Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P18 179C Tafsir Al-Nur 31

Taimiyyah Zubair
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of not being exposed to others and avoiding sexual interactions. They stress the need for women to cover their private parts and avoid discomfort, while also emphasizing the importance of finding one's face and body in relation to one's vision and beauty. The speakers also discuss proper clothing and makeup for men, including wearing wines and rings, jewelry, and gloves. They stress the need to avoid discomfort, avoid showing one's beauty to others, and avoid showing one's "has been told" in public. The importance of avoiding negative behavior in family settings, avoiding exposed walking, and not wearing makeup or U turn are also emphasized.
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Then the women are addressed Allah subhanaw taala says well only a minute and say to the believing women

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tell them what that young Bordner men are beside him. They should also lower gas down, reduce shorten some of their gazes some of their glances meaning just because men have been told to lower their gaze doesn't mean women have a free license. Check this guy out and check that guy out. No.

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Equally women are told young bold naman upside the hint, they should lower some of their gazes

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why I fell in love Raja Hana and they should also guard their private parts. The same rule is for the women.

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Remember that? Women, they have to lower their gaze also. And this means that they have to refrain from looking at the shoulder of another and that another could be a man or it could be a woman. Right? Likewise, lowering the gaze for a woman also means not looking at people's private matters. You know, looking inside their house or looking into their phone when somebody's texting looking will be with you is the Backstreet Boys is sending a message to No, don't do that. You're building them in upside in.

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In a hadith and Muslim, we learned the prophets of Allah and Islam said, A man shall not look at the nakedness of another man. Nor shall a woman look at the nakedness of another woman.

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You see, it's the same here.

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So a man should not look at the nakedness of another man. And a woman should not look at the nakedness of another woman. It's the same same rule. Now remember that looking at men could be of two types. One is looking with desire with enjoyment. So for example, looking at the guy who's on a sports show, all right. Okay, so it looks really nice. Wow.

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I wish my husband dressed like that, you see how that pot led to another thought? Right? And then looking at his lips, or nose or cheek or beard, or whatever it is? Looking at it with, you know, with that element of attraction with that appreciation? Yeah, that looks really nice. That kind of looking is not okay. So as soon as you start looking too much, what do you need to do?

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What do you need to do? You're building them and applauding him. Now whoever that guy is, whether he's sitting in a talk show, or he's giving an Islamic lecture, or he is an emcee at an Islamic event, on a big screen, you're looking at his face, you know, don't keep looking on, don't keep looking on.

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The other kind of looking is simply looking with no desire or enjoyment. And there is nothing wrong with this. This idea does not mean that women should not look at men, they can look at men, of course, we need to look at each other when we're working with one another. Right? When we're communicating with each other.

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I shut up the Lohana. Remember, she saw the men forming their tricks in the masjid. She was looking at them. The prophets of Lausanne didn't say to her lower your gaze? No. In fact, he is the one who asked her would you like to look? And she said, Sure. So she looked at the men. So looking at men is okay. There's nothing wrong with that. But as soon as some element of attraction, enjoyment or desire comes in, then that is where you have to stop. Look down. Look away. All right. Also, remember one thing men have been told? Yeah, hold women up Saudi women have been told Yeldon women of Saudi,

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then is there any room for looking at each other?

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And looking on and on and on? Is there any room for that? No.

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There is no room for that.

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guard yourself, protect yourself.

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You're not someone who should be a source of enjoyment for others. You should not be a source of temporary pleasure for others. guard yourself and guard your eyes. Go ahead.

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Of course, same thing. I mean, the same kind of looking applies to men as well. So men when they're looking at women, if they're looking at a woman without any enjoyment, any source of attraction or anything like that, that's perfectly fine. Right? Like for example, let's say there's an eye doctor. All right, and a woman comes right now. He should not be looking down. Okay. I'm sorry. I can't check your eyes. Right? No, he has to do his job. But he should any stick to his business, right? I mean, he has

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Look at her eyes, not check out her purse, right? Or look at her hands and admire the slender fingers. Right? He doesn't need to do that.

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And of course the other kinds of looking two types of looking right so one with enjoyment and the other without enjoyment. So one with enjoyment, not allowed without enjoyment allowed. How about if you started without enjoyment?

