Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 02 – L031B

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Al-Baqarah 229-233 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 229-231

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Bismillahirrahmanirrahim lesson number 31 similar to the bacara ayah 229 to 233

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okpala Kumar Ratan

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divorce is twice for in secondary maroof. Then either keeper in an acceptable manner, oh three from the Epson or release her with good treatment. The following verses are specifically with regards to Pollak there with regards to divorce, and the rulings that are related to it.

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Islam as a complete way of life, which is why in our Deen, we have not only been instructed as to how to praise Allah, how to perform the Hajj, how to fast in the month of Ramadan, how to do that, but also if the need arises, how to give divorce rulings pertaining to marriage, how to get married, what are the rights and responsibilities of the husband and wife, all of them are explained in detail, all of them are given in detail.

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And if the need arises, then the instructions pertaining to divorce have also been given, clearly,

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we see that a home is made with the family, especially through the relationship that is between a husband and wife. And if for some reason, the husband and wife are not able to give the rights of each other, they're not able to live together, then no person has been burdened with what he cannot bear. There is a way out that has been made for the husband and wife in such a case. And that way, is the way of divorce. Now remember, that divorce in the general sense is not something that is recommended. However, if the need arises, then it is permissible. If there is a particular situation in which both the husband and wife cannot live together, because of whatever reason, then the option

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of divorce is there.

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And we see that divorce does not take place in normal conditions. It does not take place in normal circumstances in which the husband and wife are both fine. They're living a happy life and all of a sudden they decide to divorce No, divorce happens in unusual circumstances,

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in circumstances in situations, where both the man and woman are overcome by their emotions. And generally in such situations, people don't follow the commands that have been given. And instead they follow their desires. whatever they wish to do whatever they want to do, and they overlook the comments or they overlook what is correct.

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So over here, the command of the voice has been explained very clearly. And the reminder of observing that which is acceptable is mentioned again and again, to remind the believer that even in this situation, it's not his desires that should drive him

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he should follow the commands of Allah, he should observe the instruction, the guidance that Allah has given.

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So that the decision of divorce is not just an emotional decision, but rather, it is a conscious decision.

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So over here less as a financial model of divorce is twice.

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Apollo, as you know, it's on the roof at restore lamb off

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and find out literally means to untie something, to open something to set something free. And for lack is to dissolve the marriage contract.

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And in particular, for now is given by the men do the woman through which the woman is set free from the wedlock.

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So basically Pollock is given by who by the man to the woman

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if you translate it as the word divorce, in English, the word divorce is used in both ways the man giving the divorce to the woman giving the divorce. However, in Arabic the word caught up in particular, is when a man gives divorce to the woman so the woman is set free. The woman is released from the contract that she was bound in.

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So a fanatical Mahabharata and the word Moroccan is a dual of the word Mandala tone. And Mandala means a time, one time and occasion. So more than the olive noon at the end indicates do. So Molokai means at two different occasions, do games.

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What does it mean by a polar komagata?

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Basically, upon app over here refers to for lack of a jury

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Remember that there are two types of divorce for lack of a jury and follow up that is bear in for lack of a jury is the revocable divorce. What does it mean by that? That a man, upon giving this divorce, he can reconcile with his wife again,

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meaning both the man and woman can be together after this divorce.

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And follicle there is a final divorce after which the man and woman cannot be together. They cannot get married together. And during the day, the man can also not do to do to the woman

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over here, upper neck refers to the vocable divorce of Roger a divorce, that for lack of rodri, you only have two chances for that.

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It's only my rotten by the momentum, it's only two chances. Remarkable divorce a person has only two chances.

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Now we see that before Islam, the Arabs, they would give divorce to their wives,

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a man would give divorce to his wife. And during their adult, he would take her back he would do to do then he would give divorce again. And during that he would do to children. And this could happen up to 100 times without any limit that a person would continue to give divorce. And he would continue to take his wife back. And so in this way, the woman would suffer, that she was being mistreated throughout her life. And she was also not free to get rid of that husband or to go marry somebody else.

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Once a man came to his wife, and he said to her, I will neither divorce you nor take you back. She asked how? And he said I will divorce you. And when your term of 10 years it's end, I will take you back. I will divorce you and as soon as your event comes to an end, what will I do? I will take you back. So she went up to Alaska messenger sallallahu sallam, and she told him about what happened. And then Allah revealed of polacco Martin, that revocable divorce, you only have two chances for that. You cannot keep divorcing and you cannot keep taking the woman back. No, you only have two chances not more than that.

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So upon alko McGlothin.

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So, we see that there vocable divorce or tonale. Matan refers to that divorce in which a man pronounces the divorce, and then he reconciles and then what happens after some time he pronounces the divorce again, and he reconciles. Now, if he pronounces divorce the third time, what does that mean?

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They cannot get back together again. That's it, they have become heroine upon each other.

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So, up on Apple, Makoto,

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then Allah says, For him circling, then holding back be more aloof in a good manner, meaning either keeper in an acceptable manner, out the 307 or release her, set her free, let her go with good treatment, what does it mean minus the word is from the root letters, meme seen calf muscle

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and M SEC is to hold on to something, it is to retain something that one already has.

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It is to retain something, to keep something that one already has. So just imagine a rope that you're holding on to what is insect to keep holding on to it, do not let it go. It is not to hold something that you were not previously holding, but what is it, it is to retain something that a person is holding on to from before

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is to guard something and do not let something go

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for him Sakhalin, then either keep keep who keep the wife, keep the woman how be more aloof in a manner that is acceptable in a manner that is good.

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And what is my rule from Earth? What does Earth mean? That which is known that which is recognized.

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So my roof is anything that is acceptable to that is approved by once or by one's intellect.

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Also, it is acceptable by the [???]tier by the religion of Allah. And thirdly, it is also acceptable in the culture.

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Many times we see that when people come towards the team, they say the culture is absolutely nothing

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they abandon the culture completely. And they go against the culture, they go against the norms of the society. And they say, but this is permissible in our religion, okay? It may be permissible in your religion, but my roof is that which is acceptable to the religion, as well as the society that you live in?

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Because it's not possible that you're living with people, and you're going against what is acceptable to them, sometimes Yes, what is in the culture does not make sense at all, or it contradicts the religion so that a person can leave.

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But what is the norm is the norm.

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So in Second, the model that either keeper in a manner that is good, what does it mean by this,

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over here, basically, the man is being warned, that if you have given the divorce twice to your wife, now, you have to make up your mind.

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Either you're going to keep her in a good manner, for the rest of your life. And good manner means don't divorce her again.

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Or good manner means that live with her without harming her, live with her without harming her.

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And if you don't wish to live with her, then make the decision and out the city from the accent or let her go with good treatment. The word the three is from the newsletter scene

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and the three is to release something, it is to let something go to discharge to dismiss. So, let go set free set for you, the woman in what way in a manner that is of a person in a manner that is very beautiful, in a manner that is very good.

