Once We Were Men

Tawfique Chowdhury


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Alhamdulillah Allah, Allah.

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Allah Allah Allah Allah.

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Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah.

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Mohammed Abu

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Omar wotja FISA de la caja de Ouattara gonna

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Muslim moon.

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woman You

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are the man,

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respected brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Once Omar got together with a group of companions, once sama rhodiola, one who was with a group of companions, and he came up to them and he said, Make a wish. He said, All people make a wish. And the people said, What will we ask for? So Omer continued, and he said, Make a wish. Just make a wish Allah lygus Make a wish. And so some of the companions, one of them said, I wish this whole mosque I wish this whole whole room was full of gold so that I could get it in the pot of Allah.

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So that I could give you this other kind of part of Allah. And another one said, I wish that this whole room this big mosque was full of beautiful gems and pearls and precious pearls, and precious gems, so that I could give it in the path of Allah.

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And then Homer said, listen to this, listen to this man, the wise man of his own Mama.

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He said, As for me, he said, As for me, I wish that this room was full of people like the companions.

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I wish this room this loss was full of people, like the companions rasulillah, like,

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like salad Mola.

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And you mentioned a couple more, so that I can rely on them, and that I can raise the word of Allah subhanaw taala by resting on their shoulders.

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Look at what Alma wished for.

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Look at what hunger was for. He truly knew what the value of every country is. The value of every country is not in its natural resources. It is not in his financial resources. It is not in the greatness of its economy. It is truly the number of his true men that live in that country, the true men, the men who can really be called men.

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This is the true value of every single country. And these men, brothers and sisters in Islam, I am sure you will agree with me These men are truly more precious, truly more precious than any gold and any, any silver, and any gems at any pose.

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Many countries whether the sisters in Islam

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have lots of armor, they have weapons, they have armor. But what is that good? Without Truman leading it and using it? Many countries, they have a lot of education and knowledge. But what is the what is the good of it? Without men teaching the people without true men taking this knowledge and then importing it? Many people, many countries have great projects that they do. They build huge, huge things. They do wonders in this world. But what is the use without men leading these projects? And what and what good brothers and sisters in Islam? Is every nation that has the best of Allah? How can this Hello, and the best arms? How can this ever compare with the heart of a soldier? And

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what about? What about education and knowledge? What if a country has the best of education and the best of knowledge? But how can that ever compare with the spirit of a teacher?

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And what about the greatest of projects that the people have that countries have the greatest of maturity, the best projects that they do? But how can they ever compare with the zeal and enthusiasm with those people who truly carry it out with the volunteers who work for it? brothers and sisters in Islam, surely the value of every nation, the value of every people, and this is what history says is not by its well. Mashallah the Muslims had great wealth. But that was not the reason why they were so great. The reason brothers and sisters why they were so great was because they had men who could move mountains, they had men who could cut through the sea. They had men for which the skies

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for which the windows and the doors of the sky would open up for them. And Subhanallah It is for this reason, it is for this reason why there is an authentic, beautiful Hadith in Sahih Bukhari

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Allah. Allah be pleased with number one. And this hadith is in the chapter of Genesis

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in the chapter of Genesis, and in the time of when he had been Marwan in the time the lifetime of Omar bin Abdulaziz, there was a small earthquake. Now listen to me, there was a small earthquake in Medina. And because of this earthquake,

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the grave or soulless wrestler and the rooftop on the top of the grave also love fell down.

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Yes, this is an authentic howdy in it notes. It states that there was a roof that was on top of the grave water Sula, fell down, came crashing down. And then when it crashed down, suddenly a pair of legs became visible.

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Suddenly, a pair of legs became visible. And the people became very amazed. And the people saw that and the thought that that was that was the leg of rasulillah. As he states the Omar bin Abdulaziz he became bewildered.

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He was bewildered. He couldn't understand Are these the legs of the stool Know what? And then

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Zubair Abdullah? He said No, these are the legs of Rama.

