The Best Deeds in the Best Days #09 of a Dhul Hijjah Series

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The speakers stress the importance of treating family members' emotions and behavior in order to achieve healthy behavior, including parents being respectful and not criticizing them for their actions. Personal development and sharing smile are emphasized, along with showing compassion and respect when dealing with difficult situations. The importance of strong character and showing empathy and caring for others is emphasized, along with the need for a strong heart to be present and not just for one's own sake.

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Alhamdulillah on this blessed day, the day of arafa as we proclaim the glory of Allah azza wa jal, and we beg him for the forgiveness of our sins and knowing that this day is the day on which we are supposed to make daraz the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the best Dora is the day of honor for any you can make Dora at any other time of the year, but the DA that you make on this day is unlike the Dora on any other day. So, throughout this day, we should be calling upon Allah subhanaw taala. And as we make dua to Allah, let us reflect on not only our, you know, our wishes, and the things that we want the things that we desire, of course, we should be praying for, you

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know, our our hero, but among the things that we should be asking Allah subhanaw taala for is to help us mend our relationships, because our relationships are such that they impact not only our mood, our disposition, our behavior, our you know, our words, our actions, but also our thoughts, and, and our behavior patterns. And, you know, you may have experienced this, that when you have a good relationship with someone, you you are happier, and you you feel more at peace. And because you are more at peace, you are able to work more easily you are more productive, you are more focused, but when your relationships are negative, when they are a source of toxicity, when they're a source

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of pain and and in a constant trouble, then this is something that doesn't let you do anything properly. It doesn't let you even worship Allah subhanaw taala properly. So today's topic is about relationships. And this is something that is relevant to every single person. You see, when it comes to relationships. People who deserve the best treatment from us are who the people who are not only closest to us, but the people who have done us the most favor, and the people whom Allah subhanaw taala has told us to be good to words. And these people are none other than our parents. So when we're talking about relationships, we're going to begin talking about we're going to begin this

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topic by talking about the good treatment of parents. Allah subhanaw taala tells us and sudo su cough what was sinal insana beware Li de e Sana, and we have enjoined upon man to his parents good treatment homiletical Omu Cohan whoa bar to call her his mother carried him with hardship and give birth to him with hardship. When you saw the who Salah thora Shahada and the hardship doesn't end there. His gestation and weaning period is 30 months had either Bella should the who were Bella or barinas senate and until he grows until when he reaches maturity, and reaches the age of 40 years, Allah He says Robbie Zerbini an ash Quran aromatic allottee anon

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corralejo My Lord enabled me to be grateful for your favor, which you have bestowed upon me. What are Lawwell today? Yeah, and upon my parents were an armelle asylee hunter wha hoo, and enable me to, to do those good deeds to work righteousness of which you will approve what especially feed the Yeti and make righteous for me my offspring, in a tribute to a Laker. We're in a minute muslimeen Indeed, I have repented to you. And indeed, I am of the Muslims. So we see that in this ayah, Allah subhanaw taala mentions that he has enjoined upon insert and insert includes every single person, all of us, regardless of, you know, where we were born, how we were raised, whether or not our

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parents were very involved, what kind of you know, parenting style they had, that is that is not relevant. What matters is that as a human being, Allah subhanaw taala has ordered you that you treat your parents in a good way. Why? Simply because of the fact that your mother gave birth to you. And she didn't just give birth to you, she carried you for so long, and carrying you was incredibly hard on her in so many different ways. And then, and then giving birth is incredibly hard. And then it doesn't end there. She has to continue to take care of the baby, and this entire time, and it takes so long it takes the youth of her life. And so often it happens that a woman, you know, she's giving

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birth to one child taking care of one child and then another child comes along, and then another child comes along, and her entire youth is gone in what in taking care of her children. So many men have to put their dreams on hold, they have to put their education on hold, sometimes they have to put their career growth on hold. Why for the sake of their children. So the sacrifices that parents make for their children are appreciated by Allah subhanaw taala and because of that, Allah subhanaw taala tells us over here that we have to be good to our parents. And he teaches us a very beautiful draw in which we ask Allah subhana wa tada to be able to show gratitude for the blessings which he

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has, which he has bestowed on us and the blessings which is also bestowed on our parents. And we're asking Allah subhanaw taala for the ability to do those deeds, which Allah subhanaw taala is pleased with. And then another important part of this draw is that we're asking Allah will slowly feed the reality that Oh Allah, make righteous for me my offspring. Because at an age when you know, you have become an adult, you have your own children, you have your own family, and you know, your own children begin to show some kind of attitude to you, they become difficult to deal with, you know, you wonder, Is this the result of my bad treatment of my parents? Am I being you know, made to

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experience what I, you know, the same pain that I caused to my parents. So we ask Allah subhanaw taala Ya Allah, don't don't allow this pattern to continue. I repent to you, I seek forgiveness from you for the wrong I have done, you make my children righteous for me. So it's a it's a beautiful dog that we should be making regularly. And it in this idea, we learn about how important it is for us to, you know, be not only considered of our parents, but to but to treat them well. In a Hades the first studies we're looking at today in this Hadees we learned that a man asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that a you are merely of birth, that which deeds are the best. And the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam replied a Salah to Luwak tea, her prayer at its proper time. And then we're below validate, and then to be good and beautiful to one's parents. And then some will Jihad feasable illa and then to participate in jihad in the cause of Allah. When we look at the Quran, we see so often the right of Allah is mentioned the fact that we should worship only Allah and then the right of the parents is mentioned. And in this Hadees also you can see the sequence that first it is the right of Allah Asana to live up to her, then below validate, then being good to one's parents, and then jihad in the way of Allah. So this is this is the correct order. You see,

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first comes the right of Allah and then of the rights of people, the people who deserve the best from us are our parents, and then comes Jihad then other good deeds. You see, sometimes people think that you know, I am volunteering in, you know, in the cause of

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Allah, I am, you know, working for the religion of Allah, you know, I try my best to be a good person, you know, I feed others, I give charity, I am very good to my, you know, co workers, I'm a very good, you know, citizen, etc. All of that is great, it's excellent. However, the right sequence is that first you give the right of your parents, and then you think about other people. Why because if a person skips a step, all right, and tries to, you know, go to the next step after that, then there is, you know, a very, you know, high chance that they're going to stumble, they're going to hurt themselves. And so, it is, it does not make sense that a person is you know, really good with

