which is true, and telling them to avoid it. So they don't become from the people of jahannam. There is no issue with this. But then they call on and they say, Aha, you've answered the first part of the Hadith. But voila, you have no answer for what will come now.
The prophet SAW lie Selim said, I have seen non lacking in common sense and failing in religion more than you, but at the same time robbing the wisdom of the wise.
This is the real heart of their shoe piety. This is the real heart of what they propagate.
They take this Heidi out of context, and they make it see something say something that it doesn't that it doesn't say.
The women asked the question, What is wrong with our common sense? And what is wrong with our religion?
So the women asked the question, tell us our messenger of Allah. We don't we don't understand what what what do you mean, there is something wrong? Do you mean that we are all have no intellect? Do you mean that all of us our opinion should not be taken? Do you mean that all of us are foolish? Do you mean that all of us are, you know, are second class citizens? The profits Eisen explained what he meant, and said,
the lack of intellect or the lack of common sense
is that the evidence of two women is equal to that of one month.
And you spend some nights and the lack of, of religion is that you spend some nights and days in which you do not offer prayer. And in the month of Ramadan, you do not fast.
I'm going to read you a little bit of a quote from what
a shift bin bash Rahim Allah to Allah said regarding this Hadith, it's a long quote, but I'm just gonna pick some bits of it.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam explained
that the deficiency in her whatever you want to call it, common sense, intellect, is from the point of the fact that the memory in a court case is not as strong as that of a man.
As a lot so we just said, bring two witnesses from among your men. And if you cannot find two witnesses, then one man and two women
in case one of them forgets so the other one can remind her.
This is the meaning of deficiency. The profits lifetime did not say you are stupid, you are dumb. Y'all don't have any intellect you are like, you know, you are half of what a man is. The prophets. I seldom said in this specific limited aspect.
You have a different
Is there a case that all women have a deficiency when they give a testimony in court? No. But this is the general nature of women, that when a woman is asked to give testimony to something that happened, Allah azza wa jal has legislated that she brings another woman along with her to backup her testimony. That is what Allah has legislated in that specific circumstance. Now, let me explain this to you in a different way. Before I'll continue with the court, but before I'm explaining to you in a different way, I shadowed Yolanda narrated ahaadeeth from the profits I sell, and that nobody related except her.
Nobody related except her.
And we take those Heidi from her knowing that our religion is found within those headings. And nobody says that Ayesha has to bring another woman to testify. What does that show you? It shows you that the double testimony is limited to one specific circumstance and that is witnessing in a legal matter,
as for narrating ahaadeeth or us for memorizing the Quran and teaching it. Or as for teaching the people that religion, then there is no deficiency in the intellect of a woman in this rather there are women who exceeded men in their memorization, and their transmission of Hadith, and so on and so forth. To a degree that, and it should be clear to everybody who studies the history of Islam, at the forefront of them our mother Ayesha, probably Allah Anna, and if we take from Ayesha, a matter that is from the ossola Deen from the fundamentals of the religion, then there's clearly nothing wrong with the intellect of a woman, except in the regard that the prophets lie Selim mentioned,
which is that in a court testimony, when she's asked to be to testify to something that happened, a transaction or an event, or something that she witnessed that she should bring another woman along with her. That is the deficiency it's not more than that. It's only that.
Likewise, the deficiency in religion, is it true or not? Two women have a time when they don't pray. They have a time when they don't pray, do they have a time when they don't fast? They have a time when they don't fast. Does that mean that they are bad people or blameworthy? No, it's a simple fact that it's a deficiency because a man prays 30 days in a month and a woman prays 21 or 22 days in a month. Is it a deficiency? Or not? Like does anyone need a math lesson? You know, like, there is it's a deficiency and he like it's an it's an x? It's not fun. But does it mean she's blameworthy? No. It shows that there exists a deficiency in that specific aspect only. Does anyone doubt that the
women among the Sahaba will be in a higher place in gender than any of the men and women who came after them from the tablet in and the generations after them. There is no doubt every single Sahabi is above in status, everyone who came after them, from whoever they were, whether they were the Imams of Islam, or anyone else, many, many women will seriously exceed the level of men in paradise. In fact, it's narrated, that a man might a woman might be honored by her husband being raised from a low level up to her level in paradise.
How can that be when she's supposed to be deficient in religion, and he this deficiency is unlimited deficiency, and by giving charity, and by making a step far, and by filling her time with what is beneficial, the woman can make up for that natural creation that Allah made, when Allah made the testimony of two women equal to one man in that specific instance? in that specific court instance, when a light soldier made it like that, is that the woman's fault? No, it's not the woman's fault. It's a natural thing. And the prophet SAW Selim told us about it and told us how to get over it. And it's in accordance with what we find in the Quran. And still people are still trying to argue, you
know that no, that one woman, she can give that testimony? Didn't you see that this woman gave a testimony? We say did Islam say that a woman can never give a testimony in court on her own? No. If a woman gives a testimony about something that happened to her on her own, like, for example,
when did it finish? Or her menses, when did it finish? Or she gave a testimony about her husband saying, or she gave a testimony about an attack that happened to her. This is accepted without a second woman.