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These are the legs are Ahmad, meaning that the grave when the when the roof had fallen on the grave, he had cracked the grave of armor and his legs were shown. How many years was it since the death of

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Tell me how many years

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30 years more than that, and the grave had not eaten his body and authentic heavy in body. Check it out in the chapter of janaza, the chapter of Genesis, listen to what he said. He said his legs were shown and these are the legs of armor. How can the earth eat up a man who was a true man? How can the earth eat up a man?

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When when Allah was alive, the Earth would tremble at the meal nice sound almost feet, how can it now upon

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nor truly cannot? Do you not see how great armor was how a true man was able Masuda.

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He states in authentic hadith and

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he says murzin is certain.

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We have never seen to be honored. We have never cease to be powerful since the Islam of honor.

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We have never cease to be powerful since the Islam of armor. And it's for this reason, what a sort of lesson to learn why they had made dua to Allah subhanaw taala Oh, Allah, please make Islam stronger by the Islam of either one of these two people. And he mentioned and you mentioned Abu jihad. My brothers and sisters in Islam. describe to me

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describe to me how it was over.

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He was a tall man. The Companions say that he was a tall man until when he wouldn't win if you would walk between the people. You could see him because he was so tall. And he was bald. Not completely bald, but very bold.

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He was tall, he was bald. And was he

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was it fat? No, he wasn't fat. He was very, very, very thin. Very, very, very thin. He didn't have any six packs. He didn't bodybuilder. He wasn't a Mr. Universe, but he was a true man.

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Because true men. I'm not. I'm not described by these criteria. These are not the criteria to describe the Truman, our brothers and sisters in Islam.

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These things which we are set up for ourselves by saying the people who are more stronger

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by saying people who are more beautiful. If you can enter yourself in the 10 most sexiest people as they say, then you are truly a man as women say, Oh, what a man.

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And the legs go weak thinking about this man. This is what people think is a man. But armor was none of this.

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The women would run away when armor would come they wouldn't say well, what a man. They would run away. Isn't that true? So Pamela they would run away and the shaitan would run away the Imam.

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The imam of the fitna causes shaytan himself would run away and take a different path. Such was a true man. A true man.

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Don't you remember how Omar when he accepted Islam?

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What did he do? He had a shower. Then he prayed. Then he went to the Kaaba, and he made the law. And he said, if there's anyone amongst you, he said in a narration report by him last year in his book he mentioned that said, if there's anyone amongst you, if there isn't anyone amongst you, who wants to make his mother cry, who wants to offer his child who wants to widow, his wife and let him follow me behind this valley? Follow me if you would, if you dare. This is

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my brothers and sisters, Islam. Allah was not strong. He wasn't a superhuman, but what he had the strength of character and strength of the man.

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And this is true manhood. This is true joola This is the rujuta that is missing in our oma Mashallah, we have 1 billion people 500 million men?

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Where are the true men amongst them? Where are the true men amongst them? Show me please, I want to see them. Because looking at them as a dad, speaking to them as being the presence is a bad word to Allah. Because truly this religion has not been sent except upon the shoulders of men like Omar and his example.

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brothers or sisters in Islam

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when clearly had been bullied when he was conquering here, and this was a town of Hera when he was conquering here, and he had circled it and surrounded it, and he was one of the most 45 towns ever known at that time. He sent to Abu Bakar. At that time, he sent a messenger to Abu Bakar and said, Oh Abu Bakar I need help.

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He said I need reinforcements.

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Guess what?

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Guess what?

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This wise man he said only one person

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He said one person. And this man his name was the AMA Academy. And there's differences amongst alima whether it was a companion or not.

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Allah knows best most quick opinions. He was not a companion was it who knows best? As we mentioned in Nevada anyhow, in a Saba,

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we continue

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to hammer at the economy was the only person that Abu Bakar sent to this

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is my brothers and sisters in Islam. If the greatest general on this earth was sending a reseller a message to his commander in chief and saying I need help, and the only help they said was one man, what would you say? This guy's lost it?

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What are you doing? This is madness. You can't win a war with one man. But Abu Bakar said, I am sending you the equivalent of 1000 men, he wrote in the in the message. And he said the very voice of Taka nama Tamimi, the very result is very voice is better than 1000 men.