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people, you know, around them, but the people at home the people who have done the most favor to you, your own parents, then a person is ignoring them, that does not make any sense. So, the correct sequences, the right of Allah, the right of the parents, and then service to to humanity, then you think about other people as well. Now, the question is that in this Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned below validate, what exactly is biblical validate, you see bear is, is to do good, alright. And bid on validating is kind is good treatment of parents. And good treatment of parents means that not only are you you know, good to them in the way that you deal with them, but

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that also, you you, you go out of your way to help them to please them, you know, to make their life easy for them, to be of benefit to them, and to not disobey them and to not hurt them. So Biddle validate includes both things. On the one hand, you do something to be good to them. And on the other hand, you refrain from harming them, you refrain from hurting them. And the rumors say that help Ganassi Bartel Holic, that the off the people, those who deserve any the most from you, of course, after the right of the creation is sorry, of course after the right of the Creator are who it is your parents, it is your parents. And Allah subhanaw taala has joined the kind treatment of

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parents with his worship, any both of these come together in so many places in the Quran. And when it comes to, you know, being good to your parents, you can do this in the way of making Gods for them giving sadaqa on their behalf, you know, doing something to make them happy, keeping in touch with them, giving them gifts, you know, talking to them, spending time with them, listening to them. And then also showing importance to their friends showing importance to what they like, among the the other things that their alumni have said is that you should not walk in front of them. And, and that, you know, for example, if they're, if they're sick, if they're ill, then you then you take

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care of them and you help them you know, find the right treatment. And you know that you show them physically as well any with your posture, you know that you show that you have respect for them, that you love them, that you value them and he do not stand arrogantly in front of your parents. And this is even if your parents are not Muslim, even then being good to parents is is mandatory, it is essential. And on the other hand, we learn that Rococo validation is something that is regarded as a major sin. What does it require validate Rococo validate is to do anything that hurts and displeases the parents, this could hurt them you know physically or emotionally, it could be done through

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something that a person does once in a while or does habitually any you know, for example, sometimes people will not care about what bothers their parents they will continue to use you know language words that upset their parents. They will continue to use you know, expressions that annoy their parents and it It hurts the mother it hurts the father to to hear their grown adult child use, you know, disrespectful words. Yes, you're not hurting them physically, but you're hurting them emotionally. you're you're you're hurting them. No, you're hurting their feelings. So

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goal is not just in the form of, you know, physically assaulting the parents or being physically abusive to the parents. There's also verbal abuse in this or any kind of action that hurts them that annoys them that bothers them. That that is very displeasing to them. And when it comes to, you know, kind treatment of parents we learn that Allah subhanaw taala took a covenant from the Bani Israel. That letter buena Illa Allah that you will not worship anyone but Allah and that you will be good to your parents. So imagine from the Bani Israel, Allah subhanaw taala took a covenant that you are going to be good to your parents. Allah subhanaw taala tells us what Buddha Allah will add to

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Shrek will be he Shay, were bill well today near Santa, worship Allah. Do not associate any partners with him and do good to your parents. And we see that it is prophetic behavior. Alright, it is prophetic character to treat one's parents with honor and dignity and kindness. We learn about Yeah, he already has set up. He's described in the Quran as we're Bertram B Whalley de Waal, Aamir, Khan Jabbar on Aasiya, that he was good kind to his parents, and he was not a disobedient tyrant, about reciting his sin and we learned the Quran we're burdwan beware Lydda, T, that he said that I am kind I am good to my mother. And out of the you know, to parents, of course, the right of the mother is

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greater and that is something that is well known. And we also learn about, you know, an incident where a man asked the Prophet salallahu Urdu sin and permission to participate in Jihad and the Prophet sallallahu earlier said, I'm asked him, that is your mother alive? And the man said, Yes, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told him to go back to her and be good to her take care of her. So what happened? The man went, the man Sorry, sorry, the man he did not go Actually, he came again to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam you know from another direction pretending to be another person.

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Because you can imagine one person after another is coming is approaching the Prophet salallahu audio setup. So the man came again and asked that I want to go for Jihad with you. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Is your mother alive? The man said yes or messenger of Allah. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam said go to her and take care of her, be good to her. And the band tried again, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam gave the same response. And he said in them Regina her for thermal, Jenna, he said, adhere to her feet, any stick by her side, take care of her, you know, fulfill every need of hers, do not leave her alone for some Belgian. And there you will find Jen and

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you think Jenna is is only in, you know, going out of your way, sacrificing your life, you know, participating in battle, you think agenda is only obtained through doing big things and taking care of your mother is not a big thing. It is a big thing. You see, we learn about ways of cottony you know how he was, you know, he had his mother was extremely old, and he wanted to come be with the Prophet salallahu earning center but he was not able to, to go to go to him because he had an elderly mother to take care of. And the prophets of Allah who listened and told the companions that when you see him, ask him to make the offer you any The only way of seeking Allah subhanaw taala.

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His approval is is not just by doing jihad. It is also by being good to your parents, whether they are Muslim or not. And whether they treat you good or not. You see, if the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam advised a smart rhodiola horn her to be good to her mushnik mother, okay, a person, a woman who associated partners with Allah, and that we know is the greatest sin, greatest sin. But the Prophet sallallahu Urdu said and told her that you should be good to your mother. Then why how can we justify treating those parents poorly? who believe in Allah who worship only Allah? And yes, because they are human, they're not perfect. They've made their mistakes, okay towards us, or you

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know that they have fallen short in their duty to us or we feel like they're very toxic, very negative to be around any How can we justify that we cannot justify that. Now of the rights of the parents remember, is that you speak to them in a nice, respectful way, such that you don't even say off to them

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off the rights of the parents is that you serve your parents, meaning you do something to take care of them. And this

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is not just for women, that women should you know, girls should take care of their mothers and help them around the house. Even men should take care of their mothers and help them around the house. It doesn't make you any less of a man, if you take that heavy pot from your mother and wash it, it doesn't make you any less of a man, if you take the broom from from your mother, and you clean the floor of the house, it doesn't make you any less of a man. If you put cream oil on your mother's feet, it doesn't, it doesn't diminish your manhood, it doesn't diminish that it only makes you a better person near Allah subhanaw taala. So it is necessary that you serve your parents, you you

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take care of them. And taking care of them doesn't just mean that you have them live in your house. And you up, you assign your wife that you do everything for my parents, and I pay the bills, and that's it. No, taking care of your parents means that you, you actually do something for your parents. And part of you know, the rights of the parents is that you don't even look at them angrily, even our bus or the Longhorn, who said that whoever looks at his parents angrily, then, then then such a person has an revoke, and he has hurt his parents. So so this is this is also wrong. So often it happens that, you know, if there's a disagreement, there's an argument, the way

