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An-Nisa 26-35 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 34-a

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Hello, sometimes it says deja vu, the men plural of the word about you, who is

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a man.

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And Roger is wondering fetters la Jean

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from the word vigil vigilis foot.

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So it is said that Rajan is a person who walks on his feet.

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Because a human being is different from other animals. You won't find any other animal that walks only on two feet only. Okay, fine. There are birds that walk on two feet, but then they fly. And that's what they typically do. They only walk on two feet for a reason.

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Similarly, apes, what do they do? Or monkeys, they walk on two feet, but generally, they also walk on all fours. But the human being in particular, what is the natural way of moving for the human being? Walking on two feet? So Roger is a man.

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And remember that the word logic is only used for a man? Okay? Unfortunately, there are some people who say that okay, the man is the one. So if he is not being the commander, and the woman should be the woman,

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and the word that is being used is a rigid, so a woman also walks into feet, therefore, she's going to be the column. No.

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As the Jan of Agile is only used for men, it is never ever used for women.

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And remember that Roger does not even give the meaning of human being. It gives a meaning of specifically a lack of a male, a man.

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So originally, the men who are they, they have been made aware Mona Island Nisa, the managers, the maintainers of the women,

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the worker where Moon is the plural of a worm, and a worm, what's the root cause of Well, I mean, what does karma mean to stand right. Now notice, this is not common or this is not in but rather This is a Wham just as a foul, but have the web canal.

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What does it show? mubadala.

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So this is mobile and what is mobile for me?

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It is the intensified form of a word.

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Or it depicts the excessiveness of an action. The excessiveness of a quality of a treat.

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So aka Wham is not just one who stands. Okay. But uh, when especially when the word is followed by a

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comma I left it means to protect and watch.

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What does it mean, to protect and watch someone

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to be the custodian to be the guardian.

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So basically, karma Allah, when Allah Who is he, a guardian, a protector.

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Secondly, this word gives the meaning of the one who takes care of the needs of someone.

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The one who sustains the other looks after the needs fulfills the needs.

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So our moon, first of all, guardians, secondly, sustainers maintainers.

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And thirdly, a worm also gives a sense of one who gives rise or one who makes to stand,

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meaning one who establishes

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that he's not just making sure that this person is alive, or this person to save, but they're also ensuring the growth, whether it is physical, or mental, or spiritual, whatever that is necessary.

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So first of all, Guardian, secondly, maintainer, sustainer. And thirdly, one who establishes as well.

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And if you look at it, the word is a word. And if the word or M was used, the meaning would be different.

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A one gives a sense of one who is the one I luckily have meaning in all states all the time.

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And what does it show?

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that a man because he is a man, he will be the one

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all right, a man because he's a man he will be calm.

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Even if he's not being a command, still he is the co worker. Even if he does not take the responsibility of being a co one still he is the one

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because sometimes women say that if my man is not earning

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My husband is not earning, he's not working. I'm stronger than him. He's a weakling, then I should be the foreman. No, I reject Superwoman because he is the man, therefore he will always be the color.

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whether or not he's fulfilling the conditions, whether or not he's taking the responsibility.

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And yes, this is a privilege, of course. But every privilege comes with what responsibilities and having these responsibilities that you're looking after taking care of providing, and ensuring the growth, this is a heavy responsibility, a very heavy responsibility. So the men are Mona Lisa.

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So who is a column? That column is a person who has authority over the other?

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Whether it is an organization, a company, or a person, a human being? Who is the one you can say the leader, the one who has authority?

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And why do they have this authority, because they have to maintain the well being of that person or that organization, they have to maintain the well being.

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Because if you think about it, if somebody is looking after everything, and they're not given the charge, can they do their job properly? It's not possible.

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Because when you're looking after someone, you have to make decisions. In order to make decisions, you have to have the authority. Like, for example, if you're told you have to clean this place, aren't you gonna ask for the charges, whether I should be given the charge to go and buy the cleaning supplies as well? And if somebody just comes and gives you just a few supplies, which are not enough, or which are not appropriate? Are you going to be able to do your job properly? No, if you've been given a responsibility, you also need authority.

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So the one is someone who has the authority over the other. Why? Because he has to look after and maintain the well being of those under him.

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He has to protect and provide for their needs.

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So every journal Pomona and aneesa, the men meaning the husbands, or the fathers, who are they? The worm over the women? Who are the women, their wives, or in the case of the Father, their daughters.