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You started without any enjoyment without any element of attraction and then after a few minutes

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then these thoughts come in then what do you do? What do you do then? That's where you have to you have a golden moment of Saudi him. The women also have to fall in love although Jehan, they should also guard their private parts from what?

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From exposing them. And also from doing haram with them, meaning they should cover their private parts. And they should not do haram with their private part.

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Covering the private part, what does that mean? Remember that there are a lot of a woman in front of another woman. And there are a lot of a woman in front of a man is different.

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Okay, so this means that if you are in front of a woman, all right, and let's say your legs are somewhat exposed, like the lower half of your legs somewhat exposed, there's no harm.

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Okay? But what if you are sitting in front of your cousin? Guy, cousin,

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then is that okay? To wear a dress that is like this short so that you're just below your knees? Half of your legs are exposed? Is that okay? What about arms? So let's say you're wearing short sleeves, you're at home with your family members, you're wearing short sleeves? Is that okay? It's fine. But what if your cousin walks?

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Can you go in front of him with your short sleeves? No, that's not okay. All right. So for a woman in front of another woman, what is the holdup, there is a difference of opinion. The Scholars say that the bare minimum

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that a woman must cover in front of another woman is the same like that of a man meaning from the navel to the knee minimum. Because you see when a woman is nursing, alright, when a woman is nursing, then what happens?

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Part of the body does get exposed like the stomach, alright, or the side or a lot of the neck. So it gets exposed. So we have not been told that you must cover you know, from this length down of your neck note, the general guideline is that between the navel and the knee must be covered. All right. And above that, below that, depending on what you're doing, where you are, who you're with, you will cover

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you understand? Is it clear? So, for instance, if you are wearing a dress, all right, that has a very low neck. Very low neck. Me, technically speaking, you're not doing anything haram. Technically speaking, but is it considered decent to go into a public gathering of women even with part of your just exposed?

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It's not appropriate? Because of course, in a gathering, there's all types of people, right? Even if it's a women only gathering. I mean, there's children, there's other women. So you should consider covering yourself over there. All right. So we are falling off Raja Han. Now, for women, after these two commands, there's one more command, there's an additional command. And remember that additional command, what does it mean? Where there's more you have to do? And if you have to do more than what is that?

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More difficult.

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More restrictions? Depends on how you look at it

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depends on how you look at it. You know what, when I go outside, for example, with my husband, and I'm wearing a hijab, like you know what, I'm getting rewarded for every single second,

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right, every single second Inshallah, because I am in the state of covering myself, you know, you think about being outside for 10 hours and all those 10 hours you had your hijab on. Yes, it's tiring, exhausting, but no pain, no gain, right? And women know that. Women know that really well. No pain, no gain. So imagine if you have your hijab on the whole time, you're getting reward for the whole time. What's the additional command that the women have been given? Wallah? And not you Medina? They should reveal you, Medina from the word EBITDA bad than Wow. But what does it mean to reveal to expose my tuba donor? What is my top donor that what you reveal that what you express? So

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the women should not reveal? Xena Tahuna their Xena there adornment? What does it mean by this there adornment? When you think about a beautiful woman?

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A woman whose disk

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drived as beautiful. What comes to your mind?

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Beauty? adornment? What comes to your mind?

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Don't tell me nothing comes to your mind. Okay, forget about any other woman. Think about yourself.

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When do you say I look beautiful?

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When do you say that?

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Okay, when you've done something to your hair, Okay, what else?

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When you dress up what else? When you're wearing makeup? What else? When you're wearing jewelry? Okay, good. What else?

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Okay, when you've just stick in the shower?

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Okay, when your body is in shape, right? So, even if you just stepped out of the shower, you're wearing your pajamas and you look at yourself in the mirror, even in those pajamas. Right? You appreciate your hair, your skin, your pajamas, right? You appreciate them. They look nice. That's why you're wearing them otherwise why would you wear them? So remember that their beauty This is of two categories. The first category is my welder Rosina, their adornment, meaning, the parts of the body that are beautiful in and of themselves. The parts of the body which are beautiful in and of themselves, meaning even if you do nothing,

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still, they're beautiful. Like what? Your hair? Right? Your neck, your face. Your arms, your skin, right? I mean, when you tell a little girl you're so beautiful. Why do you say that to her because she's wearing a heavy layers of makeup on her face. Or because she's adorned with jewelry head to toe. Why you say that to her because she's wearing a cute nice, simple, plain dress even night with matching hair clips and matching shoes. That's it. And you say you're beautiful. When you look at a baby, you say you're beautiful. So remember that a doorman doesn't just have to do with what you put on yourself to beautify. Xena, first of all refers to the parts of the body that are beautiful in

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and of themselves. This is Xena Betania fitfully, Xena natural beauty.