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that people will roll their eyes at their mothers, you know, in front of their fathers, the way that they will talk about their parents talk to their parents angry the as if they're talking about little children or friends. This is extremely disrespectful. Or the 11 are best said that come before your parents be with your parents as if you are a slave. Any that difference should be visible, that you are the child. They are the parents. And unfortunately these days, it's the complete opposite. where children rule, all right, they they treat their parents as if their parents were their servants. And this is extremely disrespectful. Even our basketball de la Mourinho also

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set the Do Not dust your clothes in front of your parents. Why because when you will dust your clothes in front of your parents what's going to happen, the dust or you know the the draft, you know, it's it's going to bother them. So don't do anything to show disrespect to them. And of course, when it comes to things which are impermissible if your parents expect you to do that, to do something that is wrong, you will not obey them in that matter, because this is something that Allah subhanaw taala has already told us about that, the that basically obedience to the creator

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comes before, before obedience to the creation, right? obedience to the creator will always be given preference over obedience to the creation. But you can you know, you can still be respectful towards your parents, you can disagree with them without raising your voice. You can refuse to do something wrong, without frowning without glaring without using rude words without using disrespectful words. And this is something that we all need to learn. And we all need to practice, it is not possible that you always get along with your parents, that you will always you know, have the same opinion, you will always agree with them. It's not possible you are your own person, they're their own

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people, any each person has the right to think independently. Right? And so you may have your own opinions, but you can still be respectful with your parents and don't justify rude behavior with the fact that they are rude to you or that they are yelling at you or that they are raising your voice at you. their deeds are for them, your deeds are for you, you are answerable to Allah in regard to how you treat your parents. So, you see good good character is not that you treat others good when they are good to you. Good characters that you treat others good regardless of how they are with you, because reciprocation any that is the bare minimum, all right, that is the bare minimum if you

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don't reciprocate the good behavior, then what kind of person are you? So what is required is that whether your parents are respectful to you or not, you are respectful to them. Part of you know, the rights of parents is that you know, when you when you do something to them when you do something for them,

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you know you you do it happily and and you don't make them feel burdened. Alright and

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We should also be careful that we don't make our, our parents cry. By the choices that we're making by the things we're doing by the things we're saying, by the way that we're behaving in, we should not make our parents cry. Also, if you know parents make a mistake, and they definitely make mistakes, they will make mistakes because they're not perfect. When they do make mistakes, don't embarrass them, don't humiliate them, and don't, you know, spread their mistakes, you know, among people, a lot of people have this bad habit that, especially young people, wherever they will sit, they will complain about their mother, they will complain about their father, my dad is like this,

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he wants me to do this. He's like that he says this, you know, my mother is like, stop complaining about your parents stop backbiting your parents, any this is this is great injustice. Again, you can you can disagree with them. But that does not mean that you have the right to humiliate them. Now, if parents have passed away, then of their rights is that you make the offer them, you seek forgiveness for them, and that you continue to give sadaqa on their behalf. If they have fasts that they did not keep missed fasts that need to be made up then you make them up on their behalf. If they were intending to perform Hajj they were not able to, then you perform Hajj on their behalf if

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they made, you know a pledge in other than you fulfill that on their behalf. And when you treat your parents good, when you show respect to your parents, then you get many benefits, not only in this life, but also in the next life. We learned the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that whoever loves that his life term should be extended, and that His provision should be increased, that he should be good to his parents failure, Barbara Wiley de he, while he assigned rahima, who and he should join ties of kinship.

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And if a person is good to their parents, then this is a means of forgiveness of major sins as well. We learned in a narration about how a man came to open our bicycle Dylan horn when you mentioned that, you know he had committed a major sin he had committed murder basically. And

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he was asking you know that, what should I do? Is there any chance of repentance for me? Even our boss asked him Is your mother alive? The man said no. So even our boss told him that okay just make Toba to Allah and and do the best that you can keep increasing in your good deeds. So I thought of when you're sad Who was there? He asked the Prophet he asked him in our bustle de la Mourinho. Why did you ask him if his mother was alive? Even our best replied that I do not know of any other good deed, which draws a person closer to Allah, then kind treatment of the mother. Any if you treat your mother, well, if you're good to your mother, then this is a good deed that draws you closer to Allah

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subhanaw taala. So, this this was the understanding of the companions. And we also learn about how if a person is good to their parents, then this is a means of entry into paradise. We learned that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam heard was made to hear the recitation of a reciter in Jannah, if someone is reciting Quran in general. And, you know, he was told that this was how did that happen? Norman radula Mourinho and the Prophet sallallahu Ernest Adams. first response was when he heard that it was Haditha, he said Kodak, Kodak COVID this is righteousness, this is piety. And it was mentioned that how does that but Norman was above lon Naseby Omi. He was the best of all

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people to his mother. And he, it was well known that he treated his mother in a really good way. In he was the best of all people when it came to kind treatment of, of parents. So the Prophet sallallahu already set an attribute it

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had a title de la hora and has a presence in Jenna with what with his kind treatment of his mother.

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When it comes to disobedience of parents and hurting them, remember this is something How long?

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The Prophet sallallahu Urdu said I'm said in Allah, how llama la ko Indeed Allah has forbidden on you made How long? How long is a very strong word. It's a very powerful word. We don't use this word casually. The prophets of Allah Who are these enemies using this word over here and he says in the lahoma aleikum ruco omad Allah has forbidden on you the disobedience to your mothers and he do not disobey your mothers.

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And it is a major sin to disobey one's parents. And we also learn about how the Prophet sallallahu Urdu sent him said that there are three people from whom Allah subhanaw taala does not accept their obligatory worship nor voluntary worship. And who are they? First of all, my nan manana is a person who continues to remind others of the favors that they have done them continues to do so. And he did the favor once but reminded 70 times. Okay.