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So what does that mean? maekawa in the context, and how is the man the column over the woman?

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First of all, the man has authority over the woman in the sense that he is the leader.

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You see, any organization, any company, any work, anything, cannot be run with two leaders, it cannot be run with two leaders, there has to be someone who has higher authority.

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Even if you're cooking, if there are a lot of chefs working together in a kitchen, there's always a head chef, right? You can't have to have chips, otherwise the kitchen is not going to run properly. If you have a company, then there's a manager and the manager his wife also comes in pretends that she's a manager, what's gonna happen,

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the company is not going to work properly. Similarly, if there is a car that is being driven by one person, and the other is always sending him go right, slow down, what do you call such a person a backseat driver? Right?

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Because he cannot drive but he is pretending that he's driving and he's interfering. So, nothing can be run with two leaders.

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There has to be someone who has higher authority, who has the final say, in matters.

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This is very, very important. And because the family is also like an organization, therefore you need someone who has the higher authority. And who is that the men, why the men, we will try to learn about that.

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Secondly, the man is comb over the woman how that he is responsible to provide for the woman to look after the needs of the woman and to protect the woman as well.

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He doesn't have a woman with whom he can just fulfill his needs with but rather he has to provide for her. He has to give nataka to her. He has to look after her needs. He has to protect her he has to guard her. All of this is important for the poem to do.

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And thirdly, the man is a firm how that he also has to ensure that the woman is growing. How mentally, spiritually.

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So the man is not just to bring food to his wife, but he is also to teach her other you can say almost as though the man is also supposed to teach his wife

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Why?

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Because a woman if she's at home and the man is going outside learning one thing after the other, going to the masjid, attending one lecture going taking one course and the woman is sitting at home with the children, you should just going to steal it, you're just going to stay stagnant in her knowledge. No, she needs somebody to tell her. And the person who is living with her, is the best person to teach her. Because he is in the same house, he also has authority over her.

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If he is bringing her food, should he not bring her knowledge?

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If he is bringing her things that she likes, should he not tell her about that which is going to benefit her.

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So the men are not just the leaders. They're not just the providers, but they're also supposed to make sure that they're women, that their wives that their daughters are doing well in their Deen. They're also the addict when they're supposed to teach other to the women as well.

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So for women and Anissa,

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why are the men made the qalamoun?

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For several reasons, often do are mentioned over here.

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First of all, be maphack been Allahu berubah? Whom Allah

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because Allah has given preference to who, to some of them over others. Meaning Allah has given preference to men over women. How you know that the word felt, but are you familiar with of lean? What does it mean?

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To give extra to someone's either?

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So what is it that the men have been given extra or more in comparison to the women?

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First of all,

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what kind of or who will lie here? Meaning apparent strength? And what is that strength? physical strength?

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If you look at it, generally, men are stronger than women. We're not saying that every man is stronger than every woman. No, it's possible that some women are much stronger than men. Right? But this is generally on average. The men

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that men they have more kuwahara they have more physical strength.

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Secondly, they have more koa battler. What does it mean by that? internal strength? And what is that internal strength solver? Patience. They have more to handle. They're more forbearing. They're more tolerant, they're more calm. And women on the other hand, they're more emotional.

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If something big happens, women begin to panic. And what happens to the men

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is if nothing has happened in the world,

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if something happened, women start crying. Immediately they start crying and what happens to the men? They're fine, right? Yes, I'm not saying that no man cries men also cry.

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But generally, who is weaker in their subject? The women. So women have forgotten about because the COVID data and what is that COVID data that men have more solid, they have more to handle.

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Similarly, they have more shujaa they have more bravery.

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They're more brave compared to women. A woman sees a small spider, she starts screaming for somebody has to come and take care of that spider.

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Similarly, they have more as the men they have more determination compared to women, on average, generally.

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Similarly, men, they have more Apple, they have more intellect? And what's the evidence for that?

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How many of you have done engineering?

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Or intend to do engineering?

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Okay, I see one hand do and if this is a man's class, I'm sure there are many more hands. There are many more men who are good at math, engineering, science. This is something that is a fact.

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Generally, if you look at it, the women their brains are such that they're more inclined into arts or humanities and the men on the other hand, they're more inclined to sciences and engineering. Why because this is how their brains function.

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So first of all, who am I a second ecoa better, Kawabata includes the humble Sabu, appa shujaa, Adam. So the men they have more mental strength, they have more emotional stability, they use more reason. And women they use more emotion.