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And another another time, when I'm going to last in the last when he was conquering Egypt at the time of Rama rhodiola.

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He said, Oh man, I need money. I need help.

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And so I wrote back to him, I am sending you 4000 men.

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How many did he said?

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He said four. He said that? And he said Muslim and he said as Tibet, and he said obey that Islamic. These are the four men only that he said and he wrote in the letter I am sending sending you the equivalent of 4000 men.

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My brothers and sisters, we're not talking about war. No. This is not what I'm talking about. I am talking about manhood. I'm talking about how can a single man be worth 1000? men?

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How is this ever possible?

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How can a single man and you're all men here? If none of you are feeling something in your heart, sunshine in your heart or some anger in your heart? Then Surely there's something wrong? Go to the doctor tomorrow. Let him check you out. Have an ECG make sure it's working well.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam.

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Brothers and sisters in Islam.

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True manhood is truly as scarce as a salt in the food. You see how the salt in the food is so little?

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In the same way, our true men, so very few. And that is why Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam inauthentic hobbyking Buhari. In an authentic hadith in Bukhari said true men are as scarce as the as the writing camel amongst the hundreds of camels. As you know the Arabs have camels, and not all of them are suitable for writing most of them are suitable for milk and for and for meat, but only some of them are suitable for writing because most of them are too angry.

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an example, the true men are as scarce to find just as the writing beast amongst the hundreds of camels in the ocean of camels there

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are brothers and sisters in Islam, not only the time the companions, but in the time thereafter, we find beautiful examples of manhood. Beautiful, beautiful examples of manhood. In fact,

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are their brothers over here from Yugoslavia, or the brothers from Bosnia?

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Anyone here?

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Probably perhaps you're too shy to say. But

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do you know that you owe your Islam after Allah and after results all of us lm two bins here. This hero of Islam known started with Zia, Do you know whose story Let me tell you a story. therapy. Ziad was a great, great, great general of Islam.

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And he landed on the shores of Europe with 12,000 men.

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And King Roderick who was the king of Spain at that time, he met Patrick musea with 100,000 biscuit Christians.

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How much army did that

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12,000 Do you know what that is? Yeah, did when he saw the 100,000 lined up in front of him the 100,000 enemy. He said you Muslims burn the boats.

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He said burn the boats.

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And so all the boats were burned. In front of the eyes. The boats were burned.

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In front of the eyes, the boats were burned. And so he told the people, so people there's either death by drowning

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or death by fighting of victory in front of us. Make your choice.

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Make your choice. Look at the manhood. I'm amazed at this.

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Isn't it amazing? 12,000 again,

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100,000 people,

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that is truly amazing, truly, truly amazing.

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What about and then what happened? That means there will hamdulillah by the by the, by the grace of Allah He defeated them took over Spain, took over most of France took up a lot of Sicily and, and spread and went deep, deep deep into Europe, actually to cover all those areas that we now call the go Slavia Macedonia and others where there are so many ample Muslims nowadays. Because of this battle because of this hero and his heroism and truly understanding that we men have a lot of energy. We men have a lot of potential. Our potential is limitless. Our potential is only limited by our minds, our potential is only limited by our wiki man. Our potential is only limited by our weak

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goals. Our potential is only limited by our lack of understanding of the reason why Allah Subhana Allah Allah created us by lack of understanding of the ability that Allah subhanaw taala has given us

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without doubt, without doubt, brothers and sisters, we can also achieve this. We can also be true men. Nowadays, brothers, when they want to prove their manhood what do they do? slap the women. They hit the women.

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We hear a wife bashing so much and they think that this is a sign of manhood.

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They think that having more muscles and more bumps on your body is a sign of manhood. They think they're having more power, or having more, you know, having a nice car and driving down the road fast and having a nice suit. And better perfume is a sign of manhood.