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Then, McCarthy, the person who denies Divine Decree, and then also our our, a person who disobeys his parents and, and treats them harshly poorly. And remember that upsetting the father is also a big deal. cursing the parents is also something that is of the major sins near Allah subhanaw taala. Remember that when it comes to our behavior with our parents there? There's three possibilities. One is that we are you know, treating them well. We are being good to them bit. All right. One is that a person is good to their parents. The other is that a person harms hurts their parents, all right, disobeys them, you know is is rude and harsh with them. And the third is that a person ignores their

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parents cuts off from them. Or even if you know they're around, they live in the same house. They don't really interact much they basically don't care about their parents. That is also wrong. Because Allah subhanaw taala has not asked us to be neutral with our parents to to just be neutral and do nothing say nothing. No, Allah subhanaw taala has commanded us to be good to our parents, and the absence of good behavior. The absence of kind treatment is also wrong. of the doors that we can make for our parents is of course a bit hum humor come out of Bayani silly rah all sort of Bill fiddly while he while he they hear Oh my Lord forgive me and forgive my parents. What I've been a

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little fiddly while he waited a year or our Lord forgive me Forgive my parents. It'd be zero money and ash cordonnier Medical Leti and Antara layyah What a lovely day. Yeah, we're an Arma solly hunter the what are the Hill neighborhood medical theory, Gaddy Casali hain many of ours we can make for our parents, and this is something that we should be doing, especially on this blessed day. The second Hadees we're looking at is in regard to joining ties of kinship, because this is also one of the best deeds. We learn in a Heidi's that a man as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that which deed is most beloved to Allah, you are merely a habit in Allah. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi

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wa sallam said to believe in Allah the man asked or messenger of Allah, then what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, slit up to him to join ties of kinship. Now, you might wonder, earlier was mentioned that the best deed is that you are good to your parents, after believing in Allah, you know, and after giving the right of Allah and here ties of kinship are mentioned. Yes, because being good to your parents is part of you know, joining ties of kinship. Now slid out of Rahim Salah means to join, and Rahim is womb meaning the the ties the bonds, the relationship that you have with people through the womb. So this is your your blood relationships. Okay, so joining

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ties of kinship, what does that mean? joining them means that, that when they're broken, you mend them, okay? Meaning when those bonds of relationship are severed, because of, you know, some some past arguments, some past, you know, in a mistake on the part of or injustice on the part of one, when those ties of kinship are broken, slid out over him is that you join those ties of kinship, okay, you you mend that relationship, and then send it over him also includes that, you, you, you know, you you recognize who your relatives are, and if you don't know who your relatives are, how are you joining ties with them, right. So, the one the first step is that you you recognize them you

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know them okay. And then if there is any, you know, problem, any fight anything, you know, you overcome that and you mend that relationship, and then sell it to him also includes that you are you continue to maintain that relationship. How do you maintain that relationship by staying in touch by being good to one another and by protecting each other

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From, you know any harm that you could possibly cause them. So there's different ways of being good to your relatives, you can be good to them by spending your money on fulfilling their needs, you know, helping them in their time of difficulty. Whenever you meet them, meet them happily, you make the offer them, you actually make a point that you meet them, you send gifts to them, whenever you you meet them, you You're kind towards them. Any you're not you don't act like a stranger, you don't act harshly

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rather you show respect and anything that is you know, in your culture, you know, that that that shows good treatment of relatives, you participate in such things as long as they are permissible when it comes to you know, the rights of relatives and then maintaining ties with them. This is something that Allah soprano dimensions. Several times in the Quran insert the rock for example. last panel, Tara mentions when Linnaeus Luna, Amara, Allah who be a use on those people who join what a last panel Tata has commanded that it'd be joined. And part of that is ties of kinship. And then other righteous good deeds are mentioned of this group of people. And Allah subhanaw taala says

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Allah ecola home or acaba da, these are the people who will have the good consequences in the home meaning in the real home in the home of Paradise, in Paradise, this is where they will be.

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Also remember that when it comes to your relatives, people who are who are related to you through blood, they are most deserving of you. And you have your, you know, friends, okay, and these friends, maybe, you know, through the masjid, through your work, you know, through something related to, to the deen. All right, you may have, you know, close bonds with such people a, quote, a very strong connection, a strong friendship with them, but remember that the rights of the relatives are, are more important, and your relatives deserve more from you than your friends do. And this is so unfortunate, you know, these days, if if people find themselves disagreeing with their family, with

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their siblings, with their parents, with their, you know, aunts, uncles, even their grandparents, they will cut off from them, literally, they will cut them off, they will not see them will not talk to them, they will pretend like they don't exist, they do not keep in touch with them. And they say that they have a chosen family. Right? These are people who, who they have chosen to be around them. And these are basically people who, who feed their ego, people who wholeheartedly support them, regardless of what they're doing. You see, your family is very honest with you very, very honest with you, sometimes Yes, they cut off from you. You know, and that is unfair. But there are times

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when your family will not support you in your choices because they believe that what you're doing is wrong.

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And it's necessary to, to allow allow such voices to exist in your life. Whether such voices are right or wrong, that's a different issue. But to allow someone to disagree with you and then to tolerate them, this is so good to discipline your ego. So good. Otherwise, we will become so arrogant we will become so full of ourselves and then we will stop at no limit. So you know relatives, especially those who are closest to us, like our parents or siblings when they disagree with us and yet we have to be good with them. Yet we have to you know spend time with them. This is very hard on the knifes but it is also excellent for the nuxe it's very, very good to take him to

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discipline the naps. And we also learn that when a person is good to their relatives, then this is something that increases their wealth, that also increases their life term. The third Hadees we're looking at is about how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us to be good to people at home. And especially you know your family, the people that you're living with to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the best of you is He who is best to his family haidakhan hydrocone A Holly will earn a high rukon li li and I am the best among you to my family. The prophets of Allah who earned Islam when he said this that I am the best among you to my family. He's

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not boasting over here. No rather he is giving us an example to follow that you want to know how you can be good to your family. Look at the example of the Prophet sallallahu. Earlier he was saying he you know the way that he treated his daughter

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The way that he treated his grandchildren the way that he treated his wives any especially his you know people that you're living with the way that he treated his wives. That is the example that we need to follow. So hydro comm hydro completely and this is a very important principle, you can be the best coworker, alright, you can be the best student you can be the best teacher, you can be the best boss, you can be the best employer employee, whatever role you play outside the house, you can be the best in that. All right, people you may have a great friends, many friends who love you. But the thing is, that people who deserve the best treatment from you are actually who the people that

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you live with. That is the true test. You know, for example, if you're outside, you're courteous, alright, you're outside you will make sure you you throw the garbage in, you know where the garbage belongs. But at home what happens to me people, they will leave garbage on the dinner table, they will not pick up their dirty tissue, expecting who to pick it up. Somebody else, maybe the wife maybe the mother, right? Some people will not put their dishes away. You know, outside the house people are so particular around their friends. They're so helpful. But what happens at home Henny you can be very good to everyone outside but that doesn't show who you really are. The best person