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And the second category of Xena is the adornment that a person has put on themselves to further beautify themselves to enhance their beauty. So for example your hair you comb it, it's plain simple, it's beautiful. But then if you put some color in your hair, or for instance you know you style them in a particular way. That is beautification your necklace beautiful anyway, but when you put a necklace around, it looks even more beautiful. Your hand is beautiful anyway, but when you put a ring on it looks more beautiful bracelet, right? Earrings, makeup, mascara, and you know better than me, what all comes in this beauty. All right,

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nail polish, even perfume, that is also part of adorning yourself find clothes, even that is part of adorning yourself. So Allah says that while hanging Medina, Xena tahona their beauty whether it is of the body, or it is a beauty that they put on themselves, they should not flaunt it, they should not show it off, they should not display it. They should not display it. Yes, they should not display it. In that except except for what my that which la minha la hora it becomes apparent minutiae of it, meaning that beauty which becomes visible itself, you can't hide it anymore. You can't hide it. Like for example, your height even that is a part of beauty, right?

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That is also part of beauty. Even if you're wearing a hijab. Can you cover your height? You can't cover your height, right? Likewise, you are, let's say on a regular basis you were covering? All right, I'm not talking about mascara and eyeliner, and eyeshadow and all of that stuff. Right? Just normal.

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If a woman is wearing that, that is a llama the autumn in her. I mean, what is she meant to do? Put something on her eyes to cover? Then how is she meant to walk?

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Right. Likewise, she's wearing some jewelry. So for instance, she's got some rings on and they're not so big and colorful and super attractive that form 50 feet you notice it? No, it's simple jewelry. And when a woman is going to pass some cash or take keys or something, a little bit of the ring shows, or the hand shows what is she meant to do in 40 degrees is she meant to wear gloves, the Sahaba did not wear gloves. Gloves do not even exist at that time.

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Likewise, her feet I mean, she's wearing a long dress she's wearing the Nirbhaya and it covers her ankles covers her feet but as she's walking, her feet got exposed

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Just when she's walking outside, this is something that gets exposed by itself. You understand? You cannot expect from a woman that she should cover herself up so much that it is difficult for her to move it is difficult for her to go outside of her house.

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But, you know, who decides who knows? Whether it is beauty that can really be covered or beauty that gets exposed by itself? Who decides that? It's you.

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You draw the line, you draw the line.

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And this is why you see in the previous video we learned Allah knows what you do. Allah knows and the previous ayat we learned what you reveal and what you can see, Allah knows our intention. So well, Angela Dena, Xena, Tahuna Illa Malzahar minha, except for that which gets exposed by itself. Likewise, your Hana right now it's on the inside part. You're wearing long sleeves. And you know you're not going like this in front of guys. But it so happens that as you're writing, you know, maybe you are putting in the code for your card as you're purchasing your groceries. And in that process a little bit of Hana mean it will be shown. So that's a llama la hora minha your purse is

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beautiful. Purse is also beautiful, right? That is also part of your adornment. Now you can't possibly put your purse inside your via her Hey, that's exposed itself, your glasses maybe beautiful. Are you meant to do cover your glasses here? How can you do that? So in my mother, Holloman her, Okay, remember this and who draws the line? You do? Who decides you do? This is a matter between you and your Lord? Well, we have Libnah one more command Allah gives the women that one leg ribbon and they should put an BB literally means to strike but here doesn't mean hit. That means sport place they should place beholding in the homeowner is a plural of female, what is female

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headscarf? What is female? The piece of cloth that is worn on the head. Understand. So the schema which is on their head? What does Allah say? They should place it where Allah upon? Do you begin? Do you deploy off Jade. And what is J? J is basically chest, the place where the heart is. So in the context of a woman it refers to her breast. So they should take part of their female part of their head cloth. And where should they put that on their chest? What's the purpose of this?