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Whether it is lunchtime, Amanda brothers and sisters in Islam, this is not the sign of manhood. This is not manly brothers and sisters in Islam. They think people think that age is a sign of manhood. They think that when you get older you become a true man. This is not the sign of manhood. Once a an Arab came to the to our Khalifa in the time of the Ahmed Khalifa, an Arab from the desert came to the Khalifa at that time. And so the halifa said also and so let them all the person amongst you speak.

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He said also in Seoul at the more older person amongst you speak. Do you know what this Arab WISE WISE boy said? He said oh Khalifa or respected Khalifa. Truly, if wisdom wants to do with age, truly if manhood was to do with age, then there will be others more worthy of being Khalifa the new

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This is men who have brothers and sisters. This is the strength of character that we're talking about. And once has also been reported by Buhari in one form, as, as it's been reported that our beloved Zubair Abdullah was a bear who was a small boy at the time of Oman. At the time of Oman in his lifetime. With a small young boy, he was playing with some, some little boys and armor came amongst them. So the other boys got afraid. And they ran away, as you know, people get afraid with the seat. And so the little boys ran away with the letters of a state in his spot.

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And he stayed in his spot, this metallic, he stayed in his spot,

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and so on, went up to him and said, Hey, why don't you run away? Why didn't you run away? And he goes, Yeah, I know. I never did nothing wrong. What did I do? I didn't do anything wrong. And the road is big enough for you. And you and me. Just pass on.

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Some Hana look at the man who even little children had and this is why the numbers bear became the Khalifa. And he became the solicitor after the death of yazeed. For how many years brothers for nine years, a righteous companion becoming the halifa after you see it, why are we here for nine years? This was a dilemma. So there

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was later killed by a judge and others. That is a different story.

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For Subhanallah, brothers and sisters in Islam, look at the manhood that these companions had. And what about the example? What about the example of the children of the Muslims in the areas in which the enemies of Islam have conquered? Have you seen for example, the fact that when the bulldozers come, and they come and destroy the houses and Palestine, how the two little children, little children, little children, five to 10 years old with stones in their hands, rushing wood stone, they're going to find these mighty machines of metal.

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They wake up in the morning, the father has been taken away, the mother has been raped and the sister has been killed. And the brother has been killed to wake up in the morning with only one goal that they want to free Palestine. And the wake up in the morning to tie the shoelace and they find the slingshot, find a good stone. Go out, find the tech Bismillah and let it go. I'm not talking about the sisters about this. I'm not talking whether children should be doing this. No

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By age smart or natural, they should never be fighting by complete consensus or lemarchal. They should not be fighting.

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But my question to you is this, How shameful is it that our children have to do this?

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How shameful is it? Secondly, my second question to you is this look at the courage that little children has.

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Look at the courage little children have. They don't fear anything but Allah, Allah. And this is the Lula that I'm talking about my brothers and sisters, manhood manhood that I'm talking about strength of character, strength of Eman. Allah subhanho wa Taala describes to us those men who can truly be called men,

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those men who can be truly called men, and he says

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was very own and victory la salette eata is

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una Yeoman takala Buffy

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Allah subhanaw taala describes his men and says, These men are the following, which are naturally in the jar.

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these are these are men who are not distracted by buying and selling in commerce, from the vicar of Allah from mentioning Allah from gaining knowledge like you are doing today from gaining knowledge, what you call the Salah, and establishing the prayer ties and paying the soccer yo funa, Yeoman, Tata Kala Buffy

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they fear a Day in which the hearts and the and the eyesight will be turned, will be turned away.

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Somehow, the moment when the heart will be turned upside down, when the eyesight will be turned upside down. Inside Out. We fear this day these are the true men but as the sisters, as Allah subhanaw taala also says, What a bad man.

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What is the thought of a woman j Luna poem Solomon, and the slave the true slaves all of the true men of those who walk on this earth, how

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they walk on this earth, in tranquility, in in composure, not being frivolous, not walking down the road and with loud voices not calling names, not spreading rumors. They're not like women, talking about everything, everything and anything. No Rather, they walk on the streets like how,

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what is the heart of the human genome and when the ignorant ones speak to them, speak to them, call them lie about them, joke about them, scold them up then etc etc swear again corlew Salah they move away and say what peace.