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is the one who is best to their family and how is it that we can be best to our families, people that we're living with? Of course this is in terms of showing a you know, good character dealing with them in a nice way. But the the one of the most important things is that you wish the best for them. And so you you want to save them from what will bring them trouble in the hereafter so Allah subhanaw taala says yeah, you're Latina, amanu qu and fossa como la comme la la or you will have believed Save yourselves and your family's from the fire. Any it's not enough. For example, for a parent to you know, send their children to school, buy groceries, buy their you know, eat gifts,

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etc. Buy them a bike, make sure they know how to ride a bike. Okay, that's great, but what are you doing to save them from the fire? Are you teaching them how to pray? Are you reminding them at the time of Salah that it's time for Salah? Are you making sure that they're learning how to recite the Quran? Are you making sure that they know that today's the day of arafah and it's a very special day, any these are things that that are included in being good to your family? You cannot just be selfishly you know, thinking about yourself my brother, right Michael on my Salah, my classes, my this my that and you know, whatever happens to children happens, you know, who cares? No, you have

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to care that you have to show that good treatment to your family, part of good treatment on one's families that you you are kind to them. Right, that you showed compassion and mercy to them. You show them dignity and love and respect. You know how the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would have you know his daughter sit with him. Right? Imagine when she would come father model de la Mourinho the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would welcome her. You know, he acknowledged her her entry or the fact that she had come in, he acknowledged her presence, he honored her presence, he would make her sit next to to himself. And then he would talk to her. And how often it happens

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that boys when they come, yes, everyone gives attention to them. But the girls when they come, nobody even notices them. In fact, the moment that they step in, oh, please do this, do that. Do this, do that. Give them a list of things to do. Don't let them sit at all. You know, if a girl is found sitting, then, you know she's wasting her time get her busy in doing chores, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would make his daughter sit next to him. On his right. on his left, we learned in Hades. Because so often it happens that you know young women, especially who are married with, you know with children, when they go to their parents houses when they find relief. So the

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he honored his daughter. Right and when a man said to the Prophet sallallahu earlier sent him that I have 10 children, I've never kissed them. The Prophet sallallahu Urdu said looked at him, and he said, the one who does not show mercy is not shown mercy. So part of showing mercy is that you kiss your children and also another

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They're very important thing is that you are just with your children, just with your children, any YouTube, you treat them all equally, even your grandchildren, you should treat them all equally. And you see sometimes your children or people that you're living with. And this includes sometimes your in laws, you know, your daughter in law, your, your sometimes your son in law, it's possible that to do something that you disagree with, right? You disagree with it with them. You know, so often it happens that the mother in law does not necessarily agree with how the daughter in law is taking care of her children. So the mother in law will continue to say, you know, do this, do that don't do

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this, don't do that. And the daughter in law, you know, she she does what, what she knows or what she believes is best. And unfortunately, you know, so often it happens that as the children grow older, the grandparents will, you know, blame the parents for not raising their children well, right. So the mother, so the mother in law will, or the father in law will continue to blame the daughter in law, your son is like this, because you did this and that, because you will not listen to us. And, you know, without ignoring the fact that perhaps she was, you know, making those mistakes, because she was raising her children in so much stress, the stress that you were causing

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the toxicity that you were creating. And now you have the audacity to blame her. And now. So you know, this is so unfortunate that the grandchildren now as they're getting older, the grandparents will take their site. And they will tell them your mother was very harsh to your father ignored you. They did this to you, they did that to you. They will make the children dislike the parents, Henny, this is wrong, very, very wrong, that you make children dislike their parents, you're telling children the mistakes that their parents made? Why are you are you a perfect human being you're not any. You know, earlier, we discussed about how parents deserve good treatment, no matter who they

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are, even if they're not Muslim. So your job as a grandparent is to teach your grandchildren to respect their mother, to respect their father, even if you disagree with your, with your daughter in law with your son in law, you have your own issues with them, and you have a right to disagree with them. And that is fine. But you do not have the right to fill those innocent children's hearts with hatred and disrespect for their mothers or for their fathers. That is not correct. That is injustice upon injustice. So hydrocodone, hydrocodone the early people you're living with, even your your in laws, right? And then another thing is that you should not pray against the people that you live

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with. If you have a problem with them, try to you know, solve that problem.

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But if you you know, have a big issue even any Don't, don't start making draw against them over every little thing. You know, some people what they do is, you know, on every little thing that they're upset over, they will say, may you die, may you be cursed. You know, in every language, there's different expressions that people will use. This is very wrong. Pray for them, don't pray against them. And other doors that we can make for our L is robina habla and I mean as word you know, with the react in a kurata Aryan, which are a little more cleaner, a murmur. I mean, the next Hadeeth is about being good to women, especially a man being good to his wife, the Prophet

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sallallahu wasallam said here we'll come here to completely set him hollow core. The best of you is He who is best to his fam sorry to come here to come. Leave me sat him Whoa, look at the best of you are those who are best to their wives. How Hello Can in character. You see, a lot of times we hear this Hadees but we don't hear the entire Hadees we just hear the words theatrical theatrical reciting him. That's it. And we don't typically hear the word hello call. Any being good to your wife doesn't just mean that. You know you you buy her you know big gifts, or that you have given her car you have given her her freedom etc. No. Being good to your wife means that you are good to her

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in your character that you talk to her respectfully. You live with her in a nice way you do not yell at her. You do not treat her as if she was a stranger you do not treat her as if she was you know worthy of no respect whatsoever. Any it's your hornak that

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matters. And, you know, there are people who may not be able to, you know, provide a lavish life for their wife, but because they treat their wife with respect and love, they have such a beautiful relationship. And then there are other people who will provide a lavish life to their wife. All right, she's traveling here there. She's got a house in one country, an apartment in another. You know, she's got multiple cars, servants, you know, she's got a gold on her arms, gold on her fingers, the latest phone, everything. But the husband does not talk to her with respect, doesn't treat her with dignity, honey, such a woman that there's no happiness in her life because things

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cannot bring you happiness. So he autocomplete, autocomplete, nissa t and Hanukkah. Again, there are people who are very good to their coworkers, you know, in terms of their character, very good to their friends also in terms of their character, but when it comes to the wife, she is treated as if she was a shoo she was treated as if she had no dignity worthy of nothing. This is very wrong. Allah subhanaw taala says why she ruhuna Bill maroof live with them in kindness, Kenny, in a good way, in a proper way. And if a person neglects his wife, right, especially financially, then the Prophet sallallahu earlier said and said that it is sufficient for a person to be sinful, that he neglects