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What's the purpose of this to

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cover the chest? But isn't the chest already covered with your shirt?

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Why do you have to put your female on your chest?

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Why is there a difference? Pick up your hijab. Okay, and dried very close to your neck.

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Not looking at you. Okay? You can do it comfortably. Everybody. Is there a difference? Like if you really gather it up and put it right close to your neck? Yes, your chest is technically covered, but is it concealed. It's not concealed.

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So what's the objective of putting part of the female on the chest to conceal the chest. Now one thing, the objective is to conceal the chest not highlight the chest

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area, if the female is worn in a way that the female is coming on the chest, but the chest is being more highlighted because of the way that remote is put on the chest, then that defeats the purpose. Because sometimes what we do is that we gather about wear hijab from the sides. Alright, so it's sitting on our shoulders, okay. And then it's just on our chest.

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Now, when you're looking at me, where's your attention going? Were on the chest, right? Because that is where the nice printed colorful hijab is.

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The point is to conceal the chest and you cannot conceal your chest fully until you can seal part of your arms also.

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You understand? So you also have to conceal part of your arms clear? Because sometimes, like, I understand when it's winter, you're wearing a smaller hijab because you're in your jacket all the time anyway, right? That's a different situation, but in the summer, especially with the small hijab, if you've taken part of it, and you're using it to cover your chest, make sure that your chest is not being highlighted. It should be concealed. So while you're gripping and the whole Marina Allah do you begin? Well, are you Bettina and they should not reveal Xena tahona their beauty Illa except now this doesn't mean that you have to cover your beauty in front of everybody.

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It's only when you're at your house inside your room you dress up and when you go out you have to wash off that makeup and put that boring buy on No, you can dress up. But when it comes to men, you should not be showing your beauty to everybody. So who is it that you can show your beauty in front of Allah subhanaw taala tells us in that except liberal ruleta hin borooah Varun plural off, but plural of barley whose bark husband, so their husbands? You see, the first person who's mentioned is Oh, the husband. And what does that mean? My dear sisters,

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the husband has the most right to see you beautiful.

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Not the women in your friend circle whom you are kind of envious or you feel like there may be envious of you. Or there's a competition or hidden competition. She got new clothes, I better get new clothes. She colored her hair like that. And I have to color my hair like that when I go next to a party. What's the point? The person who deserves your beauty is your husband. So shall beauty to him. Show beauty to him. Unfortunately, what we do is we have to go somewhere in the evening all day. You know where in our pajamas are in a shirt that is covered with hair color. All right. And our hair is you know stuck with what do you call it those?

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curl your hair right? Or it's covered with hair dye and the poor husband is seeing you in your pajamas and our deep shirt and faded pajamas and then you go to take a shower and make your hair and put your makeup on and put your nice clothes that the poor guy paid for. And then you go to a party and then when you come back you're like can't wait to get out of these clothes and you take them off and you go back into your pajamas and then you sit next to him.

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Will you

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beautify yourself for your husband

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when you go home. When your husband comes home, spend a few minutes to beautify yourself.

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Put some lipstick on put some nice clothes on. Put some perfume on do some makeup. Something beautify yourself for the husband in their liberal ruler to him.

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Oh Obinna in are their sons. Obviously your sons live with you, your children live with you. If they're not living in the same house, they come visit you and you can show your Zina to them. You can dress up in front of them. But obviously this doesn't mean that the way you dress up in front of your husband in short clothes and tight clothes or however you dress the same way in front of your son. Okay.

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So this is how you should dress up in front of your husband. Okay, can you show us your earrings?

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Nice, Mashallah. You also have a ring on? Do you wear them when you're doing dishes?

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Okay, you know, if nothing else, just put a nice baton, like a nice shawl on look fresh.

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look fresh, because the poor guy has been working outside all day. And when he comes home, he sees a stinky wife, in her pajamas, fashion up, even if it's just with a little bit. You know, sometimes our entire focus is on cooking. So sometimes we think that because we're going in front of guys that are younger than us.