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I am fasting man in England saw him for example, and the mobile This is manual. Anger Management is man brothers and sisters in Islam, anger management, controlling your anger, directing your anger in that which is right is truly men who brothers and sisters.

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how few other people who do that. And Allah subhanaw taala continues and it describes Hamadan Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Rasulullah he is the Messenger of Allah, wa levena milu those who are within inshallah melamin because those who may Allah make us from those who are within

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those who are within

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a ship too far from Albania who they are severe and harsh with the disbelievers, and loving and kind of the believers.

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This is something which we have also forgotten

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my brothers and sisters in Islam

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that would if I want to summarize it, I will use only one sentence one phrase, and that is strength of character and strength of a man. If you truly wish to be a man, if you truly wish to be to have value in your life, if you truly wish to have value in society, if you truly wish to be from those people who truly are worthy of the title of men,

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that truly my brothers and sisters in Islam, you must have strength of Eman and strength of character. You must not be from those people who are easily taken away by the distractions of this world. Pamela, how many times do I hear from people people telling me or brother tofik? Or brother tofik? Can I work and at the same time lie to centerlink as to how many times they say and how many times I've been asked this question or topic Can I work and lie to centerlink about my work and so that can you know get a little bit of chump change a little bit of money so I can get my rexy

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Look at what they ask what a shameful question. How can Muslim men ask this question? How can Muslim men ask this question? What is up with men, that they have lowered the value so much? We are the as Sal Khan, we are the most honored people in this mankind. We are the most honored of people, how can we lower ourselves? How can we compete with each other to be the lowest of the lowest? Rather, we should compete with each other to be the highest of the highest? How can people even ask this question? How can you even ask this question? You are a man, Allah has given you two hands and one mouth. That's why you don't have to work double, you just have to work once. Two hands one mouth to

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So brothers and sisters in Islam,

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understand that this issue of manhood is of true true true importance. Because as I said, we have 500 million men, but we hardly have true men. And if these 500 million men truly became true men will lie. The world would be a much safer place to live in the world would be a nicer place to live in the world would be a more ideal place to live in the world would be a more perfect place to live in.

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Try and understand this fact. How can we raise ourselves so that we can also move the mountains so that we can also split the seas? And so that we can also cause the sky to be rent asunder? How can we do this truly by strength of character, and strength of a man brothers and sisters in Islam? We can do this by showing our manhood through false false characteristics false criteria that people have set up. Beauty is not a sign of manhood. Beauty is not a sign of manhood, ability and physical strength is not a sign of manhood. Rather, strength is a sign of manhood. Anger is not a sign amendment. Rather, controlling anger is a sign of manhood. good character is a sign of manhood bad

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character is a sign of, of a weak person, not of a person who truly has a true man.

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Let me towards the end, and I don't want to take too long because it's already very late. Let me move into an important last point, and that is how do we raise our children to be true men? Our time has come, and perhaps it is possible. Our time has come and perhaps it is passing. But let's take our advantage. Let's take this chance. Let's take this beautiful chance to raise our children upon to manhood and making sure that they are the men which we could not be that they are the men which we were not. First and foremost brothers and sisters in STEM Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam had something very, very beautiful. He used to call little children by the kidneys. He wouldn't call

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them by their first names. You wouldn't say Mohammed autofeed

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said or this and that. No, they wouldn't use it. You wouldn't use the first names. Do you know what you will use? The use cuneus

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Don't you see what what was the last lesson I'm set to about an hour man this narration is reported by Buhari in one form. And this is connected by imagining in

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the pelicans is authentic. He said the role of SLM came to an end

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to this boy little boy and he had a small bird and a small bird and Arabic is called what

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a small bird Arabic is called okay. And this nowhere, was being naughty. Little bird was being naughty. He was he was trying to fly out. Solar System came to me and said, yeah.

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You might have heard of this.

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He called him what he called it.

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And another narration authentic Malaysian Bukhari as well in one form as well. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was presented a beautiful piece of clothing, a piece of clothing, a nice piece of clothing from a person who had given him a gift. And so he said, bring him home. He said, Bring Uncle Tom here. You know whom?