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the one that he is responsible for in another Hadees and yet can be so amazingly kokuto that he is stingy with the one that he is responsible to spend on any there are people who will lavishly you know very generously spend on their friends on parties, right? But when it comes to the wife, they're very tight fisted. Very tight fisted. They will count you know, pennies, they will ask her you know, what did you do with this money? And why did you buy the more expensive milk and why did you buy the more expensive bread and things like that? So you know kind treatment of the wife good treatment of the wife is very very important. Another thing is that you know, it's possible that you

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do not you do not like something in your spouse, you know, you will not find a person that you 100% wholeheartedly love and everything about them you appreciate there there are things about you know your closest friends even that you dislike your you know your your loved ones even that you dislike your own children, right you love your children but there's things about your children that you could really annoyed by right little children even so what is the key then the key is that you don't focus on what bothers you rather you focus on on what pleases you What is good about them. Because no, no creation, no creature is perfect. Right? No creature is perfect that we are all you know we

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all have our own flaws. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also forbade men from

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you know from from from hitting their wives in a hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the best of you will never hit their wives. And the Prophet sallallahu organism's own example, I shall deal with Mourinho said that he never hit a servant, nor a woman ever, ever.

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Also, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would help his his family at home, and who did he have at home, it was his wives like I shall do more on her, she did not have any children. And when she was asked about what the prophets of Allah who are using them did at home, she said that he was in the service of his family. And in a Hadees, we learned that whatever you do for your wife is satirical for you. So again, when you go home, you're not a guest. Right? When you go home, you are a member of the family that that house, that room is also yours. So it's not that you know, house chores are reserved exclusively for the wife, you also must participate in, you know, loading the

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dishwasher in washing the dishes in putting the groceries away, cleaning the floor, folding the laundry, you know, switching, the laundry, load, etc. Any, these are not things that are reserved for your wife, these are things that you should also be doing. In fact, if your wife is doing them, she's doing a favor to you. This is not a requirement. This is not mandatory on a woman that she should work in the house. In fact, in in the in the classical texts of fic, we learn about how, you know there are discussions about a man preparing food for his wife, all right. And if he's not able to do that he should hire someone to prepare food for his wife and that he should provide, you know,

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clothing to her etc. that any the has

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And is supposed to take care of the wife. And now, in imitation of different cultures, we have completely forgotten this, completely forgotten this. Any if a wife is looking after the things at home, she is doing a favor to the husband, she's not required to islamically this is not an obligation on her. The it's the man who has to provide food for her. And providing food doesn't just mean bringing money. Okay, providing food means preparing the food as well. So if a woman is doing this, this is a favor on her part, and recognize that favor, appreciate that favor, don't demand more and more from her so that, you know her health is deteriorating. And, you know, she is

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literally losing herself. That on the one hand is her children, on the other hand, the demands of the husband, and she is not able to take up, you know, a moment's break. This is unfair, the autocomplete autocomplete, he set him hollowcore. The next Hadeeth is about being good to one's friends. This is also very important. Sometimes we take our friends for granted, we take you know our friendship for granted. And I think this past year and a half has shown us how special good friends are. Because when we are alone, and you know we're not able to meet one another, you know, we're socially isolated, we realize the value of good friends, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam said that the best of companions near Allah are those who are good to their companions. And many people are, you know, good friends to each other. Right? Or they have really good friendship, they work together, they travel together, they talk you know, they they study together, etc. But who is really a good friend in the sight of Allah, it is the friend who is actually good to their friends. Any you highrollers heavier in the life Hi rumely sahibi. So we need to see how beneficial Am I to my friends? How good am I to my friends? What kind of language do I speak to them? What kind of words do I use to address them? And how do I show you know, care and love to them? Any friends

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are not just people who are filling a void in your life? Or who are you know, there when you need someone to complain to? Or who are there when you you know, just need to take a break and you need some entertainment. So you ask them, Hey, are you free? Let's hang out. Right and then when they need you, you are nowhere to be found. So this type of friendship is is not a good one. in the sight of Allah a good friendship in the sight of Allah is that in which you are beneficial, you are good to your friends. Well hydro Gilani are in the limelight. Only God and the best of neighbors near Allah are those who are good to their neighbors. So remember that your friends also have a right on

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you, people who are with you. And by friends, I don't just mean people who, who you get along with us have are people who are with you. Right Sahib is someone who is with you. It could be there with you, because you're studying together, you're working together. You know, you happen to be traveling together, you happen to live next to each other, any in different ways you could be companions, right? So the companions also deserve good treatment from you, that you help them you assist them. You You talk to them with respect, you don't you know cause any harm or annoyance to them. You You keep in touch if they're unwell, you find out how they're doing, you help them, you you like for

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them what you like for yourself. And, and also that you show pardon and forgiveness to each other. This is very, very important because, again, people that you are working closely with, they are going to hurt you, right? inadvertently, unintentionally, they're going to do things that are going to bother you. So learn to overlook, don't point out every mistake of your companion and yes you you want to be that mirror to them right that you help them become a better person. But if you're in the middle of a conversation every single time that you meet them every single time that you're working with them, you pointed oh this is wrong. This is wrong. This is wrong. This is wrong, this is wrong,

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this is wrong. Any that person is not going to be want to be with you anymore. Be easygoing, be gentle learn, identify which battles to pick in which things to overlook, so learn to overlook as well. Then the next is about

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the best character the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the best of people is the one who is best in character Hyo nasci son whom colocar in another

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As we learn, a man asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam through messenger of Allah, which of the believers is best, he said, He who has the best manners among them are Salim colocar. So good character, any in general, you know, dealing with people, you know, with good character in general, this is what what makes a person the best among them. So what makes a person best among the rest is not the bag that they're carrying, or how tall they are, or what perfume they're wearing, or you know, how many followers they have on social media, what makes a person good and best is, is their character. May Allah subhanaw taala beautify us all with good character in another Hadees we learn

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in the next one that when the Prophet sallallahu Urdu cinema was asked that what is the best thing that people are given, he said good character, and he good character is the best blessing. Now,

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luck is the plural of Hulk, right? And Hulk is, you know, your disposition, your behavior, your your nature, your your manners, the way that you you deal with other people, the way that you express yourself. And this is the inner person, you see, the outer person is is your is your physical form, right? It's the Hulk. And that is something you don't choose. But when it comes to your, your whole up your inner person, your character, your disposition, your behavior, yes, there are parts of it which are by nature, right? So you may be naturally inclined to being you know, short tempered. But then there's a major part of it which is by by choice, right? So, you know, some people say that Oh,