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It's okay. What we forget is that that guy is maybe 1718 years old, off an older woman, that guy is still a guy. He's still a man. And he's got a heart in his body, and a brain in his head and hormones in his body. He's got them. So it doesn't matter whether you're 40 or 50, or 30 or 20, even 15 or 13.

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Cover yourself. Don't be a source of pleasure for other people. But despite our beauty in front of all brutality when our Obinna in,

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look, liberality, when, whose brutal husband, bear in who's Abba, Father. All right, father, but notice it's plural Father, this includes grandfather also. Alright, maternal and paternal. And this also includes maternal paternal uncle. About also includes paternal and maternal uncle to your mother's brother, your father's brother.

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Oh, I bet Ebola t hen the fathers of their husbands who is the father in law.

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Okay. The father of your husband is Oh, I know many of you are not married, but at least you should know that your husband's dad is called who? Dad in law or father in law. All right. And this also applies the other way, meaning this also applies to son in law. Okay. Oh, Obinna II

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And, or their sons, sons. This includes your son as well as your grandsons from your son or from your daughter, grandsons. Oh, I'm gonna Ebola to him or the sons of their husbands. Sons of their husbands who are their stepson. Meaning the husband's son from another wife. All right.

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Oh, Hawaii, him or their brothers? No, my dear sisters brother doesn't include brother in Islam. Okay, nor does it include cousin. Okay, one this is blood brother. Okay. Benny 21 or the sons of their brothers. And who's that nephew of Benny, a hottie hen or the sons of their sisters. And who's that nephew? So nephew, either through your brother or through your sister?

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Mom. All right. But what if it's your husband's nephew?

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What if it's your husband's nephew? No, they're not Muharram. Okay.

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Oh, Lisa hinda or their women? What does it mean by this? They're women. Women, I thought all women are okay to show your Xena in frontof. But Allah subhanaw taala says they should only show their Zina to their women. What does it mean by their women? Some scholars said their women means Muslim women.

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However, the better explanation is that Nissei hinda refers to their women being women who are any reliable, trustworthy, because it's also possible that there's a Muslim woman who's, you know, got her camera, and she's taking pictures, pictures, pictures, and you know that she's going to upload them on Facebook, and you're in a girl's party, but she's going on taking pictures and you're dressed up. So if this woman doesn't understand the concept of hijab, then what are you going to do in that situation? You have to cover in front of her, even if she's a Muslim. And there's other non Muslims, on the other hand, who understand the concept of hijab and who respect it, and they will

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not take your picture without permission, and they will not put it up somewhere without your permission. So Nissa hin, there are women, meaning the women whom they're comfortable with the women whom they find reliable, trustworthy.

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Oh, or mama got a manhood that which their right hands was us. What does it mean by that slaves? Now, of course, slavery doesn't exist today. But back then, if a woman owned a slave, and that was a man, she didn't have to observe hijab in front of him. All right. Oh, mama, look at a man or woman, or a tab, you're in a tab reemploy off tab here who is tab? You're one who follows?

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Who is tab here? One who follows. So a term here in the followers. What does it mean by that? It refers to those men who just follow others in the sense that they are completely dependent on others. They don't think themselves, they are not even able to look after their needs themselves. They need somebody to come and help them set up. They need somebody to tell them to eat. They need somebody to tell them to, you know, lift up their spoon so that they can eat properly. tampereen Who does tampereen refer to dependent men, dependent men,

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because they're just followers, they can't do things themselves. But one condition has been set because it's possible there is a guy in a wheelchair. Right and he's dependent on others, but his mind is

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as good as it can be very active, and sometimes it could be active in a very bad way.

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The condition has been set that tab urien lady Ollie erba lady other than O'Neill erba possessors of desire, Mina regional from among the men in Hamza Robair. Remember Musa salami said in my stick, there are my Adebola other needs that I fulfill with this stick. So it is basically a need a need that you have to fulfill. So for a man, one of the basic needs that he must fulfill is a sexual desire. So lady O'Neill erba mineral, it refers to those men who don't have any sexual desire

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who don't have any kind of sexual desire, who not interested in this, why extremely old, or there's some mental disability because of what she doesn't think of these matters.