It's only in the cases that are independent of that woman that she's required to bring to women. Furthermore, is it the case that every single woman is unable to give a testimony on a matter of a business transaction
Not the case. But Allah azza wa jal give a ruling that applies to everyone to cover the majority, or to cover the fact that so many people are like this.
Someone might say, I can drink one glass of red wine every single day and I will never get drunk and I will never forget the remembrance of Allah or something like that.
They say scientifically, there exists non Muslims who drink alcohol and never get drunk and never, you know, transgress the limits? Is it Halla, we say to them, Allah azza wa jal legislated this because the harm is greater than the benefit, the individual harm and the societal harm the harm in the whole of the society. And in other words, if you allow people to drink once a week, the danger is that most people will get drunk, even if some people don't. Likewise, there may be women who are perfectly capable of giving testimony in court regarding a business transaction, but why do we bring to women because if it were the case that we stopped, if we allow that woman then there will be
women who came and gave a testimony that was wrong. So Allah azza wa jal required it of all of the women in order to cover the the majority situation
and Miss inshallah, who to Allah is clear for the people who reflect upon it a lot. So he doesn't oppress anybody. And Allah subhanaw taala does not
have, you know, like this A disdain or a dislike for his believing servants, whether they are male, or whether they are female. Generally, as we said in the first talk, there is no difference between the rule of men and the rulings relating to men and women in Islam. Except in a few limited cases, some of which we have mentioned, we haven't mentioned all of them, but we mentioned a lot of them. Those limited cases were not instigated by a man. They were instigated by our last panel to Allah who legislated them for the benefit of men and of women. Islam is about submitting to Allah, and accepting the rules that allows the penalty Allah imposes upon you and knowing that Allah knows best
if you've come out of these two lectures and appreciated the wisdom Alhamdulillah if you've come out of these two lectures, and you feel that you haven't yet understood the full wisdom, that's my fault for not being able to explain it to you in a good way. But ultimately, Allah azza wa jal has HEC Martin Bailey, he has immense wisdom and perfect wisdom. And a last panatela only decrees what it contains,
is La La Birdwell, billet, what corrects the servants of Allah and what corrects the countries and the places and the societies in the communities that they live in.
And when we understand that we have no problem in embracing the commands of Allah azza wa jal, one that can only mean in one minute in either Kabbalah who are a pseudo ama, and yakun Allah whom will he'll have to mean Emery him. It's not for a believing man or believing woman, for lion is messenger decide something that they should have any choice in the matter.
It's not our choice not for a man not for a woman, the Messenger of Allah, I sell and told the men, whatever is below your ankles in the hellfire.
And you whatever you drag of your garments below your ankles is in Johanna.
It's not for your choice then to see I think I don't have pride. And I think I'm okay. And I think it's hard. And I think it's not your choice that you don't have a hero. Allah decided the prophet SAW, Selim decided you say semi Ana, well, I thought we hear and we obey. That is the position of a Muslim. And that's what we want to encourage. Like I said, if anyone feels they didn't quite understand all of the points, I'm sure that's my own deficiency in explaining them to you. I've done my best to try and address some of the issues and the dangers that I see. And the last issue I just emphasized with regard to children, and I've mentioned it before is when it comes to rulings of
ladies, we have to start our our young girls on some of these things before they reach adulthood, especially things like hijab, because if we don't start them wearing hijab, when they're a little bit younger, they will not be able to wear it when they're 15, or 16, or 13, or whatever it is. So it's also important that we encourage our young daughters to have the characteristics of the believing women as best as we possibly can. And that's the role of the father and the mother to instill those values in, in the children to the extent that those children are able to aspire to be practicing Muslims male and female as opposed to sort of feeling
Like Islam, you know, cages them in and restricts them. Because you only feel like you're caged in and restricted. If you're exposed to Western ideology, and then talk, you know, like for 16 years of your life, you're told you can do what you want. Wear what you want, say what you want, go where you want, pray when you want. And then suddenly, you're told, cover from head to toe, don't talk to anybody and, you know, pray five times a day. It doesn't work like that. It has to be a gradual process from when they are small, so that they appreciate the value of Islam and they aspire to be like the female companions, and not that they aspire to be like the copyright and decide your art
and that the evil women and the kuffar the women from the kofod, who have no good enough, and no honor in them and allies, so gentleman's best or salatu salam Abdullah he also he Nabina Muhammad while he was off the edge, my