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So basically, we see that the man has been told to make his decision. If he wants to continue to live with the wife, then he has to live in a manner that is good. And what does that mean? We learn in the Quran in Surah Nisa Ayah 19. Why should one bin move and live with them in kindness? live with him in a manner that is acceptable for you, for your wife, and also for the society, that there should be no injustice, there should be no injustice live in an inappropriate manner without harming her.

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And if you don't wish to live with her, then let her go. How should you let her go with his son?

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What does he mean by your son,

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don't push her out of the house. Don't shout at her. Don't return rudely.

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But if you wish to divorce her Finally, if you don't wish to keep her any more than release her in a beautiful and good way, with kindness with giving extra gifts. This is how some have also understood this, that when you're letting her go, when you've given the final divorce, and she's finally leaving your house after their death, then you should set her off in a good way by giving her extra gifts without creating any difficulty for her.

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We see that the relationship between husband and wife is a very close relationship.

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As we learned earlier, that both are likely best to each other, there is absolutely no shield that is between the two, no veil that is between the two and both are very close to each other. Both are a source of comfort for each other, as if there are two parts of the same body.

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So, at the time of divorce, when the relationship is being ended, it is as though a limb is being amputated.

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It is as though a limb a part of the body is being cut off.

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And just as when a part of a body is being cut off the process is very painful, it is extremely painful. Similarly, when the man and wife are going through divorce, it is a process that is painful for both the man and the woman.

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It is very painful, it is difficult for the man and the woman, but especially it is painful for the woman, which is why the men are being told that when you let her go, then let her go with your son, treat her kindly at that time.

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Treat her in a good way with generosity at that time.

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So, if you wish to divorce your wife, then do so in a manner in which there is

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what I Hindalco and it is not lawful for you. You Hello from hello and Taku that you are a member from that which I think to move on you all give them shayan anything at all.

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It is not permissible for you, or you men or male spouses, the men who are divorcing their wives. It is not lawful for you what is not lawful for you

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That you take from the wife, whom you are divorcing anything that you gave her, me, man day to move.

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Anything that you gave the woman while you were married to her at the time of divorce, you're not allowed to take it back? What does it mean by this? At the time of marriage, the man gives money to the woman,

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isn't it.

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And besides that, he may give some extra gifts.

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While the two are married, it's possible that he gives her gifts. Maybe he buys the house on her name. Maybe he gives her some extra jewelry, or some extra money, or a bank account on her name. So anything that a man gives to his wife, whether at the time of marriage, or Afterwards, he is not allowed to take it back at the time of divorce.

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And notice the word is shy, and what to say and mean anything at all, no matter how big or how small, no matter how big, or how small, you gave it to her, it belongs to her.

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Now that you're divorcing her, you cannot take it back. It is not lawful for you. It is not permissible for you at all.

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We see that. Even in the case where the nikka only took place, the marriage only took place. But the marriage was not consummated. What does it mean by that? That the man and woman they're not living together?

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Sometimes it happens that the neglect takes place. And after a year or two, then the husband and wife begin to live together. So if the nica took place, the Mother Earth was fixed, but the mother was not given. Okay? And the man and woman are not living together. The marriage was not consummated. And if the man gives divorce to the woman, even in that case, what is he supposed to do?

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He's supposed to give her half of the mash,

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because he fixed him up, but he never gave it. So for example, at the time of nica, he said, I'm gonna give her $10,000. But he says, I will give to her, once we consummate the marriage once we begin living together.

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Suppose they never got together, and the marriage was dissolved. So at that situation, even what is the man supposed to do? He is supposed to give her half of the money that was fixed. How much would that be? In this example that he gave you? 5000.

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So we see that at the time of divorce, because the man is the one who is giving divorce to the wife, therefore, he cannot take back anything from her. Anything from her, no matter how big or how small.

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It left, except, except in one situation.

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What does i mean by that? That there is only one situation in which a man can take back from the woman what he had given her at the time of marriage? And what is that situation?

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And that you're halfway there to fear? Notice that I left at the end, what does that indicate? Do to definitely.

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And you'll have that as you know, some newsletters call welfare health, which means fear, which is to expect some danger, or harm in the future. So they fear. And over here, fear implies knowledge. It gives the meaning of knowledge that they both know, they're certain,

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who does to refer to the man and the woman, the married couple, they both fear and learn that not. Now notice Allah has a fatahna Hamza, it's not a lie, except it's Allah and Allah is a combination of meaning that and lack meaning not. So, both fear that they will not be able to up man established, they will not be able to maintain, Ulema is the same as UK masala. What does it mean to establish something perfectly by fulfilling all of its components, all of the necessary parts. So, both of them fear meaning they know there are certain that they will not be able to maintain the Hadoop, the Hadoop of Allah, the limits the boundaries that Allah has set

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her do this florala had and what does that mean? The limit of something, the boundary of something and remember that hadoo de la is a term that is used for either the commands that Allah has given or the prohibitions that Allah has set.

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So it refers to either the commands or the prohibitions over here

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In the context Helloooo, the law specifically refers to the rights and responsibilities of the husband and wife to each other,

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the rights and responsibilities of the husband and wife to each other.

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So, imagine a couple who got married. And they know that they're not going to be able to fulfill the rights and responsibilities that they're supposed to give to each other, that are due to each other.

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For example, the wife does not like the husband at all, not because of his Deen not because of his manner, but perhaps physically.

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Or the man does not like the woman.

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so in this situation, the man gave my heart to the woman making her lawful for himself.

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But the contract that was made, the relationship that was established, it's not going to work out anymore, they cannot give the rights to each other, they cannot fulfill the responsibilities that they're obligated with to each other.

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so in this situation, what's going to happen,

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they cannot live with each other, they're not fulfilling the rights of each other. so in this situation, the marriage contract is going to be dissolved.

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And because they cannot fulfill the rights of each other, and the man gave them a hug to the woman, so what's going to happen, the man is going to be returned to the husband, because he gave that moment to establish this relationship, but this relationship is not working out. So in this case, what he gave is going to be returned to her.

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Just as for example, you go buy something, you go buy a membership, it's not working out for you, what are you going to do, you're going to return it, and you're going to get a refund. So similarly, this relationship is on working out. So therefore, the Mahood is going to be returned to the husband. So over here, unless as inlet and your hoffa allow you to do that, except in a situation, where both of them are not able to establish, they're not able to maintain the limits the commands of Allah,

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that Allah has set for them.

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For example, we learn from the companions, Xena, or the learner, who was a cousin of the profit sort of audition. And they probably learn who who was he, the freed slave of the profits, or

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both of them got made. And both of them were very righteous. One was a freed slave, and one was the cousin. But because of the differences between them, one was a freed slave. And the woman was from a very noble family. Both were very righteous. But because of the differences, they were not able to live with each other.

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They enabled the learner could not like him because he was different.

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So it's not necessary that at the time of divorce, people are getting divorced, because both of them are evil. Or that because they're not righteous at all. They're not obedient to Allah. No. Sometimes it could be the simple reason of both of them not being able to like each other.

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so in this situation, the marriage will be dissolved. And what's going to happen the Mahabharata man game is going to be returned to him.

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For in crypto, so if you are here, who does you all refer to? You won't refers to the only the relatives of the woman or the ruler, the judge the quality, if you fear and now you came up with the law, that the man and the woman are not going to be able to fulfill the responsibilities fulfill the rights, then what fillerina Harlan human, then there is no sin upon them to upon who to upon the man and the woman. Those who were married FEMA in what if that be she gave ransom?

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If that is from newsletters fed Dahlia, what is the word Vivian?

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ransom a compensation, something that a person gives in order to free himself.

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So the man and woman are not able to live with each other and especially the woman does not like the husband or she does not wish to remain married to him, especially from her side.

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then in this situation, she is going to free herself how by returning the mother to the husband.

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We see that when the man gives divorce what is the word for luck?

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And what does that mean to set free and when he says free, he cannot take them back.

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But the woman she wants to be freed from this bond. The man does not want to get divorced the woman does not want to remain mate.

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so in this situation, what's going to happen the woman is going to rent some herself meaning

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She's going to make herself free. How, by giving the Maha that the man had given to her.

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Because when the man gave her the mother, she was free to him. She was handled for him. When she returns it, she's not allowed for him anymore.

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So FEMA for that.

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So the husband and wife, they're not able to keep within the limits of Allah, and the relatives, the family, the judge, he also knows that they're not going to be able to live with each other anymore.

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so in this situation, the woman is going to give the back to the husband,

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even our bus so the line who said that the wife of fabric, even place even Seamus, she came to the profits are along the salon. And she said, O Messenger of Allah, I do not criticize the religion, or manner, option mess, but I hate committing copper in Islam by ignoring his rights on me.

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I do not criticize the religion or the manner of my husband. But I cannot do this that I am married to him. And still, I'm not giving him his rights. Because Personally, I do not like him. I do not like him and because I don't like him, I cannot give his rights. So I do not like to live in a state of Islam, while disobeying Allah, were not fulfilling my obligations. So she said that I cannot stay with him. I cannot give him his right.

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And this is what allow you Thema Padilla allows messenger sallallahu Sallam said, Will you give him back his garden? Which garden the garden that he had given her as a gift as Maha? And she said, Yes, Allah messenger sallallahu Sallam said, Take Back the garden, and divorcee ones. So she returned the garden. And the marriage was bizarre.

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So the situation in which the woman she returned them, and seeks the divorce. This is called Hola, ha, lamb I

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and Holly literally means removal of something to remove something.

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We learn the Quran masala Salaam was told Lardner Lake, remove your shoes, take your shoes off. So hold means to remove.

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So when a woman takes hold, what is she doing? She is removing, she's getting rid of the responsibility or the contract that she was in she was bound in, in the marriage. Now, what if the man gave some money to the woman at the time of marriage? And it was some money? And the woman spent it all?

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And if she wishes, stakeholders, what is she going to do? is you're going to say I don't have it anymore? No, she has to get the equivalent, or she has to get the amount ready. And then she's going to give that to them.

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And they're there in this case, they're into the waiting period for the woman is how long one menstrual cycle. She's going to wait for one month.

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We're

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not in the house of the husband, because she's free now.

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Think about her do the law. These are the limits set by Allah falletta duha. So do not transgress them that they do is fine. I'm done. Well, and are they or do? What does it mean? do go beyond the limits to transgress that to transgress to overstep the limits.

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And Erica in particular also means to do injustice against someone to commit injustice against someone.

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Over here we see DeLuca hadoo de la, la darter do

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these are the limits boundaries that Allah has said, so do not transgress them, meaning don't go beyond them.

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Don't get out of them

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in the Quran. For some other commands, we read tilaka who do the love fella takanobu. One is to not approach the limits. And the other is to not exceed meaning to not get out of the limits. There is a difference between the two.

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Where it is stated that you do the lawful authority to her. It refers to the commands, it refers to the commands that the believers must observe. And if they don't observe what are they doing,

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they are crossing the limits that Allah has set.

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This is a command you have to do it. And if you don't do it, you're crossing the limits. And where it is stated they'll go through the lafollette takanobu do not approach them. Then the Hadoop refers to the prohibitions.

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It refers to the prohibitions that the believers must stay away from, which is why it is said don't even come near because if you come near

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Then you're going to commit those actions which are prohibited upon you.

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So over here, because it has been said for that data do what does it refer to the commands the commandments that must be observed the instructions that have been given. So, these, what does this refer to that Apollo komagata, and this is a command for himself can be modeled out as you hungry, this is a command, it is not permissible for you to take back anything that you have been given, this is a command.

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And the only situation in which a man may take back what he has given is the situation of color.

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So, all of these are commands that you must observe, and you must not neglect later to do her, do not neglect them at all, do not transgress them at all.

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So we see that a lot of Allah have been mentioned.

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And the field of Allah refers to the rights and responsibilities of the husband and wife to each other.

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Now, what are some of the rights of the woman upon her husband?

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What are the responsibilities of a husband towards his wife?

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What are the rights of the woman when she's married to a man? What do they include?

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fulfilled, fulfill the physical needs of the woman? fulfill the financial needs of the woman? Take care of her, treat her kindly, as she Ravana Bill Murray, live with them in a manner that is appropriate, doing a sign to the woman? And what about the rights of the husband upon his wife? What are they? What do they include?

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Sometimes we only focus on the rights and other responsibilities, both have to be looked at that first of all, the woman must obey the husband, she should guard his secrets, then also, she should fulfill his physical needs, just as the husband should fulfill her physical needs.

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So these are the hurdles of Allah, and you must observe them.

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Many times, when it comes to the rights of the husband and wife, people become biased.

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And they say, No, just because he's a man, why should I have to listen to him?

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Well, you have to listen to him simply because Allah,

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simple.

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So these are the rules of Allah. Allah has given these instructions, not to people, therefore, even when a person is fulfilling the rights of his or her spouse, then what is he doing? He is obeying a law.

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And because he's obeying the law, this action also becomes a source of reward for him.

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And if he does not give the right of the spouse, then what are they doing? They're disobeying Allah.

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And they're not just harming the other person, but they're also harming themselves by disobeying Allah.

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So tilka her to the La fenetre to her, these are the limits of Allah, so do not transgress them.

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Romanians are the who the law and whoever transgresses the limit set by Allah whoever crosses the boundaries, whoever does not observe the commands properly, then what is he doing for Allah ecohome over the moon, then it is only such people who are wrongdoers. What does the word home do? It gives meaning of specification that it is only such people who do

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it is only some people who do

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now what is it is next to reduce the right of the other to not give to the other what he deserves.

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So, when a person does not observe the limits that Allah has set, then what is he doing? He is doing one upon the other.

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And we learn about the profits on aloneness. Adam said that a loss of penalty said that everybody in me have one to one Marlin FC, was your ultra who binaca Mohan Rahman, fanatical volume.