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You know, somebody once told me that they used to go volunteer somewhere, and there were a couple of men whom they would help out and one of them and he was in a wheelchair, like he had some serious disabilities, but whenever he would try to have a conversation with him, he would say such like first things such first things that it was shocking, surprising

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So, don't think that every old man you know, you can go in front of him dressed up every old man or a person in a wheelchair there is no harm. The condition is Lady owning it but Timoner ritual, or a playful children, meaning little boys Alladhina dos who left me a hurdle, it has not become apparent meaning to them, they have not come to know about either or writing this,

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about the private matters of women.

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Boys who do not know about women's private matters, meaning they don't know about women's private parts. They don't know what sexual * is. They don't know about these things. So when they're that age, a woman may display her Zina in front of her. What if there's a kid who's 11 years old? He's got no stash? All right, his voice is still not heavy. But he knows all of these things. Then what do you cover in front of him?

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You see, over here, we have been told me no regional men. All right. So men means a man is a man. Even if he desires other men, he doesn't desire women. It's quite possible that one day as he's looking at a woman, he thinks, no, let me change my mind. You never know. You never know. All right.

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Nyssa in also means that if there is a woman whom you know, you know, she sleeps with other women, or she's interested in other women, then you have to guard yourself in front of her just as you would guard yourself in front of another man.

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All right. So lady, wouldn't it but if you know jell o Tiffany Latina, La Miel Hooroo, Allah, Allah T Nyssa. All right. This is one command, right that the women must cover themselves up in front of these men. Now remember that part of this is also like if there's a man who was nursed by the same woman that nursed you. You understand? Let's say he's your cousin. And the Prophet saw a lot of them said that what is unlawful because of blood relations is also unlawful because of robar. All right. So if your cousin was nursed, let's say, by your mother, than your cousin is like a mohawk, do you understand this is why in many families, what they do is that the nurse each other's babies, so that

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when the kids grew up, there's no hijab issue. All right. One more thing. In the aisle we learned about father in law, right? And same extension, we learned about son in law, right, that there are my son in law and father in law are both Mahan. However, your daughter's father in law, or your son's father in law, is not my home.

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All right, it's not my home. Likewise, husband's uncle, we learned about husband's nephew, not my husband's uncle also is not my hero, whether maternal or paternal,

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you understand? Because when we come in these situations, and we're kind of stuck, I remember when I got married, and we had to go visit my husband's uncle. I was like, do I have to cover in front of them what's going on here? I was confused. So you know, this is important to know that your husband's uncle husband's nephew, they are not more harm to you.

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In a hadith we learned that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he said beware of getting into the houses and meeting women in seclusion, meaning he told men that don't go into a person's house and talk with a woman meaning who's not Muharram do in seclusion. Don't do that. So somebody asked that era, so Allah What about the husband's brother? Meeting? What if it's my brother's wife? So my brother's house, can I go to his house and just sit with my sister in law and you know, have tea with her and chat with her?

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Can you do that? The Prophet sallallahu sallam said, Alhamdulillah Mote the husband's brother is like death.

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Deadly, super dangerous, super dangerous. Basically, that is what it means that your husband's brother, no, you might be very cool with him, you might have a very good friendly relationship with him, but you better be careful around him, you have to observe your proper hijab, your etiquette in front of him because you know, there's a relationship here, right? So there is going to be more interaction. And you have to be on your guard constantly. Because similar in age sometimes, or because they're a family part of extended family, you know, there could be a fitna and if that fits, that comes in, then life could become very, very difficult.

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So you have to be more careful about non Muharram who are related to you, you understand the message here. Now remember one thing that obviously the level of Xia that a woman would display in front of her husband is different, right. And when you go in front of your father in law, of course, there will be some difference right when you go in front of children, there will be some difference. So it varies

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Write your brother, your uncle, it varies from person to person situation to situation, you know best what your family culture is, you know best what is acceptable, what is not acceptable, and you are the best one to decide what is appropriate in a given situation, go ahead

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I mean, if they live in the same house, so for example, two brothers share a house. First of all, that's unfair to the wife, because this is not fair to her that every time she has to step out of her bedroom, she has to cover her hijab or she has to be on guard, you know, in the kitchen, she's not free in her own house. So this is something that is unfair to her. So it's understandable when it's a temporary situation. But as a permanent thing, this is something that should not be adopted, because either she will have to give up on observing her hijab property, which happens in most cases, that the girl is so tired of putting her hijab on or sometimes others feel awkward, so the

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family pressurizes her that you don't need to you know, cover yourself so much in the house. It's okay, no big deal. And she's sitting at the same table with her brother in law with her face covered in makeup and jewelry all because she wants to dress up for her husband, but the brother in law comes in. It's not fair. So the dudes are being compromised over here. Go ahead.