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Do you know who she was?

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She was no. She was a small baby of one of the companions. A small, small baby just giving birth to some already called the

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mother of Khufu. And he called this little boy, one Abba. Father of a man. Do you know how it changes the psychology of the little children when you call him father of so and so? Do you see how it makes them feel?

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Try it. Try it with your child. Try it with your little brother Subhanallah when you call them all father of this and that is what I'm not a father.

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But when you start saying that you'll see them changing up your father remember your father, you have to be naughty now.

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Yeah, but Hamza.

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Your name is Abu Hamza, for example, Abu Hamza, if I call it a Hamza, you will see the children changing. Our solar system always used to call little children by the communes. This is something small, but this is something significant, something small but significant, that's one.

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Secondly, is by respecting their rights. And by giving them responsibilities. How many times do we see, for example, a little child in the first row, he bothered to come to the mosque in time and make the first row. And we see people coming later and said, Go back.

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We see people pushing them back. How do you think this little child is feeling? This is my right, isn't it?

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Now the person who comes first is is right, isn't it? So he came first he wants to pray, let him pray. Rather, we push him back. Now rather, brothers and sisters, respect the children respect the rights and you will see them having respect for themselves. Growing up as individuals respect themselves and having this manhood inside them. That as well as also Islam in an authentic hadith in Bukhari prosolo. Someone's came up to a gathering, and he was given a bowl of milk to drink of goat's milk, and he drank a little bit of goat milk. And then after that, he saw to his right was a young boy, and to his left was a old man. And so he asked this young boy and authentic states, as

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this young boy and said, also on so yeah, yeah, well, at the old little boy, do you permit me to give this milk to the old person first. And it's all and this young boy said, No, yasunaga. He said, Whoa, rasulillah.

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Smile, and he gave the milk to the young boy first. Because obviously, you go from the right.

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Imagine that respecting the rights of the children. Now imagine this boy, don't you think he's going to also give the rights to the people when he grows old? Now, so panela very, very important. Very, very important.

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Another important thing, brother and sisters, Islam, is to tell them the stories of the heroes of Islam is to tell them the stories of the great heroes, the absolve Islam, the great, great stories of the great self and the great pious princesses. Tell them the stories how they were true men. How they did not need to prove their manhood, by by feet by by feminine things, but becoming a feminine Mashallah, today, if we were tight jeans, and we're tight, you know, I'm sorry, I'm shaking my body like that. But that's what it isn't it. You know, when you shake your body like that? That's

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MSG, the brothers.

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little brothers in America, for example, hey, man.

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The bigger you are, the more you can move and that's man but isn't it Subhanallah we see a time in which tight pants and tight tight t shirts Pamela is a sign of the number of bumps on his body and so a sign of how good a man he is. I would like I don't have to talk about Sydney. I'm talking about Medina. I'm talking about Medina. Man. I've been living there for the last six years. I want you to go down to Tanner street where all these KFC is and Hardee's and McDonald's and everything. When you walk down there, when you go down.

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You see the men,

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the men in a boys in the most insane things upon us we would not even

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I don't know what to say even the things even women don't wear in this country. And they're wearing and wearing the tightest of white pants. Right? They don't want to wear white gloves anymore. But the whiteness of white pants and tightness a tight and they're thin and skinny, like a toothpick.

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And the thing that this is a sign of matter. Do you see how the scales have been switched? Do you see how our criteria have been changed? He is supposed to be mad at me in my soul. Walking down with a good throw on my head.

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And he's laughing at me was I'm loving it is

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amazing, isn't it? He thinks that I'm not a man and he's a man was truly ignorant man doesn't know how foolish he is how much a man is not.

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I am only giving examples where this I'm not talking about dress, but I'm talking about the mentality and talking about ideology. I'm talking about the understanding that has been corrupted, and has been manifested in many ways. And from them is their change of clothing is from them is that change of lifestyle from them is them trying to be like like women, that for example, take the beard off, make it nice and shiny. And it's you know, more slick and more smooth and even a newborn baby's back. So Pamela

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is this manual? This is not mad her brother and sisters we knew of we know of stories.