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My servants, I have made oppression unlawful for me and unlawful for you. So do not commit oppression against one another.

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One towards a spouse is not giving the heck of the spouse

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and when a person does not give the hack of the spouse by doing one What is he doing? He is committing something that is haram.

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What you're allowed to buy nakum Mohammed woman, I have also made one, how long upon you

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and if a person does work anyway, he does not care about the commands of Allah. Then what is he doing? He is creating difficulties for himself as we learned that on the Day of Judgment for in the Wilma, Lulu metal Yokoyama. Indeed injustice will be darknesses on the Day of Judgment. Many times today what happens, especially when it comes to divorce? Why does divorce happen? Why are husband and woman separated from each other? Why does a woman demand for her

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Because either the man is not giving her right, he is oppressing her. For example, a man does not spend on the woman, he does not spend on the children, he expects the woman should bring the paycheck. And whatever money she brings, she's not allowed to spend even a penny on herself, she's supposed to give everything to the husband.

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Or sometimes he will give her financially only limited amounts, he will not treat her with respect, he will be rude to her, he will insult her he will not give any importance to her. And all the while, what does a man think? I am the man, I can do whatever I want.

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Or sometimes people think so what if I do this? Nobody can say anything to me.

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However, we see that when a person does boom, then what is he doing? He will be in darknesses on the Day of Judgment. He is committing something that is how long?

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On the other hand, sometimes women also do limb up on the husband how, by neglecting his rights by not respecting him.

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Many times we say, Oh, it's only in our culture, that women should respect their husbands, or they should talk to them with respect. No, it's not just a part of culture. It's a part of the it's a part of the

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we learn from several narrations that the Soviet or the Sahaba they would say to the women who were of the later generations, younger generations, that we would not speak to our husbands the way that you speak to your husbands.

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Many times we see that women treat their husbands as if they are children,

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as if they are their younger siblings.

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Yes, there should be frankness, there should be frankness. But frankness does not mean that a person comes down to disrespecting the other.

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And sometimes we see that women with all the support that they have, from their family, from their parents, from their siblings, what do they do? They neglect giving the heck of the husband and they expect that the husband should always listen to them. So these are the limits of Allah netta to have, and whoever transgresses the limits of Allah, then they are the ones who are doing so. They are the ones who are harming themselves.

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Many times people do their own thinking, nobody's going to question me. Nobody's going to call me.

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But the fact is, that everybody's going to be called to

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be met

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eldest son, even our best for the learn who said about this, that when the man divorces his wife twice, when a man has given divorce to his wife two times already, then let him fear of law regarding the third time, he should either keep her with him and treat her with kindness, or let her go her own way with kindness without infringing upon any of her rights. Because many times what do people do? They do loam upon the woman, even after Voodoo, so that the woman does not take them away.

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And they continue to oppress her, ignore her rights, not give her what she deserves, and expect her to take the whole. So that the model also comes back to the No, this is pure injustice. If a man has given product to his wife two times and he should fear Allah with regards to the third time

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and therefore, he should either keep her with kindness or if he decides to let her go, then he should let her go with your son.

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Basically, what this means is that in others we will read in the following verses that when a man gives divorce to his wife, then what is the waiting period, three months. So as long as we learned earlier,

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Now the woman is going to spend that data in the house of the husband

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during the return, if he wishes do, he regrets and if he wishes to take her back, then he may do to do.

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If he does not do to do what's going to happen, the marriage is going to resolve the woman is going to go away. They're not married anymore.

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But if he does reduce in the waiting period, then what happens? Both of them are fine together, there may.

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Now let's say after sometime, after a year, after two years, or after two days of Voodoo, he says, No, I think it was a mistake, I should divorce I don't want. So he divorces her again, that's a second divorce. Now, once he has given the second divorce, he should be extremely careful. Because he has only one more chance left. And the moment he pronounces a third divorce, that's it normal routine, they cannot get back together. So this has been said over here that upon alchemilla, 10, vocable, divorce is only twice, you only have basically two chances. Because after the second divorce, then whatever decision you make is a final one. So either you're going to keep her in a

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good way, or you're going to let her go in a good way. Be careful, because many times people take for that to be a very casual thing. And they will divorce and they will divorce again. Or they will divorce in one setting three times without realizing the consequences. So over here, warning is being given that up on Apple Mandala 10. It is a permission, but don't misuse this.

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Let's look at some of the lessons that we learn.

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We see over here in this ayah that permission has been given to dissolve the marriage contract. In a case where the marriage cannot last anymore. The man has been allowed to pronounce the divorce, and the woman has been allowed to take the whole,

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the woman has been allowed to take the home.

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Now remember that although this is a permission, it should not be misused. And a person A man should not threaten his wife all the time that if you do this, I'm going to divorce you. He should not pronounce divorce over small issues over petty issues, because divorce is a serious matter. It is something that affects the man and the woman. It is something that affects their children. It is something that affects their families. And a person takes it very casually, and he plays around with the commands of Allah, then he is not giving the due respect to the commands will remember the thing that Allah has given us the laws that Allah has given us, they deserve some respect, that we should

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observe them properly, that we should apply them where they're relevant. So if a person is using divorce, in every small fight, in every small argument, I divorce you, or I will divorce you if you do this, then he's not respecting the commands of Allah. Permission has been given, but it should be used in an appropriate way.

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We learn from our heads, that allows messengers that are loved and someone was informed about a man who divorced his wife three times at once. What did he do? He divorced his wife three times in one instance, at one occasion. So the prophets are allowed Islam stood up angrily, he became very angry, and he stood up. And he said, is the book of Allah played with? While I'm amongst you? Are you playing with the book of Allah? Are you playing with the commands of Allah, while I am still amongst you?

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So we see that if a person misuses the commands of Allah, then what is he doing? He's playing with the commands of Allah.

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And this is extremely disrespectful.

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I'm one of the learn who said with regard to this issue, that a man would give divorce to his wife in one sitting three times. He said that people are being hasty with regard to a matter in which they should not rush, let us count it as three and judge between people accordingly. So if any person gave divorce at his time, three divorces in one sitting in one situation in one instance, then he would consider it to be for local bear in

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he would consider it to be the final divorce, irrevocable divorce, and he would also lash the people, he would also lash those men who abused the commands of Allah. They're using the commands of Allah and therefore, they will be punished.

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But the question is that if a man in one setting, he pronounces the divorce three times, or 100 times or 1000 times, then what is the reality of that divorce?

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Is it one divorce? Is it three

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Is it five? How is it? How are we going to understand it?

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We say that there are two opinions with regards to this. That first of all, some say that it is considered to be three divorces, it is considered to be political that in.

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So in one situation a man says to his wife, Paula, Paula, Paula, forgive you for that I give you for that I give you for luck. He says it three times or 50 times, then this Falak although it is one occasion, this is considered as the final divorce irrevocable divorce, the man and woman cannot be together anymore.

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Other scholars say that no, this will be counted as one Pollock only because what does Allah say, upon airco mcgrattan. The remarkable divorce is two times. And then the divorce after that, the third divorce is the final divorce after which the man and woman do not come together.

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So other scholars say that no, even if the man pronounces the divorce a million times in one situation in one sitting in one incident, it will be considered how many divorces just one not more than one, because this is the command of Allah.

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Because if it could be three times just by saying that three times in one situation, then why would all of these commands be given or this detail will not have been given that

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we see that in these verses so much detail has been given that for alchemilla 10, then inside the model Odyssey from the sun, and in there It has been mentioned, so much detail has been given, that would be completely unnecessary, if for that could be given in one situation three times.

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One more important thing that we learned from this is that a woman can take divorce from the husband, and that is one in which a woman gives the Maha back to the man.

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However, it should only be in a situation. That is genuine. Meaning just because a woman got hurt because of what the man said, or just because she doesn't like the way he eats. Or she doesn't like the way he dresses or she doesn't like his lifestyle, then for a small issue for Becky issue, she should not seek divorce, it should only be in a genuine case, that no matter how much she tries, she just cannot get herself to like him. If she does not like him, she will not be able to give him his help, she will not be able to listen to him, she will not be able to obey Him. So if it is something that is really genuine, only then she should seek the voice. Because if a woman seeks divorce

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without a genuine reason, we learn from a hadith that any woman who asks her husband for divorce without justification, then the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden for her. Because she is seeking divorce without any genuine reason.

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Sometimes it is just small issues that can be resolved, that can be compromised on. But many times people don't compromise. They don't understand they don't accept

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and a small situation that could be solved a small issue that could be solved, it is magnified so much that the adverse effects are in the woman, they're on demand, they're on the children, they're on the rest of the family. So a woman who seeks divorce without justification, then the smell of gender, the fragrance of gender is forbidden upon her.

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Also, another very important lesson that we learned from this is that a woman can be the possessor of her own wealth.

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A woman can own Well, she can because we see that phenomena highly human females that that be, she gives ransom obviously from what? By what she possesses what is hers. So when the method is given to the woman at the time of marriage, what was it given to the woman or her father, the woman? And who does it stay with the woman or her husband? The woman because it's there's obviously there's a mutual understanding, the woman says, You know, I don't know about these financial matters, are not good at keeping money. So you keep my money. That's completely different. However, if a woman wishes to keep her things on her own name, she is absolutely allowed to do so.

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As we learned earlier, that men and women have equal rights except with just a few exceptions.

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For him, or her, then if he divorced her, what does it mean by that?

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That after Murata after the first two divorces, if the man gives divorce, the third time to his wife, and which Tanaka's this for that pullback in the irrevocable divorce, the final divorce, then what's going to happen? fenetre Hello

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Who, then she will not be lawful for him to Hello, from Helen, what does Halloween permissible and you see that that the beginning that indicates sheep. So, the woman will not be lawful for him mimbar do after that.

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If the man pronounces the third device, then the woman is not permissible for him at all after that,

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what does he mean by permissible

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meaning a man cannot do in there either, nor can he do nica with the woman after there.

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Because we see that when the man pronounces the divorce, which is irrevocable, the first and second, then during their death, he can do and if they're at the house fast, the man and woman have been divorced, they're living separately. And later on, they realize it was a mistake, then they can get back together how that a new nigga will take place. But if it is the third divorce, then what does it mean? That during their it The, the man cannot do the job. And after that, there can be no nikka between them.

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They're absolutely haram upon each other. For that the handler woman but she's not permissible for him. She's not lawful for him afterwards ever

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had that until meaning until after there's only one situation in which the man and woman can come together after the law come back in? And what is that situation that had that tenki her until she marries who marries the woman marriage because that refers to sheep. So until the woman marries zodion, a husband later who other than him other than who,

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other than the first husband.

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So basically, the man and woman will be separated. They're absolutely Haarlem upon each other. They cannot get married, either.

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Unless, if a woman marries another man, after she gets divorced from the first husband, and then she marries another man. Obviously, after the completion of their debt because she cannot get married during it.

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Then what's going to happen? After the completion of a debt, then she can marry the ex husband, the former husband.

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And remember the thank you highs from nikka from the literal meaning of the word nica, what does it mean? Gemma it means sexual intercourse. And the word nica is also used for marriage contract.

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Over here, nica does not just refer to a legal contract, or just legal documents that are signed. No, it means that the woman married and other men legally and they lived with each other as well. There was the consummation of marriage as well. And they made with the intention of permanence they made with the intention of living together, not just to be able to return to the former husband, okay, because the word nikka has been used and the guy has not just used for marriage contract. It is also used for sexual intercourse. So the marriage has to be consummated.

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So after the final Fennec the wife is no longer Hillel for the men, they cannot get back together except in one case, which is that the second husband, the second husband, when the woman dies after he either dies, or he gets a divorce.

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And then after that she may marry the former husband. We know from the Heidi's that I showed it on her set that allows messenger was asked about a woman who marries a man who thereafter divorces her. And this divorce refers to the final divorce.

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She then marries another man and he divorces her before he has sexual relations with her. The second husband, what does he do? He divorces a woman before having sexual relations with her. Would she be allowed for her first husband?

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Allah's Messenger sallallahu Sallam said, No, she will not be allowed for the first husband until he enjoys her sailor being until he enjoys her sexually. And this is a hadith that is reported in both Bukhari and Muslim.

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So we see that if a woman gets divorced, and she gets married to another man, just so that she can get back to the first husband, if that is the intention, then this kind of marriage is not permissible.

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This kind of marriage is not permissible at all.

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So the second marriage has to be a genuine marriage and the Tanakh that is given to the woman for her second marriage also has to be for a genuine reason. It has to be a genuine follow.

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It shouldn't be just fulfilling some formality so that a woman can remain the previous husband, the first husband

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and if a person does this, that a woman should

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marries another man just so that she can get back to the first husband. This process which is known as heilala, this is completely forbidden.

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hellena is completely forbidden. What is her Nana,

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that a woman after final divorce, marries another man, just so that she can be divorced, and she can get back to the first husband, this process highlanda, it is completely forbidden. And the man and woman who do this, both of them are cursed. The man and woman who are involved in this meeting the second husband, they're both cursed. They both deserve the curse of Allah. We learn from a hadith that is reported in Muslim reports of the love and miss root set that allows messengers that allow this alum curse, the one who does

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the one in whose favor it is done, he goes to the one who does the heal, and the one in whose favor it is done. So who are cursed?

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The former husband, the new husband, and the woman as well, those who eat river, and those who feed it as well.

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So all of these people are cursed. And this hadith is how

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we learn that a man wants game to even remodel the learned home. And he asked him about a man who divorced his wife three times. And then his brother married her to make the need for his brother. Without the brother knowing this fact.

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You understand what's going on?

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that a man divorced his wife three times that obviously what does that mean? They're done, they're finished. The relationship between them is completely over, they cannot get back together. So the man's Brother, what did he do? He married the ex wife. Why? So that the woman could marry her former husband. And the brother did not know about this fact. He then asked if she allowed for the first husband, and even a little delay and he said no, unless it is a marriage that involves desire. We used to consider this an act of adultery during the time of Atlas messenger.

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They consider this an act of adultery. They didn't consider this to be nikka at all. And it is said that remote other learn who said that if the participants to the Hill are brought to me, I will have them stoned, I will give them the punishment of sin. So the commands of Allah are very clear, and they cannot be misused. They should not be misused. They should not be used incorrectly.

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For input nakahara. Then if he divorced her who divorced her, the second husband, divorced the woman, Filipina heroin human then there is no sin upon them to upon who to the original couple, the former husband and the divorced woman, there is no sin upon them to any other Raja that both of them return to each other.

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Yet Raja is from Raja Raja.

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What does it mean by Roger that both of them returned to their relationship of nica after their it is over? Then what happens? Both of them do nikka there is absolutely no harm. They shouldn't feel guilty. There is no sin in this. But there is a condition they should only get back together in one now, if both of them are certain. Both of them are certain about what I knew Pima How do the law that they will maintain and establish the limit set by a law? What does the word one mean? To think to assume, and remember when it's followed by and it means to be certain to be sure.

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So they should only get back together if they're certain that they can fulfill the rights and responsibilities to each other. Because if they're going to go back to the same arguments, the same fights, the same situation, then there is no point in getting married. There's no point in getting married.

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Many times we see that there is a clash between a man and woman. They're separated, or they're divorced. Or the woman is upset, there is no divorce, but she goes to her parents house and the man comes and says come back, we'll fix the situation. But the situation is not fixed. If the situation that was causing the fights in the first place is not fixed, then what's the point of getting together? What's the point? You have to fix the situation first. So Elena, and Ulema who do the law, only then they should get back together?

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What do you do the law and these are the limits set by Allah what this thing can refer to all of these commands that have been mentioned over here the above mentioned commands such as the latter handler whom embargo or had that and he has originally Europe, or England, and Ulema hula. So these are what the limits that Allah has sent me. These are the commands that Allah has given you, but you know how he makes them very clear for who you

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Follow me on the moon for people who know. So it is only those people who have knowledge, who can benefit from the commands of Allah.

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We see so many injustice is being done, especially between a husband and wife. Why? Because they don't know. They don't know what the rights are. They don't know what their responsibilities are.

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And sometimes, when there is a divorce that is going on, still, there's so much injustice. Why? Because they don't know what the commands of Allah, they have no idea. So these commands are only going to benefit who, for those people who have knowledge of these commands.

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Also, we see that niccone are the moon for people who know, this has been understood as that those people who know that the command of Allah is in fact, the best command is in fact the truth. Because only when a person is certain that whatever my job has commanded is best for me, then he can benefit from the commands. And if he's doubtful, if he's shaky, if he's unsure, then he cannot benefit from them. He will not apply them.

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So we're tilka to the law. You bet, you know, when you call me on the moon?

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Let's listen to the recitation.

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What do

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you see that marriage is something that is very serious, and

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a person cannot just say that he's married, and he can do whatever he wants? No, no, he has to observe the hula, throughout his marriage, and if the marriage is being terminated, then even then he has to observe the hula. Because it is something very serious. And many times people get married without educating themselves about marriage. And when they walk into this relationship, without any knowledge, then they bring harm upon themselves. They make mistakes, and they make their own lives difficult for themselves.

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Anything that you do in life, you have to educate yourself about it, in them is very important. And marriage is one of them. for marriage knowledge is extremely important.

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Because they will only benefit who they call me on the moon for those people who know.

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So, if the man gave the voice of the woman two times already, and if he gives the divorce a third time, then obviously the man or woman cannot get back together. Unless if a woman by chance she gets married to another person, and by chance he divorces her. And then she gets married to the ex husband. And if the man marries another woman, that's different. A man can marry another woman while he's married to her as well. Okay, that's completely different. The woman, she will marry somebody else, and she will be divorced and then she will marry them. Why? Because the woman is being made halaal for the man, the woman is being made halaal for them, and when he gives him a hug when he

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marries her.

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But when he divorces her three times, he cannot just say okay, I'll marry you again. No, this cannot happen.

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What else do we learn from the cya?

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There is a difference of opinion as to whether holer or fast fast is determination of an ego.

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So some considered to be fast. Others considered to be called that a woman is asking for the divorce and then man gives it a voice in return. And firstly that the woman asks and the man does not give to the law nullifies the marriage.

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Remember that whenever there is a difference of opinion with regards to something, for example, the issue of if the man gives divorce to his wife in one sitting, he pronounced the divorce three times. If you look at it, or moral dilemma, he made the decision that if a man pronounces a divorce three times, what is he going to do? He's going to consider that to be three divorces. Why? Because people were playing with the Ayat of Allah and it was just the beginning. It was right after the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, if he did not make the punishment, so harsh, then what would happen?

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There would be so much difficulty.

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But we see that other scholars later on, they said that that was only for that particular time. And then afterwards, it's going to be considered as one divorce only.

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And this is with regards to many other punishments or many other legal rulings as well. It's not just with regards to this issue.

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And with regard to that, also, there's a difference of opinion

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Something that after her because it is fast, it is a termination of nica then both cannot remain ever after that. And others say that no, it's considered as divorce only and they can get married together. There's a difference of opinion with regards to that as well.

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and when you have divorced the women

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and this Pollock refers to the jury Pollock the remarkable divorce for Bellona agita hoonah then they have reached there a way to turn Bellona the new Latin indicates feminine. And bonobo literally means to reach the end of something, the completion of something

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and the word Bala or value or Balu. What does it mean? To reach maturity to reach puberty? So favela Hola, Angela hoonah. When they have reached there a way to turn the word agent is from the root letters Hamza Joomla. And the word edit is understood in two ways. First one is that the agent is a time period, what is a time period so for example, two months, three months over here, the time period would refer to their aid the the duration of their return.

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Secondly, they said that the word agile actually means a specific point of time. It refers to a specified time. It's a moment, it's a point in time.

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And it's called agile, because it is fixed just as a time period is limited. Similarly, this moment in time is also fixed it is appointed, which is why death is also called urgent.

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So, basically, we see that urgent is a time period or the end of a time period over here, when the women have been divorced and are the first to their vocable divorce, when they reach their time, what does it mean by their time It refers to their age

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and by reaching their it that means they reach the end of the day.

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And over here it means that there is there is almost over when you divorce the women and they have almost reached the end of their into their it dies about to be over the completion is very near.

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So for example, there is the of the woman when she's divorced is three to three menstrual cycles, three menstrual periods.

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So when she begins her third period, when she begins our third period, what does that mean? That there it is going to end very soon, it's just a matter of a few days.

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So when there that is about to end, then the man is being told that um sequel will not make up your mind, either retain them, Mr. Wolf in a manner that is approved, oh, suddenly, who would never model or release them in a manner that is approved. Meaning decide,

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decide quickly as to what you're going to do.

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If you want to keep her, then you have to keep her in a manner that is approved. And what does that matter that is approved, that you do reach out to her during her.

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And afterwards, you should live in a manner that is appropriate. And if you don't wish to live with her, then let them come to an end. And then once there it comes to an end, then suddenly, who wouldn't have been my roof, then release them in a manner that is appropriate. Previously it was said with your son. Now it has been said tomorrow, because your son and my love, both have to be done.

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model you have to follow that which is acceptable, you have to do that which is acceptable. But you're signing up to take the extra step to be extra nice to be extra kind, because a woman is being sent away.

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So how is the follow up given?

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We see that product is to be given in a state of purity.

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What is the state of purity, that a woman is not menstruating? The woman is not in her period at that time. And in that period of purity. Since her last period since our last menstruation, no sexual relations were established between the man and the woman.

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So basically, a man cannot do that a woman is in her period. And he says that I divorce you. This is incorrect. This is video. This is not Muslim.

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Similarly, a woman had her period. Now she's pure now she's clean. And during this spirit of cleanliness, the man had

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sexual relations with her during the spirit of cleanliness, he cannot give her divorce, he cannot, it should be at a time that she is clean. And it should be at a time that he has not enjoyed her sexually. So we see that Pollock is to be given in a state of purity. And a man is going to pronounce the words of divorce, or he's going to write them or whatever. And it has to be very clear that I divorcee.

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And when the woman has given this divorce, then she's not going to leave the house of her husband, for how long for three menstrual cycles. And there it begins from the day that the man Good luck. It begins from the day that the men pronounce the words.

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Now, some say that as soon as the third menstrual cycle begins, there is over. Some say that as soon as a third menstrual period begins, there it is over Why? Because during the menstruation, you can't do you can't have sexual contact with a woman that's forbidden. And others say that when the third menstrual cycle is completed, when the third period is over, then there is a exterminate because according to some scholars, reduce does not necessarily mean that sexual intercourse has to be done. But rather it means that through any gesture, through any physical contact, ritual can be done. So for example, a man hugs his wife or anything like that it is permissible.

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So basically, when does there at the end,

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either as soon as a third period begins, or at the end of the third period.

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Now, if you were was done, during the data, the man and woman stay together.

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But if the deal was not done, the man did not take his wife back during the data, then what's going to happen? The wife is going to leave the house of the husband? And how is she going to go? How is she going to be sent away in a manner that is appropriate in a manner that is acceptable with a person with generosity with kindness?

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Well let them see coven, and do not keep them there are in order to harm them. That often is from their newsletters, blah, blah, blah, blah. And what does that mean?

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injury, harm, suffering.

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But the word that is used over here is the law and law is to harm another or to harm each other.

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What does it mean to harm someone else? Or to harm each other?

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Over here? Well, Adam SQL will not be on do not keep them intending harm, do not keep them in order to harm them. What does he mean by this? that once you have pronounced the divorce, then don't do Roger, so that you can do more harm on her.

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What would that harm be?

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that a person, he divorces her again, or he does not fix the situation, or previously what was the practice, but a man would divorce her he would do to do it in their data. And then again, he would divorce her and this would continue for the rest of the life. So that and sequel would not, do not keep them to harm. And sometimes people do do some men they do to do to the woman, they take her back, and they continue to harm her so that she is forced to take the foot so that she is forced to return the mother and go away. So over here, the men are being told that we'll let them see COVID another arm do not keep them in order to harm them to do so that you are transgress. And like this,

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you will be overstepping the limits that Allah soprano data has set.

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Well, my dear friend Malika and whoever does that whoever does want that he does refer to the woman he keeps her only so that he can continue to harm her. Whoever does that, what is he doing for God? valamar nafsa who, in fact, he is harming himself? Because usually, what do people think, will keep her and will torture her abuser? We won't give her what she wants, until she is forced to take one.

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And many times in this situation. People feel very powerful. They have a sense of pride that I can do whatever I want, and she is suffering. What does Allah say? Whoever does that. He's doing his own work on himself. Yes, he is doing a little on the woman. But actually he's doing loom upon himself how? By exposing himself the punishment of Allah by exposing himself to the punishment of Allah. We learn from a hadith that is mentioned in attending the de Mundo

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Blah, blah, blah happy woman chapeau shackle Ah, who are they he, whoever causes a harm to a believer, Allah harms

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whoever causes difficulty to them, Allah will make his way difficult.

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So any person who tries to make who tries to create difficulty for another, who tries to harm the other, who harms him, alarms Him, who makes things difficult for him alone makes things difficult for him.

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So don't keep the women only to harm them. And if you do that, you're harming yourself. Therefore, a person should not keep his wife just to give her trouble just to make her life difficult. Reconciliation should be done with the intention of Islam.

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As we learned earlier, in London, and Ulema produto, they should only come back together if they think that they can fulfill the hurdle of Allah will not attack you is a lie. And do not make the verses have a lot of ridicule. Do not take them in ridicule. What does anybody have over here? I have over here refers to specific I add, which are the commands the rulings pertaining to divorce.

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So do not take them in who's one do not market them.

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Others have said that I add over here. As we can see, it's not just in this specific sense, but in the general sense as well. Not just the rulings pertaining to divorce, but rulings pertaining to select rulings pertaining to Hajj to the cat. And not just I add that a Sheree, but also I add county do not make a mockery of them. Do not take them in mockery.

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But this was a woman yesterday, oh, what does this desert mean? To look at someone? Why? upon thinking them to be strange, upon thinking them to be helpful?

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when something doesn't make sense to a person, what does he do? He starts smoking it, he starts making fun of it.

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So over here, let us review it like, what does he mean by this? If we take it to be the specific commands pertaining to divorce, do not take them in mockery? How? By going against them. By misusing the right to divorce, by misusing the right to divorce,

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that, for example, a man continues to treat his wife harshly does not give divorce to her so that she is forced to take home.

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What is this?

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misusing the right to divorce? That you have the right to divorce and you're not giving it? Why? Just so that she takes the hook. So what is this? This is mockery. This is making fun of the ayatollah.

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And in the general sense, how can we understand this? That when people complain about, for example, rain or the weather, and sometimes people joke about the rain, people joke about the weather? People joke about the snow? Did it really have to snow today? Is there really so much water? Sometimes we say Do we really deserve all of this mercy? Sometimes people say things like that. So don't make fun of the ayatollah.

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And ultimately think of it the issue of pronouncing divorce three or more times in one situation. That is also what mocking with the commands of Allah. The command is mother, Barbara Mama, one time after another one instance after another. What does a man do? Divorce divorce divorce.

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So what is this? mocking at the Ayat of Allah? And we see that mocking at the Ayat of Allah is the way of the hypocrites. It's not the way of the believer. The monastics been are the ones who market the Ayatollah insalata Toba I 65. We read what are inside the home layer colonna in America Nana, Nana, kala Villa here it was really contentious.

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And if you ask them, they will surely say we were only conversing and playing we were only talking we were only chatting. And we were only having some fun. Say that is it Allah and His verses and His messenger that you were mocking. You couldn't find anything else to market. You couldn't find anything else to play with. The only thing that you can play with is the ayatollah. The only thing that you can misuse is the ayatollah, what is this? I mentioned to you the Hadith about the man who pronounced divorcing his wife three times, and the profits are a lot of sudden became extremely upset. And what did he say? A eular boo boo ki tabula, he will anabaena of vertical is the book of

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Allah being played with it.

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You'll argue from Larry. Are you playing with the verses of Allah? Are you playing with the book of Allah while I am amongst you? And we know that a man at that time he got up and he said, that oh Prophet sallallahu Sallam Should I kill this man? Should I kill this man? Who? The one who said divorce his wife three times in one setting? in one situation?

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Don't make the Ayat of Allah a mockery.

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Some scholars have said that over here, mockery means, for example, that he said that it refers to expressions like a man would say to his wife, you are divorced. And I'm only joking. Because sometimes people say, harsh statements, just for fun, just to see the reaction of the other. Let me see how she reacts. If I say to divorce you I don't really mean it. I'm only joking. So, over here, the command is that do not even say this, while joking, because it has been said that there are three things which whether done in joke or by intention. If a person does them jokingly, or by intention, they shall be considered serious and effectual. What are they marriage, divorce, and

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taking a life back? Would you say that if a person does this while joking, or a person does this while he's serious, still, it will be effective mean it serious and they will be effectual. So let's do it like, do not make a mockery of the ayatollah. What Caronia Matala here they come and remember the Nirvana of a lot of fun you remember the blessing of Allah upon you? What is the vicar of a blessing? Being grateful for that blessing? Remember, we learned earlier about the bunny is right. With Kuru near Matthew, what does it mean by the

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be grateful? So what Caronia, Mata la hora, they can be grateful for the blessing of Allah upon you. Which blessing, which blessing is this?

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It refers to specific blessing, and also general blessing.

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What may be coming Come in nirma, whatever blessing that you have, it is from who it is from Allah will introduce them with a lovely letter. So if you try to count the blessings of Allah, you cannot count them. So in the general sense, be grateful for the blessings of Allah. And part of being grateful, is observing the commands of Allah, doing what Allah tells you to do. Observing the commands of Allah properly, Allah has given you so much, and you won't follow the commands property.

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Allah has given you so much everything you have is from Allah, and the commands that He has given you, you will not observe them properly. This is not this is not the appropriate behavior. What's going on here, McCullough here.

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And also we think of it, marriage, having a spouse is a blessing. It's a big blessing. There are so many people who are striving to get married, who are striving to look for a good spouse. And even if they are married, they're striving for a healthy relationship for a good relationship. And you have a good relationship. And you're joking with your wife, I divorce you. This is not sure. What kind of a joke is this? Because we see that when a person jokes like this, then what is he doing? He's affecting, he's harming his relationship. He's affecting his relationship. Imagine if the woman gets very upset. You're only joking. But the woman gets very upset, and she takes it to heart. How will

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she feel

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so insecure for the rest of our life. So be grateful for the blessing of Allah upon you. The specific blessings and the gentle blessings as well. And especially which blessing warmer and de la la comunidad kitabi when Hickman and especially remember the blessing of that which Allah has sent down upon you, what is it that Allah sent down upon you the Kitab meaning the Quran and all the commandments in it? Well, hikmah and the wisdom What does the Hickman refer to? The way of the prophets of Allah is the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, his teachings, his instructions, the non Quranic way.

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So also remember that also be grateful for that, meaning, observe all of that property, observe all of these instructions properly. So we see over here, that the specific blessing that has been given to the believers, is that off of an answer now, it is that of knowledge. We learn in the Quran, that a lot of times Allah says polyoma achimota, the convener come well at mantra equanimity, will lead to the common Islam Medina.

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What is the Dharma? What is the blessing, the religion of Islam, the teachings that Allah has given the Quran that Allah has given, that is a blessing. Similarly, the coming of the messenger is

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Also a huge blessing laqad Mandela, who are the meaning is very famous wouldn't mean unforeseen.

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Allah has bestowed a huge favor upon the believers when he sent a messenger from among themselves. So, the blessing of the deen the blessing of the Quran, the blessing of the Sunnah of the Prophet sort of autism, the teachings of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, what are they? They're great blessings. They're huge blessings. And we should be grateful for them. Just imagine anything that you know, you've been given, and it is a blessing. How is your reaction to it? What is your reaction towards it, you value it. For example, you have a car, you have a house, you have children. What do you say? When you say Alhamdulillah? What do you think of the blessings that you've been given?

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Right? You think of your children, you think of your spouse, you think of your car, you think of your money, you think of your health. So when we think of any blessing, we are grateful for those blessings.

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And we think about using them, we think about benefiting from them. But what is the very thing that Allah has mentioned over here, specifically, the blessing of Quran and Sunnah. Take this as a blessing as well. We did the Quran and Sunnah to be a burden. We don't consider them to be blessings at all. Because if we consider them to be blessings, then our approach would be completely different. We will learn about it we will try to implement it properly. So also remember this huge blessing that Allah has given. And if you notice, this has been mentioned right in the middle of the rulings pertaining to

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rulings pertaining to divorce, that also remember the commands of Allah also implement the commands of Allah in this situation, when you're overwhelmed by your emotions, and also we think of it when a person lives by the Quran and Sunnah. When a person takes guidance from the Quran and Sunnah, then it benefits him in his family life, in his personal life, our personal lives, our family lives cannot be peaceful. Unless and until we learn and implement the Quran and Sunnah. If we stay away from the guidance that Allah has given us, we cannot be happy in our personal lives. We cannot be happy in our societal lives. So remember this blessing and implement the Quran and Sunnah Yari

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Lacombe. He instructs all of you with it with what with the Quran. What token law and fear of water level anila because Alicia in early and know that Allah is Knowing of every single thing, including all of your circumstances. So nothing is hidden from him. He knows exactly what you're going through. He knows about the commands that he has revealed that you are supposed to implement, and he knows as to what you are doing. So fear a lot with regards to this matter. That's listen to the recitation.

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Well, either

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homi

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mahna, mahna, mahna

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mahna.

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Nikita,

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what

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many times in these situations, people forget Allah. People don't think about what they're doing. They're driven by their emotions. They're driven by their hearts, and they forget about the commands that Allah has given. And they forget about the fact that Allah is watching every action of theirs. So yes, they can do one upon the other and get more benefit, oppress the other, take all of their revenge, satisfy their hearts. Take all the benefits, but at the end of the day, Allah knows everything and He will give you what you deserve.

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so in this situation, a person should not forget