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sisters husband, you see there's an eye on the Quran, the two sisters cannot be married to a man at the same time. Alright, so because of that some scholars, they give the allowance that I mean a woman if she goes in front of her sister's husband, right? I mean, obviously, she will cover herself, she can't go in front of her as she would go in front of her brother, she will cover herself. But in there will be degree of hijab is not the same as that of other non Muslim men. Because there's so many instances we learn about us man, it'll be a little more on her. The daughter of Abu Bakr sister of eyeshadow below her and her coming to the house of the prophets of Allah is

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and I'm talking with him. And at one occasion the prophets of Allah Islam, in fact, he offered her a ride, because she was going carrying stuff. And the Prophet said a lot of sun was also going on his mountain. There were some other Sahaba with him. And so the Prophet saw a lot of some offers, should I give you a right and she refused. Why? Because you remember their husband is very protective about her, so she refused the offer.

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Anyway, one more thing in this IO, Walla, yo Brebner b r o Julie Hiner. They should not strike with their feet altitude as a Florida region, meaning when they're walking, they should not strike their feet in such a way that Leo lemma that it becomes known. What becomes known. May your phenom in zenity hinder that which they are hiding of their adornment because when a woman is, you know she's dressed up. And let's say she's wearing a hijab or an Avaya or even though she's not wearing that she's wearing her normal clothes. If she walks in a particular way, what happens? parts of her body move, all right, and they become very noticeable when she walks.

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Whether it is jewelry, or it is part of body, whatever it may be. Allah's parents art is teaching us to watch our style of walking also.

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Are we walking in a way that would display some of our Zina whether it is the chest or the hair, or whatever part of the body it may be we have to be careful about our walk, how is it that we walk? Sometimes what happens is that our let's say our buyer is you know it's open from the front. It's closed when you're standing or something but as you're walking, you don't care about it and Vi is flying everywhere and you're walking and your clothes are showing and your ankles are showing that is not okay. Sometimes jewelry, you know you're wearing some bangles or earrings or something on your ankles. You're wearing that but the way you step the way you walk ha Shoes, shoes, even heels,

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right when you're walking every

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you know the guy is sitting at the end of the hallway and he's wondering where's this doctor coming from when he looks in? Oh, she her she's walking so walk in a way that the Xena is not exposed? Yes, a woman should not walk in a way that she attracts attention unnecessary attention

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Yeah, I mean that's beyond your control. Right? What to boo Illa Allah He Jimmy are on a U haul mcmeen en la la come to flee.

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Allah addresses the believer

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Is Tubu in Allah, all of you do Toba to Allah. Turn back to Allah, repent to Allah. So over here, we don't need to think about other people. My friend used to dress up like that and my sister she wears a hijab the wrong way. And yeah, I saw sister Tamia with that kind of hijab. Don't think about others. What do we need to think about? Us? Me, me, me? Is my hijab. The way I am dressed. Is this acceptable near Allah?

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Allah says, Tubal in Allah turned back to Allah. Dubois take a U turn. Yes, you're so used to dressing up in a particular way, wearing your hijab in a particular way, not take a U turn. Go back. Change yourself according to the instructions that Allah azza wa jal has given here. You will make me known Yeah, believers. Yeah, minimoon change yourselves. Lauren, welcome to flee home so that you may succeed. Because if you don't observe this, you can never be successful. Neither in this life, nor the next.