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I'm not talking about any brother in the group. So don't be embarrassed. Okay. We are men, young men. Don't be embarrassed. Don't be embarrassed rather, rather than change your heart. If you if you if something that I'm talking about affects you, then don't be embarrassed. Rather than that. That's it brothers right?

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I'm going to change. That's how it's going to be. Okay? Don't be embarrassed. We're not women in this, right? No, that no, we're going to change ourselves okay. And so, this is another sign and we know of companions of the solar system and many of the seller for the price predecessors who had poems, these write poems of how they wish they could buy a bee, meaning that they could not grow much as you know, many, many, many countries, people can grow many much beard, can they, and they would, they would write points about how to buy a bee. They wish they could buy a bee because of course at that time, it was a sign of men would be it was a sign of metal and so should be now as

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well because that is a signal all sorts of stuff. And some of the best of mankind campaigns also law, civil law descended

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from them brothers and sisters, that is from from teaching the kids manhood is also something which is easily forgotten. And that is to toughen you killer.

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I'm touching each other. I know Mashallah. He is the apple of your eye. He is the heartbeat of your heart. I know that I know that you don't have to you don't have to tell me I have children too. I love them more than anything else. However, if you are a wise man, if you're a wise parent, then you will know that the world outside is not as nice as you are. It is not as comforting as you are. The world is full of hardship. So toughen your child up toughen them up don't put them all this luxuries Mashallah. We have the most beautiful of bedroom by them, and the most nicest of of donors and the most softest of pillows, and we buy them the masses of clothes every day new clothes Subhanallah

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What do you think this child is going to grow up thinking? He is going to grow up thinking that this life is a life of a bed of roses. He's going to think think that everything is so easy. Everything my mom will be there.

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Everything will be spoon fed to me. My bed will be full of rose petals and then rose rose syrup, Mashallah. It's gonna smell nice. No, this is not the reality. This is not the reality brothers toughen them up. And it is for this reason why the Allahu anhu he used to say, teach your children horseriding he say what? Teach your children horseriding and teach them how to shoot arrows archery, and teach them swimming, and teach them poetry.

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somehow make them in. Because when you swim, and you you get confidence that you can float, and you have confidence and it actually affects your soul. And it actually affects your psychology and the character. When you're riding a horse, you're controlling an animal bigger than you. This also increases your your strength of character. And your fear removes the fear in your heart.

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My child in Medina, since he was three years old, he has been riding a horse every single day. Now, a white horse and he still says Baba, let's go back to that horse. We don't have horses. Now here, we only have ponies when they see the childhood center, we can put them on the because no, but this is looking at brothers and sisters and stuff.

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It is not the fact that we're talking about riding horses. But the fact that we're talking about how to build a character, how to make them true men how to realize and strengthen the character. And really, when you show them that they can control the horse, they can control an animal 10 times bigger than then, then truly you'll see that they will be able to control the anger and control other people and be a leader in the community, not be a follower, not be an Indian rather be the chief.

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And the last thing

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that I wanted to talk about, regarding how to make money out of our children, is to teach them manners is to teach them manners. And the best way brothers and sisters in Islam is for you to be a an example. How do you wish for your child to be a man when you're not a man? Do you want your child to grow up thinking that you are a feminine? That you're feminine somehow know, if you wish your child to be a strong character, so must you also be a strong character?

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and Alice knows best.

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I asked I asked Allah Subhana Allah to bring back this true manhood to this oma, just as he had bestowed this upon the competitors also. And those afternoon, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to make the 500 million men of this oma realize their potential, their greatness, their ability, their strength, and to let them not limit themselves by their lack of goals by the lack of understanding where the lack of motivation and by the lack of knowledge about their own capacity and accountability. We ask Allah subhana wa Taala to bless this oma and make it make the oma shine just as it has done before Allah. Allah knows best Subhan Allah Allah,

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Allah Allah