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what can I do? I'm just short tempered, right? What can I do? I'm just very impatient. What can I do I just get angry very quickly. Right? No, you cannot make that as an excuse. When it comes to your physical form. You know, if you're sweating a lot, you don't say what can I do? I just went a lot knowing I'm sorry, you have to go shower, you have to, you know, make sure that you clean your body Every day you wear fresh clothing every day. You cannot make the excuse, right? That you just sweat a lot. If you have long nails, you cannot say oh what can I do? I have long nail to that. So did they just get dirty, you can't make that excuse. You have to maintain your physical body and you

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also have to maintain your inner self right? That is your whole look. And that means that you know you, you you try your best to not harm people to not hurt people. You do your best to be generous with them. And that you are pleasant. You know in dealing with them you show pardon and forgiveness and you are patient over you know what what bothers you the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the most complete of the believers in terms of faith are those who have the best character. good character is heavy in the scales and when a person is good in their character, any they reach the level off the person who fasts a lot the person who prays A lot of you know night prayer the

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Hagit Salah, any This is a good deed that is a means of getting beautiful homes in paradise as well. So we cannot make the excuse that I'm just like that No we have to strive to be better. And we should ask Allah subhana wa tada as well Allah who are sent the helpee for us in holo tea, or Allah you have given me a beautiful physical form, give me beautiful character as well. A lover my identity is in a HELOC. layyah daily ehsani her illa Anta was three friendly say he or her layer three for a nice illa Anta or Allah guide me to the best character, no one can guide me to the best character except for you and turn away bad character from me because no one can turn that away from

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me, except for you.

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The next time the Hadith is about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the best of you are those who have long lives and excellent character. This is so beautiful long life and excellent character. If this combination is there, then a person will accumulate many many good deeds because through good character, you are able to win the hearts of people. good character means that you are generous good character means that you are forgiving. So the longer a person is showing good character, the better it is for them. This is this is good fortune. The next topic is about

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about being humble. Alright, the Prophet sallallahu. Earlier Selim said that the best of you are those who have excellent character and have humbled sides. Okay, and what the owner can alpha a can alpha are two sides of a person so your right side your left side. So the best of you

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Those of the best character and who are also gentle, easy going humble, you know, in the way that the deal with people, some people have very stiff shoulders, you cannot bend them. You cannot. They're very, very difficult to deal with, they will not budge. They're stubborn as ever. They will not move, they will not cooperate. And while it's good to have determination, stubbornness is unhealthy. You have to learn how to cooperate with others, how to be gentle with others, and how to live and let live. You know, there are places where you have to make compromise, right, like the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and he what was the Treaty of her davia? It was it was yes, you

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know, there was a treaty, but there was also a whole lot of compromise. You know, so often the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would allow the companions to do different things to

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you know, give given the situation that they were in. So, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the believer is like the tethered camel, wherever it is, led, it yields any the believer is not stubborn. Right. And if someone is stubborn with you, any you cannot change their mind. They're they've got an ego problem. They just say it's my way or the highway, it's very difficult to deal with them. So the best of you are who those who who are humble, may Allah subhanaw taala give us that wisdom as well. The next Hadeeth is about how the best people are those who when seen Allah is remembered. This is also very beautiful, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said in the theater,

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that Allah the best slaves of Allah from this oma are those who, when they're seen, Allah is remembered any their, their presence reminds others of Allah.

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Why? Because they don't talk to people. They just contemplate the entire time No, because their their behavior, their clock is good. In their speech is the vicar of Allah, everything that they're doing. They do it consciously, right knowing that Allah subhanaw taala is watching them. So their presence does not distract them from Allah zoologia their presence, their demeanor, their actions, their language, it reminds people of Allah subhanaw taala and you see the companions were like that, right that Allah subhana wa tada describes the companions in the Quran, that Sima Humphrey would you'll hear him in a third is so good that you know the signs of sujood are visible on their faces.

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And you can tell that this person has been worshipping Allah subhanaw taala this person has been reciting the Quran. So May we be of those people who remember Allah and also remind others of Allah, not those who are heedless of Allah and distract others from Allah, what are ya the Billa the next Hadith is about being of benefit to others. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said hydro nasci And Pharaoh homeliness, the best people are those who are of most benefit to people, any wherever they are, wherever they go, whoever they are, when they're with people, they bring benefit to them. And this can be in a number of ways this can be in the way of financially benefiting people. But

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it's not just limited to that you can benefit people by teaching them something good, right? By giving them a good suggestion, by listening to them, you know, by giving good advice. By, you know,

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just just your presence, even your smile even can be a source of benefit for others. So wherever you go, don't just think about what you can take from there. Also think about what you can give over there. How you can benefit people over there. Because you see, recently Sam, he said, Well, Johnny mobile can aina mercon to Allah has made me bless it wherever I am. So wherever he went, he brought benefit to people. So we should also strive to be like that. And in a hadith we learn about, you know how

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there are so many gateways of, of goodness, so many doors of goodness, and he there isn't just one way of of benefiting people right off of doing something good. Because in Hades we learned the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that every day that the sunrise is the son of Adam must give sadaqa so the companion said, O Messenger of Allah, how can we give to the everyday any we don't have that much money that we give up? every single day. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that there are many doors of good

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This too to sit Subhan Allah is sort of hard to say Alhamdulillah is sadaqa. And you see when you make victory, yes, you're making liquid, you know, you're remembering Allah, but when someone hears you making they could fail to benefit from it. They remember to remember Allah as well. Right, commending what is right is is also sadaqa, forbidding what is wrong is also set up, right. And this could be in the form of correcting someone when when you see them making a mistake, when you see them struggling, when you see them not knowing what to do, removing something that is painful for people, you know, removing that from the road is also sort of

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communicating with a person who is unable to hear is also Southern.