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In a hadith we learned that whoever says La ilaha illallah wa Allahu Akbar. Well, hamdulillah was Subhan Allah, Allah Hola, hola, Quwata illa biLlah then this will be an explanation for all his sins, even if they'd be like the form en si saying what? La ilaha illallah wa Allahu Akbar, while hamdulillah was Subhan Allah wa la hawla wala Quwata illa biLlah because when you read desireth and you think about the times that you have not worn hijab properly the times when you have deliberately dressed up in a way to attract attention and really makes you feel guilty so get over that guilt seek forgiveness from Allah and change your way in the future. We listen to the recitation well

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the clothes I wear the way I comb my hair how I live oh I don't care this is who

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this is me nothing

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is like it all. This guy loves me

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he said she said a oh the was expanded.

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bad he's got.

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You gotta brace the stohlman norms to confirm. Okay, so we wanted to do a little activity with you guys and we want you guys to look at the IML and spot what's right and spot what's wrong, come closer so they can really scan you guys.

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There should be more than 10 things that are right or wrong.

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Jeremiah must be in her catwalk now. Is there anything wrong with her hijab? Please? What's wrong with her hijab?

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Just is covered, but it's not concealed. It should be concealed. Can you conceal it? Please? Show us how you will do that?

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Yeah, so take your hijab out.

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Good and like we discussed, part of the shoulder should also be covered. Turn around. Okay, good. Doesn't that look nicer?

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Okay, one more thing. Your neck was showing, wasn't it? Well, nice earrings, by the way.

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Okay, next person quickly.

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This was our showstopper. Okay, your course in charge? What's behind you on your buyer? It's a pin. Why?

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Okay, so it makes the buyer nice and snug. It's to show her abs. Okay. Anything else wrong with her?

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What's wrong?

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The ban is too high. Okay, so what needs to be done? lowered a little bit anything else?

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Jewelry, okay. But what if you're going to a wedding party?

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You outside. And as you're walking into the women's section, there's guys over there.

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And then when you look at it from far, you see the thing really, you know, it catches your attention. So what can you do if you're going to a wedding party and you want to wear that? Can you take it off?

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Does it fit in your bag? Alhamdulillah.

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So, so when you get to the wedding, go to the bathroom, which you will do anyway. Right? And then what you can do is put everything on that you want anything else?

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Okay, yeah, the hijab Of course, we discussed that earlier. It needs to be adjusted. Anything else? Please face?

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The makeup. Okay, but what if you mean, you're wearing makeup on? You're going to a wedding. Okay? So for example, you could conceal it. Okay, over here. There's basically the lips. You could conceal it. And when you get to the party, you can put it on. That's the other option. Next person quickly.

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This was like, totally.

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What's wrong here?

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The hair, the hijab, everything. Okay. Next person. Anything wrong here. Minus the hijab. We discussed that. What else? The hair and the necklace? Can you put that inside your bio? Good.

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Wow, how did you do that? Zanna. Okay. Oh, what's the deal here?

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The neck is covered.

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Ears are also covered here is covered

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face only the face is showing.

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What's wrong? Go ahead.

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It's covered. It's not concealed. And

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I mean, it's being highlighted. It's covered here is covered but the hair is not concealed. Right. And likewise, I mean the face too much of it is being shown.

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All right. So like under the chin that is showing part of the ear showing. What are the earrings over here?

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What are the earrings over here? Xena right. So can you do something to cover your earrings in shallow? Yeah, of course later on quickly.

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Anything different from what we have seen so far?

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The jacket looks what's wrong with the jacket?

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Too short? Well, so what?

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What's wrong with the hijab here?

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Okay, besides the earrings, it's not really concealing her. It's covering but not concealing. So what is it that she needs to do differently? Put her hijab out on her shoulders, right? Jacket seems okay to me. But if the jacket is too tight, then they would also be revealing the body. Anything different here. Oh, you see anything? What is showing here? Arms. Okay, so when you're at all that sitting with your sisters, your friends, you know, go ahead, lift up your Avaya if you want but with the morning you're stepping out of the woman guys are coming in then you need to roll your sleeves down. Okay. Anything else? Yes the necklace hijab we discussed that next person.

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Anything different here except for the hijab the necklace?

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Yeah, just is not covered. Okay.

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Oh my.

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so what's the problem over here minus the hijab.

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The actions,

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actions, right, the walk should also be modest. The Walk should also be such that it does not reveal Xena. Because when she will walk like this and do like

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This what is you're doing do that again

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that's a little too attractive right

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