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So, because of these strengths, because of these COA that Allah subhanaw taala has given them and

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because of them, Allah subhanaw taala has also laid certain obligations on the men which add to their definitely

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Like, for instance, because men are physically stronger, they don't suffer from their monthly period.

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Similarly, they don't have to bear the responsibility of burying children giving birth. But the women have to. But because of this reason men have to go five times a day to the masjid. They have to do that the women are they obligated to do so? No, the men have to go for Juma, they don't have a choice the women, they can stay at home. Why? Because a woman is physically different from the men physically different.

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And therefore, the responsibilities that are laid on the men are also more compared to the responsibilities that are laid on the women.

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Similarly, men, they have to go for jihad, and the women, they don't have to if they go, like for instance, to help the soldiers and stuff, this is good for them. However, it is not mandatory upon them.

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So Allah has given tough lead to men over the women.

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And again, remember, this does not mean that every single man is stronger, physically or mentally or emotionally, then every single woman but this is generally at an average level.

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The second reason why Allah subhanaw taala has made them The poem is Wahby met unfaithful men, unworthy him.

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And because they spend from their wealth, meaning the men have to spend from their wealth from their money,

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what does I mean by their money

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being the money that they have earned, whether it is through a work that they have done and they have acquired a wage, or it is a share of inheritance, whatever the men on there, man, and while he him, what do they have to do with their money, they have to spend it, they must spend it. You see over here, what Bhima unfuck looks like understood, they have to they don't have a choice with regards to that.

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Meaning the man has to spend in the woman and the woman is not responsible for spending on the men.

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So because the man has been given the responsibility to spend on the woman should he not have the final say,

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of course, it's his money.

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So for instance, a man and woman they decide, both of them discuss as to what they want to get what they want to buy, but who should have the final say,

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the husband because he's the one.

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So we'll be Matt encirclement and while him

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now when do the men spend on their wives,

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first of all, at the time of marriage by giving her the math,

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and secondly, nefa the expenditure that the man gives to the woman, the money that the man spends on the woman in order to fulfill her needs, sometimes, for her to travel, sometimes, so that she can just indulge in some luxuries.

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So what we might call men and women.

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So the men, they have been made a concern, and what is the responsibility that they have to look after the women, they have to protect them, they have to maintain them, they have to look after their needs, provide for their needs, and also ensure their mental growth, their spiritual growth.

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And they also have to spend on the women.

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So this is what the men have to do.

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When you read this, they have to spend in the women have to take care of the women, they have to protect the women. It's not just one sided.

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It's not just the leaders responsibility. It's not just the managers responsibility at the same time, those under him also have to do something.

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So in the first part of the ad, the men are told as to what they're supposed to do. Now the women are being told as to what they're supposed to do.

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Okay.

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Look at the justice of a loss.

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For finally, how to sew the righteous woman.

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Sorry, how does the plural of sila and lose sight of one who is righteous? A good woman who is a good woman, the one who gives the hug of Allah and also gives the hug of her husband?

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That is a sign of her woman.

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Who is she? The one who gives a hug of Allah, as well as the help of her husband?

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Many times in giving the hug of Allah, what do some women do? They forget their husbands.

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Like for instance, you know, I had to listen to this lecture. I'm really enjoying it. And their husband comes up with a whole day. He's sitting alone on the dinner table eating.

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Like I'm enjoying my lecture.

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Okay, you're giving the heck of a lot by increasing in your knowledge increases.

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In your email, but what about? What about giving the hacker husband as well.

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Now, this doesn't mean that we go into another extreme that in giving the hack of the husband, we neglect the heck off of us, like, for example, some women in cooking, they will spend the whole day.

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And they will just go to pray in the middle, very difficult.

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And even in that they're thinking, What's happening to food right now.

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Similarly, some women, they will spend hours, just in getting ready just and getting dressed up. And unfortunately, many women don't do this for their husbands, but they actually do it for other reasons.

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So in doing that, they will spend so much time so much effort that obviously they will not have any time left to revise their lesson. Read through their lesson. So what is important, a balance?

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And what is that balance?

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That you give the heck of Allah, and you give the heck off the people as well.

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So asylee had the women, the righteous women.

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The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, the best woman is she? Who when you look at her, she pleases you.

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The best woman? is she who when you look at her, she pleases you. Why?

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Because he's dressed up. Okay? Why else? She has a smile. Why else? She's not complaining. She's not negative.

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She's not negative. She says positive things. She says Happy things. So when you look at her, she pleases you.

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When you command her, when you tell her about something, she obeys you.

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Like for instance, can you bring me a glass of water?

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says, don't you go yourself.

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He could go get it himself. But if he's asking you, you're getting an opportunity to please Him.

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That when you command her, she obeys you. And when you're absent, She protects her honor and your property.

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So for sila had the righteous women are who they are only the ones who are obedient.

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I think that is a plural of Arnica. And Anita is the woman who does pollute.

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And what is Kanoute?

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First of all, obedience, far.

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And secondly, God gives the meaning of humidity.

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And thirdly, you cannot alter the meaning of the one constancy to do something continuously.

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So who found it that then

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women who obey how constantly and with humidity?

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Because it's possible that somebody says something to you? You don't like?

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And you have a bad expression on your face? And a very arrogant posture, and you bring the glass of water right here?

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That is obedience, but is that pollute his eye with humidity? No.

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Similarly, one is that a person is asked to do something. And they do it only when they think they're going to get some benefit in return.

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And the other is that you do it constantly.

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So what is

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that you always will be not just when you want something in return?

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Or not just when you're trying to please them?

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Because sometimes, if you've done something wrong, then you try to do the extra things to make them happy. Yes, it should be done. But obedience should be all the time.

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It shouldn't just be sometimes.

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So for slightly how to the righteous women who are there

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they are, first of all, on it that meaning they're always obedient, not just when they want something in return, or not just when they feel like it, not just when they love their husbands a lot.

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Secondly, they're corny that hell, that they're humble, they're not arrogant.

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They're not arrogant before their husbands nor are they arrogant before of us.

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Rather, they're humble for slightly how to content.

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And you see in any organization, if there is a leader, and his leadership is not accepted by others, or we will do accept the leadership but they don't respect him.

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They don't respect the leader. How does a leader feel?

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Just imagine you may be in charge. That's it. There's a group, you may be in charge. You're the leader of the group and people don't listen to you. How do you feel? Or they listen to you but they don't acknowledge that you're the leader. How do you feel

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you don't feel valued, you lose your confidence. Or sometimes you will try to take revenge from

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So in order to keep the perfect balance, what has been done? The men, they're given the authority and the women What are they supposed to do? Listen to their husbands as well.

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So if asylee had to architetti

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who else only had women? there? also have you Lawton? ones who guard ones or protect?

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What do they protect? Literally, for the unseen?

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Have you lost his from his? And what does hips need to guard to protect something?

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So, these women, they also guard and protect Lily, for the unseen.

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What is a label?

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a label is malaba that which is hidden,

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that which is hidden from who, first of all, from the other people,

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that which is hidden from the other people? So what does it mean? The secrets between a woman and her husband?

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What are these secrets? What are these private matters?

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First of all, it is the private parts of the woman.

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So have a lot of light. What does it mean? That the women, what do they do? They don't commit Zina.

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They don't go on exposing themselves to other people. They protect their chastity, have you learned why

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they protect that which is hidden from the rest of the people, and which has to be kept hidden from the rest of the people?

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Similarly, what else do they protect their own chastity and honor as well as their husbands honor, because unfortunately, some women what they do is when they're sitting with their friends, they start talking about things that are very private between a woman and her husband.

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Like, for instance, the way the man dresses up in the house, or the way that the man speaks, or the way that the man deals with her, or what the man did. What are these private matters?

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private matters between a husband and his wife? So these women, what do they do? They don't leak out these private matters to others.

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And remember, we learned earlier that the man and the woman, the husband and the wife, they're likely best to one another? What does it mean?

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They're the closest ones to each other. What you know about your husband? Probably nobody else knows and what your husband knows about you probably nobody else knows.

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So what is hips? What is protection? What is guarding that you don't tell other people about the private matters of your husband?

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The private matters, which are just between you and your husband?

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Whether it is something that has to do with his financial matters? Or in his private life, or his habits or his Deen, whatever, you don't tell other people about the private matters of your husband have a lot of little life.

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So first of all, what is it the private part? Secondly, it is a chastity and honor of the woman herself as well as her husband.

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Similarly, some women they talk about bedroom matches with other friends. And this is something that is unacceptable. This is something that does not suit a woman, this is against hire, half a lot of delight.

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Secondly, a lie What does it refer to that which is hidden from the husband?

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So first of all, that which is hidden from the rest of the people, and secondly, that which is hidden from the husband? What does he mean by that? What is hidden from the husband?

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meaning in the absence of the husband, when the husband is away, when the husband is not there? These women, what do they do? They protect their private parts. They protect their honor, they protect the honor of the husband, they protect the secrets, the private matters, the interests of the husband, and they also protect the husband's property, as well as the husband's children.

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Remember that they also protect the husbands property, as well as the husband's children. They're the half a lot to Lily.

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We learn about his married or his salon. That Ibraheem alehissalaam he came to visit him once and he was not there. And his wife opened the door.

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So we asked her about how things work. And she complained,

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she complained. What did he say? That when your husband comes Tell him to replace such and such with symbolize that you replace your wife? change it. Why? Because a woman who complains about even the finances or the private matters, which are between husband and wife, what is she doing? She's leaking out the secrets

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Like, for instance, a woman goes and says, you know, my husband only makes this much money, man so much trouble.

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What is this is this

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a man is doing his best. He's doing his best. Whatever he can do whatever he can afford, who gives you the authority to go and insult him in public in front of your parents?

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Once is very close friend of ours, elderly lady, she was telling you about how when she got married, she went over to her parents house, and she started complaining about, you know how things were at home.

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And her father was so upset that you can't talk about these things with us either.

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And what do we do? Many girls, what is their habit, they get married, every little detail, every single detail. They call their mothers, they call their fathers and they tell them

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and the parents have no respect left for their son in law.

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They have no respect love for this animal.

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So have a lot of delight. What does it mean? That you're not just protecting the secret of the private matters. But also, I mean, something that is between you and your husband, if your husband cannot afford to buy your jewelry every year, or to buy expensive gifts every year, he cannot afford it. It's possible that he had a lot of money now you lost it.

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And when you get married to him, maybe you find out about some things which you're not comfortable with, which you don't like. So even then why should you go discuss those matters with other people? The Secrets should remain secrets to private matters should remain private. Don't go discuss these private matters with other people. Because what are they going to do?

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Can they help you? No, they cannot? What are they going to do them? They're just going to look down upon your husband. And if a person does not respect your husband, I'm sorry. They're not going to respect you either.

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Your respect? How do you gain it?

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By the respect of your husband?

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So if you're insulting your husband, you're actually insulting yourself.

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Because remember, the husband is like a leave as would you disgrace your own clothes? No. Because if you disgrace if you insult your clothes, you're actually insulting yourself.

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And if you respect them, if you treat them well, what does it mean? You're respecting yourself?

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Have you loved to the late ones who guard the private matters?

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The more Have you learned law? Because a lot guarded.

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What does it mean by this? This has been understood in two ways. That first of all, because Allah has protected the woman through the husband.

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She has been made more Sunnah. How? Through the husband. So if she is being given her rights and protection by the husband, why should she go and disgrace her husband? or legal his private matters to other people? Women have a lot because Allah has protected her through her husband.

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And if a woman does not do hips, then what is she doing?

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This is in gratitude for the blessing of Allah.

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That Allah give you a shelter, Allah give you a new bass, Allah gave you a partner, and you're insulting him, you're not respecting him.

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And secondly, we might have a log of the sense of that they protect the secrets. Why? Because Allah has obligated them to protect the secrets. Meaning Bhima Amar Allahu be

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because Allah has obligated the women that they must protect these private matters.

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So you understand what it means I have a lot of the life.

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Sometimes husbands come and confide with their wives, that you know this is happening at work, I think I'm going to get a raise or I think I'm going to lose my job. Things are not going that well. And a woman, what does she do? She called her father she called her brother, she calls her mother and tells him I think my husband's gonna get a raise.

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And everybody's looking up now. When is he going to get a raise? When is he going to get a raise? This is a private matter until it happens. And even if it does happen, why should you go on telling people when he makes this much money? Why?

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Either you're boasting, or you're insulting your husband. It's not appropriate.

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So anything that is just between the husband and the wife, it should not be leaked out by either of them. Neither the husband nor the wife. Why the women mentioned over here shouldn't husbands do the same thing? Why the women mentioned over here because generally, this is something that women suffer from. They love talking. their hobbies gossipy. They love sharing everything with their mothers with their sisters with their friends. So this is why half is often in labor's especially mentioned for the women.

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And if you look at it, if the man is the column, he is looking after the needs of the woman. The woman is silent.

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Have you ever imagine the relationship? Just imagine what a good relationship what a happy family

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but if either of the two don't fulfill their responsibilities, then what's going to happen? Problems