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Guiding, the blind person is also sadaqa, assisting a person who is lost, right, you assist them find their way, that is also sadaqa using the strength of your legs, to help those you know who are weak is also sadaqa. Right? So there's so many different ways of giving sadaqa so many different ways of bringing benefit to people, let us be eager to bring benefit to others. This life is short, and the opportunities are many. But we will only be able to see those opportunities if we learn to look beyond ourselves. The next idea is about

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the best deed the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that the best deed is that you bring a smile to your brother, or remove a debt from him or feed him some bread. And he helping your brother and your brother doesn't just mean your biological brother, but your brother in faith, right? Because the Prophet sallallahu earlier said a fecal illegal movement. So any Muslim you find out about that, you know, there said you bring a smile to their face by sending them a sweet message. Right? by smiling at them by sharing a you know, a light hearted joke with them. Right, you'll find out that they're financially struggling, you help them you even offer some bread. Right? That is

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also an excellent deed. So there's so many ways of being of benefit to others, there isn't just one way and any person that you come across and you see that you know, you you take interest in them, you will find a way to be of benefit to them. It doesn't mean that people are in need of your charity. No, people are in need of your kindness. Okay, people need people deserve kindness, right. And if you have the opportunity to be kind to them. Go ahead. And and and don't think twice. The next Hardee's is about feeding people and greeting them. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the best of you are those who give food and return the greeting, who give food. And remember,

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this is not just to people or to Muslims, or to your family. But this includes giving food to people and animals, right? Giving people to Muslims and non Muslims giving food to people who are your family and strangers and friends, people you know, people you don't know, offering food. I have this friend of mine, you know, she has this habit that especially you know, late in the night, she happens to be at a store and you know, she's buying something, she will also buy a chocolate bar, or anything that is you know, gum or something a drink, and she will buy it and then she will give it to the cashier as he's leaving. You see these are people who are doing their job, right and yes,

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they are being paid. But they also deserve that you know, someone treats them kindly someone treats them in a way that they feel special. They also feel loved and taken care of. Because yes, doing the job of a cashier any you know, it's a job. But it's also hard it's also difficult you're standing for so long, you know, scanning item after item bagging item after item This is mentally tiring, physically tiring. And if you're just you know doing manual labor, any your your mind is wandering, right. And if you have any worries and any any troubles, you know, something that's causing you anxiety in this kind of work is not necessarily helpful in that way. So, you know, show kindness to

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people in whatever way that you can. So the best of you are those who give food and giving food doesn't just mean that you hold a lavish party, or that you sponsor and if thought only in the month of Ramadan, or that you send you know, money to a poor country where people in need can be given food. All of that is is part of giving food Of course it is but giving food

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Also means giving food to your neighbors, giving food to your children giving food to your parents giving food to your friends, any in any way big or small that we can and returning the greeting anyone someone says Salaam to you, you honor them and you say why are they como Salaam? You don't ignore them. The next is that the best person is is the one who

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you know who's good, from whom good is expected. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, once, he said to some Sahaba chilla not inform you of the best of you from your worst and you do want to know who the best among you are and who the worst among you are. And the people expressed, you know, a person expressed his wish that yes or messenger of Allah do inform us, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said to the best of you is the one whose goodness is hoped for any, as soon as this person walks in, people are like, yes hamdulillah they're here. Yes, 100 Allah, I can benefit from them. And hamdulillah you know, the answer to my draws is here. Right? Any the people know that

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they will only find good with this person. And people are saved from his evil. He need the moment this person walks in, people feel secure, people feel at ease, people feel relief. And the worst of you is he whose goodness is not hoped for and people are not saved from his evil stuff at Allah. At the moment this person walks in people become afraid. They become you know that there's a negative vibe, there's a negative energy, they get worked up, you know, there's stress. So we need to see what kind of people are we? You know, when we are present somewhere, are we of benefit to others? Or are people walking on eggshells around us? The next Hardee's is about how the Prophet sallallahu

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Sallam was asked at all messenger of Allah, Who among the people is the best. And the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said every person with a soft heart and a truthful tongue. So the people said that, you know, we know what a truthful tongue is, you know, a person who has a truthful tongue, we understand that it means they never lie. But what does it mean to have a soft heart? So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said that, the soft heart is the person who is God fearing or the soft heart is the heart which is God fearing any decay, the one that has taqwa in it and unhappy the one that is clean, and he doesn't have any grudges against people, all right, and it is let is my fee free of

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sin, any no intention to you know, commit sin and free of oppression. And you know, no intention to harm others. Right? And no hatred or jealousy. This is what it means to have a soft heart. So a soft hearted person is not just someone who has, who says that they have empathy, or that they care about others, or that they cried for the fifth time when they saw you know, a kitten that was injured, okay. A soft heart is of is of the person who who, who is God fearing. Any who who is conscious of Allah, someone who wants good for others, someone who does not carry hatred and jealousy for people. This is what it means to have a good heart. And we all want to have that kind of a heart. So it's

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important that we clean our heart, we ask Allah subhana wa tada to beautify our heart, we ask Allah subhanaw taala to keep our heart sound. And this Hadees shows us the importance of you know having a truthful tongue. But also you know making sure that our heart is is it is in a good condition because if the heart is not in a good condition the tongue also cannot be sound. So we we ask a lot of benefit learner when he when in alladhina, sub acuna bill Eamon will aka Dr. Phil Kubina will alladhina amanu robina in the corner offer Rahim that Oh our Lord forgive us and forgive our brothers who have preceded us in faith and do not make in our hearts any hatred, any ill feeling for

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those people who believe or our Lord indeed you are compassionate, you are merciful. We should ask Allah subhanaw taala Allahumma in the our will be coming shortly summary. Women shall Reba sorry women shall release any woman shall be women shall remain he or Allah. I seek refuge with you from the evil of my hearing the evil of my eyes the evil of my tongue, the evil of my heart. We ask Allah Allah homogeneous Luca bitrefill while our azima to Allah rushed, was a Luca Mooji Betty la hermetic whereas Eva McPhee erotic or as a Luca shukran airmet

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May Allah soprano throttle grant His forgiveness on this blessed day. May Allah subhanaw taala purify our hearts May Allah subhanaw taala give us the ability to be of the best believers to be good to our parents may last panel thought of forgive us for any shortcoming on our part, any any wrong on our part in the treatment of our parents, our family, and also other believers. The last panel to adorn us with beautiful, a HELOC. May Allah subhanaw taala give us the ability to be patient to be tolerant to be good to those who are closest to us. And we Allah subhanaw taala forgive us for all our shortcomings. I mean, inshallah we will conclude over here there's one more

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session actually because this was supposed to be 10 sessions and

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you know, because the dates were decided before, you know, the way that the ledger and from the light began, we were a day behind. So anyway insha Allah after eat, there is going to be one more session that I'm going to do just to complete the the ashara that the 10 topics that were prepared for the series, and that is also in regard to the best of luck, but inshallah that session will be after EAD and inshallah I will share information about that, about a calligraphy comb. So panicle lahoma will be handed a shadow Allah ilaha illa Anta astell Furukawa to Lake wa Salaam wa Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh